What do you secretly desire? | Charlotte Fox Weber | TEDxManchester

Psychotherapist Charlotte Fox Weber examines how throughout life, we often play emotional versions of hide-and-seek, concealing certain desires. In some cases, our desires are so well hidden we’re not even fully aware of their presence. Uncovering what we want has the potential to improve our mental health and enhance our lives.
Charlotte Fox Weber grew up in Connecticut and Paris and went to the University of Bristol, where she studied English and Philosophy. She did her psychotherapy training at the Tavistock & Portman Trust, the Institute of Psychoanalysis, WPF, and Regent’s University. She is a UKCP accredited psychotherapist and registered member of BACP.
Charlotte founded The School of Life Psychotherapy in 2015, and now works in private practice in London. She is a trustee on the board of the Josef and Anni Albers Foundation and runs writing workshops with young women in Senegal. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@arielletchiprout3482]

Charlotte Fox Weber always speaks so much sense! This is amazing

[@notagain3732]

Im so glad i found this , learning things that are relevant rather than something about objects many light years away or a subject that is interesting yet doesnt directly affect our daily life...emotions can be the key to success , money , better realtionships and world peace

[@Sonoftheyoutube]

I don't think if I ever can tell my barber that I don't like my haircut !

[@Tobiastoba]

😂

[@drtatt8081]

I'm not the only on! 💇‍♀️ 💈

[@juliehwang]

right? maybe before the cut, politely ask him if you may.. "give a halfway..review?" just to see if you both are moving towards the right.. "look" & are on the same page :)

[@Sonoftheyoutube]

@@juliehwang I'll give it a shot !

[@dorotheedjouwou8007]

@@drtatt8081 y4yyo2

[@Tobiastoba]

Spot on. No where to hide inside your own self.

[@igreeuropa]

If I had a prayer, it would be this: "God spare me from the desire for love, approval, and appreciation. Amen."

[@citypopspunk]

Powerful. Really explains a lot.

[@williamh.schmidtjr.7614]

Nice piece. Thank you.

[@simplysunmoon]

So true! Thank you for encouraging people ❤️🌝🌒

[@kerryfranklin1841]

Hi, thanks your self in this talk, you make the world safer for humans!

[@iEMMANU3L]

I just finished watching the whole thing. Yea. I’m convinced he was the best she’s ever had and she misses that. Poor husband. And I can see it all over her face and eyes. But respect for having the talk.

[@MrBughyman1000]

She also indirectly and publicly humiliates his manhood 😅

[@ErManu10]

I think she made some good points. It's good to try to be completely honest with ourselves, reflect and identify our dark thoughts. But I don't think it is good to accept them. The opposite actually. If as she said, you want to sleep with your partner, but also with other people, then you really have to have a look at your values and reflect on what is causing that. If you want to be a person with some integrity, of course. And I am not talking about an open relationship. That's different I guess.

[@fappingfoopa]

This was nice, good talk

[@Bharrisonspeaks]

Wow

[@bjean160]

I think some desires should remain hidden

[@Arsh6341]

Not only is ur words are related also from he.. this hide and seek game can distory human creativity

[@cosmicsprings8690]

My younger brother said he would definitely play Hide the sausage with her .😂😂😂

[@moisesespiritosanto2195]

Hi, I'm from São Paulo!

[@hortensiafracalanza281]

Hi! I still am from Espírito Santo! 😂

[@fappingfoopa]

Ayyy

[@sherececocco]

I have a magnet that says, if I lived every day like it was my last the body could would be staggering 😂

[@ivanmoreno6466]

I also feel a little bad about her housband, although she can confront herselve and she's actually doing it, it doesn't mean she is not hurting some people in the process. I think it's the case, but as she said, we can have our own cases...

[@Killmind_her]

Parmigiana

[@quiara_playz9296]

👀

[@Mighty_Juggernaut]

Most of those ideas are corrupted. You mustn't accept your feelings or desires if they are spoilt and corrupt, albeit real (supposedly) and seem to be inherent to you. Accepting them is a path of the weak, the path of the vicious ones. We should fight them, keep them at bay, stomp them, when they want to emerge. Faint not, fight on, tomorrow comes the song!

[@itsiwhatitsi]

Somebody is still playing seek? 😂

[@redflash09021981]

Psychotherapists are the weirdest people

[@fraserwyllie8840]

Emmm is this a TED talk or therapy for the narcissist speaker

[@315foss]

The meaning of a narcissist is a person who pays only attention to themselves and admires themselves. Her speaking about being truthful and honest towards yourself and others, how is that narcissistic 🤷‍♂

[@fraserwyllie8840]

@@315foss because all she does is talk about herself and she’s up there to “help” others as it makes herself feel good about herself …. She’s doing it altruistically … you can spot a fake miles off!

[@crosamond]

Is she drunk