Told My Boyfriend He's Disgusting For Knowing So Much About His Sister Periods r/Relationships

[@mx9226]

A man who understands periods is an absolute win in my eyes. Update: listening to her self-pity is actually disgusting. What an absolute B.

[@Azulakayes]

No man deserves to have this woman as a girlfriend.

[@judyjohnson9610]

Instead of "You're a disgusting pig!" it should have been "Will you marry me?"

[@KadeStringer2.0]

@@judyjohnson9610no it shouldn’t

[@w.j4050]

Haha, the slap was well-deserved by the sister, too! I'm happy that OP's ex dumped her. OP does not deserve to be in a happy and healthy family dynamic such as that. She's toxic, bratty, and needs some serious therapy. I agree with one commenter in the video that she is too damn old to be blaming her parents based on how she was raised.

[@Opinionatedboo]

@@KadeStringer2.0Stop posting your opinion on every comment. I see you on all of them. Can’t you see you are the only one with the weird views? Are you the OP? Are you a 12yo?

[@lsilvaeditor]

SHE'S 26?! I thought she was 19 or 21. She is WAYYY too old to be acting like this instead of just asking BF "oh, you know a lot about your sisters periods, is that normal for a brother to know that much? My dad never knew anything about our periods," and then a discussion can happen. And she freaked out the younger sister during an already stressful time and then has the audacity to be like "but what exactly did I do wrong????".

[@Liz-eb5de]

lol 26 is honestly still so young. But she IS A VERY IMMATURE 26 year old.

[@juliengravier3917]

It's worse in the update, she claims to understand she did something wrong but ask why she's being punished for it ! Maybe because adults are held accountable for their actions and basically calling her boyfriend a predator in front of his daughter is not a "small mistake".

[@brkr78]

@@juliengravier3917 Little sister, but your point stands.

[@juliengravier3917]

​@@brkr78 Little sister AND daughter. Yes, biologically they are all siblings but he is also their adoptive father. He raised them alone since they were *6, 2 and 1* ! That's also how they view it: the youngest calls him dad and the ex told OP "you turned one of my *children* against me". For me, it makes things even worse because being a sibling is just a matter of blood, being a parent required a lot of work and sacrifices, day after day. OP threatened to destroy the trust at the core of that relationship. So when she says she could see in his eyes that he absolutely hated her, I totally understand why.

[@joiestorme]

Ik, I didn’t pay the best attention to the ages so I assumed she was a fresh 18-19 year old with unresolved trauma but good lord is 26 too old for that shit, lost any empathy for her immediately.

[@etoileshine1011]

Op is being so fucking weird about a brother knowing when his little sister has her period.

[@ashassassin]

Not to mention how he is the parental figure. who else are those girls supposed to go to with this stuff?

[@micheledalpozzo4059]

Yes, not only she's an a-hole for the way she managed the situation. She's also weird for thinking that period is somewhat a dirty thing that must remain inside the women's world instead of a normal bodily function.

[@ynmonroe]

Yeah. She is stupid. What does she think happens with mature boyfriends, husbands, single fathers, and just fathers in general? That they are never "exposed" to reality? Crazy. Either she grew up sheltered or she was traumatized by a family member or something.

[@lina9535]

I mean, I think it's normal for siblings to know. What's not normal is that I have a friend that knows about mine (he helped me shop when I was sick and the PCOS came knocking unexpected 😅)

[@laraq07]

OP's boyfriend is father and MOTHER to these kids. OP is an idiot.

[@mirandanils5114]

Her last comment 😂😂😂 “I’ll get him back” like no girl. It’s over.

[@xydis.06.03]

I know, right? This chick is like _"Hey, I have this super awesome partner who's raised his siblings as if they were his own children. Let me ruin that by making him out to he a pedophile because he understands a basic bodily function!"_ What a loser...

[@MarshmallowCUPCAKee1]

The delusion 😂 “you’re dead to me, get the fuck out of my house” and blocking her is a pretty good sign he ain’t coming back!! LOL

[@averycheesypotato]

She is delusional. She doesn’t deserve his consideration.

[@Nonprofitgenie]

Story 1: Before i even get to the update, if that man ever even thinks about you again, you're lucky. OP is absolutely horrible!

[@immapotato1]

a true PoS and the type of person responsible for the current decline of female rights

[@justinebidulopoutchini9774]

Like the bf siblings see him as a father, so why is it disgusting?! Would op preferred the 12 stay in her dirty panties and just to deal with it?!

[@Rose-yt5hi]

Yeah… haven’t got to the update yet, but like, he’s their primary caretaker, not just their brother-of course he should know these typical health related topics about the minors in his care. It’s par for the course of being a single parent (which the boyfriend essentially is to his siblings); it’s no weirder than him knowing how to handle a cold or a flu. EDIT: OMG. She’s 26?!? Yeah, boyfriend and his family dodged a bullet with that one. Holy crap. I didn’t catch her age at the beginning and thought early 20’s at most with how immature she was being.

[@carolinaazevedo2088]

So glad he broke up with her

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

OP basically describes the perfect dad 😭 being supportive and educational even about female topics like periods. The sisters are so lucky to have him as a brother/parent figure.

[@RokoFireFox]

A man who understands periods?? Hello?? We NEED more men like this.

[@jakeand9020]

Story 1: OP is even WORSE than the title implies!

[@crisjo6973]

It's always the titles that don't seem too bad that hide the WORST OPs.

[@andersrkeness2721]

Indeed

[@amymonemontoya]

story 1: She had a unicorn and mistook it for a pig. I've never been so mad at an OP before in my life.

[@onlyoddity]

She needs a new eye doctor

[@ArtixellAnimations]

ME TOO

[@clydethehobo2687]

Story 1: HE RAISED THEM!! How wouldn't he know about this stuff?! OP just killed her relationship for nothing. EDIT: Oh good, she's deluded herself into thinking that she can win him back. She mentions the hatred in his eyes when he broke up with her but still thinks he wants her back? I'm with that one commenter, she doesn't deserve a relationship, not until she grows the hell up.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@AusExplorer]

To the nunnery with her.

[@orlandmalon1409]

She might as well have accused him of something heinous. That implication would be in his head dealing OP going forward. The ick would be an indelible stain on any further interactions with OP. 🤢

[@KCohere33]

Yeah, if someone tells you you’re dead to them, a reconciliation is not on the horizon.

[@samiamtheman7379]

@@orlandmalon1409 Given that he called him a "disgusting pig," and it messed up how his youngest sister viewed him for a whole day, she pretty much did accuse him of something heinous.

[@poetryqn]

Wait. OP is 26??? 26 and she thinks her boyfriend is 'disgusting' for helping his 12 year old sister - who he has custody of - with her first period? Nope. Girl, you are so not worthy of him.

[@everdreamcosplay]

Why does he know what she uses? BECAUSE HE BUYS THEM. Men should definitely understand about women's bodies and natural processes. The girlfriend is disgusting for thinking this is wrong. ETA: she seems to have shame issues around it that she needs to deal with.

[@ashh4929]

Exactly, and seriously, more men do need to have a basic understanding of periods. The fact that in this day and age that we still have men that act like it's filthy or something women can control is disturbing. If he had said "hold it in until your sister gets back", she would have been clutching her pearls. Plus the facts she had the grapes to say "but he hurt my feeeelings", she called him some of the most vile names you can call a man and regarding his own little sister. She f*cking high if she thinks in ANY universe he would take her back.

[@vulpixle9659]

​@@ashh4929I just got flashbacks to this one video om tiktok there where a girl asked her boyfriend to get her pads with wings and he got her a 36 pack of pads and 36 chicken wings it was really adorable and serious golden retriever energy

[@ynmonroe]

True. However, she didn't she ask him 1 on 1 how or why he knows as much as he does, though it should have been obvious. She accused him, maligned him, and basically assumed that there were nefarious reasons. I mean how, though? Don't people still have health classes? It's not like men don't know that menstrual cycles exist. So what, in her mind, was so wrong with that. Her whole reaction to that situation and the aftermath suggest that OP is also spoiled and entitled.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

I’m actually on op’s side

[@MargaritaOnTheRox]

​​@@KadeStringer2.0 Why?

[@StephFish1004]

Story 1: "He wont even give me a chance to explain" and where exactly did you give him a chance before you accused him of having an inappropriate relationship with his sister? He doesn't need your explanation, you showed your true colors: red.

[@aluralovell6829]

Yep it's totally okay for me to go off and not let you explain but you have to give me the courtesy of explaining or it's not fair and you can't just let me explain, you have to let me backtrack over and over until I browbeat you into forgiving me /s

[@Itzelhaim]

Story 1: YTA. You called him a pig. Very uncalled for. He's the parent of the house. You went off on him. He raised his siblings not you. Your Ex has every right to kick you to the curb.

[@babybookworm003]

Oh I agree ops bf has custody over his sisters who else does op expect to take care of the puberty thing

[@xydis.06.03]

What's even worse is that her outburst painted the idea in the 12yo's head that her brother, who's been raising her for years, is a predator.

[@heffa3821]

@@xydis.06.03 Right! and there is no coming back from that.

[@juliearmfield2634]

She is sick and twisted for her to think this way about that absolutely wonderful guy

[@aluralovell6829]

So she does realize that he would have had to learn all of this when the 16-year-old has her first period right? What did she think she just learned it out of thin air? So her argument that the older sister should have known these things and not him doesn't track because how tf else did you think she learned?

[@joshuapierce3085]

She kept using the way she was raised as basis to defend herself but even her own sister, raised in that SAME FAMILY and the SAME WAY, is upset with her over this! She is delusional! The gap in her views of reality are so wide that she's not even paying attention to what she is saying actually happened! There's no hope for her in a genuinely healthy relationship until she gets serious therapy to undo her own self-brainwashing.

[@iole96792]

That's right!! Good catch about the sister not being this way even when raised together!! OP might be a nutter.

[@jennstewart3003]

Story 1: I'm not even going to wait on this one. YTA. Any man that understands the details of a woman's cycle is a win. My brother probably knows more about endometriosis than he would like, but my dad made sure that he understood why I was in so much pain because HIS sister (my aunt) also struggled.

[@lynnw7155]

This is AFTER she explained that he is mother and father to his siblings. He obviously went through this with the other sister. He is a fantastic brother. OP is disgusting. Does she really want a boyfriend who knows nothing about/is embarrassed about women's bodies? Update: "Why is she being punished? she wants to know....she shouted vile things at him, called him names, scared his sister. No coming back from that. She is SO clueless.

[@jennstewart3003]

@@lynnw7155 for real... If she doesn't want him, I'll take him! Though the age difference between us might be an issue

[@BIGEAGLEDUDE]

​@lynnw7155 I think she is so used to her mother. Teach herdee's things that she's not used to saying a man do it and to her. It's foreign, especially when it comes to a woman's reproductive cycle to see a man Taking an active role and making sure that his sister Especially in that area.

[@Tomicrat]

She called him a Pig in front of the Little Sister she is a major AH.

[@robertx8020]

So according to OP, a single parent with a child of the oposite gender, should not help /inform their child about 'bodily functions' because it is not her/his job? In which case any kid in that situation, according to OP, is screwed! OP should not have kids

[@teddychu1177]

Story 1: the 16 y/o sister had every right to slap op. My blood was boiling as I was reading the post. And then she had the nerve to say “I feared for my safety after I insulted my boyfriend beyond return and he was angry with me?!” And she STILL wanted him back?! Now I’m off to find kitten and puppy videos

[@tiawheeler1153]

I would suggest the "Look at the Puppies" video. Yeah, it's supposed to be for horrifying stories but it is a good palate cleanser.

[@DK-tq3fy]

It’s because she was hoping to garner sympathy by saying he made her scared. Nobody buying tho. Thank goodness.

[@venusbleu5764]

OP: *describes bf as practically sole parental figure* OP: *shocked and disgusted he's....acting like sole parental figure* wow wow wowwww

[@TraceyBoyland]

Yes😂

[@Rose-yt5hi]

Right??? And she’s 26! How do you get to be that age and lack so much perspective and critical thinking? Like, yeah, I might find it weird (as in unexpected, not creepy) if a brother knew all of that about periods/his sister’s period (mostly because who’s paying that much attention when you don’t have to? lmao), but a single father? I’d find it super weird if he didn’t know anything about the process and was completely unprepared to help his daughter through it. That’s just good parenting. And OP keeps going on about her mom being the one to do that for her and her sister… which is great except that it goes over her head that OBVIOUSLY they don’t have a mom to fill that role. So are they just SOL? And all of those feelings of weirdness aside, that her immediate response was to essentially accuse her boyfriend (whom she claimed to love so much) as a sexual predator… there are no words. Yet she still thinks she has a shot with him. Lmao. Delusional.

[@Alphamon27]

@@Rose-yt5hi I'm going to go out on a limb and say Op's dad is one of those chauvinistic type that thinks things like that is woman's work and no man should know about things like that.

[@agord7591]

I was going to say the same thing. Just by having a sister you will know about periods and pads unless you willfully choose to ignore it.

[@shebakoby]

IKR? The cognitive dissonance is strong with the OP.

[@xebecdav]

Story 1: “My father never dealt with period stuff, it was always my mother” THESE KIDS DONT HAVE A MOTHER! The ex (thank god) boyfriend is the only parent they have.

[@335chr]

I'm still confused as to how she decided that because her father didn't do it op was a pervert for doing it

[@orlandmalon1409]

OPs father taught her shame and disgust by bailing out. Sounds like the ex handled it as well any guy could have. He's a parent. The ex deserved better.

[@xebecdav]

@@orlandmalon1409 so true. im glad he dumped and blocked OP.

[@xebecdav]

@@335chr fr. if anything it says more about her (OP) because she's the one who sexualized a normal body function in her mind.

[@335chr]

@@orlandmalon1409 but he didn't

[@mattm314]

"How can I fix this relationship?" 😂 Read the room sis.

[@a3s1r1986]

As Omni-Man would say: You don't!

[@yaqbulyakkerbat4190]

I mean given the starting conflict it's obvious she can't

[@Azulakayes]

She is the queen of delulu land thinking that she will get him back. He told her clearly he hated her, I seriously don't know wtf is wrong with her.

[@sanchisan6997]

Lmao, the room was reading her, and she still wasn't listening. 😂

[@PinkMarshmallows]

I can't stop laughing when she said "watch, I'll get him back and y'all will be sucking it!" I laughing so much I can't breath and have tears. The delulu is not the solulu, sweetheart. 🤣

[@sophiagraells4562]

Not only did OP1 say utterly horrible things to her ex, but she did so IN FRONT OF HIS LITTLE SISTER WHO WAS ALREADY IN TURMOIL FROM THIS NEW EXPERIENCE SHE HADN'T BEEN PREPARED FOR. Her follow up comments can only be classified as ragebait. I cannot conceive of a grown ass woman who can't see how damaging it was to make a little girl feel so unsafe in her own home, and paint her safe person (her loving older brother) as a predator. That's some world- shattering sh*t right there, and she's glibly "oh i know i made a mistake, but he'll forgive me. " He might have, if she'd said what she did in private. He'd forgive her for hurting him - but hurting his baby sister? Nope. That will NEVER be forgiven.

[@MarkNarrations]

Apologies for the super late one, it's my bday and family had a little surprise get together and they brought cake....so everything went out the window today, for cake ❤️

[@dianasmith8248]

First 😊

[@ladybriarheart]

Happy birthday!

[@Lillireify]

You had me at "cake". :D I wish you a happy birthday!! :)

[@laurag502]

happy birthday!!!🎂🎂

[@clovers8979]

happy birthday mark!

[@TheIronwil]

Story 1: YTA. I’m astonished and shocked. Men get dragged all the time for being uncomfortable or avoiding period topics. I can’t count the number of men who were called named because they refused to pick up period products for their daughter/sister (rightfully so). Now this guy comes in, takes custody of his younger siblings, and does it like a true boss… and OP thought that was disgusting?!? I’m honestly blown away. Even if her own father was a wanker, she’d old enough that this is ridiculous.

[@mirandanils5114]

As a biology student I’m tired of people acting like biology is taboo. It’s good for anyone to know about something humans go through, especially when it’s someone you care about. My brother tucked me in one time when I was in a lot of pain from my period and I still remember it. Good brother, bad gf. Hope he finds someone better.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@lillamacsai7699]

Same here, without the brother tucking me in part. 😊

[@joemomma2189]

I found biology and chemistry fascinating as a subject and just seeing how everything is different has always been strange, but very cool for me. Also, women complain all the time men are 'grossed out' by period pads and the like, and here we got an example of a guy who knows about it and what to do because he was THE PARENTAL FIGURE and somehow he's a 'pig'- dear whatever power is out there, can't win for losing. Glad he dumped her sorry ass.

[@vanguardangel6912]

I could hug you so much! You and your brother sound wonderful!

[@LadyBern]

Based on what the op said, and depending on if this is true, I theorize that op may have been projecting a lot onto her boyfriend in a way she doesn't realize. She's attracted to him because he's very paternal, a very caring paternal figure one she might not have experienced with her own father. And maybe made him her proxy for an Electra complex, as his role as her lover and that paternal figure merged. I noticed that while describing her father's behavior towards them having their periods nothing about it hinted towards any of the things she accused her boyfriend of. How did she get inappropriate sexual deviant stuff from not being allowed to mention it around her father. Does knowing make a man a deviant or is fleeing the scene when it is mentioned running away from the temptation of impurity?

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

To clarify demi sexual, they typically have to have a deep emotional connection with the other person to get feelings of lust and those kinds of things.

[@nicki0kaye]

holy shit the doubling down of 1st story's OP. She sounds like a nightmare, I really REALLY hope she leaves this poor guy alone

[@raynellemccathern3018]

It's crazy how she couldn't understand that her ex is deeply hurt, and does not want to be with her. Smh

[@HeliosX28]

Captain Restraining Order: You called?

[@nicki0kaye]

@@raynellemccathern3018RIGHT??? you aren't owed a relationship lady, it is entirely reasonable he would not want to continue one with you. And then the "I know he still loves me"; that's never followed by good choices that benefit everyone. That's bad times.

[@Jana_7]

It's giving soon to be stalker vibes. The whole family needs to be on alert.

[@Rogue-bt4wp]

I don't know...she sounded like a stalker in the making at the end of the update.

[@eowyn8340]

Story 1: If OP was so concerned about how knowledgeable her boyfriend was about periods, she should’ve had that conversation in private. Calling him a “disgusting pig” was so out of line she’s beyond redemption, but to do that in front of a vulnerable kid was vile. She’s lucky she only got a slap from the 16 year old. I think she needs to seek therapy and leave the ex-boyfriend & his family alone.

[@aduckwithanumbrella]

The worst part for me was the poor 12 year old thinking her brother had bad intentions for her thanks to OP's comments.

[@wimsylogic65]

​@@aduckwithanumbrella It doesn't take much to do. It's a heartbreaking. Even with people Assuring her that the brother did nothing wrong. They'll always be that what if. She'll second-guess his Intentions with her from now on. Maybe not fully. She'll see it as a possibility now. There is a crack in their relationship And it may never fully be repaired. Although I am hopeful that because It was just over this and the sister was there to reassure her immediately, That they can heal from this and put this behind them. I don't think it will scar her like it did me. When I was 12 I was brainwashed to believe that my dad was inappropriate with me. He never was. This made any kind of physical affection inappropriate to me. It made me unable to feel innocent love anymore. Although it did work in my favor on finding my true love. He's the only one My body accepts As appropriate. By that I mean my body naturally rejects any kind of physical interaction with other people. It never did with my husband. It's part of what intrigued me with him. Is being around other people drains me being with him energizes me. He makes me glow and feel warm and fuzzy. I'm attracted to a mind-body and soul and I can't get enough Interaction with him. If everyone else my body naturally rejects. Sadly even my own children. Not while they were young, But as they are getting older I can feel the walls growing. I have to force myself to give them physical signs of affection. I don't think there's anything I can really do about it. It's a type of trauma born from a lie, That becomes part of your foundation.

[@gmun2248]

​@wimsylogic65 I'm sorry you live with this. There is therapy that can help. Every reaction in our bodies comes from our brains. Our brains on 'high alert' are constantly looking for danger. The nervous system can be retrained to not 'overreact' and to interpret danger appropriately again. There are different methods of therapy (talking, hypnosis, the trauma-memory therapy with lights ( I can't think of the name, sorry) has good neuroscience behind it, & others...); also meditation and mindfulness practices can help with being present in the current moment and reacting to what is actually happening. If you can work with a therapist or psychologist who specialises in healing from trauma, they will give you tools to retrain your brain. Good luck.

[@ComaLies225]

“The 16 year old was there as well, she slapped me and shouted at me…” Which was rightfully deserved by the way. The way OP yelled at him was somewhat unhinged.

[@aelminiatures]

i laughed so hard at that bit.🤣🤣🤣

[@marshawargo7238]

"I'll get him back, just you wait & see!" OP needs a restraining order! She's Queen of Stalker City !!! Geez, I wonder if she'd have been the same or worse if he Had been a single dad, with the added age difference ??? MY dad didn't act that way so, it must be wrong !!! Even her sister told her that she was wrong! She just threw away a possibly perfect partner!

[@guywhowatchesvideos-z2e]

Story 1: "I know what I did was unforgivable, but why won't he forgive me?".

[@thefallennero5265]

Story 1: Even though he is the caretaker for his younger sisters and brother, was OP expecting him to be clueless about how to help his sister with her period? ETA: " I love him and I know he still loves me too, just watch I will get him back and all of you will be sucking it." Oh god OP's comment shows she doesn't fully understand how badly she screwed up. He already told her she dead to him for turning one of his children against him which is something he can't and won't forgive. OP is all kinds of delulu if she thinks he'll take her back.

[@yaqbulyakkerbat4190]

Yup, restraining order headed her way

[@mothercabbagepatch3344]

OP's immaturity is unbelievable.

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

@@mothercabbagepatch3344yep that poor sod of an ex doesn’t need another baby to raise in the form of Op!

[@shylavender]

Immature AND delusional. What a catch! Who WOULDN’T want her back? 🙄 /s

[@NopeScope14]

I hope he or his older sis find the reddit post- see what levels of crazy she actually is and are glad they dodged that crazy train of toxicity

[@sergeipohkerova7211]

She is projecting. She most likely keeps tabs on all her exes and somehow sees her boyfriend's own sister as a rival. 🤢

[@D-M-K-1-2]

Story 1: "His words really hurt me, that is not fair." Welp, now you know how HE felt. The sheer lack of self-awareness while OP is so infuriating!! 🤬

[@MarshmallowCUPCAKee1]

The fact that she still tries to make it all about her after the damage she caused is baffling 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@amelialoyselle2123]

Story 2: Demisexual means that there's just no attraction until a strong emotional attachment happens. A lot of people will say "well, isn't that most relationships" and - no. A guy can see a girl at a bar and say "oh, I'd like to take her home" and that is considered "normal". A demisexual person would not find any attraction until there's some kind of strong emotional relationship beforehand, so you may enter a relationship with a demisexual person and no sexual attraction may develop. Or it might. That's likely why the BF reacts the way he does: no attraction to the BFF as he has no real relationship with her.

[@Frostfern94]

Thank you! From a Demisexual, I find it hard to fully explain what I mean. “Isn’t that just a preference?” Well that would make asexuality, Homosexuality, etc… “just preferences” too. It’s based on attraction. I can say someone looks nice or attractive but I am not sexually attracted TO THEM until that bond is made.

[@ginathecookie]

​@@Frostfern94Yeah, same. I've gotten better at explaining, I even commonly use that just because Allosexuals don't act on their attraction doesn't mean it's never _not_ there.

[@Tiger54658]

when hearing that i was almost wondering if Mark was referring to what the commenter said rather then what the OP answered because if so, I kind of felt the same in not getting what it was about. Of course those feelings would change after the relationship ends. The point was he didn't want to have sex with someone that wasn't his gf, point blank. And adding that he's demisexual just adds more explanation to something that, from my point of view, shouldn't have needed explaining. But it was nice seeing Demisexual rep in a story for once. My first thought was "hey someone like me!"

[@AraAra6367]

Agreed. Sexual and romantic attraction goes hand in hand with the emotional connection needed for demisexuals to be attracted to someone to begin with. For me, there’s no immediate notice of any attractive physical features, either conventional ones or personal preference. In fact, I tend to avoid looking at people too closely when I first meet them and have some measure of face blindness as a result. I gotta bond with you on some level for me to get familiar with you, not to mention so I can even start to like you at all.

[@Lillireify]

Story 1 post update - so, OP inadvertently turned BF's sister against him and she feels that him throwing her out it's "UNFAIR"? What a spoiled princess. Jesus F*in Christ.

[@aluralovell6829]

That was story 1 but I agree.

[@Lillireify]

@@aluralovell6829 whoops, thanks!

[@Squrlntkn]

Oh he raising his sisters? I hear nothing about the parents. In this story. These siblings sound very very close. And he being able to care. For his young sister her first time going through this is admirable.

[@xydis.06.03]

OP only describes them as deadbeats and leaves it at that.

[@SorenPenrose]

“I love my boyfriend because he raised his sister” Followed by, “why does he know about her period?” Wtf? OP is crazy, I pray for the bf

[@AndreNDP]

SisterS! He already had one go through this! She's literally mad that he didn't cover his ears and scream to drown out the yucky girl stuff!

[@mysteriousj3019]

​@@AndreNDPNot even that, that would just be childish of him. She's offended that he didn't literally abandon them when they needed him by leaving the house like her own shitty father did. She's a fucking mess.

[@SorenPenrose]

@@AndreNDP imagine her in bed, “why the f*** do _you_ know what feels good to _me_ that’s freaking gross!?”

[@kittykatbeans]

I'm a demisexual too! And panromantic, as well as monogomous. This essentially means I feel romantic attraction towards people regardless of gender, but I won't have sexual attraction towards a person until I develop an emotional bond with them. I am also monogomous, so I only date one person as a time! Hope that helped and made sense!!

[@Frostfern94]

I’m Demi too! Monogamous and a lesbian.

[@HackiePuffs]

So many of us can only WISH that the guys in our life are this understanding and caring about our periods and here OP is calling it “gross” like we haven’t been trying to de stigmatize our periods for AGES 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@wildfyah]

That comment he made: I thought she had at least another year...is one of the most parent things I've ever heard...YTA OP. He's literally parenting his siblings.

[@immapotato1]

in the update edit she keeps saying "she knows she's wrong" but all I hear is "how can I make people forget how much of a shitty human I am"

[@aelminiatures]

I was expecting her to DARVO

[@ScooterBond1970]

She really do be think this is the Third Act Breakup in a bog standard romcom.

[@squirrel670]

​@@ScooterBond1970🤣

[@roevhaal578]

wtf, she reacts as if he started talking about what it taste like.

[@fluidwolf]

Some people seem to be raised really heavy handedly that sex specific bodily functions are taboo and must be hidden at all times from anyone not sharing their sex.

[@jackchop1576]

I was so grateful to see her say "my now ex" in the update of story 1. She implied that he might be sexually abusing his sisters with her posts.

[@ioannastergiou6068]

Exactly!!That’s why her ex boyfriend couldn’t forgive her comment, it’s not that she just thinks it’s a woman’s role to teach about these things, she called him a disgusting pig, implying that he was doing something dirty, inappropriate , abusive

[@samiamtheman7379]

@@ioannastergiou6068 And it actually messed up how his youngest sister viewed him for a day. It took the older sister to calm her down from it. She almost did serious damage to the guy's relationship with his family and she's delusional if she thinks he'll ever take her back.

[@beatapogorzelska1241]

Yes. she implied incest and pdf.

[@scribeofrebirth1431]

A man who actually understands periods, treats it as a normal function, and is even prepared to handle it? That’s a freaking real MAN right there! An absolute rare gem of a man! How could OP discourage him and insult him for being a real man and a good parent?

[@suziyork78]

The minute she said that her ex had sole custody of his siblings, she immediately became the butt hole for her reaction to the 12 yo having her first period and the boyfriend knowing how to respond to the situation

[@noxiouschocolate9644]

So this 26 year old woman really thinks she can get her ex back after accusing him of being a predator. Towards the child that he raised.

[@petitsmacarons2373]

Story one: the dude is a king, all the story I was like "that is the kind of dude we need more off" And then the OP said what they said and... no, just no, I have no word

[@Conimon]

I hate when people are wrong in these stories and they try pulling the “I was scared” card for sympathy

[@SS-te4hs]

I really hope the girlfriend is let go, I cannot understand her stance at all. I’m a conservative 65 year old woman and I feel like we fought hard for men to be able to parent (or big-brother) the children, even girls!!!!! It’s like op is from the Victorian age!!!!

[@Sifya]

The ironic thing in Victoria area, the fathers were the ones to know about period of their daughters and managed for them(too complicated for their weak mind😅)

[@stacywhisenant6242]

She made something healthy into something dirty. OP made his child( he is the parent, no matter the biology) feel like she was dirty and he was dirty. We have genuinely sick people who hurt children, but he was trying to help the child deal with a normal function of her development.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

And isn't this kind of knowledge, understanding, care and emotional intelligence from a man the sort of thing women have been asking for since forever? Now here's this broad dumping on one of the handful of men who actually exhibit such positive behavior.

[@SS-te4hs]

After thinking about it more (because I can’t stop!), her decision to react the way she did is even worse than her attitude. If she really believed that what her bf did was wrong (it was not! jtbc), she could have talked to him in a quiet place away from any kids and just explained her view. Listening to his would have been a good idea also. The poor 12 year old!!!! Big sis had their backs tho, didn’t she????

[@rclark8688]

I went through something similar where my mom got mad at me for knowing when my sisters periods were about to start. I still dont get what the problem is, Its not like I was tracking them, but I'm not stupid. Her insides would gush out of her body every month, sending her into inexplicable illness and murderous contempt for all breathing life. If I burst into flames or my limbs fell off for a week once every month, I figure after a while they would notice a pattern. Am I just supposed to just pretend I don't notice that she randomly bleeds out for several days at a time?

[@KCohere33]

Why the heck is she shocked. She just said he raised those kids as if they were his own. He is an amazing dad, yes, dad. The fact that OP is disgusted makes her disgusting.

[@CurliFox]

No, hes just the sibling.

[@KCohere33]

@@CurliFox No, he’s not. He himself called them his kids.

[@susankaempfer8427]

I’m getting rural Deep South vibes here.

[@squirrel670]

​@@CurliFox he has custody of them. He's their legal guardian

[@squirrel670]

​@@KCohere33not to mention one of them calling him dad

[@yoyopron]

We all know why he didn't ask the gf to take over the period talk: she'd probably spout some shameful BS instead of accurate info.

[@oliviastevens9156]

Story 1: Soo... who wants to bet that OP's ex may end up posting about her on Reddit asking for advice on how to handle a delusional woman/be posted about on a Crazy Ex subreddit? Because that last line before heading into Story 2 is... well, it's probably a sign this story isn't over.

[@gcarr1089]

Story 1 - the guy is an absolute gem. Any woman would love their man to be that caring and supportive. OP blew any chance of a reconciliation the second she made his sister scared of him, he can't let that slide and OP is a danger to his parenting. Ex bf deserves a medal 🏅🏅 for stepping up and taking care of his siblings.

[@trippinggauntlet4520]

Damn, that young man explained about periods better and with more empathy than my mother, the nurse, did. OP what a f*cking AH

[@meagancall5005]

Mark: "You know, maybe you're doing a bit of crochet-" Me: *looks up in alarm from my crochet*

[@carolroberts4614]

@meagancall5005 Mark knows all and sees all!

[@roowyrm9576]

If BF is caring for younger female siblings (in a parental role) then the fact that he knows about his sister's periods, and is responsible enough to be able to deal with his younger sister starting is excellent. He is really responsible. OP is disgusting herself, she needs to think about her attitude and sort herself out.

[@gmun2248]

Yeah: "He's mum and dad for his siblings"... "Why does he know so much?" OP sounds like a child.

[@HyliaFell]

"How could he know that the sister uses pads!?1?!?1?!!?" Idk maybe because he's their provider and probably buys them for her? Jfc op1

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

OP: "Calls bf a vile pig" Also OP: "Why am I being punished?" 🙄

[@jackspring7709]

Woah. That update. It didn't even occur to me the effect that OP's words would have on that child. I hope OP learns from this. Underneath it she seems to be a misandrist. Her behaviour was really uncalled for.

[@NoOne-fo1di]

I love when people say they're using a throwaway because of an SO having reddit and then describe an extremely specific situation that anyone involved will immediately recognize and know who they're talking about.

[@KarmikCykle]

Well you can tell they're usually not very bright, and this is no exception.

[@TraceyBoyland]

I always think this. Like noone will know after all those details?

[@StockStilly]

Literally

[@berylryder9709]

I think the point is more about them not knowing about the poster’s main account rather than them not knowing the post is about them.

[@pamelajohnson6425]

Well, this op is obviously dumb enough to believe her way of thinking is the norm and ex BF is "weird", or worse, based on her outburst. Which is why she can't understand how awful her comments were, or why ex BF won't forgive her. She's not right in the head and needs some kind of therapy or something before dating again.

[@ak8990]

What a wonderful man! He is such a wonderful brother/father-figure to his siblings!

[@jackwatt8988]

1: YTA, the brother is playing a parental role in his sibling's lives. Good on him.

[@DivusMagus]

Story 1: Deserves to be on "Am I the Devil". This guy isn't a brother anymore he is a parent and an amazing one. He is amazing and you have wierd insecurities you push onto him and his family.

[@HC_Productions_UK]

1t Story...I truly hope he dumped her..what an asshole!

[@yaqbulyakkerbat4190]

He did

[@HC_Productions_UK]

@@yaqbulyakkerbat4190 Ye, I listened to the rest of the story :)

[@xydis.06.03]

I laughed when the 16yo slapped her.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

@@xydis.06.03the 16 year old needs to shut up and open should have pressed charges against her

[@wimsylogic65]

​​@@KadeStringer2.0 No she deserved it. OP needs to grow the F up . She's in the wrong here. She was saying terrible things about her boyfriend that are untrue. She was out of line and going too far.

[@Rhysdux]

I mean, of COURSE he knows when his sisters have their period. He buys the groceries! Groceries include sanitary napkins and tampons. The older sister got her period three years ago. I rather doubt that the older sister has been subsisting off of one box of napkins for three years! And I have to say that I'm glad he knows how female bodies work. There are so many guys who are ignorant, and a frightening number of them are in Congress.

[@chrisk5985]

I wish more men knew and understood periods like the guy in the first story did. The OP is so weird for thinking him knowing that is wrong. She's basically sexualizing periods, which is weird af. The boyfriend is doing great and did nothing wrong, in fact he did everything right. The OP is absolutely the AH.

[@americas1fan]

Story 1 he's basically a single dad so of course he knows all of this. Thats a great thing actually.

[@strawberrysangria1474]

Some of us aren't told about periods, and get scared when they happen. Good on big brother for knowing what to say. I wish more guys understood what he does. OP is crazy-immature. Even in the update she's whining about how "it's not fair". You know what's not fair? Having to raise your siblings at a very young age, and having your so-called partner turn on you in front of them. That's not fair.

[@DB-nv6di]

I knew she was getting kicked to the curb the moment she said he raised those kids. Also "I know I was wrong, but why am I being punished?" Girl! Because it's the consequences of your OWN freaking actions!

[@bgcorporation]

Story 1: OPs Misandry is showing.

[@vanzy01]

💯👍🏿

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Y'all have no concept of what these this mean. OP is being MISOGYNISTIC. Thinking men shouldn't know about female bodily functions, and sexualizing family relationships, are wholly patriarchal concepts

[@Sugieb]

Google the definition of misandry pls because u sound dumb😭 op still TA tho

[@jojoone1099]

It seems like she is more into patriarchy. She doesn't think men have a REASON to understand some of the basic body functions on women. SHE is the one treating women's biology like a dirty secret.

[@morphinpink]

That's not misandry lmao op thinks women's reproductive health is disgusting and that men are above knowing about it, that's text book misogyny.

[@carlrood4457]

He's essentially a single parent to his siblings. It's his job to help his sisters through stuff like this. Also, I'm a brother and shared bathrooms with my sisters, so as a teen I certainly knew who used pads and who used tampons. As a husband I've bought them for my wife and as a father I've bought them for my daughter. OP's got some weird hangups.

[@jessjess23brooks89]

Story 1: just wow. She was critical of such a caring and informed young man who stepped up to be a better parent than many I know. I hope he dumped that asshole. He needs a partner who can be an understanding, mothering figure in his siblings life and she just sounds like a stuck up, insecure little girl. If I witnessed such a touching scene from such a mature older brother, i'd be thinking: marriage material. Not be in disgust?

[@jaydee_0079]

RE: The Period. OP throws a stick of dynamite into a room. OP now asks how to I reassemble the room the way it was.

[@DerekScottBland]

I'll never understand the throwaway thing. "Boyfriend is on Reddit." Yeah, he might read this but go "wow, this isn't from my GF's account, so that means there's some other person on Reddit with the exact same situation as we're having? What are the odds?"

[@aluralovell6829]

Well typically you're supposed to change enough details so they won't know but some of these situations are way too specific for any significant changes to be made IMO.

[@LoonyLovesLondon]

I think it’s more to hide their main account. Like "they will realise this is me but won’t be able to look at my posthistory for what else i post" Bc otherwise it definitely makes zero sense haha

[@katrinacassidy3540]

Story 1: This is prior to hearing update. OP lives in a world full of delusion if she can’t put two and two together & say such vile, hateful & harmful things about her boyfriend. She says no man should know that much about his sisters periods, etc., etc. But than also says that he’s raised these children like they’re his own. The fact that she doesn’t realize that NO MAN OR BROTHER should be in his position in the first place says it all. Sometimes it is great when the trash takes itself out!

[@Cupcakee0330]

1st story - I see a restraining order in her future 🤣

[@savanna8103]

Even before the update i was thinking her mom was probably like "your father thinks periods are gross, dont talk about periods around him"

[@RosensDragon2140]

not even going to wait for the story to finish, just got done listening to her describe how he has been both dad and mom for his siblings for years. Solid YTA. If he is effectively a single dad to his siblings with no extended family support, of course he knows the details. Who else are his sisters going to turn to when their period starts? She's so influenced by society that she's blinded to what she even says she admires about her bf. The internalized misogyny is strong.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

The fact that poor girl spent the day thinking her brother was a creep for understanding the basics of what a period cycle is, is so sad. I pity OP though. It must have sucked so much to grow up being shamed by her father and having to put his comfort first for her, her sister, and her mothers periods. She is still fully wrong and that family is better off without her, as she likely would have started to pressure 16 and 12 in to being silent about there cycles around her Ex.

[@TakeHakid]

Story 1: Listened to the hole OP with uncontrolable disgust on my face. This amazing guy is doing his best to raise kids that were not his responsibility to begin with, he could be doing it half-assed but instead is acing it, and this is her reaction to it? Does she want him to be ignorant and disgusted when she has her periods too? These kids do not have a mother to teach them and he is great for doing this. She never deserved him.

[@maxdark1585]

For the record, my insistence on telling my brothers about periods has been something I've been thanked for MANY MANY MANY times, even by my mother who initially was against it! My brothers have been able to be supportive for friends and girlfriends, buy products, and be ears to listen to rants because I insisted on telling them, and now basically every woman theyve ever helped with periods has thanked me for it. They've thanked me cause they like helping people and are able to do so more effectively!

[@iononcantomascrivo]

Yikes! I didn't know it was possible to be both a chauvinist and a misogynist simultaneously.

[@335chr]

Op wasn't misogynistic she was misandristic

[@whatsanenigma]

@@335chr Misandrist for sure, but maybe also misogynist in assuming periods are something to be ashamed of, that should be hidden from men at all costs.

[@kaworunagisa4009]

@@335chr She was in fact misogynistic. Her hate/disgust wasn't for men but that a man is cool with "shameful, disgusting, and inherently sexual" women's bodies. Still a major AH, just a different flavour.

[@tiawheeler1153]

Well, the OP just showed us all that it is possible. She even gave us another example of delusion to go on top of it. The world is such an interesting place, isn't it?

[@gmun2248]

​@@tiawheeler1153 * 'interesting' It might be a lot less unpleasant without this kind of interesting. 🫤

[@needscaffeinern]

The line that really got me was her being surprised that he knew his sister uses pads. Like who do you think bought them? Also if share a bathroom with an afab person chances are you'll find out what they use eventually

[@TheMixzero6]

Story 1: Wtf is wrong with OP? Just give her the "Bigest A" in the world price already. No chance he will take her back after that.

[@thecrowuknow]

17:40 well that guy is 100% correct about not understanding monogamy.

[@blackrex828]

Exactly. I was like, "please shut up"

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 2:have a feeling they are more than just friends whether they have openly talked about it or not. Maybe they will eventually realize they just want to be together. Then they can add a third person whenever they feel like with no problems! Good for OP for standing up for himself and ending it. This was likely going to end badly otherwise. Either her possibly cheating with her friend and her future partner, simply realizing she's in love with her friend and leaving OP for her, or at the least a lot of resentment since their sexual desires aren't matched. If it was a habit that was that important to her to continue she should have brought it up sooner to make sure that was something he would be comfortable with in their relationship.

[@aluralovell6829]

She assumed because he was a man he'd totally be into it.

[@ElleD308]

There was a story like this a while ago and the idt married her..... didnt end well 😂 it never does

[@clarrie93]

Op: he take care of his siblings. He buys their food and everything Also OP: why does he know his sister uses pad? Girl?????? He bought the freaking groceries????

[@catsithx]

Story one she seems so clueless how badly she messed up.

[@andrewroyle2847]

Soooooooo he is likely at the top 1% of future paternal figures and you think he's disgusting for that? Holy F, B, what a way to mess up EVERYTHING!

[@Heather_Duke]

She wonders how he knows so much about his sister's periods. I mean...because she and his other siblings live with him. He'd get her pads for her? And her being shocked that he'd know that she started her period at thirteen. He's had custody of them since he was eighteen. Meaning, he was the one who would've bought his sister pads when she was thirteen years old.

[@jr5557]

You acknowledge that he is basically their parent

[@queen_of_flatulence]

I wish I had someone like OPs boyfriend in the first story when I started my period. Instead, I ended up getting brutally bullied for my menstrual cycle every single month by my mother's husband and half brother.

[@gmun2248]

And this is why the actions in the story should be normal and are not the weird, inappropriate response to NATURE that some people are raised to believe. It blows my mind that these attitudes are still so prevalent tbh. I was lucky in my upbringing.

[@SpookyTiney]

Story 1: what an amazing older brother able to help while his sister is in a panic! Well educated, supportive. Not at all creepy, it's also refreshing he's not gagging at the mention of period (had an ex who did).

[@lc77713]

Story 1: I come from a family where my mom handled most stuff of that nature but my dad still knew and cared; he just rather preferred to let my mom handle it. So saying she was raised like that is not an excuse. OP is way out of line and way too immature for that relationship.

[@SappyDuder]

Story 1: OP was upset because he knew what a period was and how it worked? Are male doctors disgusting because they know about periods? He is basically his sisters father AND mother, he needed to know how a period worked. She deserved to lose him, and she deserved to lose her friends for what she said. She messed up bad and needs to face consequences. Story 2: not being sexually compatible is a good reason to break up, especially if one of the parties doesn't want an open relationship. Better to break up amicably than to break up due to resentment building

[@mpumy]

3:14 I haven't even heard the update but i need your boyfriend's numbers girl. He is single now and he is an absolute catch.

[@strawberrycowxo]

😂😂😂 this is the best comment I've seen this year. Made me laugh so hard

[@mpumy]

@@strawberrycowxo we can't let this lizard 🦎brain girl ruin a good man for us. HAND HIM OVER!! 🤣🤣🤣

[@CodenameTurtle]

The brother explained everything so well and took care of his sister, it made me cry a little. I remember what it was like to get my first period, and I felt so much shame and confusion. That act and understanding, taking the day off and just hanging out, would have meant so much to any girl in that situation. I didn't realize the girlfriend actually called him a disgusting pig in front of his sister, I think that's the worst part of it all. By the way, what a lovely man. The way he went "you turned one of my children against me" and just had a zero tolerance to hurting his family like that, god. I needed to be reminded there are good people out there today.

[@merle_9953]

She sound like the type of mother that tells her child to hide the pads (even flush them) to not make the men in her family uncomfortable.

[@wimsylogic65]

In case anyone is not aware, I don't want to assume. should not flush feminine products down the toilet. It's Very bad for the plumbing and septic system. No judgment, if you don't know. just in case. Many are not taught That aspect of menstruation.

[@IceJJFishArchive]

She’s the type to neglect her kids for any man, and defend a man who yells at her daughter for having unopened tampons in the bathroom

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

So everything he told her was correct, but OP was still bothered?! And a disgusting pig?! OP is beyond TA!

[@TH-hy9kr]

Wow...the OP in story 1 is totally AH. I hope this super awesome young man finds a super awesome partner who deserves him. He sounds hardworking, driven, caring, and compassionate. Hope he has shown OP to the door for good.

[@rhylla_864]

My face was hanging open over s1. That man is a GEM. Wtf op.