What Gender Double-Standard Inflame You The Most?

[@togotfury]

The fact it is socially acceptable to shame, insult, mock, ridicule. And even physically attack men

[@Otis56]

And then blame the man and everyone jumps on him instead of asking for proof.Legit just saw a comment section full of women being mad men investigate abuse cases and get both sides of the story when a womans the victim instead if immediatley beating the abuser up

[@nothimfrfr1]

Yeah, I’m a boxer, been doing it for a while. And I recently asked a girl out, everyone at my school knows I box, so when she slapped me, I had to laugh it off. Cause I’m also not frail looking, the slap hurt more emotionally than physically, but still, no one really cared

[@CybernerdShua]

I'm honestly insulted more frequently as a woman than I was as a man. On the other hand, I recieve more compliments from strangers, too. The biggest difference between cisgender male and cisgender female that I've noticed here is that bullying _toward_ males tends to be more violent while bullying _toward_ females tends to be more manipulative. In both cases, the gender and sex of the bully don't seem to matter as much as the target. Please note: This is all anecdotal and not data-backed evidence of any common societal phenomenon.

[@willchurch8376]

@@nothimfrfr1 Yes, you did have to laugh it off. Or throw your life down the drain. Get over it, it's part of being a man. (The getting over it, not the getting slapped)

[@elisabeth5995]

They do it because they think men are supposed to be like super duper testosterone-poisoning tough. I’m a woman and I don’t like how people have standards for men like that.

[@galaxiaprince]

as a trans guy i've had the misfortune of seeing the double standards on both sides, but had an incident the other week that really drove it home. i've experienced harrassment from creepy strangers as a girl and as a man, and as a 'girl' you probably can guess it was catcalling and sexual, but the other week some guy followed me for 20 minutes trying to fight me (because he didnt like that i told him to fuck off when he demanded my wallet) and (after he realised i wasnt reacting to him trying to goad me into fighting him and whatever else he was shouting when i turned my music up) at some point started to loudly accuse me of trying to fuck his kid sister and calling me a pedo (i had never met this man or his sister in my life) in order to cause a scene to get me in trouble (or he was possibly on something). and that was scary in a way that i've never experienced before. not that it wouldn't have been scary if i still looked like a woman, he probably would have made threats of sexual violence instead of physical violence but probably wouldn't have accused me of being a nonce (which is a life ruining accusation on its own, but esp in my job). but it was a type of scary that i'm less used to. not a which is worse thing, just an intresting and scary insight into how people will try to hurt you depending on how they see you

[@ledog9979]

Stay safe out there dude! Being trans sucks, but at least you get some insight on stuff 😭

[@xenobirbs]

My grandmother has a habit of complimenting me, a man, in a way that almost comes across as flirting. She’ll say stuff like, “If I were your age, I’d chase you down the street to get you to date me,” and “In another life I’d wish for you to be my boyfriend.” Obviously these comments make me incredibly uncomfortable, but my family tells me to just go along with it, saying that she’s just having a little fun with me and that she’s old and I should feel flattered. Change up the genders in this scenario and I’m pretty sure that my grandmother would never be allowed to see me again.

[@Boom-yu1ce]

“He’s just from a different time” is something girls get told alot

[@badtime9000]

no thats just weird your family should be ashamed they allowed themselves to be this stupid. I would call your grandmother out for being a weirdo and then refuse to visit if you could

[@richarddrapeau7599]

​@@Boom-yu1ceyes but it still comes with the implication that it's bad. That he's shouldn't be doing it he just doesn't know better because in his generation it was acceptable.

[@willchurch8376]

...you seriously think girls don't get told to put up with creepy relatives? Knock it off. And if your family won't help, report it to the police.

[@slavishentity6705]

Nah, change up the genders and it would be the same thing, but that shouldn't be an excuse to ignore your problem.

[@amandamsnyder87]

That woman cant be abusive, yes they can. I have seen people laugh at men being abused by a woman smack, hit, bite, kick, talk down to men. Women have all the resources after a domestic relationship men have nothing. Men are often told they have to pay child support and spousal support to their abuser. In the rare instance they get custody nothing happens to the women.

[@star5384]

Yea true but almost all abusers are men

[@Ann963]

I wish gender of the parent was disregarded when determining custody. Safety, resources, and everyone’s opinions (especially the children when they are displaying signs of trauma and fear!) should be considered objectively. Kids should not be left to suffer 😢 Abusive partners should face the consequences, regardless of gender. I doubt if “nothing ever happens to the women” EVER, but I definitely see how the lens of gender obscures the facts of cases and victims (men, women, and children) are not adequately protected.

[@ntfoperative9432]

That nurse sounds like she was hardcore coping with the fact she was a school nurse

[@R_Lins]

Must have spent her whole life hearing and, more sadly, telling herself that's the most a woman can do

[@karlsmith2570]

One massive gender-based double-standard that infuriates me to no end is how if a husband and wife have gotten a divorce and if there's children involved, that in the rare instances that the father has physical custody of the child/children and the wife's supposed to make payments for child support they're likely to pay less than the man and if they'd missed a payment, they'd essentially get a slap on the wrist and told "Don't Do That Again", whereas, if a man had to pay child support, his payments would be significantly higher than his former spouse's payments would've been if he had physical custody and if he'd missed a payment he'd get jail time and the same applies to alimony

[@itsharperoffi]

Yeah and when people see a dude that got full custody people are always like: his wife is dead, he'd must done something to her(never in case where woman have full custody) or how cruel he is for keeping kids away from their mother(when woman is doing that people don't think she's cruel, she's protecting them or something). People rarely assume that woman could simply abandonded her family

[@willchurch8376]

This is nonsense. A cursory look at custody cases suggests that while women end up with children most of the time, that is because by and large, both parents agree that the mother is the parent who will have custody. It is extremely rare for a father to want custody and be rewarded with none. There's also something like 70% of divorced dads with school age children stop their visitations after the first or second year. Also, alimony is almost never awarded for short marriages but frequently for longer ones. And the reason the men more often pay it is because men are more likely to have a job than women. The double standard isn't where you think it is.

[@karlsmith2570]

@willchurch8376 There have been cases where the father would be given physical custody of the child/children in the marriage, and the mother having to pay child support payments, it's just that they're extremely rare for that to happen, but it does happen.

[@willchurch8376]

@@karlsmith2570 It is rare for a father to be awarded full or majority custody, and in the cases that it happens, very rarely was the mother capable of providing support. Remember, for court ordered child support, you have to file for it. What guy is going to waste their time trying to get child support from a crackhead or jobless mother? I'm talking about in general. If you hear a stat like "70-90% of women get custody of the children", know that they are including all of the many cases where the fathers do not seek custody, actively avoid it, and arrange with the mother for split or less custody. Men and women generally get the same custody amounts when it is contested and both parents are fit to have children in their house.

[@captainb.mccrea5480]

@@willchurch8376it’s crazy how looking at basic statistics and a bit of research proves you completely wrong

[@GamingGreen21]

Confession here, growing up I actually thought a nurse was the female _equivalent_ of a doctor

[@EivorOfTheAbyss]

Same

[@Rose2ndC1L3]

Same here

[@samuelwoodside1578]

I feel that is a common stigma with adults alike

[@unleonsitooo]

Same 💀 fortunately my school is GOOD and once the previous nurse quit and she was filled in by a female doctor, they'd always scold us if we called her the nurse, because she is a doctor. I used to be annoyed by it as a child, but now I realize it's important

[@ChowdiusPupperMemusII]

Same

[@ampisbadatthis]

when I was younger, like 12/13, I was never allowed to hold younger children and especially babies because I was "too young" even when younger girls were allowed to, or even asked to, whether they wanted to or not.

[@Random_Insomniac528]

Height judgment is such a stupid thing Short girl: Cute Short guy: Cringe Average {both}: To normal Tall girl: Strange Tall guy: Anything besides it is unacceptable And don’t forgot you can also be to tall. No one can win! I have people who are so infatuated with height and make it a dealbreaker. Let people exist.

[@SerenityroseStw]

Funny thing is, i actually tried to get my husband more incolved on the wedding and he didnt want to be, but i made sure he enjoyed it. He and his groomsmen wore jedi clothing and our music list was 50/50

[@Arcanenerd54-j4x]

That Jedi clothing thing sounds dope as hell!

[@rileysjonger4192]

10:47 As a female, I agree so much. I want to be friendly to men without it being seen as a sexual advancement. I just want to have male friends. I'm not interested in dating you, tyvm. I also don't like how families will see opposite-sex friendships as relationships. It's weird, discomforting, and sometimes creepy and gross. Even opposite-sex siblings who are friendly with each other will be seen as couples by some people... Let's not forget that time the kiss cam focused on two siblings and the dude had to bring a "that's my sister" sign. Let men and women be friends, please.

[@Diamondr11Blue]

It's so sad to think lots of people think you can't be friends with others. They're missing out

[@BananaMuffins-io7ed]

Agree. I just have to say, when it comes to family I think it is more of a teasing manned than actual beleif.

[@xtrem5428]

It's a vicious cycle. Men only receive affection if it's romantic, so they assume any affection is romantic. In turn, this scares women off of showing affection platonically to avoid being misinterpreted, causing men to only receive affection if it's romantic.

[@rood25]

SAME! I’m a male, but it’s hard to approach girls without them thinking that I want to date them. In reality, like you said, I just want to be their friend. It’s sad that you can’t approach the other gender without them thinking you want to date them.

[@ShadowSkyX]

And if two girls get along, they should allowed to be friends and not assumed to be lesbians or pushed into becoming such a relationship! It shouldn't be forced for representation sake either. It always feels bad and Insincere. Some people have better relationships when they _aren't_ forced into the commitment of being a couple.

[@Howlflame]

The bit about the wedding around the 3:00 mark: That's a HUGE reason why I have never really tried to plan a dream wedding. If/when I get married, I want my future husband to be involved since it's his day too! He might even have better ideas than I've had!

[@NBDYSPCL]

I've always thought the wedding is more for the people.attending than the couple. Spend more on the honeymoon where you can enjoy it more.

[@bluedarkness7125]

For me, I just ask two things: rustic and affordable.

[@einarreriksson4598]

I hate something like, If a guy is a virgin or doesn't score with many partners, there's something wrong with him.

[@strawberrymilk1186]

Also like if a girl isn’t a virgin she’s an outcast, like who is the guy supposed to get their body count up with?? Cuz the people that certainly think this way are definitely straight

[@star5384]

Yea i don't understand what's so important of sex

[@Rose2ndC1L3]

Yeah, and if a woman does she’s a whore/impure. Double standards am I right?

[@slavishentity6705]

Boys need to have ALL THE SEX with EVERY GIRL Girls need to SAVE THEIR VIRGINITY FOR THEIR HUSBAND and if they get divorced after they are FOREVER ROTTEN How do you make that work

[@kaizoisevil]

Yeah, you’d think a lower body count would be a green flag, and a higher body count would be a red flag.

[@rileysjonger4192]

5:23 Gonna have to disagree. Many male band members and singers deal with constant harassment, stalking, and sexualization from fans, mainly from female fans. It's particularly notable behavior in bands that have alternative (metal, rock n roll, punk) and/or pop music. Panic! at the Disco, Twenty One Pilots, Justin Beiber, Maroon 5, and Shawn Mendez are just some examples of male artists that have been taken advantage of. It's just not taken as seriously or even represented enough. Many male singers also get flashed and touched by fans, and while many may enjoy it, they don't see it as the predatory behavior it is. Female artists who are flashed or touched by fans call it out for what it is- assault. But we haven't shared that advocacy for men yet so they won't even see assault when it happens to them because sexual abuse has become so pointlessly gendered. If we did more to represent men in all fields who are sexually abused, we'd see them call out their abuses more. But instead, they're brainwashed to "enjoy" it and "man up". On a side note, I'd love to see more representation for female band members, especially in the rock and metal genres. Girls who shred are amazing and deserve the appreciation. Yes, believe it or not, women can also play kickass instruments.

[@madevilgenius7547]

The advocacy for men had started awhile ago .... But it's usually ignored or picked on by feminists

[@heatfromsapphire]

I’m glad someone pointed it out. However, it is true that women are far less likely to be seen as a member of the band if they aren’t on the stage or SUPER well-known.

[@funtimefox-hufflepuff05]

I live panic at the disco and twenty one pilots. I didn’t have the attention span to read the rest of the comment. 🙃

[@rileysjonger4192]

@@funtimefox-hufflepuff05 lol. i love them to

[@rileysjonger4192]

@@heatfromsapphire That is true. But I was simply adding nuance that male band members aren't suddenly more privileged, and I highlighted the sexual abuses many of them often face but go unreported. I wasn't focused on the topic of recognition of female band members.

[@jackredmage7932]

As a male I can't/shouldn't have cute things. I recentely bought a phone charm with the theme of Anya Forger from Spy x Family. I adore her, like the rest of her family (her father Loid, her mother Yor and her dog Bond) and she always make me smile/laugh. Also I asked to have one with small pearls, which were white, pink and a black shaped knot one, just like her. When my mother saw it asked me "is it a bit too femenine for you?" I explained that it's just in theme with the character and if I saw someone mocking me for this, I would speak with my fists. I mean why can't someone have something they like without being bothered every 5 seconds? How frustrating.

[@charlottestreet3301]

Like what you like and don't give a f what people think even if it's something not masculine if you enjoy it and you not hurting anyone it's fine just be yourself I like men who enjoy girl stuff and boy stuff I don't know what spy x family is. Could you tell me about please

[@jackredmage7932]

@charlottestreet3301 thanks. I started telling people to f off from a long time. They might be also the very same people who are against stereotypes. Anyway Spy x Family is an anime that talks about a spy named Twilight that assumes the identity of Loid Forger and has to move into the country (Ostania) next to his(Westalis) (these two are some sort of Western and Eastern Germany like countries after WW2) and he has to get married and adopt a child so he can get close to a person that might cause another war (he's been through a war when he was a child and a teen). He adopts a girl named Anya, little he knows she's telepathy, and marries Yor Briar, a woman that works as a city hall clerk as a facade, but she's actually a murderer who kills people that threat the country. Only Anya knows the secrets life of the other two. This "family" has to face every day quests so that their missions will be completed and to secure peace. Also Anya's main colors are pink and black.

[@Icyskyes]

As the first man in my family to truly have long hair and often liked cute things Ive had more than a few comments from my mom about what Im doing is "for girls" and I shouldnt be doing it in front of people because gay(Im not, but they might THINK) When I got into kawaii(just some big shining eyes) drawings I bassically gave up on showing them to her cuz of this, and now as almost a adult I had to convince her that men also use those satin bonnets by showing videos of men using them Not THAT affected by it nowadays but really shows how some condicioning can make basic logic go to shit

[@Kouji-]

yeah its esp annoying when girls are (generally) accepted for appearing more masculine or being tomboys but men can’t do the opposite. obv, this is in a general setting, but anyway. personally, i love ppl who can have both, bc it usually means they’re confident enough w themselves not to care that someone else might bash them for liking the “wrong things”

[@charlottestreet3301]

@Kouji- there are parents who don't like there daughters dressing up in men's clothes also were what clothes you want

[@anon2447]

The Rejection double standard: tbh i'm an avid Believer that You shouldn't impose yourself in the life of someone who doesnt want You there, but holy shit the times ive rejected women who I really didnt want to date, everyone and their fucking mother painted me as the worst kind of Villain, there was no "he's in his right to day no", " why should he date someone that he doesnt want to date" or the like

[@thechillotterpop]

I know it’s almost been a year since this came out but in my opinion it is expression. If girls typically want to wear more masculine stuff then most people don’t care but as soon as a guy where’s something that’s just the slightest bit feminine then they are seen as weird in a lot of peoples eyes (this could just be me growing up in a more rural religious area of the US but still) if a girl wants to play a sport that most people think of as a masculine trait no one bats an eye but as soon as a guy does something feminine like cheerleading or dancing there is most of the time a negative stigma attached. Just let people do whatever man who the fuck cares.

[@dnkmmr69420]

Gender double standards suck for both genders

[@smileyman1721]

That there are genuinely people, mostly women, who think that men cannot be raped by a woman. That's right, I used the word. Men being unable to control their arousals in adolescence, or drugged in an extreme scenario, are then forced upon by women who just use them like toys. Keep in mind! This is not something that's happened to me! But it has happened, and is even more rarely reported or criminalized as other instances of sexual assault that typically find women as the victim. This ignorance makes me red in the face.

[@TheLiverThief]

Hello! Just wanted to let you know that the word grape without the G is often called that, not to do trigger warnings or whatever, but because the algorithm is a fucking piece of shit who will put a gun to the head of anything that mutters a word like it’s Arnold Schwarzenegger’s terminator.

[@ElodieHiras]

Also, if the woman knocks herself up doing that, the underage boy legally owes her a monthly salary for the next 18 years (see Hermesman v seyer, a precedent setting case).

[@someguy2682]

It happened to me. I've had women laugh in my face and say shit like "Now you know how it feels" or "Doesn't count if you enjoyed it" (Because they assume that having a penis means you're happy whenever it's inside something). My favourite ones are the ones who try and flip the scenario around to make it sound like I was abusing _her._ It's fucking insane.

[@mrpanda4200]

13:35 unfortunately family doesn't mean much in this case. I'm not allowed to stay at my sister's house while visiting because they're worried "I might do something to my nephews" since I'm a young male and somehow me being gay means I'm more likely to do it as well...

[@danishbutter1847]

Sniff"sniff yup its homophobia

[@funtimefox-hufflepuff05]

Damm. I feel bad for you. Hope you’re ok though.

[@BarsusDraco]

Okay, that is actually CRAZY

[@PlatyRush]

Holy sh*t if my family told me something like that I would never go see them at all untill they apologise, dam that’s awfull

[@someguy2682]

My family being uncomfortable with my gay boyfriend while he was in the closet and posing as my platonic best friend because he "seems off" and telling me to "be careful" bringing him around the kids; the only reason they even suspected he was gay was because of his voice, which has been naturally high-pitched for most of his life.

[@tanyapoe5490]

I've always confounded people who buy into "gender norms". As a kid I was in ballet (total "supposed" girly thing to do) but I was also in kick boxing. My mom always just rolled her eyes when people commented and just told me to keep confusing the idiots of the world.

[@heatfromsapphire]

Those two hobbies together honestly achieve a sort of respect that I didn’t know existed. You keep doing you, those two things are both super fun

[@xtrem5428]

Same. I grew up in a very non-conformist family with an awesome stay-at-home father. I quickly understood gender norms to just be sexism.

[@TooHazyToSee]

YEAH!!! @SS-KICKING BALLERINA!!! (First thing that came to mind, sorry ;-;)

[@richarddrapeau7599]

​@@xtrem5428then you don't actually understand them. Yes over played, upheld to strictly is a bad thing. But they do come from somewhere and ignoring that is ill advised. Norms are normal. Doesn't mean you have to live by them ( that's also I'll advised). But cats and dogs have different norms. They are both house pets, but tend/normally (the norm) do and want different things. It why people chose one over the other. And for thought who want to say they are different species fair enough. Switch to different breeds of dogs.

[@simplycurios9776]

Did you ever challenge anyone to a dance fight?

[@rileysjonger4192]

1:29 That also sounds like a double standard of people refusing to see dads as parents... Also 1:34 It's not a "little big of a stigma", it's a lot. Stay at home fathers aren't recognized or appreciated. I don't even think paternity leave for fathers exists.

[@madevilgenius7547]

Dad here when my ex had my daughter I only had 1 day off because birth and drive my ex home with our daughter... When I got on the floor the manager just flatly told me I used one of my sickies (sick leave) and no one really cared i was a new dad (no congratulations and such besides one work mate ) however when I my ex got back after her paid mat leave she had a little party thrown with a company gift and was showered in congratulations ect ....

[@BananaMuffins-io7ed]

think there are no paternity leaves for me because they are not physically inept in any way, though they should still have a leave for as long as the wife, so they can be there for their wives during that time In life.

[@BananaMuffins-io7ed]

(Sorry,I meant to say men)

[@KaiHenningsen]

@@BananaMuffins-io7ed Paternity leave for fathers definitely exists - here in Germany. You're doing the same thing with nationality: the internet is not just for Americans, dammit!

[@rileysjonger4192]

@@KaiHenningsen Good for Germany. But nobody said the internet is just for Americans because I'm literally not an American. Just because paternity leave for fathers exists in one place doesn't mean it's the same all over.

[@foracal5608]

6:18 yeah single father while in my 20s and had something similar happen to me playing with my kids at the park being an absolute goof ball with them spraying me as other kids come to help "defeat the monster" .. then two of the other kids mothers came up yelling at me asking me who I was where are those kids mothers how dare I let my kids make friends with other kids while they work together to blast me with a water cannon

[@charlottestreet3301]

Does this happen more in the us because in the uk the school I volunteer at is fine with dad's picking up there kids

[@The_Clara_Saga]

I completely agree with the stuff about how a guy has to ask out the girl. I’ve mentioned to some of my friends about wanting to ask out this guy I like and all of them keep going “isn’t that the guys job?” My sister is the same way they are too. She’s liked a guy and everyone was positive that he liked her but she REFUSED to ask him out??? It doesn’t make sense to me. I still plan to ask this guy out when I get a chance, but I keep getting ridiculed every time it’s brought up. It drives me insane.

[@dhenderson1810]

Just go ahead and do it.

[@hearmeout1767]

Don't listen to them. Ask him out. Guys like when you are upfront and honest. Even if he rejects you he will surely be flattered you asked

[@shawanaaa]

Honestly the “she’s on her period, that’s why she’s upset” just makes my blood boil. Being on my menstrual cycle does NOT make my feelings and opinions unreasonable and unfounded. I understand mood swings are a pretty common period symptom, but invalidating how I feel on the off chance that I’m on my period is bullshit. If I’m upset with you, it’s not because I’m bleeding it’s because you’re being an asshole.

[@recordofragnarokisapurehyp6660]

Btw, period is different for every woman. I usually calm down on my period and am very chill.

[@ANALYZNERD]

@@recordofragnarokisapurehyp6660 Can we trade, you can have my PMDD

[@jaketheripper7385]

I was at the store with my now ex-girlfriend's daughter once. This lady got it in her head that I was kidnapper and confronted me at one point to which I politely told her to leave us alone. She proceeded to follow us around the store and was on the phone - presumably with the cops - at one point before she suddenly bum rushes me from behind trying to snatch my gf's little girl from out of my arm. Long story short/TL,DR she wound up getting hit and catching a bow to the face/jaw. Apparently her 11 or 12 yo kid was there with her too and they saw this whole thing go down at which point they began to wail like a banshee thinking I just killed their mom. She was fine and the police arrived barely 30 seconds later (talk about crap timing). Fortunately the store manager had seen the initial confrontation and already knew who I was because I actually graduated high school with his eldest son who was also a friend of mine, and their brand new fancy store surveillance system caught EVERYTHING in excruciating detail. The woman was hurling all sorts of ridiculous accusations my way until the police came out from the security office and told her they saw exactly what happened. That's when she got reeeaaal silent. She was charged with two counts of assault (for myself and my gf's kid), attempted kidnapping, and disorderly conduct and then promptly arrested on-scene. They said she was lucky they were able to get ahold of her kid's dad too because if not they probably would have called CPS... The woman started acting all hysterical again and still swearing up and down that I was a kidnapper and a pedo and what have you, claiming that I'm a woman beater and shit. It was a real nightmare at the time but looking back kinda funny too honestly. She ended up having one of the assault charges and attempted kidnapping dropped but pled "no contest" to the other assault charge and disorderly conduct (which is basically pleading guilty simply by another name). She had to pay a whole bunch of fines and serve a bunch of community service with like two years of probation on top of it. She's lucky I wasn't petty about it and didn't sue the pants off her ass because I absolutely could have... Other than that though I did experience quite a bit of misandry/male sexism when worling on my internship and clinical hours for a veterinary technician program. I was the only guy at this particular clinic and a lot of the clients either thought it was weird or they like wouldn't trust me to do anything. Fortunately for me though the head tech was super sweet and she was actually pretty protective of me, so whenever a client would start acting shitty or make some snide comment about me being a dude or not trusting me because of that or whatever, she was always really quick to jump in and defend me every single time. There was this one lady who was particularly mean about it and she was being super sexist and totally out of line, and she ended up getting kicked out and banned from the clinic permanently. The head tech basically told her that we'd finish up with the appointment (since we were in the middle of administering treatment to her cat), but then she'd have to leave immediately when we were done and that she would have to find another veterinary care provider in the future because she wouldn't be allowed back in the building ever again. I felt really bad about it afterward and I told the head tech that she didn't have to do all that, but she stood firm and insisted that she simply would not tolerate any abuse towards her staff no matter what. She also said that she always hated that lady anyway so it was some "good riddance" as far she was concerned lol. Anyhow yeah as a guy I've definitely experienced quite a few of those absurd sexist double standards and the common biases often held towards men based solely on the fact that they're male.

[@kylajensen1957]

12:27 This reminds me of a manga character I like who is short. Several times people mistake him for a child, and he has a childish, innocent personality so that only adds to it. He's possessed by a ghost who, in the manga, looks basically identical, smol height included. The anime, in order to make him "hot" made the ghost character taller than his host. Essentially his host grows like a foot every time the ghost takes over, and it makes the other characters seem dumb for not noticing the switching off for a solid season (in the manga it was subtle enough they only noticed after they were actively looking for it). Also, it implies that an "attractive", more-mature hero character couldn't be short? TL;DR, Atem from Yu-Gi-Oh is a short king, LET HIM BE A SHORT KING!

[@lakuholden4]

With the second one, I used to think as a kid that a doctor and nurse were the same, but a doctor was a male term and nurse was a female term.

[@thelibyanplzcomeback]

I don't even want to watch this video because it just makes me depressed.

[@stephensonmatthew7]

A huge double standard is “fancy dress”, for woman it’s dress or skirt, for men it’s khaki pants, button down shirt, belt, optionally a tie or blazer too. Let us be comfortable too. Men get the short end of the stick.

[@velo_cite]

Cooking at home is a womans job, but being a professional chef is a mans job. I love cooking, and it infuriates me to see this double standard.

[@xX_Pokeman_Xx]

In fairness, this "double standard" probably came about due to the fact that cooking is a physical profession, in the same general area(albeit a few magnitudes less demanding) as construction. A professional cook is expected to constantly cook for 7 hours straight(14 hour shifts are considered normal, so factor in a lunch break and we'll say 7.) Not to say women *can't* do it, and in fact many women are more than capable, but there are also more than a few women capable of construction work and you don't see them lining up for the job.

[@velo_cite]

@xX_Pokeman_Xx That makes sense

[@Duckz4bucks]

@@xX_Pokeman_Xxtrue, but I feel like the double standard is against men because they “don’t cook at home” when it should be perfectly acceptable for a man to feed his kids

[@cewla3348]

@@xX_Pokeman_Xx do you see anyone lining up for physical labour other less demanding jobs?

[@XiaoYueMao]

actually historically even cooking at home was the mans job, it wasnt until the 1930s that it started being associated with women because of the ease of food storage and housewives being bored and needing something to do

[@henrydiamond3435]

When a man is broke, he is a lazy bum with no job and should get a life, but when a woman is all those things she's a poor innocent little flower that has gone through so much and needs all the support in the world now.

[@heatfromsapphire]

I dunno, I feel like at the very least the woman does need some sort of (probably financial) support. It’s just that the men in that circumstance do too. Could be wrong though, I guess it depends on the situation

[@willchurch8376]

You can literally blame a different double standard for this one, which is that women weren't allowed in the industrialized workplace for decades, and expected to get a husband for financial support, while raising his children and keeping his house. The lingering vestiges of that system are hanging over the expectations of today. That's why you are expected to get a job, and some women aren't. Also think about the women who get viewed as 'innocent little flowers'. Are there a lot of fat and/or ugly women in that group? How many of the little flowers are black? Butch lesbians? Etc. It's all classically pretty white girls that meet the prevailing beauty standards of the 1930-50s. Because everyone else HAS been expected to get a job.

[@dhenderson1810]

I was a male with a cat. For some reason, a single male with a cat is looked at as gay. People associate single women having cats ("cat lady") but single men can only have a dog to be considered masculine. I just prefer cats, yet there seems to be a stereotype.

[@bluedarkness7125]

? But you are cat lover right? How it make you as gay when you actually not? I love cat too!

[@dhenderson1810]

@bluedarkness7125 Because there is a perception that a cat is a "feminine" pet and usually, if you are single, it is usually single females who have a cat whereas single men get a dog. It is a stereotype. I don't agree with it, and I am not gay. I am a masculine heterosexual man who just happens to like cats. My point was that it is a perception by some, not reality.

[@azoralawson4514]

Not a double standard but, the fact that some people just assume guys who wear slightly girly things are usually presumed as gay, like wtf

[@NBDYSPCL]

I like how this is an even spread of gender double standards. The sooner we can stop treating it as a team sport and realise we're all in this together the better. I get unreasonably anxious if I am out with my niece and her dad goes off to do something. Its stupid that society has conditioned men to feel like every interaction with a kid is inappropriate, even if they are related.

[@someguy2682]

This fucking shit right here. The number of times my gay boyfriend was accused of being a nonce because he has little sisters and gets along with younger girls really well is insane. He talks to guys too, obviously, and most of his friends are around his age. But he genuinely loves kids and considers every single one he meets either his "adopted" child, or an honorary little sibling. And he never brings up topics like drugs or sex with them or anything of the sort. He's as wholesome as can be, but since he has a dick and worse, he's _gay,_ people take that to mean that he's clearly up to no good and that him saying "sweetie" to some random child is the same as flirting or something equally weird. It's the most retarded thing ever. I've had so many mothers guide their children away from me when I'm literally just passing by. Doesn't matter if I'm three meters away and wheeling my bike with both hands, with the bike between my body and them. Clearly, a guy walking down the street is only out and about because he's looking to snatch kids.

[@Bee-eautiful]

Any double standard really.

[@kaizoisevil]

The soccer one was sad. God gave her those skills so she could perform, I’m sure he would be okay with her missing church once in a while.

[@seasonings2taste115]

Over 2 years ago I took a contract while in nursing school to help out at a local special needs preschool. There was this girl and she asked me to sit next to her, she was showing me her art she did. I just said things like “wow cool You’re such an artist!” Things you would tell a 4 year old. The class para called her and said “Abbey come sit with me” and stared daggers at me. I finished my shift and cancelled my contract and I told them why. Since I terminated early I’m illegible for rehire to that position. Even if they offered me a spot, I would never go back. The funny thing? The principal/director is male.

[@gengashaunt3322]

1. If a woman leaves you because sex isnt good enough, its fine and understandable to MOST people, but if a guy does the same thing, it becomes a topic of how to spice it up and that he didnt try to, so he sucks. Thats not fair. Why doesnt it come up when its women? Only men call this out, few women if any. 2. They can talk and talk about work problems, what this person said, just generally venting about things throughout their day. They want you to know because there venting and it helps them and they feel comfy telling you. But if i begin to talk about my problems, especially when theyre much larger issues, its treated like im complaining and not fixint my problems. But they didnt stand up for themselves in their story. They didnt fix their shit from a week ago that they told me about, this weeks story is the same. But if i say get a different job or stop talking to them, im not understanding or im gaslighting them. It cant be both ways. Or your complaints and stories bore them. This woman is my mom. My dad deals with this. 3. If a woman doesnt feel like doing stuff and is laying arouns doing a lot of nothing and just mentally exhausted, SHES healing. Shes mentally not expected to suck it is. If a guy does it, we are told we are losers. Usually by other men, which makes us feel like shit, then women shame you for it, its like damn. My mental health matters, im sorry mine doesnt matter to you. 4. Depression and sadness is treated with the utmost care which is totally understandable, you cant control it, youre sad you need compassion. Its a chemical inbalance. Meanwhile, NONE of this consideration is given to people with anger issues who also can have an inbalance and need time and understanding. Men are already seen as shitty. So add anger they deem as too much? Even when theyre to blame for you being upset? Thats infuriating. But if you ignore the emotion theyre displaying, you dont care about them. 5. Women talking shit about men is not seen as sexist, but a man even disagreeing with a single point these women make even if they agree with some of them makes that man a misogynist. If theyre not all in, they dont belong.

[@dhenderson1810]

With No 4, I hope you aren't making excuses for domestic violence. It doesn't matter how angry you are, of if it is her fault, it is no excuse to hit her.

[@kalfust7722]

​@dhenderson1810 and what if she is wailing on you

[@kalfust7722]

Oh so its OK for a woman to beat the shit out of a guy but a guy hitting the woman once to defend himself is not ok

[@Matthew-zu6tm]

The wedding thing. Future wife and I went to a wedding galla event to see what was available in our area. Buckle up this may be a rant. 😅 Ok. So just at the door. We both registered. She got signed in and given a huge button "Bride to Be" to wear amd no charge. I got signed in and was told to pay $35.00. Also. No button. She and her mother were whisked away with the tour that was being formed by a lady with a clipboard. While I was just standing there. After they started the grand tour. I slipped out and went from one end of the exhibition to the other. Taking in the sights, booths and services offered. I noted that there were only 2 Booths for men. The first was a hasty single table from Sun Ray Cleaners for Tuxedo Rentals and the other a make shift bar. I went up to the Sun Ray table and spoke with the lady behind the table. Before she could offer any of her pinted materiels. I said the following. "I do electrical work and have been behind your counter". In the back where you conduct "business" its filthy and staffed with felons. At no point would I accept anything you have to offer". She was mortified and left standing there as I went to leave. She tried to stop me and apologize but then said. "A Tuxedo is a a uniform for those that park the Bentley at Royal weddings. Do you really expect me to wear that on my day of days?" Again a very worried look upon her face. But I simply turned off and left that convention completely. Side note about ring selection for male wedding bands. Men have been working with metal as long as we have had a written language. So to only have so simplistic ones on offer that look like a cut off section of stock pipe is itself an insult.

[@Enoonb]

The last story is my double-standard-ish issue. Men are expected to get "hints". No we don't. Most of us are absolutely clueless about any of that. Just say that you like us and offer us your number. We gesture will be greatly appreciated and will not be soon forgotten.

[@xtrem5428]

Funny thing I learned from watching lesbian memes is that women are just as bad at understanding subtle hints as men.

[@dhenderson1810]

Men find women making the first move as a turn on.

[@bluedarkness7125]

Funny that I am female yet I failed to understand hints so how male can do well? Most females waste so much time on hint when they just can tell direct and clear. How that hard? I do that all time. Because it is so easy to understand. Social make me do not want be female, so I ended as genderless. And I am pansexual so I do not mind date male as long as they do not have s*x with me. And if they want to have s*x, they can do with female or male or other gender identity. I am welcome to polygamy as well.

[@kiralana324]

the wedding deal, my wife wanted a court wedding, I'm the one that asked for a celebration, I'm the one that hired the planner and venue, yet the planner took me off the reference list and tried to call my wife directly. it wasn't until my wife had a temper tantrum on the phone (complete with sailor grade profanity) that I was consulted.

[@BananaMuffins-io7ed]

4:12. Having been in a band before, though I am male not female, I can say that women can play instruments just as well, if even better, than men, and just because they are female it doesnt mean thay cannot play instruments.

[@charlottestreet3301]

Thanks for saying that

[@VectorJW9260]

13:24 Not for me. I just imagine the default guy and girl I usually imagine. what, do people magicallly change their personality.or appearance once they've had sex for the first time?

[@abbyadventure5689]

Men has to keep their emotion becuse crying or being angry is condsider "not normal" and "not good" also atlest for me. I can't fight back againts my sister even thouth i wouldn't hurt her, my parents alwas tell me to "love my sister" becuse "im a boy" what does me being a boy meant i have to let my sister walk all over me? Context: im a muslim, youngest of my family, just turn 17 this december, and i live in indonesia

[@PersonBrown]

You know what really annoys me? I am a man and I have just about have an equal amount of female and male friends. However, it seems that every time I hang out with my male friends they keep on going on about how I'm "pulling so many girls" and "have so much rizz" (I know, I think it's cringy too). But thing is... I'm a bisexual! I would have an equal opportunity to hit on both my male and female friends! So I have no idea what they're going on about🙄.

[@unwoundsteak17]

I have a lot of medical problems, so I get sent home from school a lot, and despite the fact that I've been saying for years that the nurse should call my dad, she always calls my mom instead context: my mom is a therapist, and can almost never answer the phone. my dad is a grocery merchandiser for a grocery store chain, and can almost always answer the phone. the nurse also has the option of calling my grandma, who is retired and lives less than a minute from my house. this has been an issue for my entire school "career" (idk what to call it), and I'm a fucking junior in high school

[@1EmuFan]

WAIT I WAS THINKING OF ONE YESTERDAY ~20 y/o girl that likes Emu (emu is the girl in my pfp btw): normal pjsk fan ~20 y/o boy that likes emu: PDF

[@1EmuFan]

Also, girls can like boy stuff but boys can’t like girl stuff Also, sorry for both being about pjsk (hyperfixation) but people don’t like cross dressers (male ppl wearing “female clothes” for this) until Mizuki is basically confirmed to be trans and now they just say “boys can have long hair and dresses, grow up” (an actual thing someone said to me)

[@BenCarnage]

Stay at home parenting isn't strictly easy in every sense, and you still need breaks from both parenting and the household. Buuut, it is way easier than most jobs. Both me and my wife have at some point been stay at home parents. The biggest danger is getting too comfortable or if you build frustration during challenging times and don't get a break every now and then. Regardless of the task, if it is 24/7, you can feel a bit trapped. Even with a stay at home parent involved you should do like an 80/20 kind of division so both parties get a breather regardless. I've worked more than full time while studying full time and I still had a routine for keeping the house in order and activities with the kids and dog. Clear communication helps. While I didn't expect my wife to do everything around the house, I certainly considered her in charge of getting most home life things done. As I considered myself in charge of getting necessary and recommended home life things done while I was stay at home. Do things as a couple. Take walks together, vent, play games, watch shows together and have bedroom fun. When things get stressful it is even more important to keep up with these things and that you both help to make the life of your partner better.

[@user-qt8py7ph5d]

bro was stuck in the same section FOREVER lol

[@1981bdt]

So love that Burn Notice gets a mention

[@Tunawolf_edits]

I have multiple stories being a female with short hair (idrc if you call me a boy btw) 1. One year there was a boy in my class with long hair and I with short hair, we both happened to be going to the washroom(s) at the same time and we passed a teacher who said “Hi ladies” we both gave a each other a look of “what?” 2. I was on a all girls soccer team for my school and we were in the middle of a game (I was goalie) and a kid and his team who all looked to be in grade 1 or 2 walked behind my net and one asked me “are you the only boy on you team” I stared down at him while also trying to focus and said “I’m a girl”

[@copper-dragons]

Double standards (if you can count this as one) I utterly hate is how women just assume all men are terrible people, but expect them to treat those women like utter goddesses when they clearly don't deserve it

[@charlottestreet3301]

I also hate it when women assume all men are terrible people to but the same thing can be said for men to

[@aces1053]

We need to make double standards as men.

[@Mabra51]

Sexism isn't a swear, you don't have to censor is with dumb asterisks.

[@cewla3348]

they block "sex" when used as a noun, so i'm pretty sure it's just a stupid auto-censor

[@mitchellbush4145]

For me it is women can have standard when dating but men can't

[@richarddrapeau7599]

5:30 It is a double standard. Most men will never know what it's like to be desired just for being attractive. Yea sucks for you that you have a hard time getting away from it, but how women can't see the hardship on the opposite side is beyond me. How did women get the "more caring/ understanding" stereotype? They so often can't see the other side.

[@NightWing1800]

Funny enough, tons of men could/do see this...just from other men. Women don't really express physical desire for men's bodies, or atleast express that desire in ways men are willing to receive.

[@cewla3348]

oh no its SOOO hard not being *constantly harrassed* and _objectified._ What a horror! It's not like femme-presenting people might want to wear clothes that *don't* satiate the desires of creepy men! No, anyone who looks even slightly feminine *must* be doing their damndest to be as "presentable" as possible. It's such a hard life *not* being harrassed no matter what I do. Notice how she said that she *pretends* it's okay? how she *pretends* it doesn't hurt her?

[@NightWing1800]

@@cewla3348L take. The comment you're responding to isnt invalidating the reality that it sucks women get sexually harassed and cant get away from sexualization and flirty attention. They're commenting on how the other side of the equation also sucks and that it is frustrating how women often don't empathize with that. Men suffering doesnt retract from women suffering. Both can be true!

[@richarddrapeau7599]

@cewla3348 Dress how you want. You don't live in a world without other people though. And no that doesn't mean dressing a certain way gives someone extra rights to comment, leer, or more. But alot of the "women most look like X or Y" comes from other women. And again main point: too much of something is bad; none of something is also bad.

[@multiversalkarma4868]

@@cewla3348Kind of proving his point. That you can’t/won’t see the other side. Both suck for different reasons.

[@crujoe]

13:44 dude did not need to be that descriptive 😬

[@bea.anim8]

10:19 the way it went from pred to death

[@Popcornfr]

Can you PLEASE pause for a second when switching between people’s stories

[@Lezazazel]

never been this early before! hope everyones having a great day/morning!

[@Hyper.u]

And night :)

[@KimberleyClementson-n4k]

❤Hello🖐️

[@Young_X-formerly-Gonrizz-sj3jj]

Isn't this a repost.

[@thedarwinist672]

Circumcision.

[@HailHark]

If you know about the soft guy movement - I needn't say more😭😭😭

[@harryjm306]

why is it still all reuploads?? the AITAH vids were peak mainly fact

[@jasondouglas152]

Im inflamed

[@julietilcock2537]

YEET

[@butlazgazempropan-butan11k87]

Being stay at home parent is eaisier than significant most jobs

[@chargeit7897]

Naw man. You haven’t taken of coddler before.

[@zynosgd9982]

100% because you still need to do those things after work. Or pay someone in the case of babysitting.

[@DupreseVlogs]

first viewer

[@Mabra51]

Football, not soccer.