Venus Square Pluto in the birth chart- Combative relationships and friendships

[@cosmiccardinal3749]

My current boyfriend of 6 years has succeeded in disarming me by acknowledging my fears directly. Sometimes he is able to verbalize my fear better than I am. I love this about him.

[@lanalana-lf5nj]

That’s beautifulllllll ❤ What aspect do you think contributed to that?

[@starryeyes2227]

I wanna stress to everyone with this hard aspect in their chart that you can overcome it. don't let people just demonize you for this aspect, I am truly learning to respect others boundaries and to control my temper. you don't have to feel like you are doomed

[@henrietadale5079]

Can you please advise how to help someone with this aspect?

[@maurice8180]

Thank you for this kind comment, I feel like if you have a challenging aspect in your chart, then other people can be rude to you bc of it 😐

[@QueenBees456]

@@maurice8180 yeah if this aspect is in a public house like 7th house than u can attract this to you.

[@ShawnDavid91]

Thank you soooo much! I needed this encouragement. Scorpio Pluto in the 1st, venus in Leo in the 10th.

[@heywaitMarlee]

@@henrietadale5079 I'm learning how, I'll get back to you on it lol. I think a lot of it is learning to trust that not everyone is out to get you in this life and that control only brings loss if done in extreme ways.

[@MlssDl]

I have this aspect. I felt my defensiveness rise while watching this. That's when I realized you're right. My defensiveness just proves it. 😞

[@retrovintagedreams]

Same, I had some defensive points watching this.

[@veronikalynn5084]

This. Almost stopped watching because it was too painful. Honesty is combat, again. I needed to hear it

[@jenbodhi1133]

She was kinda mean in the way she talking though lol

[@offickdkdkkdkdkdkek]

@@jenbodhi1133 she was straightforward

[@cosmiccardinal3749]

I wish I could relax in a relationship. I know that I am the problem. The fear is sooooo deep. It’s not a good energy to have- there is no rest with paranoia.

[@LifeinGlow]

is your square applying of separating?.. it might also be connected with attachment styles and upbringing, some early experiences and even family history and past lives. If you want to improve that I'd recommend to use methods like art therapy and similar to tap into the subconscious and see what the root of it. of course astrology does reflect the conflict and fears, yet there are always some remedies with a proper effort to smooth it to some extent. Relocating with placing the square influence in another place might also help a bit. and some other remedies how to apply that energy. it energy of those planets are not used in a peaceful creative and transformative way as much they might give some more trouble.

[@claudjarodnez]

@@LifeinGlow Could you go into more detail about the ways in which someone could sublimate this aspect into something more positive, healing, or creative?

[@malukee1]

I totally agree, I’m always paranoid. I have never been calm not once in my life except for when I was sedated in hospital 😅

[@chocolateccm1493]

@@malukee1😂 I’m always calm until someone tries my patience!

[@Frulara]

To everyone with this aspect; you are wonderful people even if you don’t believe it. I know many people with this aspect including my boyfriend, and while it is tough when the paranoia kicks in, the gifts that this placement can offer are invaluable. I think the key to exalting the effects of this placement is working directly with childhood trauma that is creating this fear, and I know plutonians love digging through the subconscious so this shouldn’t be a problem for you. And most importantly, accepting your flaws and recognizing that you are good enough and you deserve what your soul is looking for.

[@CleoraAleise]

Liesss they are not wonderful people the rest is true but they are bleeding on everyone else let’s not enable them pls

[@heywaitMarlee]

@@CleoraAleise sit down and stfu. Unless you have it, don't speak to it. Stop being rude and nasty.

[@sebastianverney7851]

@@heywaitMarlee "stfu" is just vulgar and rude and nasty, and yet you accuse Cleora of being rude and nasty! It is hypocritical, but sadly this is common in the social media today.

[@sunshine009ification]

I want to thank you as well as Starry Eyes for your kind comment. Thank you. I normally love her insight, but as someone with this aspect, I felt a little misjudged by her words. I had a terrifying childhood, and have had a hard time with trust in the past, but have always been a loving and kind person. I am healing, and so can anyone else who suffered abuse.

[@heywaitMarlee]

​@@sebastianverney7851 yes because she passed a huge judgement on every single person with this placement by saying we are not wonderful people and that we just "bleed" all over everyone and don't need to be enabled. I fail to see how a sweeping generalization in the terms she used isn't also rude and nasty. If someone with this placement has hurt her, she needs to go and work it out with herself and not come in and trash a helpful comment made to encourage people with this difficult placement to not give up hope. I'm giving her exactly what she gave originally. Trashing every single person with this placement with a statement like that is just vile. And if you don't have it, you won't understand how incredibly difficult it is and how much we need and long for understanding and compassion and positivity. So, good day to you.

[@louisaa144]

"they don't see that their honesty is often anger" that hit me hard wow wow wow WOW

[@ania4683]

I've got a Venus semisquare Pluto aspect in my natal chart and I can totally relate to this video. When some person shows up and makes it obvious enough that it's interested in a friendship/relationship with me, the first thought that pops up in my mind is: "Who are you and how can you hurt me?" Then the testing and probing begins before I let them anywhere close to me physically not to mention emotionally. Majority gets rejected. It is exhausting, to be honest. The rest of the video is also spot on :)

[@anditsreyna020]

I have venus in pisces , I have to be picky and defend myself because ppl w. this placement tend to be taken advantage of. & I refuse to be taken advantage of.

[@MiriFenske]

Same!

[@kt2699]

me too

[@uniquea8079]

Yep

[@scarletXlune]

It happened so much that I'm just done.

[@erikm8372]

At least Venus is exalted in Pisces right? Lol.

[@l0VEasher]

Watched this a few months ago and thought “hmm this doesn’t really fit!” Now I’m back and whew, spot on. Thank you so so much, this is incredibly helpful as I learn myself better. 💖

[@scarredbyillusion]

Disturbingly accurate, explains my relationships

[@malukee1]

I have this aspect in my chat at 0 degrees orb. It is truly a difficult one that has taken over my love life. However I have now learnt that I am the cause of my own pain and held myself back from becoming more and doing better in life. I can see that it’s my temper and my anger and my anxiety that has held me back in life. For me to have this at 0 degrees exact and to finally know that I am to blame means I have faith that we can overcome it. Pray to God that He will make you a better person 🙏🏽

[@caryscheidel3541]

I dated a man with this aspect. She is SPOT on! I was vulnerable to him and told him how much I cared about him and he just blamed me and made me feel like a bad person. He said I was being viotile and that he would come back into my life again in 3 months!! I was so hurt for expressing myself to him and opening my heart.

[@pakman6tih]

My partner has this aspect, and wow, this really has a lot of accurate points, that I thought applied to other parts of her chart. Now, certain other points, mostly the negative behaviors, are truly not applicable, as she is really into vulnerability and wanting others to be as well. But you're right - anger and combativeness and worth, and to a lesser extent, selfishness, are big issues. Luckily, she has a sense of humor about it and is generous, responsible and aware -few problems with interactions and work. So, she has transformed a lot of it.

[@ShadaeMastersAstrology]

Your writing style is amazing and I also think it’s great that you’re so observant about deeper aspects of your partner.

[@totallyrave53]

This placement makes me feel disposable. Like I meet people who can easily throw me to the side and keep it moving in their life. I never met anyone willing to fight for me.

[@phoneixrising5038]

Same here love

[@Blue-Mo0n]

Same here.

[@Blue-Mo0n]

@Bob Fresno How do you connect it to the intensity?

[@themoonbleu627]

yikes my bf has this and yes he is disposable yet wow I thought it was just bc i picked him and was lonely

[@ScribblebytesWorldwide]

Oh honey we're on our own over here. The only people who fight for us are dead people aka spirits. We celebrities in the spirit realm. They love us over there. But over here...hmm...

[@reandruzzi]

SO MANY fascinating people with this aspect: Britney Spears, Elizabeth Taylor, Ted Bundy, Audrey Hepburn, Woody Allen, William Shakespeare, Johnny Cash...the list goes on!

[@lacemitchell9895]

unfortunately, it took them so many times to get it right, which is my life😩 lol but they are awesome. Well, maybe not woody Allen...he's too creepy.

[@reandruzzi]

Lace Mitchell Ted Bundy's pretty awful too lol ;)

[@lacemitchell9895]

***** um...cool?

[@alisonwelch8465]

reandruzzi that makes me feel a bit better lol

[@sziami09]

Maybe it was not so easy to their partners.

[@leac.3559]

TELLING MY LIFE WITH YOUR WORDS, woman

[@MasterClaymoreBlaze]

Very impressive video, you nailed this aspect! I can attest to the how the Pluto-Venus person's trust issues and feelings of lack screwing over relationships and being taken out on career. Also, I also vote on Moon-Venus square if you're keeping track of these requests. Thank you for the video!

[@bwhitedpencilbox889]

Another excellent video! I have Venus in aquarius conjunct my ascendent in a T-square with Pluto in scorpio in my 10th and Mars in taurus in the 4th. It is hard. My sensitivity and my talents have been taken advantage of SO MANY TIMES. I really related to how you talk about being prickly and having armor and putting up a face of no vulnerability, that was me for YEARS. Being beautiful and sweet as a girl is one of the most dangerous things in the world. I was scapegoated and abused in my family because of my sensitivity and victimized as child outside the home too. I see injustice in the world in social relationships and mostly at work and it makes me so mad to see people being taken advantage of that I almost can't function in the working world! I am really grateful to have Venus in Aquarius because it gives me a detached ability to socialize with pretty much anyone casually, I can be very charming ;) But if you cross me, if you try to take advantage of me, you have NO IDEA what monster you have woken. I would love to be a thistle, that no one can touch except gentle bugs and butterflies ;) I will be watching your venus square mars video next!

[@sziami09]

You are such a brilliant astrologer. I have never heard before such a clear explanation of pluto square venus. My ex boyfriend has this and he was typically what you desrcibe here...selfish and never giving. He could become ice cold and made me feel guilty for nothing. In the end we broke up after i tried to be with him for a long time. So sad...he never understood when i tried to just explain things...when he got offended he did not speak to me for days. Pluto can be cruel and dead cold :(

[@henrietadale5079]

violetta09 I am going through the same thing with a man...he’s super stingy and never even bought me a drink. That would not be a problem..the problem is he’s stingy with his love!

[@4000angels]

Jewel, you're the best astrologer on KZbin. Thank you for your incredibly insightful videos. You are so gifted at what you do. Peace.

[@forthejoseph]

Thank you, this changed my life! i looked at that aspect yesterday and I knew I needed to research it.

[@AmbrrEvans]

Sad to me!! I feel like I have no hope, I’m broken 😭💔 thank you jewel for the clarity that I’m not just messed up it’s actually my planets that challenge me.

[@33cocoons64]

Word sister. I’ve been through it, but I see that I created all of it. Now I’m creating Love all around me and within me. I’ve been to the depths of my own personal hell and now just like the pheonix I rise. 🙏

[@claudjarodnez]

How did you do it??

[@leashiepeachie]

Wow this video is life changing explains why I always had a rough issue with work and love a powerful detriment exists

[@kelz726s9]

Omg, I started my spiritual journey because of a relationship. Our synastry is CRAZY!!! I have learned ALOT from him, we REALLY mirror each other! Yes I now see I did put myself in many situations and was defensive, combative and a wounded warrior!!!!

[@freeverse5112]

Wow, you're very perceptive, just nailed it! I have this aspect plus Saturn conjunct my Pluto within degree, major theme of my life.

[@MsLaBajo]

Katarzyna Drankowska Similar. I have both Pluto and Saturn square Venus. How do you manage?

[@jasminesakurai405]

This makes me cry.. I needed to hear this.😢❤

[@pluday4685]

A theme thats played out in my childhood (chiron/pluto 11th square venus/mercury moon and sun 8th) if i stick my neck out in groups for having strong reactions or expression i get teased/bullied. I would get absolutely livid and become violent if id had enough It became vicious cycle that im starting to realise i kind of perpetuate BUT our aspect brings out the dickhead in people for their entertainment where youre the brunt of the joke for being real with people in ways they dont like orthink is normal. I feel like its been a mis management of how i perceive anothers perception of me. Its stunted my ability to open up with people but has made me a much better person for it. In the end with this placement you become the most pure of heart.

[@sorekcazimi]

Great video, very cutting and rings true. I have this aspect and I've started dealing with it over the past year or so. What helped me was that I found a workplace where I felt good about my ability to perform my job (I have Sun/Venus conjunct in 6th), and had the fortune of good coworkers. I really started coming out of my shell with the friends I made there, because they were all very emotionally competent and sensitive people (part of the job), so I let my guard down and let them get to know me as I actually am (at least a little), and to my shock, they still liked me! That also helped me become more open with friends I've had for a while longer, and now it just slowly radiates out among my social circles. Ah, emotional honesty...it's still ~very uncomfortable~, but rewarding too. Definitely better than what I was doing before

[@JewelMayberry]

Fearless!!

[@lanalana-lf5nj]

I just wanna send u a big hug 🤗 happy for you

[@sorekcazimi]

@@lanalana-lf5nj thank you 👽✨🖤 what a pleasant shock to be reminded of this 5 year old comment of mine. still rings true today!

[@mayabass4930]

so any advice? i know its like "oh look inside yourself" but im not exactly the best at that.

[@shuzennn]

Yep. True. Doesn't help that my Venus is in Virgo(++++criticising points lolll) it's sad... Because at the same time I want to be nice and yeah :/

[@loyisokhoali9511]

Saaaaaame

[@CelineCatch]

It’s okay we’re still baddies!!

[@ElizabethHatshepsut]

Wow! This was a rough un-clothing 😥😩😩. Everything Jewel said is true and if you don't agree then that just proves the point 🤷‍♀️😂. Yes it is a challenging aspect but one that can be overcome with spiritual grounding - meditation, yoga or whatever - and fundamentally understanding that you can't demand what you're not willing to give. You can't expect vulnerability if you're not willing to be vulnerable. In other words, you have to be a reflection of what you desire to experience in others... But the bottom line is we MUST learn to trust ourselves and through that, set healthy boundaries with others. Let our intuition guide us and practice self love.. We are very perceptive thanks to Pluto but we have to learn to trust our inner guidance, especially where people are being authentic. This is what I've learned through my relationships and in my journey towards healing 🙏🖤

[@JewelMayberry]

I should have just said that.

[@ElizabethHatshepsut]

@@JewelMayberry that means alot coming from you Jewel 🙏. Thank you, your videos are amazing and have taught me alot. Especially as an amateur astrologer 😃💜

[@tamlynn786]

Liz -So true! I don’t have Venus square Pluto I have Venus conjunct Pluto and I used to hate feeling vulnerable in relationships so I would sabotage it before it even got serious. But as I’ve done inner healing work and remained single I’ve been able to transform those fears through self love and boundaries. 💗

[@valentinavillafane6711]

I have this placement + venus in virgo which makes me reallyy picky. I haven't been in a relationship for so long because no one is enough.. it's a hard placement for love

[@laurat1012]

This video is so helpful thank you so much. You’re very compassionate but also honest in your approach and I really appreciate that

[@tangledroots9078]

Dead on!!!! I had to learn how to get out of my own way. I walk a very self aware line. It started with being responsible for the fact I was walking into my fears time after time. I have an abundance of love. I can be vulnerable and authentic without fear now.

[@JewelMayberry]

So beautifully put💓

[@tangledroots9078]

At 48 my world crashed. You have helped the entire way. Thank you. I have found even more compassion and empathy through astrology. You are a gift ❤️

[@starryeyes2227]

ill also say that in some cases inner work is needed on a very consistent basis in order to overcome this, basically constantly checking yourself, developing a lot of emotional discipline. its extremely difficult but we have these hard aspects because they are lessons. if your desire to overcome this is strong you can do it.

[@amanda-gq7sn]

I have venus conjunct moon and saturn in the 4th house in the sign of aquarius and pluto in the 2nd in scorpio and I feel this square energy internally very strongly. My self worth, thinking patterns, belief system, values, attachments, motives... are being tested and tested, it's so exhausting... emotionaly and mentally painful... but this transformation is so needed for my soul and peace 🙏🏻 And because of all my inner blockages I couldn't even imagine being with someone. I am so stuck in my head and can fantasize about the the idea of loving someone/being loved until it felt distorted and strange. I had my lesson. You can't control love. Love knows no rules. Love is freedom. Love is life. Love gives life.

[@Blue-Mo0n]

How old are you? Have you never been into a relationship?

[@amanda-gq7sn]

@@Blue-Mo0n I'm 28 and I was never in a relationship.

[@Blue-Mo0n]

@@amanda-gq7sn I've never had a non platonic relationship either. I am 30yo. Is there anything else problematic in your chart when it comes to relationships/intimacy? For example I have Uranus, North Node and Neptune in 7th H and Saturn which rules my 7th H is in my 8th H. These are all very difficult placements indicating no intimate relationships and the best way to protect myself and keep my sanity is to completely avoid relationships.

[@jelenapetrovic2873]

I have this aspect in my natal chart, its very true what you said. I ve never had a good, stable relationship in terms of stable or true feeling towards another person.

[@thynisia396]

This video is a gem, thank you for explaining and sharing. I haven't even experienced that aspect yet really, but I already realise that this may be rooted from my parents relationship (sun square moon). I also have Venus square Chiron so I know I'm going to overcome this and help others through this challenge.

[@ralukshik]

Again you were very accurate with everything. I didn't knew exactly which of my many squares made me a bitch in every given situation but now i know. Thanks! No but really. the truth is that it's kinda hard to become that amazingly giving person when the wounds from the childhood and early adulthood are deep and a constantly obsessive state of mind doesn't help either. Well at least i have plenty of time to live, experience and learn. So who knows one day...

[@carlinetorweihe4246]

Awwwah.....Recognizing this is more painful than the aspect itself. But congratulations! You are MUCH further than my hubby ever was. He died in ignorance, I am afraid. Sad.

[@pluday4685]

I feel you on this. Just out of high school and fucked up a few friendships and the groups i was apart of. Lost alot of the confidence i gained from being in that group but slowly building up to warming up to people idont know (11th house chiron and pluto with venus 8th)

[@claudjarodnez]

@@pluday4685 I can relate to everything in your comment so much that I could have written it myself❣️ 🥲

[@forthejoseph]

I take a minute to imagine what it feels like to be my self, and be alive, regardless of my success and failures, achievements, bills, social status, career position, what I do, who I am, how my body-image looks to others; whatever is left, is LOVE. Radiate that feeling, rather than the mind's distortions of my self.

[@claudjarodnez]

💕💕

[@UnstoppableBEATZ]

I think my Venus square Pluto qualities take effect now in my 20s. Because in my early years, I was a giver. I give more than I receive, but since failed friendships and relationships I don’t take interest in friendships anymore or relationships. Could the venus square pluto characteristics happen later in life?

[@Blue-Mo0n]

Same here. I was a giver and I flipped when T.Pluto got into my 7th H. I don't want to give to anyone anything and I didn't get anything so why give smth? Maybe a transit/progression activated it in your chart. Also I wasn't suspicious of cheating untill I saw that it haooens to everyone. So no relationships for me it's the best option.

[@alicehagsss111]

I've commented on one of your Neptune vids before and I know this is an older interpretation now, but I just wanted to say what an accurate and unfortunately honest interpretation this is. I've got my Pluto in sag in an exact square to my Venus in Virgo (conjunct my mercury), and it feels like I can't bond with people normally. My friendships feel either combative or awkward, which granted I'm 17, but I also endlessly yearn over people who hardly even notice me. It's like i love those who are indifferent to me and hate those who love me. Anyways, thank you again, and keep up your clearly dedicated practice.

[@kattodorova6741]

100% relatable! Virgo Venus square Sagittarius Pluto here as well!

[@rb757]

@@kattodorova6741 same what the heck is that about

[@VladaldTrumptin]

Thanks for helping me understand my last relationship. He had it in the 7th at a critical degree. It’s taken me 2 years and still only getting over it now. Helps to understand from his point of view so I can feel empathy rather than resentful. I wish I knew this earlier I might have been able to do better at showing how much I cared.

[@CleoraAleise]

No only they can fix it Ive tried to overcompensate through love it doesn’t work this is very engrained.

[@Anastasiapajarillo]

Hm,,spot on. I always remember an ex partner calling me "a terrorist of love". I had been wondering for years what he meant. I guess the video explains it all. I guess my ascendant in Leo and my sun in Gemini together with a moon in Capricorn doesn't really help. :) Thank you, I'll go now hide for a while (lol). Fortunately there is still hope.. I thank you again for all your videos, I think they are amazing

[@ShawnDavid91]

"Terrorist of Love" lol, 😲 wow.

[@tinaclaramarie5947]

Wow. You just described a very important person in my life. Incredible!!! Thank you. I have an understanding that i needed desperately. Thank you

[@BIG_DICK_BANKS]

I met a guy with this aspect and sun square pluto. Within two days he went from Mr. NIce Guy to the nutcase from the movie "Fatal Attraction".

[@AnotherTruth]

I don't necessarily agree with this. I have this placement as well as Saturn conjunct venus - a double whammy, as they say -- but it's to my benefit. I don't need to grill anybody -- they give me what they're willing to share, and they share a lot. I don't dupe anybody into an agreement or in a partnership or anything else in order to extract the information I need to determine if I think they're a good match -- they offer it up in conversations. They tell me they're not good for me in conversations. Even a person who isn't as well-versed shows their integrity by being honest, and most aren't. And yes, my conversations could be construed as leading, but it's them I want to know, not what I can gather to attack them - that's puerile and sneaky. I just let them go, if they're not a match. People who are scared are scared of me because _they_ have something to hide - not the other way around - so it's best they stay where they are and not anywhere near me. No arguments, no combat, just hello and stay in your corner. I want to be loved and appreciated for whom I am, but I am not. Does that mean I have to manipulate them to see that? No, I don't - they have to see it for themselves, but I'll be damned if they're getting a free ride on my heart while they make up their minds. Willingness and consent are everything. I'll pursue what I want that is important to me, but I won't convince a man that I'm worth it - he has to see that for himself.

[@GateWeston]

wow this comment is right on for me I practice Buddhism so I'm really detached from this world starting to realize impermanence in everything so manipulating people is a very low and inappropriate thing to do and useless I've been on the negative side of this aspect but now i feel like I'm on the more positive this aspect is Awesome wants you come out of the shadows : )

[@AmbrrEvans]

Wow!! Just wow same placements for me, I do this exact same thang. And literally everyone gets cut lol I’m a loner maybe

[@MsLaBajo]

I have the same placement and yes I feel as if I really just size people up and I'm very conflict driven. This astrologer is very negative about this placement. We may be guarded but bc our hearts are things we hide deep but when we are vulnerable we are all in and there's no going back. We also see the vulnerabilities in other people and love them for their shortcomings and are not dissuaded by imperfection. We find flaws endearing... I think... We know that is ultimately what is real about the human condition.

[@Blue-Mo0n]

@Lindy T Exactly

[@jonmakack1905]

Very accurate interpretation of this aspect! I hope you will do Mars conjunct Saturn in the birth chart sometime in the future.

[@JewelMayberry]

I will put it on my natal aspects list. I like requests because it lets me knows what my audience wants to hear. Thanks!

[@Tosugos]

+Jewel Mayberry Nice, I got mars conjunct saturn in my chart. Actually I have a stellium (mercury/sun/saturn/mars) - in aries, 12th house. I know you can't make a video about it because it's so specific, but how can I know more about it then? Always been curious.

[@reandruzzi]

+Jewel Mayberry I'd be interested in a natal Mercury opposite Pluto at some point :)

[@matheya]

I have it too.

[@Lana-bp5tf]

Venus square Pluto conj Moon conj Ascendant here 👋 This video was so helpful and eye opening and sooo on point omg 😳 Thank you so much for this! It’s better than therapy lol

[@catwitch888]

Astrological aspects about the self, if understood, can be altered and transformed if the native wants to. Dont let tarot readers and horoscope readers tell u what you are! Make yourself be who you want to be and use your astrological makeup to your advantage not your disadvantage!

[@Diamond_tip]

I’m currently going through the change.. I used to be so stingy and feel such a vast amount of myself I could give to others and it’s truly amazing.. I don’t nessisarly have this square but I have Pluto planet in my 7th house libra/relationships and it really spoke to me thank you

[@heywaitMarlee]

This is not the best video to watch if you have this difficult and often times life destroying square in your natal chart. There is a lot of misplaced blame coming to Plutonians with this in this video, I feel. This approach makes us seem hopeless and almost not worthy of help because of how intensely we come across in relationships. I'm here to tell you that Plutonians with a venus square, there is not a damn thing wrong with you and your beautiful wounded selves. It is NOT always about you and how you affect people around you and I'm sure many of you are sick of being told you're the problem and you need to change and then experiencing the same type of relationship over and over again. It is NEVER just the fault of one person. And it doesnt always have to be Pluto causing the problems either! The pain comes from loss or abandonment ar a deep and subconscious level. We act out how we feel and it can be too much for some people. But please don't give up if you have this square and please don't blame yourself. We need all of our plutonians right now, wounded or not. 🧡🧡

[@tianamoana1088]

This is why I have messed up connections and a messed up energy towards people. I'm never in a good mindset coming from a sun, Venus and mercury square Pluto person 🥺 my pisces moon wants to love 🥺♥️

[@kerinoble4395]

This video is very helpful...my hubby has this aspect and clearly nails his nature... We are going to have to have another session Jewel!

[@JewelMayberry]

Oohhh girl....you have some fire in the home!

[@cb4038]

I love this placement and it's what has helped me navigate life against machismo, my wound at all levels as well as self value issues since birth. I know I've been a lawyer and a militar in the past or future, but I'm a Dominatrix now and I love it. I walk around with a tiny whip in my purse LOL.

[@ShadaeMastersAstrology]

😂😂 I have this aspect in conjunction. I’d prefer a whip over other welcoming tools that have left me vulnerable to selfish users me having the conjunction has attracted.

[@ruhphodastica]

is it true that this aspect brings magnetism to the person?

[@Porkchopapii]

Yes it does sis.

[@VibeWithVida]

@@Porkchopapii OH my GOD it does. Use it wisely, because the temptation to use it as a weapon is strong.

[@Porkchopapii]

@@VibeWithVida Thanks I have Venus 4th semi sextile (Inconjunct)Pluto in 4th And I have angular Venus Mars Pluto. I have a question can you I have Mars square Pluto 9 degrees I feel like I resonate with this aspect Soooooo much and I have Aries Jupiter in 8th Mars and Pluto ascpecting my Jupiter in 8th.

[@VibeWithVida]

@@Porkchopapii that's a question for Lada. I don't have the answer to that, sorry.

[@Porkchopapii]

@@VibeWithVida Thank you how Sun conjunct Neptune 5th.

[@lalopez7394]

okay at first you talked soo slow but now its getting interesting

[@suzydias5554]

We become prickly because the experience that we lived in entire life ... for example I want to be prickly now ... we support a lot of displeasure that we can't be as we were ... my own mother says that I was more loving ... I am ceasing to be, other people abuse our vulnerability and really use it to do things that we would not have the courage to do with the other human being

[@robinwalz4323]

My son has this aspect and hes the funniest, laid back passive person..Hes so charming and social and never fights with anyone..Hes also a cancer sun with libra rising too if that means anything..Hes not stingy at all..He does have problems managing money though..lol..

[@martianaimee]

Jewel I appreciate this video so much, it is delivering a hard truth but I'm glad to hear it! I have been struggling with how this placement reflects my behavior and I needed to hear this badly.

[@martianaimee]

its a difficult thing to take on responsibility, but its also empowering, and uplifting! I am in control of myself, and I can even help myself heal and change.

[@zazooplazz]

Porcupine here, Venus in 3rd square to Pluto in 12th! But wait, there's more! Mars conjunct Venus and Mars square Pluto! Is it any wonder I turned to comedy? Hahahaha! Excellent video, Jewel, I love your analyses.

[@swizzlemc00]

Great video! No other description has been quite this in depth!

[@HauntedCerebralAstrology]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you. xHC

[@goognoog392]

My soon to be ex partner has it. Aries with moon in pisces and mars in aries. Left his ex penniless and complained that all his girlfriends are mad and tried to beat him. Little did I know, the truth is in reverse. His ego is more important to him than other peoples' life even.

[@goognoog392]

I know he had a tough childhood, but that doesn't excuse trying to obliterate off the face of the earth financially and even at times physically the very people who cared about him. Evil man.

[@girlsaturn8621]

@@goognoog392my ex with this placement did this. when he lost his job i started paying for dates… over time he felt entitled to this, and outside of dates would ask me to send him money for gas and food, and if i didn’t he would give me the silent treatment. he took my virginity so i was unhealthily attached and in love so i did it. if i ever dared even question his behavior, he would block for 3-4 days at a time then come back like nothing happened. if i dared ask why he would block me for basically no reason he would do it again. after 2 years together this girl messaged me with screenshots of how he cheated. 1 month after we started dating he slept with her, and a few weeks later he proceeded to take my virginity. and then financially abused me for two years. when i texted him the girls message and asked what’s up? is this true? he immediately blocked me without a word. we never had an actual break up. the second i confronted him he silently disappeared like a ghost… after 2 whole years together. truly evil and sick man. karma is real though. he gained 30 lbs after we broke up. he always had a phobia about weight gain and being unattractive. he deserves it. he was a sadist too. the two times i cried in front of him after he hit me, he chuckled and started humming a tune.

[@antij1]

this is EXTREMELY TRUE.

[@GlobalMusicFestivals]

Nah, I know who to share my vulnerabilities with and who not to. Not everyone has the best intentions for you and people with this aspect know this

[@DominiqueRamseyArt]

It's true, I do not fully invest in someone until trust is built enough with someone. If I know I mean something to someone I subconsciously give them less issues but this even takes 2 years to build that trust. I have always had issues making friends and when meeting new people 9/10 they are standoffish towards me from the start which only makes me defensive. I recently had a breakthrough though after graduating college and im more giving and vulnerable! but I no longer have to deal with kids at school or family so it's safe to love now.

[@claudjarodnez]

How did you arrive at your breakthrough, if I may ask?

[@scottjones9216]

Jewel you are right , I have pluto in virgo ( employment , work ) and I don't work steady and when people ask me about in conversation ( venus in gemini ) i tend to gloss over the subject .

[@TheAstrologicalBuddhist]

I have this and my Pluto is in libra in the 2nd house 😂 a little on point. I am learning how to not project and also give without expectation as people always let me down. I think the over giver in this aspect is so they can have evidence of the person not being able to supply what is desired. I always feel that others don't give me what I need, I am not enough so I get a lot of these relationships. Just trying to find equilibrium of me giving and feeling good about that. Yes I am very picky and very prickly. With a very overactive Pluto I am also very jealous which I think is Pluto square Venus also the opposition.

[@garysummers9254]

Much valued information , your discription how you grow with this aspect it resonates. What you value as a younger person , and how it transform with maturaty . Relationship's with house 7 , how you deal with self , and the people it's influince . Fantastic work .

[@amaelisrael]

Venus conjunct mc in Leo , Pluto in 1st house in Scorpio square .. This video just changed my life . Thank you so much . I would love to hear sun opposite Neptune !

[@uranusten9540]

Is there anything good about this aspect? Damn. And yes, I am focused on giving to myself better because I've given too much of myself to others for over 29 years This is where Traditional astrology makes a difference vs modern

[@acuariana3337]

Tanks you very much. Seeing the good points of this aspects is so calming. Bless!!!

[@hdubbs9174]

I feel like my entire chart is the 8th house crap-I have 4 objects (3 planets and 1 asteroid) there. This aspect, venus (7th) opposite moon (1st) and that forms a T-Square with Pluto, because the Moon squares pluto as well…And my Saturn in 1st doesn’t help. Almost all of my personal planets are difficulty aspected! I’m guessing my chart is very “karmic”. I am very angry about 2nd and 7th house stuff-someone I loved as a child hurt me so much and told me lies that hurt all of the relationships I had and caused me to believe things about every other relationship that was important to me. I don’t blame myself for believing the lies, since I was a young child. So I did learn that love is a limited resource. This has been a great source of pain and trauma for me. There has always been a lot of emotional uncertainty. Of all the help I’ve sought out, meditation has helped the most. That being said, I am not very sarcastic. I think that sarcasm is contemptuous and a way to avoid being earnest and honest. Don’t get me wrong, when I was younger I definitely was, but someone called me out on it and that helped me to change.

[@DemonicTookie]

Question? I have venus in pisces but my venus is squaring my pluto---- is it similar to venus in scorpio??? I have these deep impulses that are hard to control but I manage it.

[@Hundderx]

Yes it is similiar to venus in scorpio

[@marynaofmasteringhuman4321]

Wow this is so dead on for me and it breaks my heart. Any advice on how to stop having these types of perceptions/ views/ approach to relationships? I understand being mindful is the first step but like any pointers to transmute these tendencies.

[@Luvofmarz]

I have this @ 0 degrees. “I hear you but I don’t believe you” is a theme

[@july9352]

What hapen when venus is the ascendant ruler in this square?

[@alexderek5233]

So true.. If someone doesn't add anything to my life they are useless to me and I usually block all opportunity of communication with them. But if someone does oh boy. I turn into a completely different person. It's a problem and I am trying to tone it lol. Very Accurate!

[@faithevolution552]

In my experience with three men with this aspect: combative, defensive, egoistic and a feeling of entitlement towards self, but a subtle attitude of arrogance when they are with others, this is always below the surface....is this correct???

[@myaacount]

I have this placement :) Venus in 5th Squares Pluto/Jupiter conjunction in 2nd House Too much fluctuation in finance matters Relations are weak as well. i dont go out much I love Music and instruments all the time. I like to spend on possessions around me. I m still single in 34 years of age :) Long term Relations proved to be disasters for me. People use to cheat me a lot. But still i never lost hope in myself now i take these things as a routine and fun. BTW, Venus also makes opposition to my 11th House MOON (i extremely picky in choosing friends and most go out alone i don't feel like having friends in Life. I have good attachment to my mother)

[@WonderA_]

Wow i also have similarity in our chart hahah i have venus square pluto\jupiter 3rd\house & i honestly don’t know what expect

[@Blue-Mo0n]

Same here, I am in my 30s and I've never been in a relationship nor I ever will.

[@Merc_33]

What happens when you have Pluto in the first house in scorpio , but you are a late libra rising ,making Venus the chart ruler ?

[@Melissa-nv7se]

I have this aspect ( Venus in virgo 4th ). But the other aspects in my chart talks about that I have a Giving nature because I feel too much guilty (that isn't mine , pluto chiron mercury conjunct in the 6th) and I don't feel good in the role of the feminine ( Moon in Aries 11th ). The problems in my relationshipis sometimes were because I was too giving and never feel like I needed something back . But yes is true sometimes i'm defensive i thought people will hurt me so i end the relationship in advance. I hate feeling vulnerable , but I don't project any of this , I had always see myself as an unavailable emotional person. But now I can change all of this take my power back and be myself.

[@elaineekberg113]

My Venus is sesquisquare pluto. I'm an over giver, so a little different I guess but similar in the combative relationship thing. Can't find anything on this aspect although it seems bad enough to merit attention.

[@Carsono5]

Ouch :( I have this placement. Trying to be more focused on being compassionate and loving myself to help.

[@carlinetorweihe4246]

At least one reader writes how difficult this aspect is in a natal chart. I was was married to "it". The husband tried forcing love triangles taking others"hostage". He had bled his long-time work associate ( a woman) of all her resources. As he started to take me over financially I went straight to a lawyer. Wanting everything, he lost everything.

[@generategreatness1816]

Please can you say more???? I’m currently practically in love with a guy with this and scared I’ll be hurt

[@amaelisrael]

VENSUS SQUARE MOON AS WELL!!

[@christianlara8060]

totally agree with this.... people are always on guard around me...

[@ZizYoubizHERE]

i don't really relate to this even if its my placement.. i also have venus trine jupiter, trine mars and in the 7th house and my venus is in virgo. im also a libra and i have my moon trine venus. i dont really resonate with this v much.

[@jcbell1212]

This video really hit me hard. I emotionally exhaust lovers and I've always felt so empty....Does a Scorpio Venus make this a whole lot worse?

[@JewelMayberry]

+J Bell It likely does, as planets in Scorpio infuse things with issues of deep attachment.

[@jcbell1212]

It's a hard pill to swallow..but thank you for responding Jewel

[@MsLaBajo]

I would say it does. Lucky is the person who loves you back because they are going to know love unlike any other. Those placements are beautiful and yes difficult but also so lovely. Persephone saves Hades, in the end. Is able to be the joy in his miserable life and brings us death and regeneration as a result. Something that is true about life itself. We must all die. We should be so lucky to taste the sweetness of someone's love in the interim.

[@robinwalz4323]

My hubby has a scorpio venus and hes emtionally exhausting...

[@henrietadale5079]

I have a Scorpio Venus but man I’m In love with has this aspect in Venus in cancer...I’m intense and he’s closed off...it’s so exhausting...🥺

[@dianerose7631]

Secretely have a big heart. Have this and a leo rising with a cap moon. Mars in 12 house. Etc. Its been hard.

[@dianerose7631]

Even the capricorn moon is conjunct neptune and at last quarter. Also venus in cancer

[@doubtfuldreamer]

@@dianerose7631 how do you balance your moon opp venus

[@ayeshadurrani6408]

i appreciate this video. thanks for the tough love, i believe i am in the process of this transformation now especially since my saturn return began in december.

[@Blue-Mo0n]

Could you share what you've learned?

[@ccxi6295]

I’ve got venus square: pluto,jupiter,saturn and chiron. I’m doing a favor to not been the girlfriend of anybody.😂

[@un_l_it]

Semi-square here. This was eye-opening.

[@rot2b]

So what are things and behaviors I could work on, being that I have this aspect. AND THE VENUS SQUARE MARS. Yes, my social life and relationships are complicated. I come on too strong by mistake, I back off if I notice the person is uncomfortable, for example. Venus-Aquarius, Mars Taurus, Pluto - Scorpio Also, Mars Opposite Pluto My life is tough I know.

[@chobitsgrlx3]

I have these aspects too. I would love some positives and how to work with the energy.

[@fiftyshadesofanariesblank1609]

rot2b i have these same aspects

[@henrietadale5079]

How can I help a man with this aspect to feel safe and secure?

[@Blue-Mo0n]

@@henrietadale5079 By being there, little by little day by day. Don't make big promises or say big words, nothing extreme is really needed. Just be there and have patience, ground him a bit when he gets dramatic by speaking to him calmly and rationally. All people who have difficulty in trusting others they basically need a lot of time to get to know the other person and open up to them. Nowadays people want to date 1-3 times and if you don't have sex with them they are gone. People like me are doomed.. Time is really the most precious thing we have. Give that to him. One day it will hit him how you have been there all that time with him. Remember to always reslect yourself in the meantime. Love yourself and him equally.

[@henrietadale5079]

@@Blue-Mo0n thank you for your response, I don’t date that guy anymore as he was deceitful however I will remember to apply with my daughter she has this aspect as well. Thank you ♥️

[@ScribblebytesWorldwide]

The truth is that people can sense that we don't need them and it makes them feel insecure and so they project all these awful things onto us and so of course we will retaliate against people framing us in a way that's untrue and those people deserve it. Pluto is the Final Boss. Everyone: rich, poor, beautiful etc will end up in Pluto's underworld, so people can sense that we are the Final Boss and they hate it. Venus and Pluto actually work well together because Venus (in Annunaki mythology) was the only one allowed to go into the underworld and return to heaven. So any aspect with Pluto Venus makes most people uncomfortable because we can do what they can't. We see what they can't and we know what they never will. As for the obsession thing, that's just us trying to feel normal like most people. The obsession is self-induced. When everyone around you acts insecure in relationships you start to feel weird for not caring that much and so you pretend/parody people. That's why we can switch the obsession on and off like like a light switch.

[@Deeplyr00ted]

wrong it wasn't Venus the one who was able to go to the Underworld...it was mercury ...the messenger of the Gods. Hence why Virgo and Scorpio have a deeper connection.. both connected to kundalini energy.

[@christyannceraso]

There’s that cold heart wall, right there.

[@icieberry]

this accuracy is kind of yes and no for me. I do have difficulty with having friends but I don't blame them for it, I don't like judging people and I don't think I make quick assumption on people. I always try to be in their shoes to understand, have empathy and be compassionate. I don't like combat, I like peace and love. I am not that stingy when it comes to giving presents, When I am a kid 12 y.o and is my hard saved money , I buy my friend nice birthday gift to put a smile on them. At 33, I just recently bought my partner a drone and an RC car. I don't even spend that much or that easily on myself but I spend to make them happy. It is a yes that I am conscious on money and how I spend it because I have experienced being broke, consequently unable to pay rent and almost had to sleep on the street, so yeah I have become even more careful since then but it didn't stop me to be generous. Btw, Sun, venus, mercury that square pluto and Pluto in 1st house conjunct rising libra. And a cancer midheaven. Feel damned though.

[@randomruler1194]

Wow😯 i know u put this up 2 yrs ago but i get where your coming from. Some with this may be "stingy" in some ways but are EXTRA stingy with giving to themselves, most astrologers dont talk about that (me)

[@taniaramirez1675]

Is Venus semi square Pluto close to or doesn't have the same effect as the square? Just curious?

[@retrovintagedreams]

I relate way too much. At first I was like wait I'm super generous. I always over give and people love me and have always been super attracted to me and even if I was prickly and mean wouldn't leave, they'd cling more. I would tell people I was a monster or a huge asshole and they'd laugh at me and tell me how I was so nice and wonderful.. its long baffled me to a point of frustration. Younger me was very sarcastic and pushed people away or tried too at least. All relationships were a battle because I was always giving everything only to be abused and betrayed. So I would just try to keep everyone at a distance to protect myself. Romantic relationships are where I've always had the most trouble. I attracted terrible partners. My last partner literally pushed me to the edge where I attempted suicide because I was so actively betrayed and turned on by every single important person in my life due to the circumstances of that toxic relationship and I no longer cared to exist at all. After nearly succeeding I had this huge inner shift. I cut ties with all those people I made new friends, great friends who are everything you could hope to have in friends. I have a rather ideal Romantic partner now. My life is a lot more full of people giving to me the way I'd never had before and I finally feel loved and cared for with a balanced exchange in my personal relationships. Though I'm definitely over giving at work and in general because coworkers and strangers even point it out that I need to prioritize my needs more. Id say thats all improved. I have pluto in Scorpio conjunct my ascendant and north node square venus, mercury, and Saturn in Aquarius 3rd house. My sun and Mars are also in Aquarius in the 3rd and then I have Jupiter 12th house Scorpio square my sun mars and venus. So it's a lot of positive things on top of difficult things that sort of seem to balance each other out. I think my pluto is responsible for drawing people in on top of my sun conjunct venus. I have long blamed my trouble in love on my south node in the 7th house. But learning about Pluto's effects square venus that makes sense too. I however still deeply doubt people and totally do that whole hyper analysis thing to decipher whose worth getting close too. I don't think I will ever not fully investigate new people. I think Saturn also just likes to make me constantly reevaluate my relationships.

[@claudjarodnez]

I can relate very deeply to your post, and hope that I can one day reach this level of peace & serenity in my life someday soon! 🙏🏾