Toxic Female Friendships

[@RealTalkRelationshipTherapy]

When someone is a narcissist you'll start having anxiety and you dont really understand why so youll start questioning yourself!! This is a great video thanks!

[@hammasa1]

Absolutely! Thank you so much

[@jasminetalks6819]

Spot. On.

[@nfc598]

I'm tired of always reassuring her and telling her she's beautiful and great when she tears me down behind my back. I wasn't sure before but I'm definitely sure now that she's a mean person.

[@PinkYellowGreen2023]

I feel you!

[@redefinedliving5974]

Same here. It makes my skin crawl for not realizing sooner

[@hannahff]

"When you're healthy and sure of yourself, you understand that you can sympathise with people, you could help them, you could support them, but you are not going to entertain and humour this whole 'victimhood' mentality." 💯💯💯

[@hammasa1]

Its much easier to spot when you're in a good place, but if you're in a victim mindset yourself and going through healing then you're vulnerable to fall for the fake sympathy and companionship.

[@harpriyadhillon2321]

Oh lord this is a heavy one!! There needs to be a whole series on this!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@hammasa1]

It is indeed! but a conversation to be had, will work on some more friendship dynamics

[@joebhouse]

Thanks for this video. So on point how you get that feeling of "being drained", but not knowing why. It really does your head over trying to work out why you feel depleted! P.S. I'm not a female, but the experience is relevant when dealing with covert narcissists more generally.

[@hammasa1]

Thank you, precisely

[@PinkYellowGreen2023]

Yes!!!

[@Marcelino44]

Its always manipulation, body shaming or not having your own mind.

[@HaHaLooLoo]

Thank you for this Hammasa. I've always felt uneasiness in my gut put could never put it into words, thus would just shut it down and gaslight myself. I feel validated now thank you so much. And looking sooo lovely as usual!

[@hammasa1]

You're very welcome hun! and thank you for all ur support

[@GG-ud8id]

Totally agree. I used to beat myself up because I wouldnt be able to explain why I didnt like a certain friend after awhile. This had happened to me so many times, I'd start off liking them, but after awhile a niggling feeling would appear and I'd grow more and more frustrated and annoyed by their presence but couldnt explain why, and thought it was something I was doing wrong. So I'd perservere through these friendships and try to be patient, understanding etc. But then after each time seeing them, I'd dread the thought of meeting up with them again. I felt bad about myself for being such a terrible friend behind their back, being nice to their face then being so drained by them afterwards. These friendships were never fulfilling or genuine and it was better off for both people that the friendship ended.

[@hannahff]

Thank you for putting into words the ex friendships I had which I realised too late down the line...thank God I got out of it though!

[@hammasa1]

You are so welcome I myself couldnt wrap my head around it till I started researching

[@GeekMODE_]

"When you mix friend with foe, that's a deadly synergy" #Fabolous - Frenemies

[@hammasa1]

Indeed!

[@tuhimerameraa1]

Insane how pretty you are omg and so well spoken ♥️

[@beautifulsoul7791]

THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I HAVE BEEN GOING THROUGH WITH A NEIGHBOR THAT TRIED TO BEFRIEND ME! Everything you said was 💯 true! WoW......thank you! It was great confirmation!👏👏👏👏👏👏👏😘✌️

[@hammasa1]

You’re very welcome! Xx

[@atejoo4186]

Better have no friends...

[@GnosisDharma]

One thing is that we shoulc be carefull labeling people to fast because there are actual people who had very much bad luck and sometimes when people have problems they have a hard time thinking about anything else but given some time the problem may solve and you can have fun again, however if you don't like that person talk about their troubbles don't say to them to change topic they probably can't so if you want some distraction you kind of have to lead the conversation. So maybe when you have a problem later the person will be there for you but you never know if you just put people in the trashbin. If there is manipulation in the relationship you will notice. To my experience I meet one that could clasify as covert. And sometimes to how people descibe covert it could fit me as well because I had a lot of traumatic experienses but I will tell you don't get sympathy for what I went through, I used to talk about it because I tried to figure out what was happening in my life but no I was blamed even if these situations it was not possible. There is something called v1ct1mbl4m1ng in society so just make sure is all what I'm saying. Because well for me at least it is not so fun to try to have friendships and they don't work out. I can admit there must be something I don't understand about people, at least I feel that many times I have a easy time to talk really about anything but I notice a lot people don't take charge themselves so then ofcourse it's my fault in their eyes but it's actually both fault. Where I live when people ask what movie they are silent and then I after a while suggest because sometimes try to not say anything but it does not work out because I'm surronded because where I live take it to far with their silence, well they don't say they don't want to watch that movie so my suggestion goes through but when they put the movie on they all are we don't want to watch this movie, well why did you not say earlier then it's exhausting. Just saying be careful when you judge, I think these people making themselves v1ct1ms however get more sympathy then real.

[@missringside2699]

Wow!!!! Powerful. This was a great talk.

[@hammasa1]

Thank you hun x

[@dhrubajyoti14]

I just kicked her (narcissist) out from my life best feeling ever 💖🌟✨

[@masroorahmad3239]

I always find myself in that situation ppl are nice to me at the beginning and then they betray me but behind my back , i always wonder why ??coz I am always neutral and kind still happens to me i guess i always bump into narcisst ppl

[@sweaters_and_harmony9525]

Randomly stumbled across your video tonight. It was wonderful! I learned a lot and I can tell you know what you are talking about. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and insight. It was very helpful!

[@cloud6862]

excellant talk on covert narc freinds....

[@babyc.3015]

What if she copies some of your hobbies? Does that count?

[@inbloom2300]

Yes it does!

[@redefinedliving5974]

OMG narcs really love mimicry, dont they?

[@shrutivish9979]

this is so helpful, thank you!! you are super pretty btw :)

[@shrutinair3310]

Thank you this was very helpful ✨

[@ryanmccready8978]

I feel like my girls friend is manipulative and uses rough times in our relationship to pull my girlfriend away from me

[@JNYC212]

Great Video.... TY 🙌🏽

[@arlondon2434]

My husband’s brothers wife is like this - back in Pakistan, shes a proper kutti, for years i felt sympathy for her and thought shes got such a bad life and marriage - she was happy to take gifts be all friendly with my husband so she gets shopping and stuff for her kids. I criticised her one day whilst on holiday in Pakistan thr bitch absolutely switched on me !

[@hammasa1]

Hmm sounds like she may some of these traits. Just being aware gives you an upper hand!

[@shrutinair3310]

🤣🤣🤣 proper kutti is accurate ps: I'm from India 💜

[@siaflower8513]

Hello lovely! Where is your sweater from!?

[@PinkYellowGreen2023]

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