Anger and Complex Trauma - Part 1/11 - Intro

How Complex Trauma affects anger.
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[@venusrising7798]

I relate to everything here. The final bomb, the stuff about jealousy. When I see someone I perceive as doing better than me, I always feel like a fraud who will get found out. I had a father who told me I was nothing and a nobody. And a mom who always shut my feelings down. I carry a lot jealousy when I see someone who looks better, has their life together and so on. And now I get that it comes from distorted beliefs about myself. I’m afraid to be in a relationship because I fear I’ll just compare myself to everyone. One video down, a few more to go. I’m hopeful that after listening to this series I’ll be better equipped to handle my emotions and come out on the other side feeling more empowered. Thank you

[@jillanderson1316]

Totally resonate with that , I always wondered why I was so competitive in relationships terrified someone would see me as being stupid (that's my bugbear) and that they will find out I do not exist that I am a fraud

[@davecopp9356]

How does this guy know so much about how I feel and am on the inside? Amazing.

[@CindyTan-uu2id]

Very sad not angry.sad he csn do so much to me!!

[@joygwin6673]

He won triple gold at the therapy olympics

[@Crazydoglady.]

DUDE,your spot on about everything..🤓

[@MaryAnnFriesen]

Oh man this man has figured me out!

[@yasminhabibti721]

Yes, indeed.

[@Jordan-li7fx]

I can't believe how accurate he is in this.

[@bethco2952]

😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

No he isn’t

[@TheHotMelindas]

I’m so grateful to find this man, he articulates the behaviors we act and helps us understand and try to better ourselves! Thank you!

[@sarahalderman3126]

I come from a severe childhood trauma past (sexual and physical). Both of my parents suffered severe trauma as children who unfortunately and unintentionally passed their trauma on to myself and my siblings. Though my mother eventually began to heal herself and my younger siblings had a very different upbringing than I did. I can relate to some of this here, but only in a relatively minor way. In that I recognize these emotions or thoughts in my head but the discussions on shame are MUCH more relatable for me. After 45 years on this earth I must say that ALL of this has always been rather intuitive to me, even as a child. Unfortunately as a young teen and young adult I sought out mental health services and received the opposite of what would have been helpful. Everything Tim discusses in his talks would have been FAR more beneficial for me than the drugs and bs therapy provided. I am so grateful that this content is available, though I must admit it is unfortunate that many of the most important issues are not available.

[@sarahalderman3126]

⁠@@tango-bravothank so much for your reply, I will look into DeJesus, I want to say that I am so sorry that you can relate… However I am reassured that you’ve found your way here. Which with, over the last year and a half I have found more “help” from than ANYTHING else I have tried, aside from the drugs (which are only more of those dreadful bandaid’s). I wish you the very best of luck and success ❤️

[@gardenbee1238]

The delivery of this information is absolutely brilliant 💯

[@Sarah-pq8kj]

Found this when I truly needed it.

[@robertafierro5592]

It's one of those miracles that seem small.at first, but in reality, if appreciated, it's HUGE!!

[@Sarah-pq8kj]

Coincidence is an illusion

[@alisatripiciano9813]

Seeing myself with new eyes . . It's good, it is God's healing journey. These videos are the tactical guide to what God's amazing grace is reasoning out within me.

[@Chris-yf2zs]

5:00 everything is trigger to anger if from CT 14:14 self talk, internalizing voice of parents 21:00 with CT you live with lies disrespect and unfairness all the time, anger, cortisol, unresolved anger, stuffing 25:00 response often disproportionate 25:20 frustration that no one heard them 27:40 complex greatest damage is to identity, shame 35:00 anger to protect self

[@cheryllinklater3876]

Nailed it! I can so relate to everything he is talking about. I will now be watching the whole 12 videos in due time. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with me.

[@mirunatrofin2817]

This gave me so much knowledge. I never thought I am gonna know this things ever. God bless Tim!

[@Deegodsson]

Current going through healing Journey . Praise God .

[@growsomethinwild]

I have black rages. So scary

[@CMoore8539]

Thank you for another Excellent Video!

[@robertdamphousse1351]

Ty for your body of work. It's very helpful and informative

[@emusic96785]

Lava below the surface is actually called magma. When it erupts, it's called lava. Not all lava explodes. Nevertheless, your message gets across. Thank you 😊

[@mariemonn8912]

Excellent describing our anger ..this an excellent explanation of complex trauma and anger… What is your emotional default setting…

[@koolazul]

He man thank you for posting this. I realized this was and is something I deal with because of trauma. I know now and now can work on it. Thank you

[@Gigiyoungerme]

🤝 Important topic 👌 So nice to deal with these issues & topics what a way to connect 👏 😀

[@LR-yu3mx]

I am very patient most of the times,but after my beautiful daughter died, In the mourning process, I get spells of anger when I deal with a narcissistic person. I withdraw into my house, and feel as if I am a totally different person.Its as if all my good thoughts diszppear and my thoughts and tensions all boil in my head. I try not to talk or vent qith anyone. Lots of times I pray

[@middleofnowhere1313]

Oh this is me. Man, i hope i can help myself with this info. No money for therapy.

[@kimortegastrongwarriorbrid5334]

Thanks!

[@kathleenb6375]

The best. Thank you!

[@MsBettyRubble]

Yeah, I'm the punctual one in the family. I was also the caregiver/chauffer/social planner for my dad. My dad was the only person I'd wait for bc I was caring for him. But I won't wait for people if they're late. Yes, I have been called mean. I don't care. I took care of my dad all alone without any help from local family. So if any family members needed something or a ride somewhere and I was made to wait, I didn’t offer again. Its disrespectful and I have stuff to do.

[@Yhoshua_B]

I feel this. People who don't respect a person's time don't deserve to be allowed to steal more of it.

[@politereminder6284]

Wonderful!

[@robertafierro5592]

Oh Thank You Tim! Thank You! It all makes SO MUCH sense now!

[@iw9338]

Beautiful & profound songs.

[@davidnorman2134]

His punch list I'm ticking every box, anger is a boundary tool, constant fear I'm going to get killed. Never suppress anger

[@rabbitcreative]

> constant fear I'm going to get killed Are you aware of the people who call themselves W.E.F? I think that's their goal...

[@davidrochon5873]

Thanks Tim

[@robertafierro5592]

I should be taking down notes. My first reaction almost was to get slightly angry at myself AGAIN!!

[@lawrenceleclerc6664]

a really good instructional video

[@drsandhyathumsikumar4479]

Lovely

[@susansilvey1614]

The religious try to beat it out of us-it comes out later; especially if you became the scapegoat

[@victoriagrande9698]

My boyfriend is extremely angry, can’t control his emotions at all 😭 I love him but I am suffering so much at the point of being unhappy with him. I don’t know what I can do because it’s been toxic to me

[@noneofyourbuizness]

From someone that suffer from anger trauma adhd and all the BS. First of all if he want you In his life he needs to aknowledge IT. He is in great pain invite to see a therapist and see from there . Does he suffer from childhood trauma or adhd ? Does he regret everytime he get angry ? IF he doesnt you cannot change him and I will invite you to get the hell out of here because he needs to heal. It will be hard he will need support and patience but he needs to know he is hurting his loved ones ! .

[@davidcrawford9026]

he has to want to get better, if he doesn't maybe consider it might not be worth it for you to take the risk to be around him

[@mariemonn8912]

Trauma brain

[@middleofnowhere1313]

Love yourself more and get out. He needs to work on himself rather than hurting women.

[@jarkachalmovianska7812]

Leave

[@verumbellator6899]

D to A in various timeframes depending on the trigger.

[@rosaferreira7946]

Wow it's crazy. I would never think all these emotions are stemmed from anger. Make sense just u would never think such thing

[@poison_plays]

Point of interest: bullies don't become bullies because physical size allows them to do so. My mom is a retired elementary school teacher. One year, she had to deal with an ongoing bullying situation in her classroom caused by one of the physically smallest kids in her class bullying one of the physically largest. The large kid was very gentle and passive; the smaller kid had some anger issues and could sometimes be aggressive. Size alone does not a bully make.

[@Raminakai]

I had a child with this issue. She always got blamed because she was larger and taller than her peers. We make a lot of assumptions about people based on physical appearance that people have no control over.

[@gardenbee1238]

AMEN!! Thank you for acknowledging this ❤❤

[@leahflower9924]

Sounds like Napoleon complex lol

[@jarkachalmovianska7812]

Hurt people hurt people

[@amberfahr5992]

The anger gives energy to get you going

[@joygwin6673]

family anger...8..my anger 4..Lot less now.

[@yourpetyourway]

I appreciate your leaving the religion until the end, thank you.

[@YAHAYAH_369]

Thank You For 🔯 Your Service 🌞🌈 Allah Hu Akbar ❤️‍🔥

[@dianac113]

I repress my anger, what I tend to do is isolating..

[@kellibodony1077]

This doesn't apply only to drug or alcohol addicts, what about control addicts. I know a child of an alcoholic (that hates drugs or alcohol) that acts just like this.

[@ranarostam666]

Unfortunately i have it all due to ptsd

[@yamicanada]

💕👍

[@ts3858]

Revenge

[@erinm3567]

Helpless driver? Nah, all the ones I get angry at have done something dangerous, rude, impulsive etc.

[@jarkachalmovianska7812]

You think that... nevertheless its none of your business who they are and how they drive, eventhough they might endanger yourself. You know this before you si in car, that there are these risks. You g into those situations willingly

[@kahlodiego5299]

Add a chronic stalking trolling neighbor on top. No one to call. No problem. All the resources and dialectical training is not enough when there is really no one to call on. Now you're offered antipsychotic drugs ( especially if you're low income since you can't afford someone who can actually listen and consider that what you're experiencing may be based on reality )

[@angelamckeown4060]

I think you have missed out when you are in a situation with angry person. No one can reason with them. Why are so many women going to women going to womens aid. Because of the beating that they get. OR kids who can't defend themselves

[@leonardwilliams7772]

I got excited, to find someone who knows what they are talking about. Things are dire right now, but i find im getting hit with damned ads every 5 minutes. Do you NOT know how that destroys the whole dynamic of being helped? Who, could sit and face these issues, and get insesantly blasted with useless ads? One at the begining, one at the end. Thats it. Wish i could watch. I need this. But not ads.

[@intothewildusa90]

Get KZbin premium. No commercials!

[@benjaminford1863]

KZbin premium. Better subscription than netflix etc.

[@AL-ri6bk]

So this is scripture based? Mh. Seems so

[@olgakim4848]

No.

[@janwisz4070]

Not to me and I hate jesus

[@susansilvey1614]

Not self righteous-no child deserves 50 lashes...oh ya, and for something you did not even do

[@jenskruse1475]

Glad we can leave the christian part. Because god is just pure anger and death.

[@vinceonyoutube]

Pure love and life. It’s people who cause problems for other people.

[@jenskruse1475]

@@vinceonyoutube Ha Ha, yes and people created god, so the argument is circular😄

[@vinney6938]

I was literally swearing at u in a blind rage the whole time i was skipping that ridiculous song you played at the beginning. Was that on purpose?

[@jillanderson1316]

I don't like the way the bible labels people fools!!