NEVER be afraid in a Street Fighting | Tips

[@Tony_Jeffries]

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[@DannishPlaysReturns]

Sup

[@DiamondGuyOG]

I am really scared that I may damage the opponent very badly is that good or bad?

[@dappakhan9812]

​@@DiamondGuyOG you might meet your match one day and get damaged too, stay humble anything can happen in a brawl.

[@williamshakesbeer4163]

Hey Tony great video as always. I got 1 question for you tho. How big impact would psychological warfare have on a fight? Both profesionally and on the street. things like insulting the opponent or my personal favorite laughing like the joker. I just imagine that it would be terrifying for the opponent to hit you in the face and all they get back is a wide smile and laughing.

[@Zukoron3040]

​@@DiamondGuyOGby using ur skeli ah hands

[@MarkSchreind]

Street fights never end well. If someone attacks you in the street, do what you can to defend yourself, but get out of that situation as quickly as possible. There is no referee, and you should assume that your attacker has the worst intentions ... fear and anxiety are natural defense mechanisms. Nothing to be ashamed of.

[@oneoranota]

Imo the best attitude, if you are trained, is to try everything to descalate. The more confident you are, the more leverage you have to avoid fighting. Stress and adrenaline is what gets you into shitty situations. After years of pondering the paradox of training but eventually avoid fighting "opportunities", I have come to this obvious conclusion: you either don't train and get fcked, or you train and go home without wasting your time, energy and health in a stupid fight' This is the endgame. Tldr : the more you train, the less you fight. Sweat saves blood.

[@gillyac81]

Totally agree, I always imagine something like someone's head hitting the pavement or something and possibly not waking up. Now you're headed to jail where you'll be fighting from now on. Too risky, enjoy your life and everything you've built through hard work and de-escalate/walk away

[@MarkSchreind]

@marksneddon I didn't say terror .... If a person can control their fear, they have a much better chance in that scenario. But as for terror, yes, it will make you freeze, and that's the last thing you want .... fear and terror are not the same thing.

[@MarkSchreind]

@marksneddon Well, don't let it overwhelm you then. Fear is a natural response to dangerous situations. But fear can also become your friend if you know how to control it .... But yes, don't be overwhelmed .... It's like an airplane pilot panicking .... We don't want that.

[@MarkSchreind]

@marksneddon There is some truth to that. This happened to me in high school. But at age 17, I started to get bigger and stronger ... I gave the bully the fight that he wanted. At first, your adrenaline messes up your coordination. But once the adrenaline settles, you will realize that you're also capable of inflicting damage to your opponent. Most men don't get into fights, because we've learned our lessons in high school and college. The bully won't be in a hurry to get punched in the face again. Random street fights are different .... Doesn't matter how tough you are. The danger and legal ramifications are very real. Best to avoid trouble.

[@Carlin2810]

I hit a guy once & got 18 months for putting him into a coma for 4 months,local thug well known to the courts,even his own mother spoke up for me in court,but one punch,thats all it took,ended up doing 3 years with time added for stuff that happened inside,usually for stepping in on a bully or atleast someone who thought they were. Run away if you can,youre not a coward,its self preservation,besides,most people dont have it in them to throw a punch in anger & thats ok aslong as you understand your limitations. Its ok to run away,remember that.

[@MajesticLawnGnome]

That's what happens you go in doing a year if that and end up with 5 to 10 if not more it's just not worth it!

[@MattTHX-io4tk]

Another episode of things that never happened 😂

[@twalk6164]

Sorry for the hard lesson you learned, but thank you for sharing your advice.

[@bencovington1121]

Great advice. Prisons are full of people who were simply defending themselves but ended up with a court appointed half wit for a defense attorney

[@gatorgoode8574]

You should of ran away from the police

[@bikefixer]

I can give you a trick I used, and I am a non trained fighter. It worked for me, although it was many years ago (I am 65). When I was young, I used to copy the movement of Muhammad Ali, his footwork, his jabbing, his clinching. It actually worked for me in a street fight. The guy who fought me tried to end it quickly with easily timed haymakers, and I kept just out of distance. What this guy did not want to do is fight for 5 minutes, and after throwing 3-4 punches as hard as he could, he was huffing and puffing. He fatigued himself and gave up after about 2 minutes of chasing me around. I didn't land anything either, but I controlled my breathing and didn't exhaust myself and he did. When he turned around to go home, someone in the crowd watching said, "That guy shouldn't have fucked with a trained boxer." I was no such thing.

[@ItsMe_-lo5zg]

Lol

[@MrPopo-nn7kp]

Laaaame

[@chipm2544]

Awesome!

[@Dryrun.logics]

That was not a very big deal 😅

[@devs.4254]

If it's stupid and it works...it ain't stupid

[@LiLgPnoy15]

When I was in grade school, I was bullied. I found boxing. Boxing in my opinion saved my life. It taught me how to fight, so I wouldn't have to fight.

[@Christopher-iv9yy]

THIS!!!

[@MrPopo-nn7kp]

Cringe

[@Taylormademan900]

Okay Mr miagi

[@fredirojko4330]

I had same experience except I found karate. I suddenly became best student, suddenly i started to read books and became machine in mind and body. Kudos my friend

[@TO-dl2gg]

I did that for my oldest son who was in special education and took him to boxing to learn to fight cause I just knew he’d get picked on but to my surprise he really took to the sport and fell in love with it and that was 11 years ago ..He just graduated high school yesterday and has become a remarkable young man and I owe 99% of that to the sport he loves in boxing..Taught him discipline, patience and how to channel his emotions and as far as street fights he’s 0-0 never had one and nobody messes with him cause they know of him and or they know what kind of gentleman he is …Thank you boxing family from a very proud dad

[@TheHowingFantods]

52 and first boxing session this week.

[@HappyHealthyKarate-Do]

Never too late, mate. We have 50+ year old white belts in Kyokushin.

[@virgilcash4239]

Congrats blessings in your training have fun

[@danr5462]

RIP bro. Haha just kidding. Good stuff man

[@lunarmodule6419]

Remove your glasses first!

[@forrestmalcom8351]

Me as well , I’m 50 years old 🙏🏻

[@aaronconners5570]

Tony makes it feel as if he’s just talking to you! So personable, great boxer/Trainer and person! Great content as usual🙏🏾

[@Tony_Jeffries]

I appreciate that mate 🙏🏻

[@Jeetkunedo_ChineseBoxing]

Wait a minute boxing is not self-defense martial arts is not even a martial art... its a combat sport. Sport!!!

[@marcolino708]

​@@Jeetkunedo_ChineseBoxingyou don't play boxing mate

[@drewskiwest5284]

this is not great content. this is a 5min video on how to end up in the ER if you survive AT BEST in prison looking at a life sentence AT WORST. assuming no one died, including yourself. 5 min of the dumbest advice i've EVER heard in my life.

[@fakeFeetus]

Been working in lockdowns and corrections for 15 + years now, been in more fights and brawls than I can count or remember. I still get scared everytime I have to get in someone's face, doesn't change how I act. The only difference is that I no longer get angry when I fight, i just acknowledge the fear and handle the shit.

[@jimrup3528]

What state

[@thehermit761]

I feel for you having a job like this. My freind in security has just gone for an interview to become a prison officer. I said he should not do it, it will corrupt you. I do not think he understands what he is getting himself into.

[@jimrup3528]

@@thehermit761 won’t corrupt you as long as you have integrity but it will desensitize you for sure

[@Flexb123]

Also the fear of what happens after the fight. That was half of it for me when I was younger. Afraid there would be charges OR getting jumped by a bunch of opponents friends weeks or months later. None of that ever happened but it's a legit fear. Now that' i'm older, its the biggest reason I really restrain myself from it all. Don't wanna end up in jail.

[@ironadversity2500]

Absolutely, people don’t forget and have their friends get involved too.

[@mperezmcfinn2511]

In my neighborhood, if you beat a guy who usually won fights, you would have to fight all his cousins later. Sometimes, all at once.

[@MajesticLawnGnome]

I had a buddy try and start some crap he always had a hot head. We were in some store and knowing him he initiated the beef Guy comes over my buddy is running his mouth I am like what is the situation the random guy is like oh so you are going to jump me now I am like no I am wanting to know the situation anyways. My dumbass friend won't stfu not a friend anymore me and the random guy look at each other look at him the random dude was with his gf I am like. I am out of here just walk by and leave lol. Anyways random guy is with 10 of his friends weeks later. we eye each other but he knows I was chill and didn't want to start shit. If I had though I would have been whooped into the shadow realm!

[@grahamfraser2150]

I always seemed to be outnumbered.

[@VeinyJOHNSON-sr7nj]

@@MajesticLawnGnome Nice story, how long did it take for you to come up with it?

[@Tkwilkings]

I learned how to defend myself and I’m even more apprehensive to take a fight. You never know what’s going to happen, de-escalation and running shoes+cardio is the best way. Unless your back is against the wall, then you’ll use all your skills.

[@bjarczyk]

Exactly.

[@CaseyFahey]

💯

[@martinp17]

'shoes+cardio' - spot on... Stay clear of pubs and clubs and you reduce the likelihood of getting yourself into conflict by a massive margin as well.

[@Tony_Jeffries]

Well said!

[@theodoreconstantini2548]

Because you never know what is going to happen.

[@mrhoneystinger3676]

Another fear is our innate ability to NOT want to hurt someone else. Example, if an untrained person were to press, say Tony, into a fight. Tony would figure out real quick how soon he could end it. Yet, if the guy keeps pushing, the fear of hurting him kicks in, because the clear loser won't stop. Make sense? Great work as always Tony!

[@chickenkorma3163]

In some situations it is also difficult to prove that you actually acted in self defence and that the amount of force was reasonable. I'm just as afraid of winning a street fight as I am of losing it, maybe even more.

[@MonkeyLiggaScrumptiousNan]

Idk how people actually think like this, if someone is going to repeatedly harass me or my group for no reason I have not an ounce of remorse or sympathy or empathy anything at all about hurting them badly. Go out of your way way to pick on and bully strangers because you think you can stand over them and you deserve no mercy from anyone.

[@mrhoneystinger3676]

@@MonkeyLiggaScrumptiousNan You sound like someone who's never fought. Perhaps you should go beat someone up, then come back and talk about the psychological fallout?

[@KatonRyu]

The combination of this and being afraid to get hurt myself makes me terrible at combat sports. I don't want to hurt my sparring partners, and I also don't want to get hurt myself. Consequently, all my actions are hesitant and I get my ass kicked every time. I still don't really know how to overcome it.

[@MrWolverine696969]

What you're talking about falls under the category of 'fear of 'consequence'. So many superior fighters have lost street fights to bums because of this. Other known as pre- post fight adrenalin. Good comment, mate. Tony is the man.

[@egregiousblunder5395]

Tony, as a kid I was fearless, would literally fight anyone without much care as I knew I had good hands and good trainers. As an early adult, working at clubs or just hanging out at clubs and pubs with friends, I was always worried I'd knock someone out or injure them to the point I'd go to jail and get sued. But you and I both know there are time where we've got to take that risk and close someones mouth or get involved to stop them from hurting others.

[@nIIe]

I think it is better to have fighting skills and not having to use it than not having it at all. But I agree... street fight are to be avoided at all costs.

[@BWater-yq3jx]

100% You might not have an altercation very often, an actual fight rarely, but the confidence is every day.

[@BMO_Creative]

So the best way to not be afraid in a street fight is to improve your life! this dude is smart for sure! Best advice ever!

[@ironadversity2500]

Lmao

[@bigslacker666]

After I started seriously training I never got in another streetfight. From 19 to now 50 over 30 years. Some or a lot of that is how you carry yourself, a lot less fear and just not wanting to deal with it. And also just having no interest in proving anything. You do that in the gym and the ring. Easy to give someone a 'win' or an out and de-escalate, doesn't hurt my pride a bit.

[@gregoryhagen8801]

Marital art's gives you confidence in yourself. But it can make you "cocky" also. Remember, there will always be someone better than you.

[@glaesern]

That's true. I never did any kind of Martial Arts or anything else, but I'm self confident and never ran away. In most cases, this was enought to prevend others from attacking me. And I remember one punch I did at the age of...14 or so? Ends up with a broken nose and a four-digit bill. It's always smarter to prevend. (;

[@farab4391]

Visualisation is so important, it’s amazing. Not just for fight scenarios, anything that might happen. Visualise what you would do if your car started skidding on an icy road. Visualise what you would do if someone pulled a gun on you. Visualise what you would do if you saw someone being electrocuted. Etc etc etc. It enables you to not panic in a stressful situation, because you already know what you’re going to do, you don’t have to figure it out on the spot.

[@howarddavies782]

If you don't know what you are going to do before you've even done it, don't do it. Good video.

[@tadeasstavek2927]

I was a bit scared before this vid. But after this I realized it was the fear of humiliation and the fact that I already do most of the things Tony said. I just need to improve them. Thank you

[@wingmannj]

its more the fear of becoming unalived. i get hit, knocked out, then ground and pounded with no ref to stop it.

[@tabsntoot]

Try to make allowances don’t be rash

[@mikee3261]

Don’t be a coward man lol

[@HarpOfDaghda]

​@@mikee3261Come on mate, I was stabbed in a street fight and when I realised I ran for my life. Sometimes it's just not worth it.

[@beejj6190]

What a fkin stupid pop - term. Joker

[@Sleepaaahh]

Not good advice man ​@@mikee3261

[@StockyDude]

I trained in boxing an MMA but it was the sparring sessions in boxing that truly allowed me to control my fear when I worked as a bouncer. Boxing gave me he confidence that I could recompose myself quickly if someone delivered a surprise sucker punch, and then make them pay.

[@games4us132]

So MMA is sh*t? And not help you manage a street fight?

[@StockyDude]

@@games4us132MMA is good too, but because they train you in other aspects of fighting like grappling and takedowns, there’s less sparring with strikes. People need to learn how to stay mentally composed when they take a few hard hits. That’s why I think that if you only train just twice a week and only to be able to defend yourself and not for competition, then you should start with boxing for 6 months before switching to MMA training.

[@rogerm3708]

I have always had a fear of getting in trouble because growing up I saw the direction that street fighters lives have gone and I didn't want to end up like them. Even the instigators afterwards will claim that I started it even though they threw the first punch

[@Non_Serviam_1349]

Dude reading this comment and then seeing your profile pic just made this so damn hilarious for some reason 😂😂

[@1mataleo1]

A few related tips from my personal experience to help my man: First, and this is related to what he mentioned about mental training. I was a competitive boxer when I was younger, and I noticed that every time I would have a boxing match, I was nervous, but as soon as the actual fight stared, it (the fear) would disappear. So, I decided to harness this same reaction to work to my advantage in the street. Mentally, I would go over and over in my mind that I’m going to feel fear, it’s normal, and I accept it. After that was firmly established, I then repeatedly told myself that as soon as I feel fear, I attack. In other words, I trained my mind to use the feeling of fear itself as a trigger to attack. Most people don’t prepare themselves to deal with fear, so once they get in a legit dangerous situation, they become overwhelmed. The feeling of fear one faces in the ring is much different than the fear felt when in serious danger of losing one’s life or getting badly hurt. In such a situation, the best thing to do is preemptively strike, but many people freeze and/or panic, and that reaction is not beneficial. However, if you tell yourself over and over something along the lines of “if I have no choice but to defend myself, that means my only option is to fight, and the accompanying fear is my signal to attack.” Now, it is very important to attack within the first few seconds of the fear hitting. If you train this regularly, you are essentially training your body to react to the feeling of fear before you mind has a chance to start thinking. The above training, along with regular sparring and power training will give you confidence in your ability to defend against attacks and finish a fight.

[@games4us132]

Great tips. But there is one thing. You can feel fear even if there is no danger. a.k.a. panic attack.

[@games4us132]

Also you can feel fear when you are scared of being humiliated, and while fear is legit - punching someone in the face in response to that is not.

[@1mataleo1]

Indeed, You should never hit someone unless you know an attack is eminent. That is not what I meant. I should clarify that I am only referring to the primal fear one feels when a credible , eminent danger is present, not mere nervousness, panic, or anxiety induced by words or the possibility of being teased/humiliated. There is a big difference.

[@mizukarate]

The fear of the law is an issue too.

[@maxmiliancady8174]

Do not think about law when you you fight for your life.

[@mizukarate]

@@maxmiliancady8174 You say that but looked at how people get railroaded. Of course when you have no options just survive but if your have an opportunity to do right or smart......do it

[@maxmiliancady8174]

@@mizukarate I take your point. But there are moments in your life that you have no choice

[@mizukarate]

@@maxmiliancady8174 i agree

[@ADHDMartialArtsFiend-vw3fj]

That's the biggest one for me. I've been in street fights but have walked away from several (even ones I was sure I would win) because court cases can ruin careers or worse

[@Doherty0182]

Training 100% gets rid of fear. Couple guys tried to jump me one night, pulled out a weapon. No training I actually managed to disarm the guy with a head butt and fend off the others only to get jumped by 20 of them on the way home and ended up a blink a way from death by the end of it. I developed ptsd from it and what’s constantly hyper vigilant. I decided to do something about it and went to a boxing gym and became obsessed. I wasn’t interested in competing , quite a few MMA guys there and just learned like a sponge. Main goal was to become an absolute force. Absolutely loved sparring was happy to go light and relished in the sessions with the types that wanted to throw their weight around. Over time I became very proficient and later on when I did get involved in street fights (never sought them out) it just became reflex, no thinking, just act. It really re-wires you psychologically. Dreams where you feel helpless and punches do absolutely absolutely nothing we’re replaced by hyper violent dreams where attackers didn’t stand a chance. Got treated for the PTSD but the hyper vigilance is a permanent side effect. Although it’s no longer fear driven but more of a tool to become hyper aware of the environment.

[@Slynell1]

Still avoid street fighting at all costs though unless you absolutely have to

[@g.dalfleblanc63]

Heavy sparring involves headgear and body protectors, otherwise it's an actual fight lol. I really wondered about fantasists like you lol.

[@Doherty0182]

@@g.dalfleblanc63 check you with the condescension. Can tell you’ve only spent time in overly commercialised gyms if that.

[@jbone-0-919]

I was waiting for the plot twist when you said you’re Batman now

[@Doherty0182]

@@jbone-0-919 cool you must be the joker then

[@Kameleonic]

If you're afraid of getting hurt, you certainly did not grow up with violence. I, like many, faced it regularly in school and at home, so getting hurt is not an issue at all for many. The issue for me is simple, I'm afraid of getting caught, or getting arrested and causing pain for my family - I refuse to fight unless absolutely necessary because I refuse to allow my family go without a husband/father.

[@DannyCrowPsychoticsAnon]

This ❤

[@leemurray1999]

@@DannyCrowPsychoticsAnon well said mate 💪💪

[@raybrabander5979]

Spot on!

[@backtobasics8046]

PERFECTLY said

[@ByronTexas]

Smart man. I feel the same. I’m a large and fairly athletic and aggressive person so I can picture hurting someone and getting sued and imprisoned

[@PainkRd]

A smart person will learn to run, the only fight you win, is the fight that never happened

[@leemurray1999]

Every street fight I have had there’s always been tools involved . The old days of fisticuffs in the car park is gone😮

[@deanwaller8283]

There never was such a thing,bad people ALWAYS used tools on a fight.

[@ManvasPachenko]

​@deanwaller8283 Bad people aka cowards.

[@TheJonjay777]

Yep I’ve met a few cowards in my day they can’t fight without a weapon

[@blahblah2779]

@@ManvasPachenkobetter to be a live coward than a dead hero

[@ManvasPachenko]

@@blahblah2779 Read the full conversation bro. You've taken my comment out of its intended context

[@Crowstopholis]

seen too many people die in random street fights, thats what worries me. getting punched out and hitting my head on the floor too hard, or the person not stopping while I'm knocked out and i just end up dying in the process.

[@chrisclarke8451]

How many people have you seen die in a street fight?

[@johnabrossimow]

Crow! 😊

[@fabiosplendido9536]

@@chrisclarke8451 He plays a lot of GTA...

[@grahamhill676]

​@chrisclarke8451 Not just deaths but catastrophic injuries. Don't have to die to have brain injuries, breaks, or something similar.

[@JI7NKJ]

@@chrisclarke8451 You know what he means.

[@HappyHealthyKarate-Do]

Not afraid of being hurt -- I do kyokushin karate, so I'd be more afraid if I wasn't being hurt. However, I couldn't live with it on my conscience if I got into an altercation that could have been avoided and ended badly. Unless I literally have no other choice, I would never rise to a challenge. Come to the dojo, train, and we can do some full-contact sparring but otherwise, no. Use your wits, not your mits.

[@Ed-ig7fj]

I am 69 years old, and I use a tall walker or a cane (cancer survivor). I can't run from trouble; I have to turn and face it. I used to get picked on by aggressive panhandlers, so I lost 60 lbs. and hit the gym for 8 years. Now, I walk upright and scan everybody in my "bubble." Being strong works: nobody has picked on me in years, and I have a ton of gym buddies to boot! If you radiate strength and confidence based on fact, not hope, the thugs will go for a softer target. Stay strong, men, and thanks, Tony. --Old Guy

[@RaulMAnderson101-pr6cj]

Yeah, growing old in today's society isn't that comforting.

[@dtybur10]

No matter how skilled, experienced, fearless, you should always try to avoid fighting. One small slip, or you hit someone and they smash their head, and you will be in prison. Everything is being recorded, that's evidence against you, if you attack someone, without verifiable provocation, possible jail time, lawsuits, reparations, monetary judgements..... Or you could just be shot, or jumped from behind, permanently damaged by an injury...... I'm an old man of 59, and I'm sure that my martial arts training might save me in certain situations. I'm also much wiser than my 25 year old self, that wasn't on board with just walking away. Your brain is you ultimate weapon, sometimes your best physical attribute is using your legs to get you out of danger, and I don't mean by kicking someone else.

[@dl30wpb]

I avoid fights at all costs because I conceal carry. I don't want to end someone's life and possibly go on trial.

[@bg1616]

That's the right attitude.

[@Words-of-encouragement.-.]

Same here bother. Been carrying since I legally could, which was 21. I'm 31 now. I have a wife to protect, and soon, little ones. Even if I didn't do anything, I'd rather say "Hey man, I apologize. Let me buy you a beer." and move on with my life, than risk ruining my life or the lives of my family. I avoid any sign of physical confrontation, and if I ever find myself in a situation where I simply couldn't avoid it, then it would be the other persons problem.

[@bg1616]

@@Words-of-encouragement.-. Correct attitude. It's about lowerimg the probability. There's zero reason or incentive to fight people, it's just pointless and the costs usually outweight the rewards. Also, how manhy people are there on the planet, gonna fight them all?

[@Words-of-encouragement.-.]

@@bg1616 Exactly, my friend. It simply isn't worth it.

[@RaulMAnderson101-pr6cj]

@@Words-of-encouragement.-. Same here, I mean I'm older now, not sure how a fist fight with a stranger on the street would benefit me in any way. And worse yet, say I hurt them, seriously, now MY life is ruined, cops, court, attorney's, maybe jail, maybe prison...my life would be ruined over what, my ego? It's like even though say I won the fight, it would be like the other guy really won by losing cause now my whole life, future employment, future lease, credit, is all messed up, especially if single and have no one else to fall back on.

[@midwestron8576]

Stay out of rough bars. 90% of confrontations will disappear.

[@HumbledSlave]

Stop drinking alcohol altogether.

[@midwestron8576]

@@HumbledSlave yup

[@Alfonso-gp9mk]

Due to the troubles I had to go through in the past, what actually mostly scares me, is not the opponent but rather knowing how severely you might injure him in a street fight. Consequences are life changing, think twice… Needless to say, avoid is always the best option.

[@oncenterline]

Tony is right. A bully came at me. Instigating me. I told him to back off, I don't want to fight you. He persisted in his bravado and insults. Due to my extensive training, but mostly due to my diet change....I crapped my pants. The guy decided to walk away. Thanks Tony! Shit happens and I am thankful for your techniques. :D

[@daniels0376]

Ah, yes, the long forgotten martial art of shit-shutzu. A true gem for the few who can master it 😂

[@OldschoolRacer73]

Unless it is absolutely necessary to fight outside I just walk away even if someone has a big attitude. These days fights outside are much different then they used to be. When I got into fights in my younger years it was over when the other bloke or me laid down. Nowadays you get kicks to the head when you are down. I just walk away take my anger with me put on some gloves and let the heavybag have it. No one gets harmed or killed no arrests. Life is just easier this way. So don't be scared to fight but if you can just walk away. And reading all these comments makes me feel proud to be a member of the boxingcommunity. No big talks just common sense.✌🏻

[@eddiehauser6661]

One thing I've realized as I've gotten older is that my fear almost always came from being humiliated. And when I was younger I never backed down from a fight because I WAS AFRAID to do so. So as I've gotten older, I've realized that not being a coward USUALLY meant I had to be willing to walk away from unnecessary altercations. And one interesting thing I found was that in the 2 situations I had to defend myself in the last 10-15 years I actually was not nervous, but pretty composed because so much of the fear I felt in the past revolved around being humiliated

[@Terminal-Vet]

I've been in lots of fights being a veteran of the Marine Corps, a prison guard at a very rough maximum security penitentiary, a Deputy Sheriff, security at many concerts and other venues, and a bouncer at a couple of bars. I have been nervous for many of them, especially when I was less experienced. As I got older and much more experienced, the less I felt any perceivable anxiety, which is probably not a good thing. Now that I'm well into middle age, I haven't had to fight in many years. Sometimes, I want to on rare occasions, but thankfully, the wiser me has been able to avoid it. The last time I was in a fight was with a drunk at a party I was working security at, and my hands hurt for days from punching the dude in the face multiple times. I had a hard time gripping my steering wheel for a few days. I realized that my old bones weren't able to recover as easily as they did in my youth. Thank God I made it through all of those years and fights without being seriously and permanently injured, just a lot of boxers fractures, a few concussions, a dislocated shoulder, a dislocated jaw, a bunch of black eyes, a split lip and cheek, and a few busted noses. Now, I just carry a pistol and go out of my way to avoid confrontation if at all possible.

[@RaulMAnderson101-pr6cj]

I'm probably around your age, maybe a bit younger, and thankfully zero fights my whole adult life. Gen X. And odd, but where I live, the State, has legal conceal carry...the other day, just for the fun of it, I legally carried while riding my bike, at night, up to a corner store to get a Amazon package. And to be honest, I didn't feel any safer...not a bit safer...why? Cause I realize now that usually when someone starts shooting, you're not even the intended target, as in shooters now days just shoot wildly, so you could be a block away and still get hit. My gun did not make me feel safe at all....what would have made me feel safe was a bullet proof vest, which would give me a second chance, in case struck by some stray bullet.

[@ManvasPachenko]

I've boxed all of my life. Ive never started a fight with tough guy wannabes, but I've finished it with them.

[@pauleandersonmusic]

I would add one more fear to the list: The fear of seriously hurting someone else when all you want to do is get them to back down. I am not a fighter by any means. I did some martial arts training years ago and I am pretty strong and can throw a powerful punch. I see these situations and I know I am nervous and not in control due to a lack of better training. One wild punch can kill someone. Besides the other things you listed, I do think about that as well. Thanks for your videos.

[@ironpunchmb]

Video like this one is in many cases more valuable than any other “fighting” material. Big up to Tony - another great material 🫡🔥👍

[@Dymitry79]

The psychic and the moral , the motivation to fight or defend yourself , that is a big point to work . Thank you a lot , you are the first that i see who explain this . I think it is the biggest challenge

[@GAINZSECURITYSQUADG.S.S.]

Yes sir. Mike Tyson said he was scared of his opponents. This is a great video!

[@KowalskiVanishing_Point]

I've won a few fights and lost a few fights. A couple things: one, thankfully most people can't throw a decent punch so I never got too hurt and I never hurt anybody to bad; two, good cardio will win most fights; three, don't go where you don't belong and if you do leave; four, stay away from crazy people; five, don't be an asshole. Having said that, I really like this guy's channel. He's got a great attitude and great advice and sticks to what he knows.

[@silverstream5140]

I'm by no means a trained fighter but one advice I found useful is that a guy wanting to fight you will almost always open up with a right straight or hook so have your left hand/arm up to block just in case youre unable to bob,weave or move out of distance in time. You can probably counter with a right of your own in this case. Obviously as everyone says, try to avoid street fights if possible as winning might also come with a cost.

[@manunited1132]

Absolutely fantastic Tony Great advice thank you. 👌 It's all weapons now and not one on one anymore. Pluss you can be killed with one punch so I tend to just walk away. 🙏

[@rogerkreil3314]

Can you defend yourself from the person? And can you legally justify everything that happened? If you can’t legally defend your actions, what will happen to you in jail or prison? Those are valid fears.

[@blackduck1336]

I have never been afraid for myself, I have always been afraid of hurting the other person. I have always used the 2 years I have had studied judo as a child to wrestle other kids who wanted to fight me to the ground so nobody got really hurt. As a teen I did a bit of karate. Obviously I stopped the Osae Komi Waza when they stopped resisting. When I was 16, I hit my sister in the face after a fight and the blood scared me so much I have never hit someone since. I guess I am little bit too soft. As an adult I have tried to prevent fights and stayed calm. I have been lucky it even worked even on people with psychotic episodes two times and nobody got hurt. That has been my calm posture combined with a serious dose of luck.

[@chillnewcharacter.69]

Hey tony, i've been watvhing your videos for a while now and i am super duper greatful to you because i accidentaly won a streetfight once, now everyone thinks i can fight and now ive almost mastered traditional stance cuz of your videos, and niw i can live up to my fame lol. Thanks For your free videos!

[@huffinLeeroy]

You make the perfect point: If you can get out of a street fight, get outta there - there is no 'win' in a street fight. But sometimes you can't get out. You're gunna be scared, it's ok to be scared, you should be scared - you're stupid if you're not. That adrenaline will keep you alive. But don't show it, and work through it. Keep that brain ticking and focused on a goal - getting out being a good one.

[@Not_RipEric]

Tony is the only coach that i actually understand when they say something

[@charliesierra6919]

One thing that helps with confidence is to be in good shape, do some lifting and cardio. Plus, your confidence and good build will deter most idiots looking for a fight. Love your tips sir!

[@glennmorrissey2529]

Love Tony's videos but after policing in Australia for 22 years the best option is to get away, no shaping up etc just leave if you can. The amount of injuries, glassings, stabbings, serious brain injuries and or death I have attended as a result of people fighting with one of the parties usually hitting their head on the ground, usually the pavement has turned me off getting involved in a street fight ever. Do your best to de-escalate, don't get within striking distance or head butt distance and don't give smart arse lip, just leave it's not worth it.

[@jubas8273]

If you practice martial arts long enough, people simply feel it subconsciously and the vast majority will not want to F with you.

[@MaiconSantos-gl7uz]

Mentira aqui no brasil sempre tem um querendo te testar, mesmo sabendo que você é praticante.

[@joeperry9619]

It is in how you stand I look for that flexibility, and coordination👍

[@DavidDiulio]

I thrive on the feeling of fear and turn it into energy and excitement. ⚔️

[@Chuklz70]

Most people probably will be involved in more traffic accidents, on their daily commute, than ever get into a street fight. However, just like driving, there are reasons why, when, and where a street fight will occur, and just like that commute being aware of your surroundings and having a plan-B is essential. A car accident occurs either when someone loses concentration or when one of the vehicles has a breakdown. A fight that involves you happens when you underestimate another person.

[@123waterchiu]

What you are afraid: Mass matter (Physics: After each collision, heavier enemy still does not move much and lighter you fly away) What strike needs: straight path, speed, gym power Solution: 1st priority: Run 2nd priority: Self defense with protection tools (e.g, bag and short stick like) 3rd priority: Push Strike with holding massive object (e.g, wall/handrail )or enemy body(if you can catch or are caught) since both can increase own mass and let you release own gym force which can be higher than own weight. 4th priority: Push strike with arms protecting own upper body and jaw

[@hefeydd_]

I can look after myself self and hold my own but let me give you some friendly advice. Never be afraid to walk away either. A dear friend of mine who was. Bouncer for 20 years and he's no longer with us sadly. He once said to me that it takes more of a man to walk away from an altercation than to confront one. And this is coming from an experienced bouncer. You're not being weak walking away you're leaving people looking at the one shouting and not at you. Never be afraid to say no.

[@n0xure]

I think there's a huge difference between consensual fighting and non-consensual fighting; those experiences aren't transferrable at all. For one thing, the danger of "getting hurt" in a street fight is on a whole other level. And I'm not trying to sound like a tough guy here, but I'm a lot more afraid of accidentally killing someone than getting hurt myself. I have control over how I react in that situation; but if some stupid kid takes a wide swing, slips and cracks his head or neck the sidewalk, there's nothing I can do about it, but authorities and his family are still going to look at me as the guy with the combat sports licenses who got involved in his dead. I think that is genuinely terrifying.

[@carolmcloughlin2859]

Thank you so much for sharing this we need someone like you in Ireland 🇮🇪 regards..🎉🎉

[@Tony_Jeffries]

Please do mate, thank you!

[@skyttyl]

I'm not afraid to fight, but rather of the repercussions. It's getting to the point where I can easily be the victim and still have the book thrown at me by a crooked DA or something, meaning I get punished harshly, cruelly, and unfairly though I wasn't the aggressor and I didn't employ any deadly technique. It's getting dumb out there and that needs addressed soon, as that counts as self-protectuon as well.

[@alivekicking6247]

It's not just nerves. it's also the way street fights happen often unexpectedly and switching on to it. When I was a city centre police officer, you were always on guard and ready for it. When it happens in normal life, there is a conscious mental switch over you have to make internally fo fight effectively. They often happen at the most inconvenient of times. And that's me, with 35 years constant martial arts experience and training. You have to switch on mentally. It's literally like switching on a tap.

[@sreach93]

Vitals are an important target in street fighting, throat, groin, knees etc. Usually street fights end up on the ground within 30 seconds anyway. The person who realizes they may be out of their depth will be the one to lunge, grab and try to throw the other to the ground.

[@M-a-k-o]

You always crack me up with your humor Tone😂 Your bouncyness is contagious just as your boxing enthusiasm. You are the man🏆

[@michaelfarar4232]

Look avoid a fight at all costs. If you decide to train how to fight take something where you actually fight...boxing....bjj....kyokushin...check out thr schools and ask the instructors if hard sparring is part of the training Learn to take a punch in the face and body. Again avoid fights if you can even run if theres multiple opponents.

[@donaldyanson8144]

Courage is doing something you're afraid to do. There can be no courage without fear - Eddie Rickenbacker I can't speak for everyone else but me personally I'm afraid of dealing with the consequences of my actions it's not hard to seriously hurt or even kill someone and you'll be the one having to deal with the consequences of your actions

[@khsimagesdotcom856]

I lived in fear bc fights may lead to injury, embarrassment, legal trouble, even death. I got past this by learning LIFE includes all these possibilities (car crashes, sports, power tools, even the flu!). It was either live in fear of (inevitable) suffering or live to achieve the goals that made suffering worth it to me. I chose the latter.

[@normancook965]

I had a scary confrontation that I diffused with these simple steps: breath, move, feet positioned in boxing stance, open hands up by face with elbows into sides, chin in, and doing this while speaking in a concilliatory manner to diffuse the tension. It worked and there was no fight.

[@saudade369]

I learned a long time ago that it only hurts most the day after you’ve had a beating from someone .it rarely hurts at the time and it’s pain we fear most that stops us from acting . I’m far from a hard guy or trained in fighting . I’ve competed when young in full contract karate and other martial arts which helped in no way at all other than make me used to being in that situation of confrontation . All,I’ve seen shows that MMA that is effective in reality . Others all,have their limitations . It seems that willingness to act and not be frozen by one’s own doubts is the most important of all .

[@jonathanhollier3314]

A quick low kick to an attackers lead leg will almost always injure them immediately hyperextending their leg/knee 💯 Then the fight will take a drastic turn in your favor. “A man can’t stand, he can’t fight.” -Sensei John Kreese 🥋

[@13LesTadO13]

Never let fear paralyze you but fearlessness is recklessness not courage. Courage is standing face to face with your fear even though you are afraid.

[@NotMyWar]

Peace is everything.

[@stevenbaker382]

I grew up doing a bit of boxing and on to powerlifting. Something develops deep inside you where it is hard to back down from confrontations . Im certainly no hard case but something used to come up like a volcano. Probably fear to be honest. I am now 54 and over the moon that younger lads no longer bother me. I am just an old man sitting in the pub with Guinness crisps and a cheese cob.. this way of life is far better

[@Danny-ux1il]

Just speaking for myself, it is the fear of humiliation; being shown as a worthless fool. Even with the scattering of trainings I have had over the years in boxing some of the arts I know I am not that good. Maybe good enough to handle the bully who is disrespecting me but, at the core, not good enough as a person. Faking it through the day every day, afraid people will see me as worthless and mock me and dis me for fun - that was all a drag when I was young. Now it is old and it is still happening because the young bullies want to dis me as an incompetent fool. The few times I have fought it has been in reaction, not-thinking response, or else in defense of some one weaker and more worthy. I won all those interactions. And still it does not change the fact that I know I will choke up and lose self-confidence and I freeze up at the initial insult and provocations and look like a jerk not be able to handle myself because my parents taught me that I was worthless. I agree with all that Tony Jeff said and I know it is right to train properly and take care of oneself and accept that you are afraid and go ahead and do what is right anyway.

[@funkydozer]

Different fears for different fights. Organised fights have a basic code of understanding which drastically reduces the likelihood of much happening beyond the fear of pain, injury, and shame of losing, whereas random attacks in the street involve fear of pain, death, manslaughter, murder, rape, legal punishment, robbery, mutilation, permanent disability/brain damage, coma, loss of family/friends. In an unorganised fight, no amount of training will mitigate fear of all these things, meaning you are always at a disadvantage if you are not the one attacking. That’s when luck either steps in or doesn’t.

[@Milliebongoatthrower]

Great channel this. Emotional maturity and boxing is an underrated combo

[@ThehulkGreen]

Tony your a credit to boxing.

[@digital_mindmeld]

what advise for someone that cant stop visualising and running scenarios and jeh,... thats the guy that does not want to be embarrased

[@AnthonyBrennan-v2e]

I am 62 my father was an RAF boxing instructor and i have boxed since 7. Technique is crucial for transferring power into a punch. A few weeks ago I was on the heavy bag. Next to me were two 20 year old men. They were fast but very poor technique the bag did not move. They were actually shouting as they hit the bag. I was on my own hitting for a round then sitting down for a couple of minutes. The men were confused as my bag was moving more than their bag even though they were actually hitting it and mine was still swinging from when I had hit it two minutes ago I had been sitting for a two minutes rest. Fun aside a friend from school had taken his wife to the pub a week before Christmas on a Saturday night. He was 50 bald and wearing a heavy metal leather jacket. Walking home h3 came across 3 teenagers going to a party. They ridiculed him for his jacket he squared up to them one hit him from behind he went down cracked his head dead.

[@kuulopa]

The most important thing is to be ready for a fight. You must never look like a loser. Through MMA, boxing, wrestling, etc. you acquire the skills necessary to fight. The attitude and the aura of self-confidence during a heated argument can prevent some fights.

[@marcuskoolrt]

As well is like when you kick them I heard scares the other guy away sometimes

[@marcuskoolrt]

Muay Thai for example

[@muhammadarly1256]

You are my inspiration for boxing training

[@0779risingsun]

My tip is don't have fear of lose. Like if you lose nothing happen. But it's not true is just in your fantasy. Then the other tip is (of course if you sparring before) See it like it's not a real fight it's just a example. Your opponent assumes he knows a good technique but you are about to show him his technique is useless. But at the ends you have to remember all those moments you sparring before so this new one it's just about sparring that you don't want to fight. So you will ended as soon as possible.

[@kaionken8271]

Thank you very much. This was really useful for me. Tony, i like your personality! All the best.

[@furtrapper11]

Spend time sparing in a gym with friends, then a street altercation could likely be fun

[@marcelnowakowski945]

Tony! As ever - you give always very, very intelligent and practical advice.

[@danr5462]

Coach Jeffries, I just watched a video where you advised your viewers to avoid street fights at all costs, to swallow your pride and literally run away from a street fight because it's not worth it. Now you are telling us to engage and get into people's faces with confidence etc.

[@rburrows7786]

I’m 74. Grew up In the inner city. Was roaming the streets at 12. I’ve been in numerous fights. Lost some. Won some. But never back down. If you run, chicken out, you’ll live with it the rest of your life. Better to at least try and get your ass kicked. Size doesn’t matter. It’s what’s in your heart. You walk away and you’ll think about coulda shoulda woulda all your life. Take some pride in yourself

[@JI7NKJ]

Speaking as a 57yr old Glaswegian who in my younger days had many street fights and still carry the scars, for some strange reason Glasgow has always been a very violent city full of very angry and violent men, add in drink, drugs and sectarian hatred and you have bedlam, one night in the city centre I was walking towards a crowd of guys and one of them looked at me and shouted there's one there where upon they all immediately made a run for me, I took to my heels but was quickly cornered, every one of them had a blade or a bottle and I just thought fk this, went into rage mode and ran at them screaming like a mad man also as I was running towards them I unzipped my jacket and put my hand inside like I was reaching for a weapon and it was like the parting of the sea, biscuit arses don't like to be on the receiving end, if you look the part and got the confidence 9/10 you don't need to lift a finger.

[@sevensisters3084]

These videos makes me feel like a winner when I feel down🔥🔥🔥💎💎✨✨

[@mountainwolf1]

All of this is true the man knows what he is talking about. Other's can and will read your non verbal communication especially criminals. If you come off as a weak and don't pay attention to your surroundings than it will be read that you are a easy target.

[@Xmelnick]

Way more useful advices I read in the comments rareth then heard from a video that tried to sell his course which might be useful as well for some of the guys. The advice is simple If you wanna know how to fight - go fight! But do it in the gym first. Get hit in the face and realize it's not that bad. If you soft - just make yourself hard. You will find the way how

[@oldfartinthenight9201]

Cheers Tony, love your videos. I did a little Martial Arts many years ago as a younger man, before arthritis took a hold, I can't even make a fist nowadays. I'm sure I saw one of your videos about using an open hand for self defence. Do you have any more tips for a creaky old codger?

[@raukawa4732]

I used to love the idea of fighting but never actually liked fighting. I used to get into fights and always regretted it the moment punches started to fly. I simply hate real violence but I always had a lot testosterone and was ready to fight anytime. I never felt pain but always felt guilt if I hurt someone else .

[@carlosdlonga6507]

im a 4x world champion (muay thai, karate, taekwondo, judo and boxing), boxer, ufc fighter and master blackbelt of +7 martial arts, im never afraid of my enemy in a 1 on 1 street fight, im only afraid of controlling myself, not kill him if its unnecesary or getting jailed

[@samzie67]

The best advice I've ever seen.

[@James-ly3wf]

Judo. Dad sent me to judo classes when i was 9/10, didn’t even particularly get into it, went for a couple months and lost interest - but it’s saved my arse many, many times, and it’s non violent. : )

[@rickd955]

Enjoyable to watch, love the facts mixed with typical British humor. Greetz from Germany.

[@HowieAnderson-jg5yb]

Thanks Tone for all the videos!

[@Tony_Jeffries]

Glad you like them!

[@erikcerny5131]

thank you man i do it for safety because i want to be ready

[@WhiskeyMyersour]

You're the man, Tony. This is wonderful advice people should heed. Great video buddy!