5 TYPES OF PEOPLE WHO CAN’T STAND THE INFJ

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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Discover the five types of people who can't stand INFJs. Let's address why some individuals may have an issue with us and how understanding this can transform our lives as INFJs. Embrace the power of not caring about others' opinions and watch your world shift as you confidently show up as your true self.
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[@Wenzes]

What kind of people do generally have a problem with you? Do you care?

[@leelou36]

Immature people, those that show outward superiority to hide deep inferiority complexes...even Teachers in Junior school (age 7-10) had issues with me, i was never rude...never outwardly rebellious, but i always knew bullshit, always knew more than my years ....i was bullied by everyone, my Mother included...i don't wear masks...that freaks most out...xxx

[@annaandrea8320]

Those who can't handle the truth and have no moral values. No, I don't care. I keep them out of my life.

[@MegaCyberleader]

people who like being terrible people and profitiing from it. They hate me when I call them on this BS.

[@bumblebee_ms]

Everyone who wants to use me and I don't let them.

[@charlie.solaris]

People who think they have everyone manipulated I clash with the second they realise I see through them

[@thinktank8286]

Absolutely LOVE the idea behind the "I know you don't like me, you think I'm weird, so what? Have a great day!"

[@wandalynnellis7814]

I think they're weird 😂

[@KingDomsKingdom85]

I've recently stopped caring what everyone thinks, and it genuinely does change things for us massively.

[@apxj8994]

That is accurate. This approach has really improved my life and well-being. My life has improved as of late, I can say.

[@lindateuling7862]

When someone - often a #4 - says to me "You're weird," I've found it's often effective to say (with a smile) "Probably."

[@LOVE_ALL_AROUND]

Bullies in the workplace have been the hardest lesson for me, mostly with bosses. This last year I changed my perspective and stood up to a boss. Now I am thriving in my career.

[@Cynique_savant]

I embrace my infj villain arc, it's fun putting evildoers in their place. All i do is the iconic infj stare

[@Roltereen86]

PERSON TYPE #1 The bully _ 1:36 #2 The social climber _ 5:37 #3 The rules-driven person _ 8:59 #4 The person who never steps out of the norm _ 11:24 #5 The self-centered person _ 15:28 INFJ FUNCTIONS #2 Extraverted Feeling 7:16

[@law2859]

Thank you for summary and timestamps!

[@thecasualreviewer2148]

Forget the rules!!! Good stuff

[@lucid2184]

They're materialistic, self centered and stuck 🤢

[@Roltereen86]

@@law2859 You're Welcome! 🙂🙂🙂🙂

[@user-ij2cg8ft1f]

Thanks TimeChad

[@jmfs3497]

LOL. Nailed it. "Why don't people just leave me alone if they don't like me?" I work with and OCPD/NPD guy and it is like he is constantly trying to force codependence on EVERYONE, when everyone's biggest stress in the office is the OCPD guy never leaving anyone alone. The OCPD guy relentlessly interferes with the most productive people, and then the productive people become "helpers" in the OCPD guy's very slow, backwards process. OCPD is like the opposite of a superpower. Instead of having the "Strength of TEN MEN" an OCPD person takes the strength of ten people and clamps down on them to where they are limited to helping one person try to do ten jobs... and it does not work.

[@dannillebennett1761]

My bullies band together -- cowards!

[@ASMRPlaylistQueen]

It is WILD how people respond to me. I happen to work with another INFJ (lucky I know) and we both know how kind and pure our motivations always but really we mind our own business most of the time, humming and doing our work. The worst kinds of people just can’t resist the temptation to try and get a rise from us… only to leave shocked, tail tucked between their legs.😂

[@intuativefiha5771]

For my charisma I think many people are instantly drawned to me and also being an INFJ I have an open canvas that I can draw whatever they wish to see or like. On the contrary I always find difficulties with people who try to control me. I AM A BIRD and LET ME FLY.

[@HaleyMary]

Bullies used to bother me when I was a kid. Now that I'm older, I just feel bored by bullies. Sadly, even not reacting to bullies seems to not stop them from bullying. The bullies I've known don't leave me alone until I given them an angry reaction.

[@sajidulhasan2027]

I feel like I know how to casually live with the stress they cause. Still stress though

[@lucid2184]

The theme is we are most repellent with those who are extremely materialistic and lost in the dense, concrete past. Whereas we are designed as nonmaterialistic, forward thinking and intuitive (aka heavenly)

[@sgustavsson2674]

Absolutely true 😊 I learned early on as a kid; it’s not me but them with the issue(s). My abuelita told me, “people will love you or hate you but you’re a unique light with a loving heart; so shine on.” That’s what I teach my children. Be unapologetically you 🤗

[@procyonlotor1906]

Thank you Wenzes. Is it a coincidence that these are the type of people I can't stand? I don't care if they can't stand me, they're doing me a favour if they stay away. I'm trying my best to be brutally honest, but I still don't want to hurt peoples feelings. I tried the "if you have nothing good to say, don't say anything at all" route, but then I have NOTHING to say to a lot of people. So much so that I think it might be me with the problems. Oh well, really care less and less every day.

[@maryfischer8568]

Agree

[@martinefay]

Interesting isn't it 🤔 yep I'm the same.

[@vijays8395]

🎉

[@wolfyblue]

if you observe them more thoroughly you can tell that those people that can't stand us are really the problem/problematic ones, our only problem is we're the type to be a bit of a challenge for them that they seem to want to conquer for egotistical reasons, like Fr if they don't exist things would be more at peace

[@annikajohansson9171]

Right, is it not caring or is it apathy?

[@xyphor317]

I’ve attracted bullies my entire life. Even in college and at work. I thought it would stop after high school. Boy was I wrong.

[@terrijamison9154]

Yep They're everywhere 😮

[@mjepend]

Once you face them and call them out it dissipates

[@Taiyaki-flights]

How about the 5 types who love us

[@annaandrea8320]

I can live with that.

[@MegaCyberleader]

the infjs in this channel are the only ones who really can.

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

I gonna say not letting these kinds of people bother us as INFJs is the key to building self-esteem. I can't tell you how many times I let these jerks cause me to lose my cool and then they skip off whistling a happy tune and I feel bad about myself for days, weeks, and even months. Especially with the narcissists who get narc. supply from triggering negative reactions in their victims. Now that I stay away from them, I've broken free of that cycle of control where they trigger me at will and I feel like a dirty doormat because I once again let them wipe their feet on me. P.S. Conflicts with the primary relationships with narcissist (all gone now) caused me to be disregulated for a full 18 months (INFJ recognize patterns). Seriously it takes me a full 18 months to feel like myself again - not ruminating or feeling that buzzing sense of discomfort from residual negative emotions, not getting re-triggered by stuff. When I'm in that state, I can't even watch movies about negative stuff, even when I know the movie has a happy ending. Now things don't bother me, my lows aren't nearly as low, and I bounce back from setbacks so much quicker. And that's what really makes people feel confident in the world - the recognition that we can handle, and handle well, whatever the world throws at us.

[@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied]

No, we just see through bullies.

[@DonTrump-sv1si]

I have a hard time discerning the difference between friendly banter and shrewd, crossing the line behavior aka bullying

[@emilyjoyce8082]

I feel like if it’s a joke you can make and laugh about yourself, then it is friendly banter. If it bothers me, I try to do better about expressing it. If they are caring and understanding, it’s resolved. If they shut down my concerns, I constitute it as bullying. A joke is only funny if people laugh or find it humorous.

[@KimieMekamiko]

I remember very well a situation and a wrong decision of mine, which really made me learn the lesson of giving a damn about Bullies: When I was in my Master Studies, my best friend, who was studying with me, one night wrote me and asked me on behalf of the whole Master Student Semester of around 15 people to "try to be more calm and stepp back in front of the class" like.... Becoming invisible and less disturbing. The thing was, I never did anything offensive, aggressive or loud or something. I was always a friendly, polite, but little bit dream and quircky human being. It hit me so hard that I didn't had his back and so I decided to do as He said, because I thought "Maybe He is right, I mean... He is my best friend." This was such a bad mistake, because after they realize that it worked, they started to bully me even more and more and I suddenly (because I didn't wanted to get in trouble) was absolutely helpless. I will never ever do that again.... And I really wished I would have taken the courage to tell everyone the next day that I won't reduce myself for their good. All they wanted was to get me away from the PhDs and Professors^^"

[@brkerch8449]

We are quite different, and more so cause I'm a Sigma INFJ.

[@B.Loving]

I recently have been doing things that make me feel good like improv comedy and Jiu Jitsu. Hanging out with new people, I can immediately see who thinks I’m ‘too much’, who is uncomfortable with my perception of myself and placement in the ‘hierarchy’. Some have tried to humble me or make me question myself and with my new found INFJ knowledge I steer clear of them and just talk to the people who are more accepting of me

[@borndeafin1ear]

Bullies were never really an issue for this INFJ. Some started to try, but they didn't know how to react when I never did - or cared enough. One thing I've noticed was how I tell peers seeking help in a professional setting that my response to a question will be as specific as the question. Some will be more engaged after that, but some will pull away. The intent is to maximize their potential while maintaining the responsibility for the content on them and not me. It's not my job to do their job. I'm just there to help them past a hurdle. Being more specific than the question can also lead them down the wrong path, so it is best all around. What is frustrating is how others are more general than my specific question when I need assistance. Usually they quote what I already know - not helpful.

[@Amyhillhearth827]

Thanks for helping me understand the wonderful INFJ I’m married to.

[@grumpyschnauzer]

Every single point is ON POINT. Surprisingly, I leave people scratching their heads at me... why? Just let me exist! That's right... "we are a part of life".

[@craigbarrett2278]

Last year of high school a guy just tried to get under my skin. I joined the police and bumped into him in uniform, guy couldn't have been nice enough......😅😅😅. I don't care any more. 😊

[@tnt01]

👍

[@natureglimses]

😂👏👏

[@user-zz2dx3qf7u]

Clockwork Orange moment

[@stevemiller8895]

You have to accept your wounded inner self, before you can accept others. INFJS simply have a very difficult time doing this. Especially since they are personal feeling averse, and would rather door slam their inner selves rather than confront their own woundedness.

[@debraatkerson3150]

Love it! Now that I’ve learned these things it’s so obvious to me where I’ve made mistakes my entire life.

[@danielleramsayx1]

My Mom and stepdad fall into all of these categories. No wonder they were constantly trying to dim my light and break me into being just like them.

[@inao649]

The social climber is the one I have had most issues with . Who end up bullying. I remember I was bullied so much growing up that I ended up bullying my sister and taking it out on her. . I felt awful as I grew older and apologized. Growing up as a kid is difficult and especially if you don’t fit in or are different. But what really is a head scratcher to me is I still have a few grade school people trying to bully me just as they did when we were kids. Full grown adults. It’s almost comical. Baffles me.

[@aquariusstar7248]

I love this!! Thank you, Wenzes. This was 🎯🎯💯 What's humorous about this is that we can put these ppl into categories and handle them but they cant put US into any category to figure out how to handle us!

[@blazed00]

Wow - the impeccable timing of this video. Exactly what I needed. I'm angry because of how they're treating others. I'll calm down. Thank you. Oh and you look especially radiant today. You're glowing.

[@prabhakaraa.n786]

Thanks a lot Ms. Wenzes 😊 I was wondering how with my brilliant performance as corporate executive was not ok with two bosses!! They were social climbers!!

[@Bigquinn559]

Wenzes is there only 3 types of people who don’t like Infj because I feel like it’s everybody

[@cherylclough1804]

~7.55 into feed. I had a lazy supervisor who was used to playing the game and relied on being respected because he had influence in the game. There was an upset because he was not doing his job properly and a tension that I was doing some parts better. In front of the whole office he said "You should respect me, because I am your supervisor." My reply "I will comply because you are my supervisor and will implement all lawful reasonable commands. But respect is earned. Just because you are my boss, does not make me respect you." He blustered along the lines of "you have to respect me because I am your boss". My reply was along the lines of "I have to comply with you because you are my boss. If you want me to respect you, do your job and do your job properly. I will do what is necessary because it is in the job description, but I do not have to respect you if you are lazy or manipulative."

[@user-fs6ou3fk9p]

Bullies hate it when you just don't care and you don't react.

[@Twany1954]

The bully in my life was my father. I was a constant reminder of my mother and he hated her for what she lied about him, it literally almost destroyed him inside. When he regained custody of us kids I was the age when they first met. I am still a INFJ, but after helping your loved ones and figuring them out eventually changes who you offer your traits to. Human behavior is the key to answering all of the questions that were or are unknown at the time being. Pound out google and unwrap why you have this trait. You will unravel the truth to why you are the way you are.👍🏻👈🏻

[@z32luvr]

So basically narcissists. I agree.

[@DanaAdams-bc5ug]

I am 59 years old and I had to understand why I do the things I do. I likely wouldn’t have found I am INFJ if it weren’t for AI. It’s been an amazing journey

[@unkolawdio]

You don't like me?,,,go away then

[@donaldmaclean4842]

Ive never taken a test to see exactly what type I am but oh my you've nailed this bang on.

[@bonitaclaireloveday-wp9rq]

Thank you 💚 I Am That I Am.🤙.

[@martinefay]

Thanks Wenzes. I'm really glad you are a KZbinr because to me you are the cream of the crop. These people who don't like us...I'm not too keen on them either but this helps me to understand why. It'll help me blend in 😂

[@Kate-ms5js]

You’re great, Wenza 🎉

[@Kate-ms5js]

Wenzes!!

[@karieification]

Very good!! Amen to all.

[@wandalynnellis7814]

I love who i am ❤ it took a long time to get here though

[@endo4682]

People can be a combination of these traits, and it makes it easier to signal that I don't want to deal with those types. Unfortunately, this is my manager - a rules driven social climber, who can't step out of the normal box

[@ConstantlyCreating]

Great video. It's like you are in my head! Lol

[@MegaCyberleader]

woah a 2 am PST upload.. .nice.

[@MegaCyberleader]

Once a long time ago a kid stole my property in elmentart school by telling the other adults I stole it from him, and no matter how much I tried to proove that I was innocent they just confinscated it and gave it to the bully. Later that day he laughed in my face and said he did it just because he could. 6m laterIpushed himdown severalflights of stairs and watchedhimsuffer. That is when I realized the punishment wasnt worth the crime. To this day i remember it like it was yesterday.... 40 years ago.

[@MegaCyberleader]

the toy was a small little keychain 6 shooter revolver, that took real caps and you could fire with the trigger. Had a fully functiong hammer and was basically the best cap gun I ever own before I bought a real weapon 20+ years later.

[@lucid2184]

I've also attracted thieves like crazy. We are opposite to people who are materialistic and selfish

[@KathyJacksonSanDiegoRealEstate]

Its true. Were not universally well liked or we are a threat.

[@gabrielWachong]

So far like 3 people and not even for too long 😂😂😂

[@ninilustig]

Careful, I do bite 😂…Oops, as an Asian living in Europe, and dealing with them, it’s like oh my G-! The first 10 years was rough, right now, I DONT CARE 😊😊

[@Rich_Engine9977]

i honestly dont care

[@thegardenofserendipity]

I love this video.

[@LeAnne-uw3wp]

Awesome video as always ❤ thanks

[@jo-d433]

Good

[@jethrorafro2902]

This off topic alot but I'm just to curious from infjs especially you wenzes I've seen videos that Hitler was an INfj thoughts maybe a video on the topic it's just you've talked to so many INfjs I understand it's a sensitive topic but like I said I'm just too curious. Thanks

[@starshibe4231]

Thank you❤

[@tamiaj851]

Lovely video with great insights! Thanks Wenzes 🙂 Does any INFJ not see themselves as co-dependent? I personally am hyper independent so the codependency aspect does not resonate at all. My belief is that; as unique thinkers and innovators with abstract perceptions, we are independent in our thoughts and a actions. We create our own reality in spite of the societal expectations around us. What does anyone think about this?

[@endo4682]

co-dependency doesn't sound like an Ni dom trait, because it enjoys possibilities beyond sticking with useless people.

[@dddenes]

Point number #0: narcs :D

[@edsanville]

I’m an INTJ and we have strong Te…. But we’re anything but rule-followers. Are we sure Te is related to a rule-following personality?

[@jean-francoisgagnon680]

Merci

[@MDWavemaster]

While watching your video I can draw and name at least one person that fits every mold you've described here. They don't like me and I don't like them l o l

[@mridulaism]

👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾

[@howaboutno2023]

🔥🔥🔥

[@danab172]

I can't stand them. -infp

[@lauradavis8538]

65 yo infj and i dont give af 😂

[@Heidi1466]

Rise above 👆

[@ThomasWiggins-be9mg]

A INFJ coach? just what are you coaching? and not sure why you would want money from people like us to try to understand what’s inside us that’s a no no and the other powers out there want from all of us.

[@angelarrkhu4606]

Okay ders 5 types people who cant stands of infj. Teach me coach what should i do so dat dis 5 types cant stand infj will be the infj cant stand these 5 types? Because for me its not important that der r cant stand infj or im a standers😅 Or easy to understand what should i do to go me down becuase f the infj is on top this s not important to infj. Teach me coach to go down dont waste time time time

[@Madamchief]

Bot??

[@BentReality.369]

Why did y tube bring me here. What the fook is a infj.

[@chrislim7976]

Who cares about social climbing/hierarchy? Why? It sounds miserable.

[@user-qd8ou9lo4x]

"We attract people who don't like us" probably the covert narcissism, superiority complex, and sense of being special ("I'm so rare!"). At least Wenzes is making a profit off that, though.

[@luckyxxxxk]

This sounds like a hint of insecurity and jealousy. And this statement is contradicting bc ppl do not gravitate towards covert narcissists any personality type could be this (mostly want to be liked bc of their fragile ego) superiority complex (ppl who are social climbers and self centered) in regards to the sense of being special” should you not see yourself as special?? You do you knw you can view yourself like that as well. Plus that doesn’t make sense for an infj bc we would rather isolate ourselves than be on the front lines shouting I’m so rare. Your comment just comes off as being a hater for no reason what so ever.

[@stevemiller8895]

Narcissist are probably the most codependent people in the world. You might be surprised at just how many narcissists are INFJS. BECAUSE INFJS are subject to a need for external validation, bc they cannot find it in themselves. Therefore requiring external supply. SIDENOTE: incidentally, unreconciled cptsd is a key factor in NPD development

[@angelarrkhu4606]

Ok im suck. Teach me what should i do to go down so that u will not called me suck? Ca man dont waste time teach me now. Its okay too one will i do i will kneel/luluhod 🧎🏻

[@Madamchief]

Bot🫤

[@angelarrkhu4606]

@@Madamchief okay