Transactional Analysis Ego States And Depression

[@darrenc.8663]

Thank you for the tips on how to strengthen the neglected, underused ego states. As someone who is learning about the goals of TA, what are the easy-to-understand meanings of Spontaneity, Autonomy and Intimacy? I’ll do a search for this in case you’ve already covered this. Thx again.

[@LewisPsychology]

Thanks for your question Darren. Berne described autonomy as being script free. It also comprises awareness, spontaneity and intimacy. Awareness is the ability to assess a situation for what it is in the here and now using your Adult ego state.Spontaneity is about being able to do the things that really excite you in life without being held back by history. Intimacy is about being in game free relationships. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@sabrinaszabo9355]

When we can connect to each other from an authentic place, having already full cups, and looking to enrich, not deplete each others lives, we can form functional and healthy connections with others. When we feel safe to communicate from a vulnerable position that we will be understood this allows for intimacy, it is a prerequisite for intimacy intimacy is safe and vulnerable sharing, conscious relationships share these traits. Healed individuals working together in life not against each other. These ideals help us empower and gain sovereignty-It’s developing emotional intelligence and setting healthy boundaries. Much love

[@paullewis9873]

Your content is superb, and your ability to explain complex theories and make them so accessible is second to none. I genuinely look forward to watching your channel grow over the years.

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you for you lovely comment and kind monetary support for the channel. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@moneyonthegoe]

Agreed. I love the way the topics are explained. I’ve been watching videos for the last 3 hours and also subscribed to the channel.

[@DrMattHersh]

Completely agree! As a psychotherapist, I’ve learned a ton already and will use your videos for educating my clients as well.

[@sabrinaszabo9355]

I could’ve written this, agree with every word and appreciate you and your input

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you for your support. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@sabrinaszabo9355]

I am grateful to everybody here because we are all focused on growth, this gives me hope for humanity

[@nataliebutler]

Apparently lots of people have no inner voice, in the same way others cannot visualise. Fascinating.

[@asmas19]

Bullying in.childhood can contribute to critical parent

[@LewisPsychology]

Yes it can. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@syzygy4365]

It hurts when I cant pull myself out of that over critical mindset and just have fun with my kids. Life is a huge struggle now. I don't like being a stick in the mud, and I wasn't always like this. 😭💔

[@LewisPsychology]

I’m sorry to hear that. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@alcantwell]

Thank you for this video. ❤️ I got so much out of it. You've given me many ideas of ways I can improve my daily life.

[@LewisPsychology]

That’s really great to hear. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@24JJ821]

I love your content because you are actually suggesting ways to work through our inner thought processes using theoretical models. Some of us cannot afford a therapist at the moment so this is very helpful, thank you. As an adopted child with a distant mother who had her own biological child, I needed to separate and find my own identity and autonomy and recognize my inner dialogue to heal.

[@LewisPsychology]

Thanks for your kind words. I'm pleased to hear its helpful. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@nickturnbull4105]

I saw your comment and as an adoptee myself can identify too well . My adopted mother was quite distant also and I believe quite depressed and my adopted father was often bad tempered and angry . Separation from our birth mother is huge trauma in itself and the absence of safe secure attachment is yet further trauma . I sincerely hope we can make improvements with this kind of education and help ,with best wishes ,Nick .

[@samward6754]

Thank you. Your videos are concise and insightful....... However Tracy's set seems somewhat juxtaposed to her current state! Sorry, it made me smile at the end of a crappie day. Truly, thank you. Sam

[@morefifacollege8971]

Good video cause of the problems at home how my dad makes our life swearing and talking any how to me and my mom mainly. My sister is on depression pills. I was also thinking of taking than I said nah I rather not. Just keeping gyming or doing other positive activities to escape reality. It's what goes on in our house. But what can a person do some people won't change.

[@LewisPsychology]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, that sounds very challenging indeed. Unfortunately I'm unable to provide personal advice as you are not a client. You may find it helpful to seek out a psychological therapist to help you though this situation. Best wishes, Teresa

[@morefifacollege8971]

@@LewisPsychology Thank you, I am good it's just my sister I worry about sometimes. She is going to a psychologist. I can handle the problems at home cause it's been like this for years. But thank you for the advice.

[@GordonHorneOfficial]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your incredible work with these videos. In the space of 30 minutes, I have watched 3 of your videos and have learned a lot about where my behaviours are coming from. I am in Therapy at the moment and we have been using the Ego States in those sessions, but now I understand my biggest drivers too, and realise that a lot of how i behave comes from two of the 5 drivers! I am in awe of these revelations and you have motivated me to make a difference to my life and change it for the better. Thank you again!

[@LewisPsychology]

That really is wonderful to hear, I'm so pleased to hear my videos have been helpful. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@unnikrishnanvnr7230]

hi Doc... can you upload a video on Dissociation in relation to trauma ?

[@LewisPsychology]

That’s sounds like a great idea. I’ll add it to my list. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@Shrink007]

Thank you , this is great

[@iancmcneill]

Thank you so much for your high quality, well presented videos. As a student psycho therapist studying TA this year these are simply brilliant resources. You are a truly inspirational professional - thank you so much!

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you so much for your support. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@thepurposecollective]

This is fabulous, thank you Teresa!

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you for your klnd words. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@uniklady4814]

thank you for giving these amazing explanations for free, this is so helpful and so clear, big big thank you

[@LewisPsychology]

You're very welcome! Best wishes, Teresa.

[@emekdenizdemirci]

Thank you so much for the video Teresa. Next video is CFT exercise for the day :)

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you EMEK. The CFT exercises are incredibly soothing. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@maureenpalmquist08]

This is my first foray into understanding transactional analysis. You explained it so well. Thank you for posting this and especially the links to read more about it.

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you for your kind feedback. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@HorniBobbie]

Hello Theresa, if you could touch on hypochondria showing up as a trauma response or developed need to control?

[@ryarya3291]

hello, I was never criticized as a child, I was very praised yet I have a very negative self talk. I have to add here that I was a perfect child and quite enmeshed with my mother. So how would you explain the harsh negative self talk? Thx

[@LewisPsychology]

Hello Rya Rya. Thanks for your comment. A negative internal voice can be caused by many factors such as internalising the messages (verbal and non-verbal) from your father, a teacher, grandparent or other significant person in your life. It can also be caused by a dominate threat system due to trauma, abuse etc. The videos that I'm releasing over the next few weeks are about the messages (verbal and non-verbal) we receive from our parents and the unconscious decisions we make as a result. I think they should help. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@ryarya3291]

@@LewisPsychology Thank you soooo much for your availability, rapid answers, videos and channel! You can't imagine how helpful it is!

[@cindydee8475]

I've noticed a lot of children of a narcissistic parent growing up as "the perfect child" and enmeshed with that parent because they were brought up being used as a source of narcissistic supply. The narcissistic parent typically treated them as "extensions" of themselves and almost never encouraged the child to be/do/act/play/ outside of that narrative that was going to make them look good or 'the perfect parent'.. Don't know if this was your experience but these parents also tend to have the "scape goat child". So if you had a sibling your mother hated and blamed everything on, then there is a very good chance that's what you grew up with

[@abdulrafey0076]

Your content is so informative and your way of teaching is so good that even a boy of my age could understand it. Miss keep it up 🎉

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you so much! Best wishes, Teresa.

[@andreabroomfiled3244]

Thank you, this is so clearly explained and easy to understand.

[@LewisPsychology]

That’s great to hear. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@drsandhyathumsikumar4479]

Lovely video full of wisdom. Much gratitude 🙏

[@LewisPsychology]

That’s great to hear. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@alderoth01]

I just don't understand TA. It sounds like a lot of Freud non-sense when I hear it. I know this isn't part of Freudian Psychology, but just the examples used seem so picture perfect that I can't see them in regular every day actions. I've had psychiatrists that seemed like adults, but then talked to me like amused children when they wanted to know about SA I experienced. I just can't wrap my head around using these concepts in a daily or benneficial manner. I guess it could be used in private like sitting at home and putting the days conversations into categories, but I can't see someone thinking about this "in the moment" as they say. Now, I have been learning about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and the other one, Dialectal Behavior Therapy (I know I spelled that word wrong lol), and I understand that as something you practice at home, or you set aside time to practice, but the TA stuff I just can't understand. Everybody that talks about it acts like it's something you do during active listening whle IN the moment and my brain just isn't smart enough to process my ego state, their ego state, all the while wondering if someone is being friendly, combative, wanting to rob me, or wanting to help me lol. I just usually find myself, in any interaction, wondering about 20 billion things, that ego doesn't seem to come to mind. I just don't get it. I guess if this is something you are meant to practice? Something you are meant to do in your spare time, or you do with a friend, maybe significant other, I can sort of see that. Although someone practicing this sort of thing on their own could convince themselves of the wrong thing couldn't they? Mistake a certain conversation as part of the child ego instead of the adult ego? I guess people could convince themselves of many things lol. Anyway, it's just frustrating that I hear about this from people I know and they act like it's the most amazing thing ever, but I just don't understand it. I can't wrap my head around the concept's I guess? I'm not sure what makes understanding this so hard. I just see conversation as being more complex than ego states, or maybe not as complex as every sentence being an ego state? I'm confusing myself BLARG!!! I hate not understanding things lol. Your videos are great by the way. I stumbled on them today when I was going through websites on Bing looking up more info on TA. I saw one of them on the Bing video page and was brought here. You have a lot of good stuff on here. I just can't understand TA lol.

[@LewisPsychology]

This is quite an advanced TA video aimed towards therapists so please don’t worry that you don’t understand. There are many different types of therapy and you may find one that your resonate with and another that your don’t, that’s totally fine. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@TanviDiwan]

Loved it! Thank you so muc

[@janeratcliffe4584]

Hi thank you for a very informative video on TA. As a CBT therapist im interested in what formulation you use in TA please?

[@LewisPsychology]

CBT and TA and two very different approaches and the approach to formulation is also different. We can formulate in TA by using ego states (as per this video), injunctions, drivers, script work etc. All my TA videos illustrate different ways we can formulate using TA. In reality we will be using all of these methods in an evolving formulation. You may find my video on the script matrix of interest. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@jyotivyas9286]

Thank you😅🎉❤😂👌💐😊

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you 😊

[@ryarya3291]

Hi can u explain that despite the fact that I was extremely praised as a child by my mother, I have a very negative self talk? My father was unavailable and very authoritarian and didn’t interact with me much

[@LewisPsychology]

Thanks for your comment. We can also internalise teachers, close family members and significant others. Ask yourself, “Does this inner critical voice remind me of anyone?” I hope this helps. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@ryarya3291]

@@LewisPsychology thank you, love your channel!

[@LewisPsychology]

@@ryarya3291 that’s great to hear, thanks.

[@vegeta8169]

Your dad did say " you are nothing" without words. So your life script is probably " I'll never be good enough".

[@antek-vj5ey]

You do not have to be good enough for someone who was never good enough for you! Take them out of your head

[@JustTryGambling]

We love you Tracy. Whoever you are

[@noemikovacs6304]

I'm soo thankful for helping me getting over my grieve and setting free of ny mom's death.Pieces getting into place in this great puzzle called my life. Thank you.

[@LewisPsychology]

That's great to hear. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@Chantol22]

Thank you so much ! I love how straight to the point and clear you are ❤

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you for your support. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@ricardomayo8337]

Really cool psych video

[@astralcoaltown]

I looove this channel, my therapist sent it to me and it’s so helpful :)

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you so much. It’s great to hear my channel is helpful. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@sabrinaszabo9355]

We can look at the dualistic nature of both extremes related to each ego state. Middle ground is the best approach and that is literally what spirituality represents. Human evolution and awareness into unconscious behaviors. We are healing trauma people, I’m proud of you

[@Star-dj1kw]

❤❤

[@brandwas12]

I love your channel. I consider you "the Psychotherapist favorite Psychotherapist"

[@LewisPsychology]

Wow, what a lovely compliment, thank you. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@ursularudman7008]

Excellent i.formation

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you so much. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@sabrinaszabo9355]

This is a zoomed in way of relating to the work of JUNG. Several approaches help me understand. I love it it all comes together. Thank you so much for this, can you apply both schools of thought when treating clients

[@LewisPsychology]

Thanks for your comment. This is the work of Eric Berne and his theory of Transactional Analysis (TA). Best wishes, Teresa.