Waste no more time arguing what a good person should be, be one

[@sharonrosecappella4487]

I agree and am marveling at how Seneca pointed out that our preparation for catastrophes on the macrocosmic level, externally in the world, is sanctioned, accepted, facilitated, expected; yet our preparation for catastrophes on the microcosmic level, internally and personally impacting our individual lives, is largely ignored, overlooked, misunderstood, dismissed. The irony of this oversight is that the more frequent, more likely, and more important focus is on the microsystem of ourselves and our own lives. No one of us can avoid attention to ourselves and the impact we have on others. And our thoughts guide our emotions to react to every event of our lives, including how others affect us. These are daily, moment-to-moment occurrences; yet we do not attend to the underpinnings of what drives our thoughts to emotions, the perceptions we have of events that drive us to react the way we do and how these reactions, or even especially the stifling of our emotions, impacts ourselves and others. In healthcare, it is widely known that what eventually kills people is some form of illness or disease brought on by years of stress from what Hans Selye termed General Adaptation Syndrome. In this syndrome, the body perceives stress in three phases: (1) alarm, (2) adaptation or its attempt, and (3) exhaustion. These phases play out over many years during which the fight-or-flight response is continuously triggered, reactivating this nervous system reaction to the point of overstimulation. This effects hormonal response, triggering cortisol, which also engages our thoughts and subsequent emotions to take action against some perceived threat and even paradoxically "adapt" to the unadaptable, a constant stage of "flux" caused by living in a constant state of perceived stress. And the body was not designed to 'live' in this state. It was designed to use sympathetic nervous system response to survive actual temporary threats and then to revert to homeostasis and recover from these threats, as we recover from a trauma. So, over time, living in this continuous state of perceived stress and reaction to it, the third phase, exhaustion, is reached. Exhaustion sounds like a thought process and emotional reaction. But Selye's theory of it involved actual physical exhaustion of hormones, the immune system, and the very fuel and functioning of cells, causing breakdown of organs and disease, eventually resulting in death. So when someone "dies of a broken heart," it is because of literal death from perceived ongoing stress, stress from pain, grieving. So it also is with less obvious, visible signs of stress, as someone walking around with ongoing unresolved anger, someone swallowing pain, not expressing how they feel, not venting or sorting out their own emotions. When this happens, in Reiki it is taught that unresolved anger leads to stress on the heart and corrosion such as ulcers. Thus, not dealing with our own emotions is the most prevalent, real threat to our vitality, the ever-present crisis much more threatening than any rare or unlikely natural disaster which people treat as more of a threat. But we carry around ourselves, our thoughts, our emotions every moment of every day. And we interact these selves with others. And how we treat and engage others is affected by how we handle these thoughts and emotions. Thus, we inflict our own unaddressed afflictions on others, causing them pain, causing them need to handle thoughts and emotions induced by what we have done. So it is the responsibility of care for our own person not only to make sure that we are okay but to check in with ourselves, to check in with our thoughts, our feelings, ask the source of these, address and let them release in a safe way that acknowledges and validates them, attending to our own person as a holistic whole, physically, emotionally, mentally, socially, spiritually, rather than ignoring parts of ourselves to fester and become a pressure cooker exploding outward to external expressive destruction and imploding inward to disease and untimely death. The way we manage, react to ourselves, others, and the world, this is our responsibility and can either extend and enrich or curtail and shorten our lives. I think this is essentially the gist of what you mean when you say that you should waste no more time in arguing what a good person you should be. This is wasted time, energy, stress, detracting from being. But being a good person means being good to yourself first, attending first to what you are, who you are, how you feel and react and the thoughts that brought you to that reaction and, full circle, the thoughts that emanated from it. Once we examine and attend to ourselves, we can work on healing ourselves, focusing on what we can control. Only then can we be good to others and externally, because we have learned to be good internally to ourselves. We desire and are rewarded for being good people by virtue of the fact of feeling WHOLE. And wholeness comes only with addressing all of the parts of ourselves, dark and light aspects, thoughts, feelings, reactions and why they come to be. Only in this exploration can we discover what we do and, thus, feel inspired to change it, to control our response. This control gives us the power to be who we want to be which, when we feel this centered, is a good person. And being good defined as truth to self and the need to treat others as oneself, we expand this truth outward. This extends not only our own lives but those whose lives we touch. Thus catastrophic preparedness begins at home, literally at home inside yourself. No suicidal person survives the flood if they do not live to see it. No one living in constant anger survives the fires if they have a heart attack before they see the flames. I appreciate your bringing these truths to our attention. Thank you for sharing these posts. They help me to self-examine and bring better procedure and presence to my daily life.

[@transformerali4186]

Wow

[@harrystraw3460]

This is an extraordinary response…I am so not taking what you have expressed here for granted…this is truly special

[@paolamura3497]

Thank you for taking the time to write down literally an essay! So much to think about. Very well done and I'm going to print your comment ...somehow...!👍👋

[@Mugundan.B-o6m]

I have no words to explain the amount of goodness you have done to me. I am so happy knowing I am 16 and becoming wiser every day. THANK YOU

[@Cy4nSw4n]

I love this concept. No one is perfect of course, but every day we get to choose what kind of person we want to be When we mess up, we're able to reflect on what we did or said, and decide how we'll react to similar things in the future I wrote something in my journal quite a while ago. I wrote: "Be kind to everyone, even if they don't deserve it. By doing this, you show yourself that you too deserve kindness despite your faults and your flaws. And so, by being kind to others, you're being kind to yourself" ❤

[@winsie_w-m6l]

Enjoyed the news letter this week, there's a saying "show me your friends, and I will show you your future". I have spent a great deal of life giving to people who were not worth the effort, including my own family! I've wasted the best years of my life on bad choices, choices that lead me on the path to pain, discomfort, fear and tragedy. Can I handle a flood? Yes, I can handle a flood, but I don't want to handle anymore floods at this stage in my life. Flood of fear, flood of pain, flooding emotions no more! instead I will be like the little duck who floats on the flood with ease.

[@lizaa_sarkar]

Diving deep within ourselves, addressing & analysing why some things maybe bothersome & some aren't to us, is really pivotal as, a lot of answers lie there already, that we might be seeking consciously/subconsciously, which are keys to become a good human being. This diving into our own selves & working on ourselves, are nothing less than some of the gifts of life. Thank you really for sharing the gem of insights & truly thank you for your newsletters🧡

[@acceptingtheuniverse]

Thank you for the kind words, much appreciated!

[@kevinperry2865]

its very important for those interested to listen and then re-listen to what this gentleman is conveying, like we perhaps re-read books. It seems obvious, but when I re-listen I have always missed something.

[@LovelyFlipFlops-jl9kl]

I listened the first time, understood, pondered, self reflected, appreciated but more importantly I felt.

[@mmka5434]

*Abstinence, not only from evil deeds, but even from evil thoughts* _Marcus Aurelius_ The aforementioned quote by Aurelius has helped me many times. Thanks for the video. These videos are worth watching many times. Thanks for the Newsletter. It was great.

[@acceptingtheuniverse]

Thank you!

[@BeingArtful]

Thank-you for continuing with these videos. Takeaway: practice virtue so that you are prepared for what life brings. You are the helmsman of your own ship. ⚓

[@shd8217]

Man, you can't imagine how much the wisdom you share, helped navigate some of my conflicting thoughts about the complexities of life. Truly inspiring!

[@cbrashsorensen]

It is so easy to just "lose your way" emotionally during difficult personal and societal times. Everyone seemed to focus on finding "enough" toilet paper during COVID while emotions ran wild and crazy. Steadiness and equanimity were much called for and hard to find--emotional resilience is definitely a feature that we can all benefit from as the world tips more into chaos each day.

[@paolamura3497]

That toilet paper bit made me laugh...in the modern world we're so used to our comforts! But one thing for sure was always available during Covid ... a full stocked supermarket.

[@Roka-]

Its pleasent to see your channel getting well deserved audiance, been following your channel since the first video, keep up the good work ❤

[@acceptingtheuniverse]

Thank you for still being here, much appreciated!

[@beadld]

You're literally my therapist at this time, thank you for these wise thoughts.

[@TheNeuralist]

Philosophy is like that. I removed all of my mood disorders through engaging seriously with philosophy. It's life changing.

[@beadld]

@@TheNeuralist Yes, it is very life changing!

[@KhushiKumari-wg7xw]

And it might take some time of course, but we need to believe in ourselves no matter how tough the situation and people are that we deal with, we should always remain as a person (good person) whom we always admired!😊

[@andreajoy224]

So wise and inspiring as always. Thank you! 😊🫶

[@roshansamrobert]

Love the wisdom!

[@aitalic]

Always offer me some food for thought that helps me reflect. Thanks for that.

[@sweettidings]

Thank you for your insights and your wonderful newsletters.

[@jlhpi568]

Hello ATU. , for one so young, your words of Great Thoughts and Wisdom, are excellent, thank you, for sharing your Internal and Eternal Light. Blessings, Light, Love, Peace and Harmony to you too!! You are a True communicator, of THE LIGHT, that of which we all are in Truth. For this we are Grateful!!

[@jonashormann5700]

Greetings from Mars. Thank you for sharing the wise words!

[@adamluchsinger8064]

I appreciated that saying at the end of the video 🙏

[@mahalharoui4900]

Greetings from Morocco. Thank you for these inspiring insights.

[@indigoes07]

I really wish you could post everyday. I mean it just feels good having a good conversation in the middle of chaos; so grateful for this, thank you :)

[@itdobelikethatsometimes9493]

Thank you for all that you do 🙏

[@ElizabethPeyton-i6j]

the work one can and needs to do inside oneself is infinite - in the best way! thank you for reminding us of this Cosmic Inspirer 🌟

[@Diya-ht2ue]

Introspection is the best way to understand yourself better & that's how you understand others better..empathy leads you in such a way that you don't want to hurt others as you've gone through the same pain... but it comes only after experience. You talked about preparedness but we aren't consciously aware all the time of everything happening around or in others life. How can we prepare ourselves when the feeling of pain or damage is unknown? The world is full of violance today.. people are so impatient & react without any thought.. may be they are lacking something within.. lack of empathy.. Thank you for this video.. it takes time to grasp everything you say at one go so i will rewatch & think about it deeply.

[@joanabrum9532]

Since ive been in the university of psychology my anxiety has been getting worse always worry about death and not having enough time yesterday one of your videos got on my fyp and i really felt it was the universe sending those videos for me to see. Im extremelly grateful for all the videos i went to sleep feeling peaceful and for the first time in a while im letting things happen.

[@starlucanyaart]

You shouldn't worry about death, because death is not the end, it's just another place where the souls are. But it's very important to live your life on earth, because it's a way to elevate the soul. It's just differents dimensions, but we would still be here. Don't worry about death, care about living your life in the best way :)

[@leonidasmolinalopez8257]

«A friend is one of the nicest things you can have and one of the best things you can be» - Douglas Pagels

[@AnnieDaddo]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts 🙏You are providing great food for thought. J knitted a pair of socks as a gift recently for my brother..always put a tag on my works."Mistakes made Lessons learned".We all must look within.Go gently and thoughtfully through your days and nights.👋🐨🌏♥️xx

[@juliaismail1088]

To say that you are literally saving me is an understatement.

[@draganapasti_]

Solid beliefs and proper reacts are secure base for virtues we are all eager to accomplish, I believe.

[@creepydani3225]

This is sort of complementary to where my journaling for this week went. My thought was that rather than dropping those we do not trust or trusting blindly, we can give our friends the chance to prove us wrong, to learn, or to rise to the challenge by laying out how we are reacting to them and by working together to find a way to build trust and improve the friendship. Rather than labelling them as trustworthy or untrustworthy, we label them as a student of life and trust in their potential to improve by offering them information and opportunity. Basically, when someone is unprepared for their own internal turmoil, we do not abandon them as hopeless or worthless but give the feedback that can help them prepare and give them the opportunity to repair what they have broken. Trust in their potential and desire to learn until they break or uphold that assumption.

[@Englishroserebecca]

Constant self awareness and being present in the moment. Self reflection at the end of each day. Learning from our mistakes. Self improvement. Meditation. Practicing Forgiveness. Kindness. Understanding. We are a constant work in progress. We can only keep trying every day to be better. ❤

[@bibi-decaffinated5586]

Great content always. Thank you. Greater love to you from Trinidad 💞.

[@7lexanderp634]

I took up on your book rec of Pierre hadots’ work & just wanna say thanks 🙂

[@Lauren_bex]

I'm of the mind set that I can only care about how I act in any given situation, of course I do not have this perfected! Am I prepared for the worse...am I prepared to see what I might become if things get really difficult, am I a prisoner of my own emotions ? Yes, I am a prisoner of my own emotions, but my prison is only as strong as my efforts to escape it. If I can apply honesty and transparency with myself and to anyone I encounter outside of myself, then hopefully I can move forward freely with my emotions balanced no matter how difficult the situation may be.

[@user-se9uk2py5k]

There are many ways you can get lost in the woods, and be harmful to yourself and to others. One way I have sadly experienced myself is by not being sincere and loyal enough with oneself. This Inner knowledge and loyalty to who you are and what you want can feel hard sometimes, it can also lead you to a certain level of solitude, but its the first step towards the good things, integrity, reliability, and simplicity. Still coming out of the woods.

[@margaretmcgregor5686]

Marcus Aurelius - so succint - just like you 😊 from Scotland

[@jiggersotoole7823]

Within you without you, The Beatles.

[@ssSkullZzz]

so I was trying to explain the benefits of forgiving and not clinging to the negative and being a good person to a negative friend of mine, and it is like pissing in the wind, I feel like the words are not landing on his side, or he just cant see it. he even argues back about how some pains can never be forgiven. I tried to explain to him, that when you dont forgive, you are the one who is going to suffer not them.

[@acceptingtheuniverse]

Be grateful that you know these things and I am grateful that you care about your friend so much :)

[@FreeLegalEducation]

The Importance of Internal Preparedness 1. We prepare for external emergencies or possible disasters, but take no note of the harm our own actions, thoughts, and beliefs cause others. #SelfAwareness #Mindfulness 2. Other people are often the biggest sources of disaster in our lives, yet we overlook the impact of our internal struggles. #InnerPeace #Reflection 3. We assume we are in control of our thoughts and beliefs, not realizing they often go unchecked and cause us more harm than external events. #MentalHealth #SelfControl 4. There's much more happening within us than outside; the conflicts, battles, and unresolved thoughts and emotions we struggle with daily. #InnerBattles #SelfImprovement 5. We prepare for external events because we perceive them as more dangerous, but neglect the internal conflicts that have greater magnitude. #Introspection #EmotionalHealth 6. Our sense of certainty often leads to unpreparedness. Thinking we're sure about something doesn't mean we're ready to face it. #SelfDeception #Preparedness 7. We prepare for potential external events while neglecting internal realities, which we have control and responsibility over. #Responsibility #InnerStrength 8. It's wise to prepare for a flood of unchecked emotions and the shaking of our core beliefs, as these are more likely to occur than natural disasters. #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfCare 9. Unchecked emotions and shaky beliefs cause regrets and mistakes, hurting others and ourselves due to our casual unpreparedness. #SelfAwareness #Growth 10. To desire happiness is not enough to avoid its opposite; preparedness for our own faults is crucial and within our control. #Happiness #SelfResponsibility 11. Marcus Aurelius reminds us that crafting proper beliefs and exercising virtues like honesty, decency, and courage are the preparedness issues we must focus on. #Virtue #Stoicism 12. In this arena, the best person to help you is yourself. You have the best person available to work on this with, and Marcus Aurelius affirms that you can do this too. #SelfHelp #Empowerment DO LIKE, IF YOU AGREE..

[@ceeemm1901]

Our mind is the greatest lawyer in the world. It will always justify our actions.

[@lisahyyppa3360]

🙏❤️‍🔥🥰 thank you for your message Precious One… Deuteronomy 4:34 Has any god ever tried to take for himself one nation out of another nation, by testings, by signs and wonders, by war, by a mighty hand and an outstretched arm, or by great and awesome deeds, like all the things the Lord your God did for you in Egypt before your very eyes?

[@johnnylovessheki]

Also it’s good to know how to give a good apology when the emotional chemicals make it out of our mouths

[@alim8167]

Once a likeable like is found, we must commit fully: this is a fellow, this is a friend, and it is unto them that we practice the appropriate virtues such as generosity, in time and in resources. I find when it comes to true virtue, those philosophers who practice are on our own and there is no likeable like to be found.

[@ThegreatGladi]

the non chalant stare thumbnails are never ending aye

[@anarabello6026]

é um deleite ouvir coisas tão necessárias. Obrigada!

[@richardsnyder6413]

Thank you 🙏 friend

[@dauntmoar147]

May I ask, where is this sweater from? I'd be grateful if you answer

[@krishnapartha]

Brother I love your videos and sharing of ancient authentic philosophy. But beware one day, the great actor Christian Bale will do a spoof of your videos and it will cause confusion. My best to you! 😂❤

[@gpeaches]

I'm wondering what your perspective is on if/how you adapt your philosophy and approach in romantic relationships, particularly when you're with a partner who may be inclined towards a greater level of emotional enmeshment/connection? Because while I agree that everyone is 100% responsible for their own reaction, perception and emotional regulation, I feel like many people expect and require a different level of consideration when it comes to loved ones versus strangers. They want their loved ones to take more consideration and accept some level of responsibility for their feelings. I find that when I'm very connected and emotionally intimate with a loved one, this notion that myself and my partner are entirely separate entities solely responsible for our feelings, with no bearing over the other person vanishes. It's an ideal that ceases to align with my emotional reality and experience. True in principle, less so in practice. That experience of deep connection and intimacy makes it so that my partner feels like an extension of myself (although I know intellectually that they are not). And in my experience, my previous strict adherence to this principle that I'm not responsible for the feelings and reactions of others has impeded my ability to experience that same profound level of love and connection for another person. Do you experience/see that tradeoff? I'm still navigating how to reconcile that. Do you have advice on adhering to your philosophical principles while simultaneously engaging in a deeply connected and emotional partnership? Because this principle of sole responsibility for the self and not others is easier to adhere to when it comes to strangers, acquaintances, and even friends and family. Less so when you're in a loving connected partnership. But maybe that speaks more to my approach to love. Not sure.

[@acceptingtheuniverse]

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[@eliseoriondark7442]

What are your thoughts about alfred adler who he is do you know who is ? Can share your understanding about his philosophy pretty pretty please 🥺

[@HonestlyHolistic]

But how do you prepare for it? How do you practice these things?

[@akj3344]

My gf has a crush on you and I'm jealous. PS : I like your videos.

[@margerdei]

Lol🤣

[@zensvlognotapro]

😅..it's okay your gf loves you 😊

[@michael654]

Very important words at 7:00.

[@vianguyen1588]

Can you make a video about individualism or individual freedom?🙂

[@hibaashraf6077]

But what if we react immaturely at times then we realize our mistakes and apologize to mend our relationship..are we still a good person?

[@ShubhamSharma-ow7jn]

I m still unable to find my 'why' wht should i do?? I m watching your videos how can i self realisation??

[@krishnapartha]

🙏🏾

[@ViolentGnome97]

On a side note - where did you get that sweater? It looks great!

[@firestarter73]

❤️‍🔥

[@zensvlognotapro]

🙏

[@tannerwalker3786]

I truly wish I better understood how you are structuring your newsletters. I wanted so badly to follow along, but you are simply not reading the letters in chronological order as you described you would. Letter three is titled "trusting one's friends" and both your newsletter and this video are simply not related to senecas letter in the book. I'm beyond confused as to which letter I should be reading for each week.

[@hansz024]

It seems like the newsletter journal is related to the letter, but the video is not

[@keine031]

whst Watch are you wearing?

[@Anna-ht6sz]

Viele Grüße 😊

[@ImmortalityLimitless]

Would u press a button to end all life if rven one chicken pig or animal was living in pain like that in slaughter houses for even one second ? For the lives of millions or even one person human to live a mediocre life?(Cuz that is what it in the matrix ) Who is running the matrix ? Who gets to decide ?the chicken ?would the chiken swcrifice his life for the medicroe loves of one or more human? Or does the most moral human non zombie decide ?

[@honda-crv-p2z]

Is your tooth hurting?

[@barryporter6993]

when you do a video, please do not cover your mouth with your hand.

[@barryporter6993]

@@MayaHendsenmayajs19442 Not being rude, I did say please :) I was just pointing it out because it makes the audio difficult to hear.

[@running_chamomile]

@@MayaHendsenmayajs19442lmao, gurl, it’s a valid criticism. Nothing rude about it.

[@jenniferrosebruce6385]

​@@barryporter6993 dont feel bad about your polite request. I thought the same, but as its probably a once off, I just followed on his transcript what he was saying 😊

[@jenniferrosebruce6385]

​@@MayaHendsenmayajs19442 I have to defend Barry on this. I think he made a valid point. Buts lets move on and continue our journey here. 😊

[@sweettidings]

He is just propping his chin not exactly covering his mouth. Maybe he has a toothache. Let him be.

[@Pooja-g5q8j]

Helloo ☺️👋

[@hijden6765]

why you wear long arms on summer

[@azeraazalea]

What's his instagram