How To Make A Man Fall In Love? | Tony Gaskins

[@ebone1974]

1. Hold him accountable. 2. Listen to him. 3. Speak life into him. 4. Support him.

[@cheekscheeks5840]

Eboné Barnes facts

[@sugarlipps3710]

Eboné Barnes Thank you

[@cherh]

@@October3074 well that's not a man it's a grown boy 🤷🏾‍♀️ and not the one. Negativity will be your reason tho...ijs

[@nofybn7794]

@@October3074 PREACH!!

[@nofybn7794]

@@cherh Most guys are grown boys. It isn't negativity. It is fact.

[@karamontano4053]

Women please remember that no matter how many tips u learn , if he is the wrong man, pls dont waste time.

[@EshhhaBenjamite]

Yesssssssssss. Good woman + wrong man= waste of time

[@nakialindsey5684]

Yes ladies thanks 🙏🏾 for speaking truth you're comments speak volumes🗣blessings.

[@lovelife1928]

Amen

[@PINK912611]

Amen!

[@bargainbeauty7529]

Zoom zoom 💃

[@TheFiemure27]

This applies to a normal man and not a narcissist. With a narcissist, all this goes out the door

[@thelmathomas3437]

Go somewhere with that narcissist bull crap, because a person play games and don't respond to you like you want them to does not make that person a narcissist

[@preciouslartigue7550]

I was thinking the same thing... this is reality ! Not the narcissist reality

[@TheFiemure27]

@@thelmathomas3437 well your entitled your opinion and so I'm I.

[@missshellie5478]

EXACTLY

[@Nyzhari3]

Wow and that what I think I’m dealing with

[@BebeNow]

In the beginning he says “love yourself” 1- love yourself 2- hold him accountable 3- listen to him 4- speak life into him 5-support him

[@angelsmile9789]

Thank you

[@BebeNow]

@@angelsmile9789 🙏🏽🌞

[@denisegreen6878]

He did say love yourself first off the top you are right thanks

[@rasheedidayatolanike9270]

*#*I PRAY THE UNIVERSE GRANT YOUR HEARD DESIRES WITH MORE LOVE AND COMMITMENT FROM YOUR EX THROUGH THE GREAT MAN OF THE UNIVERSE DR WILSON, WHO HELPED ME RESTORED MY BROKEN HOME. HE CAN MAKE YOUR EX BEG FOR A SECOND CHANCE*#*

[@rasheedidayatolanike9270]

*#*Wh'|sapp him for help*#*?¿??!!!

[@cassmac4745]

I think it's safe to say then that a man who isn't ready for accountability isn't ready for love

[@daviscarter4087]

Sure

[@merlinsvdd]

True and that hasn't proved himself to you yet. I am going to test that theory out this Chinese New Year.

[@merlinsvdd]

After MCO 2.0, we will see. And will see whether he will video call on Valentine's Day even if he cant drive to me. We'll see, if not, i know where i stand'- friend only.

[@lorinal5544]

Right

[@ivia_ol8356]

I held mine accountable for his word. He gave me his word about something, he didn't live up to it and I called him out on. His ego got bruised and the next he says to me that if I won't stop contacting him he will get a no contact order placed. Happened yesterday.

[@jroyal2229]

I put my ex-husband out for cheating on me. Now, I’m officially divorced & loving myself

[@michaelp1338]

Strength!

[@nukapuka]

He cheated cos you were controlling the sex.

[@sstefant100]

Was the divorce easier because he cheated?

[@BUTTA408_]

I'll toast to that

[@crystalglopez91623]

Sstefan t Im divorcing a cheater and no, it hasn’t been easy. this pain has brought me closer to God and I am learning to rebuild my character and trust Gods truth about reaping what you sow. I’ve come out with abundant blessings for it too! You will not just survive but you will thrive!!

[@tercsi1]

After he curses you out and you stay, no matter what you do, he'd do it again because you stayed. Leave once it happens. Period.

[@jannie5346]

You said it right! He disrespects you, you stay, he believes you got no respect for yourself. When you leave you show him that you got worth and self respect . Nothing can beat that.

[@msanja70]

Preach

[@abosedeojelabi2637]

Wow!!! God bless you. Thank you so much for this insight.

[@1976margie]

WORD!!! 😏

[@latashalee7275]

FACTS🤞🏽

[@lisalyonxo]

Something in my heart tells me that this man is telling the real truth.

[@lanzoalisson3483]

As a man he is telling the truth, 100 percent sure if you do what he said while you love yourself, you can attract any man in the world, if some don't love you they will definitely respect you.

[@ladystarlite5]

He most definitely is and I'm only a few minutes in this video.

[@jcymngo]

He is. I'm living this right now. And it happened in the *exact* order he said.

[@Jasmyne444]

Self love is EVERYTHING, Ladies! Before you meet this man of God for you, learn to be kind, loving and gentle with yourselves! Establish your boundaries and speak life into yourself! Thanks Tony, God bless!!

[@wanjirukarago9308]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@tokozilengwenya8760]

Speak life💯💯

[@miajasmine1770]

What if a women experienced sexual trauma and loses her sexual integrity does she loses her worth ?

[@ezebarbaraeze3770]

I can recommend you to a man who can helped you get your ex back to you within 48hours

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[@tyronepeterson3952]

B blessed brotha... I'm a man and my lady asked me to watch this segment... and I was like why do I need to know how to learn how to love a man? So I watched it and I have to say that although this segment is catered women, I learned alot about myself and i became aware of things i didnt know that I loved about my woman.. appreciate you brotha💯💯

[@kstarrify]

See there....men, are receptive to input and information from other men. Well, at least you are aligned with his message - that's progress...!

[@ruru9400]

I'm so glad that you listened to this! ❤️ Women need to see comments like this ☺️

[@HippieFiend]

More men need to listen to the positive advice given by REAL MEN! God bless you and your lady!

[@prettynpinklowery]

Be blessed

[@ladyslimthebest2136]

You should share it with others in our city 🙏🏽🙌🏽

[@stylesbykbella]

Yes make him accountable!Accountability feels like an attack when you’re not ready to acknowledge how your behavior harms others!

[@kayegordon861]

Speak girl...'cause its just like that.

[@daughterotmhsnatchingsouls7783]

stylesbykbella, Wow!!! Spot on!

[@Glamrocs]

Exactly! He’s 50 I called him out on his drinking. He got mad said he already had a mother and broke up with me. Sir you’re 12 years my senior. Goodbye!

[@Apostylicpoet]

true! I experienced this with my mentor. She would call me out and most conversations we had left me in tears at the realization of how right she was about my behavior. Facing oneself is painful if your behavior has been toxic and immature. But I was and still am determined to change and be my best self. The last guy I was with, I called him out on everything and was appalled at his behavior because of the position he holds in church. But.... If no one ever hold you accountable, you can go through life thinking you're ok. Which is sad, because it could mean one of two things, no one loved you enough to check you, or they did and you didn't listen! Well buddy, with me you're going to show visible signs of improvement or I'm out! And that's exactly what happened. I'm not playing games with grown folks. You better grow some fruit man of God!

[@stylesbykbella]

Shan Russell that’s right set your boundaries and stick with them Happy Friday

[@Zoe_South_Africa]

When love is real, these qualities come easily and subconsciously.

[@marigoldandpeony]

Lucky are people who never had to watch these videos 🙂

[@rachellerockel]

True as long as that real love begins with self or else our subconscious wreaks havoc on our external life

[@Queen-ConsciousYa]

@@rachellerockel very true. After I became insecure about myself, I stopped holding people accountable to certain standards. Everything went downhill from there.

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

@@marigoldandpeony Haha true.

[@wshelby83]

I agree!!

[@queenkill3rbee]

If a man doesn't have GOD in him he wont ever change he will be stubborn, hardheaded not caring while you have life & god in you.

[@VJ-zw7xz]

PERIODT

[@jaleesashipp2579]

So what to do if you have God in you and he doesn't? But you are married to him.. do you continue to pray for him?

[@andrealmorris8576]

Jaleesa Shipp Absolutely not! Men’s language is hold him accountable of what you will not accept or you will be a doormat. I have been there. I wish I would have heard this sooner.

[@mkayelefreeman2864]

true sis

[@kimberlyclark6326]

If a guy is messed up with that brainwashing, I wouldn't give him a second look. He HAS to be psychologically healthy to get my attention.

[@strtupmaorostrtupmaori9391]

I love a man who shows me his vulnerability

[@dipmeingloss]

5:41..😂😂❤ holding men accountable is something all women need to practice like they practice twerking in the mirror. lmfaoo👏🏾bc when you stay with a man that constantly finds different ways to disrespect you, your "indirectly" showing him your weak & insecure no man should ever get comfortable with disrespecting you.💯never be afraid to walk away from a relationship...✌🏾

[@myadavis2111]

Amen sis

[@claudettenahjela2569]

Hajahajhaj Melanin, you're Poppin!

[@christieshafer2557]

Soo. True. Hold. High. Standard and. Don't. Let it drop. Cuzz of. A man. Let. Him know. Your not. The 1. And. You're not. Going to tolerate. Him. Disrespecting you. ! And that you will keep it moving next time he disrespect you again. And. Mean it. Don't. Just. Say it. ..

[@PrettiRissa]

Melanin Poppin I can’t blame some of the past bad behavior I got from men when I myself was not the best version of me nor was I setting any requirements. So this video hit home. We can’t be scared to tell men what we want and what we REQUIRE if he truly wants you he will do the necessary to KEEP you and respect you. ❤️❤️❤️

[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*Making a man fall in love is about being ourselves and nurturing a bond built on trust and understanding. Let's remember to embrace our true selves and let love happen naturally.*

[@elizabethschilling7178]

You are so right about this my late husband I asked him before he passed away what he loved most about me? He said I never let him get away with anything.

[@brandyfinley7172]

I'm so sorry for your loss huh.. my husband was killed in a motorcycle accident 12 years ago and I think about what he said to me 3 days before his accident he said I'm so in love with you that if God never answers any of my prayers ever again I hope and pray he'll answer only this prayer I hope he'll take me before he ever takes you because I couldn't live with you and I said what is it about me that makes you love me and he said You believe in me every single day even the days I didn't believe in myself

[@anointedstilettos]

Be blessed! I am from this video To make a man fall in love: 1. Be your best self 2. Hold him accountable using your quiet strength to call him out 3. Listen to him without judgment and without interrupting 4. Speak life into him 5. Support him 6. Pray for him

[@astrogoddess9433]

Love it all...BUT be your Best Self yaaas.... KNOW AND LOVE THYSELF FIRST...

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

Tried all of this and he STILL broke up with me . Don't know if it's worth it anymore really.

[@1jaddison]

@@Goodwillwinoverevil1984Then that's not the one for you. You are amazing. You deserve someone equally as amazing. Don't cheapen yourself to run after the wrong one...

[@SunflowerEmpress-wg5tt]

When you hold him accountable that’s when they try to call you controlling🙄

[@teiatalks1879]

MsRenaissance 07 that’s not a man that’s grown boy . He talking about MEN who wants to change but need that guidance from a real woman

[@Bloomtobestself]

Well the question you gotta ask yourself was did you let anything slide? You show a man how to treat you by what you ACCEPT. If you let your child get away with something once, best believe they will turn around and do it again even after you say no. Say no the first time and every time, they will understand the word “NO.” Men only act foolish to see what you will put up with cause all the girls before you let him do whatever he pleases. This video is about being the woman he would change and become his best self for. And you have to follow all 4 things. In my experience listening to a man and supporting being his #1 supporter while at the same time knowing your worth and making sure he respects you fully and holding him accountable for everything cause you could walk out that door and find better than the way he is treating you but doing it in a feminine way and not argumentatively. He learns how to respect a woman and not seeing you as a doormat. Never talk to a man like you’re his mother. For example, when I’m mad my boyfriend is spending too much money and we are barely making end meet I say, “we need money for such and such” and I let him figure it out Cause he is a grown man. He got it. But if I called him lazy, or talk down and start an argument all it does is make him disrespect me because it shows I don’t support and believe in him to be a provider. All you have to do is be patient and time will tell. What the video doesn’t mention is that there are a lot of boys out there who are not men. I’ve dated dozens of men by age but only 2 of those men were grown men. Look at his character towards you. How he treats you at the beginning(first 2-3 months) shows you EVERYTHING. And whatever bad behavior you accept from him is on you. Look out for you. You’re the prize. 💕

[@ayessacamara3995]

And dats wen u leave his sorry ass

[@sharonvaughn6388]

True

[@AllThingsTiffanyTV]

That’s a child honey

[@dharmikayoga]

“We fall in Love with the people who call us to our Higher Selves” *Gold*

[@Gentile3234]

1. "Hold him Accountable!" 2. "Listen 2 Him!" 3. "Speak Life into Him!" 4. "SUPPORT HIM!" Thank You Tony. BE BLESSED 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️‼️

[@kimmymacktalk1692]

Also making him feel Respected, Needed, and Appreciated...the Bible says men need to be Needed & Respected and Women need to be Wanted & Loved

[@PrettiRissa]

KIMMYMACK TALK I agree see. And I can’t blame some of the past bad behavior I got from men when I myself was not the best version of me nor was I setting any requirements. So this video hit home. We can’t be scared to tell men what we want and what we REQUIRE if he truly wants you he will do the necessary to KEEP you and respect you. ❤️💕🤞🏽

[@kimmymacktalk1692]

@@PrettiRissa Thank you and you are right as well...we need to have standards and refuse to lower those standards because your standards should be fair, attainable, & reasonable

[@PrettiRissa]

KIMMYMACK TALK 🤞🏽❤️

[@tanataylor8568]

Each person need to Love GOD first,then yourself,and it becomes easy to love someone else! Tulsa Oklahoma!

[@a.christian9647]

Yeah but some men send mixed messages. One minute they want to feel needed and will tell a woman things that her feel bad for being independent, then the next minute they will make the woman feel needy for expecting or asking for certain things..... It sounds like confusion and indecisiveness to me.

[@claudiaaustin8701]

Be Blessed, I am 70 years and have never heard life spoken like this. Thank you young man it is very helpful. married 48 yrs.

[@daviscarter4087]

Hello claudia

[@thatgirlvee2]

Wow that's amazing

[@mrsnbatci]

Be blessed!

[@libbyadams1965]

Be blessed...72 yr old widow was married 52 yrs. You are right! My husband used to tell me we were a team & that I shared in his successes because I always supported him & spoke the truth to him. miss my love💔

[@gracehill3344]

You were married at 20? God bless you and your heart. I know that ache is real. You are still dearly loved Ms. Adams, if you haven't heard it enough as of late.

[@sreed1981sr]

This man is the truth🙌🏾 God bless him!

[@clairvoyant4066]

Wowwwww, I am so glad you are expressing your personal feelings about men! Thank you for your priceless instructions!

[@kenishalperkins]

A humbled Mom He really is. Saved my life.

[@PrettiRissa]

A humbled Mom yess sis ! I can’t blame some of the past bad behavior I got from men when I myself was not the best version of me nor was I setting any requirements. So this video hit home. We can’t be scared to tell men what we want and what we REQUIRE if he truly wants you he will do the necessary to KEEP you and respect you. ❤️💕🤞🏽

[@lanzoalisson3483]

@Trina B do the opposite and good luck.

[@divinets1302]

I’ve been married 34 years , and young men you’re on target.. Be Blessed.

[@BrooklynBaby100]

What’s the secret to finding and keeping your mate?

[@jessicawojcik336]

I held him accountable and walked my fine ass away lol :)

[@أمانيعلي-خ6ل]

Take your time baby

[@songbirdnESQUIRE]

Like Lizzo says in her song, "Feeling Good as H ell"

[@crystaleve1467]

Jessica Wojcik you better say it boo

[@BlessedVivi]

😂😂😂

[@Truth_seeker777]

lol

[@trishaluman2309]

I didn't have positive role model growing up. No parents to show me how to respect myself or set boundaries. You give me all the advice/guidance ive ever needed. Ive finally got the love that you have for your wife. He wasn't a believer when we met but when he saw how dedicated i was to not having sex before marriage because of my life for the lord, he became interested. I didnt have to do a single thing for him to be attracted to me. He said im the first girl who didnt give up my body right away. He also shows all the signs that u listed that a man is in love with you. We are taking it day by day but im doing things the right way this time. Thank you so much for teaching me things I've never known about. My love life has turned around 360 since ive been watching you. I feel so unconditionally loved, the way i love everyone else.

[@gracehill3344]

This is a great story! Thanks for sharing!!

[@becc_ss_sharland523]

Thank you for sharing! Loved reading this. I’m so happy for you ☺️

[@catcat9582]

I was just hoping you could share how things are now? Looking for inspo

[@digestmymind]

How are things now?

[@icysnow57cold64]

I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. I heard that lesbian relationships are healthier because they understand each other. If both partners understand each other, they won’t want to break up with each other. I also heard that women have higher rates of depression when married (in straight relationships). There is a very small percent of women that are happy in heterosexual relationships. So it's very hard for men and women to bond with each other and have a strong bond with each other. Both men and women think differently, behave differently, react in a different way. The more similar two people are, the easier it is to relate and understand each other, resulting in a better, more fulfilling connection. I also read somewhere that even with the divorce rates what they are, most heterosexual marriages that don't end in divorce are still unhappy, and can absolutely relate to experiencing significantly more depression while married than while single.

[@redeemed1352]

"You being weak makes him despise u"

[@8adassa]

redeemed1352 Truth the guy I’m with Now mentioned that to me several times in the beginning of the relationship

[@queencupcake]

redeemed1352 I’ve seen this live and in living color.

[@SermonsSubtitled]

He said If you're being a weak woman IN RESPONSE TO HIS IGNORANT BEHAVIOR". He didn't mean being weak in general and showing any weakness in any area will make him despise you. Just wanted to clear that up in case some ppl misunderstand..

[@iamTiffanyEmpowermentPodcast]

That’s deep

[@misselle1430]

@@SermonsSubtitled yes meaning he's done something negative and you don't handle him or the situation... if you don't there goes his respect for you and the seeing you as being weak

[@dee8287]

He is so right! I had to call a person on his behavior on our second date.... He was totally surprised after he apologized, he told me that no one had ever done that before.... It never happened again!

[@wendydrummond2338]

Thanks for sharing that! What a beautiful blessing you are! God bless you and your family and work love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia

[@kisha904]

I did all that and he still left!! He didn’t like to be told when he was wrong. He didn’t like me being straightforward in a respectful way. He’d say I was too straight and to the point. He didn’t like when I’d try to close his wounds by speaking positivity. He flat out told me that he’d never be happy. It is what it is. I tried!!!

[@sreed1981sr]

It sounds like you were with a grown boy! Be glad that he's gone💪🏾

[@FeminineVibez]

Kisha Emanuel sis that is actually a good sign. He eliminated himself . That prevented you from wasting your time.

[@traciet6943]

Those actions meant he is not the man for you. Tony didn't say these things will make every man fall in love with you. Some men are not ready for the truth. It is what it is...

[@dee8287]

He was not the man for you... You will go through many frogs to find your Boaz...

[@llanneg.v.c545]

Kisha Emanuel He sounds like someone who is dealing with personal issues, maybe someone who feels he doesn’t deserve a good thing like yourself. If and when he finds healing for himself, don’t be surprised if he comes back.

[@kofoblue3172]

My first love just showed up in my life after 50 years of separation saying I was the only woman to 'make him better'. Now I know what he's really saying to me. Wow...

[@ilciataracena-delcid5397]

I been with the same guy for 32 years ..28 years of Marriage the 4 things that you said I've done and #5 I make him laugh I love to laugh .. And your right sex is not the main focus .. But since the start I didn't let him get away with nothing and I was honest ..

[@daughterotmhsnatchingsouls7783]

Truth, Sir...TRUTH!!! I am newly engaged to a man I met for the 1st time Ever on July 27th! We attended the same high school 6 years apart. He is my junior. We are both established (each owning our own home/cars), and each have grown children. He "knew" 2 months in and proposed to me on Sweetest day (October 19th) in front of both our families. We are in marriage counseling and are getting married in April 2020! My point is this...when a man "knows" he has found THAT ONE...he moves Quickly and on purpose to ensure No one else is an option for her! If a man doesn't know...then it's a "NO", ladies! He should be pursing You, not the other way around! Blessings, A~🦋

[@bankruptcyprep]

Congratulations!

[@eyt1985]

Congratulations Queen ❤️

[@northernroots6807]

Congratulations

[@daughterotmhsnatchingsouls7783]

Thank you E-Dream and Northern Roots.

[@Glamrocs]

Congratulations

[@Zarasha1]

Now I really understand the importance of having your own money. When a women can't provide for herself and stand on her own two feet, it's going to be harder for her to hold a man accountable. When the men see she can hold her own he will be more careful how he treats her.

[@ShadaeMastersAstrology]

Zarasha1 Plenty of us homemakers are being loved, respected and adored by our husbands. Having a job has little to do with a real man loving his woman. You kind of missed the point he’s making here in this video. A woman stands as a woman with or without a corporate job.

[@Zarasha1]

@@ShadaeMastersAstrology True you are 100 percent right.

[@americanbeauty171]

Oh yes ma'am. You have CHOICES when you stand on your own!!

[@americanbeauty171]

@@ShadaeMastersAstrology we talking about single ladies. You RIGHT as your husband it is his job to take care of his wife and family. If you have jump in and help I'm sure you would. God Bless!!

[@evamaria644]

I agree with Venus Unlocked! Respect has little to do with your financial status. In fact, having money of your own might make him even more disrespectful. A woman who will leave with nothing in her packet is a very dangerous woman because she not only has respect for herself but the determination to make it happen. He knows if his woman has to walk out of his house like that and with his children she's gone! As the Psalmist said, I've never seen the righteous forsaken or the begging for bread! God will prove!

[@isaacs2539]

Simple: respect him. Respect is a man's love language.

[@svasianfilipiname6603]

Works both ways dear. Also, love language my ass, love is universal and if I someone loves you/cares about you they will act in ALL ways to show that. 🙂 Golden rule: If it feels like love it is, if it doesn't, it isn't! Why make things so complicated??!!

[@isaacs2539]

@@svasianfilipiname6603You have made your point.There was no need to be rude or disrespectful. I don't know what your 'arse' has got to do with a simple innocuous comment I made.

[@Lovejoy1173]

Well said...a man needs His Womans' respect and love.

[@ebonycarmichael8327]

Be blessed!!! I’ve been married for 18 years & everything that he said is true!! 👈🏽

[@doriapatterson3092]

I'm so inspired by your post; I look forward to the same! 😀

[@IRL98]

This is something 🗣🗣now I wanna slap my self for how many times I cried over my useless exs🤦🏾‍♀️😭

[@detrixhogan6078]

I totally understand...

[@iashahardesty3786]

I know i do

[@Katchatiger]

I know right!? I came here wondering how I could get that passive aggressive Grown Man to want me again and then I realized I DONT want him back at all! We were engaged and I'm paying rent. I was going through a rough time with my family I was so depressed and he was resentful because I had no desire for getting on my back or talking on the microphone. He was emotionally cold and unsupportive. I know better now. I am better now but I had to get away from him first.

[@CarolynHayes74]

Same here

[@Mrs.T305]

If the man isn't into us, none of this will work. I always hold men accountable and many women have done everything in this video.....and the men disappear.

[@Lovely-ye4bf]

Natalie Negrita305 Discernment & Abstaining from sex usually will get rid of a man that isn’t into you. Hopefully... & Tony posted more videos about knowing if a man is into you or not. I suggest you watch those. . .

[@arkiyahisraellewis6429]

Thats the objective, if they don't stick around after doing these things, they are not worthy of any more of your time. It helps weed out the good from the bad. And you won't have to spend too much time figuring out they were no good.

[@khayakazidweba7335]

This is true. I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months now, and I was exactly that to him. But he still took me for granted. If hold him accountable for his actions, he'd change the subject and make it about me as if I am the one with issues. And so I decided to leave him. I was being all that to the wrong man.

[@GoddessReflection19]

Oh it works!!! You're just doing it with the wrong man a karmic or something This works when the intentions are clear and pure!!! And when self Love is FIRST priority🦋

[@donnebonne]

@@khayakazidweba7335 that because he was a narc... what he did is called gaslighting.

[@Tlenee5418]

You are soooo right my husband told me when we first met and he wasn't acting right and I told him to lose my number in the most polite lady like way and wasn't accepting less than I deserved he said he was turned on by my strength your absolutely correct 💯

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✝12086496208⏯⏯⏭⏭⏯⏯⏯⏯?????????????????????

[@Ccphilly]

Every black woman in the world needs to hear this ....I appreciate your honesty I really needed it ..Be Blessed

[@wendydrummond2338]

Every woman in fact every female child needs to be bought up on this I will be teaching my 3 year old granddaughter this when I see her next time. I am not black I'm a Caucasian South Australian 62 year old Christian lady and I've needed and prayed for this information all my life so you can see he's a major blessing to me God bless you

[@ruru9400]

Just women in general need to listen to this video.

[@cindiexoxoxo3773]

Why only black women?

[@ashleyjay56]

Not only black. I’m white and I need to practice this.

[@kizzyrock]

This is facts ladies!!!! I have experienced this! I always had boundaries and walked away and now years later all 3 of my ex's want back in!! Nope, that time is up!! Ladies it's not always easy to hear his videos because sometimes it feels like a personal attack when he touches a nerve but please understand we all are diff because we all experienced diff things in childhood and life. So it is not a personal attack. He is called to help u. Do u think he WANTS to deal with the back lash from men OR constantly hear us women debating him on these post? No! I'm sure their are days when he wants to walk away but he can NOT because he knows he is called. He has to answer to God. Thank you Tony because many of us did not have involved dads so thank you no matter how much we yap!

[@kizzyrock]

@@megabooplantz 🥰

[@stylesbykbella]

Right

[@kizzyrock]

@@stylesbykbella 😘

[@daughterotmhsnatchingsouls7783]

Stand, girl, STAND!!!

[@Bgrace15]

Love this!

[@snoop2002754334]

This man is for real. Hold a man accountable for what he does. Speak life into him. Love yourself first.

[@ivettevelez2386]

Just be yourself, love yourself, and then the man for you will love you for you

[@dutchess5519]

I solely agree natural love 💕 is the beauty within your self

[@chelleb2258]

"Me being my absolute best self"...Amen.

[@PrettiRissa]

Chelle b yesssss ! I can’t blame some of the past bad behavior I got from men when I myself was not the best version of me nor was I setting any requirements. So this video hit home. We can’t be scared to tell men what we want and what we REQUIRE if he truly wants you he will do the necessary to KEEP you and respect you. ❤️💕🤞🏽

[@yolamayo2689]

I’ve cried while driving and at a red light before😐

[@BrightOrange17]

Yola Mayo damn Ive cried just yesterday

[@JustBeingJae01]

Mannnn what I just be hoping nobody be looking at me 😭😂

[@Glamrocs]

Yola Mayo Yup

[@kam.kam.]

Right?? Like was it me he saw?? 😂

[@DivinelyBellzTarot]

He saw u 🤣🤣🤣

[@SageMoon8495]

If he's reacting from a place of immaturity, it's not love anyway. A man who truly loves you loves himself. True love is respect for self, others and communicating effectively. He's not going to be perfect but if he loves you, he'll listen, take note and do differently.

[@rosegolden2039]

The sassy side of Tony is too funny 🤣

[@iamTiffanyEmpowermentPodcast]

😆😆

[@hakimkiseeka]

😄😄😄

[@deedee2736]

Love the ending when you said he can’t hurt you bc he know you will hold him accountable for everything so he gives you his best instead(not your exact words but my interpretation) I love that! I’m on they neck Tony but in a nice ,feminine way lol

[@jasminemartin6998]

DeeDee hahaha. Me too girl *on their neck, in a feminine way 😅😂

[@yogiftedhair8774]

Be blessed. I will admit have been a doormat. I’ve taken so much from men that I have actually had to look directly at myself for allowing it. It’s definitely shameful and I was embarrassed for years about it. I am finally getting to the point where I will allow no one to do as they please with me and that’s family friends or guys. I am not happy with who I’ve been but definitely happy with who I’m becoming. I had a problem with hurting other people, but they had no problem with hurting me. A clear example of not loving myself. I didn’t understand what self love was. I was always taught to love others, but never taught to love myself and in all actuality like I guess I wasn’t really loving them.

[@1karley]

Same sis, same. For years I've given too much of myself and haven't had the love reciprocated.

[@yogiftedhair8774]

1karley Knowing and understanding that you deserve what you’ve been giving others and the power of “No” will take you a long way❤️ I rooting for you!!

[@l.t.9659]

Wow. I feel the same way. My bad relationship choices have even affected how i deal with anyone in my life. I refuse to let anyone feel they can use or devalue me.

[@kimberlyclark6326]

You go, Girl! You're my kinda woman. As you have, I've been there, done that, and now, in my later years, I finally know what kind of man to give my time. Either he's already a grown-ass, mature man, or not. I don't raise boys.

[@donnebonne]

@@kimberlyclark6326 yes, and I'm amazed how many older grown boys there are out there, aren't you? And at my age, they've gotten settled into their ways, and with a couple divorces under their belt they got deep rooted bitterness piled on top of it.

[@estifanosberta-samuel2570]

Very good sir. I must admit I wasn’t going to watch this at first thinking “What do I need to know about this if it’s aimed at women?” It’s great to hear a man articulate what a man needs from our perspective and it be much deeper than the typical things you noted like back rubs. It’s true, holding a man accountable makes him realize that everything he thinks and does affects the life of his partner, their relationship and how they’ll move in any regard.

[@linahernandez6913]

I use to think that cooking, cleaning, and giving him bomb sex but I learned that the hard way. I just find it crazy how a woman got raised like this. I gotta admit I don’t have enough self love working on that. I’ve been sexually abused, hurt, mistreated, abandoned heartbreak after heartbreak cheated on multiple times. I yelled and screamed fighting in a war defending myself like why they treating me like that I don’t deserve that. I deserve to be loved cared for and to get treated right... I couldn’t be supportive cuz I got betrayed by a man that I once loved. So many wrong people for me it’s crazy but I know that’s probably what I attracted they probably see my pain from miles away. I am in a journey on loving myself cuz I deserve it 💜 I just don’t wanna get hurt no more or get disrespected cuz I can’t handle that no more

[@debraroberts2335]

1.) Praise God for your journey thus far. 2.) Admission/ confusion is your truth. 3.) Hold your head up, you are beautiful & wonderfully made because God Made you. 3.) You are not alone, just belive God is with you. 4.) Keep moving forward DON'T look back.

[@erica_smilez87]

@@debraroberts2335 these were most definitely words of wisdom I needed to read, thank you❤

[@susannefiore4338]

You got this! 👍. It's a journey to figure out who we are and learn to "love" our brokenness. I lost my husband in March and realized several months later that I never liked myself and avoided myself by throwing myself into my relationship and then my kids... Never understood "self-care" until the last few months and what an incredible difference I'm feeling.

[@sparkykitty6870]

Hi Lina, I think advertising played the culprit in woman acting this way. When was the last time any model was full figured (other than full-figured clothing)? Women sell themselves for money and the average Jane feels she doesn't measure up and takes the crap a guy dishes out. Also, we don't teach young women how to have values. Abstinence is looked down on except in churches. Bring Home Ec. back as manditory.

[@TheDivineblessin]

Haha I barely cook in my husband my husband do most of it and does the cleaning too 😂

[@marilyncruz1030]

You are sooo right! My husband said the very same thing to me I was not liking me , and he felt that. He told me “ love your self I’m feeling your insecurities “ he loves me but not attracted to me because I’m not attracted to me.

[@altheagloster1797]

Be blessed

[@eleventhecccreator]

And why are u married to him??!?!!

[@notjustaprettyface]

@@eleventhecccreator right! Sounds like some manipulative bs!

[@thisisshauna6986]

Dude. Dude. You just saved my life without even knowing. You’re amazing.

[@quaieshabecoats4623]

It all comes down to Loving Yourself!!

[@monicajohnson1776]

What if I didn’t do this in the beginning’ can o turn this around going forward and how do I do that?? Help

[@maryhill1683]

@@monicajohnson1776 maryhill

[@maryhill1683]

Maary

[@maryhill1683]

Mar hi

[@baaybaypurpleii.4790]

It. Funny. They. Want. To. Be. Love. But. Dont. Want..too. love. Smile. .but. an. .change. will. Come

[@jojomiami09]

Now I understand what my husband wants all because of this video. Thank you so much for your video! I can see my marriage going up from here. 🥰🙌🏾

[@dudette2c]

Has it worked?

[@feleciapowell5792]

Hahaha .. he said “ He may try you again in 10yrs & you pack up like it was 10days” that’s right Tony! I’m guilty of not standing on my word and it sho nuff bit me in ass. Lol you telling the truth

[@moonzapata5626]

I like this guy, straightforward and speaks the obvious truth. Most important the advice he gives is his knowledge about the Holy Bible and from a Christian perspective's experience. Listen to him ladies and you'll prevent yourself from being heartbroken from mistreatment from men!

[@jblake9317]

Tony I knew when you said “Whew” this was going to be good! 😊 I know like me a lot of your listeners watch Power, look at the character Tasha life she’s a ride or die. Look where it got her with her husband! Everything you said is so true, I was married almost 20 years and was a doormat because I never spoke up or held him accountable for his actions but once I did and packed my bags and left I never looked back! Thank you be blessed!

[@deesnuts90210]

Me too sweetheart..17 yrs😔

[@truckerbae5135]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@m.williams3497]

Wow 20years 😣 that would be one of my worst feels. It’s good you got out now

[@thewoshow5788]

I love you Tony Gaskin. You’re such a monumental man, I’ve learned so many things that the men in my life can never recite. God bless 🤞🏾

[@cooney107]

My ex left because I held him accountable, but yet he was a Narcissist anyways. On top of a grown boy 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@harrietboateng5239]

this applies to normal men .....not narcississts.

[@cooney107]

@@harrietboateng5239 I mean 95% are Narcs so it applies sis🙄

[@shallah1542]

Going through this now a d it hurts

[@cooney107]

@@shallah1542 its gonna hurt I'm a yr & a half out & it still hurts but I'm in a better place. It was genuine on our part that's why it hurts so much. For them they were jus going along till they found somebody else to run over. Stay focused sis & learn to love yourself more

[@isrberlinerin4063]

I think one can't make a man fall in love , either he does or he does not, that is my lifelong experience ! Love is a Many Splendored Thing and no one knows how it happen .

[@prettydisabled9060]

Although you're right, I'd add that one can guide others to love which is what this video is about.

[@isrberlinerin4063]

@@prettydisabled9060 i respectfully disagree , because the so called human love is conditional and no one can guide anybody to love somebody . Without Gods Love most people do not even know what love really is , i have been there . Wishing you the very best and may you come to know the love of God .

[@prettydisabled9060]

@@isrberlinerin4063 my thinking is that by setting the bar realistically and reasonably high others aim for it which is the umbrella for what the video is talking about. I think even humans with the best intentions if not checked will do the bare minimum and disrespect if they know they can get away with again and again. While it's guardians primary job to discipline there is a nuances to the type of 'discipline' perhaps for a lack of a better word that partners can bring to each other. Also unfortunately not everyone has good guardians and some of those people if getting professional help can use the guidance of their loved one. It's alright if you disagree. 😊

[@adianezhernandez5877]

God bless you for your wisdom. I wish I would of found my husband at 23 too. I’m 43 working on myself, single mom, getting my things in order with Gods Grace, the struggle is real in the mind and in this world. It feels like my ex would love to see me fail regardless of me doing the best I can to raise our 2 kids. Pray for me. Amen.

[@jozi94]

Adianez Hernandez wow you look so young what's your secret ?

[@perfectlyyoubeauty]

I’m 42 and in a similar place. I’m working on me and the girls now instead of focusing on dating. I know it’s a healing process. I just recently was able to pay off my debts and start a new financial plan for the future. I’ve gotten back to working out and eating healthier. I pray that you will continue to hold yourself with grace and following Gods will for your life. We can do this even in our 40s.. forty, faithful and fabulous! ❤️

[@lisaholmes1447]

Ill be 45 Dec8 and im on the same page just got out of a three-year relationship with somebody that was controlling abusive basically a narcissist I just didn't just check him I have proof of everything I was checking him on and he still set in my face and lied about doing what he was doing I turn everything around on me accuse me of doing everything he was doing cheating and lying

[@wendydrummond2338]

Watch pastor Rc Blakes jnr videos on boundaries and narcissists and how to become a queen to attract your king because it will raise your value and self-esteem and self confidence

[@mrs.haynes-r5z]

I'm 40 years old myself you look young

[@GoryeDesi68]

Be blessed Tony . Can you make a video ? What’s the 5 things you must teach your Son as a single Mom ??

[@ms.virdell4875]

OMG, I have never heard this before, especially from a man. 😂 happy tears. Now, I know where I failed at. Blessings to you and your family.

[@dianelogan5014]

Don't say you failed. A relationship takes two people. This won't help a man who does not want to be better.

[@313rana]

This is the realest video I've ever watched. It actually had me in tears. My husband and I have been together since the age of 17 and at 43 we're getting divorced. Listening to this and relating it to my own life....I can say as young as I was when we started and coming from an abusive childhood, I just wanted "love" and he "loved" me and I accepted what he gave. I didnt know any better. No one taught me this msg. In recent years of seeking therapy, I just started loving mySELF. This just makes so much sense to me. Not to give him any type of pass, but I did not hold him accountable. All the things he "did" to me, I am just as responsible. As much as I thought I was "supporting" him, I realize I was supporting his behavior. God bless you for your messages.

[@berylmcclyde9222]

I love your truth ma’am. I am so thankful that you are smart enough to seek professional help to continue a better you evolving. I want therapy as well. Good comment. Be blessed!

[@lightlydark416]

I appreciate how my brothers are letting us know that being treated like shit is not OK, and they tell what a good supportive man should look like.

[@TheQueenishere91]

Be blessed I’m so glad I came across this video. 🙏🏾 now I see where I’ve been going wrong with men. It’s not about servitude it’s about self love, boundaries, and putting myself first. Anything else is bonus.

[@talkswitTK]

Be blessed all. Lead with love, this world has groomed us to be so selfish and demanding.

[@zachaazakah]

I would love to speak to your wife or for you to do a video with her to get her perspective. She’s sounds like the women my 25 year old self is trying to become. Great advice!

[@terrikarayford1924]

SAMEEEEEE

[@ButterCookie1984]

Its very dangerous to idolize yourself as the wife of these relationship coaches.

[@cpbellamarie]

ItsKenya Yes, I agree with Kenya! Please bring Your wife on. We would Love to listen to You both together.

[@yasminbagley8826]

Same! We need more women like her.

[@godsanointeddaughter8782]

This is the Gospel Truth. I receive this message wholeheartedly 💜. Everyone have a wonderful day & 💕BE BLESSED💕

[@godsanointeddaughter8782]

@@October3074 Thank you kindly.

[@alexatoure3407]

This is so helpful and powerful. I can see the mountains that many women have to climb when traumatized broken relatives including our fathers, uncles, brothers ect... cross the line with us and then somehow in the dysfunction we have to find our inner strength as to not repeat what is familiar when we have no clue about appropriate boundaries, red flags or healthy behaviors. At the end of day we still hold the power.

[@s.h.u.l.a.ministriesoverco6231]

I'm proud of you, not only because you make great videos for women, without profanity, but because you actually made a less than 60 minute video!!!😂 Sorry, I got joke! Thank you for all your hard work! Ms. Sheila

[@MsLady-jr4it]

Good morning..... Great advice and the 5th is pray with and for him even if he doesn't know that you are. 🖤👸🏾🤴🏾 BE BLESSED 🙏🏾

[@daughterotmhsnatchingsouls7783]

Yes, Queen! That is Definitely number 5! Really, because Prayer changes things...it should be number 1!

[@sollylate6581]

Thank you Tony. I am over 50 up and I just realize that I messed up all my relationships all this time by doing all the opposite of what you teach us on this video. Young generations that follow you are the lucky ones

[@realestatecoach8626]

I finally see that it has been the lack of self love the whole time! I have been working on this more and more everyday!

[@katharinebechiom6247]

This hit home for me: he can't hurt me because I hold him accountable. Thank you. I needed that.

[@TheStar1970]

Another great message from you! I call your videos my “Man Church” because it’s well worth listening to; develops the inner part of women that’s not typically addressed in traditional church.

[@RS-uv5hb]

Be BLESSED! I’m figuring out sometimes your video titles are misleading.(in a good way) i used to not click on certain titles but I’m learning all your messages come from a very deep anointing for our complete healing- your messages keep pointing us back to being & becoming the best version of ourselves! Phenomenal

[@ericasmith5441]

BE BLESSED!!! Thank You for shedding LIGHT in this area!! So many hurting, disappointed and women who lack this understanding NEED TO HEAR THIS!!! THANK YOU! THANK GOD FOR YOUR WORK AND TEACHING!!!

[@BestLifeBagLady]

Oh I thought cussing him out was like holding him accountable, sorta😫

[@solangedaniel3987]

U r funny 🤣🤣🤣

[@ngibbsful]

No seriously

[@buzzingbee9499]

😂 well if he takes you to that point theres nothing wrong with you. There's something wrong with him

[@drgarad]

@@buzzingbee9499 Cussing never sorts things in relationship, there is other ways around.

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

😄😄

[@Queen100LOYALTYForever_]

“When you said the answer is coming from your sprint 🙏🏽🙌🏽” love that❣️ BE BLESSED 🙏🏽🙌🏽

[@EshhhaBenjamite]

When you say “listen to me”, I hear you and I am Listening Brotha💪🏽💯

[@mediacherry4139]

A women who Carrie's herself as a Queen spiritually the King will recognize that she knows her self worth because she has learned to study and innerstand Him through effective communication compassion and love the relationship or marriage will stand the test of time...being Happy takes work and it can be done just you stated speak life into each other. Thanks for sharing these priceless jewels. Continued Blessings to You and Your Family🙏🏾💯💎😊

[@HajerahBibiDegia]

Some men who haven't fully matured aren't brought up with this type of mindset. So they're hardwired to expect otherwise. Your words speak volumes! :)

[@cherh]

I've been on this journey with TGs advice for a while now and being direct with people is LIFE! I won't settle for nothing in this life and I'm living & loving the peace I've gained. Live life for you ladies not a man. He has step up if he wants to be in your life. Traveling and enjoying life with people I love has been amazing! When God sees fit to add my soulmate I'm ready. Shouldn't no woman accept disrespect. You are worthy Queen. Heal your heart and give the love you're giving to that ungrateful man to yourself. Love pCe & blessings ❤💫

[@wendydrummond2338]

Amen to your quality advice. I am praying 🙏 for a Christian husband of exceptional spirit because Daniel 6:3 says Daniel was a man of exceptional spirit because I am grooming myself to be a Christian woman of noble character Proverbs 31:10-31 my man has to know and help me learn about bible prophesy because the pastors in Adelaide South Australia are purposely not teaching it! Churches here have become entertainment centres but I am listening to Major Amir Tsfarti and Pastor Jack Hibbs and their associated pastors who are teaching bible prophesy God bless you and your family and work love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia

[@cherh]

@@wendydrummond2338 🙏🏿❤🌸 blessings sis. Thank you

[@claudettenahjela2569]

Yup Yup, life is worth living.

[@cherh]

@@claudettenahjela2569 yes Lord! 😊🌸🙏🏿

[@AD_2314]

What a blessing this video is! Tony usually uploads while I’m driving to work. It’s like a little Christmas 🎄 present daily. We gon’ learn today, y’all! Be blessed!

[@realestatecoach8626]

Tony, this was so beautiful! This is so real. I wish I had this. It grieves my spirit the time I have lost. I have asked my spouse what his dreams were and he told me years ago that he didn’t have any but I stayed and supported THAT! Thanks for the clarity Tony in detail. This was key to me letting go and moving on. I needed this.

[@Chyna274]

Facts!!! My boyfriend lovesss to boast to his family and everyone how “strong” I am and how I always have my shit together. And moved out at 19, bought my first car and 19, paying/ working my way through school, 3.7 gpa, and playing basketball.

[@marshaywalker4620]

Congrats beautiful 😍

[@123-u1x8m]

Curious, does he function the same way? If not, be careful.

[@norapeace6526]

You go girl!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@overcomerbtboj]

That’s awesome 😎- you are a strong and independent woman who has high standards 👍

[@liabw05]

Being called "strong" by a man might not be the compliment you think it is. Be careful sis

[@ChinadollcocoCaramel]

Love starts with SELF.🥰

[@kgodsgirl]

Thank you for this. I’m taking a step back from dating, it’s been two years now. I need the Father to heal me and make me whole, so that I can be the best me. Loving your self is the best thing you can do for your relationship that should result in marriage. Praise be to the Father ✝️✝️✝️

[@minahhassell2975]

❤we have been married for 20 years and we are in crisis. I didn’t hold him accountable , listen to him, speak life into him and support him enough. I did other stuffs but now I understand how important to change my behavior so he can falling love again with me because I love him . Thank you so much!

[@prettyone5165]

This was genuine. Makes all the sense in the world. We MUST value self, before others will value us.

[@SandraMartinez-tm8xw]

Wow this totally reminded me of my first marriage and my abusive husband. I was so broken and didn’t love myself.

[@puddin5950]

Reminds me of my second marriage I was a fool

[@ChellCandie]

I️ would rather get a puppy. All these needs these men need made me tired

[@Susie.wemove]

😂😂😂🧘🏿‍♀️

[@mzdee11]

Chell Candie 😂😂😂😂 ok!

[@PrettiRissa]

I can’t blame some of the past bad behavior I got from men when I myself was not the best version of me nor was I setting any requirements. So this video hit home. We can’t be scared to tell men what we want and what we REQUIRE if he truly wants you he will do the necessary to KEEP you and respect you. ❤️

[@beachlife8168]

LOL!!! RIGHT!! Im good baby! Im gucci!😂😂😂

[@JGIgirl]

Be Blessed ❤👏🏾

[@jessicablackmon7048]

Thank you Tony Gaskin I needed to here a real man like you, I learned how to love me and get rid of the dirt bag, you are saving many women around the world God bless you, keep educating many of us need to hear this from you.

[@ieleenhelo5587]

Honestly I’m extremely insecure ... I’ve been talking to this man and I’m truly falling for him... he tells me he cares for me to but doesn’t wanna be in a relationship until I learn to love myself more and build myself he wants me to put me first and this whole video made so many things clear to me God Bless You

[@saybrittaney]

Don’t be insecure. You’re beautiful and seem very brilliant just by your comment. Love yourself & you’ll get any man you want 🌺💜

[@liabw05]

Wow! That sounds like a really helpful man

[@LEA-yr7bb]

What I take from your comment is he does want to be with you but wants to make sure you are stable so y’all can have a lasting healthy happy relationship. How did things turn out?

[@misselle1430]

I hope you listen to him. Men give answers to women on how they feel esp whether they wanna be in a relationship or not. But its always good to look after and put yourself first always.

[@PrettiRissa]

I can’t blame some of the past bad behavior I got from men when I myself was not the best version of me nor was I setting any requirements. So this video hit home. We can’t be scared to tell men what we want and what we REQUIRE if he truly wants you he will do the necessary to KEEP you and respect you.

[@bubuxo2996]

Wow dropping GEMS ♥️ I got it wrong my whole life. I always thought it was about giving (cooking, cleaning, ride or die). It all makes sense though! Thank you

[@444LAAH]

Society, media, taught us wrong image and mentality

[@tammycarter6184]

Me too, I'm learning holding a man accountable

[@Missybella92227]

This is good confirmation of the multitude of grown boys out here. From my experience, men I point out their disrespect and hypocrisy they get “out of line.”