Watch For These 14 Warning Signs of A

[@NarcCon]

Book Link Below: Weaponised Love -a.co/d/g4bB4MI

[@texaspatty458]

@@NarcCon ...I don't need a book to tell me how to feel . Thx .

[@JankaLeucorrhinia]

Dear Paula I received your book from my husband. 🙂 (My husband is not a narcissist 😁) I am looking forward to it. 🙏🌞🌹

[@NarcCon]

@@texaspatty458 great news 🤓

[@km-my4un]

One way to check if they are a narcissist is how often they say thank you. Narcissists hardly ever show gratitude for anything.

[@llunavermella_bloodmoon]

They can actually say thank you in front of groups of people to protect their façade

[@christinelamb1167]

@@llunavermella_bloodmoon The one I dated went overboard on saying Thank you. It was ridiculous! But he would say it for dumb things, not for things that were really meaningful. Does that make sense? He was trying to put on a fascade of being a "nice guy", but not really actually thankful.

[@gloryrosebud]

True

[@janetromey7522]

They also WITHHOLD compliments, make you wait for them(wasting your time), hold from answering your questions.hold from making a time to meet up. You can hear their eye rolling on the phone and their discontent. The always have an excuse with their animals why they can't give you attention.😢 just turn and walk on. 🎉😊

[@betsyansel688]

I was a caretaker for a narcissist who became disabled. He never said please or thank you. I thank(ed) people all of the time, including the narcissist who I recently left. He said thank you to me once a few weeks ago and I was actually amazed. I noticed it was out of the ordinary.

[@freespirit9806]

Most clinicians have no idea what a Narcissist is. This is something we have to discern by ourselves , if you feel uncomfortable, not able to be yourself , you feel like you have to act , you’re probably dealing with a Narcissist.

[@thepragmatist]

"Multiple partner history" is a big one.

[@IASJH8132]

@@thepragmatist if they tell you about it.

[@thepragmatist]

@@IASJH8132 Agree. Sometimes you have to find out on your own.

[@ShalomISmyname]

That “gut” feeling, is the Holy Spirit. Learning how to listen to that still small voice, will save your life! I heard it every time I met a disembodied nephilim spirit, but wasn’t in tune with my Heavenly Father enough to actually listen. These are the lessons we learn and hopefully don’t make the same mistakes again.

[@RegeneratedRicky]

I used to attract narcissists. Of course, this was when I was living disobedient and rebellious. I was living and behaving unhealthy, and that's what I attracted. Unhealthy relationships. I turned my will back over. It's been 15 months of sobriety, back in the Word and daily prayer. I was Baptized and joined a men's group at a local church. I am grateful for the grace and mercy that the Lord has given me. Nothing I could earn, just Grace through faith. HalleluYAH 🙌🏻 He saved a wretch like me. And I have been learning ESPECIALLY LATELY, to be quiet...... Listen..... Holy Spirit is always guiding, but I had to learn to be quiet. JESUS 👑 YAHUSHUA 🙏🏻💖🔥🕊️ GOD BLESS YOU.

[@ShalomISmyname]

@ Praise Yah! That’s an amazing testimony. That’s exactly how it was for me as well. Once we can learn to listen, things start falling into place! 🙌🏽🙏

[@celinemer-j1t]

- Oh that gut feeling tells a lot, you experience something against the natural flow but you can't really put your finger on. - "Too good to be true " feeling is the biggest Red Flag, I am sorry. - Another early sign is the little and totally unnecessary lies they tell, even about what they've just had for lunch. - Being intentionally late for meetings is another sign, this might be giving them "I have the control here" feeling. - For the first meetings they ask many questions and let you talk as much as you can, so that you open up. This naturally makes you enjoy their company and like them. - They hide your stuff. This is a very cheap trick but I'm shocked how common this is.

[@barbaracobb6291]

@@celinemer-j1t this is so true

[@Fiona99960]

Thank you for this last comment, maine hid all my books and stuff everything! after moving out. Under the bed and into closeths, Flat was empty! that I would feel emptiness. Not today Satan :)

[@paulinesterry7810]

My signs that a person is one, is that they will nearly always be late, which I think is a form of control. Another is negative nicknames, very subtle undermining. Mine was breaking things I really liked, and now I think it had womb envy, I really cannot remember what happened to my maternity dresses. I would not have thrown them out, and I cannot remember giving them away.

[@growingandlearning164]

They sure do hide stuff .Your stuff ,and theirs too if they can waste your time getting you to help find it or use it to manipulate you in some way.

[@elderlypoodle9181]

I no longer listen to negative gossip. It actually upsets me. Nothing good comes from that. I thought at my age that went away. How ignorant of me. I’m now strong enough to voice my displeasure to those who gossip.

[@Timmym-ff9to]

I couldn’t agree more on the gut instinct. My gut warns me and a lot of the time my brain hasn’t figured out anything…education aligned with gut instinct is so powerful. I also find that I was codependent being as I was married 20 years so that strong desire to fill that void can cloud your judgment and narcissists are magnetised towards what they see as vulnerable, desperate etc . Learning to enjoy my own company and being happy on my own is not only amazing for self development after slowly conforming and losing one’s self but when I do meet someone I’m not expecting them to be responsible for my happiness .i will be a better partner in the future because I may not be a narcissist but my mental state/actions have an effect on the people I’m around .

[@FoxSleeping]

Codependency is really an interdependent person whose partner is withholding their part. Many people are called codependent in order to blame share because assigning total responsibility upon one person seems unfair or unbalanced despite the facts. If the partner was doing their part, codependency disappears. The entire point of relationships is interdependency. Lions and other animals have this figured out by nature. Leave it to self centeredness of human nature to ***k up nature.

[@jamieklem4083]

All true. Testing boundaries . Impression management. Demands attention and compliance.

[@peacefulone4461]

"Over loud!" "Over nice"! Yes, he's also a mental health professional

[@stinaseemer4811]

I noticed that the voice is also an indicator. Two of my "friends" used to speak with a very silent and innocent 😇 voice except for certain!... occasions when the mask fell off

[@lilleeball1148]

A 'careful' voice, being careful also about the words they use.

[@barbaracobb6291]

My ex over shared very sensitive information on our first date. He told me his ex was a heavy drinker and drove him to have affairs. My gut feeling was screaming out and I ignored it. He has eroded my trust in every man and I know I won't date again. My dogs are what give me love and they are the ones who have been by my side throughout this. They have picked up on all of my stress. Great video paula and so accurate. Thank you.

[@NarcCon]

🐕🥰

[@Chazbro]

But then good men like me have less good women. I understand though... 3 years of lies and cheating... I don't know if I can trust either.

[@Timmym-ff9to]

I can’t tell you how much these videos have changed my life. Being educated on a covert narcissist was a real eye opener! Once id got a fair understanding of how they operate it was like they are reading from a script .. I’ve become a better person also, introspection and understanding how my reaction is their weapon for reactive abuse . I honestly cannot thank you enough . ❤

[@NarcCon]

🙋‍♀️🙏

[@Fiona99960]

Me the same! Thank you🥰

[@llunavermella_bloodmoon]

Same here. Paula's (and Remy's) videos have been life-changing for me.

[@InvisibleWarrior279]

Having been quite close to three people in my life who I believe to be highly narcissistic (1 personal, 2 professional) my top three red flags would be 1. Gut instinct - in all 3 cases something felt very off about the person, almost instantly 2. Doing some kind of off the beaten path type of work in a way where they are able to keep themselves very isolated and insulated; alternative education, alternative health care, computer programming, etc. 3. Weird or non-existent family relationships eg. They are married but never seem to spend any time at home or with their spouse or children. Those were the three commonalities I observed. Oh - another one: always frantically on the go trying to ingratiate themselves with new people.

[@Mychannel67-wh4tc]

It doesn’t feel like a relationship, its Groundhog Day. I had a chill running through me one day just sitting on the sofa watching TV. He did tell me he was ASPD a month later. There is a blank stare & poor memory about which one you are. Narcissists do not like people who are busy & maintain other friendships. It’s a good idea not to be too available or allow them to dictate your routine. They’re thrown into a blind state of panic if you’re going out to social events. Its ok for them to be to busy & unavailable but not you.

[@angiemcguinness355]

Great video Paula. Another sign is the enmeshment with a parent. My narc ex had a strange relationship with his narc mum.

[@lishmahlishmah]

Same. Italy here, still... that relationship was strange also for Italian "mummy culture". Why didn't I see it earlier? Because I fell in that narc system when I was already traumatized by my family of origin. In other words, my malignant narc mother was (is) much worse than the other mum. Hence, I didn't see them as a strange woman and a strange son, at the beginning

[@gloryrosebud]

I do the hug test (especially as I’ve been dating). Narcissists can’t hug.

[@Gazzavelli-on-Narcissism]

It’s like hugging a refrigerator (ice cold) 🥶

[@hibbertsh]

The speed of the love bombing and intensity literally swept me off my feet. I changed, I did not know myself and had never felt like this before. I had never been in a relationship like this before. I will recognize these signs should I encounter that again.

[@moniquepeerboom2196]

trust your intuition always… wish i did! 😪

[@thepragmatist]

100% agree with you on clocking seemingly small details such as having a lot of phones. Have people earn your trust. Don't give it away for free. If it turns out to be legit, fine. But don't give people the benefit of the doubt if you're just getting to know them.

[@SerenaWilling-c9f]

I met him on a dating site , was chatting for 3 months , first date I did feel he was not for me , after the date when he phoned I said sorry your not for me ? He was very convincing said he was just nervous, gave him another chance and low and behold 5 yrs on I’ve discovered he was the devil , I should have went with my gut instinct because I knew but I didn’t know someone was natured like that x

[@audreyandrea460]

I did the same thing once. Huge mistake.

[@krissybutler1357]

I got tricked exactly same way 😔

[@SerenaWilling-c9f]

@ there all the same it’s frightening but at least we know this exists x

[@thepragmatist]

Oh wow. That example of the woman in the thrift store who brought Remy water is spot on. That's exactly how narcissists act...doing something "kind" while passive aggressively putting you down. Seemingly small situations can tell you a lot. about the person. Thanks for the video.

[@NarcCon]

🙏🌹

[@elizabethash4720]

Definitely crossing your boundary under the guise of kindness that is dishonouring your integrity. All to draw attention to herself. Clear daylight robbery of your soul. Evil.

[@teresadvorak6145]

This kind of describes my sister. My narcissister

[@deepinn3815]

Always carried more than one phone on his person & anytime he received a message, he would text back, make an excuse as to who he had texted, excuse himself from dinner table to take a call & ALWAYS placed his phones face down so I would never see who was calling or messaging. Great podcast Paula. 🙏🏻

[@paulinesterry7810]

Sometimes I think they act in ways, that they hope, that people will interpret that they have a secret important life.

[@deepinn3815]

@ yes, your right. Looking back his grandiosity was staggering.

[@trackerbacker]

Someone who sells stuff by the gram?

[@vickibazter3446]

They rape your heart, soul and finances

[@Timmym-ff9to]

@@vickibazter3446 or “Soul assassin “ .

[@naspa2790]

He robbed me of so many things in his gentle, loving, future faking way. I was being intoxicated with dopamine from his hugs and constant “I love you” (because he needed me to say it to him.) I was confused and depressed when all the promises fell by the wayside. Then he just wanted me to stay to take care of him in our older age because ”we need each other.” The truth was he needed me to take care of him. When I decided to remove him from my life he was shocked. The poison gas surrounding my atmosphere started to clear. The most precious thing he took from me was time…over 30 years of my life. Lies, deceit, future faking. That is cruel, selfish, and unforgivable. It’s been nearly 2 yrs and I am better now…because continuing on with him would be continued despair.

[@katherinesmith9130]

Talking about other people is a big one but ,don't you ever pick out something negative in a person as they will let you know how negative you are for saying anything.They will then tell you how wonderful this person is

[@howdydocowgirlcowgirl181]

I find you to be so genuine, a breath of fresh air, & your articulate voice & words soothing for me. God bless you abundantly 🕊️✨💐✝️💗✝️💐✨🕊️

[@NarcCon]

Thank you! You too!

[@wingsly]

Hi Paula This is a very good checklist.l! Your dog looks so comfy. Narcs are boring. Too bad we have to spend our lives figuring these weirdos out! ❤

[@Timmym-ff9to]

If I remember correctly you have touched on this subject but would love to hear your thoughts on the “Narcissistic grin” so many times I’ve been met with strange body language that doesn’t match what they are saying . Example, head slightly down, words said as if your telling someone you have unfortunately ran over their cat, but their is this grin that they are trying to shield with the dropped head and by talking . But most of all that gut feeling and the fakeness …

[@ShalimarPicasso]

Great video as always! I would say despite the love bombing, they will not be able to hold back on their obsessive need to devalue you very long. So the first sneaky remarks will come soon and needs to be paid attention too. E.g. you go out for a drink and order a Baileys and they say "oh, Baileys, that's rather downmarket..."...and you think "what did they just say, did I hear this right, ooh I must have misunderstood"...also, the serial marriage thing is also very true...they often are married 2 or 3 times already and always for a good reason...they will say it wasn't for love but because a baby was on the way against their wish..or they did it to avoid the military service etc and you then think "well, with me they finally marry for love...". Yeah, right.

[@shirlspark_stardust]

Hello Paula and peaceful sweet Remy always good to see you two 😊🙏🏽🤍🤍

[@Krissstiine]

Great video! You can definitely spot these signs early on but you need to be careful at the same time. I used to have really bad social anxiety which would make me very shy and also currently I’m not talking to most of my family and have cut most of my friends because my family is toxic and also I used to attract toxic friends, relationships. And I’m not a narcissist ;) nor borderline (confirmed by a professional). I was more of an avoidant type due to the toxic upbringing but also an empath in recovery 🙂 One thing that I have instantly when I meet a narcissist, it’s a very strong attraction towards them, almost as some might say on a soul mate level. These people seem to be very familiar, as you’ve met them before, I feel a very strong pull. But this might be just me because I’m being attracted to the familiar. People who don’t have toxic family might not feel that magnetic attraction.

[@barbaracobb6291]

@Krissstiine I think you get attracted to the attention you get from them. I never found my ex narc attractive but his level of attention towards me pulled me in and his confidence. It turned out he was not confident at all quite the opposite. He was a pathological liar and a serial cheater 5 years later I find out. Best wishes to you.

[@growingandlearning164]

I totally understand this,have had a similar experience My mother is a very covert religious narcissist and I attracted a lot. Managed to learn set boundaries and then trust enough again but I was almost a hermit for 2 years.

[@betsyansel688]

I got the red flag gut warning several times after meeting the last narcissist that I teetered and tried to break it off several times within the first few weeks but I was so drawn to him that I kept coming back. I should have listened. We connected first online. He romanced me with music and we had really fun conversations. Meeting him in person is when my gut clenched. I liked the guy on my computer but the man in person was a completely different person. I conflated the two.

[@freespirit9806]

I remember the x Narcissist arguing over a trivial remark I made as if it was incredibly important.

[@jeffreyzeiss1326]

I agree with all of what Paula said along with the comments given. One of the narcissists that I know fabricate stories over and over and over to make themselves look extremely accomplished which they are not.

[@darrellbutler884]

Thanks Paula & Remy. ❤ The narc's I've related with have exhibited at least several of the traits you've listed. I give thanks for the grace of God that I've come through the experience, without getting cleaned like a fish. Thanks for guidance.

[@FourWinds-Nathan]

Soothing Saturday night listening. I still watch narc content 60 hours a week paula after 18 months and 8 hoovers. I will heal eventually

[@audreyandrea460]

My biggest sign? If they casually or easily bring up anything to do with sex, violence, body parts, bodily functions, or bodily emissions/fluids. Once you’re listening for it, you’ll notice it. Their speech is unnecessarily graphic. Do not engage with people they bring up blood, especially, and then cut them off. If you listen for this, you’ll notice it. Definitely stay away from anyone who is at ease bringing up murder cases, or the names of murder victims, casually. Trust me, once you put this sign your radar you’ll be so much better off, and safer. Also, cut off anyone who asks you to repeat yourself more than twice in a single conversation when you know you have been talking clearly, audibly and on topic. I watch my ex do this to other people all the time and none of them seemed to realize that he was just trying to take the wind out of their sails in order to control the conversation, since he was incapable of having fair exchanges.

[@deirdreo4630]

So true about asking you to repeat yourself in conversations!

[@celinemer-j1t]

This reminds me that they love talking to people using wrong name, intentionally mispronouncing the person's name!!

[@hibiscus1974]

@@celinemer-j1ttrue! malignant and covert both do these

[@betsyansel688]

I tend to ask people to repeat because of hearing issues. I blew out my eardrums on loud music in my youth. Just take that into consideration. I honestly wasn't hearing what people were saying.

[@shellyann8543]

Thanks Paula. You are appreciated (& to your co-host Remy as well)

[@freespirit9806]

Boundary breaking , yes For instance you made arrangements to meet at a certain day and time and this person shows up way early at your house , uninvited.

[@ligyasouza755]

My ex pastor was on my case from day one.He devalued my studies my books my choices and my person.He never understood me or respected my boundaries.in the end he humiliated me in public saying he wouldnt accept me in the church because i didnd do a course which i did and whwn i said i did it he said then its because i dont go to a certain meeting i said from day one i couldnt make.He then went on and on in public humiliating me. I left and blocked him from social media too

[@meabeck]

They will, also, talk about people in a positive way. It is part of the love bombing, in the beginning. It could be a brag too, an enticing. Thanks, Paula.

[@kellih2725]

Great podcast, and Remy stole the show!! 👏🏻🤣💗

[@NarcCon]

🐕☺️

[@elderlypoodle9181]

I’m smiling at the Co-Producer 😁 Took a moment to pull the old paws in air adorable pose… Yes Remey it worked.

[@Doona-z4b]

I grow up with a mentally,physically,abusive narcissistic mother & sister. They both would gang up on me & destroy any relationship i had including with my own daughter. Its been 2yrs now of no contact & slowly putting myself back together. Thank you Paula for your wisdom 🙏 ❤ everything you are saying is so true. Now anyone who shows any signs of this evil soul damaging behaviour. I can not handle being anywhere near them. God bless 🙌 🙏 ✨️ ❤ beautiful souls 🌈

[@orana23]

Oooh goodie Paula.... you put this on 10 minutes ago.... grateful.... I'm on the other side of the world and I thank you for all the love and care coming across the world to help those of us who have/ are recovering because of your education. ❤

[@HeatherRay-b7z]

THANK YOU SO MUCH PAULA🙏🙏 for your education. The 1st time i stumbled on one of your reels on you tube, u spoke Direct to my spirit. I actually believe it was divine intervention, because you cleared all my painful confusion and helped me see things for what they really are. Before today i was unable to comment freely since i was sharing my email with the narc, and couldn't risk them finding out i was on to them as i looked for a way out. Even subscribing was a trick. But thank God I'm finally free of them and from them in large part thanks to you, and have started healing thanks to God. And now i am slowly trying to rebuild. Needless to say I'm in the worst circumstance / situation right now, hence my gratitude towards you coz i could have never been able to afford any sort of counselling at this point.

[@NarcCon]

🌹🥰

[@vivainvestparaguayvivainve2321]

That's a very good point even if i don't use the word narc any longer. I say thank you very often i did it all my life but now after ground zero 3 years ago i still celebrate it even more intense. The feeling of gratitude is overwelming. It comes over me like a spirutal or religous exsperience. It might be the service in a restaurant, or someone repaired my car or a date a young hot girl gave me everything and i drive her home save. There is often the need to say to her what i feel, "thank you for your time, for giving me your love and your soul, every cell of my body is filled up with happyness." It is like winning, to express what you feel, to honor your feelings and use the corny words that are needed. It has to come out, simply that. It isn't to train someone into future services. Often i don't know if i see them again. The reactions stay with me all my life. If you are lucky you get a corny reaction back. What is mystical is my energy transfers first, people seem to know what i want to say while me looking for words. That is the difference to the user 'thank you'.

[@lolachlih3136]

Oh your completely right about the gut feeling it never steers you wrong but in the beginning of mine I sure did miss them or ignored them as he love bombed me this whole time I’m so glad I’m now more educated on what a narcissist really is thank you Paula❤❤

[@helenpetersen9710]

Hi Paula, thank you for your video ❤️ I would like to share a few more from my experience: Definitely agree with the multiple marriages/partners/relationships, and to justify them, he’ll say “I was never properly appreciated in ANY of my relationships.” Pay attention to his family dynamics. Is there turmoil? Regular arguments? Have the siblings also had multiple relationships and children? Pay attention to how he treats employees (if he’s a business owner). How often does he run through them? Mine was A LOT! He had apprentices that he would discard instantly for a mistake, rather than take responsibility himself for not CHECKING the mistake as the boss. Road rage!! Out of the blue, we’d be on a drive, had a lovely weekend and suddenly he’d give someone a “gob full” out the window, putting us in a dangerous situation without thinking of the consequences. Pushing sexual boundaries. What’s his relationship history like with his kids? Mine abandoned all of his at certain stages and didn’t take responsibility for doing that. Mine didn’t even want to take responsibility for getting his second wife pregnant!!!!!!!! Enforcing constant communication, especially in the beginning. We had to FaceTime morning and night, every day without fail. Stating what he wanted me to wear, because he said other men looked at me and I made him look good. Definitely agree with the money situation, or lack of. Mine had no house, no savings, only his business that he still owed money on. He wanted me to sell my brand new home, move to his town and buy a house with him so that he could put his name on it. This is more than a red flag, it’s a neon sign. No relationship moves quicker than one with a narcissist who needs a place to live. I look back on all of these signs now and shake my head 🤦‍♀️ I saw them, I heard them, but I guess I just wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, obviously more than once. And in the beginning I didn’t know about narcissism. Thanks to God, and you, I do now 🙏❤️

[@NarcCon]

Thanks Helen great comment 🌹

[@david6544]

Hi Paula😊 How about the narcissist that starts overspending on you!! And we know there's no such thing as a free lunch. Thank you for the content, you covered a lot of bases. One thing they all have in common is that they do NOT share equally and I have been with some very rich narsistic woman and I was more generous than them. most narcissistic people will be coming to take from your life, they are not generous giving humans. Soul savers are us.

[@kirjoy991]

Love the dog in slumber land

[@caroann]

Remy is smiling! ❤

[@user-yy9be9mi6n]

Good list, Paula! Blessings to you and Remi, and all here

[@TriciaNaz1964]

I understand exactly what you are saying about people being right in your face. I can clearly feel when people are in my face either physically or psychologically and I find it sneaky and aggressive. I can sometimes talk too much without meaning to do that but this behavior is different. Just like you said, I feel targeted by some people about a certain issue that have brought up out of nowhere that is really not their business but they are acting as if it is. They aren't just passing time talking. It feels hostile right away. This behavior seems to have increased massively recently. I see it everywhere. I don't even want to go out anymore. I am so tired of people's games at this point. It is exhausting.

[@RobertRedman007]

Thank you! I shared your video on a couple play lists on my channel. I Am currently being Stalked in real life by a weary sick woman who lives about two hours from me in Minnesota. She is a very sick woman, police and attorney are involved. I am disabled and she threatens to kick me and my mobility scooter down a hill. Her threats are credible as we live about 2 hours apart.

[@NarcCon]

🌹🙏

[@everett8610]

Very good impression of the “nice” narc, and I really really mean that you can trust me, really. 😅

[@christinelamb1167]

Thank you Paula, it's always good to see you and Remy! I appreciate your podcast more than you know. I have done a lot of healing from narc abuse these past few years, but it is always good for me to have these reminders of red flag behavior to watch out for! I have to protect myself from these entities, no one else is going to protect me! They are devious creatures, and seem to come around when I least expect it. It's sad to have to be on guard all the time, but I'd rather be careful than sorry!

[@texaspatty458]

Do we really have to trust others ? I don't trust anyone, & probably never will again . What's actually wrong with being cautious ?

[@AllisonWilkins-m9x]

So great you mentioned the ice baths. I volunteer for a CIC that supports recovery after abuse. We did ice baths in the summer and it was awesome. So empowering. It made me feel like…if I can do this, I can do anything xx

[@NarcCon]

👍🥰

[@kirkhogan2688]

Spot on Paula,as usual!!!! Most of your points you mentioned of my female narcassist she did , I am abit worried though , as I have quite a few of these traits myself,😂 I am aware that I have a narcassitic mother and middle sister,and have been in relationships with other narcassists before, Look forward to part two of this podcast. 👍👍👍👍👍

[@NatasaVukovic-g8y]

One of signs is saying" I love you" after first month of daiting 🤨

[@christinelamb1167]

How about after the first date!? Yikes! 😨

[@NatasaVukovic-g8y]

@christinelamb1167 very creepy 👹

[@christinelamb1167]

@@NatasaVukovic-g8y I know, right?!

[@dianat.6426]

I see a lot of these signs also true for victims of narc abuse. That would be a great video to clarify. What I see in a lot of people and myself that there is not only one narc in our lives and they seem to mark us for other of this species. And once you trust more than on of those people and let them in your life, a lot of those signs are certainly present in getting to know us.

[@betsyansel688]

I said the same. Thank you for making me feel less crazy!

[@CarmelaCandela-yv4yz]

One major red flag ....my ex.. honestly believed he was smarter than everyone... He was delusional of course and had zero emotional intelligence...but in his head..he was a super hero of some sorts

[@growingandlearning164]

Thank you Paula, such great examples

[@sandralindstrand5636]

Thank you Paula spot on on all the traits!

[@TracyNewton-q3b]

Hi Paula. Really glad you did this again. What about certain people who just trigger us, then we have to work on ourselves? It twists my stomache when they do everything you mentioned, I feel angry actually that think they can keep don't it. I think im just going to have to be aware, keep quiet and thank god for showing me wisdom, god the evil is so so frustrating. Imagine if you don't know about this topic? 😮Thank you again, let's all keep the devil out and pray they get saved.

[@ruralnorthernlass9267]

My dog (now passed) took an instant wary and dislike to my now ex of 12yrs, in a way I'd never seen him be with anyone else ..... I look back now and wish id listened to my boy, he was trying to warn me ..... myex was too nice and now knowing g he was passive aggressive.... i noticed one night back in 2018, and watched over a 2week period, that he didnt interact with my dog anymore, didnt even acknowledge him and when he did spoke to gim in a very nasty way, he gave him the silent treatment .... when I questioned him, it was like taking to a robot on loop, just kept saying "he's fragile" and wouldn't explain what he meant ..... it was really upsetting,.... he ultimately has done a reverse discard on me but before it ended gave me the silent treatment too wouldnt talk about anythingimportantjust baselessnon important stuff, I have really seen the real him, a very low vibrational energy.....I know longterm, he's done me a favour

[@NarcCon]

🌹🐕

[@MsVivian99]

This information is so very helpful. Thankyou

[@NarcCon]

Glad it was helpful!

[@chrysanthemum8392]

Great information!

[@milliesmith8202]

thankyou for all your amazing vids - i met my narcissist 4 years ago - on a human level it has and still is a roller-coaster ride as he is a high functioning dysfunctional - we do have a strange spiritual connection but have my coping strategy - not living together and humour. most of the time it works also not showing my vulnerability as we know these people default to using as a weapon when they think they are losing ground

[@ginagina9592]

#8 .. when you cptsd and you realize your family and some friends were toxic you may also not have good relationships with past friends and family and cut them off.

[@paulacrowne179]

thank you,,...this was so helpful to me!!!

[@NarcCon]

I'm so glad!

[@everett8610]

You’ve been a better KZbinr for not saying that. Every time I hear that it breaks me out of my surfing slumber taps me on the shoulder reminding me the vlogger is speaking for $

[@JankaLeucorrhinia]

Very very good information Paula. Thank you 🙏 😊 End the example the example with the water for Remy is unbelievable, but yes, they do this with gusto. They also like to blame a third party. They won't say it's our fault or theirs, but someone else's. ( hoover phase )

[@artandculture5262]

Don’t agree about needing to be separate from a family, many save themselves by going no contact.

[@NarcissistFreealmost]

Hi Remy 🖐️ He looks so comfy 🤗

[@NarcCon]

🐕🥰

[@atirliag2833]

Hello. It's all relevant, I can see very clearly in hindsight listening to this podcast. Every single point you make was relevant in my case, I add the voice changes to this list as another layer of manipulation they use against you, if you do have assets then do not be scared to ask for the pre nup agreement. Believe me, this agreement would set them apart of their actual intention pretty quick. My current experience is the length of the marriage is the strength of their case, 24years for a property settlement, he wants recognition for paying for foxtel. Talk about weaponising anything they can against you. They cannot fake true compassion this takes time to show up in relationships, it's all relevant.

[@growingandlearning164]

They sure are petty ,mine was in the divorce, ridiculously so.

[@thomaspangburn6000]

Very interesting and genuine.

[@lordsberg]

Hi Paula! I didn't know best how to communicate, so before the day passes, I want to wish you a very Happy Thanksgiving, and I/we are always Thankful for You and Remy! God Bless! Love Always, Rev.LB and King Phattie! Shalom 🕊️😇🐩💖🦃

[@chilloften]

The sauna/ice bath outdoors sounds great. I don’t know if we have it.

[@candacewalker1854]

I think I don’t know how to process it. Because when I understand the truth, it gives me nightmares. It’s so disturbing. But when I’m living in the illusion, I’m in the nightmare of depression and thinking I’m missing out on something it’s a real pickle and I guess I’m just disturbed now.

[@fidgetswizard]

Thank you Paula & Remy!! ♥️♥️ ps-I love Remy

[@NarcCon]

🙋‍♀️🐕

[@lucyLou-dt7do]

When you ask them a question…example’s of which Paula has spoken about…your answers could be..stop coercing me or it’s none of your business or if I want your advice I will ask for it! But they are always criticising you and your choices even though sometimes you haven’t even asked them! And if you were to go back to them and say do you remember when you said XYZ they will say that’s not what I said you have got it wrong😊 Thank you.

[@Pea-y8c]

You really help with your podcasts and have such a soothing calming voice and accent. I look forward to your podcasts. God bless. Thank you.

[@NarcCon]

Thank you so much!

[@KatRoberts-mi3wy]

Bought your book Paula , looking forward to reading it 🙏🏻❤️

[@NarcCon]

🙋‍♀️🙏

[@markc8187]

This video was really good.

[@johnnyramblefinely2430]

Can't wait for Christmas........

[@TroyM777]

I have definitely felt targeted before in several situations.

[@slw908]

I noticed people who take lots of new profile photos or, in general, online photos are seeking validation or want replies on their looks.

[@angelnocharlie]

Another sign may be when they run their own buisiness. I say that as mine did. It looks good, they are responsible trustworthy however in reality mine had to as had done prison for theft, that in itself was a clue to taking what he wanted no care who it hurt. He had no choice but be self employed but more about not being bossed or told what to do by anyone. He flared up at parking tickets and police stopping him for a cracked windscreen. Also he boasted about talking people into extra work at extra cost. Just cocky real cocky for someone who didnt have a house of his own at nearly 50. Spent money on cars, clothes, and beer to charm his mates but nothing on me always trying to wrangle me to pay for hotels, imagine the narc ego boost to get your bed and dinner paid for and free sex, well lets just say this supply malfuntioned on that.

[@yourmonka]

A great video

[@NarcCon]

🙏🌹

[@valleyrose2024]

Thanks, Paula!

[@IASJH8132]

IMO: Mark Brocklebank (1973) East Sussex, UK 🇬🇧- covert narc - ladies beware

[@maryholton162]

There are many toxic types who have strong narcissistic traits or a narcissistic personality style, but who do not fit the definition of a full blown narcissist. Some may term them low level narcs. But beware, they can still make your life a misery. The signs may be subtle, so please trust your gut,

[@flowerpower4944]

I have to aggree with this,,,its in their Dna,., 🧬 i was sorry i came back to my native Land,,,💜🌸🎋

[@vickibazter3446]

Control. Cruelty

[@Timmym-ff9to]

@@vickibazter3446 being insecure can make even a non narcissistic person controlling . But a narcissist goes above and beyond with seemingly no emotions. Unless the emotions are for themselves… Ever noticed what I call the “narcissistic grin”, when trying to be empathetic?

[@orana23]

A few more "C" descriptions of "my" Covert Cunning Conniving Calculated Convincing Controlling Cutting Censoring Concealing Callous Critical Cancelling Capturing Captivating Capitalising Covetous Constraining Constructing Contemptuous Confusing Colluding Conciousless Covers up Chilling Challenging Chaperones Caustic

[@gloryrosebud]

Good points.

[@rosalindwilliams9198]

Thank you

[@conantheseptuagenarian3824]

narcissists are real. i was psychologically manipulated by one for over a decade; however, reading the comments gives the impression that a narcissist is just every woman's ex boyfriend or former husband.

[@NicholeNadotti-Morgan]

I'm in the Atlanta area and love all of your videos! I'd love to take advantage of the buddy system. Any info?

[@Rafael_1965]

Awwww puppy 🐶 🎉❤