How To Get Along With Type 8's

[@djpearson5722]

Thanks for defending the folks that are normally defending others, even while being misunderstood. And also for helping others understand our complex nature. Great content! Blessings!!

[@twlahue]

It's my pleasure, I appreciate your kind words!

[@kerrycressey2443]

‘Put a little spicy in your meatball!’ Ha ha ha!!!! 😂 Made my 8 day!!! Super entertaining whilst being super positive and real.

[@twlahue]

I'm glad you enjoyed the video! It's always fun to bring a little spice to the conversation! 😂

[@tanyaguti]

As a 9 married to an 8 for 25 years, this is 100% true!

[@laurawhite2047]

Love this video as I have a lot of Eights in my life. I can relate to feeling a bit offended by some of the bluntness, but at the same time, some of the very direct things said to me by an Eight I am related to allowed me to start moving on from a career choice that wasn’t working. They could see something I didn’t want to see and their direct approach ended up being a gift in my life. It just took some time to process and appreciate what they said, but it also empowered me to make some powerful changes. They gave me the gift of seeing my own power and it is difficult to overstate the significance of this contribution. I will continue to watch your videos on the Eight, Dr. Tom, as they do bring clarity and insights. I appreciate that these videos explore the good, the bad, and the ugly because in order to grow and get along with others, we need to embrace all of it. Full disclosure: I am a Four and Eights can be puzzled as to why Fours are so sensitive. They believe they are stating the facts and a Four can feel like their soul is being crushed even though it’s not the case😂It can be difficult to navigate but a challenge worth undertaking. I do find healthy Eights in my life to be some of the most wonderful people and again, they are truly a gift in my life. I think this video captures their positive traits well and can help us understand one of the most misunderstood Enneagram types.

[@twlahue]

I love how you’ve seen the good, the bad, and the ugly of Eights in your life and are still able to appreciate their unique qualities!

[@jillmappin3316]

Hi Laura, 4 here also living with an 8. Thanks for the soul crushing comment as it describes how I feel a lot of the time and receive the ‘too sensitive’ remark.

[@Xavier77205]

8's; the inside out 4 and vice versa 😉

[@jillmappin3316]

@@Xavier77205can you elaborate on that please?

[@laurawhite2047]

@@jillmappin3316 You’re welcome, and I completely understand how you feel. Sending happy vibes your way, and I hope you are engaging in some soothing, self care activities when needed. As a Four that is probably something you are naturally very good at.

[@lisaheartsvans]

Love these series & love your channel so much!! Thanks so much. Merry Christmas !!

[@twlahue]

Thank you! You too!

[@JD-ee8sm]

Accurate, got a good giggle... 8w7 infj-a

[@twlahue]

Awesome

[@nurtureulifecoaching3226]

Same! 8w7 and I test as either an INFJ or ENFJ because I think I’m more of an ambivert.

[@end4567]

I don’t want to be that guy and my knowledge about typology is limited so I won’t argue too much over it but INXXs being type 8 is extremely unlikely and rare. Especially 8w7 which is basically the archetype of your opposite type. It’s way more likely you’re a 6, 5 or a 1. I suggest you look into those instead. Either that or maybe your MBTI result is the one that’s wrong.

[@brianwest1153]

I‘m an 8w7 ENFJ too! My best friend tested the same on both too :)

[@kellikakes81]

It is very interesting to see ANY xNFJs as 8s, but I see here it exists...they seem so opposite, usually. Fe doms or auxs, and 8s are usually contradictory ofone another.

[@jillmappin3316]

I found this Video so helpful Tom! Currently working on my fear of conflict and not freezing in the moment when an 8 in my life suddenly berates me.

[@twlahue]

I'm glad it was helpful!

[@vlverm7096]

8w7 from nyc - that last ten minutes was great - phenomenal even, especially the last 5 minutes

[@twlahue]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@nianexus135]

No but when you say get into character as well it’s so true my guy he kinda throws a fit when things aren’t done or a mess ( you know how 8s are ) but when he leaves his stuff I kinda just be like look your not perfect either but always in a considering way (imma 3 ) but he continues! one day he said you know you could pester me too I won’t be offended . The next time I got all into character , problem solved

[@twlahue]

It's great that you've found a way to communicate effectively with him! Understanding each other's styles really helps in building a better relationship.

[@darlinqq_]

My dad is a Self-preservation 8w9 he's great, i get along with him really well, its kinda funny since im a sexual 4w5. But i most of the time feel bad because none really understands him, even tho he's got a good soul

[@Varangian4477_DnD]

This really is how I am LOL. -8w9 ENTJ

[@godisgood540]

This is the one I've been waiting for. I'm a type 9 and my wife is a type 8 😂

[@twlahue]

Cool

[@lizzwilson8931]

I’m an 8w7 and tested as an infp!

[@twlahue]

Make sure you are not a sx Type 4

[@isa-manuelaalbrecht2951]

It helps me to come out of my nutshell as being a 5/6...😊 You' re amazing how you can interpreat those...its' exactly likewise...🤣😁👌👏👏👏🏵️ They also love to use their feasts if needed...😂

[@twlahue]

It's amazing how those types can come together, right?

[@lunia-kh6jl]

I'm 7w8 enfp and my twin is 8w7 entj and what I can tell u your talk is so accurate I think my wing is because of her and her wing is from me we're good together but when it's time to fighting is like joker and Batman fighting 😂 but we always end up crying and hugging each other

[@twlahue]

It's awesome to hear that you and your twin have such a strong bond, even with the occasional epic battles! Those moments of conflict really do bring out the best in relationships, don't they?

[@lunia-kh6jl]

@@twlahue absolutely,I think that having a discussion with someone you love is like cleansing your heart with them.

[@Dani-jo9yr]

Enfj 8w7❤️😅Thank You 🙏🙏

[@twlahue]

ENFJ 8w7? Sounds like you’re the life of the party and the bouncer at the same time! 😂

[@Dani-jo9yr]

@ Hilarious 😆 Yes - something like that ; all toughness with a love 😤😇🤣

[@tylerkrizan4619]

I love your 8 videos. As an 8 I relate entirely. But...I think you hit the "eggnog" a little hard before making this one 😂 lol

[@twlahue]

Haha, maybe I did! 😂

[@germanarovinelli5973]

8 w a 7 wing In a relationship w a 8w a 9 wing Refreshing and hysterical

[@twlahue]

Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts! I'm glad you found it hysterical. Understanding these types can really make a difference in relationships!

[@nianexus135]

Type 3 and my fiancé is type 8 !

[@rhondabryanthistlethwaite5351]

I'm thankful that Jesus has brought me (8) waaaaay closer to the 1st list🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️

[@Bhaddou]

I love it... 7w8 ENFP-A

[@isa-manuelaalbrecht2951]

ENTP is 8/7....ENFJ = 8/9 viewed by the orginal * wisdom of the Enneagramm* from Riso& Hudson...🎉

[@godisgood540]

Hey Tom, when is the "How to get along with Type 9s" video coming out? Or are we just so easy to get along with that we don't even need one? 😂 Hope you're doing well. God bless!

[@twlahue]

Working on it

[@mirandaantisari]

Entj 8w7 D type here and my bf is ISFJ e2

[@user-qs8wh7fj8v]

Trump is an 8 himself!

[@twlahue]

True

[@nianexus135]

@@user-qs8wh7fj8v reading this I wonder what his tritype is cuz i definitely feel like he def has 3 as his second number

[@sutergirlify]

❤love this channel! I have an eight sister, and sometimes, if I'm oversensitive to feeling criticized or desiring peace, I forget that there's so much positive in her personality package. I love that you promote love, grace, and understanding 😊 THANKS!