WE MUST TALK ABOUT NETFLIX’s LOVE IS BLIND SEASON 3 (Episodes 1-7) | KennieJD

PART 2 • LOVE IS BLIND SEASON 3...
~TIMESTAMP~
Hellos and Rambles 0:00
Intro To Love is Blind 3:19
Notable Cast 5:48
Episode 1 14:55
Episode 2 28:01
Episode 3 38:18
Episode 4 42:05
Episode 5 46:57
Episode 6 56:50
Episode 7 1:07:27
Final Thoughts 1:18:00
▻FOLLOW ME
Instagram: Kenniejd
Twitter: @Kenniejd
Tiktok: KennieJD
▻CONTACT ME
Email (For collaboration or business Inquiries ONLY)
[e-mail]
FTC: The links above are affiliate links, from which I do make a commission.

[@KennieJD]

I resent the notion that being a Capricorn is evidence of me being emotionally unavailable

[@NeidaTeresa]

And yet that is what it is

[@biancaperez1056]

As another supposedly emotionally unavailable Capricorn, I too resent this but do not completely reject this potentially causal relationship

[@antjarr]

as a cap moon, just accept it friend…

[@theoran7968]

That is Capricorns greatest strength and weakness. They are the "adults" of the earth signs, and as adults they repress their own emotional needs to take care of others.

[@julieneff9408]

@@antjarr same and agreed, experience has taught me

[@sterling9952]

I love how months later SK got exposed as a cheater so there really wasn’t a single genuine and nice guy on season 3

[@CaroLizzette]

I was cracking up at the fact he said he doesn’t agree with polygamy. No, he just cheats on his partners instead 😂

[@KittyKong14]

THE WHOLE TIME I WAS WATCHING THIS I WAS LIKE 😳😳😳😳😳😳😳

[@satanswifey_]

Now Brenan is the only one who is *somewhat * alright honestly

[@glpereira28]

​@@satanswifey_ He's a domestic abuser

[@hashtagmate]

@@CaroLizzette right like at least in polygamous relationships all parties (hopefully) consent to that but no you're just gonna blindside and cheat on people oh hell nah

[@lindsayschmidt2177]

I could NOT believe Bartise brought up the abortion argument in front of his family. He clearly knew they were going to take his side and he wanted to shame Nancy into agreeing with him and his family. It felt so manipulative

[@kurlykayla9013]

it was honestly revolting

[@krisannhyatt3414]

I couldn't fathom it either!!

[@Mostlymatte]

I was so upset at how the sister started CRYING. That was also manipulative but I’m glad Nancy stood her ground.

[@nadiaatkinson8522]

Yeah that was bogus

[@Loveofmisery]

the fact that Bartise cut off mid sentence to be like “WE’RE ARGUING ABOUT ABORTION” made me and my husband go from hating on Cole to being anti-Bartise.

[@Elsa-oc8xd]

I think the show took the expression "Love is blind" to mean that appearances don't/shouldn't matter, when the expression actually means people are blind to the behavior of the people they love i.e. blind to their faults. So some of the participants choosing to ignore the very problematic things the other participants say/do I guess proves that love IS blind?

[@PaintingOfTheMind]

This comment needs to be higher, because it is a GREAT point.

[@An19941]

+

[@Sahdirah]

+

[@ernie39]

that's an Excellent point fjfkdk

[@satansprguy4404]

In german it is even more explicit. The saying isn't "love is blind" (Liebe ist blind) but rather "love makes blind" (Liebe macht blind)

[@Elementl19]

it really saddens me the kind of bs and red flags women put up with from men...this show really showcases how society teaches women to accept so little and call it love

[@louiseevans3510]

Well said! 👏

[@shoshibramnik4292]

You see in this show the 2 woman who has self-esteem and knows thay deserves the best, and who doesn't.

[@justanotherblackqueen2017]

PREACH!!!!

[@sflo4538]

Isn't this the truth!!!

[@MJ-py7dm]

But we also see Cole being abused, what about him? The only thing I get from this show is that I'm happy I married at 26 because after 30 you don't get anymore beautiful, you just pack on more trauma.

[@Laurenjoinsyoutube]

I remember saying out loud “you don’t have to say everything you thinking” like these men constantly telling their gorgeous successful partners how unattractive they are to them was so crazy to me

[@JJuli]

Isn't it better that they say it and be honest than just think it? I'd rather know my partner literally doesn't find me attractive so I can go find someone who does

[@JhoniRae]

I agree, but at the same time, I love that they're telling them! This is the kick they need to run!

[@ima.m.1658]

Yeah there’s a fine line b/w honesty and bluntness. They are blunt and insensitive

[@moustik31]

They know, it's not a deal breaker but it should be.

[@kweenz600]

@@JJuli I’d rather my partner just leave honestly. Not tell me to my face he isn’t attracted to me but he’ll stick around anyway. That’s very weird and disrespectful behavior.

[@Ruby4233]

Out of the MANY red flags with Bartise I was most bothered by him bringing up the abortion issue with his family. He said that his sisters approval meant everything to him and it felt like he was intentionally doing that so that he could turn his family off of Nancy and have an excuse to not marry her. It felt like a set up and a way to devalue Nancy to his family. Just gross.

[@socks1w]

Yes! That’s a conversation for him and his fiancé. NOT the whole damn family.

[@beewest5704]

I think that was the producers idea. It was so out of left field. The producers are evil.

[@chae9854]

The fact that his sister just started straight up CRYING after hearing Nancy's stance bothered me so much. Like who are you to cry right now???

[@claudiadjhall]

I thought the same thing!!! Like that is something that you both need to discuss

[@Feliciatanktop]

The crying and saying how evil it is was so out of line. Nancy was being very respectful of their beliefs and it didn't seem like they respected hers

[@alsax3638]

The dude is like "I want my kid even if they have terrible birth defects" knowing full well he wouldn't be taking care of that kid at all.

[@lastquarter3992]

Exactly! Like be fr, she's not talking about conditions like autism that have their share of obstacles but individuals with it can very well go on and live happy lives. She's very clearly talking about very serious conditions, things that would put the kids in a LOT of pain every day. It's reasonable to not want your child to go through such a painful life and he's like "oH bUt mY KiD iS mY kID i wAnT mY KiD" bro...

[@thatnaijbabe]

I’m sure kennie is never going going to go soo hard for a guy every again 🤣🤣😭😭 cause SK is just making a mockery of everything she described him to be 😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@thekneesbee]

fr fr i was rewatching the vids after the s4-A recap and its like.......... literally no good men

[@GanonJr]

SK was sus to me when he started going on about how "I dont do basic" blah blah...it was giving "i just want a trophy wife"

[@CharlieTheChap]

Maybe it’s because I knew about what SK did before I watched S3 (so I might be biased), but it felt like he wasn’t being open. I felt like he was mirroring Raven and saying what he wanted her to hear for the most part 🤷‍♀️

[@fullsundotcom]

season 6 kennie: *does the same thing again for yet another time*

[@oliviahansen3983]

I feel like Bartise isn't looking for a partner he's looking for a trophy that will boost his social status. Very strange decision to go on love is BLIND

[@android19willpwn]

you really think that a narcissist going on a reality show is a strange decision?

[@ritapiatek835]

love is blurry to him

[@nailinthefashion]

It was so eerie how he was like obsessed with how perfect he and Raven looked together. It's like, I realize when I'm being that narcissistic, but do others??? What the hecc

[@Tee256]

Agreed bc he knows Raven isn't a good match. He knew in the pods. But when he saw her...he wanted her just bc she is attractive not bc they pour into each other's lives

[@sneeby6887]

On the other side of that coin, Love is Blind probably attracts TONS of people who want a conventionally attractive partner and a boost in social status, because they know from previous seasons that they only cast The Current Beauty Standard to be in the pods and everyone ends up with a buttload of instagram followers

[@abbiesorell8916]

I say this as a survivor: Matt displays signs of abusive behavior to the point where I feel like if there weren’t cameras, he would’ve gotten violent at this point. The clubbing thing especially is such an obvious excuse for him to be mad that boils down to really controlling behavior. He doesn’t want colleen in the world without his supervision both in a lack of trust way but also clearly just doesn’t want her to have other human nonromantic relationships outside of him. It kind of felt like his mom was warning her.

[@bestmermaid]

Omg yesss!! I’m so glad you said this. I totally get this vibe from him too and it freaks me out. I feel like it’s edited to use his past relationship as an excuse but his friends make it seem like he’s always been like this 😩 Every time he’s on scene I cringe.

[@tinzzz_7]

Yes. also, it's the eyes for me. each time the cameras focus on his eyes.. they are so motionless(?) there's no emotion, there's no depth.. it's just blank staring and it's terrifying.

[@KenKen-hl3gr]

yesss! at first, his anger seemed reasonable but the way he flies off the handles and throws tantrums at the smallest things is such a red flag.

[@kris6089]

yess.. i was wondering if it was just me, man… that whole scene made me so uncomfortable and i was hoping he would peace out of there so she can dodge the bullet. also the fact that he kept eating while she was falling apart, something about it is so ircky to me. he made her feel like the dirt under his shoe for some throw away comment and he was absolutely milking the feeling of superiority while he was chewing his food. I would run for the hill after two dates with him too 😬 it’s kinda scary to me that he knew to pick colleen because she absolutely seems like that person who would keep apologizing to make peace even tho she wasn’t really in the wrong to beginn with. i’d be like if some trivial comment i made to escape an uncomfortable situation made you so insecure then i guess u don’t love or trust me anyways the way u say, there’s the door, bye

[@OnlyOneNia]

Giiirl!! Have you seen the reunion?? She looks TRAUMATIZED! Like is it just me or does she look absolutely terrified of him??!

[@cartercavazos2396]

The fact that Cole only refers to Zanab as “Zay” or mispronounces her name, but gets it perfectly right when he says “I knew what I was getting into picking a girl named ZANAB” put a fire in me like no fucking other. Loved this review & I’d gladly watch another two hours of you doing this! You gained a subscriber for sure!

[@whitzala]

It hurt to hear him say her name with such vitriol, everyone deserves a partner who doesn’t wanna barf at your name like wth😭

[@sarab3417]

@@whitzala he truly said it like a curse word

[@hauwadiyajo3937]

Oh honey you’re gonna LOVE it here ❤

[@cartercavazos2396]

@@hauwadiyajo3937 I’ve been watching all day every video on this channel is a BANGER

[@hauwadiyajo3937]

The best on this app so far

[@kameryn2918]

What’s bothering me about Matt and Colleen is that she’s trying sooo hard to make it work with Matt but he’s ready to abandon their relationship every 5 minutes. She’s not my favorite but she’s so kind and loving and she deserves better. She deserves someone who doesn’t try to escape every time they have an unhappy moment.

[@gayatrinair1128]

Ol please provide p

[@Fangirlfit]

Have I ever watched a single episode of Love Is Blind? No. Will I watch every second of Kendall talking about it? Absolutely.

[@mysteriousbynature]

Same!😂

[@edenromero]

Same

[@leannewheeler5351]

Yep!

[@mewmew6158]

Every time for sure, no doubt about it!

[@fitnisinis]

Girl #facts!

[@kglistless]

NEVER get involved with a man who's been cheated on, who hasn't already done work to process and heal from it. You will have nothing but his insecurity and accusations. No matter how much effort you put in to showing loyalty, it will never be good enough. Just don't do it.

[@elleofhearts8471]

And by extension, any sort of significant trauma, really. Everyone has trauma of some sort, and to different degrees, but the point is that we should all be trying to overcome them to the most reasonable extent possible with the resources we presently have. Unresolved trauma in general will ruin relationships and they all present themselves in different ways. Just like the example you gave with cheating. Also, i wish more people understood and accepted that trauma doesn't need to be resolved while in a romantic relationship. its perfectly fine to work on your trauma while not in a relationship. Its ok to be single simply *so that* you can get ahold of your trauma and heal from it. its even easier to do when there isnt another person in your life distracting you. but I guess lots of people dont want to be alone while dealing with their traumas while not realizing that being alone would be best for most people.

[@bunnywavyxx9524]

Period

[@nuclearseahorse]

@Poem2myself he's Nate from the Attempt Men

[@jadoisready]

And in my experience and what I've seen with friends, they end up being a cheater too!

[@jakemarie828]

I think this applies to any gendered potential partner

[@CookieMonsterYumYum]

are we gonna talk about the reunion where Colleen looks terrified for her life? because my ass was like "Girl... blink if you need help"

[@britneyarne4180]

Yessss!!!!

[@alainamoseley1560]

i thought i was the only person who noticed this!! omg

[@kannakhay3174]

It was the camera man who kept taping when Andrew put the the fake tears in is eyes, I fell to the floor🤣 and me and my lover watch it over and over!

[@im_an_oyster]

I have been scouring the comments for someone to talk about this 😂 I was only half watching and I had to rewind to watch it again. Him asking if it's ok he's doing this and the cameraman saying "yeah if your eyes are dry go ahead" was just comedy GOLD

[@BitsyGem]

OMG! My long distance gf & I watch together and we went bonkers when Andrew started with the drops. I was like "who in editing did you piss off? cause the crew did you DIRTY!" 😂🤣

[@BruhWhyDidTheyChangeThis]

Ew… “my lover” 🤢

[@wlammy3171]

It was so misogynistic to me how Matt did not believe anything Colleen told him, but when Cole said the exact same thing, he calmed down instantly??!! Also yes pls do a part 2😍😍

[@markiab5817]

Matt has all the red flags for DV. Like he was giving that in the pods.

[@wlammy3171]

@@markiab5817 agreed 100%

[@Elle_Riley]

THISSSSS. I GOT SO MAD WATCHING THAT IN THE EPISODE holy shit (I mean on top of the rest of matt's BS. like i emotionally shut down when we saw his blow up on vacay. i would've been out on that relationship in MILLISECONDS, emotionally if not possible physically right then)

[@Beeboo22]

YESS a lot of people missed that, but I hate how her piece was not enough for him.

[@GallyAngel]

Yes! I was also very irritated by this, but I couldnt put my finger on why

[@kitten101l]

I can tell zenab hasn’t gotten over her insecurities and this relationship with cole is making it worst 😢

[@GGG-eu2lo]

I feel she really jumped into the deep end getting together with Cole lol. If it had been with anyone else maybe she wouldn't be so intense, but who knows.

[@saloosh777]

Honestly, if I was Zanab and I saw Cole’s apartment for the first time, I’d break it off right then and there. This dude is a manchild. He’s not attracted to her. He can’t take care of his own damn apartment. He is an absolute FUCK NO.

[@ayannabranchcomb7535]

I just got to the part where Kennie shows his apartment, and I’m flabbergasted that she could be pressed over a man that lives like that. I woulda been so turned off. He has the GALL to say he’s not attracted to her, he needs to be attracted to a brush and some bleach

[@salamander8301]

He's doing it on purpose, he's got predator vibes. He was more into her because she showed vulnerability in the pods and Colleen didn't. He keeps cutting her down and making her feel shit about herself. It's a tactic of manipulative people.

[@13realmusic]

And he 100% said her name like a slur, on everything he would be so dead. I also have an "ethnic" name and you just know when people are saying it in an out a pocket way, fuck that

[@riruru4119]

The Japanese version of love is blind is actually so wholesome😳 So after watching the Japanese version my heart so warm...and then... I watched the USA version and oh Boy! The difference is day and night

[@htm5814]

Also much more realistic, they seemed more willing to propose since there were a lot of couples but also they split when it was clear they weren’t gonna work out, they didn’t drag it out as much imo.

[@riruru4119]

@@htm5814 I know right! It was so refreshing to see something so genuine because I'm too used to overdramatic trashy tv shows...

[@tiara6576]

If I remember correctly one of my otps for Love is blind Japan are still married and it’s documented now 😭

[@Amber-tk8hd]

I added the Japanese version to my watch list! I can not wait😊

[@JohnsonKayla12]

I’m gonna check it out. USA is all about drama since that gets the most viewership and $$ so it’ll be nice to see something more refreshing

[@larajacob3066]

“she was exercising through your trauma” had me rolling

[@Feadzy]

So disgusting how Matt was able to be calm and understanding when talking to Cole, but blows up at his fiance. Like he has so much more respect for the man who flirted with your girl?

[@lolomcspanky]

That's abuser 101, the person "can't" control their anger alone with their partner (you make me so mad I can't help it!) but magically they're able to control it when the cops arrive, or anyone else is present. If they actually covered abuse dynamics whenever they come up on the show, this would be the most amazing show and so good for humanity. Every season there's at least one person with many MAJOR red flags.

[@surfsup4019]

He gives me the vibes from that Gabby Petito police cam footage.

[@nailinthefashion]

Multiple people noticing this really takes me to another level of hivemindery and it's so intoxicating

[@megz7125]

He has major trust issues and is very easily upset because of his past. He needs to work through that instead of putting that on his new partners

[@ameliaetienne8521]

Goes to show that he doesn’t regard Colleen as a human, more of as a dysfunctional object that he didn’t receive warranty on

[@alissatorres666]

Girl, I really felt it when you said: “I don’t understand white people’s beauty standards.” The cast is really attractive but Zanab stands out to me. I find her so beautiful and when Cole brought up not finding her attractive, I just kept yelling: “HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE!?”. Also, I find it so weird that he lost interest after having sex with her…he did find her attractive enough to have sex but then PUFF, that went away? It baffles me! I get that people have different types but damn…this is just weird to me.

[@whyaminotoriginal]

Too me she's gorgeous too. Colleen was pretty but plain

[@mwoods4608]

Bar did the same thing. like how are you so attracted to someone but had sex with them several times!

[@alissatorres666]

@@whyaminotoriginal exactly! I’ve seen a lot of Colleens in my lifetime

[@snickeringpigeon4370]

I personally find Colleen more attractive than Zanab, even though they are both beautiful. Beauty is pretty subjective, there's really nothing to understand about it. She just isn't his type. That doesn't excuse Cole's behavior though, of course. And idk why he would even agree to rating them on a scale (I find it weird in general when people do that). Like dude, that can only end in heartbreak. I feel bad for Zanab. She deserves better.

[@ArielLVT]

Trust me it's weird to a lot of white people too. I genuinely don't see how Colleen is so much more beautiful than Zanab. To me they're in the same league. They're almost the same body type and both have beautiful faces. I don't get it.

[@franzih_km2650]

Another camera man/editing gem was when Bartise was drooling over raven and about how they are so compatible because of their fitness and nutrition thing and then all you see is Nancy eating her burger at the worst angles and moments - so uncalled for

[@radishsayshi]

Matt asking COLE if he thought he should marry Colleen, made me angrier than anything else on this show. Cole. COLE! Matt cares more about the opinion of the dude *hitting on* his fiance, than his actual fiance. Wtf? Also, girl, you better make another video!

[@epo2022]

I think Matt was trying to figure out where Coles mind was at!

[@BitsyGem]

That got to me too! Like... You have to ask HIM, ANOTHER MAN and trust HIS version of what happened, which btw is EXACTLY what your FIANCEE told you... Blew my effing mind.

[@csimmzy]

THIS! he wouldn't believe his fiancé. He would rather believe any other random man - including the one he's suspicious of - than a woman.

[@Nellie_95]

The evolution of watching Kennie go from makeup reviewer to had movies to messy Netflix drama and mukbang

[@diamoniqueallen2231]

You’re forgetting story time and the Korea content

[@lady8jane]

She's just so funny and relatable whatever she does. I'm here for all of it! :)

[@nmachiciaran605]

I came here because of Jackie Aina eyeshadow palette and I haven't left ever since

[@strudelh]

@@diamoniqueallen2231 That's when I first found her lol her dorito club guy storytime 😭

[@XavierVB]

@@diamoniqueallen2231 Honestly, I wish she would go into the Korean content more (not storylines, just more about South Korea and the language in general)

[@mrspreminger]

“I’m don’t think I’m emotionally unavailable. I think I’m unimpressed.” ME LMAO

[@gabiluch87]

Same

[@effieclare]

I love this lollllll

[@deej6795]

Same! Essentially nothing is giving me motivation to be in a relationship with a man right now

[@NurseRapunzel]

Wow my new motto

[@ayannabranchcomb7535]

@@deej6795 Deadass!!! And its so sad because I’m a romantic who wants children but lawd, the men out here make me 🤢

[@mariah_kristina5520]

I need “I’m not emotionally unavailable, I’m unimpressed” merch 😂

[@alyndavis]

Kendall: “I need the evidence. You can’t just go off vibes. Also Kennie JD: “so definitely worse case scenario serial killer vibes. Best case is embezzler. I have no evidence. I’m getting more in touch with my emotions” Lmao I love you, girl.

[@jadyn9982]

One thing, as a girly from Africa, seeing SK be so eloquent while the Americans rarely finished their sentences gave me some sort of sick satisfaction I can't truly explain

[@__L__837]

The way I cackled

[@seraphina2293]

this it

[@seraphina2293]

@@__L__837 I read the comments and my laugh sounded like that of a cartoon villain or a witch.

[@fralanasko2900]

SK is the clear winner

[@michaelio6548]

I think it’s probably catharsis tbh

[@DosesOfZia]

Biggest issues of the show and experiment is that no one under 30 should be rushing engagement/marriage, more than half the cast is either immature or need therapy, and the cast is chosen for entertainment only. They don’t care if these people actually find real love and companionship.

[@mandisandlovu8914]

Minimum age should be at least 28

[@strudelh]

Heavy on the therapy part lol

[@EveofPyrite]

We humans can marry young it’s just that our society is creating selfish and mentally Ill people because we put money over everything. People should not spend their 20s getting traumatized then all of a sudden in their 30s when they are tired they want to settle down and have a few kids

[@leannewheeler5351]

@@mandisandlovu8914 agreed

[@sophiaarias9341]

@@mandisandlovu8914 most of the cast is over 28 already. only 2 people are 27 and one is 26

[@Nonya_Busyness]

When you said, “ain’t no chance she’s gonna be loved for who she is…” I felt that. As a fat woman the anxiety is real about even women skinnier than me ever being able to be loved, even though I am currently in a loving relationship… I find myself having to battle thoughts that I don’t “deserve” it because I’m fat.

[@Tollkirschenkind]

I feel that. For the longest time I thought I had to pick whoever was interested in me because maybe no one will be really interested in me again. I got over it and am now in a long-term, loving relationship, but if for any reason I'd find myself single again I'm pretty sure it would come up again.

[@lavish_1717]

Do you feel that way because your partner is skinny ?

[@TheLily97232]

Giiiirl, me too.... not beautiful and sexy enough to be loved I guess😊

[@Tollkirschenkind]

@@TheLily97232 oh no girl! You are deserving of love, no matter how beautiful or sexy you are. Love isn't about that. You'll find your person, I'm sure!

[@x3kittiekat]

i got the same feeling about cole being racist, because he kept saying hes not attracted to zanab and shes different than his usual type? like wtf literally she and colleen are equally gorgeous imo, i dont understand, the only thing that immediately came to my mind is he must mean hes only dated white woman and apparently zanab is just too different for him. 🤦 that especially became apparent how he was talking about her name condescendingly

[@IamInMISERY]

Dudeee! You took the words right out of my mouth. When he first had trouble finding Zanab attractive and was more attracted to colleen I immediately said “ okay, so he doesn’t find women of color attractive”.

[@three7446]

He should have figured it out by her name that she’s not white

[@gusmonster59]

I disagree. He is not attracted to dark women and that doesn't not necessarily make him racist. It means he is attracted to blondes. We all have things we find attractive. I don't care for blonde men, so does that mean I am a racist? No. It means I prefer dark haired men.

[@miketyson5239]

@@gusmonster59........

[@cheri31]

@@gusmonster59 ...being ethnic and having blonde hair is completely different dude. you can't compare it because at the end of the day, I can dye my hair blonde. I can't make myself white.

[@drmsd14]

Andrew is cosplaying as an interesting person and gives off strong overcompensation vibes. It's as if he's studied what "cool people do" and made that his personality.

[@pechaa]

Yes, I am just realizing I once turned down a date with a guy who he reminds me of. My friend had been really sweet, but I wasn’t ready for sweet at the time. Later I regretted my decision on the assumption that maybe I should have formed more relationships with “nice” guys when I was younger. Now looking at Andrew, however, my regret evaporates. I once thought there was something endearing about my friend’s obvious vulnerability in his transparent quest to manufacture coolness. I now realize it was a red flag. He wouldn’t have been any more ready for a mature relationship than I was at the time.

[@yokokofuji9429]

American Psycho energy

[@shanawill3]

Did anyone catch the d!ck print when he walks out after getting rejected and is it as fake as his tears

[@goldenglowable]

@@pechaa This 💯

[@naomiedwards]

Like a wannabe Dos Equis guy

[@zzzmariana]

I've read a comment saying Cole is that guy who peaked in High School but still thinks he's the shit. I think it fits him perfectly.

[@Affranchie]

Especially when he made that comment about "dating in high school was easy".

[@elleofhearts8471]

^ wow so he basically said dating was easier in high school...you know,, when no one had any expectations, or cleary defined standards, no one knew how to communicate properly, or know how to treat each other properly, everyone was insecure, no one knew their true worth, no one knew how to handle their trauma in a healthy way, everyone was vulnerable to manipulation, everyone was petty, no one knew how valuable their time was, and everyone had a higher tolerance for bullshit. Cole is saying it was easier to date under those conditions. Cole is basically saying its easier to date when no one required him to stand and deliver and clearly has no interest in such. Cole is not serious. he refuses to grow tf up and those are the type of people I cant stand the most.

[@LooksByNaheemah]

Zainab and Colleen are both pretty, but the fact that an average Joe like Cole has the audacity to attempt to make a drop dead gorgeous woman like Zainab feel insecure

[@Incognition37]

???

[@DieAlteistwiederda]

I couldn't agree more. How dare a normal looking dude like him talks to her like this? She is fucking gorgeous and looks so much better than him. He never even pronounced her name right.

[@rai2423]

She was already too insecure for this show. He never said she was unattractive, what he did do tho was tell her that she isn’t his usual type in a very bad way. He always complemented her BUT she always put him down and twisted every word that came out his mouth.

[@XavierVB]

@@rai2423 So… he called her unattractive? He was literally acting like he was not attracted to her the whole show. Cole is literally no better than her, so there’s no trying to defend him

[@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow]

Yuuuuup

[@secretlyadragon4723]

The fact that Cole is struggling to find Zenib attractive when he at bare minimum is a 5/10 and she a whole 10 is WILD! The standards for men and women just be ... WOW! You got a man like that making you feel like crap over your looks. I'll stay tuned JUST to see her tell his ass no in the end. Like, damn, girl I know you 30, flirty and probably tired of being single but Cole is not it. Nope.

[@heehaaww]

No but I literally see this in all celebrity couples where the guys look pretty average and kinda oof but the women are drop dead stunning

[@happykitten1160]

He's a 5 based on looks alone. His apartment makes him a 3 and his attitude makes him completely undatable.

[@JutaStokes]

Right? Cole is, at best, attractive like someone else's hyperactive toddler is attractive. You know, cute for five minutes and then make his parents take him home for a nap. Zanab is a freaking sculpture on a pedestal. Paint her gold and put her on display in a gallery, the girl is ART!

[@yennefer440]

Zanab is hot but I have a feeling he doesn't find her attractive because of her race. I'm of a similar background. I think it's quite telling especially after they had sex, he was probably expected what he's used to. I've literally had some guys ask me why is it dark down there, one guy thought something was wrong with me. Sucks ass but it's why I don't date white men.

[@happykitten1160]

@@yennefer440 Sorry that happened to you. Some people are just awful.

[@laurencegreene3628]

Cole is like that person who comes up to you while you're working retail and when you say "Hi, how are you?" he explains his entire divorce

[@jclyntoledo]

omgosh noooo 😂😭

[@beautyandtheoffbeats]

Cole is the type to come next to you at a bar and goes on about their breakup until you make an excuse to go the bathroom and never return.

[@catherineroberts845]

You forgot the mention the fact that bartise rejection of Raven was prefaced by him littering her pod with single dollar bills in a reference to the fact that when she was uncomfortable with telling him she was a bottle girl he thought she was gong to say she was a stripper. He tried to humiliate her as he was rejecting her, making him even more of a douchbag.

[@vanessagarcia8059]

Wait what?! He did that? I completely missed that! (Some parts of the show were really slow so I wouldn’t pay very close attention sometimes)

[@b3rdlala]

@@vanessagarcia8059 I picked up on it right away. I knew he was 🗑️ from the way he seemed to tailor his interests to whichever girl he was speaking to

[@me6796]

Ohyeh!! I remember thinking why is all that money on the floor

[@ericafelix1059]

Omg yessssss I was like wtf is this guy on

[@lavish_1717]

I found that disgusting about him

[@gusmonster59]

As an older woman who watched this, I spotted so many things that showed these people needed to walk away from their 'partner'. I pegged Cole the moment he opened his trap as being shallow and far too immature to even consider marriage. Matt IS going turn abusive at some point. He is already verbally abusive. He showed it in the way he treated Colleen in that first big fight after the pool party. He was screaming IN HER FACE and gaslighting her. Bartise is still far too immature to understand how relationships work. Rather than talk to his chosen partner, he ignores her. Really? And this whole 'I can't over how her ex is part of her business.' Grow up. Not everyone hates their ex. And Raven is far too self centered to share a life with anyone. She is completely unwilling to compromise in any way, shape or form that will impact HER lifestyle.

[@lez2884]

@gusmonster59 I am in my early 40s at least the three women you should have mentioned should have ended the relationship in episode 5. I was screaming at Zay, run. I knew with past traumas she would not be able to deal with Cole's insensitivity, it actually was disrespectful to me. Colleen because Matt was too comfortable on camera being hostile towards you, just imagine now that you are married. Bartise wants a trophy wife and has told you that you are not it. He is ridiculous. Cole told her on several occasions he wants another type. Old saying my mom told me. Don't ever let a man tell you more than once he don't want you. Cole and Bartise were telling them over and over again.

[@ossswin]

Why is nobody talking about Andrew telling the guys about how during a trip to Africa he didn't have hot water and couldn't shower for three days and when he got a chance to he had to shower with a bucket and talking about it as if it was an incredibly wild and brave thing to do??? Like, WHAT ARE YOU EVEN TALKING ABOUT???

[@screamshout]

Commenting again to just say Matt believed and was grounded by the man who was flirting with his fiance, more than the woman who brought it to his attention and tried to explain the situation to him.

[@salamander8301]

Yep he don't respect women and is controlling

[@babyface3396]

omg, fucking matt! I felt for him at first. To go from a relationship where you were cheated on and betrayed in such a major way, and then feel like this new person you're with is taking you down the same road, it must have sucked! But I stopped feeling for him the second he ramped it up. It's like, dude. First of all shut your mouth and LISTEN to what she is actually saying. Bc even by the night where Cole explained to him how the convo went down he was still holding onto a very skewed idea of what had happened. But some of those arguments with colleen, and when she didn't go home that night, he went totally over-the-top ballistic. Like, he legit was scaring me. That's some scary-dude shit right there. If this is how you react when you feel triggered and don't feel like you can trust your partner, then you are 100% not ready for marriage.

[@blueismylove3128]

I'm very glad somebody else noticed that. At first I felt sorry for him, well not sorry but sympathetic. But after he seemed to be okay with the whole situation after talking to the man that was flirting with his fiance, instead of the woman who tried to bring it up with him or his actual fiance, it really just showed his true colors and I was truly disgusted by him.

[@shitstainbarbie7795]

Yup, it was so fucked up. Men always have each others backs somehow, and don't listen to women.

[@jakemarie828]

I agree with yall. And also Kennie. He needs therapy for sure. He was triggered, and Colleen won't be able to talk him down because she's not the one he's really mad at. SUPER sexist to trust Cole's word blindly. The bro-code energy made me queasy. Especially when Cole's advice was essentially "You're good man, I'm high-key jealous of you're relationship." Which translates to "how dare you be sad when you have the woman I want." He literally admitted his jealousy, and Matt was just like "what you said was totally fine, thanks man 🌝." 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♀️

[@Bloodcrafted]

It’s so frustrating that people who make looks a priority keep going on this show. If looks will make or break the relationship then don’t come on this show and waste our time!!!!

[@elleofhearts8471]

this part! like if harmony can't make up for lack of physical attraction, and/or both persons aren't asexual, then they have no business being on this show in the first place. And theres no shame in admitting that to yourself. Most people on this season (moreso the men) are all here as if they have something to prove.

[@justineste-marie6998]

Also the fact that everyone who’s chosen to go on the show is attractive but some are still not satisfied makes me confused lmao i know everyone has a type or wtv but still

[@Bloodcrafted]

@@justineste-marie6998 omg this! Everyone is objectively attractive and they still throw a fit. It’s wild. I know people have preferences but if you have specific preferences and it’s going to ruin it for you if you don’t get your preference then this show is NOT for you.

[@elleofhearts8471]

@@justineste-marie6998 well there you have it. You can find someone attractive while not having chemistry with them. I have a working theory that some men prefer average looking partners because they're less threatened by them. Having a partner with distinctive features brings out their own insecurities. Since its likely that they know they're attractive, they might be less likely to put up with mistreatment. And the guy doesnt want to put in much effort for someone he doesnt think is deserving of it. Why men stay in long term relationships with people they dont think is deserving of 100% of themselves is beyond me. Men think unconventionally attractive people will put up with more because they think they have less options. Less options theoretically means you're less willing to end the relationship and more willing to put up with mistreatment. And that's what those men want. Someone who will put up with their bullshit. That usually translates to someone who either cant or feel they have less reason to end the relationship.

[@jakemarie828]

@@elleofhearts8471 you are describing my first relationship perfectly. That's why those that say "ugly people have an easier time finding true love" have no idea what they're talking about.

[@lou6018]

Colleen in the first episode complaining about how men only care that she's a ballet dancer and don't see her beyond that but then that being one of the first things she mentions in every conversation when meeting the guys 💀

[@rachel438]

that was clearly editors doing her dirty though. of course what you do for a living is gonna be one of the first things that comes up in conversation, and she talked to a lot of people so it came up a lot of times. then they compiled all those time together to make her look silly.

[@anjab-1769]

I feel like she's just so often been reduced to it, that she also started to believe that's the most interesting thing about her. So really not her fault. I feel like in the past she tried to show she's more but guys just were never willing to see what she wanted them to see so she just adopted that view. Which is actually tragic.

[@gusmonster59]

Collen dances ballet, but is not professional dancer. She does not have the build. This is shown later when her jobs are brought up and none of them are dance jobs. She takes dance CLASSES. The way she says all through the show implies that she is a professional ballet dancer - meaning that her livelihood. She fudges this to get men interested, than complains when they are.

[@ohmyprettygirl]

To me it was the fact she said that, but then the main reason she couldnt do things with Cole was because she didn’t want to get “too deep” and she prefers keeping things surface level. Then had the NERVE to get insecure and upset when she THOUGHT he called her shallow (which he didnt), and all of this is on top of the fact that the point of everything is to get married and it’s generally not smart to get married without going deep at least where it matters.

[@kirrarosematthews3645]

@@gusmonster59 yikes, first of all Colleen IS a professional dancer, she dances with a professional ballet company in Texas WHILE juggling two other jobs. Second, what exactly in your expert opinion is the "right build" for being a ballet dancer? Because I'm dying to know. I agree that the editing did her dirty with making her look like the only interesting thing about her was that she's a ballet dancer. She clearly says in an interview that it's been a problem for her in other relationships because men are interested at first just because being with a ballet dancer is almost exotic or mysterious, but then don't care to actually get to know HER. A lot of people on the show spoke about their struggles with being vulnerable and how the experience helped them be more comfortable opening up. So the show perpetuating the false idea of the aloof, shallow ballerina is rather frustrating. This is why Colleen says at the reunion "I am not just a ballerina and I am not shallow."

[@malshiluv2352]

I FEEL THE SAME WAY ABOUT HAVING A SOFT SPOT FOR COLLEEN !!! she just seems so like, genuinely disturbed by situations with Matt like she had never seen anything like that before. i feel like he scares her and i’m worried she feels trapped by the marriage :(

[@Peanut_taco_muffin]

Don’t feel sorry for her yet. She treats Matt like a dumb little boy that fawns all over her and she calls the shots in that relationship.

[@veronicachandler1314]

Cole and Zanab's tension boils down to "I want a five two Christian blonde/brunette girl." It's no surprise Cole started doing the "I just don't know if we connect on a physical level" like an episode later. Bartiste is playing the exact same game, though I don't know how his five head is throwing stones.

[@rand1735]

got a fucking dangly cross earring and a flattop, like somebody help my sister nancy bc fucking WHY

[@robinjanai]

@@rand1735 and a horribly shaped flat top at that😂

[@theshunnedBandersnatch]

Yep!! I was listening getting ready and when Kennie said she didn't know why Cole didn't like Zanab and preferred Colleen, I was like "she must be blonde." I grew up around those guys and quickly figured out that they were not in my dating pool lmao.

[@NO-um6hc]

@@rand1735 thank u, my ovaries dried up when I saw that fucking earring

[@bluefish3411]

i’m not sure that’s the case considering he said he was attracted to raven as well i think he might just like more curvy girls ngl

[@krabiat]

andrew gives serial killer vibes because he is straight up cosplaying nbcs hannibal and most of his monologues could end with "tell me will,"

[@benjirivoh]

RIGHT THERE.

[@gigiarmany4332]

to me he looks & sounds like a AI , from one of the syfy movies, who's speach & emotional patterns have not yet synchronised..very off putting

[@voidbreather7405]

And he's definitely someone that Hannibal would look down on/hunt for his pantry (reminds me a bit of Chilton).

[@kendra555]

kennie’s take on sk is SOOOO funny in hindsight 😂😂😂

[@ErikaLaShay]

i was waiting for you to mention Bartise approaching Andrew when all of the “unmatched” came in and got all cocky basically telling him to tell us all what happened when you proposed to my fiancé (who i don’t find attractive, but i’m now using her as a trophy to dangle in front of you to make myself feel better) and she turned you down for me. 💪🏽🤡

[@AndSoWeLaughed]

SK is too nice. He did not argue at all about that rent situation even though it was incredibly unfair. He really said “I will do whatever I can to help my woman. If she can feel comfortable for a while, I’ll do it”. Like girl, you paid for it all yourself, and you’re STILL living by yourself so what’s the issue, keep paying it. If that’s what they’re gonna do then they should also put money towards his accommodation in California. And what REALLY grates me about it, is that her friends said “Raven is the type of person who won’t be there when you get home, you better be okay with that (for her career)” but they ROASTED him for going away (a decision he made before the show and cannot pass up an opportunity as it’s a FULL RIDE) and not being there DESPITE saying he’ll pay half the rent. Absolutely foolishness. Raven explaining she grew up with a white family, does put certain things into perspective but her going ON and ON about SK being Nigerian and the culture difference. Ugh.

[@2005noel]

I wanted so badly to like her because I LOVE how she cleared Bartisse and his foolishness, but her expectation that he pay half her rent is ridiculous. She seems very self-centered and immature. SK needs someone more sophisticated and truly intellectual.

[@evette2946]

Yeah, he better not pay her rent. Yes!!! Her friends were rude, and if those were my friends I would’ve corrected/butted in. They acted like Raven didn’t make the decision to Choose him- despite knowing he was in fact going to school. “You’re robbing my friend of a fairytale” like? And yes they were also stuck on the Nigerian aspect- he made it VERY clear he will have a balance, and do some things differently.

[@kamigriff]

It confused me because she’s acting confused about Nigerians, but two of her best friends growing up are Nigerian. Confusion. 😮

[@kilimanjaro5537]

@@kamigriff girl, where did you get them being Nigerian from 😭? They are black Americans. They even alluded to that in the conversation.

[@thechieffect]

@@kilimanjaro5537 she said it in the pods at the very beginning, not the ladies we see.

[@Tam974eva]

In my opinion, the comment about SK being amazing didnt age well because he very much blindsided Raven at the alter and gave no inkling of the fact that he would reject the marriage. He is a big yes man and never really mentioned concerns he had with her, giving her fake reassurance all the way. I really have my trust issues with him giving he chose to attend a marriage dating show just prior to 2 yrs in grad school. Poor decision making and leadership.

[@DaniielaVergara]

SAME! I hate that no one’s taking about this.

[@PaintingOfTheMind]

@@DaniielaVergara I think it's because he didn't really "blindside" her. There were conversations we didn't get to see, Raven is in love and that makes you ignore things that won't work. They both knew they shouldn't do it, it's just that SK came to that realization when we watched her hopeful face. He couldn't do it to the woman he loves. It literally wasn't the right time for them and timing can make or break a marriage. It was poor planning on his part but at the same time did he expect to meet Raven? Did he expect any girl he was talking to to be "the one"? Was he hopeful that this would work? Yeah, that's what all the reassuring from him was. SK loves that woman, this wasn't premeditated for him. But it is clearly evidenced by the fact that they are dating right now that the man just realized it wasn't the right time for him to try with the woman who is his one. I think a lot of people just want to be emotionally upset by this because of it. I get it. You get attached to a person and they can disappoint you if they act outside of what you perceive as their personality or moral compass. I think SK getting married to Raven when neither of them were ready, would have made him the bad guy. The actual villain. Dude was much stronger to realize they wouldn't be happy if they did it right then and risk losing her than he would have been to just do it anyway and be miserable while making her the same way. SK knew that breaking her heart for a little bit right now to pave the way for the foundation of something far stronger was the right move. It actually shows that he is also a great husband for someone who isn't Nigerian because he is willing to go against the grains of tradition and pressure put on him socially by his closest friends and family regarding who he is with.

[@Tam974eva]

@@PaintingOfTheMind U make a great point! They weren't ready for marriage. I still have some questions though. Did he know he would be attending grad school prior to applying to the show? Were his concerns communicated to her prior to the wedding day or are we saying this all based off of bad editing? Did he actually expect her to move out to Cali with him while he was still a STUDENT? Did he expect to be with a woman who made all these sacrifices? Or did he change his idea of what kind of woman he wanted upon dating Raven? These are all important questions I wouldve asked bc they are foundational to their potential of marriage. I'll give some grace bc we are only given an edited glimpse of their relationship in LIB.

[@PaintingOfTheMind]

@@Tam974eva He probably knew he was going to move. But I feel like with the way he said "Raven didn't even entertain the idea of moving with me" he had this whole romantic notion that her love was so strong she would uproot her entire life at that point. I feel like he might have thought during the time they spent together that it was a possibility and he was hopeful. That was a little unfair of him- but at the same time I don't think that makes him horrible. I feel like it just makes him a romantic at heart. Which I totally got from "I love you Raven and I want to be loved by you, the Raven way." He's okay with slow IMO, he probably prefers it, but a full on marriage can't work like that right out of the gate. I feel like they both made the correct choices, SK was just a little more grounded with it when it came to something that big, in spite of his romantic heart. I'm going to wish them happiness, because as far as I'm concerned they kinda are perfect for one another. I'm also a romantic at heart though. The only thing I was confused about was him talking about her family not being there on the day of. I didn't think that should have been important, but that is dictated by my own personal experiences with my family, that is horrible.

[@Tam974eva]

@@PaintingOfTheMind Update: SK cheated on Raven with multiple women. My gut instincts were right. Too much agreeableness is a manipulation tactic; covert narcissism. He was using her just to dump her at the altar.

[@leahnatalia4171]

"andrews so smart" "is he?" HAD ME DEAD

[@xxmooshooxx]

Cole's attracted to Collen and Raven's body type. Zanab is small but curvy. Plus Colleen is closer to his age. They give off a sorority girl and frat boy vibe. When Matt followed Colleen into that bathroom I legit felt scared/trapped for her.

[@sweetsoul1266]

Yeah…..agreed. Matt and Colleen scenes are hard to watch. It’s like watching a domestic abuse situation

[@abbyz13]

Matt made that weird comment to Colleen too, that was something like “it’s a good thing you don’t smell, cause that would be a turn off” and she just went “oh yeah it’s the hygiene for me” i was like baby no don’t play along that was weird and rude 💀

[@jadoisready]

He's definitely punishing her for what his ex did. I understand that is hard to get over being cheated on, but you need to learn not to bring this into your future relationships. It's not fair on the other person to do that to them. Matt seems unstable and needs to work on himself.

[@jakemarie828]

Zanab and Colleen honestly don't look that different to me. They have similar face shapes and similar hairstyles. Colleen is slightly thinner and more white I guess? Seems nbd for a show like this. They're both gorgeous. The fact that Cole is fixating on small differences that Colleen can't change instead of addressing their legit chemistry issues is why it's clear he is being cruel on purpose.

[@MimiTheHamster]

Ya Zanab and Colleen low key look like they could pass as sisters when you look at their edit photos

[@abbieclement]

Another thing is that Bartise didn't even really pick nancy. In the confessional scene before Raven did the exercise thing, he said that he actually preferred Raven between the two. But then Raven brought up the money conversation (by mentioning her rich ex) and Bartise went on about how he's definitely not going to buy her things, and I suppose there wasn't really anything interesting between them anyway, so she straight up started exercising right after. Given her avoidant personality, it seemed like her way of cutting off the relationship as she basically said "oh no" and continued exercising when he said he could hear her. Then in true childish fashion he started saying that he didn't want her anyway and chose nancy. In the scene after, it was so cringe and obvious how bruised his ego was when he asked the producers to fill Raven's pod with fake 1 dollar bills, trying to insinuate that she was a stripper and discard her to get his power back. It's interesting that he tried to use the one piece of information he had on her vulnerability (that she's a part-time bottle service girl) and twisti it into something he thought would really cut her. But she's smarter than him, didn't give a crap either way and flipped the conversation by not reacting much to the 1 dollar bills and. by making it clear that she already preferred SK. She already knew what he was trying to do and just shut down the drama in the most dry way. The whole dance was really fascinating to watch.

[@jakemarie828]

I was really impressed by her shutting him down at the pool too. She talked up SK in a sincere way, and let Bartiste embarrass himself. Which he has continued to do. For every single scene. I preemptively cringe when I see him now.

[@kamigriff]

@@jakemarie828 I got back on her team when she turned bartise down at the pool. Much respect for that. She lost me on the exerting doing his heartfelt monologue.

[@gigiarmany4332]

2 narcissists "courting" is truely a sight to behold..🙈🤣😂🥳

[@midi2732]

Oohhh I didn’t get why there was dollar bills on the floor, eeewwww bartise is such a creep and very much unattractive, I cringe so much every time he talks so fake

[@jakemarie828]

@@kamigriff nah, not on team Raven. She said misogynistic things about Nancy for fun, and then expects SK to pay her rent which she should be affording already. I want to like her, but she's done more selfish things than respectable things so far. Her friends are worried for SK more than her. That's telling.

[@XakPhane]

Zanab, Cole, Colleen, & Matt collectively should’ve had a conversation together and squash the whole thing. That whole situation was taxing to me. I can’t wait until they’re all able to watch this back and see that BOTH Colleen and Cole were mutually into each other at the pool.

[@KmiiVC]

Nancy is hands-down my favorite girl this season. she seems like a really good person, and she's the most beautiful imo. she deserves a good partner. like i just want her to live a happy life.

[@marimaiz]

Every new season of Love Is Blind convinces me more that love is, in fact, NOT blind.

[@Inspired763]

Lol facts!

[@corporemo6297]

They should make a show called “Love is Deaf” where participants have to gesture wildly to see if they’re compatible 😂 maybe that’ll work better

[@kingkooki7761]

as much as people want to think it is it really isn't. even the least superficial person in the world still won't date someone they're not attracted to. however, these people weird. like all of them are attractive, if you fell for their personality there should be no problem in this situation.

[@Brielle.33]

This show is not the real world

[@avsambart]

Maybe if they picked people who weren't so obsessed with themselves tbh.

[@onarosebeam]

I saw someone say that for Bartise, Raven is the kind of woman he respects and aspires toward and Nancy is the type of woman that he dates because they big up his ego and supports him but actually despise and resent for not being a Raven type.

[@beewest5704]

You cannot respect someone you do not even see. Bartiste does not see Raven. All he sees 8s how society will view them together.

[@onarosebeam]

@@beewest5704 definitely. Aspires towards is definitely more of the key word.

[@salamander8301]

He's don't respect women period

[@sarahprager7323]

@@beewest5704 he doesn't see Nancy either then

[@beewest5704]

@@sarahprager7323 Of course not. Nancy is boss.

[@id3389]

Honestly, I just took the Andrew tear scene as a joke on his part lmao. Thinking about the format of the show, they ask them questions that are supposed to bring out the drama. He probably wanted to give the producers what they wanted, even though he probably didn’t give a shit about being rejected.

[@iamsotired.419]

SAME. i really dont get why people keep saying serial killer vibes?? i thought he was a bit cringey but really..?

[@PaintingOfTheMind]

@@iamsotired.419 It's because he's on a dating show while only talking about what he's accomplished and not who he is or how he feels. Dude is talking about sexual exploits in order to attract a person to get married to him instead of things that actually matter. This shows he's in it for a sprint, not a marathon and marriage is a marathon.

[@iamsotired.419]

@@PaintingOfTheMind thank you! this makes complete sense. tbh i zoned him out when he was on screen because of second hand embarrassment but i dont remember anything about him as a person.. like he never mentioned what he *likes*?

[@PaintingOfTheMind]

@@iamsotired.419 Exactly. He was literally trying to show off in order to attract someone. Of course it is edited but we saw nothing of who he was and the shallow things he did or said just came off as creepy because of it. He might be a different person without the camera.

[@LooksByNaheemah]

Brennon & SK are the biggest surprises of the season. I thought they would be kinda toxic at first but they end up being so genuine and perfect people to be in a relationship with.

[@salamander8301]

Sk was cheating the whole time and Brennon was arrested for DV by his ex

[@Birdyboys]

@@salamander8301 I knew about SK but holy shit??

[@enriquesanchez9016]

Yeah... about that...

[@angelwut469]

@@salamander8301well damn

[@BeepBopyoureaHeepHop]

bartise is saying he want kids even if they got mental disorders, gay, three legs and one eye but has been focused on how OTHERS view him AND he said he fizzles out of love and don’t know why. not even societally you aren’t expected to be there for the hard part but what you showing us is that you’re not ready for ANY hard part of life

[@elleofhearts8471]

this part! bartise is not the guy you call when the going gets tough. Nor does he want you to call him when the going gets tough. It looks more like he wants everything and everyone in his life to be there to make his life easier. Like making his life more enjoyable is the purpose everyone serves in his life. I get one-sided relationship energy from him.

[@rawfermews4186]

Okay but I want everybody to realize that’s just the reality of children. Regardless of who you are or what kind of person you are there is 0 garuntee your children are gonna be cis straight able bodied nuerotypical etc etc that’s just the reality of kids and if your not ready for that don’t have any. Even though he’s not that type of person that’s still more than most people can say they’d stick around for. And her take if abelist and delusional. She should know many speech impediments are DEVELOPED and there is 0 garuntee your child will be bodily abled while growing up or not.

[@oliviadenman3958]

Agreed there are a lot of disabilities you don't find out until later on in life you gonna abandon the kid because you can't handle it? I get where she is coming from but I do find that her albeist view rubbed me the wrong way.

[@elleofhearts8471]

@@rawfermews4186 this part. This is why i continue to be baffled by new parents not taking an interest in learning about disability justice before conceiving. Most able-bodied people who have never been impacted in a meaningful way by disability only ever start to care about disability when they become disabled themselves or their child does. This is why i firmly believe everyone should take interest in disability justice. Not only because any decent person would, but also, for the sake of being better prepared to meet the needs of disabled children, which they deserve.

[@elleofhearts8471]

@@oliviadenman3958 "there are a lot of disabilities you don't find out until later on in life you gonna abandon the kid because you can't handle it?" i hate to be the one to say it, but likely so. So many men *say* they want kids but when they see that raising kids is harder than they thought, they do abandon their kids. And im just talking about neurotypical kids. Theres no conditioning for properly caring for disabled children like there is for learning how to drive, for example, so most people dont know how to properly care for disabled children and dont take an interest in learning until they are personally affected by it. like when their child is disabled. and sometimes not even then.

[@td02fe]

When Andrew was on screen he made me think he was auditioning for the role of most interesting man in the world. But him with the eye drop took me out 😂😂😂

[@heiressananiah8788]

Fr the eye drop was so strange that I had to just laugh😭

[@kendrajanelle1996]

This is the PERFECT description of him 😂😂😂 He has to be trolling cause he HAD to know that they wouldn't edit the eyedrops out. He's here for the drama but so am I!

[@beewest5704]

Andrew is cosplaying romcom love interest.

[@bunnywavyxx9524]

"auditioning for the role of most interesting man in the world" LMAOO that exactly

[@cissya433]

Can we talk about how Cole CONSTANTLY needs positive affirmations from Zaneb - but still sh*ts on her whenever he can? I got so sick of him on their vacation when he KEPT asking her: so you still like me? Arrggghhh! I would have run screaming from the room!!

[@rai2423]

He’s asking her because she acts like she hates him! Everything he says and does is dumb to her, but when he asks her if she likes him she says yes. I would be confused too and need affirmations if my partner spoke to me the way Zanab spoke to Cole. How are people so blind to how mean Zanab is 😂

[@gaby_xo907]

Cause Zanab is toxic honestly I didn't like Cold at the beginning but at the end I hate Zanab more than Cole. She is such a selfish, idiot, non considerate, annoying, self centered bitch...she sucks. She irritates me so much

[@allbutperfect]

@@rai2423 Are you Cole?

[@copperredd]

@@rai2423 she acts that way cuz of how hetalks about her to other ppl tho..so it starts with him...

[@rai2423]

@@copperredd I watched the show and from start to finish she was extremely condescending and mean to him. It seems that it just her personality.

[@mastatema]

As I watch this season I kept wondering why so many immature guys/creepy guys were put on the show alongside so many mature women. I had a feeling from early on things were going to end badly for most of the couples.

[@Avi.joyyy12]

That Andrew guy can’t be fr. Talking about all that “poetic” bs and pulling out fake tears ON CAMERA!!! I literally started crying!!

[@VashtiPerry]

😂😂same

[@Avi.joyyy12]

@@VashtiPerry This is some 2000s reality show type of chaotic😂😂

[@kamigriff]

No grown woman wants to talk about sex kungfu. Bro we know you men are all selfish lovers. Stop trying to convince grown women you’re different. It only works on the youngins, and they’re starting to realize the cap 🧢. Sex is different for everyone and you have to learn what your current partner likes. Talking about last sex is giving I’m not over my ex.

[@eliceosei6443]

Same I cried fr 😂😂

[@Feliciatanktop]

I thought he brought out the eye drops cause he's never cried before and it burned his eyes 🤭💀 serial killer vibes

[@bunnyluvspie]

Out of all the problematic men, Matt actually scares me so much! He seemed so happy at first and then suddenly he's screaming and threatening to leave, not even listening to a word his fiance says. Yes. I would be upset too if someone else flirted with my partner but literally going off into your own rabbit hole and getting angrier and angrier without listening to his partner is TERRIFYING! And the inconsistency of his actions make it difficult for Colleen to even try and work around it. I know he has some stuff he needs to work through, but if he doesn't get his shit together, Colleen is going to be in a rather abusive and controlling relationship. This is the same behavior that my dad and my ex exhibited, and it's just a bad time lol

[@BayouTottedHue]

i think he is broken and insecure because of his previous relationship, his childhood sweetheart who cheated on him.

[@LauraEDavis]

oh yes he definitely has abusive anger issues. he's got to deal with that shit.

[@bunnyluvspie]

@@BayouTottedHue that is true and it is sad and I feel bad for him. I hope he can move on from this and be okay, but even though there's a reason for this his actions are still not good for a marriage. Sudden bouts of tantrums and threatening to leave a relationship everytime a fight happens is going to mess with his partner's mental health. Like I understand and I empathize with him, but he needs to heal himself before he traumatizes someone else.

[@BayouTottedHue]

@@bunnyluvspie yes thats true as well.

[@neels7429]

He’s also so explosive, that really scary

[@hayvencat]

I died when you called yourself clairvoyant when you love Sk And he turned out to have a whole girlfriend lmao 😭

[@Takamiko22]

You would think both sides of the baby discourse would love an egg donor. Like she's helping people have children, she's "encouraging" healthier births or just births in general for people who may have trouble producing their own eggs. Losing friends? And relationships UGH some dudes are sick. "Yeah they're not YOUR kids but like biologically they're yours and not MINE, and that's freaky. My thoughts process isn't freaky at all but yours? Most def." I can't

[@chasitylucas7123]

I love the way Nancy’s mom just read Bartise and called him out for a liar…

[@christachios]

Whole family ready to beat his ass 😂😂

[@elielelwy]

I don’t understand how her family didn’t clock how FAKE he was to every. single. one. of. them.

[@Notthecoolmom]

I liked how her mom was basically liked I'll fight you myself if you hurt my daughter

[@EclecticGiraffe]

@@elielelwy I think her family did clock it. Her brothers were super skeptical of him and her mother basically said, “I can spot a liar when I see one” insinuating she knows when Bartimus is lying.

[@sunflowersandsand]

Nancy's family can see right through him and from the preview of a wedding with a young Latino guy yelling "I knew our f****ng time was gonna get wasted!" (paraphrasing) Something tells me the brothers knew all along Bartise was a piece of crap.

[@alingoodtime]

watching andrew exhibit genuine joy while dancing was so so terrifying

[@criskp6861]

🤣🤣🤣

[@rachelc1490]

“She was exercising through your trauma, she don’t like you”💀💀

[@LACHRYMA]

imagine if kenny made a series called messy mukbang mondays where she does just that, talk about messy tv shows while eating food on a monday

[@angelicbin131]

i would love that!

[@zylahnuri7064]

OH MY GOD PERFECT

[@JM-hd3lr]

we need nessy mukbang monday!!

[@cordeliaistheone]

Lol I love this idea, though I don't mind Kennie doing this instead of/interchangeably with Bad Movies as that's added workload if she does Saturdays and Mondays

[@zylahnuri7064]

@@cordeliaistheone Same, it world be pretty neatif she did it interchangebly since that's what she's already doing

[@-rayn-4934]

Can we talk about how Raven is so vocal about her being career-driven, then turns around and asks her fiance who is living on a diploma while she ears full-time to split the rent of her apartment that only she is going to live in? While, over there, Nancy has a whole self-build financial empire that she casually not even mentions more than once in front of the camera?!? Just wanting to point that out.

[@kris6089]

and she wasn’t going to get a prenup either… dodge a bullet if u ask me. she deserves someone who loves her for who she is. also absolute crazy to me that she was deemed unattractive because I personally thought she was the most beautiful thru all 3 seasons 😳 but to each their own, i guess.

[@edenlewis2538]

this

[@keridegen8409]

Alexa has a successful career and they mention that she makes more money than Brennon. She's not looking to "not lift a finger", she just wants security and to make sure their goals are on the same page.

[@-rayn-4934]

@@keridegen8409 You're absolutely right, thanky you for correcting! I thus corrected the post!

[@hurlscoutss]

To be fair, Raven is a bottle girl I think it's fair for her to wonder how she will be able to financially support two adults.

[@sonyasunnymartinez6328]

The not understanding men’s beauty standards, because they seem to like the basics spoke to me!!! I HAVE BEEN SO CONFUSED!! What in the copy and paste is going on there.

[@karinakouture5661]

I found that when listening to Andrew, I felt like I was sitting through a lecture and the professor is just going on and on on what he did over the summer. 🤣

[@nicolearata7667]

Low key was happy Nancy got some sweet male attn from Andrew when Bartise was breaking her heart I can’t lie 😅

[@salamander8301]

Yeah but she was looking at him like awwww he must love me if he's jealous! I wanted to scream nooo Nancy! He's just being a fuck boyyyy

[@Feliciatanktop]

Me too 🤭

[@babyface3396]

I was so sick of Andrew right up until that moment. That convo they had was nice, and I'm glad he was willing to show up for her in that way and not be a creep or anything.

[@Laurenjoinsyoutube]

I was really confused with Ravens friends going in on SK for moving away when he made it clear to Raven when they were in the pods. It’s not like something he sprung on her and she clearly didn’t tell her friends that.

[@itsthenovelette]

That part! And how they immediately thought that he was a bad man or a fraudster solely based on the fact that he was Nigerian. And they were serious! I was so taken aback.

[@hayleigh4686]

I think it's pretty telling of how Raven feels or thinks of him, because if she was wildly in love and happy and supportive in general (even if she wasn't thrilled about the separation), she would have approached conversations with her friends positively, would've spoken well of him, and they would hopefully then not have immediately jumped on him and thought negatively of him. But clearly her conversations with them were much more negative and painted him in a bad light so that they felt like they needed to step in like that and be defensive of her and speak these things for her. She just....I dunno, she really just rubs me the wrong way.

[@christachios]

Her friends were so ignorant. One in particular really did too much, the next one sees SK as a stereotype of rich and African. “Who’s paying for all these houses”

[@Waredith]

I balked when one of the friends told SK something like "You're robbing her of her fairy tale" and I was like... What world are you people living in?? They really believe they're entitled to some kind of perfect fairy tale relationship?

[@Lee-qf9dz]

Exactly! Not only that, but the friend that said she feels like he's stripping Raven of a "fairytale" marriage because he's going to school out of state. That makes NO SENSE, because he clearly said that he is going to school out of state in the pods AND it's only for 2 years. What's even crazier is that Raven expects SK to pay half of her rent while he's living in California?!!??? The entitlement...

[@adrianaspeis]

SK's mom is my favorite person on this season. and Nancy's brothers!

[@nnn9122]

And Zanab's stepmom.

[@JB-zh7yx]

Cole only wanted Zanab because she is "exotic". Not his usual go-to (aka a white girl) but because she looked different. I've been in this situation as a black girl and it has always played in my mind that some guys only want to try to be with girls who are different just because they are different. And the way he said her name really sent me over the edge omg

[@TheBiggestMoronYouKnow]

I’ve been there, white guys who are repulsed by melanin but want to be able to say that they dated a PoC to their white hookups 😅

[@starlette2992]

@J B why you write "Black girl" with capital letter whereas "white girl" is lowercase?

[@JB-zh7yx]

@@starlette2992 Now everybody low

[@ALNizhoni]

@@starlette2992 Because Black is a collective ethnicity for those of the African diaspora whose actual identities were stolen. White was simply a category created by white people to be elevated above everyone else. One is an ethnicity by proxy and one is just a category based on supremacy.

[@Peanut_taco_muffin]

What?? That’s not the case whatsoever. Where you got that from, I don’t know. He picked her because they clicked and Colleen sounded shallow (and she is)

[@angiemuffins706]

I'm so happy you said that about colleen, she's not ugly but a 10? that's when I realized that yt men will settle within their own race than date higher up outside of their race.

[@Cashious]

Ya, Colleen is cute but quite average in the face and I can see her appeal but Zanab is gorgeous. It’s not great to compare them in this way but to see how Zanab basically believes she’s giving borderline ugly up against Colleen because of Cole’s little comments is saddening.

[@rawfermews4186]

@@Cashious it’s actually wild that he basically admitted he’s not attracted to her because she’s not white enough for him. Which didn’t make any sense to me. She acts white she looks white she assimilates like a white person.. the only issue is her fucking name??? He’s a weirdo she needs to dump him. His weirdo racist ass. PLUS it’s even more confusing because he KNEW HER NAME when they started talking

[@shelfraawoods1785]

Me and my daughter have been saying the same thing!! Like how is she hotter than Zanab? I don’t get it

[@rinesserin]

She's absolutely beautiful. They're all absolutely beautiful. Comparison shouldn't even be a question, I don't understand what the men in this show are doing. Barring SK and Brennan.

[@jakemarie828]

They look super similar to me just Zay is ...less white? Like that's it. His obsession with their (small) differences is sus. I'm sure Cole's family's "living together" thing is an excuse, and what they're really mad about is that he's trying to bring home a girl named Zanab instead of Kaylee or Amber.

[@Uneclipsed]

I can tell you exactly what was setting off alarm bells the first time Andrew talked. Instead of asking his partner questions, he took the opportunity imply he had money and success and then humble bragged about giving it all up for his job as a wildlife photographer. He then uses that as way to make himself seem edgy. Every time he talks it's about how everything he does is super meaningful and important. This is a man who is more concerned with selling himself to others than he is about investing emotionally in his potential relationships. It's a shame, because being a wildlife photographer seems like a super cool job and like someone I would be interested in getting to know, but nope. Not this guy. And then the later conversations... Just cringe.

[@Daikibby143]

I literally was trying to figure out why I didn't like Andrew, and this post is 100 percent what I was thinking!! Trust me, Bartise is just garbage, and I'm sad that Nancy decided to give that narcissist a chance. However, I didn't think Andrew was much of a catch either; he just seemed way too focused on narrating his life story rather than seeking to understand his potential partner.

[@louiseevans3510]

You're not emotionally unavailable, you're EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT! You're just not doe-eyed for any random fool and his BS. That's a good thing. 👍

[@ernie39]

agreed!

[@heeree9630]

Please keep doing these videos! Also, from one Capricorn to another, you don't have to pool your finances just because you're married. My husband and I have exactly zero joint accounts. Besides all the boring shit like bills, we take turns paying for things, pay for ourselves, or send each other money if we want to split something.

[@Raquelles_Mommy]

Same here with my Gemini ass, and my Scorpio husband. Zero joint accounts, and we split everything half/half. It’s actually curbed my overspending on dumb shit lol. The only joint account we’ll probably start is for our daughter, who is due in February 😊.

[@heeree9630]

@@Raquelles_Mommy Ha, my husband is also a Scorpio.

[@diamcole]

SK is everything, I appreciate his communication style and attentive nature so much. Such a solid and kind man! Edit: Damn, this aged like milk. Still a kind man overall but...damn. Edit Edit: AHHH they're together!! I'm so happy for them haha. The growth! Edit Edit Edit: And now apparently the news broke that this nigga been cheating lol I give up. Tapping out y'all!

[@salamander8301]

He is sooo beautiful omg more men like this on the tele pls

[@soraya.e5482]

He’s need to go to Nigeria and find his wife after he made his money because raven ain’t it.

[@ife3997]

@@soraya.e5482 fr, their just not on the same level if we’re being completely honest

[@soraya.e5482]

@@ife3997 yeah and he keeps saying he doesn’t want a traditional Nigerian women but his actions say otherwise and raven clearly notices

[@m.tatnall9109]

@@soraya.e5482 x"xz

[@oretim8473]

I wanna see Nancy’s brother, Steve, fight Bartise

[@christachios]

Yeah I would like that, he reminds me of me with my sister …😂 I said yeah he getting Barista up outta here

[@thetoadwalker3010]

Andrew is so strange, but in the context of the show I love it. He's so weird and to be honest I really dislike people who make their whole personality about how they've been abroad, but he's so amusing in how disassociated he is from life. Even his voice is just done with life until he overly performs his emotions and then it gets wild with the eye drops. IDK I loved it haha

[@cooperpalek8656]

"I don't really have much to say about Brennon. He seems nice..." Little did we know he was the biggest monster of this entire group of men. And for him and Alexa to have the balls to rip into Cole and act high on their own shit at the reunion was so infuriating.

[@kc7646]

wait how is he the biggest monster? he was a little much at the reunion but what did he do that was worse than say bartise?

[@cooperpalek8656]

@@kc7646 Before the show even started, he had domestic violence charges brought against him from an ex girlfriend, so it wasn’t just someone bringing up allegations after the show to try to chase money.

[@M3Niki]

Girl, we don't care if we miss a good beat. We just wanna here our good sis' opinion. I live for ppls L.I.B. takes. I ain't got no life soooo I'll watch it....after Halloween cuz I gotta watch my scary movies first😂

[@Chkprofilename]

Yes

[@bjp1101]

I haven't even actually watched L.I.B but I love listening to reviews, Especially if it's Kennie

[@GlamGoddes101]

I’ve been listening to so many reviews of Love is Blind right now 😂😂

[@hunni2968]

I watching it now I don’t know how you held back for Halloween at all! I wonder what scary movies are y’all watching ? I haven’t been too impressed by horror movies lately

[@pearlkennedy9446]

My husband called it from the jump cole was racist 😭 your feelings about people are almost always correct and it’s so entertaining 😂 never stop with these kinds of videos, it feels like I’m discussing the show with a friend

[@nairasilva6901]

Yes he is ! The discussion about zanid name is racist

[@blueismylove3128]

I find it interesting that one is really talking about the Cole being racist and not finding Zanid attractive because of that 💀💀.

[@pechaa]

Yes, he is racist and on top of that he is misogynistic and particularly looks down on any woman (“girl?”) who isn’t the cookie cutter sorority type. But what really pissed me off was when Matt approached him about the pool incident, Cole immediately affirmed Matt’s feelings. He said something like “I’d be reacting the same as you, man” or some such. All the while, Cole is undermining Zanab’s feelings, getting angry at her for not taking his disgusting remarks the “right” way and not getting over it instantly.

[@shitstainbarbie7795]

I got racist vibes from him too!

[@__L__837]

100% got racist asf but fetishes other races vibes. He’s attracted enough to her to have sex with her but right after he nuts he can’t even touch her? Yea..I’m getting fetish vibes.

[@JM-yx4ew]

It’s so weird to me how much stake these men put into whether they’d approach these woman at the bar. Like, most of my relationships didn’t start at a bar. I dated several people who I got to know and started dating after I got to know them through friends, school, work, whatever, and they weren’t necessarily someone I would’ve approached on a whim, but their personality and energy was magnetic so it made them more attractive. I have “a type” but there’s plenty of wiggle room if a person is cool.

[@Nyma6000]

SO REAL, 100%!!

[@efyra]

The fact that I watched this video twice and only now I realized that it's longer than an hour, proves how entertaining this is

[@sammo4732]

Raven reminds me so much of my avoidantly attached ex. So much distance, negativity, seemingly creating or looking for reasons to find fault to justify things not working out. She mentioned repeating toxic dynamics and wanting to change that, but if she doesn't work on herself then she's going to keep bringing all of her patterns into what seems to be a healthy relationship with a stable, secure man, and...risk losing that as a result. Like girl, please help yourself!! I feel so bad for Nancy. She seems so sweet and empathetic but needs to set boundaries to protect herself from people who will want to latch onto that and use her. Bartise is setting up a dynamic to keep her feeling insecure and like she has to win his affection, and she's giving a lot of energy and effort in good faith without receiving anything in return. Cole is trash!!!! His comment about Zanab's name gives off vibes of "you should be grateful I picked you DESPITE this fault of yours." The fault being that she's not average white girl enough for him. Gross gross gross.

[@MimiTheHamster]

She’s hotter than the average white girl. But he wants basic and boring. Instead of persian cuisine he wants mcdonalds fries lol

[@ima.m.1658]

Agree with everything and yeah Cole has repeated several times that Zanab doesn’t look like the girls he’s dated and how different she looks, which comes across as condescending toward her ethnic features and background (even if he didn’t mean it that way).

[@degeneratequeen3559]

The comment he made about her name really bothered me too. I get what he was trying to say but if a man said oh i can tell by your name youre not gonna look like the normal white girls i date i would just stare at him like 💀.

[@jclyntoledo]

Interesting I thought he was saying more like there is nothing to compare really bc I usually date typical white women and you are clearly not which is not bad it's just facts. I also thought he was saying Colleen was to him his "type" but only due to that being who he only ever dated.

[@jakemarie828]

@@jclyntoledo he shared his "dissapointment" with the entire cast. Even Alexa who was involved 0%. It was extremely rude and not at all what this show is (supposed to be) for.

[@manicflapjack]

Why is this season recap and discussion better than the whole entire actual show.

[@BritneyT.]

Truly, the show drags out moments so much

[@DeeSunbae]

I didn't even bother watching it. Just gonna wait for her to review it again lol

[@peekaboocharlie8502]

Bc the show essentially sucks lmao

[@aquariusqueen44]

GIRL as an aquarius and a quiet little cancer rising i am also observent and people always say im too quick to judge but then i end up being right like🙄

[@itsmetiff1800]

SK had us ALL FOOLED. I'm sickkk

[@dyvynyl8461]

There's a point in the second episode (I think) where they show Andrew (who is wearing an immaculately pressed three piece suit) in the pods, and over the course of that conversation you watch him deliberately place himself in front of each of the cameras in the room and pose like he's Christian Grey. It's honestly hilarious.

[@lovelymaknae9778]

E.g 30:50 🤣🤣

[@jenniferHernandez-xm8kg]

I’m totally going to rewatch that episode just to look for that 😅

[@MKL614]

🤣😂😂

[@kameryn2918]

Lol he really was posing! My mom said he was badly acting lol

[@aneleh6]

And him talking about his vacation in South Africa as if he was fighting for his life in the steppe for ten years was hysterical

[@angiep2229]

I want SK's mom to adopt me. She seemed so incredibly lovely. Matt scares the hell out of me.

[@brittneym8200]

😂 watching this is hindsight…your views on SK are hilarious

[@blackblinkzennie]

This didn’t age well. Kennie, SK is the LAST person you’d wanna be with now..

[@tortiepk5596]

what happened?

[@shuesbaanh]

@@tortiepk5596 He cheated on Raven.

[@adjadenisedoumbia9305]

West African men🤷🏾‍♀️

[@babiirae729]

@@shuesbaanhgoodness🤦🏾‍♀️ raven didn’t deserve that

[@cloudyjay4359]

i was looking for someone else to say it😭

[@vanessaursille8786]

Evidence of Kennie’s emotional availableness “Men ain’t shit " and "Never drop a bag for a man "both true.

[@samanthagalarza3421]

...what a way for me to learn that I am also emotionally unavailable