Want a Better Love Life? Just Say THIS (Scripts) | Matthew Hussey

Struggle to find the right words in your relationship? Whether it’s fixing a misunderstanding, making sure your needs are met, or taking things to the next level - knowing what to say is critical to making love work. In today’s MarieTV, relationship expert Matthew Hussey shares his word-for-word scripts to tackle your trickiest relationship moments.
00:00 - The worst thing to do when heartbroken
10:24 - Matthew’s “handkerchief” method for attracting high-quality partners
13:00 - The mortifying question Matthew was forced to answered on stage
28:40 - How to instantly know if someone’s a match for you
40:22 - The shocking truth about why “chemistry” is total B.S.
46:37 - How to quickly uncover your new lover’s true intentions
50:30 - The biggest red flags to watch out for when dating
56:30 - What to say when you think they’re stringing you along
01:13:40 - How to know when you’re hanging on to a doomed relationship
01:32:25 - The one thing that makes you irresistible to your dream person
01:41:45 - The secret to finding true love - fast
01:51:33 - The shocking reason why they ‘ghost’ you
01:56:51 - How to quickly pull yourself out of a “love rut” and find your perfect match
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[@jacquelinemahoney621]

I resonated so much with "how do I kill my desire to want someone" made me cry as it is where I am at 😢 I know my value and have so much to offer but struggle to find my person.

[@abdullahtanveer316]

me too and I'm really struggling with it. life has become horrible because of this one desire

[@erinmoug5075]

I also can say I’ve liked how Matthew has evolved - I didn’t always agree with his messages in his younger years - so much wiser. Love it.

[@monicaperry2940]

Thank you Marie and Matthew! I love both of your work. As I’m listening to the health struggle it made me wonder. Do you know about oxalates in food. It’s a new topic I’m learning from my kidney issue. And as I read more on it it talks a lot about how it can potentially give aches in pains and no doc can figure out why. It’s hard because oxalates are found in extremely healthy foods.

[@GenevieveParkerHill]

Matthew's advice helped me navigate a tricky time in my relationship back when my now-husband and I were dating. My man and I have now been married for 12 years! His advice is gold, sisters. I also want to say how much I appreciate him for squeezing into that short little chair across from Marie in a place set up for petites. It looks a bit too small for him but he made the sacrifice for us.

[@TeamForleo]

We're so happy to have you here, Genevieve. Sending you and your man so much love! ❤

[@impactmakerstribe]

Matthew is amazing

[@darenapopova4394]

What he did at the end there - acknowledging the real struggle and shit some people go through, and the fact that even his advice might not work for people in very difficult circumstances - I found this extremely graceful! He's grown so much wiser than before! I can't wait to see what he will have to say about maintaining a marriage, now that his is in one, in 10 years time.

[@TeamForleo]

We're so honored to have you here. Thank you for watching with us and sharing your thoughts ❤

[@chisuwochabu250]

He's always been wise beyond he's age

[@beccamartinez8319]

I am so grateful for someone to acknowledge people with physical illness or limitations, or in a state of terrible pain. A lot of people really need to hear this.

[@TeamForleo]

You're absolutely right, Becca. Thank you for sharing this important perspective. So happy to have you here. ❤

[@hdshjs]

Matt is talking about woman acting 'crazy' and how would that evaporate if they are dating someone who is making them feel safe. It reminds me of Oh Wonder song 'Drive', it goes: 'I remember all the times you made me covered in crazy. Can't forget it, all the ways you played me...' This is so true. I was acting totally different in different relationships. It's very important to realize what is our responsibility and what is not. So we can stop blaming ourselves.

[@EiliKaijaKuusniemi]

‘How do I kill my desire to want someone?’ Literally, brought big tears to my eyes…

[@marieforleo]

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[@user-vm5ou4yz9s]

I think this is one of Matthew’s best interviews I’ve seen!! She is such a fantastic host. Thank you both!!! ❤

[@kammyo8660]

Love yourself to not let anyone take advantage of yourself anymore when you will be played again by wrong person

[@Seamannon]

01:27:01 - 01:40:47 The part about self-love was wonederful! Finally someone explained that concept in a way that's much more easy to understand and implement. I appreciate that perspective so much.

[@TammyPerry]

Love yourself as a verb, as an approach. That does change everything. I'm responsible for this human, the only person responsible for this human having this human experience. It's simply my purpose to love her.

[@TeamForleo]

You've got it, Tammy. You've absolutely got it. ❤

[@EugeniaSoares]

Did you ever read “Viktor Frankl”? How to find meaning and purpose in life. Is not always about finding happiness but understanding that we all find purpose in relationships, in love and in suffering as well. Amazing approaches from this amazing psychiatrist that created the Logotherapy. And in relationships we need to know better who we are, the personalities that influenced our behaviour and how to fit or adapt to someone else. I really like Matthew’s humbleness and smart attitude towards relationships! Thank you Marie for this episode! You Rock.

[@TeamForleo]

Thank YOU so much for sharing your thoughts with us, Eugenia. We're honored by the comparison to Viktor Frankl's work, too! Sending you tons of love ❤

[@danielletantone]

I'm absolutely in love with the fact that you used the reference of joy and sadness from the movie inside out. I have long felt that that movie is so incredibly deep… I think true joy needs some sadness and grief...

[@TeamForleo]

Isn't that the best analogy? We love that you caught that, too. ❤

[@thematthewhussey]

Loved this conversation! ❤

[@TeamForleo]

So honored to have you on the show, Matthew. We adore you 💖

[@blazingfire7824]

My heart is so touched with Matthew's sincerity and honesty and vulnerability on this video. The extent to which he acknowledges the human condition and how difficult it is for some to find the right one. I found Matthew's work about 10 years ago. I bought his program, and even went to his live event in LA. I still haven't found the right guy, and it has felt like how he says "is something wrong with me", but it was so refreshing to hear about his own personal story and to hear how those that are on the mountain top can also feel the struggles. I love the part about loving oneself, and the question answer at the end. Thank you Marie, for facilitating this interview and giving the people a voice.

[@TeamForleo]

Thank you so much for sharing so openly with us. And don't worry - we're here to reassure you there's absolutely nothing wrong with you, and we're so proud of how far you've come. Sending you tons of love and support. We're so glad you're here ❤❤

[@gracepurcell7825]

I've just recently found Matthew's work and have been binging on several interviews which is this double WIN as I've now found several others whom I will follow. Thank you Marie..you have a new subscriber 💚🙏

[@TeamForleo]

Oh, Grace! You've absolutely made our day. WELCOME. We're so happy you're here. 💖

[@haslindakasim110]

Matthew has truly helped me through my depression, pain, and anxiety from past breakups. Thanks to him, I am now stronger than ever before.

[@StraightWooAstrology]

These closing statements were stunning and moved to tears. I am really impressed with how he grown over time. He now seems to be channelling the very real experience of many women today and speaking beautifully to it: the possibility of finding love is narrowing, and many of us must now grapple with this long-term. I really appreciated this and found it extremely healing. Very grateful.

[@TeamForleo]

We're so grateful for YOU and your beautiful share. Thank you for being here and taking the time to watch with us - sending so much love your way. 💖

[@RoseMary-gl4ee]

Great job, both of you! Matt seems to have gone through enough life lessons to summarize beautiful strategies, with great understanding. Thank you Matt

[@TeamForleo]

Thank YOU for being here and for your kind words, Rosemary! Sending buckets of love your way. ❤

[@MuzikAficionado]

This was by far the most interesting tete-a-tete with Hussey! Marie you sure know how to handle his idiosyncracies, and let him come out in an unfamiliar yet safe environment! Loved every bit of this insightful banter! Hussey has sure grown with his age - a trait getting rare among most men, worldwide.

[@stefaniastoica4267]

thank you so much for this interview! It's amazing!

[@itsshierlz]

Matthew’s podcast with the fertility specialists actually helped me decide to freeze embryos with my partner as we were (still are) both undecided and weren’t at the right place to have children. Thanks Matt!

[@aperta7525]

IVF kills 5 children for every one successful implantation.

[@hdshjs]

I am a fan of both of you for over a decade. This collabo is a dream. How this interview went so deep and touching so fast? Thank you Marie for bringing Matt in. You are both amazing human.

[@TeamForleo]

We're so honored to have you here! Thank you so much for your dedication and your love. And truly - it's YOU who's amazing! 💖

[@lindyn4]

Honestly did not expect the guy to give such great advice but the Matthew has a wonderful voice and tone and advice so interesting and useful

[@TeamForleo]

We're so happy to hear that! Thank you for watching and for being here. 💖

[@dimpith2311]

Why this podcast is so underrated? I have learned so many things related to relationships from mathew. He is an indeed a perfect coach for people who feel too much, who love too much.

[@Token101]

Hallmark of depression is resigning yourself from happiness, but you can be happy for others or help others be happy

[@parisaforpeace]

Great tips on good communication. Loving yourself and loving your partner need to come within a framework of commitment. We are not always going get things our way, and the relationship becomes the priority.

[@MasterYourMoneyMindset]

Such an incredible and powerful episode, filled with deep compassion and heartfelt advice. Thank you both!

[@TeamForleo]

You're so sweet! Thank YOU for being here and watching with us. Sending you tons of love. 💖

[@elenasunshine]

I receive all the abundance blessings in this reading❤❤❤Thank you!!!

[@aqsaiqbal8191]

Yes Marie! Thanks for doing this!!!!!!❤

[@TeamForleo]

You're so sweet! Thank you for being here and for watching with us. ❤

[@modistasrl2730]

Thank you!

[@saidrahman2110]

Your tips sharpen the skills. Yes true facts easy to sell. Thanks

[@sukaicosmica]

This video is pure gold

[@michellez727]

So good! I love his take on life and love. The self love portion was mind blowing !

[@TeamForleo]

So glad you're here, Michelle. 😁

[@yaritzaurbina6835]

I loved this interview! Thank you, thank you! He’s so funny and so right! The “one job” explanation is gold, I’ll buy this book now. Also, I love how Marie always talks about Kuma! While doing Time Genius, I saw him in one of the videos, Marie was talking about her morning routine, and there he was. Being a dog mom too, I can understand with wanting to start your day with a dog’s unconditional love! I liked her a bit more when I saw that!

[@TeamForleo]

We're thrilled to hear it and we're even more happy you're one of our beloved Alum. And from one dog owner to another, starting your day with a dog is the best way to do it. Sending you and yours tons of love. 🐕

[@crimplecrumble]

Thank you both for this conversation. I learned so much. And feel excited to apply what I learned to my life. Very rich and timely.

[@TeamForleo]

We're so honored to have you here and watching with us. Keep us posted. Sending you all the love. ❤

[@monicajones4924]

Loved this ❤ mattew hussey

[@christinamarti4441]

Thank you Matthew, magic it’s my way of living I’m so excited waiting for the book blessings to you and Audrey

[@TeamForleo]

We can't wait for you to read Matthew's book, Christina! Let us know what you think - we're so honored you watched with us ❤

[@musicinme2010]

Love the analogy re take care of this human to give it the best life you can versus self love.

[@zalinanugaeva4493]

That episode is something special

[@musicinme2010]

Matthew is amazing!

[@gracepurcell7825]

This stuff is GOLD!!

[@TeamForleo]

✨⭐💖

[@beatrizmoreno3410]

amazing! simply amazing

[@TeamForleo]

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[@emilytamayomaher]

such a great interview

[@TeamForleo]

Thanks, Emily! Grateful you're here. 💖

[@carolynmaryscott]

Matthew Hussey thank you for your transparency and openness. Regarding the tinnitus - look into the links between it and non Hodgkins Lymphoma - it could be an immune issue. There is a lot of research linking these. Also turn off your wifi at night. a great book OVER POWERED by a Colombia University professor who spent forty years and world specialist linking chronic illness and exposure to non iodizing radiation. The W.H.O has also done decades of study on cell phone and wifi exposure and has listed them as probable carcinogens.

[@RoseMary-gl4ee]

Hey guys spot on with the self love thing!💕

[@TeamForleo]

❤❤❤

[@impactmakerstribe]

Good communication helps understand each other better.

[@TeamForleo]

You've got that right. 👏

[@MonaMarMag]

I wonder from where you get your inspirations for your books ? Personally I base my thoughts on different kind of subjects on my own life experiences .

[@kinethecoach]

This went much deeper than expected! Thank you so much! Amazing framing that initiating hard conversations is taking leadership. ❤ Absolutely loved that!

[@TeamForleo]

We love when we can surprise you, Kine. Sending you tons of love 💖

[@erinmoug5075]

Oh Matthew - that tinnitus journey is my journey. Massive relating.

[@TeamForleo]

Sending you so much love, Erin. ❤

[@erinmoug5075]

@@TeamForleothank you … I liked hearing Matthews real-ness.

[@guitarsz]

I love Marie's Italian size...now it all makes sense.

[@stevecatanio8532]

Marie ages like fine wine. 😂❤

[@saidrahman2110]

Difficult to explain love themes. Creating a well organized plot, very difficult. Hope your tips will make it easy. Thanks.

[@Mayuri1994ify]

Funny i am suscribed to both and i rarely open KZbin and see this 😮

[@TeamForleo]

Meant to be ✨

[@musicinme2010]

Self respect should be the self love rebrand.

[@elisabyler3421]

Please never use scripted texts!!!!!!!! If you want a real relationship you have to be real! Recently I was talking to two guys via text, they used the exact same scripted text that said, "yeah, let's try to cook a meal together and after we burn through a couple pans we can just scrap it and go out to eat." There were several others. Instant turn off! If you are not intelligent enough to write your own texts, you shouldn't be dating.

[@Joy-mm3cz]

I agree. Most of those people are scammers. They use the same similar texts.

[@saidrahman2110]

Please explain differences between story and plot.

[@lynnembrooks1831]

WOW‼️ WOW ‼️ WOW ‼️ I so needed to hear this today and I found it purely by accident.. I was looking for yet another video on Fibromyalgia, something I've delt with for 40 odd years and Tinnitus for about 10 years. Nothing in the title let me know there was anything to do with either of these things yet I felt I had to watch it...... thank You

[@TeamForleo]

We're so honored you watched and so honored you shared this with us (and even more proud you listened to your gut and heart.) Grateful to have you here, Lynne! ❤❤

[@lynnembrooks1831]

@@TeamForleo I've also shared it with my friends..... at 68 it would have been nice to have this information back when I was in my late teens earlier twenties...

[@musicinme2010]

My boyfriend of two years was on a dating app, as “single!” He had multiple women going believing he was single.

[@karyncooks4553]

His perspective on impermanence and clinging is very Buddhist in many ways.

[@pkowalke]

Yeah, I also saw the influence. I'm not familiar with Matthew enough to know if it was a direct or indirect influence, though.

[@farhantariq2431]

Great conversation. But still this version of Self love has flaws. My brain knows that if I have 'to love' myself' as a job, that means I don't. Though, it might be that after 50 years of actively doing the job, it would stop to be needed anymore, like the psychological bucket of self love would be full, and unlike physical cells that need food everyday, perhaps love being Psychological, doesn't. But then, this kind of self love is a process of conscious thinking, which is based on memory (as in, brain cells say- dressing nice is self love and brain cells being physical need Self love till the end.)

[@berndgeels]

Decided to look up Hussey's age after he mentioned it in this video. He's all of 36. I just don't get how someone that young, even if he is an "expert", is given such credibility on such an immense and complex topic. Only 36? Really?

[@PlanP16]

haha thats why I live by Plan P, the plan of Paradise always comes around..

[@crismacintosh]

16:20 I also teared up

[@TeamForleo]

You're not alone. Big hugs. ❤

[@lmm1447]

all the things, all the things, all the things

[@MichelleKotler]

Matthew Hussy should see a developmental optometrist and get his eyes checked to see if he needs vision therapy. That might fix dizziness and pain.

[@Chris-hp2gg]

Love is a four letter word .😂

[@marilynoverton8142]

Great content. Unfortunately, the constant stream of commercials destroys all sense of continuity.

[@jasblossoms]

What is your advice for someone who communicated standards and needs in a healthy way, didn’t feel like they were being met, then communicated in an unhealthy way from a dysregulated nervous system and now I feel like the crazy one. 😅

[@AnaGfit23]

I personally feel like I did this in my last relationship. You *might* have to be honest with yourself about the other individuals’ willingness to understand and work with you. I asked my ex for couples counseling 3x in our relationship. First he told me basically he thinks it’s just me. After some self progress and events in my relationship, I asked again and he said sure-you find the counselor, set the appointment and I’ll show up. Truthfully, that didn’t encourage me it would be a fruitful endeavor. Last time, he suggested it-after I sat down with him and told him I believe I wanted to end the relationship. Now I had a bad rebound situationship (one that taught me a TON so I don’t regret it and am actually super grateful for it), but still I don’t regret it. Not saying that’s your journey-now though, I just asked someone I’ve been seeing for 2.5 months if he’d be up theoretically for that if I feel (or he) ever feels the need. And he said absolutely. Just my experience, again, you may be different. Someone committed to misunderstanding you, never will understand no matter how painstakingly you choose your words or attempt to regulate yourself. While with someone who is committed to understanding you and your internal context, you can use the “wrong” or “not the best” words and they still are there, for it all-“right” words or wrong.

[@sunbeam9222]

My ex partner just did that, I think, looking back, he did express his needs in a healthy way and I did not notice. And then he expressed them in a big meltdown way that I sure noticed this time ;) but it triggered me which triggered him again then bang he broke up and ran. Just like that

[@jasblossoms]

Im sorry. That makes me sad. And I know im learning how to be a better person from it all. I listen to Heidi Prieb and she had a great episode on self containment that helped me. Thank you for sharing. I don’t know what the outcome of my meltdown is quite yet. I love how Matthew says it’s about who can handle you the best.

[@sunbeam9222]

@@jasblossoms I'm sorry also. I understand now how he got frustrated at me and felt ignored and abandoned. And from my perspective I felt super hurt to suddenly go from love of his life to enemy number 1. What a mess relationship can be even tho there is so much love ;) I also watched her videos. It sure brings tons of understanding.

[@AnaGfit23]

@@jasblossoms Heidi is the best !

[@cangrejitamiry]

Plan B are always the cats. Or dogs. Or rabbits.

[@TeamForleo]

Nailed it. 🙌

[@irinarusu5523]

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[@TeamForleo]

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[@marianicolepappadakis8880]

I’m boring?? Wow

[@barbaraschultz1442]

“The me got turned up to 25”

[@YuliaGrushevskaya-bi6he]

No i want nothing i am fed up with relatives and relationships it never was my cup of tea😂. I am better alone!)

[@pkowalke]

This video was hard to watch. It felt really clear to me that Matthew doesn't love himself. So his brilliant mind was saying interesting half-truths, but on the deepest level it was hollow and missing the point.

[@Yeodoongiiie]

what about it makes it sound like he doesn't love himself?

[@pkowalke]

@@Yeodoongiiie The way he described love in terms of responsibility, the way way he talked about his personal struggles (but props for being so candid...that was really awesome), and a thousand other little tells I'd need to go back and note one by one if I was trying to make a convincing case. I wasn't looking for it; it was like defining porn: you know it when you see it. But I have thought about doing a reaction video where I analyze it a bit deeper. I'll freely admit it was a strong impression and not me trying to pick it apart piece by piece. It was a very visceral response.

[@Yeodoongiiie]

@@pkowalke interesting. to me what i see is a man who is putting on vulnerability as a selling point for his book. he constantly pulls these stories, takes pauses and looks a bit sad, then looks a bit flirtatious. it feels like he really loves the sound of his own words. he even has his wife with him all the time, she always has to listen to him. she had become part of his work, and she doesn't have credentials in the dating market, yet she is given more and more screen time. it makes me wonder why she is working with him and not doing her own thing... does he have a need for validation so much that he needs her as audience always? this man has a script. he knows how to sell himself, and i would bet these more personal stories and him getting candid, is absolutely a script too.

[@pkowalke]

@@Yeodoongiiie To some degree, this is how the sausage is made. I think this is an "amber light" for me, but not a dealbreaker by itself. But I'm hearing you.

[@erinmoug5075]

We all have the right to our opinions, I don’t necessarily see it the same but your thoughts and ideas are still valid. I’ve seen this man evolve since his aged … I think he was honest and vulnerable to share things about himself - but you saw something different - no right no wrong, we need to get back to a place of different opinions are A-okay … have a great night!

[@audreynicoletti7329]

Get to the point!!!

[@v9b23j]

@thematthewhussey I'm sorry you have suffered from physical pain and tinnitus. It must be excruciatingly painful. I learned from Dr. K that many people with somatic illness like fibromyalgia (I don't know if you were diagnosed with it) have a history of unresolved trauma. He says, he helped cure some of his patients with fibromyalgia by having them do yoga, taichi, swimming, hiking or physical exercise which made them reconnect with their body in a safe way. He also said, there has been studies on people with tinnitus who cured the symptoms after deep trauma processing.

[@nursevrmakdemirbas5102]

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