UPDATE I Told My Step-Dad And Step-Bro That Biological Relationships Are More Important r/AITA

[@kegsyk8499]

I'm a stepdad and this just breaks my heart to hear. poor little fella.

[@immortalsofar5314]

I've been a step dad to kids ranging from hating me to thinking I'm great and I've treated them with the same care and respect but there's something not quite right there. There's lots of disconnects between the reported actions and what he thinks other people are thinking. It feels grainy(?) like pieces taken out of context to fit a narrative and the underlying thread would say something else. Just a feeling.

[@Rose_Bride]

I'm SO incredibly angry at the parents in that first story. There is NO EXCUSE for the way they treated OP. Even more painful was the fact that OP called this man "dad''...she clearly thinks of this man as her father. He is the ONLY father she has ever known, but it's clear her "dad" truly was only tolerating her. The fact that he didn't even TRY to excuse it shows that he is acutely aware of it. Mom is also aware of this man's true feelings, but as is usual in cases like this, mom was so afraid of this man potentially leaving her that she was unconcerned with her "leftover" kid and focused all her attention on keeping this guy and his "real" kid happy so new hubby didn't leave. Their promises in the update are purely out of guilt at being called out, but make no mistake....this man's feelings regarding OP will NOT change.

[@ineedhoez]

I disagree. He acknowledged it and took ownership of it. He did so because that is what adults do when they hurt someone, intentionally or unintentionally. They don't argue and try to invalidate the persons feelings. They own it move forward

[@iggyzeta9755]

You seem to be operating on much more information than was provided by one short simplified account in the video.

[@destinysphinx27]

Story 2: 'I took the black one because it looked warmer'... BULL-F-ING-CRAP!!! she didn't take it because it looked warmer, she took it because it was a Moncler coat, that's no doute 'found' it's way into her wardrobe

[@LadyBern]

Or someone else's. If she didn't pocket it then no doubt someone else saw it and took it home.

[@AndyyWithAY]

The so-called friend in story 2 pisses me off. She stole the coat then lost it. She was so cold, but she took off the coat and left the party without it. She should've just gone back to her dorm or not gone out in the cold half naked 🤦🏾‍♀️ NTA!!

[@philwill0123]

Women and temperature. Too cold , needs jacket. Wears jacket, too hot. Friend definitely knew the black jacket was expensive, that's why she wanted to wear it. Bet someone else knew that was moncler, and used it as perfect stealing opportunity. I would get party holder to do Facebook call out. Other than that, report it stolen and sue your frien

[@theloverlyladylo9158]

Story 5: my dad had a spot on the couch (actually, we all do), but my dad and Frankie the cat frequently come into conflict, because they have the same spot, and will sometimes fight over it. It’s extra hilarious when the cat wins.

[@wmdkitty]

Even our cat has her own spot that nobody is allowed to sit in.

[@RomeGod177]

I have that problem to 😂. Happy to see I not the only one lol 🤣

[@theloverlyladylo9158]

@@RomeGod177 Frankie once manipulated me into getting out of the spot so he could sit there instead. I wasn't even mad, just impressed.

[@immortalsofar5314]

Perhaps they could solve the spot problem with a room-mate agreement?

[@babybookworm003]

All 3 of us have our spots at home dad and I each have a recliner and mom has the couch

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 2: *NTA* honestly the friend should pay back the coat she lost. If the Moncler coat something very expensive, yeah she definitely should pay for that. She had absolutely no right to take that coat to wear since the coat she was supposed to take was the purple one. OP specified which coat to take and the friend helped herself to a coat she didn’t get permission to take, that’s theft. EDIT: HOLY SHIT! Those coats really cost that much!? That’s like a month or two‘s worth of rent!

[@Callimo]

HONEYYYYYYYY, I looked up how much a Moncler coat and the CHEAPEST ONE IS ABOUT 1600!!!! That "friend" is a fuckderp of the HIGHEST proportions. OP should take her to small claims court for sure.

[@prcervi]

@@Callimo 1600 is beyond small claims court, the soon to be ex-friend needs to pay up or get a nasty mark on her background checks in the future

[@shebakoby]

Story 2: I'm betting she didn't lose the coat, but rather kept it and just told OP she lost it.

[@hannahferris2331]

My thoughts exactly

[@TheNormExperience]

Could well be. If not that, it’s very possible someone at the party who knew what a Moncler coat was worth saw it, and grabbed it off the coat pile. The friend obviously chose the more expensive one because it looked better, warmer, etc. so it’s kind of hypocritical to be pissed it’s at a higher price point. Yes these coats at crazy expensive, but if the “friend” borrowed a pair of earrings thinking they were cubic zirconia and lost them only to discover they were real diamonds, the onus is still on them to fix it. The options are either pay for it, or get a viable replacement one of equal worth. I do think OP needs to learn from this to not give permission for someone to take something without looking. Same for the lesson the friend needs to learn to fix a mess she made. It sucks, but learning these lessons are kind of what college is for.

[@lisakaz35]

Or it was stolen because someone else knew how much it was worth.

[@lancerevell5979]

Or she knew it was expensive, and sold it. In any case, it is right for her to pay for it. This friendship is over.

[@raeishimura]

No doubt. She saw what it was and figured "oh, I'll snatch that, say I lost it, then keep it and just go 'whoopsy' and all will be forgiven" but that's not how that works

[@fcold9402]

2. NTA. Of course she has to pay for it. She stole it and then lost it. If she doesn't want to pay for it, she can remember where the heck she lost it.

[@susankaempfer8427]

It’s entirely likely that someone else at the party helped themselves to it. Doesn’t absolve her though.

[@GIChiyo]

Story 2: put in a police report, I bet she will miraculously find the missing coat

[@Russman67]

Story 2: I was this many years old when I learned about Moncler and how much the coats are. Yeah hold her accountable. OP didn't say she had permission and lost a coat that's as expensive as a mortgage payment for some people. The friendship may be over at this point but get that money back. Not the asshole

[@jameslyons6655]

The “spot” story. We have a “J” shaped sofa in our living room. There is one seat that would be deemed the most optimal for TV watching. I’ve had more than one person visiting proclaim that they knew which spot was mine. I don’t bother to correct them but they are wrong. If I’m watching something with the kids, they get it, when I’m with my wife, she gets it. I used to sit there if I was alone in the house but I’m so used to being on other parts of the sofa now I just gravitate there. If you are truly the man of the house you don’t put yourself first, you put yourself last. Respect is earned, if you have to demand external validation of it do you really have it?

[@ineedhoez]

I feel what you are saying but you should also be rewarded for your hard work. The least the family could do is let you have the premium tv viewing location.

[@tamitami9275]

The coat story: Can we all just admit first she is not your friend? Friends do not steal from you.

[@holeymcsockpuppet]

Story 1: step-dad won't repair the relationship. Mom really does resent her daughter. They lied to her. Behaviors tell you the truth, not words. It is clear they don't want her around. Girl needs therapy to help get through the next few years...then ghost that "family".

[@MmmKayHuuNay]

Yea, i think they just felt ashamed.

[@ineedhoez]

Not true. Behavior is a language but your interpretation of the reasons for the behavior can be wrong. He missed time with his son. He was making up for it and felt hella guilty. They brought the daughter along. She said they were into different things. He probably thought he was letting her do her own thing and not pressuring her. She is a teen. He would not know that she wanted anything more because she never said anything. I am not saying it is her fault, just noting that he had no reason to think she was displeased. As soon as she expressed that she was displeased, he owned it, and promised to do better.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 1 was a very wholesome ending. I'm glad OP expressed herself and was well received.

[@ineedhoez]

Story 5: preferential seating goes to the parents. This especially meant something 50 years ago when Dad worked that gard labor job. He got the big piece of chicken because he needed to be properly fed so he could go out and and do it again. Coming home from a long day of work and having your reserved spot is nice. Especially since you paid for it. Kids do not pay bills, therefore, they don't get full rights. I aint saying let them starve or make them sit on the floor. They just gotta cough up the premium tv spot.

[@SkyEcho751]

Story 5: There is a seat in the house that is my dad's, not because he claimed it. But rather because his work pants are hard/rough, so if he sits in multiple seats, he slowly destroys them all, but if he's in one seat it's the only one that gets damaged.

[@theTheoryofEvil]

oml the “spot” thing pissed me off. when my dad was around, he had the best spot on the couch and a chair. even if he was on the couch you could not sit in the chair

[@TsukiKageTora]

That sounds annoying, living rooms are supposed to be a healthy space and it didn’t sound like you had that

[@justozzy5559]

I was so confused about story 3 and why sister-in-law wanted Christmas pajamas.... Then I remembered that she's only 4.

[@vengeance4927]

With story 4, I remember seeing it on insta and there was a comment OP replied to where they stated that if they went to the CEO, who was the next step above them, then Bill most likely would've lost his job. So OP in that one really did save Bill's ass with just a reply-all lmao

[@charimonfanboy]

It was my mum who had her spot in our house, next to her knitting bag, the TV guide, the TV remotes, the phone and a table for her coffee. No one had to get up if she walked in, but only because no one would dream of sitting in her spot. It was hers

[@amararose3029]

That’s me I’m that mom 😂😂😂😂

[@HaaraAki]

My grandmother has her own seat. But its at her house, where she sits all the time. Which is an individual chair between the couches. But she's 81. Nobodys going to take her chair.

[@carolroberts4614]

I have a spot at both my daughters houses. Corner of the sofa,where there is a place for my cup of tea!

[@madgevanness4011]

Spots are picked because the light is better (crafters understand), the chair fits your bottom better, it’s closer to the kitchen, you need to be closer to hear or see, it all shakes out. I inherited my father’s recliner, and it’s both sentimental and better light and close for my eyes. My husband prefers the couch because he likes to watch TV lying down. Never seen him in the recliner.

[@lauracrabb7169]

Regarding the spot, my husband and I have our own spots. Mine is a specific spot on the couch where it’s comfortable to crochet or knit. My husband has an easy chair. No one sits in those spots except us because it’s easier for us.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 5: Amy you’ve been with Sheldon for so long, you should know he needs his spot.

[@lilianrose1799]

"the spot" when I was growing up I thought that it's normal because most families had their seating arrangements and "guest seats". We had that in my family and would switch it up when some where out of the house. Like, is that not the norm? 😄

[@chels1991g]

I might not fall asleep to you like some of your subscribers do, but you're videos provide an important background noise to my life. I've suffered from add most of my life and need something in the background regardless of what I'm doing. Your videos consistently are something I can come back to and have an idea of what is going on without distracting me from my primary task. In short, thank you

[@flamelily2086]

Story 1 OP is NTA her experience has been that the stepdad paid attention to her stepbrother and ignored OP. OP should tell them how they made her feel. No child should be made to feel like a third wheel. Story 2 NTA OP said her friend could take the purple coat, her friend took another coat and lost it. She must replace it.

[@Marco_Onyxheart]

In Dutch, familie is always extended family. Nuclear families are called a gezin. These completely different words make for a lot less confusion.

[@cheskydivision]

I don’t think most ppl consciously pick a spot. It just happens like the dining table when everyone seems to always sit in the same spot.

[@micahpatchen1538]

Good job Mark! you always find the best entitlement. I'm sitting here, eating snacks and cussing (cursing) at the computer as if the OPs can hear me. Nice work!

[@alexlibby5087]

Story 5; I found this so funny My grandpa always had his chair, my grandma her favorite spot on the couch, same with other family homes. My dogs always had their own beds so their own spots and etc I could see if someone was enforcing because “I’m the head of the house, I own everything, it’s mine and everyone under my authority needs to recognize that” Otherwise I think it’s very comforting to know you have a nice relaxing perfect spot in your home to rest in 😅

[@jackspring7709]

Story 5: WTF is OP on about? Is there a patriarchal conspiracy involving sofas now? Smh.

[@brenscott5416]

Exactly what I was thinking. What she's calling patriarchy sounds more like the breadwinner getting Accommodated in their own home

[@Rendosian]

What’s so weird is I live alone, full on adult status, and don’t have my own spot on the couch. However, when I go to my parents, we each have a designated spot that hasn’t changed in 30 years. Heaven help you if you are in moms spot when she finishes for the day! 🤣

[@johntremble7993]

I had a spot on the couch that i always sat in, but it wasn't me that tried getting people to move. It was my dog honey pup, she would sit in front of the person sitting in my spot and glare at them and when they got up, she sat there holding it for me. I didn't even train her to do that, she just did it Unfortunately honey pup isn't around anymore, she died January 20th 2020

[@ineedhoez]

Awwww!

[@sianchild]

Story five - we all have our own spots in our family. It's not patriarchy since literally everyone has their seat.

[@clairebear-96]

Growing up we all had “spots” on the couch too (and at the dining table) but it wasn’t such a big deal lmfao if someone’s in your spot, just sit somewhere else! nta tho, dad doesn’t deserve his “own spot” just because he’s the “man of the house”

[@porter0311]

I don't have a spot because its just not a thing in my home. Never had been. BUT when I became a single father I always had a spoon and a fork that was different than the others and those were my "favorite" spoon and fork. Those favorites had changed over the years due to thefts. But I always managed to get my hands on a new and different set of favorites always different from the rest. My kids picked up on this and they ALWAYS want to be the one to use them. A lot of the time I just let them and other times still I offer my favorites to them. It's like a term of endearment but a spoon and a fork.

[@BraveryWing26]

So glad the first story ended well. I hope they are sincerelly remorseful and improve in the future.

[@wildwikedwanderer1208]

Story 1: NTA after the update. Yea parents don’t see how badly they’ve fucked up and how much words they said mindlessly could really affect and damage their kid in the long run.

[@DePhoegonIsle]

or OP is being a dumb child, and not knowing just how much they pull away on their own, and actively refuses to address any issue directly out of fear. More likely OP is causing ALL of these problems by being afraid, and not realizing just how much they pull away.

[@Digitalfairy]

@@DePhoegonIsle I agree. It's just just too many people refuse to acknowledge that kind of POV happens.

[@DePhoegonIsle]

The problem exists .. that you can't even call it out.. because it lumped up into hate.. and the ironic Bit is.. the mother & step dad in the update likely didn't even realize the problem (and I really doubt it was because they hated the child) Just noticed how there are no ESH or YTA verdicts as main threads. We are in a victim culture and demanding that someone claiming to be the victim address their fear and not let their own perceptions rule the entire narrative is considered hateful. This will change in time, but only after the majority finally get sick of those that only ever seem to be the victim and use their own fears as justifications. (well If you're a lady or a child, feel free.. it's some how toxic to expect people to address their fears some how, before they turn nuclear or something. The moderation on this topic is aggressive as hell. ( I mean the Video, not the OP of this thread )

[@wmdkitty]

Your reasoning is crap. OP is TA for what they said, period.

[@Tammohawk1]

2. NTA That is one expensive coat to lose. Friend owes for the coat. She didn't have permission to take it, she's in the wrong. 3. YTA Immediate family vs. extended family. OP is just looking for trouble where there isn't any. No wonder her an mil don't get along. 4. NTA I generally sit on the left end of the couch, but the couch we have now doesn't work for me. So, I hang out in my extra large bedroom. I have a small sitting area, tv, etc... I could live in here if I put a microwave, my Keurig and mini fridge in here with me. I even have my own door to the outside! lol

[@SueTainsh]

Show me where she differentiated between immediate vs extended family? The child will remember being excluded which will make socialising harder in future YTA

[@nadzjanz]

Last story, my mom has a spot only when she's injured (she's needed an couple ankle and knee surgeries and often needs her leg elevated, so when this is needed she automatically gets the recliner), otherwise my family has a policy "you move your meat, you lose your seat" we all agreed to this though there was no special treatment for anyone. We didn't let grandparents sit on the floor if there wasn't enough seats for everyone though. But again, that was because of age and mobility issues, picking a spot that no one else can sit it just because is dumb

[@ArcaneNim]

Haha in my immediate family it was "you move your feet, you lose your seat". Yours makes more sense.

[@lancerevell5979]

Story five..... In evety home I have been in, the "man of the house" always has his particular seat. My Dad had his recliner chair, and Mom and us kids either avoided sitting there or would move when he came in. Just how it was. Same with me, my chair is MY spot. Pretty much SOP here in the South.

[@littlepockets4959]

My parents used to say 'bums take places in this house', there was 5 kids so there was no room for spots. As a result whenever someone got up to go to the loo or get a drink or something someone else would dash over from their seat and take that seat and when the person complained the resounding 'bums take places' would reverberate around the room along with a lot of giggling and some huffs and puffs from the looser. Although frustrating sometimes its also something we look back on now we are adults and giggle about, its just one of those stories you like to tell your kids.

[@Oicurmtoyoy]

Story 5 - Both of my parents had a spot. They never did anything to enforce it; it was just a habit that I, and any visitors naturally respected. I will say that using it as a deliberate lesson in respect is odd, and points a little bit towards an authoritarian personality (hence the lack of judgment), but the NTA comments seem like a huge over-reaction to me.

[@rachelfox8108]

Same, my grandfather has a spot, but it's something we simply respected and understood. I'm also the youngest of six siblings, so my "spot" was whatever was available, and the moment I vacated, it was up for grabs again.

[@dawnmidnightsun2521]

Da had a 'spot' too. No one else sat in it because it was the least comfortable chair in the living room lmao. Well except the rabbit. It was our rabbits favorite place to shit lol

[@tgbedini]

My stepfather had a recliner in the living room. He bought it for his comfort. There was a nice couch and other perches, but it was his, and we wouldn't think of bogarting his chair. BTW, I was a teenager when he moved in, and we got along fine, with respect, and some affection.

[@ewanmcgregorofficial3641]

S5 NAH people can have spots and people can be upset that they don’t get to sit in “the best spot” it’s a little childish but aren’t we all sometimes?

[@LaineyBug2020]

Oh man,,that first story broke me all the way down!

[@dear.p8n]

In my parents house the recliner was my mother's "spot" lol! My dad has no claim on it 🤣

[@amararose3029]

That’s my house. I own the reclining chair. Nobody sits in it but me. All of kids know if they see me walking into the room and they are in my chair they move. I love my chair but I also have all my knitting and other stuff around it and it’s the perfect height and set up for my knitting.

[@VikingsRazor]

Story 5. Myself (wife), my husband and daughter all decided where we want our own spot to be together. I actually find their spot quiet uncomfortable and it's the same way for them. Maybe because we wear in our body pattern. We always allow guests to sit where they please and we get the leftover, uncomfy spots. We are kind of like Sheldon with close friends and family who come over though. It really just depends.

[@authormomma9542]

Omg, just sitting here thinking about going to Thanksgiving tomorrow and someone having the balls to take the Judge's (my grandfather's) spot. I'll pick a different fight, thanks. I'm 40, but that man is 87 and awesome as hell and no one is taking that chair.

[@sylviahartman7099]

I absolutely have my own "spot" in my home! It's my seat. But if I have if someone is in it, I sit in another spot! It's not that big of a deal for a short amount of time. If it's all day, yeah I'll say something but otherwise.... its nice to see the room from another angle sometimes!! Lol!!

[@katiefleming691]

Had a fab time listening to this while cleaning the bathroom.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

2) Okay firstly that costs more than a monthly house payment for our house and then I googled it and was expecting this super cute coat that looked fancy with a dress....not a ski jacket, either way she can "find" it, pay for it or go to court over it.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@carolhorton2565]

With the first story definitely NTA. My youngest daughter is going through the same thing except her dad is paying more attention to the non-biological children. I have told her to talk to him about the way she feels, but she's so afraid of him. I understand that too.

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

I hope her dad is your ex

[@sadraccoonboy]

Some people are so bizarre to me. If something of theirs was damaged or stolen or whatever in my care I would be the one insisting they let me pay it back. I literally can’t imagine being someone like the friend who just refuses to pay for something that got lost while she had it

[@ivy4104]

Fantastic, nothing better during a sleepless night

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

I hope you'll be able to sleep soon

[@ivy4104]

Thank you, maybe! :D Hope you’re having a fantastic whatever

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@ivy4104 thanks 🤗🤗💜💜

[@TheNormExperience]

I mean, maybe blissful sleep would be better, but other than that, I agree with you.

[@DariaXjusha]

Hey Mark! I‘ve got some field work to do, so I‘m listening while driving the tractor. Love from Germany!

[@artemismoore4176]

I almost choked at the price of a Moncler coat when I looked it up This thing would never see the light of day, I would store it under glass and coded lock and take out only on special occasions

[@emibaka309]

Story 5: YTA What is wrong with spots? Like just dont sit on that if you dont want to move? Find your own spot and claim it, not a big deal. I honestly love spots. I have my dinner table spot and living room spot. They bring me comfort.

[@brenscott5416]

Exactly. If you don't Like moving you can always go somewhere else, op sounds like a child taking up someone else's favourite spot to be just because they can

[@fcold9402]

4. NTA. If he keeps breaking the rules and threatening the company then a stern warning was needed.

[@TiBunCosplay]

growing up my dad had a spot in one of the recliners. If one of us kids were in it and he came in, we knew to expect him to pick us up and have us share the spot with him for some cuddle time. If two of us were in his spot, he'd go sit on the couch. It wasn't a big deal at all. Now that spot is now my mom's spot since it's close to the window and she's taken up bird watching. My dad took her previous spot, and when any of us grown kids come over, we just take up the couch

[@Timbulathespidermonk]

I have my spot on the couch. Why? Because my cat has to sit on the armrest on my left and if I’m on the other side of the couch and my girlfriend is sitting there, the cat will yell at her and try to push her out of the way. My house is run by a furry little tyrant!

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 2: I mean, she stole your coat. If she doesn't pay you back, report her. Pretty sure that's grand theft...

[@ScarEyedCharizard]

In my family, we all have our own spots, kids included. No fights, no foul.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#2 NTA, She took the coat that was not the one you said she could borrow. She needs to pay up or take her to small claims and file a police report

[@samantharobinson1630]

might binge watch the aita playlist tomorrow will definitely need a distraction from the first major holiday without my dad he passed away in August

[@RokoFireFox]

Story 5. the only person who had a spot was my grandma. Cause he forever sat in ONE chair. And when he was getting older we got him one that moved to help him get up.

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark. was great listening to you coming home from Drs. Made the trip fast. How did I live before?? Stay safe please. PEACE

[@tonytandtherevengeofthecru9108]

Story 1: Op's logic falls down straight away, as she claims her bio mother doesn't show her attention either and no mention of her bio dad.

[@queen_of_flatulence]

I lived in a very similar situation to OP in the first story. I know how much it can hurt to feel loved less.

[@AryonaSamoto]

Growing up my family had a spot and it was the best spot to watch TV. Mom took it over and us kids would only fight over it when mom wasn't in the room. Now it's just me and my cat. I rotate spots and she follows me because she like being beside me. We never have issues😁

[@kittychaotic9450]

Story 5: NAH my mum always had a spot but it wasn't exactly enforced. Sometimes if I'm gaming in her spot she will let me sit there and go sit in MY spot. We both get spots it doesn't just have to be a parent thing.

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Story 5- I thought the "having a spot" was normal?? 😂. My mum and dad had their own chairs when I was growing up, I sat on the sofa or floor (if we had guests). Not once did I ever see Mum sat it dads chair or vice versa, when siblings visited, nobody sat in my parents chairs. I was born later in my parents life though at 34 I'm the youngest by 16 years), so my upbringing could be considered "old school" 😂 😂. NTA OP.

[@DePhoegonIsle]

I thought it was normal as well. Though OP is kind of a Douche canoe over it. my mother has her spot, I have mine... and my brother has his.. none of them are like 'serious', but really we all tend to have our stuff around our spots, from chairs to couches, & this 'it's old school' is utterly moronic. It's about bounderies & respect. Our homes are meant to be where we can establish our patterns, not play russian roulette with chairs & positions. We don't shuffle bedrooms, beds, cloths, or electronics... and even with 'family computers' including tablets, that take on a completely new feel then 'your computer'/'tablet'. This isn't a restaurant, nor a public transportation... It's meant to be our home (even in an apt.)

[@lizfritz6546]

Story 2: I think the friend has the coat ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@chulutheimposter5415]

Hello Mark!! I hope you had a fantastic day!! I wish you a great Thanksgiving tomorrow!! I've been watching those plane disasters all day scaring myself for the next flight I take at least I'm learning about planes, so that's a plus I guess?

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🤗🤗💜💜

[@paulchaudoir190]

My father had a "spot" in the living room but it wasn't the best spot. It was the farthest one away from the TV. What made it special for him was that it had a tall lamp next to him so he could read his newspaper and not be in the mix with everyone else. No one else wanted his spot.

[@MsTemptation]

S5: I sat and sit anywhere I want and that has always been the case. We don't do designated seating. When a space is open you sit. The only time seats are assigned is at the dinner table where the heads of that household sit. So if I'm doing the entertaining at my home my husband and I sit at the heads of the table. If I'm at someone else's home then they sit at the head of their table. So NTA.

[@deijix]

Ah yes, just in time for me to listen while watering my 100+ plants. Mark is right on the… mark lol

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@jackiewepps4694]

The update of story 1 made me cry...

[@paden1865able]

I have my own chair, it's where I sit while watching TV, mending clothes, reading books, or making rag dolls. It's literally my pincushion at times. 😆😆

[@candyapple3602]

Oh my goodness I’ve been waiting to see if my artwork was gonna be shown!!! ^~^

[@moonheems3558]

I do have my spot on the couch. But only because that's the only spot that doesn't worsen my back pains (chronic medical issues). So yeah I sometimes sit on a different spot cause my small kids are sitting in my spot. But I can only maintain that for 30min max.

[@scousemouse9566]

Story 5 NTA, saying that i have a spot on my sofa but my daughter (10) is always in it giggling and now the grandkids are doing it too 🧇🧇🧇

[@treco2583]

I’m a woman, and I have a spot in the living room and one in the game room, but my husband only has a “spot” in the game room. 🤷‍♀️

[@86londongirl]

20:12 my mind went immediately to Borat saying “king of the castle, king of the castle! I have a chair, I have a chair!” 🤴

[@BankruptMonkey]

I have a relative who thinks most family doesn't count too. Her parents are family, her kids and grandkids are family, but anyone married in AND any kids born to those married in- like their own nieces and nephews- don't count. I've just accepted some people have tiny hearts like the Grinch and can't accept many people as family members because they think there wouldn't be enough love for them to share with everyone, so instead they choose to be miserly with love. Even so she shouldn't have gone out of her way to show the people she excludes from her family are excluded, you can be more subtle about being a small hearted person instead of throwing it in people's faces.

[@gaywerewolf1294]

Story 1: Imma go with YTA. and regardless of what you experienced, it doesn't really set the rule here

[@Flotton]

Happy Thanksgiving week all

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You too m8 I hope its well💜💜🤗🤗

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 3: Oh my, OP put me in MOM mode, and I don't even have my own kids! My first thought was to put one hand on my hip, point the other in her smug little face and scold her firmly, "You march right back in there and apologize, young lady! You know perfectly well everything she just said was true, and if you wanted her to treat all 3 kids as if they were from the same family, you should have included her daughter! Shame on you for disrespecting her like that after she put all of your drama aside and housed YOUR family to keep you off the streets! You are GROUNDED!"

[@FriedaMMartin]

Good evening! Now begins the official cooking for thanksgiving day! It’s a big menu so a lot of work

[@katiesmith2031]

Mark thanks for the video hope you and poppy are having a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗 you too m8

[@katiesmith2031]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 Thank you broken I will. Hope you are having a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 thanks and I hope yours was good and that you'll get some good sleep

[@KingdomHeartsGame1]

My dad would yell at me and my siblings if we sat on the couches for too long because he said we were going to “ruin them”.

[@lewischase]

Good evening Mark Happy Hump Day everyone

[@mkinsanity2669]

Growing up, us kids had spots way more than our parents did. I used to get so mad if my brother sat at the breakfast table in my spot, and my mom always got the worst seat on the couch 🤣

[@SappyDuder]

Story 5: honestly, I have a spot down to my grandmother's house, and when my dad isn't home, I sit in my dads spot. (And when he is, I'm usually in my room). Mostly it's my OCD, as I just don't feel right and can't get comfortable if I'm not sitting in "my spot"

[@oakenshadow6763]

My dad has a set spot, an arm chair. BUT! He also let's us use it if he isn't home, and never has actually made us move. He just teases you and goes to jokingly sit on you. Having a "spot" is okay, so long as everyone can have one.

[@emtims1670]

I don't see how the "spot" issue could be fighting the patriarchy because she can have a spot for herself as well... Sometimes it's not that serious.

[@jasperj.d.g.4147]

He already took the best spot

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

Oh hi, Mark! Today, I'm practicing overtone singing, which is basically singing two notes at once. It's super weird but super cool. My new hyperfixation! My #wafflegang hoodie is in the wash so I can wear it tomorrow. Much love! 🥰

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Thats so cool I'll have to ask my vocal teacher about that

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 It's so cool you have a vocal teacher!! I've always wanted one. I'm just an amateur screwing around lol.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@UzumakiDonnoHinata yeah I just started like 2 months ago but maybe if you are in Charlotte look up the art center for all thats where I go and he's really nice

[@UzumakiDonnoHinata]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 I'm not, but if I ever end up there, I'll look him up!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@UzumakiDonnoHinata 👌 I hope you'll be able to get one soon m8💜💜🤗🤗

[@ember612]

The spot one, I would say NTA. In my home, everyone have their favourite spots. But if someone sits on it, the other just sits elsewhere, even my father would just choose another chair. I personally always give up my spot so my brother and his fiancee can sit side by side.