Wedding Day DISAPPOINTMENT | What if things go WRONG?

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Wedding Day DISAPPOINTMENT | What if things go WRONG?
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[@jean6061]

I'm so lucky I married over 40 years ago. It was elegant but simple compared to today's weddings. No favors, no photo booth, no bachelorette destination weekend, no grand entrance or exit, nothing but two people in love who only truly cared about getting married and starting their lives together. The florist was late delivering the flowers and my mother was panic-stricken. I told her I didn't need flowers to walk down the aisle and marry my husband! i remember standing at the altar thinking, "The ceremony is almost over and I spent more time selecting flowers than the actual ceremony itself!" If I could eliminate the stress so many brides feel about getting their special day exactly right, I would. Just keep in mind the wedding is one day; the marriage is forever. Prioritize.

[@laurenford7232]

I'm getting married this Saturday. I've been a bridesmaid a handful of times and I always give brides the same advice: you only need three things to happen for it to be a good wedding: 1) get legally married, 2) still like your spouse at the end of the day, and 3) no one dies at the ceremony or reception. Anything else that does wrong - it will be okay. My maid of honor can't come to my wedding because she is sick - which I'm super sad about - and even with that, everything will be okay. It's okay to be sad and happy at the same time.

[@lifewithtrenel]

Finally, a post-wedding video I can relate to. Dare I say, I had post-wedding day depression or wedding blues. A lot of things went wrong on my wedding day-the most heartbreaking was that I have only a few pictures of me and my husband on my day (we didn’t have much time for photos) because we were almost 2 hours behind on time. Why? Well, my expensive wedding coordinator/partial planner did not do her job! Our reception was only 2 hours long instead of the 4 hours we paid for. We barely ate, barely danced, barely got to greet guests! The reception went by too fast! My husband spent A LOT of our money on our wedding and trusted professionals to ensure our day went well, just for me to cry for weeks after my wedding. It’s been a year since and I’m looking forward to better milestones ex. Future baby showers, my 30th birthday, anniversary parties, and vow renewals. If you felt the same way as me or similar about your wedding, just know that people don’t think of your wedding much after it happens and there are many many occasions that you can have that can be grand or grander than your wedding.

[@courtneyunderhill6049]

I’m so sorry that you planner was such a disappointment! I also hired a planner that didn’t meet my expectations, but my experience does not compare to yours. Still I was very upset. I felt like I had no support at all leading up to my wedding. She would bail on almost every meeting and she MADE ME drop off my wedding decor to her house on the day before my wedding. I spent almost an hour driving to do something she could have easily taken off my plate. IMO she used to be a good planner a few years ago but over committed to too many brides to make more money and now she’s under delivering. I went back and forth so many time of if I wanted to write her a negative review on the Knot…

[@Angie247Beers]

Relating. And mine was due to not hiring a professional wedding coordinator mixed with no one checking that my photographer was getting all the poses we wanted and the timeline basically was ignored by ALL including my now husband even though I made copies for ALL the vips. AND I really Didn't help that one of my fiances sisters entire family rsvp'd for all 5 of them, coming to dinner etc only to barely make a mere cameo and bolting for home as soon as the ceremony ended. Buh-bye $400 of food we didn't need!! Ugggg

[@preciouschirume6772]

Thank you for this, 1 year later I still think of all the ways I could have made it better, it was a complete fail

[@triffgrl]

We had a breakfast wedding and I’m so glad we did. Many people complained and tried to persuade us otherwise but we stuck to our original ideal wedding and it turned out beautifully. Yes a couple things did go wrong but the overall day was beautiful warm and loving. Having our breakfast Wedding just hit differently and felt more genuine to us as a couple.

[@rachel7455]

after over a year of blood, sweat, tears, money, heartache, and a Rollercoaster of emotions and hurtles, I worked so hard and my wedding did NOT go how I hoped

[@VioletEmerald]

I'm so sorry, that really sucks.

[@emilyhoran7517]

I understand ❤️ We had a 2 year engagement with two postpones due to covid. So much time, planning and money to feel wasted. My husband comforts me by telling me it was our own story and it doesn't matter because at the end we got married. ❤️

[@Sarah-fs1xw]

Same…. 💔🤬😫😤😭💯😬

[@BlackCatAlley23]

Same here. I was so disappointed after all of the hard work that I did myself.

[@mdm2231]

My wedding was so disorganized it actually feels like a fever dream and makes me upset and embarrassed when I think of it… good thing the marriage is going great 😂 my whole venue got moved 30 mins before, and that wasn’t even the half of it

[@jessfleury3761]

A recent wedding planning win: I went to 3 bridal stores and tried on over 30 dresses, but did not have “the moment.” I was starting to believe the bridal moment did not actually exist and I would have to settle for a dress that I liked but did not love. But, it was actually my mom that did not let me settle and said we should go to the other bridal stores to look. In the 4th store I went to, I saw this dress hanging up immediately when I walked in. It had all the elements I wanted and as soon as I looked in the mirror I just knew. The sample dress I tried on was blush and had a shear bodice, but I ordered mine in ivory with a lined bodice. I was nervous if I would still love it because I was changing some obvious elements. I just tried on my dress this past weekend and I love it even more than the sample dress. Can’t wait to wear it on my wedding day.

[@amyb347]

I appreciate this video so much! We got married less than 1 month ago and half of the guests who had RSVP'd actually showed up. Literally, we planned for 140 and 85 people showed. My family put so much work into making favors and decorating tables that weren't used. We also stopped the dance floor at 9pm because everyone had left. It still upsets me because I had put a lot of effort into our song list and wanted to have so much fun with our families and friends. It made me so sad to sit at the head table and see half of the tables empty. I felt like people left feeling it was the lamest wedding ever. Otherwise it was the most perfect day

[@m.c.w1455]

Disclaimer - I hope this doesn't come across as telling you how to feel or saying it's not normal to feel sad about this. I'm planning a wedding currently and have about 60 people on the invite list and many of them I barely know at all. I think it's neat that you know 85 people well enough for them to show up. It sounds like you have family that cares a lot for you to help make favors and decorate tables. The most important thing is your relationship with your spouse and close family. I think people forget about other people's weddings anyway. For example, I had to be reminded that I attended a cousin's wedding a couple years ago. It was really "fancy" and there were lots of people there, but I blanked on even going and I barely remember any of it. So I think we internalize when things go "wrong" with our events and feel maybe they were "lame" but people barely remember events anyway and most people are just worried about their own lives. I bet your wedding was awesome!

[@elenaserda484]

I am so glad you posted this. I thought I was just being dramatic and ungrateful. 1) My day-of-coordinator didn’t know what the hell was going on. We only had 30 minutes to set up for the reception, so a lot was just overlooked. 2) My photographer couldn’t get pictures of my mom and I because they couldn’t find her. Turned out, she was setting up for the reception herself because, again, the day-of-coordinator didn’t have a clue. 3) Nobody could find the Champaign. The toasts got awkward as our best man and maid of honor had to stall while my dad tracked down the alcohol. 4) Nobody (I do mean nobody) stuck to the timeline. It was horrible. 5) Our party favors were never set up so nobody got their favors. 6) Our guests started out paying for for their own drinks because of some mixup with the credit card. It was embarrassing. Four months later, still not over it.

[@priscillamartinez8156]

did you ever get over it?

[@elenaserda484]

@@priscillamartinez8156 😒 not really, no

[@krstng1011]

I appreciate this video! I had terrible stomach pain all day, and ended up having to leave early to go to the ER. It’s crushing to think about everything we missed out on and this memory will always be twinged with sadness, but trying to focus on all the good moments and the marriage that came from this. ❤

[@user-hb5cp3nm1u]

I am so afraid I will feel pretty the whole day, and then look at the photos, dislike them, and feel ugly in retrospect. I went wedding dress shopping with my sister some weeks ago and although I liked the experience, I felt so deflated when I saw the photos. I am so afraid the same thing will happen on our wedding day.

[@zakiyamilton7674]

This happened to me. The sunlight was harsh and my makeup looks so terrible with the bad lighting. Someone told me to just focus on the pictures I do like. But I def felt beautiful on my wedding day and the photos don’t really capture how pretty I felt.

[@amieroberg9258]

I got married on the weekend and had some disappointments. This video was perfect timing. But all of our guests had a great time. Most of them said it was the best event they ever attended. So it’s a win 😊

[@rachel7455]

I got married Saturday and I'm honestly depressed now, so much went wrong out of my control and against my best efforts

[@kyliedugan7269]

I'm so sorry you are in a bad place right now. I hope you are able to make peace with it soon. I know that it takes sooooo much work and it is so hard to know that it still wasn't good enough.

[@rebekahkingbello9560]

Hugs!!

[@kayhunt3099]

Girl same here, my mother was a train wreck and the dj was not great but in the end we got married and had our close family and friends there. It can always be so much worse.

[@courtneyunderhill6049]

I’m sorry to hear you’re unhappy. I struggled a lot after my wedding over analyzing my feelings and what went wrong and what I could have done differently. I got married on May 21st and it rained throughout the day. The rain caused my hair to look frizzy and not the flawless vision I was hoping for. I’m kind of insecure about my hair to begin with and I’m not happy with how it looks in some of our photos. Also the rain was just plain stressful to take photos in (I had a bigger dress) and getting on and off the party bus was challenging. There were so many amazing unforgettable moments from my wedding day. I loved so much of it, but I would be lying if I said there wasn’t some stuff I just couldn’t get over. I’m still trying to but with time I feel I started to get the closure I needed. I hope you do too…

[@emilyhoran7517]

Almost everything I planned went wrong. 🥺🙌 My coordinator even bailed for 90% of the day, forgot the PLATES!! and made my wedding party do announcements 🤯 It was a hot mess. It made my ceremony almost 2 hours late and got basically no photos of my husband and I all dressed. Danced to one song before having to pack since everyone was lost and was so tired from helping extra all day.

[@rachel7455]

I'm so sorry

[@VioletEmerald]

Yikes that sounds so horrible. Was there anything small to be grateful for that was still nice despite the disaster of a day it was? I mean if you say "basically no photos" at least you have 1? I'm not sure what to even say about a wedding day like that!

[@emilyhoran7517]

@@VioletEmerald absolutely! Many things to be thankful for, including all of our amazing friends and family that jumped in to help at all costs. ❤️ We got tons of gorgeous photos, just none of us both fully dressed up other than during the ceremony. If my coordinator hadn't left and abandoned her duties then I think the rest all would have been managed a lot easier. She had all the lists of who to go where, but went to sit at Dairy Queen because it was a hot outdoor wedding.... she came back around 30min before ceremony start when everything needed done already. Gave no announcements, forgot our plates, kept no one on track, no help with timeline. She honestly came for decor and left. All the activities and games we spent months on making and labeling were left in the boxes.... never even touched or opened. She even messed up our unity table - when she left my husband set it up per the photo we had, when she came back she put it all away again so he had to run and grab things during the ceremony while I was waiting at the table. 👀☠️🙌❤️ We had some gorgeous moments, but oh man. Lol

[@lifewithtrenel]

My day went very similar so I definitely relate. I was sad about it for months

[@cookfamily6141]

@@emilyhoran7517 it sounds like your wedding planner needs to pay you instead of the other way around.

[@alcibell2457]

I had an small wedding celebration for the civil wedding, it was a very chic lunch for family and my best friend. Well my best friend was very excited and said to me 5 months in advance that she was going to get someone to cover her at work. At the end 15 days before the wedding I had to call her and ask her directly if she was coming with her husband. It ended that she couldn’t afford not to work which I understand. What I don’t understand is why I payed for two guests not to show up and if I don’t call , they would not let me know that they weren’t coming. So now I know I can’t relay on them and when they called to ask about how did the civil wedding went and promised to be at the religious wedding. I let them know that I wasn’t going to go through the stress so I decided to have a private wedding, with the testimonies, the priest and my husband. Not to bother! There are guests that become a pain, remember is your special day and you should not be solving people’s problems.

[@oliviab8914]

My mom passed away one month before my wedding. We decided to proceed with everything anyway and that is my biggest regret. Though my day was beautiful, I needed more time to process. I was an emotional wreck the night before my wedding.

[@m.c.w1455]

Sorry for your loss, I hope the healing process is going OK 🕊

[@jennifermcdaniel3910]

It's been almost 2 years for me & I couldn't even imagine trying right now! My Mama was my Best Friend!!! ❤️‍🩹

[@Gnomey__tori]

I’ve been engaged for a few months & my win so far is a potential dress that was less than $50 and almost everything I want with next to no alternations. I’m usually a control freak so I’m trying my best not to be so I don’t end up disappointed.

[@tonyaknouff4966]

MY HUSBAND AND I ARE HAVING A VOWEL RENEWAL CEREMONY NEXT JUNE AND UR VIDEOS HAVE REALLY HELPED US TO DECIDE WHAT TO PUT INTO THE CEREMONY AND WHAT NOT TO DO..THANK U SO VERY MUCH.

[@whoosh_angel]

These comments are giving me life! It was 80 degrees the day before my wedding last Saturday. Then it dropped to 54 with rain almost all day on the actual day. We had to move it from a beautiful vista to the garage. My husband’s dad and step mom also removed a photo of his late mother from our memorial table. A button popped off my dress as they were putting it on me, and the zipper got stuck. Like, irreparably stuck and broken. So my $2k dress fit weird all day. I didn’t do a hair trial so I didn’t like my hair. But I’m glad for the things that went right and feel relieved reading many of these comments! The marriage is what matters, and focusing on that is helping me a lot. 💗💗💗

[@jessicaking8882]

Thank you for this! I feel like I'm being ungrateful but I was an hour late (makeup took longer than I thought it would) and it threw off everything, I didn't have time for all of the pics, some guests had to leave before the reception, and there were a few extra things that added to my stress. I later talked to my husband and he had no idea how stressed I was, from his perspective everything went according to plan. All in all it was a beautiful day where I married my forever person, we had good food, laughs & felt loved and supported by the people who matter the most. ❤️

[@ashleycabrales3394]

We had a small wedding during COVID . But we decided to do it again I’m currently planning and I bought a $4k wedding dress for $900 because the shop is closing !

[@scarrier4535]

How did you go about inviting people to this? I’m considering asking for a re-do but I felt embarrassed asking for another go around.

[@visabel92]

From what I’ve learned since last year: I’ve seen the true side of people and it’s incredibly heartbreaking. I’m thankful that I’m marrying a wonderful man who is incredibly involved and loving from the very start.

[@belindarodriguez1856]

I love this sooo much thank you!! Soooo BRAGGING TIME : I made all my bouquet flowers from felt and they look absolutely STUNNING! I’m doing all my decorations on a budget, which I have not gone over!!!! Still at $80 bz ($40 US) and have $170 bz wiggle room! I found the perfect venue last minute because my mom invited much more people than I could fit in our backyard wedding. I am totally enjoying the process. Wedding Date 12.03.22 ❤ can’t wait for the big day!!!

[@ashdubb5303]

Wedding date twins! ❤

[@faithborchardt9800]

Congratulations 🎊

[@belindarodriguez1856]

@@ashdubb5303 I hope you’re enjoying the process 💕💕💕 I pray everything goes they way it supposed to go for you!!! 🥰

[@corinnachaves-demello4324]

I got married last month and if we could afford to do our wedding over we would. 2 years of planning.... booked all major vendors early and our day wasn't how i/we invisioned. My boss stabbed my cousin with a fork (he's ok!), it down poured so we couldn't have our ceremony outside in the beautiful garden like we visioned it. Our dj messed up party intros, even with a soft open bar, alot of ppl got smashed and some snuck heavy alcohol in (even though it was frowned upon), I wish we hired a videographer and my photographer jipped our package aka left early. We had some out of town family whom we havent seen in YEARS, send us a nasty mesaage saying how inconsiderate we were to not invite them.....But I am married to the love of my life and I wouldn't have it any other way

[@rebekahkingbello9560]

Oh my. I’m so sorry. Why did your boss stab someone?! 😱

[@corinnachaves-demello4324]

@@rebekahkingbello9560 alcohol was involved but she's sensitive and apparently he insulted her. Not fully sure. He didn't press charges and told us to just let it go. He didn't want to make a scene of it at our wedding

[@courtneycamera1]

Jamie, how can we, as future brides, help manage our own expectations so we don’t get super bummed out when things inevitably go wrong on the big day?

[@andreaelizabeth5494]

Wrong flowers, run out of food, wrong cake flavour, poor quality photos, Dj that can’t get the first dance songs wrong, officiant gets your names wrong, your fiancé gets stuck in traffic and is late. Plan on everything going wrong so when something runs right it’s a happy win

[@mariaqumayo9442]

Hi Courtney, I'm getting married in exactly 10 days and I don't know if it's healthy, but I am expecting everything to go wrong and I've emotionally prepared myself for it. That way, if 80% of the things go according to plan, I'll be over the moon! hahah. Also, It's mostly about the guest having a good time, like Jamie said.

[@andreaelizabeth5494]

@@mariaqumayo9442 this is my thinking too. As long as I get married to my guy is all that matters. In the end no one else cares.

[@stardustmelody2709]

The thing that upset me at my wedding is now my favorite memory and I’ve had years of enjoyment telling the story.

[@kaydidevlinevents]

You are such an incredible speaker, you speak so clearly and never trip over your words or have to pause and think of a word or how to express something. You speak fast but efficiently, every word is clear. Kudos!

[@Thehungrytravelers]

I got married this past Saturday (10/21/23). I planned every aspect of my wedding and was not stressed at all! We rented a huge Airbnb on the beach for us, wedding party, and close friends to stay at. Honestly everything went perfectly for us. Fast forward to Sunday, as the day unfolds, I get weird vibes from my sister brother and his fiancé. Come to find out they were complaining about multiple aspects of our wedding (only them, no one else). The last night we stayed at the Airbnb all together turned into a huge family feud. It was horrible. Now every time I think about my wedding and that weekend, all I think about is that huge fight. Even though we all “made up”, It makes me want to bawl my eyes out. I waited nearly 1 year for this and sadness is all I feel.

[@emmalamb2400]

I am concerned people will think my wedding is rubbish as my aunt had commented she does not see the point in buying a wedding outfit and shoes as it is not going to be a proper wedding. We are having a 50 guest 5 course sit down meal and a canapé and champagne reception.

[@analyssiaserratos1930]

I just got married this Saturday on the 22nd and I had a few hiccups like my mother letting me sleep in almost 2 hours when I told her specifically that I needed to get up at 7:30am which put us extremely behind on getting ready which made us all frantically rush to get everything done instead of having a peaceful morning like I planned for which also put me in a really crabby mood and I even cried a bit because I was so beyond stressed. And also my mother and MOH taking off frantically after only taking a few family photos at my grandparents grave sight because they forgot my grandparents photo that was supposed to be at the ceremony which I had to just settle for it being at the reception so they had to go back to my sisters house before arriving to the reception because they forgot to bring it because we were set so far back. Which leads to the thing I'm griping about is that they took off so fast that they took my vail and bouquet with them so I didn't have those thing for the rest of the photos I planned for. Also my mother-in-law almost ran over my poor photographer. Literally scared the crap out of me, my fiance and my poor photographer as we screamed for her to stop reversing and might I add she reversed fast as hell. And finally the thing that I cannot wait to address with my husband is his f-ing mother just decided not even asking but deciding she was going to stay the night at our home with us the night of our wedding. She literally ruined my wedding night for me. It was so awkward and I definitely was not into it and I couldn't wait for it to be over which is extremely sad. His mother has already done lots of things to piss me off but this just tops it all.

[@bestblondedu06]

Things that went well and I'm grateful for : - it was really a beautiful day, hit for the beginning of June but it was fine - the people that went married before us in the church had to leave all of the flowers decorations there (orders of the priest) and when I got to the church it was just stunning. We would never have afforded it, and out florist bailed on us 1 month out so we had to find someone else but they were only free for bouquets and reception - everyone had a lot of fun, danced, food was great ; - I'm really really glad that we chose to only invite special people to us whom we cared about, not having too much family we never get together with and no +1s unless we specifically invited them. This made it so that there was so much positive energy and love and affection, I would never have imagined this feeling. I think that's what most people think about when they think of our wedding day: the love and affection ! - my husband changed his mind last minute and was okay to do a first look which I'm super glad we did for the pictures we got in our perfect outfits and all of the emotions that went with it. Now for what I'm still angry about: - my aunt was my testimony and maid of honor and her two daughters were out flower girls. I was ready to leave for church 30mins before the ceremony after our first look but my dad wanted to wait for my mom to give us the right time for leaving. I didn't have my phone with me and tried calling everyone with my dad phone but no one would answer. 10mins after our ceremony was supposed to start I just told my dad we are going and one of my best friends answered the phone and said the priest was growing impatient. Turns out that my aunt and her two daughters actually arrived at the ceremony 10min late and since they were supposed to open the procession in church, they were waiting for them before I could get there. Dunno what her problem was, maybe that her new BF wasn't invited, but she never apologized nor said anything positive about the wedding to me. If I would have to do it again, I would just leave at the time I was supposed too and that's it, not waiting for anyone. Or at least if my mom would have told me what the issue were I would have made the decision. - I missed my bouquet throw !!! They made me step back a lot but not easy with a long dress so I didn't turn around to see the distance... And put way too much strength into it 😂 - we had some upbeat music to enter reception but if I'd have to do it again I would go straight into our fist dance ! As soon as I got up and started dancing with my mom because the DJ put on a track dear to us, everyone started dancing as well during dinner and I loved the vibe ! I'm probably way to detailed focused but since planning and doing everything on my own for this wedding, I'm still mad at my aunt.. but I know how she is and I don't necessarily think it's going to help talking to her about it 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@greeeneyes91]

My colleague was only ranting about what went wrong on her wedding day, i had the feeling there was nothing that she actually liked about the day (i wasnt at her wedding so i know only from her stories)… it makes me think if i shouldnt just have a super lowkey wedding myself with just parents as guests ..

[@erinnichols4866]

This is comforting and I haven’t been married yet. An understanding person is so valuable. ♥️

[@anmolmathur4166]

I provided a photo shot list to the photographer and day-of coordinator, but didn't have a photo wrangler. We told the photographer that we would like to take our portraits in the quiet, kind of hidden garden area of the venue, but the photographer suggested staying in the main hotel lobby for better lighting. When our guests started arriving in the lobby before the ceremony started, it became chaotic to take our family portraits with all of the guests seeing us and wanting to greet and congratulate our families. Photos with guests that were not in our shot list were taken, but a shot with the bride & groom with the bride's family and another with the groom's family were not taken. Post ceremony, we took a huge group photo with all guests together, but the joint family photo of the newly wedded families was not taken. During the reception, we only managed to visit half of the guest tables for photos, and that means we happened to miss getting a photo with any of my immediate family. I wish someone (either photographer or day of coordinator had advised us to prioritize which tables to visit for photos, since we were unlikely to hit them all in time before the dance floor opens. There are also very few front-facing candid photos of my parents (many shots taken from their point of view, with the photographer either in front of or behind them). The video just came back too, and theres a sound bite of 3 of the 4 speeches, but not of my father's welcome speech, which opened the reception festivities. I'm disappointed because i wish it had been prioritized that parents of the bride be photographed more, even if i wasn't there in the pic with them.

[@mgg9713]

Courthouse wedding….completely disappointed. Definitely missed our on a major milestone.

[@amydaskilewicz9076]

I appreciate this validation

[@lisam4728]

I'm getting married on Friday and I'm scared of being disappointed 😭

[@marloumertens334]

It will be amazing because by the end of the day you will be married to your best friend! The rest of the day is a nice bonus but not the most important thing. You can do this!

[@scarrier4535]

I always dreamed of a beautiful and simple wedding. I was five months pregnant when my now husband and I eloped. The elopement was beautiful but we threw together a crappy reception when we came home and I wish we had waited until the baby came for that part. My marriage is so wonderful and I try to find the good in how it happened but it’s a year later and I still feel heartbroken that I didn’t do it how I wanted. If you are planning a wedding, please please please don’t compromise on the pieces that are important to you!

[@dainaliepina]

I was ready for some little things to go wrong, but... After successfully surviving the pandemic, both my fiancé and I got sick a week before the wedding. Since the ceremony was planned in the middle of the forest, we canceled only the reception. After the ceremony we ordered snacks, danced the first dance and had a photo shoot right there in the forest. Nothing went as planned, but in our opinion, it turned out even better.

[@stevieray7203]

I didn’t get my “dream dress”.I’m an older bride and just can’t justify spending a ton of $$ on something I’ll likely wear once. It isn’t the focus of the day. WE ARE! Starting our life and not living up to some “fantasy self” that I realize is me 25 years ago. Recognizing I am the only one who will feel dissatisfied with how I look (possibly regardless of what I wear) made me able to focus on the covenant we are forging to start our lives together as husband and wife 💛

[@AlmostLovers2002]

My biggest regret is not getting a videographer. I was with my boyfriend for 8 years before we got engaged, then engaged for 2 1/2 years. I put so much time, effort, and thought into so many little details for our wedding day. I decided to get a high end photographer and skip the videographer and I regret it so much!!! 2 1/2 years of planning a party for it to be over in 7 hours (a blink of an eye!!!!) Trust me at the end of the day you’ll want a video to look back on. Photos just can’t capture emotions and let you relive the day like a video can. I would give anything to have a video of my husbands and I’s first look, saying our vows, first dance… so many beautiful moments I would kill to relive. I couldn’t imagine paying $3,000 for a videographer, now I would literally pay $10,000 if I could go back and change my mind. So skip the photo booth or late night snack and prioritize a videographer in your budget. I’ve literally been sick to my stomach, not been able to sleep at night, and so upset about it everyday for a month since my wedding… I know I should be grateful for what I have, but it was so beautiful I wish I had a video to show my children and grandchildren one day 😢

[@maggieindawoods2413]

Do you have any videos about dealing with divorced parents on the wedding day and days leading up to it? Thanks for all these videos!

[@FarmBoy92AsYouWish]

Omg, my man has to use an analogy with fixing cars or car engines 😅 he gets it, but I don't

[@sukimoen2845]

My biggest regret (which was out of my control) was the morning leading up to the ceremony. Everything was late and behind, vendors couldn't get there in time including my photographer. We missed out on some photos that I really really wanted to get and getting ready was rushed. I wasn't able to take get ready photos with my bridesmaids, my mom, I wanted to do a first look with my ladies and wasn't able to. I wanted a one on one photo shoot with the hotel because it was unique and gorgeos. There were just so many things missed leading up. Once everything got started it went fine for the most part but I was heartbroken that some of them "moments" I was wanting to capture never happened. I am still waiting for my photos and hoping that once I get them it can extinguish those feelings.

[@lifewithtrenel]

Is it too late to send a vendor an email about your dissatisfaction? My partial wedding planner is who I primarily blame for my wedding day disappointment. I got married last year 2021 and wasn’t emotionally able to share it with her because I was still very hurt. I am not at the place any more. Should I still send an email or should I let bygones be bygones?…my main concern is future brides tbh

[@midnightedevane4131]

I'm very lucky to say my day went very well other than ending the reception early because things didn't take as long as we thought they would and everyone was absolutely exhausted. We figured it would be good to leave on a good note rather than let it drag on. Where I'm from people don't dance at weddings. It's more of a social talking and making the rounds type of thing

[@midnightedevane4131]

My only heartache is how a certain member of my party didn't come through. They really let me down and made excuses the whole year of planning

[@samdesylva6236]

Highlights: Ice cream sundae bar, fireworks,open bar, smiling ear to ear with hubs all day, bonfire and my nieces literally making everyone come up and dance🤍 We did have hiccups with bridal party and photography wise that I let get to me but I do know our day was so perfect and a year and half later people are still saying how special it was and that it was their fave wedding since we made it guest oriented ❤️❤️

[@alexischristopher2015]

Iv been engaged for a long time. 2020 is not the best time to get engaged. Anyways, that said. I found a sample dress. Alone and in a mask. Also I didn’t love the lace. I found a wardrobe person to go with me to find material. And then found a tailor. To put it on. I finally love the dress.

[@TiBunCosplay]

Our photo time got really crunched and therefore it felt very rushed. I haven't gotten all the pictures back yet so I don't know the final product from that time but I know we didn't get to do some of the pictures I wanted to do because of it. It all went back to the fact that we started late because my groom got left behind at his parent's house where he was getting ready. His brothers and dad were running late, and my husband was trying to get them to hurry up and when they finally got in their suits, they hopped in the car and left without him and his mom and they had to scramble for a way to the venue. This made it so that the first look was late, making the ceremony late (which because it was late I forgot to put on my family's heirloom veil for the ceremony), and cutting into photography time which we couldn't extend too much because people were getting hungry. On top of that our photographer had sent a replacement photographer because she caught the virus right before our wedding so the photographer we were working with didn't have the foundation we had built with our photographer. She had the notes our photographer had taken from our meetings, but it wasn't the same. it felt like she was doing just a basic job and not focusing on really trying to get the shots we had wanted, the more I think back on it. (speaking as a fellow photographer) I have no idea if she got actual portraits up close because she never got up closer to us and I didn't see her change lenses much. pretty sure she never got the back of my dress, we didn't do the leaf throwing pic. As a photographer, the pictures was the most important thing to me (apart from actually getting married of course) and I just feel a bit disappointed the longer I have to think back to it.

[@cortneymellas2133]

My wedding is October 13th, 2023...that being said RSVPs are still coming in (Due Aug. 13th) I saw a bunch of brides frustrated that they had no idea who RSVPed because there was no name on the card. I numbered mine and made a word document (I suck at spreadsheets) and now if I end up with a "Hmmm who is this" I can just look at that document. Might not be a win for all, but that limits my stress for the guest list.

[@chelseawhite7117]

I’m so tickled pink, I’m the bride whose “win” was the good weather at the last moment 😊 a LOT else went wrong, esp our dj who was inexperienced and landed very flat, but it was still just the most amazing day of my life, in what felt like 3 hours total

[@kfb2819]

I got married in August. Our wedding commissioner was awful and messed up the ceremony because she was in a rush to get to her granddaughter's birthday (we booked her in March. She told us the night before that the party wasn't until 4pm. We got married at 1pm. The ceremony lasted a whopping 7 minutes from start to finish) so that was frustrating. Our 1year old niece got sick with pnemonia and was in the hospital all weekend which was super scary (she was fine thank god) and then our best man got heat stroke while we were getting pictures done so he missed the whole reception which was a bummer. At the end of the day, I'm married to a man I love and we are enjoying married life, I'm just sad that the day fell short.

[@remij9592]

Jamie, I am losing sleep over picking a dj…I watched your video on what my dj wants me to know but honestly there are so many good reviews for dj’s in Philly but I don’t know who to go with…we have a group of 60 with mostly older folks but I still want to get down. Do I go with someone that’s going to lead the crowd or is low key? 😅😅🥹🥹🥹😭😵‍💫

[@bestblondedu06]

Hey ! My DJ played a lot of south American music because we like to dance bachata, and it totally worked for you'd and for older people, even my grandpa had so much fun dancing ! My DJ also had a musician playing drum with him and people loved it !

[@rachelchris3962]

Pleaseeee take my advice on this, but with a DJ for the evening, invest in lighting. A good party needs these pillars: great music, great lighting for party mood, good space and access to food / drink! As soon as the lights were turned on, the mood changed instantly from dancing to chatting, so lighting complements your music! X