Understanding Your Spouse's Emotions - David and Jan Stoop Part 2

By understanding your own emotions and the emotions of your spouse you can grow in intimacy! Jim Daly and John Fuller talk with Dr. David and Dr. Jan Stoop (who have been married 60 years!) about their book, SMART Love and how improving your emotional intelligence will transform your marriage.
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They discuss the SMART acronym: S--Self-awareness of your emotions, M-Managing your emotions, A-Accountability, R-Reading the Other Person’s Emotions, and T-Together in the land of emotions. An encouraging reminder that with some intentional effort you can have the marriage you’ve always dreamed of.

[@nancywidows463]

Amen to the paper-cut analogy! We often really don't consider how badly we hurt our spouses and they often don't consider how badly they hurt us. Paper cuts really sting....especially if they happen daily or hourly, etc.

[@carollee4879]

This is really great info, but I found myself being angry that Jan seemed to be cut out of the conversation. All the questions seemed to be addressed to David and when Jan tried to comment she seemed cut off and not listened to.

[@carollee4879]

By the time I listened to the end, the dynamics had changed...

[@Voices_in_Heaven]

💜 What a blessing to listen to part 1& 2, with Dr. David and Dr. Jan Stoop! Wisdom! Thank you for sharing💜

[@hoademo965]

What a blessings! Praise God for your long loved Marriage and thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. Thanks God and big thanks you both.

[@MrsMusicInMe]

Spot on!

[@e.wilgerminanorman5753]

Thank you...

[@joelmcmahon8431]

It might be worth mentioning that if you’re afraid that your spouse is having an affair, it might be worth having a look at yourself are you meeting your spouses needs ? , are you being someone who your spouse wants to be around ?. So many affairs happen from unmet needs

[@adamslaura768]

Are you implying that unmet needs are a valid reason for an affair? Or needs, unmet or otherwise, are the responsibility of the spouse?

[@reesecup6915]

Unmet needs? Maybe a counseling session to communicate would be more appropriate than having an affair huh? Sounds a little like narcissistic talk to me.

[@annadkart6437]

If we would just listen to all the Focus on the Family podcasts, we would solve 99% of our marriage problems