What dating an emotionally unavailable woman looks like.

[@JessicaOS]

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[@rejoicereeves1749]

Thanks so much for the video Jessica, why if u are married to a man & love he with everything inside of you & when ever you people have a little misunderstanding & he keeps on telling or compelling you with his ex & at the same time telling you he can never be with you & u have come to realize that he's not available for you when you need him so u decided to be unavailable to save yourself from another heart beat.

[@wilsing1781]

@@rejoicereeves1749 No man will marry a woman he doesn’t love accept is the woman who married him. Please how was the relationship before marriage, if it was perfect then you are the right place. Don’t complain. That’s how marriage is. You are destroying it , if you become emotionally unavailable to him. He doing what he’s doing is the man you married, so it’s up to you to accept that and let him live his life and also focus on yours and live. That’s how marriage should be. If there are issues if you love him, stay… and learn and improve cause it wouldn’t end. And if he tells you he doesn’t love you, just understand and ask him now what you guys do?

[@benedictnwaokocha2029]

Oh golly! This is a whole heap of work. I'd rather find the available ones. I'm not good with puzzles

[@SHINOBHS]

Don't pursue emotionally unavailable people or you will get hurt badly. These people won't care about you or your feelings. You will always feel you are on the edge fighting for something.

[@charger23us]

That's untrue. They feel deeply, they just can't show it. They're are human, they aren't "these people". They are people, capable of emotions.

[@tuebretling7998]

Don't pursue such a woman, it's too much work, and in the process, you the man will end up getting hurt. Leave her alone, if she needs you, she'll come around, if not, let her be. In the meantime, go find a woman who won't make you feel that you're on trial.

[@JayFloyd210]

This makes sense

[@cynderazuleehirgon3684]

Same with men ❤

[@vuyisilemahlaule3666]

✌️

[@lilker1]

🙌🏿

[@Nipsiii]

women treat you the same way they truly feel about you

[@DarthFurie]

Respectfully, I think it's bad advice to tell people to pursue emotionally unavailable individuals. I was emotionally unavailable for a period of a few years due to past relationship trauma. Some men would try to persistently pursue me even though I said upfront I was only up for platonic friendship, not interested in a romantic/emotional connection, etc. They would always try to convince me to change my mind and it made me feel a deep feeling of disgust towards them, that ultimately pushed me away. I could only become emotionally available again after healing from the trauma, doing therapy, and spending time alone. Being in a relationship is not ideal for healing, as you will only inflict pain on the other person and continue the cycle of trauma. Emotionally unavailable people can be alluring to some because of the "challenge" aspect, but it is a fool's errand to pursue this

[@legitone3528]

Well however much it's not a good idea to Persue sm1 who is emotionally unavailable... I think it's a good thing towards that person who has that problem more so if the person persuing is mature and genuine in that even if this person completely builds a strong wall u know that thy have a problem more than them bein proud.. It helps the emotionally unavailable person to know that sm1 out there still believes that thy are worthy of something good

[@DarthFurie]

@@legitone3528 I can respect your perspective, thanks for contributing a thought

[@theworldisimmense]

@@DarthFurie i got a little story with a single mom who’s 23 , maybe you have advice

[@SpicyLunarDust]

This

[@HikerGirl-ct3nd]

@@DarthFurie hi how long did it take you to heal as I feel exactly the same after being with and emotionally unavailable person.I was a different person bf but now i dont even want go talk to people let alone flirting sad

[@alchimia1388]

My ex was emotional unavailable, It hit me hard but i think i became a little bit clingy and She quit. But my advice Is, dont Chase an un emotional unavailable woman, its draining and useless..

[@kwasibaah-wiredu3200]

Best advice is to let go even tho she tries to get closer?

[@jadegrenade8287]

Agreed yuck.

[@dr.mathieumathieu9220]

If she is not coming to you . she is not your girlfriend and future wife . otherwise you will regret I swear

[@SpicyLunarDust]

I agree with this reply, if it’s not reciprocal, run.

[@aasyed]

I have been with one for 3 and a half years. Trust me people, you will end up with pain no matter how hard you try to fix things. This video perfectly makes sense, I wish I had seen this earlier

[@eadudamoah]

You are just correct. Everything thing that you said on this topic is precisely what I have experienced myself. Thanks for the good work you are doing

[@kwasibaah-wiredu3200]

What was the best option you took? I’m currently in that situation.

[@maloikevin9183]

This is so educated am dating one now.and I love her so much.we've been no communicating for a year now.

[@oc3144]

@@maloikevin9183 how is it going with your emotionally unavailable girlfriend

[@bunnybeetle1304]

I am one. And I go for emotionally unavailable men. It is too cold to even be called hell, really.

[@beauti_in_and_out6178]

What if the wall she’s built is to protect herself from the man who has constantly gave her the bricks to build that wall? Nothing from her past before him, but all the bricks were given to her to build that wall by him. She tries and tries to take bricks off to get rid of this wall, but he finds them and brings them back to her AND still expects her to be emotionally available to him 24/7. What about that?

[@kareemdowner9600]

Perfectly said/asked.

[@TJDeLois]

I would really want to hear the answer to this one too 🙏🏾

[@rebeccajoyfamily4630]

😂 😂😂😂

[@paulgodson9857]

I think J is talking about this. If a man hurt you several times, you need to be emotionally strong and move on. This is to men who met women who are hurt by another man. I pray you get me. 🙏🏿

[@aliendragons_corruptedSoul]

Me with not much past experience tho.

[@godlivebagumamugisha5302]

Thank you mdm Jessica I am in the same situation ur talking about.

[@sportsxtratv5707]

Is amazing how your channel has grown over a very short period of time. Congrats # 1million subscribers

[@tedmcgavran5737]

Point 6 is my issue with my girl! I know that I can get through to her because I have before. Then she retreats. But, since she does come my way, I keep her on occupied longer each time. I have to tell you, I stay with this one because she has a deep soul and I like to do hard things period! Either way it ends up, I'll be stronger than before. But I think it'll be positive for both of us because I don't quit on things and people I value. And I'm undefeated.

[@klausmakaneta6890]

Someone shouldn't ignore you or treat you that bad because of her bad past. We all have those.. am in that kind of a situation been through hell and still manage to be with this new girl and treat her so well but she ignores me. So am meeting up with her today I will bring this up one last time if she can't change that would be the last time I try

[@kwasibaah-wiredu3200]

Good luck

[@ilikepancakes2368]

Women assume that all men will treat them bad that’s why they don’t take relationships seriously even when you do. I would advise, stop trying to chase her. I know it hurts but it makes no sense to stay with someone who doesn’t love you.

[@kayochambers9418]

@@ilikepancakes2368what if shes 3 weeks pregnant

[@sam_ess1]

Right timing. Thanks Jess❤️

[@mugishavicta1560]

This is the best video so far in 2023, thanks OS

[@onyemaaugustine7470]

I am sorry I don't have such time and patience for this.

[@amaansheikh175]

We have been talking for more than six months , we are emotionally connected and kissed and hugged many time . She got ready for a relationship but later she got insect again. She was badly hurt in the past and don't want to repeat it. She talks with me everyday and shares every problem of her but still she is not ready for a relationship. I love her so much and she also loves me but she doesn't want to commit. I'm doing my best and I know that I would never settle for a friendship with her . She wants to meet me , spend time with me but.....

[@gopaulsalick507]

I'm going through the same situationship for the past 9months so far

[@kwasibaah-wiredu3200]

Wow…. one month already and I feel like quitting it.

[@gopaulsalick507]

@kwasi baah-wiredu it's rough 😔, is all up to you If u willing to continue or not

[@kwasibaah-wiredu3200]

@@gopaulsalick507 yeah true, I just quit mine no time to waste.

[@rafeeqh_Moon]

Please leave that relationship

[@marguskiis7711]

@@kwasibaah-wiredu3200 What is your time for?

[@yellowmellow7748]

As an emotionally unavailable woman, I've just come to terms with the fact i might be alone forever coz i wouldn't want my partner to walk on eggshells around me and feel insecure but i also don't know how to accommodate them and their needs

[@nashbrightchisema9777]

Wow you are amazing you just saved a soul here thank you very much Jessie 😊

[@heartofaking]

The best video on this topic. Thank you Jessica for sharing this 🙏🏼

[@jorgecavanna2898]

You described literally the girl im dating. You are incredible.

[@MrEdlawrence]

I find it hard to love anymore when I haven't received it since the beginning 4 yrs ago. Every time she showed me a glimpse into what we could have, I'd get humbled real quick maybe a week or so later. The ups and downs are exhausting, the nights and days of feeling alone even when you are in the same house, the feeling that everyone else is way more important than us... I gave her her wish and now officially feel out of love. It's sad but I'm strong and this year is the year of me!!

[@inspiredx3866]

Dont take it personal. Keep your head up ..and especially if she admits all these points about hherself let her be. Believe her. Wish her well and keep your dignity. Standing by her may prove a lot or get her more scared and officially break up

[@walterdubani102]

Jessica, this is so profound, your videos are informative, helpful and credible

[@edd_Alex]

Again, You described her top to bottom incradibly, (my separated wife) Keep going!!! Always waiting ur vids

[@kwasibaah-wiredu3200]

Too bad it will sucks in that situation, you get confused whether to move or to stay.

[@iamyourfather7761]

1. emotional damage 2. ghost of ex boyfriends past 3. daddy issue 4. trust issue 5. exploited 6. narcissistic personalty disorder 7. too woke solution: walk away

[@kg30004]

“Too woke” 🤡

[@mellymel9892]

I was in 3 toxic relationships back to back to back. And I am here to tell you trying to heal a broken woman is a complete waste of time. Do NOT do it. You will only be left feeling like them in the end, BROKEN!!

[@dave-j-k]

Just broke up from an emotionally unavoidable woman, it was not clear at the start but after 4 months it was obvious, no emotion at all, arctic in the bedroom. We parted and got back but it was just as bad, it was painful in the end. The only advice I can offer is not to get involved, you will not win. The unavailable person must heal themselves before getting involved, you cannot change them, if they do not want to change they never will and it will end in tears.

[@Hurlakeji]

I love you so much Jessica... all your videos always resonate with me... not a single one I didn't realte with..I will surely join your patreon soon.!!! THANK YOU once again for this great tips..❣❣❣

[@nastyk3600]

I can’t stay in such relationships… Making such relationships work depends on the guy… Relationships works when both parties work together to achieve a goal

[@jerryabe2972]

Just what I needed

[@rafeeqh_Moon]

Im so happy i saw the red flags 🚩 so early even tho she wasted my 2 years .. I placed her on monitoring last year September of which I told her all she’s doing that pulls us backward..gave her time to evaluate this but bro she doesn’t deserve me in the end.. Broke up with her this month & I’m happy I did.. Someone I intend to marry,,, I would ve died

[@natureloverbangladesh]

wasted my 6 years of life on her...I got hurt eventually..Gentlemen Run when you sense it..Your effort should be on someone that she receprocates your love at some point ..may be 6 months Is enough I guess

[@shivanipardeshi3114]

Yeahhh when they sense you.. They will say ohh thank god I have no love intrest in my life.. Thank god I have a no girlfriend in my life to give her time They pushed away with in a second..that's the most painful situation ever you feel side out.. Nothing to mean theme.. All the love care effort are gone n they know it still... Emotional unavailable people are worst than enemies

[@natureloverbangladesh]

@@shivanipardeshi3114 100%

[@MbusoVilakazi]

Perfect timing and true words of wisdom. Happy New Year Jessica

[@jonathangloster640]

Thank you for your coaching and support this is the situation that I am in right now

[@bm5_5_5]

Oh wow this definitely used to be me. I’m glad I went to therapy and changed.

[@aspiringrootwoman24]

Don't hold on tight. 6:11 hold on loosely if you decide to hold on. This is for the #1 reason. Holding on tight is like smothering or drowning. Holding on lightly shows you arent going to abandon but you aren't going to force yourself on her either.

[@paulophilip7948]

Great vlog. I can relate with Jess 'cos I have been in one myself. For me, in addition to all the reasons Jessica stated, I think my ex also had lesbian tendencies. She would look and compliment members of her own sex in ways l will never talk about another guy. I just couldn't imagine how hurt and damaged l would have been if a inexperienced version of myself was involved. But alas, I knew to get myself out of the toxic situation before she ripped my life apart with her issues, drama etc.

[@edwardcarter6408]

I really appreciate this message and thanks for sharing!

[@lilker1]

Let them go and live your life, so they can find therapy. If they come back after it great if they don’t even better! -Blessings! ❤️🙏🏾

[@brittwilds1729]

Has nothing to do with there’s walls being up all the time. It’s that they are looking for certain person to date. I’m not dating right now and I don’t want too. Doesn’t mean I’m not open to a relationship it just depends on who it is. That’s fair to me and the other person.

[@pampj8501]

I need help. I am EU and my partner is Codependent. I am starting to believe that we are trauma bonded. We Are both good people individually and I believe if we were both healed we would be amazing. Starting couples counseling soon.

[@ocheroronald1628]

Thank you Jessica ❤️. I'm happy I'm the first to comment 😁👏🏿

[@jn5171]

Life is too short to pursue anyone… Anyways, thanks always Jessica!

[@samuelsackey3976]

This is the situation i find myself in currently.

[@kingwillie206]

Get out now!

[@mchammer3180]

i met this type of girl once. its not worth the effort.i dragged it on too long and should have let it go. plenty of women out there if your outgoing and friendly

[@divamisi24]

Happy New Year Jessica!!!❤ Thank you for making our day with another great video.🤗🙂

[@ericrafael6487]

Kindly talk about men who haven't grown up with their biological mothers but dad only and step mothers @Jessica

[@JayFloyd210]

Yeah it's like nothing works unless I sweet talk her she pulls out her defense cards

[@oyewoleoluwasegun9093]

Omg this is the best video

[@chrisreid3340]

18,40,I know these women I was married to one for 30 years and met one just the same ,cold and secretive ,always insisting “just friends” waste of time 😢

[@marguskiis7711]

poor guy. Women are evil, aren`t they?

[@pelorm8085]

Thank you 😢 needed this

[@arcticfox8779]

no thanks....not pursuing anyone emotionally unavailable... waste of time and effort..go get someone better who IS emotionally available is the best thing you can do gentlemen

[@ChosenDj25]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@ijeomanwichi1242]

Great one dear.Apart from loving your content because it's great,I love your voice.❤🎉 I celebrate you

[@JessicaOS]

Oh thank you

[@dhanrajmohan701]

Public comment. Wow .Jessica you are amazing. Continue the great videos.

[@JessicaOS]

Thank you! Will do!

[@Awe_Victor]

The accuracy!!!

[@emmcee476]

Dont pursue women like this. Even if things are going great for some time and it feels like she has fully and completely given her heart to you, you will find out that this is not the case as soon as something happens that reminds her of her past and past traumatic experience I know this, because I got hurt being in a relationship with a woman like this

[@vsmith6109]

Im sorry. It sucks but I can relate to the woman and it ruined my relationships. I have bad social anxiety and bad conflict anxiety. So I dont express my negative emotions and I avoid problems. I loved one guy for 6 years but the problems compounded and I couldn't fix it without him. I might ask him about my mom visiting and he would get upset/ angry and I would "mask" that its fine to avoid conflict and drop it. I was celibate for 18 months sharing a bed with him and i would try quitting smoking, losing weight, and dressing up. Nothing would work to get his interest. Then he armed himself waiting by the door when he hears something outside which heightened my anxiety if he shot someone. Anxiety would say that he would never comromise for me and he is conservative red pill so I better not be emotional around him. I broke it off with him with next paranoid event from him. He was still my best friend for games, concerts, conversation- because he was an extravert, and a generally peaceful homelife. So I stayed stoic and "agreed to break up" that way he wouldnt argue with me about it if I was dumped. I was pretty proud of myself for never showing emotion or having an argument. Then 4 months after he left the house...I helped him with a flat tire and let him use my car. He apologized for everything with my family, romantic life, and his paranoid events. He said he wished things was different. 😳 I realized that I did not give him a chance and maybe he loved me enough to compromise.

[@stephencoleman1312]

Same man my ex said I was controlling and it’s because her mother was emotionally abusive to her and her father, so at the end of the day she values her freedom more than submitting , I got dumped and it hurts but ik it’s for the best

[@kwasibaah-wiredu3200]

Thank you Jessica, am currently in that situation and it was mine fault for those walls to be built. 😏

[@davidcronan793]

Fantastic video! Thanks.

[@JessicaOS]

You are welcome!

[@sylvesterese466]

I wrote my comment, b4 I listened to your presentation.If at any poin, My woman is unavailable emotionally,why should bother, when in my heart, I know I have dotted my i's and crossed My T's.A woman is the factor determining the live of a relationship....What if her heart is gone from me... Would going for her, having done the "necessary",.be needful?

[@jOr2187]

Exactly why would u bother? Shes gone, shes gone. Move on

[@cyrusmacharia3916]

good advice

[@IslandFeteLyfe9261]

Happy New Year 🎉🎉 And continue with this amazing job that you've been doing. God bless you 💕💯💯

[@olaitanabiodunoyedibu9387]

Thank your Jessica, now I understand better, I involved myself in similar situations some months ago, she wasn't readily available for any serious discussion but I love her and I want to continue,....Thank you..... Continue to grow in wisdom and more revelational knowledge.

[@bigmitchtv3922]

I'm in a mess. I'm asking a girl out for over 2months, we've gone on a date and it was perfect. We discuss constantly and she's quite chatty, we have quite deep conversations...but she says she's not sure( that she is too much in her head) and she never texts me first. I always have to initiate the conversation, but when I do she is very very willing. I'm just totally confused. I think she is the one and that is evidenced by the fact I'm still even talking to her,if it was another girl I'll have let go long ago. I'm really frustrated 😣. I have finally decided to give her distance and haven't spoken to her for a while, cuz I want her to initiate to know if she's actually into me. At this point I'm moving away but I've still got that voice in the back of my mind. I meet a lot of girls but there is none which I have connected to like her...

[@caminodecostaricanetworks75]

Focus on yourself! Sounds like you are kind and that's a great start, improve your life however you can. If you are confused, she's not the one! I also went through a situation recently and these were my takeaways.

[@TheWonderwiess]

Bingo that last half.. give her distance. While stuff will hardly be balanced, feelings is one thing that should be reciprocated.. If she says she's too much believe her. A great convo can lead to you just being a great friend. She has to show interest as well If you have told her your intentions that your looking for a girlfriend it hasn't registered and she just want friendship, weigh it and see if you can tolerate that. Just remember you can't force someone to like or love you.

[@thankgod105]

In as much as I would want you to keep initiating the conversation, I also want you to know that it is a futile effort that won't yield the desired result you need. Just don't give her space, rather, let her go. It'll be very painful but the earlier the better! Sorry Bro

[@markobazu4348]

Try to be unavailable for sometime.. scarcity depicts value and attractiveness. And sometimes been too nice can something else. Be kind but dont be niece.

[@DarthFurie]

I'm a woman and my personal opinion is that she's not interested in you and just using you to pass the time, and potentially a bit of ego boost, whenever you reach out to her. If she were truly interested, you wouldn't feel confused or unsure. She's not that into you. You're chasing her because you probably have an idealized version of her built up in your head, not facing reality, and potentially have some attachment issues of your own which are causing you to latch on to someone who doesn't show that they genuinely like you. Good luck untangling from this, it's in your best interest

[@shadeyraven]

So im in a weird area. I met her online and shes telling me everything i want to hear and more but she says shes emotionally unavailable and hinted not ready for a relationship i think..... she texts a few texts a day and dissappears, sometines misses some days.. she told me shes not really the talking type and she works often... but she told me shes an honest person and tells me if another guy is trying to talk to her... but its getting exhausting its been like 6months and this is getting really confusing and draining but i cant do any better shes the best i can get.. need advice bc i have shit luck

[@dwaynefitzpatrick7463]

my wall isn't hard to get through mine is indestructible

[@kwasibaah-wiredu3200]

😂

[@wilsing1781]

She has become my ex and she keeps calling and texting and I like her very much that I couldn’t love another. But she doesn’t want to open up or commit. I feel I may waste my time but it has become difficult for me to move on.

[@marvelousezechi2629]

You spoke well

[@jaydaniel1368]

Happy new year jessica. You rock!!!

[@martinmusokem5765]

Thanks Jes

[@dontaejarell]

Thank you Jessica ❤️

[@lindokuhlehlatshwayo9215]

You're dealing with a narcissist. Don't waste your time and energy. LEAVE HER!

[@udinelumbu2351]

She's never yours. It's just your turn.

[@redhairshanks3250]

I found a woman who seems similar to this. I like her but she gives me signals like she rarely replied to me than before. We dated once and even hooked up once. After that, she feels cold again and unavailable.. I dont know what our status is as of now...

[@black-blood8825]

Thank you

[@radgh.comedy5670]

Please I fall in love with my female friend but she told me that she is in a serious relationship but she can stay away from me she sometimes behave as if she accepted my proposal but turns back and tell me that I missed interpreted her please what can I do?

[@EmmanuelKwao-kw5yv]

My Mrs Jessica Os your. So Good in perfect in specially Woman God blessed more 👍🏿👍🏿😁❤️🌹🙏🌏☕♟️♟️♟️👌🥒💚✔️

[@HM-ec5vi]

Early childhood trauma can cause this. Be compassionate, we didn’t ask for these wounds, and they’re hard to overcome.

[@calvingrex]

Great vid!

[@davidpitter2551]

Happy New year 🍾, love your content...

[@tauraironaldchiroro6789]

Great staff. Happy New Year Jessica!

[@rejoicereeves1749]

Happy new year Jessica 🎉 ✨️ 💛 🤗 💖

[@Gafomoney28]

Too Complicate

[@neonbash1070]

No. 3 & 5

[@gw6496]

👌🏾👍🏽👍🏽& Just shared!

[@marguskiis7711]

I have partner with these problems. Yes, its hard and needs effort and time. But other way, the love you get is amazing. Its like moving a big rock from the top of some mountain. At first its really hard to push. But when it falls, it fall so fast and powerful.

[@johnjennings9693]

Is this just narrcissism,any answers thanks,

[@fabiocosta3306]

I feel like it is John. I'm dating this girl for the past 4 months. Everything was perfect the first 2 and then this behavior started. Avoidance, disrespect, no affection. It's tough man

[@JayFloyd210]

I think she is insecure I literally went to the store even though I didn't have to she asked me and I went idk she lost her dad that might been it and she keep telling me I'm a manipulating person but I don't do anything wrong

[@iriepham]

Happy new year 🎉🎉

[@lepepino9325]

Happy New year Jessie !

[@yahosephbenyisrael917]

Hey Queen Jessica

[@thomasuwewichmann4398]

Wer spiele spielt mit meinen Gefühlen hat verloren nämlich mich.

[@agyeimaxwell.]

Here we go 🤝♥️🔥

[@melawieeinapfel8594]

stop trying to trick her into a relationship by trying to be the horse whisperer. Just because they are emotionally unavailable with you doesn't mean that they are generally emotionally unavailable. She just can't tell openly that she is not interested in you.

[@lovemoremunyenyembe]

Perfect

[@danishsiddiq941]

Great video for learning the personality type but never do fall for such a girl to breath freely.