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DO MEN HAVE IT HARDER THAN WOMEN FOR MARRIAGE? Ft. Adam and Slim (Chai Talk Ep 12)

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Wajeeh West

Wajeeh West

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@anniea.1239
@anniea.1239 Жыл бұрын
I 100% agree with Wajeeh’s point of view…his focus is to maintain a healthy relationship with his parents and future wife. Trust me, his wife will appreciate that and love his parents even more because of this balanced approach InshaAllah!
@aemanshahid4733
@aemanshahid4733 Жыл бұрын
💯 I agree
@raeesanaidoo8457
@raeesanaidoo8457 Ай бұрын
Exactly you can just see the difference in his mindset towards women. He has his head in the right place.
@sara_j_noor
@sara_j_noor Жыл бұрын
In Islam it is the wife’s right to have her own place to live with her husband- if she doesn’t mind living with your parents then that’s calm but if she wants her own privacy then that shouldn’t be looked down upon.
@misbahailia3345
@misbahailia3345 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, but guys forget about that part of Islam.🙄 Thats one of the scary risks for me of marrying Muslim guys, with immigrant parents unfortunately. #hypocrisyisntcute
@titanszs
@titanszs Жыл бұрын
​@@misbahailia3345so u gonna marry a kafir?😂
@Hahahaha-7
@Hahahaha-7 9 ай бұрын
If he cannot afford to do so do not force or expect him to move you into another house and be patient,
@NimraSajid-f7b
@NimraSajid-f7b Жыл бұрын
Adam is crazy dude he’s expecting his wife to massage his mothers feet but he’s not accepting that its his duty. Appreciation for wajeeh👏🏻👏🏻
@rachaelaranha2670
@rachaelaranha2670 Жыл бұрын
Adam’s outlook on marriage is extremely concerning, he just wants to control his wife. Already feel sorry for his potential wife
@goodgirl336
@goodgirl336 Жыл бұрын
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@Ay00.
@Ay00. Жыл бұрын
Adam has hands , he can massage his parents feet himself . Any women who takes care of her in laws does it out of love and is doing a favour to her husband, it’s not her duty, it is his .
@sabeenkamal6480
@sabeenkamal6480 Жыл бұрын
DAMN RIGHT
@rachaelaranha2670
@rachaelaranha2670 Жыл бұрын
And if he expects that from his wife, he should be willing to massage his in-laws feet as well
@aly89kat
@aly89kat Жыл бұрын
💯
@imaana504
@imaana504 Жыл бұрын
Yes 👏🏽
@misbahailia3345
@misbahailia3345 Жыл бұрын
Say it louder for Adam to hear! You know what I think would be sweet? If the son In law massages his parent in laws feet, and the daughter in law massages her parent in laws feet. 🥰
@almagarcia9981
@almagarcia9981 Жыл бұрын
Wajeeh is a smart man! Agree a thousand percent about focusing on a healthy marriage without having parents involved. It’ll help the parents and wife have a healthy relationship as well. Your parents will forever be your parents but sons and daughters create their OWN family and take priority.
@ilzk.4837
@ilzk.4837 Жыл бұрын
Slim is the only level headed one speaking about marriage and living expectations from experience. Wajeeh seems like he is more realistic about what it will be like in an American society. Adam on the other hand seems like he wants to please his parents with being traditional but the reality is we all know that’s not how he is and he won’t be able to sustain a traditional lifestyle like that in the long run he has to be honest with himself 😅
@nazob1
@nazob1 Жыл бұрын
That’s true 😂
@zarasheikhreviews3657
@zarasheikhreviews3657 Жыл бұрын
FACTS loool
@Nemo_nuna
@Nemo_nuna Жыл бұрын
Agree
@aleyasadaf3458
@aleyasadaf3458 Жыл бұрын
Factsss!!
@FayeK-e1r
@FayeK-e1r 8 ай бұрын
I feel like like Wajeehs mindset is the best tho, In Shaa Allah, he’ll be the happiest as he has no expectations. Any girls would appreciate someone with this mindset, So everything his wife does will be out of love. May Allah bless him with the best.
@saffyk5188
@saffyk5188 Жыл бұрын
Moral of this podcast, Adam shouldn’t get married if he ain’t gonna treat his wife with respect and give her space and privacy.
@aly89kat
@aly89kat Жыл бұрын
💯 In the "husband" department Adam is so cancelled.
@aly89kat
@aly89kat Жыл бұрын
Jokes aside, I think aunty should have a talk with Adam regarding his extreme partner expectations. His statements were quite troubling. Not to forget lots of youngsters are watching and learning from chai talk.
@TheStreetAnalyst
@TheStreetAnalyst Жыл бұрын
Exactly, he’s too immature for a wife and prefers his parents controlling his life since he can’t be a man yet
@AA-wn4wf
@AA-wn4wf Жыл бұрын
Some kids have a hard time standing up to their parents even if they are full grown independent adults who are making their own income. They are conditioned that way. It’s not their fault.
@blueberrycupcake6999
@blueberrycupcake6999 6 ай бұрын
@@AA-wn4wflol whose fault is it then?
@raniashahid03
@raniashahid03 Жыл бұрын
We need a young woman on here who can argue the woman's position on these matters
@khadeejahgill1138
@khadeejahgill1138 Жыл бұрын
Reply to Adam’s vote thing ‘Move out with wife and fulfill all responsibilities towards parents’ Wajeeh, your pov is very healthy and positive. Mama jee plz don’t come under pressure what Adam is saying is exactly opposite to our religion.
@khadeejahgill1138
@khadeejahgill1138 Жыл бұрын
Adam is portraying & mama jee is supporting the wrong ideology. ‘I’ll tell her to put lotion on my mom’s feet, if she’s a real women she’ll stay with the family’ Thats absolutely wrong. This is against our religion too where its made crystal clear that wife doesn’t have the responsibility of husband’s family, if she does it thats her good deed. And wajeeh’s pov makes sense, relationships require space
@G7.AhmadArfan
@G7.AhmadArfan Жыл бұрын
go back to the kitchen
@Hahahaha-7
@Hahahaha-7 9 ай бұрын
Yes that’s true, but who’s better? A wife who is considerate of her husband and his family and is there to take care of them or one who moves away and visiting only often. It’s about good deeds, obviously the wife in the first option will be better because she’s doing more good deeds.
@arishnoor5243
@arishnoor5243 Жыл бұрын
Literally agree with Wajeeh. He will be a good husband. He wants a healthy balance between family and his wife and kids. Toxic Middle East and Pakistani culture does not focus on marriage and wife … only caters to son and his families
@yusraaziz1823
@yusraaziz1823 Жыл бұрын
I side with wajeeh in moving out after marriage, it creates much healthier relationships between parents and wife. There is more respect. Also, Islam says to do it. Adam pov is different but it would create more confusion and problems in husband wife relationship.
@mayeshachoudhury8178
@mayeshachoudhury8178 Жыл бұрын
Form what im noticing adam has people pleasing tenedencies which actually is a concern and wajeeh has a healthy balance which is actually perfect. 😃
@misbahailia3345
@misbahailia3345 Жыл бұрын
May Allah swt guide Adam to follow the Islamic lifestyle of living with his future wife, Ameen.
@Ninja-ix6lr
@Ninja-ix6lr Жыл бұрын
Wajeeh is a great son and has very good insight. I agree with him a lot. My question is, if MaMaji wants Wajeeh and his wife to live with her, then why did she not live with her in-laws and had also left her parents in Pakistan to come to America by herself??? Don’t get me wrong, she is great and a very caring mother but can be unreasonable at times with certain issues. When the children have become grown responsible adults, your work is done and it’s time to cut the apron strings and let them live their lives and make their own mistakes. We all learn from living life in the real world and parents who over shelter their children are not doing them any favors!
@victoriatrenae1717
@victoriatrenae1717 Жыл бұрын
Big facts very well said
@AdamSalehVlogs
@AdamSalehVlogs Жыл бұрын
After watching this and reading all the comments it’s time for me to get married and LEAVE my parents and go live alone with my wife! I think that’s what’s been holding me back from getting married.. see ya soon with my habibti InshAllah
@WajeehWest
@WajeehWest Жыл бұрын
HAHAHA you’re not back in Yemen my G!!
@aymenmahmood151
@aymenmahmood151 Жыл бұрын
I love you my son ! You are the best and very rare breed to have now a days ! Your parents are blessed and lucky Ma shaa Allah Ma shaa Allah ❤❤❤ Mama Jee
@Samarah78
@Samarah78 Жыл бұрын
You called Wajeeh a simp but can you give up any of your sins for even a day? That's true strength. You should study Islam
@Ruqayyah2899
@Ruqayyah2899 Жыл бұрын
Poor poor lil poser Adam. You can't get married coz you care so much about your family and what they think. PAHAHA bro your cap is an insult to our intelligence. I don't know how you haven't been cancelled by the Muslim community yet considering all the haram you've done.
@Muslim42029
@Muslim42029 Жыл бұрын
Yes akhi adam get married before its too late. And don't forget to not get attached too much and too long with both your parents and your wife. You need to have some separation with both to have a healthy relationship. Take some time away from your wife when you think its needed and take some time off from parents when you think its suitable. Find the balance and its healthier to move out if married but live very close to the parents house especially if they are old and need you.
@rileytyler5188
@rileytyler5188 Жыл бұрын
I am on Wajeeh's side. Adam is mad crazy in this Podcast lol! The person you marry is not obligated to do anything for your mom Islamicly. As long as there is respect that is all that matters. This was a great podcast keep up the great work! Can't wait for future episodes. ALSO, much love to Mama Jee! ❤❤
@majumdarsaloni
@majumdarsaloni Жыл бұрын
These podcasts are so therapeutic!! In our desi culture, it’s so difficult to speak up for what we want to do. We are terrified to ask for even trivial things like going out with our friends. Our parents being raised in a different era and in the subcontinent was different than us. They never grew out of that mindset and are now imposing those standards onto us who have grown up in the west. That fear that they have instilled in us that we’ll disappoint them if we don’t bide by their terms is so wrong in many levels. I’m in my mid 20s, got a masters, working, by god’s grace doing good for myself but my parents still try to control my life and choices. I’m grateful to them for setting the foundation that has made me capable enough to led my life independently. But not sure when do our parents realize it’s time they take the backseat and let us take over our lives.
@raabiatkhan99
@raabiatkhan99 Жыл бұрын
Mama jee literally took this entire episode to gather humderdiaan from Adam & Slim. She is hugging it out with Adam b/c she finally had someone siding with her & she can openly admit she isn't who she was pretending to be all these past episodes about letting Wajeeh have a LIFE!😂
@WajeehWest
@WajeehWest Жыл бұрын
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK 🗣️😂
@2321s0m
@2321s0m Жыл бұрын
@@WajeehWest😂
@moonlightea
@moonlightea Жыл бұрын
LOL FOR REALLL AHAHAHAHA SHE LOOKED SO LIBERATED ROFLLL 😂😂😂😂
@raabiatkhan99
@raabiatkhan99 Жыл бұрын
@@moonlightea that's what I'm SAYINNNN'😒😅 she's like finally I have someone that can help me validate my toxicity and prove to Wajeeh this is all normal & if a son like Adam can say & feel all this, so should Wajeeh.🙄
@RaizaSalam
@RaizaSalam Жыл бұрын
Wajeeh, you've done your work! Proud of you for recognising healthy boundaries, what you needed and what you need in the future going forward. It's a shame, that your expression of what you feel and what you continually go through is not received and understood, rather you are constantly refuted, as the person listening to you has not done the work or the first step toward healing. It's interesting how Adam is stuck on the wife moving with the husbands family as an act of deep devotion and respect to their parents, but to understand any phenomena or any act, you must look into the roots and patterns to see through an oppression. Women for centuries in India, Pakistan or Arab countries have moved to the husbands families. What about the wife's parents? They always get left behind. There are also many instances where the wife's parents are given way less importance and focus in terms of gift giving, number of visitations and general treatment and decision making. It is also important to note, some remarks in this podcast especially by Mamajee and Adam were quite sexist. Women for eternity have carried households, and this hasn't changed even in this generation, all you have to do is just look around in your own families. All the mental load of a household, from throwing the trash, what's missing in the fridge, what ingredients are needed for the next days meal, which sheets have been changed and not, all is carried mostly in the woman's head. It doesn't boil down to just 'cooking'. Society still hasn't been completely transformed, but what women expect is not 'stop cooking and order on door dash' but rather sharing the mental load of the house with their partner. We live in a renewed society where women are finally getting educated and able to take up jobs just like men are. Thus it is expected for both parties to share equal mental load of the house. Being aware of children's appointments, when the trash bin gets full, splitting chores where possible. As a young woman of this generation, about to complete my post-graduation, all my female friends know how to cook amazingly, and are responsible, beautiful adults. I also remember hearing in the previous podcast that Aiman would not even be allowed to go out. This happened for a few years of my life and what that led to was me being complacent, lazy and depressed. But now I have moved abroad alone, began my film career, pursing my education, and my parents have started to trust me and let me be, now I am more determined, ambitious and 'off my phone' than ever. So to Mama-jee, there is so much more to perceive about the world, the complacency in any female you've observed, it would be useful to dig deeper into what underlies your thoughts and what underlies their actions. But I promise you, most women are wonderful human beings, simply seeking to share the life load with someone they love, to be understood, seen and heard. Vilifying women already, even before Wajeeh or Ahmed gets married is quite scary. Anyway, this was my two cents. This is a good podcast, only wish Wajeeh was allowed to speak fully without being interrupted. He speaks well, and of good meaning!
@raniashahid03
@raniashahid03 Жыл бұрын
Brilliantly put, this is also what I think as a young woman in today's society which is thankfully taking steps to change the way we women are educated and perceived.
@delirious.d
@delirious.d Жыл бұрын
I love this response! Couldnt have put it better myself 👏🏼
@Michelle_sal
@Michelle_sal Жыл бұрын
I'm italian and married and I still have to tell my mom where I am. When I go on vacation with my husband I have to give her my trip itineraries 😂😂
@bakingbeautynmore7552
@bakingbeautynmore7552 Жыл бұрын
@WAJI .. Islamicly its the right of the wife to hav her own home etc.. soo proud of u for standing up for wats right and not continuing the wrong cycle of our desi community
@zarasheikhreviews3657
@zarasheikhreviews3657 Жыл бұрын
I been watching your series for some time now, and honestly wajeeh you are so mature, and wise and know how to balance your personal life and family. I just hope your friends who have different opinions don't affect your mentality which will definitely be fruitful for your future life marriage and family. I hope you stand your ground. Also, there is one thing I heard and stick by, even the people you love so much, and vice versa, will waste your life without caring for your time. Adam might be the dream boy for his parents, but not his girl LOLL. Hopefully, he finds someone like him in today's American day and age. Times are different now, they ask for different things. LOOOL i died laughing at " your marriage proposals went down by 75%" haha if thats not facts idk what is ahhahaha
@Bas22022
@Bas22022 Жыл бұрын
Omg I love this comment. ESP “Adam might be the dream boy for just parents but not a for a girl” absolutely agreed, I can’t see any smart, strong, beautiful, sane women wanting to b w Adam. He’s such a child and a hypocrite n I don’t say this from thin air. The double standards he has for wife, he basically wants a clean, innocent devoted girl from the village (whivh he’ll never even be able to love cuz of the difference socioeconomical backgrounds) when he has committed every sin there is out there n the proof is w a simple search on the internet.
@aqsaakhtar6716
@aqsaakhtar6716 Жыл бұрын
100%
@rachaelaranha2670
@rachaelaranha2670 Жыл бұрын
The fact that they don’t realize or even acknowledge that the wife also separates from her parents, so toxic! So I guess that women that move into their in laws house are ‘simps’ then
@afsanatai7572
@afsanatai7572 Жыл бұрын
Watched this entire interview and honestly Wajeeh , whenever you get married get your own place. You can live around momma jee and your dad but from experience as a person who has lived with in laws and finally moving out in fw months. I will tell you, they’ve been the worst years of my life . There’s no privacy, not only that it’s so annoying when the boys parents question little things like where you go, when you go, you go on any holiday with our kids they get upset. When you get married ,respectfully move out , and trust me you’ll be happy when your wife is happy and when there’s a balance between keeping your family happy and her family happy. Plus you need space when you have kids, you need space to invite and have friends over. So privacy is such an important thing. Why does she need to feel compelled to spend time with in laws when she doesn’t want to. Imagine coming home and you wanna just lay on the couch with your legs up. I feel like Adam was gaslighting you and making you feel bad because you want to live on your own. There’s nothing wrong in living alone with your partner. It’s such a nice feeling , it’s a blessing to be able to live independently. I’m also south asian , i know there’s a stigma when you leave your parents , but parents also need to learn to live on their own. To live independently . Remember they use to live before you were born they can deffo do it. There’s nothing wrong in living around them and going into help them now and than. Parents cannot gaslight boys mainly boys to live with them because they’re getting old. Honestly it’s such a sad thing in the asian community. As for Adam I honestly think dude you have way tooooo many demands.
@lolalalo3152
@lolalalo3152 Жыл бұрын
Honestly , whoever marries Wajeeh will be a very lucky girl . He is very level headed and tries to be fair . He will be a very good husband and son simultaneously
@wtsontvnic
@wtsontvnic Жыл бұрын
slim face sometimes when adam said some stuff 😭😭😭😭 he knew adam was cappin big hard 😭😭😭😭
@mariaahmad9985
@mariaahmad9985 Жыл бұрын
What Wajeeh is saying is 100% correct. It is so important to give your wife her own place and space. That doesn’t mean he still can’t take care of his parents and also there’s other siblings as well. And in Islam the responsibility of taking care of your parents doesn’t only fall on one child. If the son decides to move out that doesn’t mean the child doesn’t care about the parents. They also need to start their lives and build a foundation for themselves. Also, it’s a circle of life yes parents will get old and as kids we should take care of them but that doesn’t mean to submit your life now and just be with your parents 24/7. Sidenote: don’t know why Adam is acting like an angel when he’s done a lot of other things I’m sure his parents wouldn’t approve of. And taking care of your wife and giving her time, attention and love is what she deserves.
@_ph4nt0mzz_47
@_ph4nt0mzz_47 Жыл бұрын
Slim being the most American and having an existential crisis in a conversation LMFAOOO. The 👀 he gave the camera at 49:45 😭🤣🤣
@Heena9090
@Heena9090 Жыл бұрын
My mom died , and trust me i miss someone caring for me. Now i have everything in the world but not my mama 🥲 have to cook for myself , take care of myself and guided my self throughout .. aj azadi hai to maa nahi hai love u mama jee and brother 👍😍
@mayeshachoudhury8178
@mayeshachoudhury8178 Жыл бұрын
Idk what it is but mamajee should be grateful to have sons like Ahmad and wajee instead of thinking Adam is perfect ☠️☠️☠️. Wajeeh is a healthy guy with emotional intelligence but Adam no he's got people pleasing which is extremely toxic
@raabiatkhan99
@raabiatkhan99 Жыл бұрын
She only thinks Adam is perfect is because he is saying what she wants to hear & wished Wajeeh came out saying all that too (everything about not moving away and not having a life beyond parents) -- You could sense Wajeeh feeling a little sad for the way Mama jee was acting out & downplaying all that Wajeeh DID do for her as if none of it mattered compared to the stage acting Adam was putting up to get brownie points from Mama jee. Flying kisses, thanking them for being here as if she finally could express herself and has someone who understands her toxic self and can justify it. Felt sad for Wajeeh & applaud him for keeping his composure.
@goodgirl336
@goodgirl336 Жыл бұрын
It is NOT selfish to satisfy yourself and what you are looking for in a partner. You are the one that will need to spend a lifetime with them. And people that ACTUALLY love you will see you HAPPY and be happy too.
@91toinfinity
@91toinfinity Жыл бұрын
I moved out at 30 years old (I'm Punjabi). At first, my parents were sad about it, but they got over it real quick. We forget that they are humans too and can adapt, develop, and grow through anything. I will come back when they need me in their old age but I would be lying if I said this wasn't the best thing I did for my mental sanity. Parents shouldn't use guilt to pressure their kids to stay with them because they have separation anxiety. It's not healthy for anyone. When you accept this behaviour from your mom, you start expecting it from your wife. Then when your wife treats you the way your mothers did you are no longer sexually/romantically interested in her because she reminds you of your mother. If you want a happy, long lasting marriage you need separation from your parents.
@purplejuice8803
@purplejuice8803 Жыл бұрын
this whole episode was literally just an hour of wajeeh trying to get a word in and fighting for his life lol
@soso117
@soso117 Жыл бұрын
Honestly, I love it when my mom asks me where I'm going, when I'm coming back home and who am I out with? It feels great knowing that my absolute favorite person on earth cares about me. May Allah grant her a long healthy life and keep all our moms happy and proud. Cherish her presence ❤
@S4FX
@S4FX Жыл бұрын
Alhumdulilah ❤️ May Allah swt bless you and your family Ameen 🤲
@jennahshoaib
@jennahshoaib Жыл бұрын
Ameen All our moms and dads
@jvkayy
@jvkayy Жыл бұрын
With Adam and slim, it just always gets us nostalgic. Love to see the trio together and have a pod with mama jee 😂🤌🏼
@rabiahakhan
@rabiahakhan Жыл бұрын
Loved how Adam's mom made duaa for him when checking on him. It showed she cared for him and was worried for him. Whereas, mama ji style of worry caused anxiety. 😅
@infinitetopsiders
@infinitetopsiders Жыл бұрын
!!!!!!!
@moonlightea
@moonlightea Жыл бұрын
Lol I'm guilty of having mama ji style of worry myself 😂❤
@moonlightea
@moonlightea Жыл бұрын
But what's funny is, I see some similarities between her son and my son. I believe they're more affectionate and close to us because of our style lol ❤
@ZayyanAndZaira
@ZayyanAndZaira Жыл бұрын
Agree with Wajeeh! In order to keep relationships healthy, it is important to set boundaries and balance relationships! At the end it’s all about respect. Wajeeh will always love and respect his parents no matter where he lives.
@1446hijri
@1446hijri Жыл бұрын
From an Arab household, y’all don’t even understand how insanely relatable this is. I’m 23, still in school, but I’m essentially not allowed to travel anywhere, it’s impossible, despite my sister which is 2 years younger than me can, and she has traveled twice. Even when I’m not home, my mom can’t sleep, and when I’m back, I get the shit for it, “YOU KEPT ME UP ALL NIGHT - I HAVENT SLEPT” 😂😂 I love this podcast man, feels like y’all are projecting an extension of my day to day life. ❤😂
@zoraroa
@zoraroa Жыл бұрын
I'm surprised you had these 2 on here despite everything that's come out about them. Gonna pass on this one. Sending love to you and Mama Jee! ❤
@zeenaidris8194
@zeenaidris8194 Жыл бұрын
What came out about them?
@sairajamshaid4962
@sairajamshaid4962 Жыл бұрын
I know I don’t understand why he’s still friends with them and lets them into their home after all the disgusting things they have done. Passing on this one too
@zeenaidris8194
@zeenaidris8194 Жыл бұрын
@@sairajamshaid4962 I am so lost, can someone update me on what happened...
@ahahahwjedb2024
@ahahahwjedb2024 Жыл бұрын
There is so much about them but one major thing is they like sleeping with young girls
@habajuhu954
@habajuhu954 Жыл бұрын
​@@ahahahwjedb2024 this is so wrong. Astaghfirullah. Please refrain from spreading this stuff. And when it comes to the act of Zina there is very serious consequences for accusing somebody or slandering someone. Or in general mentioning things that ruin the image of our brothers and sisters is such a lowly act. Please take heed and warn others. If you have no proof then hold your tongue and also make excuses for your brother or sister in Islam.
@mybrainismagiccity
@mybrainismagiccity Жыл бұрын
I just want to say.. I’m 38 and both of my parents have passed on sadly. Seeing your mum say only God knows how she survives when Wahjeed is out of the house, reminds me of my mum a lot. If i went away for the weekend, she would send me sad voice notes and pictures of an empty chair at dinner because she missed me. At the time this would be so OTT, I’d be like mum you’re being dramatic but now those are the things I miss. I hope you can find a way to create some balance, I know south Asian parents can be at times suffocating (with love) but it’s because they have invested everything into their kids, and have put their own lives second, sometimes even to their own marriage comes second to the kids. Wahjeed you’re a fantastic son mashAllah, you’re setting healthy boundaries but it looks like your mum is making progress too. ❤🇬🇧
@Bas22022
@Bas22022 Жыл бұрын
I just wonder if mama jee will accept what she expect n wants from wajeeh’s future wife. Like it’s ironic that she n her husband both left their parents back in Pakistan. The irony
@MadihaArif-b8y
@MadihaArif-b8y Жыл бұрын
She will never rub her MIL feets plus she treats her husband is worst way possible no matter what.
@goodgirl336
@goodgirl336 Жыл бұрын
Adam also has many vlogs of him running away from his strict parents, rescuing hamza’s sister from sexist things, and saying himself he DOES NOT agree with how strict things are for him and others. Wajeeh could have used more of that energy support from slim and Adam in this video I think….great conversation. Still to me shows, the instinct to placate to parents is so strong they are doing it to someone else’s mom to just get the one up on Wajeeh lol come on y’all you know you wouldn’t want it 😂😂Adam is able to do a lot more Wajeeh hasn’t and wouldn’t do. Kissing a man like Adam did even as a joke ??? Mama Jee would flip if she saw one of her sons doing that. Adam is the simp. He has a mental breakdown almost every other month and would “run away” from home leaving his parents. So how could YOU leave your parents multiple times Adam? This episode I only got 40 minutes in and I want to slap adam’s smug smile off his face when he is coming for Wajeeh and egging mama Jee on. Lol. We ALL know Adam will be moving out if he finds a wife and he does crazier things Wajeeh wouldn’t even think about doing. See atleast Wajeeh is honest, Muslim influencers like Adam are what makes these conversations unproductive. It’s all a show and lie. Speak up for your Muslim brothers and sisters Adam with the truth!
@mayne7937
@mayne7937 Жыл бұрын
u wayyyy too invested
@goodgirl336
@goodgirl336 Жыл бұрын
@@mayne7937 after over an hour of my time, heck yeah I am.
@anilabakhat6266
@anilabakhat6266 Жыл бұрын
I don’t think wajeeh did justice to the translation of that voice note 😂😂😂
@RM-kx9oh
@RM-kx9oh Жыл бұрын
Fr.. kutto ki auladd😂😂 mama ji is a certified violater 👌🏽🤣
@allya4253
@allya4253 Жыл бұрын
Here's the thing.. Sure Adam and Slim were talking about how they're scared of their parents but between the 3 of these guys, Wajeeh is the better child. Those 2 went clubbing, had girlfriends, drank, did drugs, etc. Whereas Wajeeh hasn't done any of those things! I'm team Wajeeh in all of this. Adam tried so hard to make him look bad!
@Nikki-sb7pf
@Nikki-sb7pf Жыл бұрын
100% agree. Finally someone who has knowledge on things slim and adam did.
@hajirahoosainmia2963
@hajirahoosainmia2963 Жыл бұрын
Wajeeh’s input was so on point, this guy has wisdom! 👌🏼
@91toinfinity
@91toinfinity Жыл бұрын
This episode was infrurating to watch. Why do our parents have to "let us" do anything at our big old ages? That's control no matter what mental gymnastics you try to spin on it.
@sheharbano6452
@sheharbano6452 Жыл бұрын
No one is marrying Adam with that mindset. Why should a wife massage your mum's feet. Are you going to massage her parent's? Wajeeh has such a positive mindset. If mama jee wasn't the possessive type then it would have been fine for wajeeh to live with his parents after marriage but with this possessiveness it will certainly get messy. So it depends on circumstances too. But always better to keep a healthy distance between every relationship.
@sarahmuthana7551
@sarahmuthana7551 Жыл бұрын
I’m Arab Yemeni girl and totally agree with Wajeeah and disagree with Adam. And about moving out when you get married it’s better for you and ur parents It’s good to have a private life.Of course, you will not go away far from them. Maybe just get a house next to them or couple blocks is a good idea especially if the parents still healthy and not that old like they could take care of them self I mean if they’re sick or very old of course you’re not gonna leave them alone. The guy or the girl is responsible for their own parents or maybe the wife if she’s nice she’s going to take care of them like her own parents. As Arab girl if my future husband parents needed me I will always be there because I’m gonna treat them as how I wanted my parents are treated from others.
@NA-le9sn
@NA-le9sn Жыл бұрын
Wajeeh was the only level headed person in this conversation. Adam had a very strong and opinionated view of what he would want his wife to be like towards his mum, but it begs the question of whether he would treat his mother in law like that, and lotion her feet etc. Don’t get me wrong, I completely and utterly understand the importance of our parents particularly our mum’s role and feature in our lives as Muslims. It’s so pivotal. But equally said the reason why God made the relationship of Adam and Eve first , husband and wife and not mother and son or father and daughter etc is because the relationship between husband and wife is so vulnerable and boundary less. It defeats all other relations in terms of closeness. That doesn’t mean that every other relationship is less than or inferior, it’s just different. The right man and good Muslim would know how to look after his parents under a different roof to him, whilst Maintenon his wife’s privacy and desire to be a homemaker. You can’t have two queens under the same roof. In the same way I would love to see Adam trying to live under the same roof as his father in law and feel fulfilled as a man. You simply can’t. You feel obliged to give it up out of respect, when you simply shouldn’t. Wajeeh is right. There needs to be a balance. You don’t need to live under the same roof to be close to your parents. In fact I know so many men who live with their partner under their parents roof yet are out all the time and expect their wife to look after his parents. That’s wrong. On the day of judgement she will be asked how she looked after hers, and the husband will be asked how he looked after his. Alongside this, as a wife myself , I love my husband so much that I automatically love his family and vice Versa. I live separately to them but our relationship is AMAZING Allah Humma Barek. His mum is happy in her space with her rules and her kitchen space and I am happy with mine. It’s so sad to say but a mentality like Adam’s is what fails marriages. Wajeeh will be very successful in his marriage Insha’Allah because he understands the beauty in balancing both relations separately but alongside one another, with as much love and respect as he can give, albeit his mum or wife.
@saraleena007
@saraleena007 Жыл бұрын
Allahuma Barik sister! as a young woman i really see your points as concise and a real description of how married life should be. This is given that the wife and husband understand their responsibilities. Thank you for this; I had to take a screenshot of your insightful response. May Allah bless your marriage and keep you happy and in peace. ameen
@Ay00.
@Ay00. Жыл бұрын
Islam does encourage a separate household for the newly weds to avoid any internal conflicts . And many Arabs do the same . Children can visit their parents and fulfill their duties. So yes Wajeeh is absolutely right even so Islamically. Some cultures can be very toxic, and we don’t have to follow them.
@MadihaArif-b8y
@MadihaArif-b8y Жыл бұрын
Agreed
@maryammussa6850
@maryammussa6850 Жыл бұрын
As a Yemeni living in Canada, I don’t have a traditionally strict family like Adam. Not all Yemeni households are like that. Although we do tend to be more traditional than most Arabs, in my household and in many of my Yemeni family friends households, we leave our parents when we get married. It’s a very normal standard. We only start taking care of parents when they are old and cannot sustain themselves. Also women don’t get forced to get married at 15. The women chose who they want and usually finish university first. The strict mentality comes from certain areas in Yemen. It all depends on the family. I have no issues with my family to getting married to someone outside the culture. In my family we are mixed with Ethiopian, Malaysian, Somali, Turkish, etc. No tribalism either. I say the more educated and well travelled a Yemeni family is, the less likely they uphold traditional values. Not all traditional values are Islamic representations. I say Deen over tradition anytime.
@S-fl8sz
@S-fl8sz 5 ай бұрын
Malaysian ❤❤❤ this is how Islam should be. We have unhealthy divisions for what? We are an ummah
@zarwadar3251
@zarwadar3251 Жыл бұрын
Mama jee has a very TOXIC mentality regarding the topic of discussion. She remembers what Islam says about respect for mothers but she should also know that in Islam, wife has the right to live separately from her in-laws, and there is no obligation in Islam for her to live with her in-laws or serve them. Yes you respect and take care of your parents/in-laws but that can be done living separately as well. Makes me wonder if she can survive with her own in-laws with such a strong and vocal personality.
@itsfizarazzak
@itsfizarazzak Жыл бұрын
Move out 100%, every woman wants her own home, to be in charge of it to take care of it how they like, your mother's home cannot be your wife's home, if your parents need you to take care of them, they should move into your home. The other way creates a power struggle and causes problems. A "genuine" woman would be happy for you to keep your parents in their million dollar home and move into a small apartment with you to get that privacy and space. And y'all really want your parents to hear you making babies? Come on lol if it's awkward to cuddle your wife in front of them, then imagine them hearing that😭
@Abbasshaikh42
@Abbasshaikh42 Жыл бұрын
Bro was struggling with boundaries so he decided to bring us along the ride for support lmaao. Love it!! And yes we can all relate haha
@lolalalo3152
@lolalalo3152 Жыл бұрын
This is hilarious ! Poor wajeeh ! To be honest wajeeh respects a lot of boundaries his parents place versus Adam/slim. Adam may live with his parents after marriage but he has done ALOT of things his parents said not to do . Just saying! I’m wajeehs side - even islamically the girl has a right to have her own place
@trow1
@trow1 Жыл бұрын
Adam is the worst type of friend 😂
@talhabaig7251
@talhabaig7251 Жыл бұрын
100% agree with Wajeeh. Even after living and growing up in a typical desi household, its commendable MASHALLAH how mature, smart and realistic he is. I hope you stick to this balanced approach. You definitely increased your marriage proposals by 100% including all of Adam's proposals lol. Adam bruh, no disrespect but you are living in a delusional world, Good luck finding a wife in this day and age with those specifications lol. MaMaJee just got the perfect opportunity to gang up against Wajeeh.
@SCREAM9696
@SCREAM9696 Жыл бұрын
I agree with wajeeh it’s god given right to women to have their own house alone unless ur parents can’t live alone and they r disabled. Respecting and loving ur parents doesn’t mean u have to cut corners on ur wife’s rights
@prettygurl2
@prettygurl2 Жыл бұрын
The amount of flashbacks I’ve got from this podcast! Who remembers those og videos wajeeh and Ahmed used to make with slim and Adam! DAMNN 😭😭
@ZunarahRehman
@ZunarahRehman Жыл бұрын
the difference between boys talk about marriage and girls talking about marriage is insane!!! loved this podcast so much especially with the yemeni and pakistani differences!
@Sassybliss404
@Sassybliss404 Жыл бұрын
I love how Wajeeh is concerned about his upcoming married life and decided to address the issues in desi households otherwise these issues are never addressed, the wives feel stressed throughout their lives and they cannot say anything so the man needs to take responsibility at that point.
@iqrashakoor6152
@iqrashakoor6152 Жыл бұрын
how dare he! I am 26 , first ever girl from my family to be here, and doing everything at my own. What do you mean, girls also need to be successful.
@Bas22022
@Bas22022 Жыл бұрын
The sexiest remarks just show how outta touch he truly is.
@nqu8265
@nqu8265 Жыл бұрын
Such a shame, Wajeeh doesn't even get a chance to speak, they keep interupting and talking over him. Give him a chance to speak without speaking over him, you've said your point 50 times, now let Wajeeh explain his side too
@naureenali5500
@naureenali5500 Жыл бұрын
So, just to understand when Adam says that living alone is "abandoning" your parents, did he not think of his wife? How she feels? How she wants her married life to be? Or is it just about him and his parents? I 100% agree with Wajeeh on this point, live and let live. He can find a home close to theirs and still be there for mom and dad.
@missmahmood8518
@missmahmood8518 Жыл бұрын
I love their podcast and appreciate how they are targeting such sensitive topics which happens almost in every house but no one is Willing to discuss due to being judged . Trust me I respect all of them because it’s so raw not caring how they look . Great learning point for all of us to own who we are . Being honest even with negative traits you know ur not betraying anyone . People lie then show true colors when this family is doing the opposite. TOTAL RESPECT may we all learn to be honest with ourselves as well as everyone else to prevent further issues . 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@juliann2909
@juliann2909 Жыл бұрын
Lmaoooo Adam and Slim acting brand new!! Wajeeh keep your boundaries with your parents for your mental health! I think Mamajee will learn to grow with you and change her parenting style. Wajeeh talking straight facts! I really understand your perspective!
@Lozano1204
@Lozano1204 Жыл бұрын
I agree with Wajeeh 100% Hispanics parents are very similar, but a healthy marriage is very important
@zakster2571
@zakster2571 Жыл бұрын
Adam Wajeeh is right your too nice to satisfy your family but think about yourself and your parents not others.
@Chanel_Lyn
@Chanel_Lyn Жыл бұрын
My advice to all Helicopter Moms, trust that you’ve raised your children to live independently ❤ Worry is apart of parenthood but so is sitting back and letting them make their own life decisions.
@zaraali1982
@zaraali1982 Жыл бұрын
100% agree with Wajeeh, felt his frustration at times 😅
@dreamylove4196
@dreamylove4196 Жыл бұрын
slim looks so innocent here, forget he’s a boxing fiend 😂😂
@shahistasalam1
@shahistasalam1 Жыл бұрын
Is Adam willing to put lotion on his FILs feet? If yes then you can expect that from your future wife.
@FatimaHussain-k5n
@FatimaHussain-k5n Жыл бұрын
honestlyyyyyyyyy ONE OF MY FAVOURITE EPISODES
@janissapn1042
@janissapn1042 Жыл бұрын
seeing you three together again is iconic but siding with Wajeeh here!
@evilangels61
@evilangels61 Жыл бұрын
The sad thing for me is Mama Gee treats Wajeeh like a husband and just because her husband was not successful she expects Wajeeh to do everything for her which is so sad....What will happen when he gets a wife of his own..Mama Gee needs to let Wajeeh live his life ..she needs to focus on her husband and her own life
@fatimam5483
@fatimam5483 Жыл бұрын
I feel like Adam was gaslighting both Wajeeh and Mama Jee the whole time
@lalalchick1357
@lalalchick1357 Жыл бұрын
100% wajeeh is right .
@zainabj.9325
@zainabj.9325 Жыл бұрын
I appreciate wajeeh holding true to his values and morals despite all the influences around him. Wajeeh is a good guide to todays men
@S4FX
@S4FX Жыл бұрын
I agree with wajeeh on this ❤ Adam stop letting everyone else choose your bride...end of the day you will have to live with your choice not anyone else
@zakster2571
@zakster2571 Жыл бұрын
Lol Adam and slim are those kameena mates 😂
@bibimahira
@bibimahira Жыл бұрын
What crack is Adam onnnnn ….take your privacy, if you can’t handle your mother, your wife will be crush …. also enjoy creating new beginnings together, …you can visit & stay over anytime with your parents, and them can come to you with time as they age , it doesn’t have to be your whole life You know my parents lived with my father’s parents when they got married , my grandmother tortured the living hell out of my mother mental health, ( i remember seeing her crying every single night as a child ) once she gave birth to my younger brother & suffered from severed depression , she has never been the same until now even after 20 years , ( im 24 ) even after they moved out , she couldn’t let go of the trauma & it put severe strain in my parents marriage nearing divorce multiple times . Seeing my parents marriage, I realise you can be 2 individually great people coming together but because you couldn’t put away 3rd party intervention into your marriage & set boundaries ( just because of obligation towards your parents - the guilt + social stigma ) it will hinder your whole life & literally making it a living hell . Also my grandma is really toxic ,none of her own child could bear to spend more then 1.3 hr with her [ what im saying is , she is an extreme case, but she has really made me scared to even consider marriage]
@user13-gc3mb
@user13-gc3mb Жыл бұрын
Guys yk what’s funny, Wajeeh made an episode on “mamas boys” and how they should have a balance and be able to STAND UP for their wife as well as respect their mom. That is exactly what he’s doing, standing up for his wife and voicing that want of privacy and stuff whilst still respecting his mom. And put this into perspective, would ur mom want her daughter to marry into a family where her husband doesn’t voice her needs and where her in laws are completly against moving out while still respecting parents. Also, mama-her didn’t stay with her in laws, she moved to America, not back in Pakistan with susaral.
@sakibsarwar5290
@sakibsarwar5290 Жыл бұрын
Wajeeh, I think we’d appreciate yours and mama jees thoughts on fousey rn
@zulekhaanwar6265
@zulekhaanwar6265 Жыл бұрын
In Islam its a man's responsibility to look after his parents not the girl I agree you need to be in a different house to ur in laws to have a good relationship.
@ummiaimen3838
@ummiaimen3838 Жыл бұрын
I hope Adam will respect his in law's parents equally, not only tell the wife to do it 🙃
@bibimahira
@bibimahira Жыл бұрын
I bet he will massage his in law feet 😂
@sadika7567
@sadika7567 Жыл бұрын
Wajihs right, mama ji and Adam are wrong. Especially the part where mama ji says "go out to grocery together, eat together...". Hai Allah - No, please don't have these expectations if you want a happy future Mamji. She's not getting married to be your new bff, she's getting married to live and lead her own life with her husband. I've never met a woman who would want to do that on a daily/or even weekly basis unless she herself has no friends/job/life or can't live alone. If Adam was just capping to get Wajeeh in trouble then that's hilarious, but if he meant it then he's gonna regret his words real soon lol. Only way it works to do what Adam says if you live in a mansion and everyone has their own floor almost. Also if Adam is serious, no girl marrying him anytime soon for SURE. Omg did Adam just say "if she's a 'real' woman she'll stay with the family". LOL. This guys still a child.
@Heena9090
@Heena9090 Жыл бұрын
Good to see Adam after ages!!! Following him and you since the beginning when 😍🥰 god bless you both
@PituBear
@PituBear Жыл бұрын
Would Adam expect his sisters to go and massage their mother in laws feet, married women go through so much turmoil and turbulence however instead of being in partnership with their husband and doing things together, they are expected to serve their mother in laws and massage feet. Why can't the MIL and wife go out together, get a pedicure done together. Why does it always have to be the wife being reduced to servant to prove themselves. Husbands don't have to prove nothing. Wajeeh is the only person here that understands the wife is also a human being. Women are progressive and also work but we are still in this mindset, it's actually very depressing and sad, breaks my heart.
@sameeha_77
@sameeha_77 Жыл бұрын
Had to go watch that Brooklyn fight, Slim and Adam are real ones for having your back! Keep them close!
@nageena_x0293
@nageena_x0293 Жыл бұрын
Wajeeh was so so right with everything he said! And everything Adam was saying is nonsense lol even the part about obeying your mom, YOU have to obey your mom, your wife isn’t obligated too. I’ve been married for almost 7 years now and my relationship with my in laws got better only when we started living separately. It doesn’t mean their son has abandoned them he knows how to balance both relationships and Islam gives women/girls the right to have their own separate space.
@aqsazafar2423
@aqsazafar2423 Жыл бұрын
Great conversation and love that these conversations are being had! But y’all should really have more women on this show. Married and single … to give another perspective. This entire episode was about what a daughter in law and a wife should do. But didn’t bring any women that were actually married to give another perspective. I happily would volunteer myself to give another perspective lol. Would Adam massage his father in laws feet? Would y’all go live with your in laws? … please answer lol
@sohankhan9306
@sohankhan9306 Жыл бұрын
Never have I ever related to a podcast more than this one 🥲
@sadiaashraf6253
@sadiaashraf6253 3 ай бұрын
Im the second gen born bred in uk i have already decided for my two sons nd daughter stand on ur feet then move out with ur wife. i have no issue live like how we were able to live freely inshallah. Without interference the best learning is done wen ur left to learn for ur self .give them the knowledge then let them make their life .
@taahiraebrahim435
@taahiraebrahim435 Жыл бұрын
Preach, Wajeeh! Everything you said was in point
@sadiaashraf6253
@sadiaashraf6253 3 ай бұрын
This ep too good i am sharing this vlog thru out the family 😂😂
@Bas22022
@Bas22022 Жыл бұрын
Besides the extremely sexiest remarks through this ep Adam is an extremely dululu, man is never gonna get married.
@sara_j_noor
@sara_j_noor Жыл бұрын
He’s funny and all but I agree I didn’t like the comment about “if she’s a real woman she would live with your parents” like bro- Allah has given her the right to have her own place with her man. Obviously before getting married the woman would know the guy’s situation and position with his parents and what he wants. Personally I wouldn’t mind living with the parents because I’m Pakistani and we just save up until we can afford ourselves lol but boy when a woman get pregnant and you have kids- I’d assume SOME would want their own space.
@hellokittygurl3400
@hellokittygurl3400 Жыл бұрын
there’s a reason why he’s 30 and still not married.
@Ruqayyah2899
@Ruqayyah2899 Жыл бұрын
Adam Saleh is such capp , we all know about the scandals he has been guilty for
@shanaz3
@shanaz3 Ай бұрын
Wanted is balanced and as a british Pakistani I agree. Get your own place and take responsibility. If the parents are elderly then you must take care of them in your home. Once they are gone you will never find another mum or dad.
@sharmeenshafqat9698
@sharmeenshafqat9698 Жыл бұрын
As a 23-year-old woman raised in the US, I believe If you have the right person by your side your marriage won't be as hard as you think whether you live with your parents or move out...I believe it's all about respecting each other's boundaries as a family... you can move out and still be having issues in your family for the same reasons personally when it comes to all these things it's hard to build up that close relationship with in-laws when the first question raised by the daughter-in-law is "Where's my own house?" not saying that it's not her right to ask for it but the girl should understand his parent's feelings that's their son you can't just get married and ask for your own separate place your husband has his parents and his siblings too it's not like husband leaves everything behind after he gets married also as we have been taught that we are not only getting married to him we are getting married to his whole family as a desi we have to deal with this stuff because we are desi, not white..and when you all get comfortable and close with each other you can move out if it's still an issue..DAMN😅, I'd love to live with my in-laws make memories have that beautiful relationship with them😆 life is short man and no one is perfect arguments or disagreements are in every relationship it's all just depend on how you going to get through this together as a family and not give up on each other we ain't here to break the houses. Please stop watching those saas-bahu walay dramas seriously 🤣stay humble yall
@shaaz54
@shaaz54 Жыл бұрын
Religion is more important than culture. Islam discourages joint family system of living with in-laws after marriage. You def shouldn’t be living with your brother in law. They are non mehram! I don’t know when desis will wake up and evolve and leave behind the Hindu culture. All Arabs and Somalians and Malaysians I know get married and live separately. It’s not an issue. It’s not a discussion. Just very normal and natural. You get married. You get your own place and start your new life. I was shocked to hear Adam speak that way. I didn’t realise Yemeni culture is also big on joint family. Paradise lies beneath the feet of your mother. Not mother in law! Adam should be putting lotion on his mothers feet. Not asking his wife to do it. Does he not want to earn reward and seek blessings. Just crazy. Alhamdulillah my mum told us when we were kids that she wants to break the cycle and not have my brother live with them when he gets married. It’s less toxic and more healthy. Live close by. But separately.
@mohammed7812
@mohammed7812 Жыл бұрын
Adam and Slim are stitching Wajeeh up 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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