Top Therapist: How To STOP Creating Attachment Issues In Children

Talking points: parenting, children, attachment, psychology
You may have heard me mention Duey before. He co-facilitates the ManTalks Men's Weekends with me, and his work is absolutely incredible. I was thrilled to sit down with him last week, just before our sojourn to Texas. We dive into all things attachment. How children and adults experience it, when it starts forming, and how my own son has taught me some incredible lessons on it. Also, listen in for Thunderbutt. No, I'm not kidding.
(00:00:00) - Intro and Duey’s take on why real elders don’t seek power
(00:13:55) - How do we begin to truly understand our partner?
(00:19:15) - On the importance of curiosity and not assuming you know someone-especially your partner
(00:26:44) - What are the building blocks of really healthy attachment?
(00:36:04) - Attachment is somatic, and how children are inherently, incredibly sensitive
(00:52:46) - What “interrupts” attachment?
Duey Freeman, MA, LPC is co-founder of the Gestalt Equine Institute of the Rockies, director of the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and owner of his psychotherapy private practice. After teaching for 24 years at Naropa University he has decided to move in a more creative direction. Most recently, in collaboration with Kimberly Beck M Ed, he has created: The Coming Home Project and Relational Rewilding Retreats.
A licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and consultant, Duey has extensive training and experience in gestalt therapy, equine therapy, family therapy, bioenergetics, and counseling with children and adolescents. Duey joined Naropa in 1992 and has been extensively involved in the creation of the Gestalt, Human Development, and Family Systems programs. He has helped to develop the Equine section of the Wilderness Therapy certification and degree. He taught for the University of Northern Colorado, traveling across Colorado teaching and working with schools systems supporting teachers to better understand and work with the children they teach.
Throughout the year, Duey partners with professional therapists and skilled horsemen and women worldwide to provide psychotherapy, Gestalt Equine Psychotherapy, parenting and human development workshops, and Relational Horsemanship classes. Some of Duey's partners include Joan Rieger, Duane Mullner, Erika Friess, Megan Powers, Rosemary Wyndham-Jones, Rob Pliskin, Kristi Moon, Kimberly Beck, and Amy and Steve LeSatz.
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[@colterthompson6846]

Just watched the intro and I can tell this is going to strongly resonate with me and countless others. Interesting idea...

[@NicholsonNeisler-fz3gi]

My dog is a Good Boy

[@kellygreenii]

Disagree. It’s not an either-or situation. Approval is only a problem when it is given without Affirmation. Kids need both. To know that they are loved regardless of what they do…but approval has to be earned. They need both to keep grounded, but resilient.

[@pimaggot]

I do think we as men can fall into this trap of trying to "figure out" the feminine or our women instead of just being in our masculine frame and realizing it is a damn mystery.

[@colterthompson6846]

It's not a mystery entirely, though. It's worth the effort.