Understanding Trauma - Part 4 - The Brain

[@EsseQuamVideriSe7en]

The fact we are able to get this series free of cost in AMAZING!!! I am learning so much I feel overwhelmed. Tim, you are changing lives!!!!

[@summerwine121]

It s the greatest gift!

[@C-Span222]

Thank you

[@radicalmanifesting]

Right?! I've never understood more about myself in this one week of watching Tim's teachings than I have my entire 54 years ❤

[@EsseQuamVideriSe7en]

@@radicalmanifestingCarl Jung has a saying I love "Until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate."

[@radicalmanifesting]

Yes! I totally agree. I'm a Law of Attraction coach and I see how damaging the "just think positive thoughts" idea is.

[@thatsbobbycock8284]

I have CTPSD and cannot afford counseling. I’m 41 and just recently found out why I am the way I am. Thank you Tim for your service to society, you truly are amazing. Thank you for helping me make sense of my life and why it’s been nothing but destruction. I now need to start the journey of healing, for the sake of me and my loved ones.

[@shetlandbudgie2611]

Not sure where you live, but sometimes you can find low cost counselling through university undergraduate programs. If you’re employed, check to see if your employer has an employee assistance program.

[@Indrid_cold777]

❤ keep learning and do not despair!!!

[@EsseQuamVideriSe7en]

Carl Jung has a quote that goes with Tim's message. "Until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate." This is so true!

[@steffknight8033]

Another way of saying this is: Awareness is half the battle.😊🙏🙏

[@steffknight8033]

So very true! My mom got this rephrasing of Jung's quote many years ago, from her then-therapist: Awareness is half the battle. 😊🙏🙏

[@EsseQuamVideriSe7en]

@@steffknight8033I was just talking with a friend about awareness of our issues and I was saying knowing and doing are two different things but at least by knowing you realize when you've messed up and might be better prepared for the next time. It takes time to change our defaults.

[@jillgajarsky1598]

This is a timely message for me as I am hitting a new level of healing. Thank you for explaining how the mental function of the brain can recover from trauma. You’re a godsend Tim.

[@BobRoss-cc5cx]

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[@RobertoLopez-zb5dd]

I’ve been in a very abusive marriage for 55 years. I’ve been dehumanized, I’m currently 72 years old and only just now understanding the role trauma plays inside the mind. Thank you for exposing this.

[@mayamichelle6741]

💔

[@kirsikka3752]

Wow, what a package of information! No one talks about opioids or extra sensitivites. How illuminating and interesting. I wish I knew all this 30 years ago. My life could have been so very different. Thank you for these lectures! God bless You.

[@godlygirls62]

When mom and dad are the source of trauma,it's a sad sad thing

[@sherileyva5908]

I am 49 yrs old and have searched and searched and SEARCHED for someone who can explain my way of thinking and I have finally found it here. So many things are coming to light in this video. Had never heard of limbic brain. I was an addict for 17 yrs and the instant gratification explanation is spot on. I think the biggest thing I am learning here is that "no" doesn't mean someone doesn't like me or is punishing me. Everytime I am less than very happy, I always have had this belief that I must be doing something to upset God therefore he is unhappy with me and scolding me by taking away my joy. I have been tormented with this for so many years now. I guess I am realizing that in normal life, people do not always feel happy every day. My main goal my entire life has just to be happy and experience this "joy of the Lord" that I have convinced myself that as a Christian I am supposed to have with me at all times. I could type a novel about all the things I am learning from your videos. I am so excited to keep watching and learning as these are the first things I have heard that really resonate with me to help what I have battled with my whole life

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤😇 😇 😇 ❤

[@Indrid_cold777]

48 here, same path. Stay strong!

[@sammyspaniel6054]

"Traumatized people become addicted to chaos". This one hit me hard. I was traumatized as a child and I watch Cops, First 48, When Animals Attack.....you get the picture. But my wife who grew up stable likes watching cooking shows and feel-good stories.

[@donnam8402]

I watch similar shows and know it’s because of my childhood trauma. It makes me feel good!

[@CM7777...]

The TV shows you like means nothing. Very healthy people watch those shows

[@jennysellsflorida1673]

MI’m

[@TrentAdam]

Sir I think he is talking about behavior that lands you in jail but that's actually a very interesting aspect of it.

[@Yhoshua_B]

Thank you for providing explanations to questions I've had for a very long time.

[@loubeekirby]

I can't remember a time before my abuses began but you have outlined my healing journey to mental and physical health that continues to this day. I've been blessed to find my authenticity just a few years ago. Now at 70, I'm living nearly a pain-free life. I am happy, positive and thankful. Thank you for validating my journey. Go me!

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤😇 😇 😇 ❤

[@Maggieshenoy]

Repressed cortisol is a prevalent issue affecting people worldwide, not just in the US and Canada. Unfortunately, many individuals and communities have chosen to deal with this issue through toxic positivity, which involves suppressing undesirable emotions or issues at any cost and only focusing on the positive. I have observed this phenomenon in many aspects of my life, such as among my close friends, family members, peers, schools, and universities.

[@nontobekoncube8450]

So much work to do and I feel discouraged and really envy those who had healthy childhoods. I will soldier on.

[@joesmith1861]

Believe it or not, I am one of the few that just cannot hate or-wish the worst for the narcissist it wasn’t a choice for them , until I get a better understanding that they can stop and live life as others what can they do if they have no access to any positive emotions Stay strong and I will pray for all narcissist by

[@Teeheeweewee]

Same here. Don’t even know if I have experienced love and being around loving families is very strange and upsetting for me. I used to think they were weird but now I know it’s me who is fucked up. I feel like I have been robbed of being my true self and having true contentment. Can’t form healthy relationships because I don’t want to inflict my trauma symptoms on someone else. But I am determined to get better. However long it takes. Good luck to you in this painful journey.

[@SpikyGirl18]

I know, me too. At some point i also had a very strong resentment for those who neglected and abandoned me and inflicted all those wounds upon me, but unfortunately the way out is not through hate and resentment. It's through forgiveness and love, most importantly forgiveness and love to yourself. You will make it. Your heart is in the right place because you're here, you want to relieve this pain and this guilt and this shame. I also wish i had a healthy childhood, but i didn't. All we can do is heal now. What's done is done and is in the past. Consider that people who inflicted those wounds onto you are also flawed individuals and are also ridden with guilt and shame and other traumas. Most probably they're also dealing with severe CPTSD.

[@ipelengkhule9263]

If it's any consolation, you're 10 months ahead of me😅

[@emilyash2408]

​@ipelengkhule9263 😂😂😂 awesome

[@KiKi-te9yd]

Tim. I can't tell you enough how much I appreciate and enjoy your message and information. Ive been struggling with all these things after some intense trauma a few years ago, it makes one feel like you're going crazy or gotten REALLY lazy. The avoidance and dissociation is very real. As is the body going into shut down and needing to sleep. And the subconcious programming running the show. Having why explained is gold. Thank you

[@katarinakovrlija3372]

Tim, you're so fantastic and your voice and manner of speaking is so soothing and encouraging, thank you!

[@suepalencia3152]

How can I access the info on the slides?

[@mayamichelle6741]

Agreed.

[@caitlinbyrne9601]

Hi! This series is the greatest gift ever! I noticed always the guitar..the acoustic guitar..I had a dream about the guitar at the corner of the room as an invitation to cry..to heal..to love. While my guitar gently weeps. Trauma healing takes processing. Integration. That guitar is a gentle reminder that this takes time for your audience to integrate for themselves. Thank you for your infinite patience. No pressure.

[@mcribisback7105]

This makes a lot of the things I've experienced in my life and the reactions I've seen in my mother make so much more sense

[@kaylaalbright7028]

These videos are one of the most important things on the internet, I’m convinced. The fact that it’s free will help SO many people. I can’t put into words how much I appreciate this series of videos.

[@hiraeth.3891]

Why only so few viewers? There should be the whole world....

[@RaRa-el3iz]

Holy cow. I honestly didn't think it was possible to convey in a fashion that someone unfamiliar might get an appropriate sense. This is beyond spot on. Standing O👏🏼

[@kimshultz3582]

Just started therapy a short while ago & my therapist recc'ed your lecture series to listen to between sessions. Between the two, I am finally learning more about myself after so many years of trying different things to 'fix' what's wrong. Thank you

[@queenprotein]

What am absolute gift Tim has to explain these things in such an understandable way

[@gmze.b]

You answered the questions that I ask myself all the time. Why did I do that? Why do I feel like that? Etc… Now, I know the answers more clear than before. It’s the starting point for me to heal. I cannot thank you enough. 🙏🏼 It seems like the knowledge that you give me will be the reason for forgiving myself and even my parents. Each of your videos give me another insights. Thanks a lot. 🙏🏼

[@eleniantoniou8287]

As someone facing trauma as a child, this def makes sense. Trying to get therapy is a long and frustrating process, doctors could do with this insight as from my personal experience, there are times where I want to give up. Thank you for this !!🙏❤

[@tjskyye9409]

Thank you so very much for sharing your knowledge with us who are hurting!!

[@simonaioanabliss]

Thank You from Eastern Europe, Romania. Good work💚

[@orianasmaderek1478]

Greetings from Poland❤ Brilliant work🎉

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

Thank you, Tim. Very illuminating. 👍🏻

[@bonniepark6802]

Damaged people raising damaged people raising damaged people

[@aliciabadashian7234]

This series is the best I have seen on complex trauma. And I’m in grad school for mental health counseling always researching info. Bravo Tim! Excellent! So blessed I found you Tim. Would love to be mentored from you.

[@sheiladuke3289]

❤😇 😇 😇 ❤ God Bless ❤❤

[@alexxx4434]

This information is gold and will save lives!

[@chilloften]

This is as immense as the job of moving thru my day at my best conscious self.

[@Thatsbannanas-d8c]

The brain is very delicate. And complicated

[@teres1523]

I truly appreciate it when he first talks in one of he's first series videos about CPTSD. He humanized and dignified what a chill go though when going through trauma. Very informative and NON PATHOLOGIZING. On the other hand I, personality DO NOT agree when he talks about addiction, calling " addicts" or say " how messed up you are", I do not care about the context, the idea in true psychology is that you are not a diagnosis, your story or what happened to you. This is very important because one of the things that we, who experienced CPTSD is the loss of sense of dignity and sense of our humanity. ❤❤❤

[@ElizabethCossack]

Tim, Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! For caring enough to provide this information to all of us and it’s free. I was so impressed that I made a donation. God Bless you!

[@Umbear]

I’m very engaged to all your series!! Thank you for sharing the knowledge

[@jeffreyneti-neti8296]

I'm starting to share this with family. Is uncomfortable but finally I can begin to understand in a very clear way. You're a blessing to many. My limbic brain is exited about this new info and my cortex is absorbing as much as possible and self reflecting. It also helps tremendously in the perception and compassion for others. Really hoping to be able to use all this priceless info on my own issues.

[@saraerdle]

Thank you so much for putting these on KZbin

[@mandykins8678]

Thank you so much. This channel means a lot to me and makes a difference in my life. I am so grateful. ❤

[@solaris232]

Excellent! Thank you, Tim❤

[@bethanyvaughan334]

Thank you so much Tim. Your series has helped me unlock my past and the present. I knew that there were reasons for my behaviour but couldn't figure it out. You have explained it so clearly. Praise God for you. May you also be greatly blessed ❤

[@andybowker74]

This is hard to watch and probably gives more of an idea how badly damaged my brain has been since childhood. I tried for years to put a lid on things but all my issues piled on me one after another this year and I am having to learn some things pretty quickly as I embark on a critical journey. These videos are so important.

[@FUNDACIONCasalins-wh6tj]

I must have complex trauma because lots of these things apply to me. I will forever be grateful for your content ❤

[@refuseresistlookinriseup]

All 5his is very interesting. I new I exp. "Some shit" if you wil but just recently did i understand and realize how i was really effected . And am leatni g dailey n and tryn to grow . Its a lil hard doing it all myself. Sometimes i wish i had trusted source of help. So thanx for the videos

[@Diana-jx1ju]

Very clear explanation of brain functions helps understand the difficulty of retraining.

[@tabithadavis1475]

Oh fuck. This guy is describes me to the letter with his examples in his lectures or what he says. I was a child of the social service system all my child hood and I have years missing of memorys of my childhood, gaps, chucks. All his lectures hit on point with complex trauma and codependency. It's comforting to know I'm not a freak and that there is an explanation of why I am the way I am. I'm stubborn too. He never mentions that trait but I bet a lot of people who are like me are

[@natalyorlova5690]

Thank you very much!! That's a gold for all of us 🥺❤️

[@lauralusk9953]

What a great lecture!! Thank You!

[@DissolvingEmotionalReactions]

@tim fletcher... this video is tieing everything together for me and explains why psilocybin mushrooms and LSD allowed me to actual connect both parts of my brain to both remember and feel. When i first started working with psychodelics only the feeling part of my brain would activate, but i didnt know what i was feeling, but after about a year of working with psychodelics, the two halves of my brain connected and i began to remember and feel. However i found integration on my own was not possible and i was left with all these reconnected memories floating at the surface of my awareness... and left me constantly feeling sad, betrayed asking why. It wasnt until i had others assist with integration that i felt relief and integration. It feels like 50 years of cortisol damage was repaired by the mushrooms, but now i am feeling a little sad and wondering if that's true. TIM, YOU ARE AN ANGEL AND I SO VERY MUCH APPRECIATE YOU, YOU'VE PROFOUNDLY AWAKENED MY AWARENESS!!!

[@ievgeniagodynskyi1049]

I can not stop thanking Mr. Fletcher for these videos!🙏👍💪 Thank you so much, Sir! Yes, to hear and absorb the information about how trauma impacts the Whole life - is quite a challenge, indeed. However, how Mr. Fletcher gives this information is the most understandable and applicable to me❤

[@ADevone]

This man is brilliant!!

[@leticiamilo4387]

Thanks for sharing this video!❤⚘

[@lalaland3928]

Thanks!

[@panghueyling2352]

Thanks Tim. God bless you abundantly. I have been very excited and blessed by your videos.

[@lalaland3928]

Don’t 😭 crybaby. Once again this is therapy I’m listening I am not alone everyone should hear these. It’s a generational struggle I’m healing in action. I comment regularly bc this helps. Better than music to my ears. I am forgiven. I forgive myself for I didn’t know any better. I found me ZRO 😢

[@positvgal8]

Thank you Tim🙏🌻💛

[@m27w83]

So precious.... 1000 thanks. Please have all this available also in french, and other languages ! Living in France, dealing with migrants: we need it.

[@OR65693]

The 5 Survival Responses: Fight Flight Freeze Submit Attach (a more accurate term than "fawn")

[@farmgirl1783]

Fawning and submitting are the same thing.

[@sandraumney5516]

Good God, bless us. Need an opiate after this. Joking. Sort of. Thank you 🙏

[@zahirelatif]

Thank you may god bless you for your efforts

[@rannerobin2787]

Thank you for this invaluable information.

[@olivervilas4250]

Thank you TIM ❤

[@deborahmarie6768]

Thank You kindly 🙏

[@albatjay6841]

When I finished watching the entire video I will know what to conclude sir .

[@KarimKarim-xy9py]

Thanks for sharing Tim.

[@Finnlady77]

Thank you! You are such a big help for us having CPTSD. I'm very grateful for your videos.🙏❤

[@davspa6]

What you're saying around the 9 or 10 minute Mark is exactly the way that so many young people have been thinking. They insist on feeling safe all the time!

[@woodshypnotherapy5124]

There is also hypnosis and EMDR therapies that are very helpful alongside trauma narc abuse therapies plus self compassion

[@None_of_your_business666]

1:50 are the two brain slices done at the very same level? The difference in the size of the ventricle is also striking. However the neglected patient may also be born from a family environment with drugs, I.e. drug abuse during pregnancy can also lead to this. It would be great if we had a clarification on if this particular patient has an otherwise healthy environment so that the microcrphaly and ventriculomegaly can only be explained by the neglect or a genetic condition

[@nigeria7324]

This is great knoleged thank you!

[@777ALCHEMY]

This is better than going to therapy

[@Dynamicjournalism]

Are you sure? Idd love to school the therapist.

[@Ariadne76-k3d]

I am not sure I agree about us being stuck in our limbic brain. I know that most abusive parents strongly discipline their children when they do anything even remotely stupid. It's not like there is nothing there to teach us not to be foolish. And as adults, it's not that we can't tolerate discomfort,it's that we can't tolerate the intolerable discomfort brought on by years of unrelenting abuse. I know I personally do my chores, work out, eat my vegetables, go to work, and pay my bills. I am much more responsible than many people. And I have CPTSD.

[@xeniyashilina6212]

Absolutely fascinating, thank you so much for sharing this precious knowledge

[@kathy1001]

This is so fascinating!! Thank you!! You are an amazing human being for sharing this wonderful information. God bless you 🙏🙏❤️❤️

[@tristan-tiln7598]

We started our relationship because we both worked on our stuff. After a couple of years, she stopped therapy and almost at the same time talking to me. The only thing she worked on since are her walls. At fir, t I thought it's because her business failed. Then I told myself it's because we resorted an old building. But after we got children and she started to ignore the kids. I am totally fed up with her attitude. I wish I had found this channel sooner. It helped me to understand what's going on in her. Knowing her family, I know not the business, not the house, not the children, and not me are the root of her problems.

[@stilyanayordanova1285]

Thank you ❤

[@DENISEASTUNO-ow1qz]

❤Thank you ❤ Wow I’ve learned a lot Your good 👍

[@venusb248]

Thank you so much Tim! ❤

[@anavartalitis8425]

You talked about me! Thanks!!!!

[@ericalbright7210]

Christine Albright "THANK YOU"!... "+"!...

[@bripea7721]

Thank you so much.

[@darkocaramellonikolic6396]

Yes, it’s great! And so interesting!!!

[@KatWoodland]

As a child of narcissistic abuse, who then went on to experience two (varying) narcissistic husbands and then a TEN YEAR relationship with the WORST vulnerable covert narcissist of them all . . . this video sadly misses the point. I WANT NORMAL. I WANT PEACEFUL. But …… because of my experience, I will never ever have it. Now here’s the fantasy mind that allowed me to survive such trauma: A good man, that is non materialistic, and is true to his monogamous woman actually exists.

[@ludagrif]

Thank you Sir

[@mayamichelle6741]

Goodness, somehow, this is even more clarifying than the other one you did on the brain. I knew that the prefrontal cortex wasn’t fully developed until 25-26. But you present the new idea that it’s still developing into the 30s. Plus I didn’t know that the brain can have arrested development. How is it that we have all of these requests, responsibilities and permits by societies that are for adults - fully formed adults - and not humans who still don’t have fully developed brains. 🤷

[@aciddiver1978]

I lack social intelligens due to cptsd. That hard every human contact.

[@tracycameron5099]

thankyou.explains alot

[@Vladimyrful]

This is terrifying.

[@amberfahr5992]

That brain image makes me SO angry

[@andybowker74]

Triggering for me for sure

[@GodHelpMe369]

how to heal from an entire lifetime of trauma and rage and grief?

[@davspa6]

22:31 addicted to chaos, boy can I identify with that...

[@emilydawson5384]

Whoa. That IQ thing really explains a lot about what's happening in the the US these days, holy heck.

[@aliciabadashian7234]

Why isn’t complex trauma a diagnosis in the DSM? Ptsd, acute stress, other stress but no complex trauma.

[@lyranmanus]

My guess is, because it is the root cause of what you mentioned, as well as tons of other conditions. Where would we be if mainstream would cure the root cause of diseases?

[@nothingthere3959]

Complex PTSD or CPTSD (which is complex trauma) should be in ICD-11. Even if ICD-11 isn't used primary where you live, chances are you still can ask/request them to use it instead of DSM, so ask if that's available. DSM is used mostly in the US, a lot of other countries use ICD-11.

[@suletu1]

I feel very grateful for Dr. Tim’s service & knowledge & faith. I’m 48 and have been feeling like I wasted my whole life! Bcs of CT! Dr Tim gives me a map to follow while feeling so lost. ❤️‍🩹

[@fairygurl9269]

*Respect PS: Thanks for Being my 1-5% of the Day Sir

[@lydiafischer9419]

Great video again. Just one question, I wrote you an email asking about one of your teaching programmes and if I could use it here in germany but didnt receive an answer yet😮

[@Noran11290]

We have a nano second to take a different path!!

[@rg1whiteywins598]

What kind of neglect is referred to at the start of this talk ? I get the instant gratification thing. Shopping.

[@KaiMendoza-l9n]

where can i print the outline

[@juxtaposition_and_dogs]

Tim! 😂🥹😅 You started this with this is less intense! Ha! It’s like the whole thing that does all the things for us is utterly fucked up. But your videos provide hope to live a much better life. Thank you. 🫶🏻

[@suepalencia3152]

How can I access the info on the slides?

[@deborahjaffe]

100% me and my family.

[@TrentAdam]

I was able to have my Cortex tell my limbic brain to drink every other night instead of every night and honestly im proud of that even if im still drinking.