What are Attachment Styles? | Secure and Insecure Attachment

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[@BecomeConsciousNow]

I definitely had an insecure attachment with my caregiver, thus resulting in severe anxiety and a fear of being close to other people. "Terrified" is exactly how I would describe how I feel about close relationships.

[@AlissaSss23]

Same, sending hugs 🫂

[@giulianacr2638]

It makes me sad to discover all the dysfunction I grew up in. The abuse and neglect shaped me to be fearful of being rejected and feel insecure about my relationships with people. I feel overly conscious of people's opinions of me and fear that they have a negative perception of my appearance and behavior. I also have social anxiety and feel shaky and tense when interacting with others.

[@AlissaSss23]

I'm just there with you, sending good vibes your way!!!

[@giulianacr2638]

@@AlissaSss23 sending you love back! ❤

[@BrainWaveS101]

I grew up with a loving mom and grandfather and i still suffer from sense of abandonment because of parents divorce and the consequences of their decisions. I am 66 and a people pleasers being often accused of trying to buy friendships. Its so obsurd but at leadt i am finally willing to look and try taking better care of myself first becore constantly reaching out to help others. I think i have had all the symptoms! Lol -so i start there, today! Love and light!❤

[@priyakumari6073]

Social anxiety is the biggest problem of my life it almost ended my life I don't think I'll ever grow out of it no matter how much I try everyday......

[@Eric_Dan-6_MD_PhD]

The fact that you are AWARE/CONSCIOUS to these influences of your past/upbringing on your future takes you and heals you 50% of the solution and gives you the tool to Re-shape it towards a more SECURE stage. Accept though that it might NEVER go away completely and make peace with that fact. In doubt, STOP right there, count to 10, think logically (vs. respond emotionally) and behave like a secure person would with your small flavour added, of course.

[@giulianacr2638]

14:31 exactly my case. I don't have a good relationship with my mom and now as a mom I have insecure attachment with my children, not that they'll leave me because they're young, but I worry too much about their well being, and I'm slowly discovering it's unhealthy to shelter them so much.

[@JaydeJardine-tz3my]

Thankyou so so much for your videos. They are helping me understand myself so much more and be responsible for the way I act in relationships ❤

[@DocSnipes]

You are so welcome! I am sincerely grateful for your thoughtful contribution to my video. Your generosity speaks volumes, and I'm inspired by your support. Thank you for making a positive impact on my creative journey.

[@giulianacr2638]

Thank you so much for all the work you do and the way you explain it. I'm slowly discovering the areas in which I need work on. Having all this information helps me to write notes about me to take back to my treatment before my appointment. Ty Doc 🙏

[@ashoksingh68886]

Thanks

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for your support Ashok

[@ADINA7]

Hello, Doc Snipes! Thank you! ❤️💐

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Hello Adina. You are always welcome.

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My pleasure!

[@endeleocounsellingtherapy8239]

Succinct presentation!!! loved it, how about doing more of this kind, for all presentations? your consistency is admirable.

[@DocSnipes]

I appreciate you watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=attachment

[@Sundardevsaha-e3k]

Delightful overview! Thank you for posting this. You significantly supported my learning and understanding. 😁🙏🙏🙏

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m so glad to hear that the video helped deepen your understanding of attachment styles. Exploring these patterns is such a powerful step toward building healthier relationships and greater self-awareness, and I’m honored to be part of your learning journey. If you found the video helpful, please consider sharing it-it might help someone else gain valuable insights into their own attachment style and relationships. Is there a particular aspect of attachment styles that stood out to you or resonated the most? I’d love to hear your thoughts and explore related topics in future videos!

[@mikeh7516]

Thanks!

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for your support Mike

[@smirkinatu5512]

Interesting, I never knew of such things. Thank you for recording and posting this valuable educational video.

[@DocSnipes]

You’re most welcome. I am grateful to be of service. Also, I’d be grateful if you were to share what you found most useful from the video. Additionally, if you're interested in more tips on the topic this or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.

[@whitneymusole2398]

Thanks doc,very helpful tools,couldn't thank you enough 🙏😊

[@DocSnipes]

I appreciate your support and continued views.

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Glad it was helpful!

[@Mari3.14]

Great information! Very well explained! Thank you 🙏🏻

[@DocSnipes]

You’re most welcome

[@2rhythms]

Thanks Doc!!! It’s awesome. Very helpful, now I have much better ideas what it’s actually about 🙏🙏💛

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching!

[@mariammahmoud5834]

Thank you for your great effort in spreading knowledge about these topics 🙏🙏✨✨you are helping lots of people

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You're so welcome!

[@hope4094]

Thank you

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You're welcome

[@dragonstaye4557]

What about ptsd fight, flight or freeze in 'style?''

[@DocSnipes]

Those are adaptive stress responses, not attachment styles

[@charlesblair1900]

i prefer the word connection. i dont know why psychology loves that word. attachment is always a weakness. but being open and connected is in a interdependent relationship is good.

[@DocSnipes]

Because Attachment Theory is what Bowlby called it, Ainsworth followed and Hazan and Shazer expanded to include adult attachment theory

[@charlesblair1900]

@@DocSnipes and , words have deeper meaning. In my professional opinion. Either 1 they approached it from ego and labeled it correctly but dont understand Attachment is weakness, but realized that oneness is reality. Or 2. They had a powerful relationship with it and they didn't look deep enough into the definiton and meaning of that word and mislabeled the ideology. It's similar to' mindfulness'. Presence is not mind nor is awareness. It's mislabeled at best , at worst it's a total misnoymer. The last thing in this society disconnected from nature is more mind more thoughts more reactiveness more judgment analysis etc. We are insane and until we can know how to think and how to know truth it is not only not helpful but its outright dangerous.

[@kurt6410]

when are you going to do that presentation on RAD?

[@DocSnipes]

I am working as fast as I can through the requests. It takes me between 4 and 6 hours just to write a presentation then I have to record and upload it.

[@mariammahmoud5834]

@@DocSnipes 🌷🌷🌷🌸🌸🌸very much appreciated Doc 👏👏👏

[@maintain.faith.3657]

This is an interesting topic. The Bible says GOD created Man & Woman as two halves of a whole. In life we go through many different learning experiences to equip us for the future. Your intellect is very appealing.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching

[@maintain.faith.3657]

@@DocSnipes A Pleasure, looking forward to learning more.

[@GriffinWulf]

Doc Snipes I have my psychiatrist appointment next month, I've been watching your videos and feel like I have hunch what categories I may fall into, but I'm afraid if I go in with a condition in mind that I will come off as shopping for a diagnosis or even drug seeking because one is treated with stimulants.. could you make a video on the topic?

[@DocSnipes]

I don't know if you are in the U.S. ... but, in the U.S. psychiatrists mostly write prescriptions. They "can" do individual counseling, but their rate is usually prohibitively high for that. So, virtually everyone going to see them is going to be looking for a medication treatment. It is every day for them, I wouldn't be concerned. Just be honest about your condition and the help you are hoping for.

[@abbieclark1665]

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[@yanadre9154]

Do narcissists usually have an anxious/preoccupied attachment style?

[@wisewordsforlife2866]

Is ADD linked to insecure attachment?

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching the video. Yes, there is a significant link between ADHD and insecure attachment, with ADHD symptoms contributing to the development of attachment issues when not properly understood or addressed by caregivers.

[@ThaHopelessRomantic]

I don’t seem to fall into any of these. Im a lover looking for someone who wants to b loved. Seems like everyone else wants to b loved but wan’t allow themselves. What attachment style am i?

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It sounds like you're very in tune with your desire to love and be loved, which is wonderful. From what you’ve described, it might be helpful to explore the *anxious-preoccupied attachment style*. People with this style often seek closeness and intimacy but may feel uncertain about whether others will reciprocate. However, attachment styles can be complex, and it's also possible that you have a unique blend of traits. If you're interested, it might be beneficial to explore more about attachment styles at allceus.com/AskDocSnipes to see which aspects resonate most with you.

[@youngway3025]

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[@chrismcevoy2503]

I’m probably anxious-ambivalent.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching the video. Here are some videos on developing secure attachment: kzbin.infosearch?query=secure