HOW THE INFJ OVERCOMES ADDICTIVE & SELF-DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR

[@Wenzes]

What is helping you overcome addictive unhealthy behavior as an INFJ?

[@tallgirlmodel]

I’ve explored the hobbies since divorce that I did not allow before. Finding motorcycle riding to be very helpful

[@sila8219]

My religion islam .work . connection with freinds and family.consuming positive on social media and KZbin. Growth .and work again.getting things done and getting better on things

[@TexasMadeAprilRenee]

THERAPY, LEARNING ABOUT MYSELF AND MOVING OUTSIDE OF THE USA.

[@nostromois]

Logic and spirituality. And growing up.

[@Hayed999]

Animals and Spiritual Life ❤️‍🔥🪷

[@corporaterobotslave400]

I find that a sense of "peace" is exactly what I need and want and create and try to maintain in my life. It's not "boring", it's just the opposite. Having spent so many wasted years with drama queens and undisciplined jealous fools sabotaging all my efforts I find that all I want now is to be left alone so I can build my own Empire without any annoying set backs and interference from other people. Men in general desire PEACE in their lives, not constant engagement and excitement ~ that stuff is for those who haven't experienced life enough yet. I've seen just about every band I've ever wanted play live, I've been all over the US and a lot of Europe, I've helped win 2 Academy Awards, and divorced a Hollywood model. So I've been there done all that already. It's now MY turn to take things @ MY speed, develop my talents as I pursue my Empire building. Peace.

[@carolwest6095]

Interesting

[@listenswell9873]

Bravo 👏 and the best to you! A fellow INFJ

[@lindateuling7862]

I used to have big time problems with depression (not all INFJs do). However, in my pre Myers-Briggs days, I learned that teaching did wonders for my mood. And now, knowing about Myers Briggs in general and INFJ in particular, I definitely see the dynamics of extroverted feeling and extroverted sensing for focusing outward. My first experience of teaching on a professional level came with giving piano lessons and later in the classroom. Classroom teaching especially helps us practice Se because we're constantly having to make new plans, write them up, submit them and use them. I'm not saying that all INFJs should be teachers, but I do know that it helped me immensely.

[@SparklinSidor9]

As a child, I played "teacher" all the time. In fact, that is what I wanted to be when I grew up. I was 8 at the time I remember "teaching" my "students" everything is vibrating and has a frequency specific to that which is vibrating. Everything is energy and has movement (vibration). I also remember explaining ueven though our human eyes can not see the vibration, it doesn't mean it's not happening. We humans actually have limited eye sight, in comparison to the entire light spectrum. The fact that I remember this like it was yesterday is all the validation needed.

[@lindateuling7862]

@@SparklinSidor9 When we teach,bit absorbs all our energy. A lot of concerns disappear when I do that.

[@lindateuling7862]

@@SparklinSidor9 some of my best tunes of teaching is when I am battling with depression. Just the act of giving out information and teaching things made it all go away. It still does that for me

[@stephenbesley3177]

I am very self destructive. It is the reason why I shut myself off. I don't trust people generally and at 63 I have no idea how to turn things around.

[@TexasMadeAprilRenee]

❤❤❤FIND A THERAPIST THAT "YOU" VIBE WITH..IT CHANGED MY LIFE SIR. JUST PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP.😢❤ YOU'RE HERE FOR A REASON. EVEN IN YOUR 60s! ONE ❤LOVE INFJ TWIN.

[@NorthStarPNW]

I agree. As a senior, I have adjusted and accommodated all my life. I'm exhausted and society has changed so much recently that I no longer have the energy or interest in trying to figure it out. I'm retired and quite content - even happy - to move away from neighbors, go into town once or twice a month, and live MY life for me. Frankly, nobody else cared about me anyway, so it's win-win.

[@marktristanviguri7308]

Me too, I'm 61. I'll never go to therapy. No thanks I don't need a paper trail following me around. Cannabis instantly connects my brain when I've wondered off too far or can't concentrate on the task at hand. Best of luck.

[@7goldglamour777]

Being in hermit mode is absolutely addicting. Just to try to turn off until recharged enough to go at it again..also pushing everyone out during that time. It's like survival mechanism until figure out what to do.

[@petervervaene5301]

Realizing and accepting boredom has been the greatest start to balance

[@larapunk3532]

How you did it? I can't accept it

[@petervervaene5301]

@@larapunk3532 if you can't accept it that means your ego is at play, let you sink to the bottom.

[@debmanrique6466]

Yes! Isolation is my addiction, but reality is that when I extend myself to social interactions, I feel more emotionally balanced.

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

I have been trying to create a peaceful environment for myself. I never knew about limerence until this year, in this particular situation; however, I have thought about 2 people who I thought were for me, because they have gaslighted me into thinking such, when it was the opposite. Now, I am all about ME and God; like I wanted years ago. It's all about balance for me. I will complete my schooling, continue to fix my finances, and stay consistent with my eating and exercising habits. I know myself: I am standoffish: keeps me outta negativity amd things that doesn't pertain to me, I ask 'why' questions and tell the truth. I will continuously choose me because I love and respect myself! Always have. I rebuke shame. People will not shame me because they choose to misunderstand me. Thank You, Wenzes! An INFJ southern woman.

[@bamgold4677]

Good luck you got this. You will Win.

[@AnneChandreamer]

My extroverted pleasures are dancing, singing, cooking, baking and of course, writing. I miss doing these ..

[@DearYoungerSelf111]

Great list! Learning a new recipe to cook leaves me no choice to be present because of the sheer process (measuring stuff - keeping an eye on the stove - etc.). My thoroughness as an INFJ benefits me in the kitchen and my natural propensity to improve (ie. Perfect a recipe).

[@kan0762]

This is the best advice given on INFJ self development. Its about using those skills that we do not tap into as often. You can set an energy as well. There is a tone that you can set in the environment you go into. Also that boredom is actually like you mention the peace that is peak level. Overall you become a better person. Nice video as usual!

[@GeckoCraft13]

Seeing utopia in my mind is actually a STRENGTH I have as an INFJ because even if it's something I can't fulfill in MY particular finite life time, I still use it as a beacon of hope when life gets tough which makes the possibility of the utopia coming to life as infinite. As soon as I LOOK for people to validate my utopia, that's when my emotional well-being is bad. I follow my dream of being a cartoon designer and world builder while being tapped into a mindset of infinite intelligence, not boredom. Everything is ON my way, not IN my way! Everything about the world is beautiful just as it is! The fact is, as an INTROVERT, right...as an INTROVERT I don't look for people to validate this perspective I have of reality. I know they will never understand it because most people think that pondering concepts and ideas philosophically is USELESS because it's assumed to have no practical benefits in the real world when actually it gives a big picture perspective of how nature works.

[@bamgold4677]

They are very dumb the people you mentioned. Because I have made tons of money in the stock market by using abstract philosophy. Some people are too stupid to see how unrelated concepts benefit them.

[@savannasmusicdisk]

Very true, creating a new path starts off confusing and chaotic until it starts to turn into your new safe place cause even if u Arn’t where u want to be yet, you know you are moving away from illusions / your addictions and that’s all you need to know to know you are going the right way in balancing out your inner functions !

[@MeDoingArt]

Wow, thank you so much for your insight and wisdom on being an INFJ. I'm 61 years old and I only found out a few years ago how important it is to understand our personality. I have a lot of unresolved trauma from my childhood, and I spent half of my life living in a fantasy world, pretending to be somebody else.

[@kristyboxx]

What was constantly going through my head was how grateful I am to find this channel as it motivatedme to get out there and take the action, get out of my fantasy world and start living it. Thank you for that Wenzes.

[@truthtips8118]

Ate Wenze almost break character when trying that expression 😂 10:12 i hope you show more of that sillyness Edit: the Booorrringg *raise eyebrow* too

[@Abulina09]

This came at the perfect moment, I just had another blowout with an abusive person who loves emotionally manipulating me and treating me like the emotional garbage can to self regulate and self soothe... I'm so tired of the limerence cycles and overlooking peoples' bad behavior 😔😔😤

[@tnt01]

Go no contact.

[@mks-one]

Why are you allowing them to continually treat you like a garbage? What keeps you?

[@Wraith_911]

😜 10:20 😜 i'm ready for boredom 7+ months - no caffeine or alcohol or 'soft' drinks quietly door slammed the planet grey rocking before creating firewalling weird how solitude becomes healthier than connection

[@bamgold4677]

Get it good job :):):) that also leads to weight loss.

[@Wraith_911]

@@bamgold4677 you're right...i lost 125 pounds of ugly fat...i got a divorce 😉

[@mohaCave]

Always linked challenging people to growth. But I realized it is extremely selfish and painful, it is yeilding, but you never get to celebrate your successes.

[@dhairyavyas3698]

This is quite good. Thank you for creating this video. Am learning a lot about myself by watching your videos and its making my life better. Thank you Wenzes ☺️

[@matthewsolidum3494]

I am highly obsessed with this video! This is what I go through as an infj in yearss 😊. I started my personal growth journey since 2022, I've seen the incremental progress I made in the long-term 🖤

[@kencornwell]

Wenzes has us going deeper and deeper. I love it. ♥

[@KimberlyDo]

This one came right on time, thank you dear Wenzes ❤

[@marktristanviguri7308]

Big help, thanks

[@Zion_Heart]

So true...I'm actually doing this advice now before I found this video. This is just confirming to me that I'm not changing who I was but evaluating what i need to heal insanity and the introverted addiction. Sample, I was ghosted but still fantasizing about the person. I decided to explore once more continuously while the boundaries are still there. Happiness is within but we have needs and we need to strategize to get what we really want.

[@kristalmarie8357]

Thank you so much for your information and guidance

[@carlg-67]

Bordum plan embraced long ago..Santuary and inner peace from boring times suprised me though..Take care out there !

[@FrisbeeGirl]

This is *SO* rich! TYSVM!! INFJ mal-adaptive practices are much different than many others. I love this breakdown sosoSO much!

[@seamgawdessmain]

damn. this video hit more than any others lol

[@southernroots3896]

Ditto. Kinda scary how deeply this resonated, time for me to take this issue seriously and make changes ❤

[@Brody.W]

Thanks! Jesus.

[@larapunk3532]

I can't understand :"What feels like bordem is actually inner peace" "Healthy infj default state is bordem" HOW!!? PLZ explain this point 😭

[@annebonny5104]

You are so good! Thank you so much for your advice! ❤🙏

[@LisekFenek]

Boredom is so hard think to do, my mind is scared of it.😅

[@mridulaism]

Thank you

[@BeholdIamaNewCreation]

I'm here after a fantasy and fake intimacy binge....(raises hand in INFJ-AA class)

[@TheyCallMeSir_H]

Good advice.

[@iona-airen]

this video is AMAZING . how can i learn about the eye of janus, sounds revelatory?

[@maxiecchi1057]

いつも私が必要としている答え、有り難う御座います。

[@SJ-ug9sp]

Please do some videos for intj women also..❤

[@NorthStarPNW]

HUH? This one was just for men?

[@SJ-ug9sp]

@@NorthStarPNW I mean INTJwomen, not INFJ

[@ResonantNewt]

She just speak about INFJ because she is one , and because she is very knowledgeable about it, i don't think she also knows very well other types to speak about them deeply

[@valerievandermotten2414]

I’m in the middle of struggling with how to use the extrovert function.

[@lukewilliams7860]

I'm a bit thrown by the terminology. Can someone tell me what is the overarching lesson in the video please?

[@reste9283]

❤

[@AnneChandreamer]

Being addicted to Netflix, anime and chocolate probably 😅

[@EmpireSelfBuilding]

I am scrolling way too much 😂

[@greengardens1565]

My God how beautiful she is

[@tarakessinger3648]

🤍🤍🤍

[@Brody.W]

Jesus Christ of Nazareth.

[@vincentkretzschmar4988]

You know what claim truth where you find it. Actually learnt a lot from her video that no one in church told me. They've often just been more passive-aggressive frustrated

[@Hayed999]

You're therapying me and my soul deeply appreciates it. ❤️‍🔥🪷

[@MoncefMaatallah]

I really appreciate your efforts and love through this video ❤ your words explain a lot and help because you dive into the meaning of things 🤍

[@ellarataj6590]

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