We Don't Regret Becoming Parents at 18 | Can Ask Meh?

[@OGS.Official]

Thanks so much for watching! We're making new content over at O plus by OGS, and they shared a story on the struggles after an abortion. Watch here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/r3PbYWmGn5p7oqs

[@alvinlim7364]

should interview the parents who were the pillars of support for this 2.

[@melanivictor436]

Yes. They are very lucky to have such a very supportive parents & parents in laws 👍👍👍

[@Applecreamifyable]

yes omg they really are super super lucky to have such great parents

[@bcpjw]

Yeah man, the family meeting between their parents and them is really the best way to handle this unexpected situation! Heard sad stories where unexpected grandparents did not see this as a blessing in disguise.

[@patt5085]

And the no-so-happy families who wont be so ready to talk about their lives in front of camera. The children also not usually cute little angels.

[@TrashSmile]

I think the men in this fam did an incredible job, Mark apologized to Sarah's dad and they took time to understand each other, Mark's dad told him to go home despite what they've done and that he believes that out of a messy situation, there can still be a beautiful ending." and a beautiful ending did come, they are such a warm loving family now, where they can openly express themselves to each other and have trust and respect for each other.

[@mkmk-po3yh]

Wow they are so intelligent in the way they speak, so mature, can see they definitely learnt alot from that

[@felix121984]

Yeah but Mark's feet stink !!

[@SarahXMiracle]

Thank you so much for your kind words! We're now creating content with the family at our channel @sarahxmiracle - you can get a peek at how we're living life now!

[@teohyc]

It sounds like you guys have a good family despite the difficult times. Tough times don't last, tough people do. Good choices on your part

[@arielleleung]

oh my god teo yi chie!

[@schadenfreude6274]

good family? u cannot feel the woman is very dominant compared to her husband meh? they totally don't look happy together.

[@SarahXMiracle]

We absolutely had and still have amazing family support :) We're now creating content with the family at our channel, hope you'll check it out! :)

[@nicoleeed9522]

@@schadenfreude6274 wow u can see their whole relationship in one interview? impressive!

[@NpxrDSMNTL]

Only the tallest tree knows of the strongest winds. RibelelbebrbeA

[@bcpjw]

Surprisingly beautiful true story, about real love, motherhood, fatherhood and growing up

[@SarahXMiracle]

Thanks you Brandon! We're now creating content with the family at our channel @sarahxmiracle if you'd like to check our new videos out!

[@MrTentakul]

She talks beyond the topics itself. She shared a whole life-lesson. Instead of burying the dream, the "incident" creates a new dream to live on. Very well said. Means we should not be scared whenever we're at a junction in life. Whatever we choose, we will live on the new dream.

[@ChirpyChat]

A down-to-earth couple who are intelligent, mature and imaginative. I'm sure God is in their lives in the recreation of outcomes.

[@SarahXMiracle]

Amen, thank you so much for recognising that God's hand is indeed upon us, His grace is sufficient for us as we turn to Him :) We're now creating content with the family at our channel @sarahxmiracle, would love to have you join us there!

[@epiphadipity]

I LOVE HER HAIR COLOUR

[@aaronng9245]

their daughter must be super lucky to have such a mother and father being open relationship trust built from young to be open to parents really is a nice thing... cant relate if you have the stereotype parents

[@illnsp08]

Being parents at that age in fact makes you even more mature. There's always a happy ending and happy for them!

[@abigailwee9631]

She came to my church before!! Didn’t knew she had a kid so young ?! But she’s an amazing singer!! And they have a very beautiful family!!

[@SarahXMiracle]

Hi Abigail! Thank you so much for supporting this video a few months ago :) We're now creating content with the family at our channel @sarahxmiracle - hope to see you there too

[@Mtzmtz540]

I got married when I was 19. I have tree grown men and 8 grandchildren. I am a very young grandmother which I’m currently 66 years old. Still in love and continue watering the plants of love and mostly respect. I thank the Lord every day that we made the perfect decision to get married at such a young age. My oldest son is 45 years old, middle son 43 and youngest 41.

[@Jay-yz2qq]

last time and now different eh

[@holikltv8038]

May God bless you with joy each day!

[@beckyysaurusaustine6498]

I love that their answers are not textbook answers but solely on their experiences

[@CrazyPingPong97]

I have huge respect for both young parents and the tenacity to remain firm in their beliefs. Sarah is eloquent in speech and was clear in implying that abortion would be an unethical/immoral decision FOR HER. It would have been good to disclaim that. To anyone who has aborted/considering abortion because of circumstances without resources they had or traumatic incidents of violation (i.e rape, abuse), it is your body, and your choice.

[@danielleong646]

@valsiess Unfortunately, that does not line up with biology. From the point of conception the fetus develops a unique DNA code (different from both mother and father), you are right to say that it's her choice, but to say that it's her body is simply not accurate.

[@danielleong646]

The availability of resources should not be used as a determinant of personhood.

[@h0ney753]

@@danielleong646 she means it's HER body carrying the baby. she should be able to decide if she wants a baby in HER body.

[@deeeteee]

@@danielleong646 Wah this one is you cannot convince, so you confuse. Lol

[@chloechloe8803]

@@danielleong646 Having an abortion is killing living, human CELLS that are a part of a woman's body. Similarly, woman having an appendectomy is killing living, human cells that are a part of the woman's body. Pretty much ANY surgery results in the death of living human cells: it unambiguously ends human life. So for the same reason that an appendectomy (or any other surgery done with informed consent) is morally and legally permissible, an abortion is also morally and legally permissible. The question of "when human life begins" is simply a meaningless red herring. Females have the choice to undergo a surgical procedure AKA abortion to get rid of those unwanted human cells.

[@nikitazhang1876]

Well this couple has more maturity towards relationship and life decisions than a lot of others who are older in age.

[@farahleong]

Similar story! I also gave birth at 18 and never regretted it. I love my son so much! And so glad that my bf (now my husband) did not escape responsibility too. Our parents were there for us too.

[@huangyilan4933]

Then you are very lucky

[@lifeisgood2542]

lol. of course you wont regret it you have your parents to rely on.

[@junesalehi-little6496]

Was that your only kid or did you end up having more?

[@shirleyfromthepresent]

Thank you for being brave enough and strong enough to start a new stage even tho it was really dificult for both of you

[@cryptoleprechaun5492]

Finally, people who own their mistakes and take responsibility for their life choices like decent adults

[@chloechloe8803]

It’s evident from the interview that Sarah is pro-life. I’ve watched another video of them on another pro-life church KZbin channel “the heartbeat sg” who are obviously very much against abortion (can’t quite remember the channel name). Not against people who are pro-life, but y’all could’ve at least put a disclaimer - that Sarah is against abortion/ pro-life and these are HER beliefs and HER beliefs only. If any female out there is considering abortion, please do not let your decision be swayed by one person’s religious beliefs, because it’s YOUR body and YOUR choice, so make the decision for YOURSELF. Also, to anyone who has aborted/ considered abortion, do not be ashamed by your actions or think that abortion is bad simply because ONE person is pro-life.

[@JL..]

There's nothing wrong about being personally pro-life that anyone needs to put a disclaimer for as though it's an issue. Being pro-life does not equate to being anti-abortion, this isn't the US

[@bethelll]

​@@JL.. Exactly. Many people talk about abortions and how their pro-choice and they never have to put disclaimers. That is why free speech is a thing. Also, choosing to keep or abort a baby is a serious thing that deserves thought. You can't make a decision without evaluating all factors. Yes, you may have decided to abort but listening to the views & experiences of someone who kept the baby, doesn't hurt. Being pro-life isn't and should not be treated like it's a bad thing that could trigger people, like what happened to inclusion? Finally, Sarah choosing to keep her baby wasn't purely religious. I clearly heard her refer to it as an ethical thing. Yes, her faith played a part but it was based based on what she felt was morally right for her

[@tanyalee9210]

The media is just an outlet to express one's opinion - and in this case, the couple, sharing their story. I do not understand why there is do much debate about her sharing her values through this Q and A. Just my thoughts.

[@Ohwell267]

If your easily swayed by her opinion then deep down you knew you were already heading that way and it doesn’t matter what you or Sarah says because in the end it’s that persons choice and if she chooses to listen to Sarah or you then that’s okay you don’t need to come here like the abortion warrior and go off because of someone else’s opinion just like your it’s her opinion and you should be okay with it no disclaimer just leave if you can’t handle it be a adult.

[@SelvyBushby]

Your body ,your choice ? To do what ? Murder ?????

[@Appuneneh]

I was 18 and found out my girlfriend at that time was most likely pregnant. She was wasn't. But I still vividly remember that week. We decided that whatever it is, we will keep the baby. But deep down I was terrified. Thank you for sharing this amazing video.

[@footytube9500]

Courage, that's what these two have.

[@fi0nne]

they recently had their 3rd ( actually 4th, with respect to sarah) i love the way they think, the way they express themselves through one of the toughest moments in their lives.

[@hcblue]

Wow respect for both of them for fighting to make it work. It's awesome that they also had supportive families, despite the difficult times early on!

[@pkyy9269]

They are incredibly lucky to have the support system they had, and idk if I agree with her initial message. Maybe for her, and her struggles, it is true...but many people completely lose their path in life having children too early because they don't have the support system this couple did. It is not >just< about being strong-willed, life is not equal for all of us.

[@JohnShadowofficial]

Wow, I watch y'all on tiktok and I didn't know y'all were such young parents

[@kw9689]

Respect to this young parents that take good care of their children unlike some "matured aged" parents who does the opposite & have a broken family that's what people will despise of

[@alisongerald1858]

I love this family on TikTok and it’s really encouraging and amazing to see how their faith has moved mountains. Their story really touched me 🥺 Thank you for sharing so vulnerably with us and imparting important lessons on God’s love, grace and mercy in our lives!

[@SarahXMiracle]

Thank you Alison for journeying with us on TikTok!! :) We're now creating content with the family at our YT channel @sarahxmiracle - hope to see you there too :)

[@faithhope7239]

Mark is a nice person with warm personality and Sarah sing with her heart ❤️ God bless them both

[@epiphadipity]

awwwwww their whole family is so good looking

[@hoppinghobbit9797]

The fact that she plans to go to Oxford shows that she is intelligent and most likely studying in a top school and also comes from a decent family.

[@MegaLabman1]

the last part with their family photos 🥺🥺

[@silviasilv9519]

Having children at whatever age is about sacrificing your time, money, life and everything else. I agree with most of their value as a parents. They’re just taking their responsibility early and grow since that time. These are strong people. They dont blame the situation they are in, but embrace it as good experience and never regret it. 👍👍

[@elizabethgrace7449]

Receiving a new dream! What a beautiful message! Thankyouuu for sharing 💕

[@lukecage275]

Wife and I had a child and got married at 18 - 25 years later we have our own house, traveled, good jobs, three cats and a 25 year old that any parent could be proud of.

[@junesalehi-little6496]

Sounds like you guys learned unlike some teen parents that have more kids right away.

[@CindyValencia]

this over teen mom show anyday they actually show the reality of being teen parents and sacrificies. so well spoken

[@1ewi5]

Positive people, positive energy. Glad to have seen this.

[@areiaaphrodite]

I love this story ❤ They weren't ready but they made the best of it and it turned out beautifully and they still seem happy and like they still love each other too ❤

[@kenny6921]

very articulate, hope the family is doing well+

[@ToHisdelight]

'in that sense, it is to... receive new dreams' wow

[@tareginda]

Thank you for the series, it’s eye opening to see other walks of life.

[@margcolea2725]

Thank you for sharing the powerful testimony! Surely God is at the center of your life.

[@joyjmusic7751]

#1) they are excellent parents #2 her hair is fabulous and she’s so pretty!

[@ToHisdelight]

I think like what mark said.. it is about the decisions you make about growing up. Being mature isn't age dependent. But it is a constant choice to grow .. and that process is to choose the right decisions, learn from the mistakes, one at a time..

[@Tantemify]

as long they are happy, that is enough. doesnt matter what others think about them.

[@alfiedj]

The couple should be official counsellors for others facing similar circumstances. Their experiences were insightful. God bless.

[@karentravis2357]

Very mature and wise couple.

[@hamidahahmad574]

Beautiful lifestory... happy that all is well .. very mature in thinking even at 18 ... ‘For every hardship comes ease’ Stay healthy and happy guys !😊

[@destiny4931]

Man looks like Gurmit Singh

[@yangtzeling7468]

A better version lah

[@felix121984]

You want to smell his feet !

[@lidna82]

Great video for parents and teenage children to watch. Good to know they all made it through and hopefully this 'nice ending' goes a very long way.

[@attemptenacity8735]

This sister... Is speaking life! Amen sis! Amen... It was grace.

[@shadowflare2838]

Good to have children early, can live long enough to see great grand children

[@hawwusong74]

wow.... really impressive story.... however, i would be hard-pressed to think of this as an inspirational story.... don't get me wrong.... i am truly mindboggled by the decision of keeping the baby and i am also deeply impressed by the resolve of both parents, but i think their attitude and willingness to then step up as responsible parents are truly one-in-a-mllion. in my opinion, this had nothing to do with age.... just proves what they were made of, whatever their religious beliefs are. i think unfathomable credit goes to their parents too.... imagine the judgement and stigma they had to face from literally everybody.... especially the girl's parents.....i think i would have gotten a stroke. mommy's daddy is a beast! :D having kids is a beautiful thing, but they really set themselves up for a truly uphill battle at such a young age. it has ultimately panned out for them and all this makes a good story, but they definitely didn't have an easy journey... i had friends that got knocked up at 16, and ended up giant tragedies thereafter. nowhere close to this couple's story. i do not actually buy that both would do the exact same thing if they could start all over again, but i think these two are so mentally strong that nothing can actually faze them anymore. hell of a way to train that though.... :D so , to all the youngbloods out there: think with the head between your shoulders, not the one between your legs... but who are we kidding, right? so the tried and proven 60s grandpa method: durex, tiger balm, durex... you will definitely know if it ain't working.... :D))))

[@haidamsalleh1763]

Both of you are responsible people. ❤

[@fathimamardiah5124]

The conclusion I have in this video is parents are the one who shapes us. It's sad hearing teen parents getting disown for the baby they tried to take responsible. What is done is done, all we need to do is support them

[@etloo1971]

It's good that they both had supportive parents. I used to live in USA and found majority of teenage couples ended up in divorce.

[@joshuateoh8966]

Fun story and fact from my dad: When he was in the scouts, he had a 'parang' named after his first crush. So whenever my lil sis talked about boys and potential crushes she had, he would nearly always pull out the same joke, often saying along the lines of. ... "Okay.... time to sharpen 'Jenny'...."

[@crablrone]

though i couldn't be one but i always respect young parents and i hope when the kids grow older, you will get to fulfill your dreams. there is nothing for being ethical and responsible at such age!

[@natchinvlogs]

Discovered them on instagram and found their family bond with their 3 children so amazing and now watching this interview makes me understand how they created such a wonderful family especially with Inez. And of course thank you to their families as well who came together to build a supportive village not just for Inez, but also helping them both know that they are not facing this situation alone, despite their young age😊

[@jasontungjw]

If their daughter is a teenager that means the parents are of same age as me omg

[@phatasm24]

We need a part 2 of this interview. Or even better, a mini docu-series.

[@cchan571]

This feels like watching 18 Again real life version

[@potterhandable]

Thank you for the courage to share your journey. And I love the beautiful family pictures at the end of the interview.

[@seahawk843]

Is it me or does he bear a resemblance to Gurmit Singh?

[@KP-om9fj]

I think it's you bruh...😂

[@planetplum]

The Asian angmo vibes

[@ariffzkfly]

Hearing Mark’s lunch story reminded me of myself, I thought i was the only father that had to sacrifice spending time with friends and being the main parent that takes care of the family.

[@TamMahd]

I only have one word to say...beautiful.Stressful but beautiful.

[@libraries144]

it's really about the mentality. if you think ur gonna fail, you will fail.

[@frothyz]

lol in her tiktok she said that she met mark when she was 15 and he was 18 💀💀

[@paperluvxhearts8510]

Wow very strong and got balls parents. Respect

[@audreyang902]

Support young couple to have family at early age. As long as have very string supportive n laws n help as same time.

[@isorokuyamamoto8423]

beautiful couple with great attitude!

[@dawns.hunters4702]

Thank you for sharing your beautiful story💛living under grace is such a beautiful blessing

[@johnwig285]

It isnt a fallacy tho. There's definitely trade offs. Nothing is without its opportunity cost. U can definitely be a career woman and a mother per definition, but the time spent wont be balanced. It's like trying to say that a banker can reach home so early and got so much free time. Nothing to do with empowerment but rather reality.

[@TSRR-xy6yu]

I love this story, a story of grace and knowing the ending will be a beautiful one :)

[@DryDry69]

On one hand she says: I need to tell my parents because I need their help to look after the baby. On the other hand when abortion was suggested she was like "do we believe in the same god?" If God was really a consideration, this entire incident wouldnt even be happening. The responsibility of taking care and looking after the baby and raising the kid would eventually fall on both their parents since neither of them finished NS / A levels at that point. The guy later even goes on to thank their parents for emotional / financial / time support etc. Yet when the sensible adults gave suggestions to abort, she brings up God. So being ethical is more important than being responsible AFTER being irresponsible in the first place. Not hating or turning it religious but just pointing out from her perspective that they are really really REALLY lucky to have such accepting and supportive parents. Teenagers who encounter similar issues should absolutely not use this video as a supporting argument for keeping the baby because it absolutely differs from person to person, family to family. There are many interesting things shared from her perspective. "Would I tell a grown career woman that having a baby and having her own dreams is conflicting?" That is not a parallel to her situation at all. She was an A level student that had pre-marital sex and was previously breaking up with current husband. That's really not the same as a financially stable career woman who can actually support herself without burdening others and has way more control in her life decisions. Teenagers, once again, female empowerment is a great thing, but that is really not the right parallel to compare with. Sure, in the age of female empowerment, you can be anything, that has to come with an incredible support network around you and she was lucky enough to have that. In the spirit of being "woke" about female empowerment, check out Dave Chapelle's take: kzbin.info/www/bejne/g6DYlXtjh7Whe6c&ab_channel=NetflixIsAJoke If there's a takeaway, its the part about the element of sacrifice. Having a kid is tough, incredibly tough. Pre-marital sex is a choice, no right or wrong, but consequences are real. Not everybody will be as lucky as them, inspiring as they may be, be safe.

[@lothekitty1327]

You brought new human being into this world at 18, but you become parents later at 50.

[@rhuyisia8163]

At their age I was still so giddy goat! Admire them for having good heads on their shoulders! 👍💪🌹

[@awkwardsmile]

Supported by the values of their Christian faith ❤️❤️❤️

[@amarislam4841]

What a beautiful and inspiring story and true and loving story about childhood and parenthood Thank you for sharing with us. Love you Ines 😬😂😇🥰🤩😘😅😂🤣😉💪🙌👐🤟🙏👍🎊🎉🎈🎈🎈🎈🙏♥️💛❤️❣️🧡💙💜

[@borednow]

1:01 lol imagine their child watching this and hearing their father say "get the problem out the door" d4mn thats harsh...

[@JitSTeo]

great that they kept their baby and had a happy ending. But I hope they are not one of those Christians that pushes their beliefs onto other people and onto society at large. Whatever the case, I am happy for them that they are at peace with themselves and their decision, and in the end, that's should be all that matters to them.

[@Alohasnackbar88]

Nice way to stereotype

[@mariak4311]

I dont think so. Both parents and friends sounds open to alternative such as adopt and abort. All these happen when they around 18, it doesn't really make sense they have grow and live in an environment surrounded with such people but they have conservative thinking at that young age. I think its more like she really wants to keep the child that abortion is not an option. Thats why she surprised when people suggest her to abort because she never thought that the child is a burden.

[@awkwardsmile]

I think nowadays it's the faithless that push their beliefs on others :)

[@ribbitfyi]

What a beautiful story covered!

[@OGS.Official]

Thank you! An impactful story on the struggles post abortion on your channel as well!

[@wanganismz]

When i am born.. My mom was 31 & my dad was 37 and the half yrs old.. Majority all people’s who born the children become mama or papa all around 30s & dad 34-38s

[@shensterng]

AMAZING interview thank you for bringing this to us! OGS

[@julesiepie]

so beautiful. cried watching this ❤️

[@Itspavi98]

MY FAV TIKTOK COUPLE/FAMILY ❤️

[@kenny6921]

wah they got tiktok

[@watermelontea37]

what’s their @

[@OGS.Official]

@@watermelontea37 hi! Their tiktok handle is @sarahxmiracle ☺️

[@gilian89]

This is such a beautiful story...thank you! 😊

[@csy897]

18 is honestly a good age to have children. I remember late nights were never an issue at that age. And I feel like if I had kids that young I’d be able to grow up with them, go on adventures with them, and help take care of their kids without feeling tired while they try to make their way in the world.

[@rose_linniw]

No it's really not?? You would still be in JC or poly. You don't have a stable job, you would barely have any maturity. It will only result in more trauma for the kids because in a way they have to raise their parents as well.

[@csy897]

@@rose_linniw after jc I mean

[@csy897]

@cheryll5383 of course if your parents are rich and available to help take care then can la

[@foolforruel5589]

that was just beautiful :’)

[@afandidarmanegara609]

If you parents have money and they are willing to support you, then this story is going to end well. If not, then your hell starts.

[@nimamamayonnaise1295]

what a beautiful story of a beautiful family🤧

[@morningglory4593]

Kudos to you. I am 39 and spent my youth in wrong and abusive relationships. Now I am single and started early menopause. Having children is just a dream for me now.

[@jonathango6363]

Hey！You got my support here🙆🏻‍♂️ We cant change the fact but we do have choices to make. Choose the one make you cherish and happy

[@charlie-ot5ug]

Theres always the possibility of going to your gyneacologist to choose your baby daddy from a catalogue before time runs out. Or a one night stand.

[@SoJangHo37]

Okay but kids from abusive relationship?What will you get just think of that times?You are lucky

[@xxuenii]

Felt like Sarah kept guilt tripping Mark whenever possible lol

[@kurogax]

Damn. Same age as me and they already have a teenage daughter. Kudos for the brave decision and becoming a role model. 👍👍

[@daveang4159]

Beautiful story! Love it!

[@stellalee4008]

What a beautiful family😍

[@feistyeverly8718]

This is so beautiful 🥺

[@x3happybirdzlol686]

TIKTOK NO 1 SG FAMILY

[@Jyjfsc7]

You guys are blessed.

[@picklemymind1491]

mommy is amazingly mature

[@cinderellasachiko674]

Responsible mature and inspiring

[@marketgarden8910]

Your parents, they are such a blessing most christian parents i know wont be a slight bit charitable in such situations Catholics are worse