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@kennie J.D. please do the movie Springbreakers

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The slow transition of Kennie lowkey turning into an art person is sending me 💀💀

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She turned into the thing she hated💀

[@IceNineThrills]

@@ZaDe2002 "You have become the very thing you swore to destroy"

[@nazarisreyes6037]

Someone make an edit, From Pieles to Tyler Perry

[@tmd-w1552]

💀💀💀💀

[@lizzyrank5405]

I was gonna say the exact thing.

[@senpainoticedyou6182]

“Trigger warning : Tyler Perry” Took me out💀

[@plainrosiejane]

the most deserved and terrifying TW she's ever given tbh .

[@valeriewilson182]

Literally spit out my drink 😣😂

[@heynae2016]

420 likes

[@Jezabella2002]

What did he do

[@YannNovas]

I'm weak... 😂😂

[@patriece2215]

I hate how Melinda has consequences to her actions but Robert has a millionaire wife and a child on the way. He did Melinda so dirty for 20 years but got everything he wanted in life and even married the girl he cheated on her with which is what led to her not being able to have children. He was never punished for all his terrible decisions and I think seeing him do so well in life made Melinda even more upset.

[@thismoment4life1]

It truly speaks to the fact that some horrible people do in fact, tend to have okay and even amazing lives. That’s just how the world works sometimes.

[@patriece2215]

Asia yeah karma be fucking up sometimes and skips past the terrible ppl

[@kgomes1126]

@@thismoment4life1 exactly like that’s real life for ya lol.

[@dreamyanon5151]

Melinda's consequences objectively come from her actions and bad choices. Not that she wasn't done wrong, but she chose to stay with him. I think this is a masterpiece on how bitterness breeds an entitled victim hood that only leaves the person who is angry to hurt the most.

[@ashenguard_1437]

I mean it’s 10 mil am I saying that’s worth 20 years of harsh labor and a bad relationship? It’s 500k a year so yea it kinda is...

[@kimsvisualdiary]

Let’s be real here: Robert played Melinda. He stayed with her because she was paying the bills and taking care of his broke ass. You notice that Diana didn’t get back with him until AFTER his invention took off. The whole time she was helping him it was platonic. Melinda was the only one willing to be with him when he had nothing.

[@Chitownhomestead]

And got played in the end... not cool

[@Godlywoman88]

True. At the same time Melinda shouldn't be so upset that he moved on after she was so adamant that thier marriage was over.

[@fightingmedialounge519]

She technically was with him when he was nothing Kim, that's kind of why melinda nearly killed him in the first place.

[@RegardlessCampbell1984]

Yes and almost everybody here is saying that Melinda should've taken the 10 million dollars and MOVED ON but what they don't see is Melinda felt it was UNFAIR that Robert was financially supporting Diana while he didn't financially support her the whole time they were married plus Diana being with Robert while they were in college is the reason Melinda couldn't have children so for Melinda? that money didn't MATTER TO HER, all that matter to her was Robert being FAIR!

[@foggyfrogy]

@@RegardlessCampbell1984 to be honest Robert was an ass but after seeing all he destroyed, he tried to somehow be fair and pay his exwife back. I totally understand Melinda being mad (I also would be) but ....what could he have done to make it better?! She wanted a divorce -> he was against it but in the end agreed to it, because that's what she wanted. She didn't want him in her life -> he distanced himself from her, so she could heal. She was angry for him being so ungrateful -> he apologized and thanked her for all the years she supported him. She wanted her money back -> he gave her the money back and even more. He gave her what she wanted and to expect him to force himself to break up with his new girlfriend and get back together with her , would just lead to a new toxic relationship that no one would want for Melinda (or Robert). And that's where the anger issues and psychotherapy come in play because at this point no one could do anything that would make her happy without paying with their own mental health.

[@mariamibukia2355]

Robert is a good representation of a villain. Quiet, manipulative, playing the victim card, gaslighting... most of the bad people in real world are like that. They are not in your face trash know what i mean? Like... they dont go full on voldemort on your ass.

[@TeddyVerseti1]

And the thing that makes them the absolute worst? They don't believe they're doing anything wrong.

[@captaincrunch784]

"they don't go full on voldemort on your ass." That is hilarious and deep yo.

[@BlackGirlLovesAnime6]

he's a good representation of majority of bm and she was a good representation of many bw.

[@alicefayxxo]

THIS

[@austinjohn8713]

@@TeddyVerseti1 he came back and offered her 10 million. your stupid comment is more of men hating than actual commentary on a film.

[@usagifelton]

I find it interesting how no one ever comments on the fact that Robert gave his new wife the EXACT SAME LIFE he promised his old wife. Which made it clear (or should have) that he never really cared about anyone but himself. Those were HIS dreams that he sold as THEIR dreams, if the new wife leaves he'll get the next one the exact same things because in the end Robert only cares about himself, he can be with anyone as long as they are willing to fit into the predetermined future he's decided he's always wanted as a part of his "dream". Unfortunately for Melinda she was too wrapped up in her anger to be able to see this and instead took in personal, when in reality it was the exact opposite. It was wholly *impersonal* on Robert's part.

[@itsdrea2353]

You hit the nail on the head! He was clearly only invested in himself from the start.

[@nerdygirltravels]

You are so spot on. That's ALWAYS been (one of) my complaint(s)!

[@munchkin0518]

That's textbook covert narcissist behavior for ya! No actual personality so they copy and paste their relationship scripts every time they move on to a new unwitting victim, and they DO move on with lightning speed.

[@darknight0dc]

I agree 100% and honestly that's a really important aspect of the story. He spent so much time manipulating this woman into taking care of him and convincing her that she wanted whatever he wanted. Realistically the new wife would probably get tired of his narcissism as well; they'd eventually separate & he'd find a new woman to manipulate and like you said, give her all the exact same things.

[@fatimasanni5268]

That's a covert narcissist and this take is spot on...

[@DomoniqueEaddy]

ALSO, another side note....can we please stop making movies about cheating as if thats the only way a man can violate a relationship. Because literally nothing this man did was worth investing in

[@GloriaC333]

👏🏻 👏🏻👏🏻

[@bethanychatman9531]

Yes!!!! Thank you.

[@mōri_-3v3]

A person*

[@thethrowawaythatstayed7055]

Right?! He was the worst bf/partner!

[@devonmunn5728]

Writers probably do that cause it's the most easiest way people can understand a partner doing wrong to their significant other and not necessarily think about other not as easy ways

[@astamanista9447]

The black man ending up getting successful because of the woman he cheated on his first wife with (technically it's before marriage but whatever) rubs me the wrong way big time. It's as if he was rewarded because of cheating while Temptation gave the cheating black woman AIDS. Anyone can say it's a subtle cautionary tale of anger and how it can consume you, but that plot point definitely will never allow me to defend this movie ever. It's my pet peeve.

[@brittenieevictoria7138]

Girl , temptation vexes my nerves so bad😫

[@itsdrea2353]

Understandable. But he definitely wasn’t rewarded in the end….those wounds aren’t survivable, and even if he did by some chance he won’t ever recover fully, so knowing what his second wife is capable of, do you think she would stay?

[@astamanista9447]

@@itsdrea2353 He still gets rich indirectly because he cheated otherwise he wouldn't have known Diana. Even then his fate at the end is debatably better than Melinda's who got "punished" fast (compared to Robert's 20+ years of abuse left untouched and he even had gone to happier period of time before Melinda went out of her way to "punish" him) by getting dragged down under the sea and died (compared to Robert's slim chance of survival and presumably still rich despite his new wife leaving him). I don't know, it's highly likely my bias still talking, but the situation still pisses me off.

[@kk6044]

But this shows how the black community feels about black women and black men, the women are never given grace but the men are always give a better ending

[@j.simonek84]

Honestly I feel like you can't have tunnel vision when it comes to movies like this. At the end of the day, though him being rewarded for cheating essentially is frustrating, that's not what the movie should be judged by. Regardless of his, in high opinion, 'undeserved success', melinda is responsible for her life afterward. She had the opportunity to seek help, get rid of her anger, make a better life for herself and she choose to hold on to her anger and her past.

[@SlavaZone]

She gave him her LIFE. She lost the ability to have children, only worked and never had fun, continually worried about losing the few things she did have (her house, her relationship with her siblings), probably prematurely aged due to stress, was put at higher risk of dying from high blood pressure and other things due to that stress... So she basically wanted him to give up his life (have the new wife jump off the boat, and then shooting him) in return. He got to start his life over as a millionaire with a loving wife and kid. So yeah, the $10million isn't going to get the years and opportunities back that she lost. I totally get that she couldn't move on. It's sad, but makes sense :(

[@Opbabyyx]

Exactly

[@chillsis1650]

I agree, however i think her ending was her fault

[@saralyn4062]

I agree. However, Melinda was ready to give up everything she had sacrificed for Robert when she divorced. She was entirely done with the situation- she wasn’t thinking of how she’ll get him to pay her back. It was only when he got rich that she now wanted him to “pay her back” so to speak. If he got rich and *then* left her I would understand the frustration- but she left him first.

[@chillsis1650]

@@saralyn4062 Exactly and some of the problems listed were her fault

[@whitzala]

I actually loved that her getting money meant nothing cos it was never really about the money, it’s EVERYTHING she gave up for him and alot of that was not monetary.

[@brandij3817]

what i learned from this movie: -look out for the sweet ones -don't let a man make you angry -don't go back to cheaters -do background checks on your SO -don't give men your money -MAKE SURE THAT MAN GOT A JOBBBB -girl just cut your loses

[@PassportKings]

What I learned: If your woman (with the help of her conceited friends) gives up on you before your vision is realized. Find a chick who will believe in you and reward her kindly.

[@yepjustanaccount3357]

​@@PassportKings more like play your supportive wife and then dump her like a bitch and forget all the years she helped you

[@paserock4361]

@@PassportKings Cheers mate!... still, get a Job in the meantime.

[@SophieCord]

​@@PassportKingsBut in the movie, he was manipulative, cheated on her, and basically coherced her to take all of her money

[@bubbles4897]

@@paserock4361m mom mom mom

[@NaturallyEmpressJojo]

I think something that wasn't discussed enough is that from a young age Melinda's entire life was tied to Robert but his was never tied to Melinda in anyway other than having a "sponsor." Her reason for being, her reason for waking up everyday was to work to support Robert. For 20 years. How does one move on from that? Moving on from Robert meant trying to find who she is as a person, her individual reason for exisiting and she never knew that before meeting Robert. But Robert was never so intertwined with Melinda in that existential way. Which is why within 6 months of divorce he was getting married with a child on the way. Because the reality for him wasn't "I want this life with Melinda" the reality for him was "I want this life with my wife," it didn't matter who she was. While the reality was Melinda was "this life is ONLY possible with Robert." Idk if I'm explaining it well.

[@shanniahmcleary9186]

No this is absolutely perfect

[@reggie3993]

This an element of the movie I haven’t seen anyone talk about but it’s such a good point. The idea that two people can have wildly different perspectives on a relationship (that they may not even be conscious of) and how that can lead to a person’s undoing, is both sad and terrifying. I don’t know if that message was intentional or anything but it’s definitely worth thinking about and probably something to keep in mind with regards to romantic relationships.

[@MayMay93]

I feel like the narrative of waiting for a prince kind of fit into that. Men aren't raised like that, I know not all women are raised like that.

[@RAIRAIN]

You’re so right! He mostly saw her as a sponsor. This dude didn’t work for 20 years but after the divorce he did find a job right 😒😒

[@nice1cool]

Yes ! This . I was offended that he didn’t want that with her he just wanted that with his wife ... who could be any f’Ing body wtf

[@why7242]

These TW’s have slowly but surely are getting more and more out of pocket.

[@naomilee3726]

You did not lie

[@jj4891]

I’m dying.

[@ioh7908]

What’s TW’s ?

[@ashleyp4404]

@@ioh7908 trigger warnings

[@penelopephelange]

And we are fully here for it!

[@aerongrimm3162]

Robert is a covert narcissist. They abuse and manipulate while perfectly playing the victim, and gaslight you so thoroughly that you (and everyone else) believe you're the crazy one. Having been abused by so many of them, it's actually kind of terrifying how triggering this character is. He's written perfectly.

[@nice1cool]

Facts , he’s definitely not a good guy

[@charmaineespeut4627]

Those people are very dangerous. They will have people go against you and even have yourself thinking if you are the true problem when you aren't. It's emotional abuse.

[@availanila]

And he gets what he's manipulated that CEO lady into getting for her. She's the new victim now, too bad the old victim doesn't see it. The sick part is that Tyler Perry tonally portrays him as the good guy victim.

[@Dez861]

I agree. Unfortunately, having seen much of Tyler Perry's other work, I don't think that was intentional.

[@fightingmedialounge519]

I don't think most cover narcissistic would buy back the house of the people they used. He's more emotionally unintelligent rather than just flat out narcissistic.

[@conansglasses2645]

10 million dollars can buy a lot of things , it CAN'T however , buy 20 years of youth and the ability to have kids of your own back

[@aworte3266]

Losing 20 years I understand, but her long inability to control her anger made her lose fertility. Not him. If someone cheats, just key a car or something. Don't crash that bitch while you're inside. That's just dumb.

[@alleyesonzee]

anger can be very blinding

[@DavidTUTD]

Whose decision was it to ram into the RV though?

[@hospitable_ghost]

@@DavidTUTD This. Also, they could have had kids that would have been "their own" by adopting. It's so gross when people act like adopted kids are lesser than biological kids. Your genes aren't that precious, I promise.

[@mariaskabardonis8353]

She chose to go extreme when she found Robert cheating. I get being angry but she didn’t have to do that far. I am of the camp that she should have moved on with ten million dollars. She could have gotten therapy moved on, and maybe adopted. However the movie needed to happen lol.

[@erikab1317]

Didn't it also seem like Robert basically clings/ attaches himself to women that will help him (Melinda car and home, later Diana access to Prescott, patience and healing) and promises them the same things as if the role can be filled by anyone. Melinda could see this as if she really wasn't valuable to him as a person but as a tool to get where he wanted. Robert definitely isn't the good guy/ victim in this film.

[@princemwamba5230]

Well i think the access to Prescott he wouldve used anybody for that oppurtunity if it presented itself which i dont blame him honestly

[@anlswa]

I hate how this movie ended because Melinda didn't get a chance to move on. I feel like it could've been better if she went to jail or survived the drowning then realize that all her tactics aren't worth it making her accept that her marriage was over. We still would've received the desired message. It annoyed me that Robert was able to live happily ever after with all he did but Melinda died in such a tragic way. This movie taught me many lessons but I'll never it again because it emotionally traumatized me.

[@tinymxnticore]

The movie wouldn’t have worked as a cautionary tale if Melinda moved on at the end…but her ex surviving and living his best life like the final girl in a horror film does not sit right with me.

[@ASCUMM011]

The ending to me is supposed to represent how if we let anger consume us instead of letting go and moving on, it can literally drag us down to the point of no return. That being said the ending made me mad too and I haven't been able to watch this again either smh.

[@heynae2016]

@@tinymxnticore i know right?

[@TheDawnofVanlife]

@@tinymxnticore I agree, the ending really unmade the movie. I get Melinda needed help for her anger, but she had a lot of reasonable reasons to be angry. While she took it too far I think the movie devolved into unreasonable crazy lazy as opposed to two flawed people come to a bad end.

[@madamefluffy4788]

There's no guarantee that Robert did live happily ever after, because it leaves it open on whether he survived the attack, or not (my guess is he didn't - given the gut wound, the ax wound and not being anywhere near help to prevent him from bleeding out, his odds are slim to none at surviving). Melinda got what she deserved (because of her severe anger issues and her inability to let go of a man she herself chose to divorce). Robert was an ass (there's no denying that), but seeing as he attempted to make amends for all the grief he had put his ex wife through by giving her far more money than she initially demanded from him AND got her mother's house back for her, he didn't deserve the end he got.

[@shaniah3566]

The voice kennie does for Robert is HILARIOUS. “Baby baby I so sorry” IS SENDING ME!!!

[@imani0nline]

Tyler Perry and it’s over an HOUR long, this is what we in the industry call a blessing 😌

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I love always seeing your comments under all my fav creators lol

[@why7242]

@@gastllyxo right like at this point it’s getting suspicious.

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[@nagisa0931]

We are being spoiled omg! Kennie is always spoiling us! I swear her videos are getting longer which is a gift to us

[@chichis3667]

To me this movie is a lesson in why as a woman, you don't help boys become men. She should have left him to build his battery and build himself instead of making the choice to stay with him. She could have found someone else who wasn't a project. He never proved himself to be good enough for her and took advantage of her. Don't date or marry projects. Date and marry men who are fully realised in who they are.

[@PassportKings]

So we can cheat on you with the woman who loved us before the money.

[@xxshanxx4290]

@@PassportKings This comment has no correlation as they didnt mention anything to do with cheating. Furthermore, why cheat when you shoudve just chose the women who loved you before the money, instead of getting into a relationship with another?

[@ayomidedareabel5525]

​@@xxshanxx4290he's just a bitter wannabe passport bro

[@portobeIIa]

@@PassportKings the fact that you say "cheat on you with" rathen than "pick" really says a lot about how you think of respect in relationships. a woman loves you and the most you can to for her when youre in a loveless relationship is make her your side bitch? stoooop you just like hurting people

[@Peach__soju__]

I’m a counselor and it seems more like she had intermittent explosive disorder. But they wanted to pick a disorder that’s more popular and stigmatized.

[@sseonghwaa7076]

That's exactly what I thought but I'm not a professional so I figured I wasn't picking up on everything that would lead to a BPD diagnosis.

[@PamelaBowsArt]

Could be ADHD or trauma as well!

[@smily1717]

yeah i have and have had a lot of friends with bpd and i didn't really think it applied. i feel like splitting would have been something they could have tried to throw in if they wanted a pop media kinda bpd character but they didn't even do that 😭

[@jamangel]

Yeah smh

[@gerenuk8245]

@@PamelaBowsArt how is that adhd

[@samminicksm]

The thing about the “You have 10 mil, just buy it yourself.” is that it’s not the things she wanted, it’s the appreciation through those things. She wanted to live the dream she had all those years, a world where she would appreciated and pampered buy the man she raised up. He had to be a part of the fantasy for it to relieve her, because he caused the stress. She was already dissatisfied with how she spent 20 years of her life, while dreaming of how good it could be. Now she has to watch Robert give that entire dream to a woman he cheated on with. A woman that put in the last 2% of the effort to his success gets the full 100% of the the relief for supporting him.

[@thismoment4life1]

This. It’s the fruition of the dream she spent 20 years being told about and working towards. In her mind, she did so much that she deserved to have the full thing because otherwise, she would have to stare her mistakes in the face. (75% blame on him and his manipulative ass but 25% on her because she’s always had a problem with anger and that coupled with stubbornness and being hopelessly in love, caused her downfall.)

[@BellesView]

Exactly!

[@ArturGlass.C]

Yep especially cuz as she said at one point the penthouse and the boat weren't even things that she was sure she wanted. He just assumed she wanted that because he did and hyped her up about it. She probably never actually took the time to sit down and consider what she actually wanted in her life and from her life since she spent her entire life dedicated to him with her only promise of a reward being him allowing her to be a part of his success story. There's nothing she can do with that money that can make it better for her. I mean maybe therapy but fuck having to accept you wasted almost your entire life for nothing is super hard. I got my childhood wasted and I'm still not completely over the grief of it when I do have my life in front of me to look forward too, so really can't imagine how hard of a process that would be especially when it wasn't even technically for nothing but for another woman you don't even know.

[@mst3kharris]

He used up all her energy and then tries to recharge her with money.

[@sarahwellons7127]

I completely agree with you. However, I don’t think she would have been happy even if they achieved everything they dreamed of and they remained married. I think he still would have been selfish and she still would have found other things to be angry with him about

[@HorrorBabyxo]

I always got the idea that they didn’t like the end of the movie basically how frustrating it was to see a black woman wronged and made the villain when she was rightfully angry

[@otunsha101]

Except towards the end she wasn't *rightfully * angry anymore. Melinda was always unhinged, and it just got worse till it resulted into proper derangement. She was wronged very badly, but she ultimately got a second chance at life that she refused to take because of her blinding anger.

[@blueblue1251]

@@otunsha101 yess fr She should’ve used the money he gave her and left/moved on Her anger played her like a puppet

[@alonajenkins5891]

@@otunsha101 The thing is she WAS rightfully angry. As a person who struggled through something similar and Has been through a hard stage of mental health, it wasn’t the car, the house, the boat, etc it was the fact that she was promised to live with the man she fell in love with and experience these things together. Her going through all that on her own with the 10 million doesn’t mean shit to her if she’s alone without the man she practically raised like a baby… from his toughest moments. All her hard work paid off just for another woman to reap the relationship she always wanted that’s why she’s pissed. Although she didn’t want him back, rightfully to protect herself, she did in her heart cuz she still will always love him. And living alone with all the money in the world doesn’t ever compare to living it with the person you fell in love with and raised from the bottom up. Seeing the girl he cheated with live that life and be able to have kids it felt like he still took away her happiness and future even when he gave the money and house back. She never healed she needed to heal completely.

[@otunsha101]

@@alonajenkins5891 nah because she chose to divorce him, and he wanted her back until he didn't. And when he moved on, she was resentful because he did. He is proper trash, but if Melinda wasn't the way she was he wouldn't have been able to ruin her life. Again, she said it herself that she wouldn't be able to move on until she was paid 1.2 mil. He gave her 10, plus the house. At that point, it was clear it wasn't the money. It was the fact that he was happy and she wasn't. He didn't ruin her life, they both did. After he apologised and offered her reparations, he wasn't to blame for whatever happened next, considering they were divorced, like she wanted.

[@otunsha101]

@@alonajenkins5891 their relationship was toxic, and after they divorced, like SHE wanted, they both had a chance to become better people without the other person. He took his chance, she didn't. She was offered court ordered therapy instead of jail and she rejected even that.

[@sarah-zv8ld]

i think a better ending would have been if she went to the newlyweds house, the one that she was always promised she would have, and actually fulfilled that promise of burning the house down just to take other people down with her. maybe robert and his new wife even escape before the fire takes them, but melinda just sits and boils in her anger while the house burns down around her, ultimately killing her. i think that's a more accurate metaphor than her drowning.

[@oof1941]

that ending would’ve been way better

[@whitzala]

Thissss

[@roa3432]

Plus she did say that in the movie so I think it would have been some great foreshadowing.

[@sarah-zv8ld]

@@roa3432 exactly !

[@sashabell2390]

That would’ve been beautiful

[@Shibouu59]

After 20 years, he only got $800,000 for this thing? That's like $40,000 a year, he could have made a similar amount of money by finding a job and then he wouldn't have been making everyone else miserable!

[@princemwamba5230]

@Janice White since when have we ever thought we all know it takes work to become wealthy

[@blueismylove3128]

To be fair he eventually got a HELLUVA lot more.

[@PassportKings]

Didn't finish the whole thing huh?

[@Wolflover431]

There's also another possible layer to this story. I think that perhaps her anger is an escape. She's so angry, but I think that she might sit in that anger instead of trying to move on because letting go of that anger means allowing yourself to grieve. And she has a lot to grieve. She lost a large portion of her life by being dedicated to a marriage with a manipulative man who constantly took advantage of her. And, for some people, anger is an easier and less painful emotion to feel than grief, pain, loss, and possible trauma. When you're so angry, you have someone to blame and something to focus on to distract you from everything else you're feeling. Letting go of that means letting the flood of pain in. It's easier to be angry than to allow yourself to feel the hurt built up inside yourself. Plus, she's used to anger. It's a familiar emotion she's felt most of her life. In a way, anger may feel safer to her because it's more familiar and comfortable to her than pain and grief is. We all have a "comfort zone" not just in our routines and things, but in our emotions. Her comfort zone is anger and, in her mind, its considered unsafe to venture outside that anger. To her, anger is safe. Not because it isn't painful but because its familiar and she knows what to expect; knows that anger like the back of her hand.

[@kyfy777]

This makes sense.

[@thefeelingoflookingataclea932]

The devil that we know, isn't.

[@professor.donut24]

Very well said. It's easier to confront others but it's so hard and painful to confront ourselves and our pain, especially if it has been building up for quiet some time.

[@ernie39]

Well-said!

[@AH-tu3km]

I think youre right on it. For me personally it feels like giving up to let that anger go. It feels like if I'm not angry anymore it's me saying what happened was ok. Especially if it's big shit like the main character went through. I've worked on myself and I've been able to let go of some big anger so don't worry about me lol. But you're right, a big part may be that people conflate letting go with forgiveness.

[@shaniaa1295]

One of the things that really irritated me about this. You telling me it didn't have any other company he could've tried to pitch his damn battery at. You're telling me for 20 damn years you only tried one company?

[@Ohmygatos35]

And he couldn’t work at least a part time job in the meantime 🤨😒

[@janel4429]

@@Ohmygatos35 for real! Ain't no way I would let my husband sit around for 20 years with no job!

[@dimples53209]

I have a former friend whose "waste of air" did not work for 10 years while she went thru several jobs, repossessions and bankruptcies. There are women out here like Melinda and men like Robert that will take advantage if you let them.

[@devillass6025]

@@Ohmygatos35 Exactly. 24 hours in a day, and he couldn't take some time out of his week to just work. With a 9 to 5, you can still spend the rest of the day working on your little battery, plus your 'off' days are completely free!! There was really no excuse, the boy just lazy.

[@bluz1864]

@@Ohmygatos35 exactly! Not even a part time night job. Literally anything!

[@JackedThor-so]

So, I'm a man and I am white, so I can in no way comment on the angry black woman trope. However, your breakdown of personalized anger as well as manipulation and scumminess not being exclusive to vocally angry people really hit home. You are 100% correct. I was recently taken advantage of by someone who was soft spoken and mild and seemingly sweet who used that to her advantage to get what she wanted. She was a friend with "big sister" energy to her. I think people have this concept in their head of what a manipulative person looks like and it often comes out looking like Mommy Dearest, blatant and obvious; loud and bombastic. But, in reality, it can be anyone, no matter how seemingly meek they are. I just really got a lot out of that discussion and really appreciated that take! 👍

[@sarah-zv8ld]

im sorry that happened to you

[@JackedThor-so]

@@sarah-zv8ld thank you! ❤

[@-Desire]

Oof, I hope you're okay after what happened to you

[@meccalucas7822]

This is so true, when someone is aggressive and manipulative it's easier to ignore them but when you perceive them as kind, a good person, or mild manner is a lot easier to be manipulated and it's harder to notice especially when you trust or love them.

[@raven3moon]

Sounds like either a covert narcissist, communal narcissist, or maybe a combination of the two.

[@rolanslide8509]

"when you look at someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags"

[@marim8494]

PLS not the bojack quote on the acrimony video

[@msqueenlyminded7579]

IMPORTANT LESSON:: Raise your baby girls to recognize and choose Mature, resourceful MEN, as suitable partners not unmade boy/men looking for help. It starts with our mothers setting the standard for our choices in many cases. Trust I know

[@williammahe]

And in addition to this, I think raising your boys to not treat women as therapists, life-rafts, welfare-support, punching bags, etc is also important. I don’t think Taraji’s character was wrong for seeing the best in someone, being patient with him, supporting him in his field of work (within reason and not as if he were a charity case for her to donate to), but the blame should be on the man for manipulating and exploiting her like he did. A lot of women are blamed for falling for the “wrong man” but I think the emphasis should be on the men for preying on vulnerable women. So raise your boys to be decent human beings and not narcissistic pieces of shit.

[@MikeyBee-]

She picked one of the most resourceful men in the world 😂. His resources just took some time.

[@AlsoNotimportant]

@@MikeyBee- Some time is a bit of an understatement

[@MikeyBee-]

@@AlsoNotimportant 😂 that’s why I laughed

[@flower3611]

Melinda was not just angry but she felt like she was screwed over. She did the work and now someone else is reaping the benefits. She was the one who struggled with Robert yet another woman is living the life she wanted and in her eyes is owed. If you noticed she always looks tired and worn out. Meanwhile the new wife looks beautiful and full of life. Yeah he gave her 10mil, her moms house back but that won’t give her back the years and her youth she lost to him.Melinda also fails to take responsibility that this was also on her. She could’ve walked away when he cheated on her yet she still stayed. She could’ve move on and gotten help yet she chose not to.

[@rayt3]

It’s not more so that he cheated that she should’ve left. She should’ve left a long time ago after the cheating because he wasn’t doing shit. 18+ years working 2 jobs while your husband sitting at the house doing nothing…that’s her problem. Plus, she shouldn’t got carried away with him cheating. They were bf/gf, not husband & wife. Cheating during bf/gf phase don’t mean nothing. He don’t belong to her and vice versa.

[@Maya_hee]

@@rayt3 "Cheating during bf/gf phase don’t mean nothing. He don’t belong to her and vice versa." That's a wrong take. They are in a relationship, they owe each other loyalty. Its not something that needs to be put on a paper for one to finally start doing it.

[@jaderhoden9897]

@@rayt3 if they cheat on you in the bf/gf phase what you think theyre gonna do during their marriage dating is literally a trial to see if you wanna spend your life with this person. if they cheat on you during trial run i mean it speaks for itself

[@patriece2215]

it’s not as simple as “he paid her back for all the money she gave him now she needs to get over it”. They were in love at one point and she’s essentially the reason he was where he was in life but as soon as he got where he needed to be she just got pushed to the side. He basically wasted her time for 20 years and she was hurt by it. She could never get those years back

[@TacseraEpSekahs]

That's true. But who said being so in love you're not seeing how bad your situation is smart? Her family told her multiple times and she still went on. So can the blame be only on Robert or she's an adult who made the decision to stay after all those red flags?

[@bro-ss2eu]

@@TacseraEpSekahs even if she is wrong. i think the point is he is too. who waste 20 years of someone's time

[@DiamondSuxx]

SHE was the one that wanted the divorce. SHE stayed with him for those 20+years. When it was over, the man gave her more money than she was owed. SHE chose to sit and fester in her anger. SHE chose to keep up with his life. Her ending is the consequences of her own actions. Robert is a piece of shit but it was her responsibility to move on just as he was doing and better herself and her life. They are both terrible in this instance; no one is a good guy

[@bro-ss2eu]

@@DiamondSuxx he was the one that wasted her time. he was the one that manipulated and financially abused her. even if her actions were misplaced he is still very wrong for using. he paid her like 10% of his money for the 50% of her time he took. not to talk of the fact that money will never bring back her youth or life he wasted away. how does one move from that. to make it worse after it was almost like he was tempting her. the boat,the child that man was disgusting her anger was justified. it's only her actions that weren't

[@bro-ss2eu]

@@DiamondSuxx also robert didn't have to move on because he never envisioned a life with melinda. only a wife(as in a figure that could have been anyone) robert got no consequences for his actions while melinda did. even worse robert did worse things. HE was a manipulative piece of shit

[@yasidiaz8659]

I can’t believe I’m saying this about a Tyler Perry movie, but the portrayal of mental health is way better than most movies in this series. Of course, not perfect, but better than others.

[@tarakennedy707]

It wasn't though. I have borderline personality disorder. This was way way off.

[@jocelyncooper1738]

@@tarakennedy707I have bpd as well, and I’m tired of the media portraying people with bpd is irrationally angry and obsessed all of the time.

[@_jakester_0444]

@@jocelyncooper1738 I don’t think they were saying that all people with BPD are angry and obsessive. I think it accurately portrays how letting the illness go unchecked for decades and never learning how to properly control your emotions can lead to an outburst when traumatic situations happen. The anger isn’t because of the illness, her reasonable anger is intensified by untreated illness

[@diamonmagic]

I agree with Yasi in that this movies portrayal of mental health being a good one because of the complexity of the dynamics of the relationships, emotions, and events that took place. The movie's presumed diagnosis of borderline personality disorder wasn't accurate based on the symptoms/signs they noted though. And that portrayal can be harmful to people that have lived experience.

[@siginotmylastname3969]

@@diamonmagic you're bang on.

[@yesimsureienteredmynamecorrect]

The one Tyler Perry movie without the light skinned savior, ended with the black woman dying in chains. I stopped watching his movies bc I didn't wanna see black women traumatized anymore, only able to be redeemed by love from a man. He vilifies us too much for me to give any of his movies a chance. I did, however, enjoy your breakdown of it. Lol

[@laurazepam8382]

But Tyler Perry is our saviour 😂

[@sugarpearl9781]

I would’ve like the movie more if Melinda won in the end. Sympathetic but morally ambiguous white women are allowed to get their happy endings in movies, why can’t black women? I wanted Melinda to ruin Robert Gone Girl style.

[@charitymonzon5373]

PLEASE I WANTED THIS SO BAD

[@jaderhoden9897]

in this movie its not about race its a cautionary tale. if they did the ending your way the message would be entirely different.

[@cworthy443]

The whole time watching this movie I kept just thinking “why doesn’t he just make a start-up and get crowd sourced? Or move to the Silicon Valley? Or join a think tank? Or get donors/sponsors/investors? Or contact another mega company? Or rent out rooms in the house? Or rent out the whole house and live with the sister/ get an apartment? Or take in Foster kids which will give them children and checks?

[@jennterry6977]

Because Tyler Perry lacks imagination :)

[@kristinjames4025]

All of that makes so much sense... Honestly, Perry needs more writers

[@devonmunn5728]

​@@kristinjames4025 he writes all of his projects himself

[@InfiniteInk444]

Yeah. Like, I’m an engineer. I don’t really know any engineers who are so illogical with their life choices. I’m sure they’re out there- but most get a stable job and work on these other projects that they eventually sell or consult for on the side.

[@hellolove5613]

Don’t know if this has been said, but I found it really upsetting that in Roberts turn around, he’s literally doing everything he promised his first wife but just replaced her - like it didn’t really matter who played his partner, because his dreams were all about possessions and nothing to do with relationships. He didn’t make friends, has no family, etc. Hes so uninteresting and depthless, he just had a list of all the things that would make him feel like he “made it,” it doesn’t matter at all who is with him. Such a shame Melinda couldn’t see this before.

[@sheisaMachine]

Well he soaked up his first wife. He took everything and turned her into a sad existence. He left her at his prime to find someone else in their prime. He couldn’t be with the same woman bc she wasn’t the same. He’d soiled her with his dependency, cheating, and inability to co habitate or provide equal. He was her burden and she shrank under his growing weight.

[@princemwamba5230]

@@sheisaMachine its like yall forget he was the one that tried to stop the divorce she filed for it she left him wtf is he supposed to do run back to the woman that left him wtf is wrong with yall

[@princemwamba5230]

And a lot of people like him dont have a lot of friends in real life

[@yasminemedina2542]

@Prince Mwamba you mean he wanted to stay with her before he became successful. She was always there for him when he was down, which makes sense since he was low key dependent on her for everything. Of course he wanted to be with her! He was still down on his luck. The second he became successful he latched on to another woman. Diana was kind of idolizing him by not seeing him for what he really was. She didn’t have to deal with his manipulation for 20 years. She wasn’t the one holding him down at his worst. Btw isn’t it weird that everything he promised her, he had no problem giving it to someone else? Melinda isn’t perfect but he definitely manipulated her by feeding her everything he always wanted, he never took into account what she wanted. That’s why he had no problem finding someone who would fill that spot. At the end it was still about him. He played both of them tbh.

[@princemwamba5230]

@@yasminemedina2542 theres nothing weird about that at all he got with her before shit took off because he has a new girl she shouldnt get none of the shit he wanted to give to his ex

[@CariDMM]

The husband is definitely abusive. Manipulation is definitely abuse. You could probably call him a covert narcissist. He's gross. But I think I'm surprised that she wasn't institutionalized before the climax. I wish they would've gone a different route. Mental health is demonized. It's kind of sad. This whole movie was just so sad.

[@victoriashevlin8587]

What he did was not just manipulation, it would fall under the heading of Financial Abuse(in psych and counselling, not sure about legal).

[@lolaBee9]

Yes, covert narcissism wouldn't be a stretch for him

[@CariDMM]

@@victoriashevlin8587 he was so bad. He slowly drove her over the edge repeatedly. He lied to her too. There's also this problem where a lot of people with cptsd are misdiagnosed with bpd. It's a lot.

[@romantic_hippie]

@@CariDMM he didn't drive her over the edge, she had issues that she never got help for. don't blame her being crazy on him lol

[@CariDMM]

@@romantic_hippie she did have issues. There's no denying that. She lost family at a young age. That can do a lot to a person but he did push her. She snapped and she never recovered. I understand her anger but she did not deal with it in a healthy way. If this was my friend or sister, I would've intervened long before she committed any crimes. But he deserved to get his karma though.

[@royaljuiice3185]

Can we please talk about how people assumed she had anger issues? Her feelings weren’t misplaced. They were directed right at the person that abused her financially for 20 years of their marriage. She tucked her anger so deep, she started to think her family was wrong for telling her to leave Robert. It got to the point where he was in her ear about them. He was a quiet and passive-aggressive person, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that he was a narcissistic individual. Not only did he cheat at the beginning of them talking but she got into a bad accident that resulted in her not being able to have children. Let’s not forget home girl he cheated with being the head of the place he was sending his ideas to. Getting all the reprimands and dreams he sold his ex wife. What sent her over the edge was when ol girl purposely told her in court she was pregnant😭 I can watch this movie back to back and still be on Taraji side. Cause it makes sense. She deserved better.

[@litelito8570]

Word!! I cant watch it. It really triggers me.i cant stand tyler perry movies!!

[@rudedrugs]

i think that, as someone with bpd and has been fucked over like she has time and time again, she was never unjustified. but by the time she was offered REAL help it was too late, she was already consumed by it all. it's like everyone just shrugged their shoulders like 'yeah she's angry but that's how she is,' not to mention were made used to anger in their family as told by how their father was the same way. but ultimately she just ended up punishing herself in the end with her anger because she let it control her. everyone just watched. and she was only ever chastised, never comforted. she was lectured instead of made to feel valued and cared for.

[@Affenzunge]

No. She could have walked away at any point. I can't stand people who rather be angry than actually change themselves or their life. It's an easy way out and look where it had gotten her.

[@Catglittercrafts]

Didn’t give her a right to kill or try to kill anyone

[@Catglittercrafts]

@@rudedrugs I hope you are getting help.

[@GiGiGlam1]

I don't think anybody agrees with Melinda's actions. I think most people feel anger can lead to your demise. What triggers me in Tyler Perry movies is that there is usually some really hard lesson for the black woman to learn. Like "girlllll if you just did this, you wouldn't ruin your life." It's this constant theme. Horrible things happen to the women, but it's their own shortcomings that lead to their demise. It kinda feels like he finds a bunch of diff outlandish scenarios with the overall message of "do better black ladies. You see the things you miss out on, or the pain you cause in your own life." It's a recurring thing. That's why so many people probably hate this movie. It's the ultimate tapping of the hands "aht aht see what you did." 😂 If this was from someone who had a different history in movie themes, it would be a true life lesson. But bc of the consequences he always depicts in his movies, as a result of the black woman's own doing, it feels yuck lol. The men be horrible too... like wayyyy worse, but it seems like the overall commentary and harsh consequences are reserved for the women, in most of the movies I've seen.

[@jjescorpiso21]

i feel like i've read your comment before 🤔 just sayin 😂

[@blueismylove3128]

Know what? I definitely see what you saying

[@-s-3508]

Yes now I understand completely

[@brianacci]

yeah you’re right which is why I can’t take Tyler Perry movies seriously, and I can’t wrap my head around why older black women love his movies so much. He profits off their pain ??

[@senselesslibraa]

also why did the second wife tell melinda about the baby knowing that she was obsessed and could possibly hurt them both? made no sense to me

[@midnight_blue6793]

Finally someone mentioned this, I found that quite disrespectful because she was also the minor factor in the reason Melinda couldn't have a baby. Then, the second wife shouldn't have married Robert knowing that Melinda thought or assumed they were having an affair. So, it was safe to say they were since right after their divorce they got together and she reaped the benefits of what was rightfully Melinda's. She was trash as well.

[@blueismylove3128]

@@midnight_blue6793 Nope, it's not safe to say they had an affair, BUT she's still trash and let me tell you why..... Diana made it clear anything to do with Dusty Nigga, she wanted platonic only because she knew he wasn't ish. Notice how she only got with him when he made his big break through? It's safe to say that Diana's a golddigger. Also, Crust Bucket said they didn't have an affair during their marriage and he has continued saying this even after the divorce were he as no reason to lie anymore if he was. I believe Robbed My Wife For 20 Years is a lot of things, but not a liar.

[@blueismylove3128]

Yeah that was definitely to twist the knife in deeper. She knew what she was doing .

[@kristinjames4025]

Gloating... It could get you killed one day. This is why I brag and gloat to myself

[@elleofhearts8471]

I dont think she was a gold digger not not getting with Robert while he was still broke. She can see what marriage did to taraji's lifr and potential and she doesn't want that happen to her. Look at all that's she's worked for in Robert's absence. She doesn't want Robert draining her the way he drained taraji. And the way to not get drained by Robert is to not get seduced by him. Now that he has his own money she doesn't need to worry about him taking from her. Because he has his own now. I think she was smarter for not dating Robert because she didnt fall into the trap of thinking what happened to taraji couldn't happen to her too. She was simply learning from taraji's mistakes, as she should.

[@Yourfriendandhomie]

While I can understand the dislike for this movie, this movie is literally some people’s lives. That unfiltered angry that doesn’t seem to go away, that’s literally trauma my dude Edit: just wanted to add a few more things. I don’t support what Melinda did. I’m saying while she was angry for reasons we all would be angry about, she still let that anger consume her. And while that may be due to trauma, it’s your responsibility to handle that trauma accordingly. I understand her anger, it doesn’t make it right

[@cvltclassic893]

Yeah I have BPD and that uncontrollable anger thing is something I COMPLETELY relate to

[@gucciasalways]

This is what stuck out to me too. Like, I get not liking it, but as Kendall said, this movie seems more self aware and relatable than the typical “angry black woman” trope. I mean, I’m not at the extreme level of the character in the movie, but I am a very generally “angry” person, and I also happen to be black. And I relate so much to the feeling like I’m entitled to that anger while also fighting with the idea of being a walking stereotype. That one line, to me, signifies an actual understanding of the position the character’s in, and I don’t think that’d be present in a mindless stereotype

[@fon420]

@@cvltclassic893 same. man, the rage is literally BLINDING. i just wish they focused on how bpd makes ALL emotions intense, not just anger. the worst part is, i didn’t realize how extreme and intense i felt things until someone pointed it out. the way mood fluctuates to the extremes on all spectrums and so fast physically exhausts me sometimes lol

[@cvltclassic893]

@@fon420 THIS!!! I had No idea that I was different or that not everyone felt things like I did and that's partially because the people around me kinda enabled me you know? Like no one would ever confront me or talk to me about my behavior and when someone did those people would just tell me I was fine and everything was fine. It wasn't until I not only found a friend that also had this disorder who was honest and upfront with me but I also found out that the friends who enabled me talked about me behind my back that I realized that there was something off about me. Ever since then I've been trying to be more mindful and just think about my emotions when they hit me. It's just hard though because they all Hit so Hard and so Fast

[@SuperGirl90100]

Fantastic point!

[@passionfruit3133]

I honestly thought this was a pretty decent movie. It also doesn't glorify struggle love. The movie pretty much goes out of it's way to tell you that their love is toxic and in no way should be glorified. One of the only things I didn't like were the abrupt switches between past and present.

[@canipetthatdawg9377]

I HATED that like why couldn’t they just be normal and start at the beginning with her just narrating every now and then

[@dcmkflylo1603]

@@canipetthatdawg9377 oh GAWD the narration....I probably wouldnt dislike the film as much if Taraji's character just shut up for more than five minutes.

[@musebychloe]

yea i was about to say i hated the flashbacks but overall this movie is pretty good. and ofc taraji served as per usual

[@itsdrea2353]

This!!💯

[@TanisC]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@AcidicGumdrops]

The scene of Melinda being dragged down into the darkness by the anchor and that being a metaphor of her anger was incredibly impactful. I've never seen this movie outside of the clips in the video but watching her sink down like that actually punched me in the gut.

[@gab2386]

Kennie defending Tyler Perry, this oughta be good 😂

[@SuperKiona123]

"I think it has *something* which is saying alot for a Tyler Perry film cause most have very very little" I wouldn't exactly call it defending lmao, she may be impressed w the movie but she came for him so casually on several occasions "His fuck*ng inflated ego" And they go on as the video does 😂🤣 its actually hilarious

[@ririschannelx]

I love that Perry exists tbh, allow some black directors to be mediocre!!! They can’t all be Spike Lee or Barry Jenkins!!

[@Molly-iw1rc]

@@ririschannelx I wish he wasn't so proud of being mediocre 👀

[@ririschannelx]

@@Molly-iw1rc that’s true

[@mymyhi9921]

Better him than for Harriet

[@leilao.3528]

These comments are incredible. Never in a million years did I think I’d see an in-depth earnest debate about a Tyler Perry movie. But here I am, reading the comments and invested.

[@decarloharris9996]

I come back to just see at least once a year

[@essencemealing5897]

My thing with Tyler Perry is almost everything he does is having a black woman being done wrong by a darkskin man and that’s all the plot is centered around. Like I could understand if that wasn’t a common theme with him.

[@saininj]

I loved it when The Boondocks roasted him for that.

[@benjirivoh]

right. if it wasnt madea, it was "lightskin man: good. darkskin man: bad, black woman should be with lightskin man, darkskin man is abusive and mean, lightskin come save the day"

[@bigmona2741]

If he didn’t cast as many dark skinned men y’all would complain that there isn’t enough representation. Always have to find a reason to complain.

[@ninjanibba4259]

This is why I only stick with House of Payne (the early one)

[@Godlywoman88]

😄

[@JMac7395]

I think part of the reason why Melinda's rage was so intense is because she refused to acknowledge & accept her part in maintaining the toxic relationship/marriage with Robert the User

[@cherhorroritz3298]

I’m white and I watched this movie solely because Taraji P Henson is my dream wife. I stayed because I love a righteous anger story. Not my first Tyler Perry and definitely not the worst. Richard was realistic as hell as a slowburn villain.

[@Vampwars]

You know, I hear that a lot of people didn’t like this movie & I was surprised because, for me, this movie made my relationship stronger. My Man (who hates Tyler Perry movies but can’t explain why) watched this (because I really wanted to watch it because I love Taraji P. Henson) & enjoyed it even though he insisted on pausing it & asking me questions each time something happened… until it got to the grown Robert+Diana scenes. He & I were equally disgusted at Robert for giving Diana everything he had been promising Melinda. We were like, “Ah hell naw, REALLY?! You can’t come up with any other dreams, fool?!” 🤣 Robert may have given Melinda 10 million dollars but he owed her so much more. He owed her respect, some appreciation & some actual human decency, not just money. And he never apologized to her for the 20 (or however many) years of bullshit he put her through. I think that’s why Mel went OFF so badly. I’m not justifying her insanity, I’m acknowledging that he played a crucial role in her mental decline. It was almost like he did that shit to purposely hurt her but in actuality, he was just so unoriginal, he couldn’t come up with new ideas. But that don’t take away the hurt, the pain, the suffering, the time & effort that Melinda put into him. She was willing to give him everything, even before they were married & all he did was lie, make up excuses, drive a wedge between her & her family & cheat on her. Mind you, I know he only physically cheated on her once (when he was young & foolish) but while I was watching the movie, I realized that the reason that Mel was pissed to the umpteenth power is because she felt like he had cheated her out of a better life. And you know what? He really did. My point is: “Acrimony” is a good movie to watch while being in a relationship because then you get to have these discussions with your partner & you also get to let’em know that if they try to pull any Robert stunts, they’re gonna get some Melinda consequences 🔫👩🏽‍🦱 No, it’s not that. It’s basically a cautionary tale not to be as much of a buster as Robert, not to be as angry as Melinda, & not to be as petty as Diana because that bitch KNEW saying that shit in court about being pregnant was gonna hurt Melinda & she thought that poking the bear was a smart idea. And that’s why she’s a pregnant Widow ☕️

[@Jwizzle101]

I love this comment sm. “Robert stunts and Melinda consequences” gold😂😂👌🏽. You’re absolutely right. Especially the cheating her out of a better life. The REAL betrayal.

[@itsnotmeitsyou717]

I love the way u broke it down❤

[@-Desire]

Yes! I love this comment, I agree with you so much especially about Diana, and I haven't even been in a relationship before lol. But Diana took everything Melinda has worked for and brought up the child for petty reasons

[@Tiarose88]

Pregnant widow 🤭🤭😂

[@marshmallow927]

Not a pregnant widow 🤭 no but I really like how you broke this down and I agree! Even though she got money he took away years of her life, and definitely was a reason that she ended up the way she did.

[@Shay-it2sg]

I just wish someone was punished besides the BW who endured the most.

[@patriece2215]

Exactly!!!!!!

[@nahdiarodgers]

This movie will always hit home. Watched this movie whilst I was in a relationship helping a guy build himself, helped him study and apply for jobs the works and felt like I was Melinda at the time in terms of everything I was doing for him. He found a job, then we broke up. Couple of months later he married the woman he told me not to worry about and she got everything I built with him. So in relating to her, I never saw anything she did as wrong. I'm not an angry person so seeking vengeance wasn't a thing BUT I still wish he'd at least apologize to me for the way he went about things.

[@bro-ss2eu]

i'm so sorry

[@charmaineespeut4627]

People are such users. Chrissie said in her videos never be the come up woman and I can understand why. Alot of men don't know loyalty and they have no respect for people that help them. They will associate the woman that helped them with struggle.

[@sbaxter3252]

That's painful. I hope he gives you that apology, but sometimes you have to give yourself that closure. Shameless Maya has a good vid about it

[@foggyfrogy]

a tip for everyone, if you start feeling like you're more like a mother to your boyfriend than a lover.... leave as fast as possible (same thing for men)

[@nahdiarodgers]

@@foggyfrogy exactly what my therapist told me. I actually started seeing a therapist because of this relationship and it opened my eyes to the toxic pattern I was creating in relationships.

[@baddkoneko1549]

If I got 10 million dollars and I got my home back, yo my wounds would heal like wolverine. 😂

[@SilkyLew]

Right? She was tripping

[@Maya_hee]

@@SilkyLew She was definitely not tripping. That money was a good amount but it was not enough to make up for all that crap, the manipulations, the gaslighting, the infertility and the loss of 20 years of her life that she was subjected to. The only difference between us and her is that she had an underlying condition that made her compelled to act differently while we would probably just be too burnt out to just bother. The anger however, is absolutely justified.

[@TheBivie]

I cant believe he didnt get a job for 20 years- like not even a part time job to support. So many work and then do their side hustles on the side or after work etc but that he didnt work for 20 years. i'm suprised they lasted that long.

[@kd8663]

This does do a good job of illustrating the idea that while our anger can be valid and even justified, WE are still responsible for the actions we take due to our anger. My little one has anger issues and it's always important to make that distinction when I correct him- that it's okay to feel things, but it's not okay to lash out because of them.

[@romantic_hippie]

Agreed. My husband has anger management issues and I always repeat this: I'm not saying you can't be angry, but how you act when you're angry is not ok

[@mymyhi9921]

I just love ur pic literallyawerewolf

[@zero1188]

She not justified though, she 100 percent in the wrong

[@Drewski217]

I think you sold this movie better than Tyler or literally ANYONE ELSE ever could. I have zero faith in his intentions with portraying mental health and black women this way BUT you made a case for how this could've played out better had the director been more caring and, you know, NOT shot this in a week.

[@TeddyVerseti1]

And...you know...Tyler Perry.

[@jazzywazzy8906]

I still respectfully hate this movie. My biggest issue with it isn’t necessarily the quality of the movie, the camera quality and acting is much better than most of his garbage. My issue is that it shows his aversion to happy independent and/or mentally stable black women in a more grand scale than usual. I agree, the main characters blackness is not as overtly central to this particular movie as with his others, but I can’t view this movie without the context of his other works. We know darn well Tyler Perry chose a black woman with to play this role a reason. “Black” doesn’t have to be in the title of the movie for us to know what that the fact the this woman is black is important to the message he’s tryna deliver. Overall, I feel disrespected that he took this great opportunity to create a film that had a better budget than most of his work and was advertised more diversely, to go even further on his anti bw type beat. Usually its “angry black woman ‘fixed’ by a man” but this was more extreme. If literally anyone else made it it’d be ok, but the context of it being a Tyler Perry movie fucked it up bc I know this mf had ulterior motives 😂

[@yoshmarsh8412]

Well most of his movie is black based but I get what your saying it's like them women needs a man to fix what's broken

[@ToriOfTheNile]

Yup. Exactly. You are completely spot on. Tyler Perry has an... obsession, with the struggle and pain of the black woman. He has an issue. He constantly coddles and babies black men, while subjecting black female characters to pain, unfair and undeserved treatment, struggle, and abuse. No matter how one argues it, because of Tyler Perry’s bad habit and obsession, it doesn’t matter how well he bundles it up, his storytelling never changes. And I’m convinced it’s because he’s the only one writing in his movies. It’s all him, and he lacks creativity or vision.

[@yoshmarsh8412]

@@ToriOfTheNile I think he hates black women and just shows them as helpess and angry needed the help of an man to help them while it want to make the black men seem powerful or right no matter what bs they do , you can tell by his other movies

[@valeriewilson182]

@@ToriOfTheNile @JasmineColes You both articulated perfectly why this film makes me sick to my stomach.

[@colors4vana293]

@@valeriewilson182 same

[@aeriellee3067]

I feel like the only reason she was able to keep things together like she was (even though it wasn't great), was that she could end every angry thought with, "at least I'm not waiting for something that will never happen! At least I got out of that horrible relationship" and the fact that everything she LITERALLY worked for/put aside/ invested time in for her future her ENTIRE early adulthood, and life... and she finds out that it was possible, just not with her, is heart wrenching. It has to hurt, and its coupled with the frustration that she did what she was supposed to do, and she STILL doesnt get the dream she always wanted? How can you not be an angry person/get worse??

[@jrobb8845]

I did like the movie. Her anger was justified just channelled wrong. As you said it’s about choices. However, Robert was major trash. They lived together that long and he never saw her temper again?! He gave her the money to keep her from coming after him! 😂😂 what about the sisters did he pay them back too?! 😂😂

[@zero1188]

He gave her 10 million dollars he paid her bacm. She was just bitter

[@mai-zx7my]

@@zero1188 she became bitter bcoz of him

[@SilkyLew]

@@mai-zx7my you can't be too bitter with 10 million. They both were toxic. I don't agree with none of them. I rather be around someone like Robert than someone who's a danger to herself and others.

[@elizabethe.1485]

I think it’s the most realistic movies he’s ever done…however he ruined it in the end 🙄

[@cimsim597]

It would've been much more poetic if she just sunk the ship with her on it. In reference to both her superstition with water being bad luck for her and the part where she says she would burn down a house with her in it just to take others with her. Would have had extra poetic points bc fire and water are normally opposites but the one thing fire, water, and melinda have in common are there potential for extreme destruction.

[@elizabethe.1485]

@@cimsim597 wow! That would’ve been wayyyyy better

[@littlesparrow303]

Yep!! I remember seeing this in the theaters. I’m like dang it shows that good things can happen to you if you wait. But I understand if a certain dream from their partner doesn’t take off. That it can make the person just give up on the relationship & try not to do the work themself. However I agree with the ending it wasn’t good

[@Inoorne]

Kennie: “so this isn’t a bad movie, actually.” Me: *settles in with a snack.*

[@Inoorne]

Low key tho I would have snapped too.

[@AngeliqueElijah]

Yess! Robert is definitely the more realistic version of a man that is a user and a manipulator; "quite danger" fits perfectly.

[@gabriela548800]

What I take away from this movie is: It's a cautionary tale of "Do not be Barbara the builder for a man." How often have women (specifically black women) held it down for a man, and stayed in the "struggle love" being the "ride or die" just for these same men to turn around and pull the rug from under these womens feet? Too many to count. It reminds me of one story from Megan Thee Stallion where she had a physical altercation with a dude she was seeing, when the police arrived (a neighbor called or something) she denied he had beaten her, and that motherfucker turns around and says SHE had been the one beating HIM! So, Ladies listen up, a man wants something from you? He better step the fuck UP and have his shit together. You can "build together" when y'all are married and both are putting in similar levels of effort with the expectance of similar level of reward for each of you.

[@__L__837]

The same goes for men and boys. Y’all are not projects, you’re not objects that need to be assembled by the women in your life. It’s YOUR life, it’s your responsibility to get it together, if a woman wants to help you get there then that’s great but you have no right putting the full burden of your issues and blame when those issues most likely don’t get resolved, on her. Women are not your therapists. It is not our job to transform you into a respectable person

[@ashleycarter9841]

Your analysis for the first 15 min has got me in tears. You really can’t be a black woman who is angry. You have to be a angry black woman. For the past two years I have completely detached myself from any emotion just so I don’t end up being defined as the angry black woman. For awhile I have felt that is wrong to feel this way. I may end up watching this movie but I don’t feel like crying all over again.

[@yoshmarsh8412]

He took one thing that she could never get back, her youth which is why we all should be careful on who we want to spend the rest of our life with because In the end we can make new memories and date new people but we can't replace the years that we spent

[@quenepacrossing4675]

Forreal no one is commenting on the fact that he took away her TIME. That’s a lot of years wasted she can never return to, none of the money in the world will turn back time.

[@yoshmarsh8412]

@@quenepacrossing4675 exactly bruh that's why she was so angry she wasted her life on him but yet he thought giving her 10 million was going to fix everything money can only do so much

[@DiamondSuxx]

She chose to give him her time though, just as he did the same. She could've divorced him at any moment

[@bro-ss2eu]

@@DiamondSuxx she chose to give. but you fail to realize he TOOK. not to talk of taking advantage of her at a vulnerable moment in her life creating a trauma bond with him

[@DiamondSuxx]

@@bro-ss2euYes he chose to take lmao; she chose to give. It is partially on her. When a man shows you he's a piece of shit you don't continue to give. And what vulnerable moment?

[@mercy8406]

I pray Christ and Cupid never gang up to curse me like this.

[@Jwizzle101]

😂😭😭😭😭facts

[@maygem8005]

This comment....chef's kiss

[@itsnotmeitsyou717]

😂🤭lmao

[@Lisa-iw5yx]

Same

[@tosinakin2508]

Amen 🙏 Same!

[@mercy8406]

I love how this movie is set up with an unreliable narrator recounting their marriage from anger management. It’s such an interesting framing device, because from the beginning you know both of these people aren’t innocent, and both of them have done wrong, especially with lines she says when she gets married “I heard myself say yes”, or the time skip past 18 years. Even though she never acknowledges it, she’s way too passive in her own faults and how she has chosen this life with her actions, and it’s tragic that she never accepts/ admits it. I’ve loved this movie for its conversation since I watched it back in 2018, I just wish the ending, like the movie, had been a bit more subtle and crafted better. An ending like in Election, or one where she, even if she’s still mad and a bit bitter, takes the blame and let’s this stupid dream she’s had about her and Robert go, and identify herself as something beyond a wife.

[@lw5110]

This is a cautionary tale about dating potential. Something women, especially black women always seem to get caught up in.

[@cimsim597]

Time is so often equated with money. This guy repaid her in money, but he can never repay her for her time. Im confident we'd all accept the insane outrage a little more if he didn't pay her back the money. Getting paid this money is best case scenario. But time is money. Time is just as valuable.

[@lilimuyunda5030]

Time is even more valuable.

[@takishasallbeautyzone]

I'm not saying Melinda was right...I'm just saying, I understand 😐.

[@lona9461]

True like honey 20 years of my youth I cannot get back

[@tiffanyrose9446]

Same I didn't think this was a bad movie because, I Understand

[@kaylag.5807]

Okay, I have lots of thoughts but the main thought I have is about how her fit of rage resulted in infertility. Infertility is often used as a punishment or as a device for madness in film and literature. It's an easy way for trash writers to be like yeah she can't have kids so now she's going insane. Or hey so she did something terrible so BOOM she can't have babies and that's what she really wanted. Some of the reasons can be more subtle like she's just a woman and we need trauma to ✨spice✨ it up. Infertility is even used as a literary punishment for having sex. You often see this in Victorian sensationalist literature where the women either go mad because of too much sex, having an illegitimate child, or because they fell in love with another man while married. Meanwhile the man, who may also be trash, gets away with everything or only suffers a minor punishment. Just a little thought...

[@BleedingLiar17]

Yeah I see it, women are always punished with their body or children or even lack of children. They’re even exploited because of the fact they can reproduce

[@rudedrugs]

except she was always burdened by anger, before she became infertile. it's more like her anger and the cards she was dealt from the beginning led to her losing the ability to fulfill her dream of being a mother to a child she birthed.

[@missdella4990]

This really is an accurate representation of how gentle abusive manipulators act 🤮

[@whitzala]

Tyler leaned too heavily into the trope of “they just snapped”. He didnt spend enough time doing justice to her anger in the course of the 18+ years. He could have spent time adding those nuances to build to the climax and really allow her way more empathy and compassion vs “oh she craazzzzyy”

[@Angel-uo5yi]

This movie gave me a come to the light moment Because I had anger like her The "Imma burn the whole house down to take you down with me" The "imma destroy the world to make sure you die too"Type anger and watching this and her unfold and break then die It was like damn.. Maybe I should get help And I did I took anger management and saw a therapist

[@sharnagrayson9649]

I’ve been WAITING for this one Chile I hate the concept of this movie but damn tarajii can act her ass off

[@mst3kharris]

I feel like she should get the opposite of a warning at the start, you know? Like, “TW: Tyler Perry. Recommendation: Taraji P. Henson.”

[@alexjames3131]

I’m so ready, this movie tore families apart

[@yoshmarsh8412]

Ong

[@romantic_hippie]

How did it tear families apart?

[@hakiymyoung2513]

the arguments, even now I keep getting flashes

[@BrittanyH87]

I’ve seen debates about who was wrong (Taraji or her husband) years after this movie came out lol

[@jaytearra89]

I remember my conworkers at my job had an INTENSE argument about this movie 💀💀💀I was like not all this heat for a Tyler Perry movie 💀💀

[@khweziza5397]

“...done wrong by another dark skinned black man...” yoooo 😮 I’ve actually never noticed this, but now that you say it 🤯

[@canipetthatdawg9377]

Yep and if you pay attention they’re almost always “saved” by a lightskin dude

[@thequietdreamer2186]

And guess who got upset when The Boondocks pointed this out?

[@casper1127]

Wait till notice how "subtle" they are with what hair style the women get depending on their role 👀

[@TheeTage]

And the lightskin men are always rescuing them🙄

[@yageshabazz3456]

Tyler Perry actually subverts his trope in one of his shows. The bald, dark skin guy is the savior...i don’t remember what the woman’s ex looked like tho

[@Luker545]

He did not have to get his new wife the same exact ring he promised her, like what was he thinking. He should have built/picked a new ring with her, that shit would be upsetting for either woman to find out about.

[@PassportKings]

She divorced him. She chose to no longer be taken into consideration.

[@phenyo_sc]

Bruh that was so fucking evil

[@Kittycouture_xox]

@@PassportKingsthat’s still crazy tho. He literally replaces her completely

[@katiejuby]

honestly, as someone who feels that same blind rage as melinda that i inherited from my father, this movie made me feel strangely validated in the sense i am doing alright despite not being exactly where i want to be because i had that same moment in that therapy office where i accepted that help. it concretes the knowledge that if i never got help, that i held onto that insatiable anger, that i mightve ended up like melinda or in jail like my father. i see a lot of people dogging on robert for being trash, and he is. im just sadder she never got the help she needed, especially as a child. her entire family recognised she had a problem and didnt try to intervene until very late in her life bringing to mind how stigmatised mental health is in the black community that no one ever _thinks_ to get it until youve nearly killed yourself or someone else.

[@goddnessofinsainty]

I need to watch the movie but my first instinct is to say that this is the reason why Trauma bonding is horrible. Like Melinda having sex with Robert while grieving effectively bonded her to him. Which most likely made her feel like she couldn’t leave because who else was she going to go to in order to feel safe. Toxicity is then born out of that, and once you’re fully in love with that person. It becomes hard to let them go.

[@sadexcuseforlife3860]

I don’t know why but the way Kennie talks about how their marriage just goes on like a sad 18 yr loop and like the time just drifts since there’s no kids birthdays to essentially mile mark their lives is so depressing my god.

[@Imold498]

Yeah but that's on them as well. They could have adopted , they could done more with their lives than wait. Children shouldn't be used as mile marker. There are plenty of happily married couples without children. But they had this waiting game that drained everything from them.

[@queencleopatra007]

@@Imold498 i mean, it wouldn't have been feasible for them to have biological kids or adopt because they had no money for 18 years.

[@jeonghansupremacist4354]

and like they never did anything new or different, no holidays, no trips... so it's really just time passing them by

[@amaramoramei9959]

@@Imold498 children aren't the only thing mentioned though. It's also the fact that they never engaged with one another other than the necessary, and him wanting to suck her soul even more. No birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, eat outs, cook outs, no family members in the home nothing. Her busting her ass for 20 years to keep both of them afloat, and him dusting his ass in that battery with no responsibilities, no chores. He was essentially living with his mom. And about adopting, they had no money for themselves let alone raise a child, the couple dynamic was unhealthy and I'm pretty sure that even if they tried they would be denied by the adoption center for the reasons stated above and then some. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Imold498]

@@queencleopatra007 they could have been foster parents. I've seen more than enough people who lower or middle be foster parents. That's just an excuse they didn't want to do anything related to children because she was to be pregnant which is valid but they chose that option.

[@loukat126]

this why i don't believe in staying with a man who don't have shit his together, honestly, I would've have left told him to focus on himself meaning he needed to succeed and fail alone. if he really cared about her he would've let her go. they were both wrong he used her for 20 years.

[@loukat126]

@@badlucksucks406 thank you so much the weave did wonders lol! This is me lol

[@littlesparrow303]

Yes!! I agree!! I think it’s better to get your career & life in order before dating. Unless the person can feel they can do both but it’s better to finish things.

[@breannathomas7596]

He never failed,if anything he never cheated after the 2nd time!she blew smoke in that man face an all..son deserved better anyways she was too crazy

[@Opbabyyx]

@@breannathomas7596 huhhh

[@kanal4637]

@@Opbabyyx lmaoo, i guess we found the next Melinda.

[@NaeOnYT]

That scene where Robert offers her $10,000,000 and the deed didn't make me feel for Robert AT ALL. It was like...okay, and what were you doing in this relationship for decades, and how are you going to repay her for that lost time? For how much this all damaged her relationships with her family and her sense of self-worth? Like, damn, that scene made me want to slap the shit out of him through the screen.

[@jasonjamieson1690]

She probably shouldn't have divorced him if there was a concern about the years that were spent together. You went through all that and left him and then got mad after he hit big when you left?! Sucks to be you, but at least he compensated her for said time.

[@RustyClumps]

Your description of the mental health issue can be epitomized (IMO) by the saying: “Mental illness is not our fault but it is our responsibility.” She refused to take that responsibility, and that was the issue, not any mental health diagnosis.

[@mst3kharris]

It just struck me about halfway through the video how clever the choice of a battery is for a MacGuffin for Robert. A battery stores energy to use later in making things work. Robert himself in that sense is a battery: all of his energy is directed towards the work he will do in the future, not the work he needs to do in the here and now. It’s only when he’s properly “connected” to Diana(e)/Prescott that his energy and work starts to flow in a productive direction. (A MacGuffin is what Hitchcock called an item that’s necessary to make a plot work, but isn’t important in itself.) Edited to add: as I think on it further, it seems to me that Robert was the inert storage device, but Melinda was the power source charging Robert. All of his energy and work after he connects with Prescott is only possible because of the work Melinda stored in him. That’s also why she dies at the end of the film; her metaphorical battery has run dry and she is, in both senses of the word, dead.

[@aallen8605]

I like that. Very interesting. I was trying to explain to a friend that Robert doesn’t matter. Melinda and her issues were supposed to be the plot and final point. I just wished that we received a background on why she was like this outside of a sloppy diagnoses of bpd

[@queenlibra8426]

Robert was an entitled moocher who always gaslighted Melinda. He also kept his felony a secret from her (which is probably the biggest issue because, what did he go to college for ? he couldn't get a job in his career path because of his felony.) However, Melinda chose to stay with Robert, until she had enough. Her unhealthy obsession over the outcome of Robert's success was partially understandable though. Melinda was so fixated on getting what she was promised. She wanted everything he promised, down to the smallest detail. In her mind, it was the principal. He did absolutely nothing to deserve what he got at the end (financially I mean) and all she got was 10 million and broken promises. I think her anger also stemmed from the fact she did all that work to build him up, was promised the world, all for his promises to be given to another woman who barely had to lift a finger to get him where he is.

[@nfspbarrister5681]

@Janice White that's why i made my online account private, and have troll-time line. :) It was funny whenever my dates tried those shit with me, forgetting i'm in law-enforcement (which i told them before hand).

[@yoshmarsh8412]

This is the definition of a quiet abuser they don't have to physically harm the person just subtlety manipulate them in a way that they would never notice

[@pcarebear1]

I love Taraji as an actress, but that intro with her in the therapist office...the anger and tension in her body and words came through the screen and scared me!! I couldn't watch the rest of the movie, but Taraji REALLY is a good actress to do that with a TP script (I can see why he loves casting her ;).

[@RamboQuellz]

What I think I love the most about Acrimony is the after affect of conversations that come once the movie is over! Me and friends were arguing and STILL argue till this day about whether or not She or He was in the wrong!

[@zippydeedoda]

correct me if I’m wrong, but the angry black woman stereotype inherently implies that her anger is misplaced/irrational. how would taraji fit that stereotype when her anger is totally justified, especially given her additional mental health struggles? killing people is of course overboard, but action films consistently have non black characters react the same. it’s almost a matter of suspension of disbelief, movies are meant to be entertaining, thematic, etc. although it’s important to keep an eye out for this harmful stereotype, it can dually be harmful to assume all black women that happen to be experiencing anger are an Angry Black Woman™️

[@aisham744]

Most of society doesn’t give black women the courtesy of an excuse like mental health struggles to justify our anger. They don’t care.

[@JMac7395]

That's the purpose of a stereotype in general. The angry Black woman stereotype labels all Black women no matter her circumstance or justification. Because society loves to overly criticize & unfairly blame Black women for everything, the stereotype is used as a muzzle to prevent us from verbally defending ourselves. So to the whole world Black women look like whinners

[@thedanespeaks]

@@aisham744 It is such a toxic stereotype. I mean, I can't really understand the intricacies, since I am white, but as many people have pointed out, anger is a human emotion that we all have this. This seems tailor-made to make women put themselves in a straitjacket where they are not allowed to just be normal human beings. And subtly to make anger over racism and sexism seem illegitimate.

[@fightingmedialounge519]

It's more about execution zoe.

[@nectarina3891]

She took no responsibility for building the life she actually wanted. He strung her along on promises, but she decided to put aside better judgement and give up everything she had and hinge her whole life on him. I think it's cautionary against codependency.

[@perry20]

Thank you

[@taginefc3189]

If she has borderline personality disorder then her devotion to him makes sense. One of the characteristics of BPD is intense fear of abandonment and you may have difficulty tolerating being alone.

[@BLEdits_Just_For_Fun]

I had a group of colleagues who debated this movie and who was really in the wrong. While most agreed that Robert was the most in the wrong, Specifically for the cheating, few brought up some of the obvious faults of Robert. That he used her, took advantage of her, that he moved on with the woman he cheated on her with which to me is the ultimate slap in the face. They seemed to have fallen for his soft meek nature which hid his obvious manipulative and user-esque nature. One was even saying, "So he should never move on with his life?" after I pointed out how disrespectful it was that he moved on with Dianne. Both were in the wrong, yes, but I can't help but sympathize with her more because basically she gave him 20 years of her life and soul. She gave and gave and gave, becoming a shell of her former self, and he took and took. Only when she had nothing left to give did he leave and somehow produce the dream he'd promised her, yet failed to provide. Yes, he paid back the money, but he could never give back all the time, love, and pieces of herself that were lost. In the end, he gained everything he'd used her for to achieve and all she had was a check and a viewpoint of him living her dream with the woman he cheated on her with. Her anger, and all it's destruction, was justified. She gave him everything, and for him it was never enough.

[@anlswa]

THIS👏👏👏 she gave way too much of herself in this relationship

[@colors4vana293]

Whew! This is a brilliant way to put it, and what pisses me off even more is how common relationships like this play out in real life with the "come up woman" giving everything to benefit the man's "potential" only to be left in the dust a shell of her former self. It's so disheartening.

[@BLEdits_Just_For_Fun]

@@colors4vana293 It's sad, but for so many people, they use others as stepping stones to achieve their dreams. Never thinking of what the other is giving up for them, only what they aren't. (I.E. Robert turning to Melinda and saying "you should have defended me," after she'd given him everything she had and he was finally getting called out for his bull**it.)

[@colors4vana293]

@@BLEdits_Just_For_Fun omg yes! I'm so glad you brought that part up. He finally gets called out on his selfish actions and instead of realizing he was being selfish he played the victim. too many people are okay with exploiting others to benefit themselves it's so gross.

[@Maya_hee]

So great that we established all of that. Now, here is the question: What do you think should Robert have done to make it better? You're saying "wasted time" wasted youth" "gave him everything" and all that (lets for the sake of the argument ignore that she did all of this willingly, by her own choices), How do you think Robert could have best made it up to her (only for the things he caused and not for everything cause that woman already had the underlying issues).

[@mercury3344]

here to cleanse my mind after a talk where someone blamed Melinda for everything because "she was outspoken, flamboyant, and didn't follow her man". have to listen to common sense now

[@M.andree]

The 10mil was a cute offer but the things that she lost in that marriage were beyond money and he Robert did not acknowledge it. All the labor emotional and physical he just can't repay with money 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@PassportKings]

1. He did acknowledge it 2. What was he supposed to do? commit suicide with his money then she'd be happy again?

[@amiyahnishae_]

he did acknowledge it tho. when he gave her the 10 million he said no other woman wouldve did what you did

[@shaniaa1295]

Also I want to point out that because of the angry black woman trope people always think if a black woman is angry it's a stereotype. Being angry is human and a black woman experiencing anger should not always be chalked up to being a caricature. Black women are allowed to have bad days. They're allowed to be petty and angry and rude without it being linked to this ridiculous stereotype.

[@jina8960]

AN HOUR?? this is a blessing especially because it’s right after finals season

[@ambea308]

Yessssss and for me summer started tooo 😩

[@noidontwanttoparty4990]

Luckyyyy!! I got three finals left I hope yours went well!

[@sarahmichelle8841]

I’m an international student in Japan so I have 4 finals and 6 papers still 😅 I completely envy you all.

[@jina8960]

good luck to all of you replying that you have exams left 😭

[@sunnight8287]

I have two more papers. But I’ve got time for bad movies and a beat

[@ZaeBreezy]

I completely understand the idea of putting your all into someone, and then having someone else swoop in and reap the benefits of your hardwork. However, I would've taken the money, the house, and moved on...happily!

[@MsDiMera2]

True

[@saininj]

That what irritated me about the movie. He eventually did right by her, so she should have just moved on.

[@TheDawnofVanlife]

@@saininj That's what irritated me about the writing is that she refused to recognize being restored at all. She had plenty to still be angry about, the emotional manipulation of years of this guy. And in the end it was like "well, if you just waited, this could a been you ". There wasn't enough to justify her still wanting the marriage at all. Because in the end that's what it came down to, "I don't get to be the wife and mother of your child". But also, why would you want to with this dude? She went from reasonably angry to possessive unreasonably and it didn't entirely track well. They tried to justify it as she may have always been borderline but this is also a woman who risked losing the family house to support him and there was a weird imbalance to the tracks of the story which made the switch in circumstances for Robert and Melinda's switch feels rushed and imbalanced in some way.

[@BellesView]

Robert remarried, bought the penthouse and boat he promised Melinda for his new wife and conceived a child. Everything she wanted for their life together he did with another woman. Why couldn’t he have done it for her? I understand why she was triggered.

[@blankaria9999]

Not seen the movie but just from Kennie’s summary - she didn’t just want the money but the whole life right? He got 150 million and gave her 10 million. She invested even from him being at school/university and wasted her youth. She also remortgages the house, works her ass off because of him. She’s definitely to blame for sticking around so long but he owed her more than that and not just in monetary terms.

[@PurpleKoco]

For me the movie was about a black woman being emotionally brutalized. I couldn’t finish that suffering. Even if it’s a lesson learned situation couldn’t that have been accomplished in 92 minutes? 😩

[@TerraMarie34]

I think the ending of the movie is also indicative of the idea that sometimes there are no happy endings and that not everything is fair. Robert got everything he wanted and even after being so horrible, his karma was never served in the film. Meanwhile, Melinda died in rage that never got resolved. Sometimes life is just like that. Sometimes people die from making stupid decisions and never getting a chance for redemption. The ending doesn’t follow the traditional “happily ever after” standard and I think that’s controversial within itself. The same way it’s hard for people to grasp the idea of “there are no heros or villains” because it’s out of the norm, I think that’s why the ending was so hard to grasp as well. But this is just based off your description of the movie alone, because I wouldn’t be caught dead watching a Tyler Perry movie at this stage in my life.

[@fightingmedialounge519]

I'd say bleeding on your boat and possibly dying would count as consequences for robbert.

[@elolo8946]

Honestly, there ain't no way she doesn't come back as a ghost to haunt them

[@kristinjames4025]

Leave LuAnne Hell sent cha back for moooorrre Cuz ain't no one ever loved yooooou!