LOVE IS BLIND SEASON 3 FINALE AND REUNION... this isn’t fun anymore (EP 8-12) | KennieJD

[@KennieJD]

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[@anissab.7260]

If you're interested in learning more about the psychology of each person from this season and picking up on how each person is functioning in each relationship, Psychology in Seattle does episodes of reality TV shows like Love is Blind, 90 day fiancé, etc. It's so interesting to see a relationship therapist go into detail with each interaction and how to handle the situation better if you were going through that. I really think you'd enjoy it, especially listening in the background when doing other tasks

[@ayannabranchcomb7535]

@@anissab.7260 thanks for this!! Because I’m so curious

[@meh458]

Also when are you releasing more music? I want more 😩

[@anissab.7260]

@@ayannabranchcomb7535 it was crazy watching him analyze Cole and Zanab. Pointing out her distortion and how reactive she gets to his words while also dragging Cole for his behavior and lack of filter when it comes to Zanab's need a reassurance

[@miscellaneouslife2778]

Your hair in this is immaculate!!

[@NeidaTeresa]

Nancy did an interview where she said she was ready to leave Bartise but he basically begged her and convinced her to say yes at the altar only for him to reject her 😳 that element of it added so much texture to this like he basically didn’t wanna get rejected he wanted to be the one to do the rejecting

[@maheenm.k1015]

Hope that that man dies alone and women seeing him approach them walk the other way.

[@Cnichal]

😮

[@kittylvithn]

Wowwwwww 🗑️🗑️🗑️

[@fullmetallemer6818]

It adds up with the pods if I recall. When he let Raven down easy only to realize she was also not into him he seemed thrown. Very I can let you go at any time but don't you dare let me go

[@annaknight5111]

I don't doubt that! His ego couldn't take it I'm sure

[@sarahcha]

Oh just from that clip, Matt is frightening. He’s interrupting Colleen repeating “say it” while she’s trying to explain how she feels? Immediately no

[@snorkels9188]

Omg yes - that was scary but also bugged the everlasting sh!t out of me. "TELL ME" "i just - " "TELL ME" - rinse, repeat for 5 minutes. Like dude, if you actually gave her a smidgen of a chance to say more than literally 2 words, she would *tell* you! She was actively trying to answer you, stfu for more than 2 seconds so she can say more than "I just" and you'll find out! Although thinking about it for a bit more, I'm wondering if this was him actively trying to prevent her from saying how she feels cos he didn't want to hear anything other than total subjugation - she had some actual, important issues with him that were more than likely *very* valid, and he doesn't want to hear that, ever. The way he acts honestly makes me also wonder how he was in his previous relationship... What happened to him was truly awful, but this kinda spiralling into being abusive and how his mother spoke about his issues makes me wonder if that was perhaps something apparent during his previous marriage... I hope Colleen gets out stat and safely, I fear for her, truly.

[@nailinthefashion]

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[@JNDReacts]

Matt: Say it. Out loud. Say it. Colleen: V- Matt: Say it. Say it. Colleen: Vam- Matt: Say it!

[@yaoiyurilover37]

@@snorkels9188 THIS. FUCKIN. THIIISSSS. My ex-husband did similar shit but more subtle. Just Matt interrupting constantly?! I woulda told him to STFU after the 3rd say it. And if he lashed out woulda gave me a reason so fight 🤷🏾‍♀️ 🤣

[@williamelliott186]

@@snorkels9188 her cheating on him was wrong, yes, but it's actions like his that make me wonder if that's the only way people feel they can take back their lives in a weird twisted way

[@Tam974eva]

Bartise saying no is the equivalent of the trash taking itself out!

[@everylaurenislemons]

My bf and I were so surprised HE was the one to say no. Nancy is scores more mature and poised than him but he wanted out? So glad she said she doesn’t want to give him a second chance

[@mariaa5777]

😂😂😂

[@libgurl01]

I was so happy. Nancy is free from that balcony.

[@mckennatopp4069]

@@libgurl01 hh h h

[@dez3320]

Haa, well said

[@sarahk.4167]

I got really surprised when Colleen claimed that she would take a bullet for Matt and thinks that he wouldn‘t take one for her. Colleen babe, with the way he‘s been behaving, I don‘t think I‘d be wrong to say that he would be the one shooting the bullet to begin with 😳

[@maimounakomla6584]

😂😂😂

[@cpkgrownup9496]

@@maimounakomla6584 I felt bad for laughing when I read this but I’m glad to see I’m not alone😂😂😂

[@tiannagotch7093]

What killed me about Bartise and Nancy was on their wedding day, he literally gave a her note or something saying like “lets do this/lets go all the way” 💀 then says no at the altar like ?????

[@fionagallagherapologist5968]

right 😭😭😭

[@KissyAdair]

I knew it was a bad sign that she had gotten him all of these little gifts for him before the wedding, and he sent her a note and a shot. 🤦‍♀️

[@Cat-hz7yd]

hes literally evil oml

[@MissPopeyes22]

He wants to keep women hanging. That’s why when he rejected Raven and she said fine he wasn’t satisfied with that reaction

[@caia-moon]

Its ironic that the show really does prove love is blind but not in the way it wants to. They’re not blind to the other person’s appearance but so many of them are clearly blinded to their partner being toxic or not caring about them

[@moethemoon]

Love is NOT blind, but love certainly is delusional

[@nailinthefashion]

love blinders let the horse trot along but an irresponsible driver dooms both. C'est la vie

[@geeloxoxo2574]

Nah this show proved that physical appearance matters to most of ppl lol

[@LaloMacKenzie]

Good point

[@glupik1234]

Ironically this is the actual meaning behind the saying

[@bigwhy6845]

Matt legit scared me. I thought he was going to put hands on Colleen. He becomes a different person when he's angry. Very mean, very disdainful, very intimidating, and INTENSE. I hope nothing bad happens to Colleen.

[@dayzedandconfuzed]

he needs serious therapy and i hope he gets it before anything bad happens

[@kells4315]

Legitimately. Like, yeah it sucks watching some of the women deal with shitty men like shake, but I am genuinely so scared that Matt and Colleen got married. Like that's not drama that is real world danger.

[@ambriaashley3383]

I’m low-key crying because the bad things are already happening... it’s like the low end spectrum of abuse. It starts here, it feels awful but you think it’s just a “rough patch”, and with no outside intervention- sadly it always escalates 😢😢😢 I hope her friends/family continue to check in on her. This could be BAD

[@ambriaashley3383]

I will add that after working in a domestic violent shelter, I learned to never give “advice” to survivors. Our ‘advice’’, sadly, could get them killed. But you can give them the education and information to empower themselves, so they can make the best and safest choices for them and their families. I’m honestly praying for her and anyone else in that situation. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@fionagallagherapologist5968]

im so scared for her :(

[@alicethemad1613]

That “say it. Just say it.” scene with Matt was so fucking terrifying. I don’t want to accuse anyone of anything they haven’t definitively done yet but I wouldn’t be surprised if he turns out to be physically abusive someday. I’d honestly say that scene in and of itself was a display of abusive behavior; badgering her and backing her into a corner until she did what he wanted and stopped “acting out of line”.

[@jadoisready]

Something eeeily similar has happened to me and it is way more sinister when you're experiencing it firsthand. I got PTSD watching him talking over her, not listening and forcing her to say something she was physically uncomfortable saying. It is 100% terrifying.

[@faithtinywishes8232]

That freaked me out so bad. I hope Colleen gets out of there before it gets worse

[@pcarebear1]

For sure, I saw this a lot growing up with my family and he's definitely reminded me of emotional abuse. The type of guy that could threaten suicide if he doesn't have what he wants

[@nevswain478]

isn't that what zanab did to cole all season? nag and badger him, and make him feel little and insignificant for being himself?

[@britneyarne4180]

Omggg me & my roommate were saying thisss

[@lrenm8871]

I just came back to this video to say, WE WERE FOOLED! I actually really liked Sk too but to find out man’s is a whole serial cheater was SHOCKING!! Multiple women have come out with receipts showing his behavior and I couldn’t believe it…. Damn, you really can’t trust anybody 😭😭 poor Raven.

[@MADZOUA]

Frrr

[@beidoumybeloved2409]

Damnnnn what 💀😭😭 i didn't expect that man aint shit ✊😔😭

[@salem-01]

Wait WHAT. That’s crazy, poor Raven

[@adjadenisedoumbia9305]

He's a west African man....why are you surprised???

[@FrankYammy]

Raven deserved it

[@rushda02]

As a Yoruba woman (SK is Yoruba) watching that scene with Raven in the gèlè shop made me cringe to the depths of my soul and I'm reminded of why I generally refrain from dating Yoruba men. I was raised in that sort of household and you can imagine the stress and trauma I experienced, especially being the oldest daughter and oldest child of the family. Everything they said to her, unfortunately, are expectations that people have of wives in Yoruba societies. It's heartening of course that SK reassures Raven that she is enough as she is. It's not often that a man will take his wife's side. More often than not, they usually just say things like "you know how it is with family" etc, if they're not joining in with the antagonization.

[@yourmotherhatesyou641]

Same. I am also African and all my Nigerian girlfriends have told me not to date the men for this reason. Glad SK stood his ground, but they almost made Raven seem so small if she didn’t adhere to their standards. She was already sacrificing so much, and then this all happened.

[@azzyazeez]

Thiiiis!! I got so triggered! My mom sacrificed everything and he still took us kids to Canada and left her in Nigeria to fend for herself. I will never marry another Nigeria man. The trauma is strong with this one 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Wakeupgrandowl]

@@azzyazeez wow that’s… the most hurtful sounding thing. I could not imagine. And yet your mother did so because she is good, and wanted the best for you. My heart breaks for her.

[@babaomoniyi5829]

Relax. This is the same narrative in every conservative traditional household. Yoruba, Nigerian, African or American, it’s the same narrative. Not every Yoruba person lives that lifestyle and it’s not unique to Yoruba people

[@azzyazeez]

@@Wakeupgrandowl yep, she had the option of bringing us back but wanted us to have a better life. and funny enough he went back to Nigeria and married a much younger woman and brought her to Canada. This would be Wife #4 now. 🙄

[@veeceey1073]

Matt got off WAY too easy. I thought it was so irresponsible Nick and Vanessa didn’t call Matt out at all on his behavior. Colleen looked terrified when they showed the clip of her and Cole at the pool. I don’t even like Cole but I felt for him at the wedding and reunion. I felt like the cast were piling on him. The cast had all that energy for Cole when Bartise was right there!

[@bartrese]

Thats exactly how I felt

[@jadoisready]

And i believe they piled on him because they didn't want to have to address their own relationships and problems. I blame Nick and Vanessa for letting it go like that - they are not good hosts.

[@romancandleofthewild]

Yeah Bartise also got off easily and Matt got no smoke at all. As much as I dislike Cole and Bartise, Matt was allowed to downplay his actions even though he was the most aggressive of the bunch

[@linnz8507]

I felt soooo bad for Cole. They did that man dirty

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

@@romancandleofthewild it's obvious that they wanted another Deepti to victimized and blamed on when really they should focus on the entire cast actions and behavior in and out of the pods.

[@wynngwynn]

Conspiracy Theory: Nobody really went in on Matt's outbursts at the reunion because they were scared of him lol.

[@JenniferBrigitteOpticalVortex]

And Colleen would have been punished for it. It was to protect Colleen, not Matt.

[@wompwomp1015]

Yeah I think they were worried he’d take it out on Coleen. I really hope they talk to her alone off camera.. I have a really bad feeling about that dynamic

[@swsgrl]

yeah, this kind of makes sense. when it comes to situations like matt's and colleen's a lot of people might not want to say anything because they're afraid that the victim (colleen) will have to deal with the backlash

[@angiemuffins706]

Matt is emotionally unstable, he scares me, and what scared me more is that none of his 'friends' called him out on that

[@Felecia917]

Colleen looked absolutely terrified. I am concerned that Matt is physically abusing her.

[@fairytailgirl123]

Once again kennie comes through for those of us who don't want to give the show viewership. Thank you for your mental sacrifice

[@saskiakraft]

No only viewership, also time. This is pretty long but still shorter than the show

[@audyshtpostshere4708]

♑️🫡☯️

[@dinofashionicon8364]

26:30

[@lisar.271]

I sped through it at 1.5 speed and skipped over most parts just to see the moments she honed in on lol. It’s a boring show, really. No likable couples since season 1 (Cam and Lauren)…Alexa and Brennon are the best couple since then, IMO, from what little is shown of them anyway.

[@arurasky]

NO BUT REALLY!!! i hate reality tv but i wuv kennie 💕💕😆

[@sojadoesrandomstuff]

i am just so scared for colleen. netflix might have a court case on their hands a few months down the line for enabling the developement of an abusive relationship right before their camera lenses

[@theMoporter]

Unfortunately, probably not. Reality TV producers get away with horrific abuses.

[@FrankYammy]

Chill out, drama queen

[@FeEhEaRtSmIkEyWaY]

The one singular bright spot in Matt and Colleens relationship is the fact that they haven't moved in together yet. I breathed the BIGGEST sigh of relief when they said that, hopefully Colleen realises Matt is the worst and gets out of there before they end up living together because she will be trapped.

[@asmileisspecial]

Me too, she looked so vulnerable and scared and I’m glad she’s working a bunch so she doesn’t have to spend much time with him. I kind of wonder why they haven’t moved in together because that lease argument was a bit off to me but I’m glad they haven’t.

[@SamuelsReview]

@@asmileisspecial When they have blow up fights, they won't have anywhere to retreat....

[@nevswain478]

why is matt the worst btw? did i miss something?

[@bealias309]

@@nevswain478 you missed everything, apparently

[@nevswain478]

@@bealias309 i watched them now. i can see why people say what they do. But i think he needs therapy after his abusive relationship... he wasn't ready for this. the whole time i was saying why you putting yorself through bs marriage agin?

[@zhanajohnson5816]

Lmao Colleen's parents are so cartoonish, they look like a cute little Disney couple.

[@brandis5696]

Lmao omg that’s such a good way to describe them

[@lizzyrank5405]

I know which is why I'm so saf she's with Matt. Good people sometimes end up in shifty situations.

[@ENTERTAINMENT-tc3uq]

@@lizzyrank5405 Because she looked terrified on the couch like she was being held hostage

[@abbyz13]

@@ENTERTAINMENT-tc3uq literally!!! she did not look happy idk now no one noticed

[@dancerbabe02]

I feel like the parents were playing a drinking game! Like “every time you feel a red flag, drink”! Lol

[@Tam974eva]

Zanab's speech read as she was trying to validate her own decision by listing all of Cole's flaws, while Deepti's speech read as her trying to free herself and make a decision reflecting not off of Shake's flaws, but of Deepti's own needs as a woman. That's true empowerment.

[@sulaf604]

Absolutely!! I def got the feeing that she was feeling very insecure and unsure about not saying yes to him. I also think she said all that she said in front of everyone bc she needed the validation of her friends/family saying that it was a good choice to not marry him and praising her, instead of her jisy knowing that she deserved better (like Deepti did!)

[@nailinthefashion]

She's really open about being of two minds about it tho, I don't blame her. He's fun but not for her so it made it that much harder to not just pick up the towels I been there

[@Tam974eva]

@@nailinthefashion I have been there too. It's tough, but hopefully growth will come!

[@awetistic5295]

I feel like Zanab wanted a mic drop moment on Deepti's level, it just wasn't justified. She had clearly practiced the speech and her friends seemed to be in on it, there weren't surprised at all. What she did was backstabbing and unnecessarily humiliating and she doesn't seem willing to admit that she was far from being perfect either.

[@TheLily97232]

Have you ever been in love with someone who's bad for you and forced you to move on for your own good ? That's literally what this look like

[@yuvikapatel8427]

this season was by far the most uncomfortable and worst one to watch i didn’t think it could get worse then Shake 💀

[@SinoM123]

They topped Shake?!!! No way..

[@josss_ie8083]

This season felt more authentic than season 2. Season 2 was the most uncomfortable for me. Especially Natalie's fiancé (forgot his name) he was always so energetic and unstable. Season 3 was more unpredictable, that's why I found it more entertaining.

[@jesss8060]

Season 1 and 3 are my favourite 😻

[@PaintingOfTheMind]

I don't think they topped Shake.

[@SinoM123]

@@josss_ie8083 i think the name was Shane 🙃 yikes what a season that was too

[@keylareyes4118]

Matt:: SAY IT! Colleen: a vampire 🤪

[@kristinakrzywonos1821]

💀💀💀

[@Ilikefrogs..]

🤣🤣🤣

[@VickiGoby]

LITERALLY MY SAME REACTION TO THAY SCENE IM A TWILIGHT BITCH TO THE CORE 😂

[@Im_inside_your_walls_teehee]

This is the skin of a killer Colleen 💀

[@KayMarieClair]

Omg I found my people

[@ErysDevilier]

I can not wait to see how Kennie reacts to SK cheating because the whole time she said he was great I was like "Siiissss😭😭😭 you don't smell the lies?! Don't he seem too good to be true??? Siiiisssssss NOOOOO! Don't fall for the lies😭😭😭"

[@smileys462]

Hi! New viewer/commenter here. I could never trust SK because he seemed to be giving really over the top flattering compliments to Raven. Not that she's a biggot but she was just being polite/common decency to him about being Nigerian and meeting his family and then he was like "OMG you're so compassionate and open minded and amazing let's do this the Raven way...." Sissss I understand why she fell but if someone praises you for basic decency they want something from you......

[@salamander8301]

@@smileys462 when he was like pretending laugh at that bad joke bone apple teet.. I was like hmmmm

[@CLEVERstageNAMES]

It's so crazy that Colleen and Matt got to sweep their crazy drama under the rug just because the producers wanted to categorize them all as "succesful couples" and "failed singles". I'd argue Matt ultimately acted the worst out of all of them. They didn't argue with Colleen, he just yelled at her and overall acted like some movie villain. And he downplayed it so much and didn't take accountability.

[@lanah.5741]

Exactly. They don’t want to give the viewers any reason to believe that the married couple aren’t happy.

[@Ash-zf8ir]

I’m worried sick for Colleen. That man is not emotionally stable! He behaved so badly and somehow it’s all overlooked. 😢

[@ashleybow]

If ANYONE on this production cares about their participants, I hope they checked in with Colleen after the reunion and made sure she was okay because I agree something just feels off. Like just please make sure that she's actually safe in this relationship and give her like some resources about leaving if she ever feels like she is unsafe.

[@MrsNgabire]

Production never cares about the participants smh

[@estherramirez1202]

@@MrsNgabire I agree, the whole show its carelessness to the participants.

[@Mistical1982]

And Cole! Heartlessly destroyed for entertainment.

[@devonmunn5728]

​@@MrsNgabire Exactly. These type of shows are very calculated with who they choose. Any well adjusted, good person would not end up on this show, either because the production crew would find them boring or they would have enough sense to not go on these shows to begin with (which I don't blame anyone who does cause the production team has the final say of who ends up on the show)

[@juicydinosaur17]

Matt 10/10 I could see physically abusing. I already believe he mentally abuses her already as she look terrified and would avoid eye contact during the pool scene. Even on 90 day fiancé fights that the couples are actually cheating and caught in the act they don’t look as terrified as Colleen does. I think anyone who has had an abusive partner knows exactly who Matt is and what colleen is going through.

[@ayannabranchcomb7535]

No fr, she looked so frightened that it scared me

[@JenniferBrigitteOpticalVortex]

I honestly do not believe his sob story. I think his ex left him because he was abusive to her too.

[@audyshtpostshere4708]

DARVO, Deny, Attack, Reverse victim and Offender.🙃

[@iciajay6891]

@@JenniferBrigitteOpticalVortex this.

[@godsangel1644]

Thank you for saying that! He made me so uncomfortable and I was trying to figure out why he was setting off all these red flags in my head

[@veroh2127]

Raven went from the most annoying basic girl to my most liked person on the show. I agree that this was probably just the he editing but I have grown to love her for how she’s standing up for herself but also being open minded to SK’s feelings. I am genuinely happy that are dating and they saved the season for me ❤

[@miraa.2495]

I thought he said no

[@XPaPeRxAnGeLxAiX]

Right!! I was like meh in the beginning of the show but she showed so much growth & a lot more depth to her personality! She was my fav by the end :)

[@eleanor1105]

Ikr i hated her when she was jumping jacks while that barnacle was putting his heart out but now knowing him, he probably deserved it.

[@princessofhell4639]

Apparently SK cheated on her...

[@salem-01]

@@princessofhell4639 yep, it’s crazy how even the ‘best man’ on the show still turned out to be shit

[@-des-4]

Every time Bartise expressed his love for Nancy feels like he’s trying to trick himself into believing it

[@maimounakomla6584]

😂

[@jehnuhsuhs]

Chile, this season was ROUGH and so was the reunion! I’ve never been more uncomfortable 😭!

[@nonomazibuko3461]

I’ve never cringed so much in my life for soooo many different reasons

[@jehnuhsuhs]

@@nonomazibuko3461 physically, mentally and emotionally uncomfortable the whole time!

[@strudelh]

I had to skip some moments because it just got SO awkward, I couldn't finish it 💀

[@jehnuhsuhs]

@@strudelh like all the way through to the end, an icky experience 😭

[@just__nimo]

😂😂

[@riossloth]

I agree with Zanab’s speech looking more insecure than anything. I was shocked because they were terrible at communicating with each other and both made mistakes, but she really acted like it was all him. I was so sad that Colleen said yes but afraid of what he would do if she said no. Every time I see him after his first outburst I’m scared.

[@TheLily97232]

i don't understand why her looking insecure is so bad and pathetic. We all are insecure in some situations. She probably is sad to cut him off and it might trigger something with her.... it's weird. Last time I had to break a relationship that was bad for me, I saw how it highlighted insecurities in me, and it hurts but the point is to actually move on and grow. And it comes with being messy sometimes. Can we just normalize that ?

[@riossloth]

@@TheLily97232 nobody ever said that Zanab being insecure was bad, pathetic, or abnormal. Cole brought out her insecurities and she did the same for him, that’s why they were wrong for each other.

[@taetiseogirl]

@@TheLily97232 being insecure is bad because it makes you treat the other person badly it is irrational most of the time and it is something to work on it is natural but it's just not a good thing to be...

[@moccisimo]

@@TheLily97232 because she only saw his flaws (which were huge i admit) but never saw her own and that’s dangerous thinking that leads to victimizing yourself. Insecurity uncontrolled ruins so many things

[@nevswain478]

@@moccisimo what were his ''huge'' flaws? the only flaws i saw was her trying to control him and treat him like a child on a daily basic.. She was insufferable..

[@savannahm3817]

Speaking from experience, Colleen looked like she was about to break down screaming with a mental break down during that whole reunion. She looked so scared and uncomfortable.

[@nukieslilsister915]

This is the comment I was searching for!!! Thanku Savannah M. Im no body language expert, but Matt was almost aggressively in her space on that couch and she looked sort of like she was crouching down like a scared puppy. Very disturbing to watch. Its a big difference in love and control. Also no one brought up this extremely disturbing behavior of his. They all need THERAPY!!

[@yourmotherhatesyou641]

Right? I wonder if the producers noticed and told her to say nothing. Someone speculated that they got into a fight right before the reunion, but we can’t be certain.

[@jennajones4334]

During the reunion, she seemed to be looking to Matt with every answer, like she was either asking for permission or validation in what she was saying in her body language. I think that goes to show that at the very best, he is quite controlling of her, and it's probably not best case scenario

[@witchynonsense4674]

my partner said the same thing without any context (hasn't watched it), they said Colleen looked terrified and I agree that she seemed super uncomfortable

[@capybarasann]

Yeah I wonder how much of it was her feeling embarrassed or stressed because of the whole pool scene that got blown up because that seemed to be the main conflict for her to talk about other than the lease thing 🤠

[@roses.9181]

Edit: I take it back. What an act 😤 But can we talk about when SK brought up how he loved the environment in the pods allowing for men to talk about their emotions, LETS KEEP DOING THAT PLZ! What a king, leading by example and bringing that up.

[@jennajones4334]

Let's start a petition for SK to replace Nich as host next season

[@bartrese]

SK is a treasure

[@edithhuelskamp1649]

And also the fact that all the women became friends to some degree and weren't being jealous and competitive with each other.

[@bartrese]

@@countessofmontecristo3849 WHAT?!?

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

@@countessofmontecristo3849 of course he did. Now can people stop painting him as a Saint. He is not as that perfect than he claimed to be. He wasted her time, embarrassed her in the alter, and has now cheated on her. He can talk how he feels what's right to say but he is clearly not someone who's married for marriage especially dealing with someone like Raven who isn't even the type of traditional male obsessed women he's looking for.

[@kootonin891]

To me, it's not that the brother and the mom were pissed because he said no - it's that bartise dragged it on until the wedding to call it off and hurt nancy even more. Plus, as an asian, it pissed me off the way he talked to her mom like he didn't just humiliate her daughter in front of millions of people like???

[@aisha691]

YES! Honestly, Matt should’ve been pulled off the show or should’ve received a more intense psych evaluation. There’s so many flags from his mother down to how he’s so combative. I wouldn’t be surprised if in a years time we find out that he’s put his hands on her. I wonder if that’s why Colleen won’t move into his flat. I would love to hear what Colleens flatmate thinks about the whole thing.

[@8bitbarbie163]

This year had so many horrible reality tv show contestants that shouldve been pulled for their horrible treatment and a professional psych eval, Matt from love is blind and Paloma from BB24

[@GarriFree]

I had to remove myself from watching the reunion cuz it was wild. I was like Matt is 3 drinks away from committing a murder. Cole is gonna jump off a bridge after everyone yelling at him. And all raven wanted to do was sit next to her man’s. ALSO Colleen had 14 jobs? Whyy

[@maylennon4511]

Probably to get away from Matt

[@findingbrooki]

Idk why the job thing is surprising. I’m 19 and I’ve had like 7-8 jobs 😭 shit gets mad boring/wanting something new or just hating where u work bc most places underpay and suck ass water

[@catherineroberts845]

If Matt is abusive (and all signs point to it) then its not uncommon for victims of domestic abuse to have trouble keeping jobs as their partner gets more controlling over what they do, where they go, who they are allowed to associate with. I've heard stories about victims being forced to quit their jobs because their partner didn't like that they worked with a male, and couples having to move so that the abusee (is that a word?) is farther from her support system and more reliant on their partner.

[@elvishkat]

We're together every day, EXCEPT MONDAY WASH DAY HAHA

[@nailinthefashion]

Cole wasn't that hurt he was just embarrassed lol. Keep in mind he forgot to flush before going on a months long trip. There isn't that much going on in there, don't feel bad, he moved on already

[@GailEm]

Cole being surprised that Zanab only ate a banana and peanut butter all day especially after offering her something to eat and she declining led me to believe that Cole convincing Zanab to eat a salad could have been him trying to get her to eat something rather than him controlling what she was eating. But we’ll never know because there’s no footage to get the context. After that cutie incident it’s all about context with these 2.

[@princessofhell4639]

Nono what do you mean?? He still pointed out how she was eating 2 cuties anyway which is awful to do. Also the fact she declined food means there's even more of a reason for him to believe she hadn't eaten anything. And let's not forget that he constantly said she wasn't attractive so it's not much of a stretch to believe her that he was body shaming her so for all we know she might e declined that good for fruit cus she was feeling insecure.

[@tosinakin2508]

Cole is very much the type of person to create a bad situation and then be surprised by the consequences of his actions. He seems like the kind to stick his leg into your path and be surprised when you fall. Like Kennie said, he is reckless with his words and actions, and he either genuinely doesn't or chooses not to see how they affect people. I have no doubt he offered her food at least once or twice out of concern or courtesy, but he also failed to realize she was refusing to eat because of how his words were affecting her.

[@Sagacypher]

@@princessofhell4639 The whole point of that cuties backlash was that wasn’t awful at all. Zanab’s insecurities is what unfortunately led her to distort that conversation. The ENTIRE point was that he wasn’t monitoring or critiquing her food intake, he was making a very casual heads up about saving your appetite for the big dinner which is a common phrase that everyone says. Everyone from therapists to neuroscientists to Kennie herself said it very clearly was completely absentminded and would only affect those that have those type of insecurities, and you need to realize that two realities can exist. A person who doesn’t have any food insecurities wouldn’t care which is why it’s objectively not a bad thing. If you watched then you would know she indeed took it the wrong way because of her complex with food.

[@lapris7380]

What do you mean zanab clearly took it out of context like she has throughout most of their fights. She has gaslit him so much and continues to drag him. She is horrible and clearly has a lot to work on especially when it comes to her insecurity and delusion when it comes to this relationship.

[@lapris7380]

@@princessofhell4639 just no you are SOOOO wrong it’s insane. For one let’s start with the fact that he CONSTANTLY told her she was beautiful, a model, etc. She said she wasn’t his normal type but who he loves and finds beautiful. He clearly didn’t know about her possible distorted eating so when he said “are you gonna eat 2 of those” he didn’t know it would hurt her. Me hearing that I would have simply been like “yeah why what’s up?” In a normal tone. He only said that because he was going to make a huge supper and didn’t want her to be too full. He clearly thought she ate something before hence why he was surprised when she said she’d only had a banana. Let’s not make him out to be a villain. Is he childish? Yes I knew that from the beginning, however she is definitely not innocent and is honestly worse in my opinion.

[@QueenSoledad]

I get the vibe that Cole isn't a horrible person, but he definitely is NOT ready to be married to anyone.

[@lapris7380]

Yeah

[@violetsden]

Oh yeah absolutely and Zanab is no narcissist but definitely insecure and should've apologized for some of the things she did.

[@lillianabright03]

how is he not a bad person?? y'all will literally find any reason to excuse men's behaviour

[@allanallan2171]

Zanab wild

[@Jayy_Loves]

@@lillianabright03bc he’s not a bad person ? He’s just really immature and he needs to grow as a person first lmao , he def doesn’t intend malice or spite

[@matariki9818]

I'm honestly so mad at the producers for not adressing the Matt problem, not even once, and not at the reunion. It should be said at some point that he's a walking red flag and this looks like an abusive relationship. I was screaming at the TV like why is no one telling something ? Why are they not adressing his huge mood swings ? They focused more on Bartise and Cole, who are dumbasses, yes, but they are not dangerous. Matt is DANGEROUS and this should be adressed, I can't believe this relationship is shown as normal and a success on TV.

[@VashtiPerry]

Your assessment of Cole and Zanab is spot on. I have no idea how they connected in the pods except they both lack a ton of self awareness.

[@lisah3460]

They connected over a trauma bond.

[@Jessica.Shawnte]

@@lisah3460what trauma did he have?

[@NothingGoodHere1001]

Considering the way Matt and Coleen minimized their arguments on the show, really makes you wonder how "small" their "day to day" arguments actually are..

[@bellaloves2815]

I have never clicked so quickly, I have been WAITING for part two of Kennie’s Love is Blind rundown. It is the only way I’m watching that messy show Also side note: Kennie looking CUUUTE with her hair, lashes and earring this video! (Always stunning of course)

[@TrainingTipsy]

I was sooooo hoping she posted this today! No disappointment was experienced here! 💙

[@audyshtpostshere4708]

omg im getting the earrings for my own bday gift :)

[@bella_ciao_8]

Same except Ill admit its not the only reason I watch the show haha.. and ya I had a feeling she'd posted this today.

[@Dontbeafoolontheinternet]

!!!!!!!!

[@asmileisspecial]

“This isn’t fun anymore” sums up exactly how I felt watching that reunion. I felt so sad and sick and triggered and couldn’t believe I ended up going from hating Cole to being upset for him. I feel like I watched someone get bullied and lose all sense of their reality.

[@OpqHMg]

💯😬😬💯

[@OpqHMg]

I'm tired of (as a feminist) watching people downplay toxicity when it comes from a woman because feminism apparently

[@rastakind3]

@@OpqHMg THANK YOU for pointing this out. It seems to have been lost on the reviewer and the posters that just want to focus on Cole’s issues but want to push Zay’s under the rug…

[@Miranda-gi9fx]

@@OpqHMg Thank you that is frustrating to me. Cole was a mess but Zanab was not perfect either and what she did at the end was out of place.

[@talkswithjas7959]

I was so triggered!!!! It literally made me lose respect 😊for the hosts and the entire cast. All men aren’t villains and all women aren’t victims. Zanab is awful and has a horrible personality. I pray that she gets help.

[@Laurenjoinsyoutube]

When Zaynab was going off on Cole at the alter I was like why is she saying this in front of the love ones and not privately. The friends clapping felt calculated & rude

[@AnnaVictrix]

Because she engaged in Triangulation, an emotional abuse tactic.

[@ryanaali7116]

@@AnnaVictrix can you elab- actually, never mind, I was going to ask you to elaborate but then realized that google is a thing. I shall look up this term, as I have never heard it before >.>

[@gokcenakdag8189]

​@@AnnaVictrixi call revenge. He was super bad to her the whole time deserved that shame. He gave hee eating disorder and stuff

[@angemari268]

@@ryanaali7116 why did you stutter in a comment💀

[@ryanaali7116]

@@angemari268 because i started doing it in discord and i developed a bad habit 💀

[@ilovebooksandmycats669]

cole deserved to be told what he did wrong, but humiliating him in front of friends and family like that was cruel and undeserved

[@lindamaryninha]

He looked depressed on the reunion, I really think he didn't deserve all this hate.

[@emanx222]

My problem with this is that he already already told what he did wrong and in 2 cases it was for the same situation i.e. the Colleen situation which she led him to believe she'd gotten over only to rehash the situation after talking to Matt in which, mind you, nothing new was even discussed. So she basically got mad for literally no reason and then when she realised she had no leg to stand on she started blaming Cole again even though at this point he'd done NOTHING wrong. Also, unlike Zanab, Cole at the very least took accountability, she never once did, like literally not once, she always had an excuse and found some way to explain away her bullshit. Cole is no doubt a man child, painfully immature and managed to put his foot In his mouth too many times, the difference between him and Zanab is that he was never vindictive about ANY of his flaws whereas zanab was vindictive in damn near every way. Her gross misinterpretation of the cuties story genuinely showed just how fucked up her sense of reality is, like it's actually worrying that she reimagine reality to such a degree

[@atarabrowne1142]

Like the way she dragged him at the wedding made me glad his parents didn’t participate. It would have been just as embarrassing like Nancy and Bartise. A hot mess!

[@undercoverfangirl5491]

I don’t think he would’ve listened. We all saw the argument they had during that chicken dinner. I doubt he could take an honest conversation with her seriously, especially with the horrible Bipolar comment.

[@emanx222]

@@undercoverfangirl5491 honestly given how hot and cold zanab was plus the way she distorts reality, I actually can't say I'm surprised immature Cole asked that question. It was tasteless but knowing what we know now.....can I blame him? Nope!

[@catherinej6542]

What surprised me about nancy is that she felt blindsided by bartise saying no. GIRL you're telling me you fought with this man on multiple occasions, he's made you upset, called raven a 'smokeshow' nonstop, had very different views on abortion and you expected him to say yes???? I'm glad he did say no but tbh I really wanted nancy to be the one to say it😭

[@LisaFrank39]

Nancy was giving desperation. Its just bartise sis

[@JJ-mr4vv]

I think she felt blindsided bc(according to her) he begged her not to say no when she wanted to, so he gave her the impression that he too would be saying yes when in reality he just didn't want to get rejected, he wanted to do the rejecting.

[@tracie2191]

@@JJ-mr4vv even if he begged her to stay, he treated her so badly. Consistency is so important in a relationship

[@AvaWarrenn]

And also he stopped talking to her because he was no longer "sexually attracted to her". Wtf was that?!

[@ojs5988]

I was screaming "girl LEAVE!" the moment he decided to share a private, personal conversation they had with his parents. He was a child throughout

[@ericgymfan]

The reunion honestly made me cringe because I felt so uncomfortable. After watching the reunion I feel like a large amount of the people were toxic. I'm very worried for Colleen. I am trying not to speculate out of respect but at the very least something bad happened in her life recently (at that point) and I hope she's doing ok. Also Zanab needs therapy asap edit: fixed grammar issue

[@wigglemelon8807]

I was definitely thinking that about Zanab. She projects HARD, and she literally lied about him manipulating her into an ED

[@Mistical1982]

I felt disgusted after the reunion. Poor Cole!

[@awetistic5295]

As someone who had been to therapy several times and firmly believes in it - yes. You can't grow and learn from your mistakes when you don't even acknowledge them. I think she actually believes her own version of the truth, that's why she could easily manipulate the rest of the group. It's not healthy for her either and she's been through a lot, but you can't deal with it by hurting others.

[@alexhendry2120]

This show needs to be hosted and structured by couples therapists. The couples should receive individual and couples therapy the entire duration of the show and after the show. They keep saying that they want to prove that love is blind but the pods and vacations are not nearly enough. If you want love to thrive, it has to be supported.

[@ryanaali7116]

let's be real, that show isn't to prove love is blind, at this rate it's for drama jdsldbgfjlskdfg

[@bowspalding-xv3kc]

As a therapist, I couldn't ethically join a show that is designed to create trauma bonds...

[@Driven_by_l.o.v.e]

@@bowspalding-xv3kcagreed. But I do think that these individuals should seek therapy. And yes, I think this is an exploitation of a human’s basic need to be heard and understood and as someone who works in this field, it’s quite traumatizing and painful to watch.

[@devonmunn5728]

​@@bowspalding-xv3kc Exactly. Any therapist with integrity has the sense to NOT work on these shows

[@bushdenae]

When Colleen looked to Matt when asked how things were then just parroted him 🚩🚩. She looked damn near scared of saying the wrong thing!

[@kayleighsmh]

officially dubbing this season’s round of men the “andrew tate collective”

[@anetak.9494]

I would say only Matt and Bartise but the rest?

[@moustik31]

FOR. REAL.

[@moustik31]

@@anetak.9494 Cole as well.

[@anetak.9494]

@@moustik31 I think he is just clumsy and immature but he is capable of reflecting and seeing if he has done something wrong..whereas the others are totally on that "red pill bus"

[@anetak.9494]

@@Madison-tf6qf yup!

[@MistieHollow]

From 16:28 to 16:35 Matt is no longer looking at Colleen, he's staighten up to look down at her. That gesture along with what he was saying just sent off a red flag for me.

[@pragyasingh2297]

I genuinely still worry abt Colleen. Girl BLINK TWICE IF YOU NEED HELP.

[@mirandaleffler]

kendall you have NO business looking this flawless and sophisticated. the lashes the hair the energy. like wtf. 😭💜

[@TyMarie92]

My ex was just like matt so him exploding at Colleen was a huge trigger for me. BUT it has been SOOOOOOOOOOOOO validating to hear other people saying how scary he seems. I hope she leaves that marriage but I'm at least glad that other people watching this can tell this behavior is not normal. It's a sobering realization seeing it happen outside of your relationship and watching how everyone else reacts to it.

[@Jay-bh1xm]

There are so many things I want to say but struggle to articulate about the couples and this hellscape of a show, but man. Matt? Scares the absolute crap outta me. Absolutely insane. “Coleen 😊😄Tell me how you feel 😃 Say it. Say it. Say it. Saaaay it… 😀Say it.” The tone, the fake smile, his gaze… It was in that moment that I realized he was fucking scary. Like, I don’t want to label anyway but that man raises red flags like it’s nobody’s business!!!

[@naledimashishi9081]

Matt genuinely terrifys me. He screams abuser and Colleen looked so uncomfortable during the reunion. I really hope she's able to get out of there. On another note, I am so glad you said this about Zenab because the demonisation of her on social media has been uncomfortable to watch. People are completely glossing over the fact that he disrespected her consistently and belittled her when she tried to address his comments. Yes Zenab was condescending and insecure but him making it clear he wasn't attracted to her obviously wasn't going to help things. I've even seen people claim she abused him and I'm like ??? did we all watch the same show??

[@clairephillips8226]

THANKYOU!!! people are acting like shes awful and cole is an angel and it doesnt make any sense to me like did y'all forget everything we just watched except for the cuties thing? its giving misogyny to me. it was obviously a miscommunication but everyone jumps right to her being a liar and manipulative

[@jadakamau7341]

Uhhh no this is where I draw the line of you people defending Zanab. From the jump Zanab projected her insecurities on Cole. She asked cole repetitively to rate her beauty and question how she looked. Because cole is immature he was wrong in the way he responded to those question. Now did he answer those question with malicious intent absolutely not. And the moment he realized that his words which were probably intended to be light hearted and fun deeply hurt Zanab he switched up and focused on making himself a better man for her. Even in those moments Zanab still acted so condescending and angry. What pissed me off about Zanab was when she got to the wedding and acted so happy and giddy, even going as far to say she wanted to kiss him AND THEN going and saying all those nasty things. When cole had the biggest character arc and growth Zanab still fixated on the problem they had 3 weeks before. Which shows you that Zanab couldn’t get over that!!

[@not_botheredd9893]

@@jadakamau7341 dude, are you serious? Acting like her insecurity came from nowhere even though he FLIRTED with the woman he said he was more attracted to. You Cole defenders really wont admit how much of this was his fault

[@not_botheredd9893]

@@jadakamau7341 "character arc and growth". the man took her to a ballroom lesson and THAT'S growth to you? Or was the example of "growth" him calling her bipolar which, btw, happened BEFORE the wedding. The man cried one time after he got called out by everyone for denying his actions and now everyone thinks he's a saint. He still has much to work on just like all the others

[@fifi8690]

its textbook gaslighting to try and convince someone that they did something that they didnt. and that was demonstrated by what she said at the reunion and the cuties scene

[@dramonmaster222]

Yeah, I am happy that SK & Raven are still together. They had some bumps but their relationship feels the most organic and real.

[@princessofhell4639]

Sucks he apparently cheated on her now tho

[@ClaireHaire]

*Life comes at you fast, this doesn't age well.*

[@salwaa1993]

Am I the only one that was so surprised when Zanab said her wedding was a week after Deepti’s???? I wanna know how filming goes down and planning.

[@JJ-mr4vv]

Same

[@ariariari1]

season 2 and 3 were approved at the same time so they were most likely filmed together. theyre only in the pods for about a week or so, so after deepti's pod time they probably started zanabs cycle. puts them a week behind. this reunion episode may not be as recent as we think either. couples arent allowed to announce their divorced/separated until a year after their season ends so some of the time gaps isnt as obvious. season 2 cast recently had a show dedicated to life "after the altar" where some of them were married, but at the end credits it said all of them were already divorced lol

[@shadypalmtree2989]

@@ariariari1 the reunion episode was definitely filmed recently since they brought up the internets reaction to Andrew. I can guarantee that it was filled between week 2/3 drop.

[@lou6018]

I genuinely almost cried when I heard Colleen said yes. I just hope she stays safe.

[@ClumsyTea]

Raven and SK had a mature love, I am happy they still are together. Cole is very immature, but Zanab is very controlling, I was on her side until the reunion, there was something off about it, but maybe it’s editing. And Matt scares me and I hope Colleen is okay. Bartise saying no was spoiled in one of the previews, so I knew it was coming. Nancy saying yes was a surprise though. Edit: I take that shit back about SK because WTF???

[@diamcole]

Same. I didn't like how she tried to villainize him.

[@tamialeslie7187]

He did that to himself

[@TheNumnutRandomness]

Me, not even investing in the show outside of Kennie's videos did the biggest "NO," when Nancy said yes.

[@Naturefan354]

@@tamialeslie7187 No sorry nothing he did has justified the campaign to assassinate his character that she has gone on. She actually is still trying to make people believe she's the second coming of Christ and he is Lucifer🙄 And now everyone can finally see how unhinged she is really is

[@dedeortiz4613]

@@tamialeslie7187 he said a few off things but she’s the one that kept making them way worse than what it needed to be. he’s always thought she was pretty from the beginning. She just thought that somebody else was slightly prettier. But then he apologized about everything he said, and they were going good for a while, but then Zay had to step in and be too controlling in the kitchen. She was right about how he was cooking the food, but she should’ve said that in a more helpful way instead of being mean about it.

[@alexianaughton3811]

That's why the best Love is blind is from Japan. It's drama free and the couple were honest enough to end their relationship before the altar.

[@emanx222]

I entirely agree with this omg. I cannot wait for season 2 to come out

[@fdscrl6016]

And the two couples that got married are having a baby this year ❤❤❤

[@Monochrome_11]

Is it also on netflix?

[@allisonbriscoe7010]

Yeah Love is Blind Japan is on Netflix

[@Andrea7373_]

Idk about y’all but I watch this for the drama lol

[@sunnybunny1318]

i really agree with your perspective on the cuties story. everyone says zanab lied or exaggerated but it's a paraphrase of how it went. and i like that you added the nuance of perspective and personal sensitivity to topics/approaches of said topics

[@nobodyinparticular1290]

I love Nancy's family that was the sweetest shit. Their anger is a testament to how much they care for Nancy.

[@elix1133]

I'm chronically independent so I've taught myself, when people do try to do things for me especially things I like to do or am good at like cooking, to instead of butting in and taking over because they're "doing it wrong" to ask from the beginning "do you want help or do you want to do it by yourself?" and then if they say yes to clarify that with asking things like if they want my recipe, if they want help with chopping, if they want help doing an especially hard part, or evaluating whether the food is finished.

[@nnn9122]

I love this.

[@daydream5120]

It’s good that you saw a part of yourself and improved. I’m very independent as well and sometimes get into the mind set of saying: “if you want it done right, I might as well do it myself”. I can see that being unhealthy. It’s still a work in progress though to not just take over other people’s lives

[@Leannbby]

As far as coles family being racist.. this IS Texas. I’m Texan born and raised and my family doesn’t get to see me or my children because of their racism. So I 100% see that being the reason why.

[@DosesOfZia]

I also wonder how much influence production has because SK clearly knew within the first few days he wasn’t ready to marry her. There was no need to go that far but I’m happy they’re dating now.

[@Adaobieistyping]

I think it’s in the contract they have to get to the altar

[@bella_ciao_8]

100% agree with your read on the Matt and Colleen situation. When I watched the reunion seeing how he was made me sick to my stomach. We saw none of the big smile she had at the beginning of the show, and her body language said it all. She looked geniunely scared and I just hope she gets out before it goes too bad. That boy needs therapy the most, period.

[@leahmarie2108]

I 100% agree with you about Zanab's wedding speech, Cole DID need to be called out but not in front of all his friends and family. I'm convinced it was premeditated on her part and she was trying to humiliate him. I really think she is more manipulative than you are saying, though. The way she was saying "I forgive you Cole" blah blah at the reunion was so off-putting, like she was framing him as the villain and then trying to make herself into"the bigger person." It felt so gross to me. I didn't like Cole either but it wasn't like he was evil and Zanab was innocent. She was just as bad imo

[@Febreezy]

it's a relief to see a sound interpretation of Cole and Zanab's experience.

[@salem-01]

Zanabs wedding speech was insane, what ??? Both speechless and honestly somewhat amazed.

[@charliebrown1796]

She holds a grudge and is vengeful AF. She needs therapy.

[@Saphiera270]

no seriously she's so vindictive, i don't believe she's forgiven him at all

[@jasminejones4272]

@@Saphiera270 - I don’t think she did either. Every time he tried to apologize, she was like “I have already forgiven you,” but then turn around and bring it up again. She basically turned others against Cole based on her perception of things.

[@four1629]

this hair and jewelry is giving rich auntie that takes you to six flags and lets you drink little sips of her mojito at papa deaux. we love her.

[@mikaylamcfadden7866]

Yes we love that auntie she goes on the roller coasters too

[@alyset.3083]

I think Zanab misinterpreted a lot, which explains her wedding speech and the applause/response to it. I think she really did think Cole wanted her skinnier, as evident by who he preferred (Colleen), but I don’t think he ever outwardly forced her not eat (behaviors like when he was sharing her berries was probably interpreted as “lemme help you not eat all of this” instead of “I just want to share some berries with you.”). I think she forced herself to cut her calories to match what she thought he wanted, leading to malnutrition, irritability, and cognitive impairment, because based from “the cuties” clip, he really did want her to eat. Idk, just my take🤷🏽‍♀️

[@GigiofGigi]

He liked Colleen because she was nice, and Zanab couldn’t understand that and thought it meant skinner and whiter

[@wells346]

@@GigiofGigi nah he definitely said he usually went for girls that look like Colleen

[@grae_x]

He also asked her if she was bipolar due to her changing her mind. He didn’t talk to her in a supportive manner.

[@4everTimber]

@@wells346 I interpreted that as he typically went for white girls, not necessarily “skinny girls” or “fit girls” since Colleen is more fit than skinny, but who knows

[@GigiofGigi]

@@wells346 idk how else to explain it but Colleen “looks” bubbly and happy and fun. He would not have liked Colleen with Zanabs personality

[@littlerelief]

God, that fear of guys like Matt is so real. I lived with a dude like that as a roommate, a really sensitive guy who was BADLY hurt early on and has subsisted on the blood pouring from that wound ever since, and they're scarier than narcissists to me. In their mind, the pain they were put through justifies anything they could do in the future and guarantees them permanent victim status even when they've fully moved on to hurting others.

[@LifeOfKells]

If only Kennie could’ve been at Bartiste’s wedding to remind everyone of the silver lining with him saying No🤣🤣🤣

[@Glowinthedarkshark]

I’m so glad it wasn’t just me who was SO SCARED for Coleen. Hearing him go off on her or about her brought me back to my abusive ex, and I mean he’s not the same person my ex was, but I got that exact fight or flight feeling. I feel so worried for her. I hope he does go to therapy.

[@MADZOUA]

I don't get why people are scared of Matt

[@4everTimber]

The only thing I would want from this show is an episode of Nancy’s brothers beating up Barstool. Other than that, I think they can wrap up this experiment since these men are proving that love is NOT blind.

[@__Oku__]

Can we just appreciate how *gorgeous* Kennie's hair is? I'm actually mesmerized, I can't look away 😳

[@s4rah9]

I thought it was odd that SK expected Raven to move to California for 2 years while he does his masters. Specially after saying so many times that he wants a non traditional wife… that just didn’t add up for me. I also felt he could have been more supportive with the whole her family not wanting to be at the wedding thing. We don’t know the full story but it seems like she’s not close with her family and it hurts her so I wish he would have stood up for her in terms of this since its something she cannot control.

[@salem-01]

Well after everything that came out with SK cheating I’m not super surprised

[@abnormalusername]

'This isn't fun anymore' perfectly encapsulates my thoughts on the final few episodes. I have way too many opinions on the love lives of these strangers. I need to talk to my real life friends more. All in all, I think your review was fairly temperate in your judgements of everyone. They definitely need more self awareness. I wish they played the 'cuties' interaction in front of Zanab. I often think about how much editing influences the way we view the couple's interactions. Nancy might be too nice for her own good. Very surprised that Matt and Colleen got married/is still married- I'm glad you mentioned how they totally swept Matt's behavior under the rug. I wish Andrew came on, I needed more moments of levity; he's unintentionally hilarious.

[@birthe_]

I think that they avoided talking about Matt´s behavoir to somewhat protect Colleen, because she has to deal with his reactions in private and from what we´ve seen he doesn´t really react properly. Normally they´re focused on the drama of course, but calling him out might cause some dangerous behaviors from him. Could be absolutely wrong tho

[@loredanaolsen4323]

What Kennie said about Zanab having to grow up quickly is true. Zanab said it herself in episode 1 or 2 when she spoke about the death of hr dad when she was 13 and how it forced her into growing up quickly so her teenage years were her grieving years. Perhaps that's why she also was more impatient with Cole. I, too, would lose my mind if I dated someone as childish as Cole. Different strokes for different folks 🤣

[@jadakamau7341]

Yeah what we aren’t gonna do is defend Zanab. People have trauma. Go get help. Don’t let that trauma create more trauma for other people.

[@undercoverfangirl5491]

@@jadakamau7341 excuse you? What we’re not gonna do is vilify her instead of saying they were both wrong in the relationship.

[@Aster_Risk]

@@undercoverfangirl5491 You only defended Zenab, though. Taking out her trauma on Cole isn't okay just because he's childish and annoying.

[@vikkidonn]

@@Aster_Risk taking someone’s brief comment of understanding why someone acts the way they do isn’t a backing of support for the actions they do. Also there’s a difference between taking out your trauma on someone and that someone literally just being immature and not to your level. Doesn’t make it right but it is to say they aren’t for each other

[@fifi8690]

the whole point of the show tho is to date based off personality, so its just weird it took her up until the second she happened to be on the altar to really go off on him

[@DosesOfZia]

I’m just so confused why the hosts didn’t ask Matt and Bartise about their BS. And why wait until the end of the reunion to air the footage where Zenab lied on Cole? Lifetime and TLC would never! They’re going to put you in the hot seat every time.

[@a.cdiamonds8370]

Raven said on her social media they did drag Bartise but the editors left it out of the footage we saw

[@alondra9111]

I don't think they were trying to leave out the cuties footage, it seems like she suddenly brought it up at the reunion so the producers added it after the fact

[@noiya.r.n]

She didn’t lie on Cole though? She literally narrated word-for-word the same thing that happened in the footage, her interpretation was just very different. And it is not abnormal to have distorted perception of comments about food if someone has eating or body image issues.

[@lenmorenox]

@@noiya.r.n well her interpretation was off which leads to lying since she is essentially implying that he trigger her ed. and we can see in the clip, which she used as a reference, that was not the case.

[@Confettifun]

@@noiya.r.n she did lie. She said he pushed food away from her- her NEVER did that

[@AA-qt1hi]

Seriously SK is the most down to earth and mentally healthy person on the show. Raven had her odd moments but I felt she was the same among the females. That made him and Raven weirdly the couple I was rooting for. I'm glad he articulated to her what he wanted in THEIR relationship.

[@beautifullytextured6136]

...this didn't age well

[@bean_enthusiast]

@@beautifullytextured6136 Wait what??? What happened??

[@beautifullytextured6136]

@@bean_enthusiast SK was /is a cheater

[@bean_enthusiast]

@@beautifullytextured6136 I'm disappointed but not surprised :(

[@CloroxBleach-bz1by]

@@beautifullytextured6136 typical

[@rebekahdrummond2818]

honestly matt and colleen remind me of my sister and her ex. he was extremely abusive to her both mentally and physically and he sounds/acts EXACTLY how matt does to the point where it sent shivers down my spine. not only that but colleen has the same demeanour my sister did, especially when her ex would yell at her and she’d just sheepishly try to get it over with?? honestly feel really scared for colleen, ik how hard it is to escape partners like that even when you have good friends and family because everyone in my sisters life tried to break her and her ex off for years.

[@sweetesttemptation22]

“Say it. Say it. Say it.” Was I the only one like, “Shut up & let her say it then geez!” Lol, that would have shut me down. I can’t even finish a sentence? You must not really want to hear what I have to say but want to hear what you THINK I would say. Crazy.

[@MunichRebel]

well I think Nancy's brother was mad that he knew Bartise was going to say no, like, he could probably tell since he first met him but Bartise still had to drag his sister out to a wedding an embarrass her in front of everyone. I feel like there has to be some sort or agreement that if you accept someone's proposal there has to be a wedding no matter what.

[@justthelettersio2979]

Thats not true. In season 2 the tall blonde gave the little man his ring back after saying yes

[@mmem4264]

Yeah but they didn’t even last the honeymoon phase. Like Diamond and that other dude in s1. I think if the couple gets to the living together/meet the parents phase than that might have to have a wedding. 🤔

[@MunichRebel]

@@mmem4264 oh yeah that's very true and makes sense.

[@VieDeBle]

Just watching these clips of Matt and Colleen gave me chills... Like something is definitely not right there, I hope she is safe

[@SparklesNJazz]

I was just as blindsided by Zanab as Cole was, to be honest. I was never a big fan of Cole. He always kind of made me cringe, but he is also very childlike and I think there are so few people in the world who are able to be that open and silly, that I, in a strange way, appreciated his playfulness (when it wasn't totally immature and disrespectful). However, I also thought that Zanab was a nice girl who just had some control issues. She did seem genuine to me when she insisted that she loved Cole and I thought I knew where she was coming from. Then, at the wedding, I was totally shocked. I thought one of them might say no because they have so many problems, and it's clear that they did rub each other the wrong way and hurt each other a few times throughout the process, but I never expected her to turn on him and humiliate him like she did. I thought it was so out of line. That could've and SHOULD'VE been a conversation they had privately. Especially when it comes to what she said at the reunion about him policing her food. Why the hell did she not bring that up in conversation with him? Why did she WAIT until he was exposed in front of family and friends during the wedding and in front of everyone at the reunion to bring up MAJOR problems she was having with him??? I also think the editing did us WAY dirty. I would be so curious to see what their interactions were actually like and how much he was ACTUALLY immature and making her feel insecure versus how much she was ACTUALLY so controlling and nit-picky with him. Also, the reunion episode was just terrible in general. There was no reason for them all to gang up on Cole the way they did. They all did shitty things but for some reason it became the "bully Cole" party. Imo, if they really had to bully someone, it should've been Bartise.

[@maimounakomla6584]

💯

[@JasonToddsThighs]

And also, like Kennie said, they just kind of brushed past Matt's incredibly concerning (potentially abusive) behavior in favor of ganging up on Cole. The priorities of straight culture is really befuddling to me at times . . .

[@gigitastic90]

So I have a couple thoughts. 1.As a disabled person my first thought of this permanent jewelry was "What if you need a MRI?". Like the idea of a piece of jewelry that you cant just slip off seems so dumb to me. I'm glad you can rip it off but I feel like it would suck to have to get a medical test and have your "forever' bracelet torn off in order to do so. 2.I found almost all the men besides Brennen and SK awful, but Matt? Matt truly SCARED me. Like I was genuinely anxious and scared when I saw how he treated Colleen. I was so upset at the reunion that they never addressed Matt's abusive tendencies. Psychology Today even did an article on how alarming it was

[@sarahokon9376]

Just read it. Pretty spot on. Then I read the one posted about cole and zanab. So enlightening

[@drmsd14]

As an operating room nurse, my first thought was "Well that's getting cut off if either one needs surgery. That''s just stupid." Oh, wow! Psychology Today??? Yikes! The scene with Matt and Colleen at the aquarium was so aggressive and angry.

[@manfriedhatch3111]

haven't finished yet, but the part you mentioned talking about Zanab having this "fine I'll do it myself" complex and the the fallout that comes from living that way just really resonated with me (as someone who's also had to mature fast and had to rely on myself a lot), you've just been dropping facts these past few months (edit) finished! man, this show, its just... wow... like, I get where Zanab is coming from, when someone you are vulnerable with has constantly made you feel lesser (especially when you are already so insecure) not only did she want to tell him how she felt, but she wanted to humiliate him in front everyone bc she thinks that's what he "deserves" for how he's treated her. but I agree with you, it was uncalled for and really malicious. no matter how much someone has hurt you... God, so many layers... I guess even if she understands he's shit, she just can't let him go until he really "gets" what she went through, so bc he humiliated and degraded her, she won't feel satisfied unless she puts him through the same thing, ie on the altar. but that's the thing about having an "eye for an eye" policy, is it just drags you down with them. Idk if all that made sense, but yeah. 10/10 vid always love your takes on these toxic romance shows and movies, keep up the good work!

[@Madison-tf6qf]

Watching her was like a splash of cold water to my face.

[@fridaherbst719]

Yesyesyes you put it perfectly into words! One kinda good thing that came from this whole season is me really realizing that these are just real people dealing with stuff condensed into forced storylines. I know I know nothing new, but the scene with Zanab and Cole that wasn't edited at all just kind of put it into perspective for me that these are just regular people spending a few weeks together like 24/7. I really don't know why you would put yourself and your feelings on such a public display but that may also be my avoidant attachment style talking.

[@toodleloos]

Yeah, "malicious" is the word I was thinking. It was a VERY 'humiliate him in front of everyone' and flat out just wasn't cool, whether or not she needed to say it

[@angeish20]

Lol she wasn't trying to humiliate the guy she just wanted to say the reasons why she was saying no and she spoke nothing but the truth and yall didn't have any problem with that and were still rooting for her until the reunion where they showed the cuties scene which still yall defending him coz his excuse was that he was telling her to keep her appetite coz they were gon have a big meal but no. No one should comment about what ur eating and if she thought she could handle eating two oranges and the big meal she was gon do just that. Even if that clip had proven anything how does one thing erase every single thing that man did to her and yall gotta stop telling her to go to therapy coz she's insecure coz who isnt and he definitely wasnt helping things by making all those comments literally going around the party telling everyone who didn't ask about how he finds a woman who is Not his fiance soo much more attractive and perfect for him on a usual day she is and tell me that's not him disrespecting her coz lets not forget he also flirted with said girl and destroying her confidence which is exactly what she said at the altar like nothing but truth was spoken there so idk why the internet is mad. The only thing wrong she did was being as passive aggressive and stuck up as she was w him sometimes when he was trynna be fun but she doesn't deserve to be labeled a monster on the internet while he's getting away freely w the shit he did to her like cmon. Man's clothes are always on the floor and she's always telling him to pick it up so ur gon get annoyed at some point and he has FLIES in the toilet chilee.. basically bottom line is she's too mature n he's too immature and he's gotta grow up n he's not used to dating woc and she's insecure and has to work on that and also find a man who's more mature n so they gon b on the same level of maturity and she gotta live a little sometimes n learn how to share space but yall have gotta stop making her the villain btn the two n slandering her on the internet coz im not sure yall wouldnt b frustrated if u had to deal with a colde

[@rastakind3]

BS She wasn’t trying to humiliate him at the altar. Lookit, we know you are on Zay’s side, but could you be a little more objective? He said some immature things. He made the CARDINAL sin of saying he thought someone was a 10 (AFTER, I might add, his insecure fiancé asked him TO RATE HER..(what are we..still in high school? If you don’t want a person’s truth, don’t ask for it if you can’t handle it)). She is a vindictive asshole. Cool. Just own it then. And you know what?? SHE DID OWN IT..with her bogus “apology” on instagram. But, Cole is the devil because “man bad,” I suppose…

[@bzzbzzbee]

quoting Kennie: "The hair? The fit? The face? contagious"

[@alexvlahakis9704]

Seeing Colleen after a year in this marriage at the reunion… I hope she finds a way out safely

[@Ariel-uj3kk]

I’m so glad someone said something about the cutie’s situation with actual intelligence. The internet has been disappointing me on that all week. I completely agree with what you said the relationship lacked good communication and they both need to work on themselves outside of relationships learn to be better partners

[@jiggyjuvi]

the main thing that's been annoying me about the fans of this show is them blaming the cast for things that are OBVIOUSLY productions fault. like waiting until the wedding to say I do/don't... it is so ridiculously obvious that that would be a clause in the contract bc if they were allowed to do it beforehand there would be nothing to film lol the season would be like 4 episodes long! almost all reality shows are like this too so it's been so confusing to me to see ppl act like this is the first time they've heard of producers making questionable decisions for ratings

[@jiggyjuvi]

also, anyone that's team Zanab after the reunion is crazy (Cole's fav word lol not a fan of him either btw) yeah ok she's insecure... work on that then! that's not an excuse to gaslight your partner! and she's no where near as mature as she thinks, mature ppl don't gaslight ppl and blame others for their lack of self confidence (bc any sensible adult knows that your SELF confidence comes from yourSELF)

[@jiggyjuvi]

​@@Planetunknown-n9i I don't think that implies any changes bc the keyword there is "early". same happened with Carlton and Diamond from season 1.. but what I meant by beforehand is you can't go through each stage of the show and make it to like ep 9 then call it quits right before the wedding lol they most likely have a small time frame to quit

[@kiacating8029]

god I felt the exact same way when Bartise said no, was SO relieved for Nancy

[@tash936]

Me too!!! I was like girl do u have a prenup! Alexa mentioned a prenup quick fast lol Nancy has all these properties and investments talking about what's mine is yours 😵‍💫

[@yourmotherhatesyou641]

@@tash936 So glad Alexa brought that up too. She seemed like the only smart one on the show.

[@Laurenjoinsyoutube]

When I tell you I had legit tears during SK and Raven wedding. But I was happy they are taking time to get to know each other more and take it slow

[@asmileisspecial]

I actually screamed NOOOOO at my screen when he said no and then I sort of understood why he said no but was still mad he didn’t really communicate those things were dealbreakers (in a way we saw- he might have told Raven). Glad they’re still dating though, I feel like they’ll last the longest.

[@kadygirlforever]

SK was lying this whole time

[@salem-01]

@@kadygirlforever yup, a cheater and a liar. Fun

[@annmaries_way]

I think the problem with the reunion is that the girls are in respectful friendships with boundaries situation. When your friend is still in denial and defensive over her ex you can't go in on him compared to a friend who is ready to confront her ex. That's why they were quite with Barstool and Matt but where very 'harsh' on Cole. Zanab gave the greenlight but Nancy was still defending. And ofcourse Colleen is still in the trenches.

[@brisa5876]

I haven't watched the show for myself but every time I see clips about Cole, I can't help but feel like he has ADHD. He shows a lot of symptoms (childish, impulsive, not self-aware, messy, blurts things out, doesn't think about consequences of his actions, etc) and, as someone with ADHD, I relate to a lot of his actions. It doesn't excuse what he's done or said, but I feel like he should at the very least get tested.

[@JasonToddsThighs]

Yeeeeaaah, I thought I was the only one who felt the same way. From my own experience, he kind of gives off a vibe that he grew up being treated like a "troubled child" and never got the help he needed, which might explain why he acts the way he does. Never getting any REAL positive affirmation, plus going this long without being medicated . . . it can explain a lot. Not demeaning him or excusing his immaturity, but he definitely seems a bit easier to sympathize with given that context.

[@allbutperfect]

Sounds like another excuse to let him off the hook, imo.

[@brisa5876]

@@allbutperfect Do you know how ADHD works? How symptoms can look in adults? It's a real disability that can affect anyone and can sometimes end up looking like messiness, laziness, immaturity, etc. Not saying we need to "let him off the hook", just saying he could be silently struggling with a disability without even realizing it.

[@mfuentes4961]

I wonder if any of the contestants will sue the producers/Netflix for emotional damages after their NDA expires. I would not be surprised if that happens.

[@pistaluv]

If I was zenab I would 1000% sue Netflix for that AND defamation 😭

[@TripleBWow]

@@pistaluv You are probably right. Because just like on the show, Zanab never takes any personal responsibility for her actions and tries to put the blame on someone else.

[@pistaluv]

@@TripleBWow oh well since cole is a “wee angel” whose actions can all be forgiven because he’s apologized zenab deserves the amount of targeted hate and harassment she’s getting 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@heatheraggus7501]

@@TripleBWow haha well said!!!

[@BTheTrue]

@@pistaluv the difference between the two of them is called ' taking responsibility "

[@rhiannajd4412]

I was impatiently waiting for Kennie’s reaction to the finale 😭

[@amandaguajardo2240]

Me to!!

[@kirs777]

watching the reunion i’m also worried for colleen at first i thought it was just camera angles or how it was edited but she just looked uncomfortable and scared the whole time hopefully she’s ok

[@roshnipatel2000]

24:30 As someone with Bipolar disorder, he clearly doesn’t understand how bipolar works. Does this disorder cause changes in attitude? Yes. But it doesn’t mean that your mood switches in an instant; mood swings are gradual (in my experience)

[@manic_girl]

Rewatching this and YEP. Bipolar people get a stigma of having a million different mood swings a day, like a ticking time bomb that could be set off by anything. I’m “rapid cycling” and my episodes still last for weeks. And as long as I take my meds consistently, go to therapy, and keep a solid routine, I’m completely stable.

[@Istandinthesun943]

I would have almost believed Cole that nothing happened after the bachelor party but it was so sketchy that none of the guys said a WORD. That was the craziest part of the reunion to me

[@kameryn2918]

Same! It was so weird that nobody backed him up. Like how hard would it have been to speak up and say “we didn’t go anywhere else after the saloon”??

[@shadypalmtree2989]

I don’t think he actually did anything. Matt and Brennon didn’t say anything because they didn’t see anything or (in Brennon’s case) went along with their wives.

[@theMoporter]

Hey, if you have nothing good to say...

[@sunflowersandsand]

A couple of them did say they went in an uber home right after the saloon

[@BelleLeilaNoir]

I was confused cus they said they couldn't even remember that night. I have a hard time believing they were all plastered like that.