What If My Ex Is Using No Contact Too?

[@dulceaidavp9716]

My grandma used to say, " Stay with the people that love you and want you in their life."

[@asadini]

Grand Mas are the best

[@rosshandy5077]

Right on!

[@rosshandy5077]

Your Grandmother was spot. From the days when people gave a dam and looked out for one another and life was simple. You made my day!

[@kadamprashant3422]

You give me sort of relief

[@aaronayala241]

Wise woman

[@nildaochea6590]

Never force yourself to be with someone who doesn't seem to love and care for you ...

[@babyfacejaharmony1993]

I felt that this my boyfriend dumped me been 13 days he say he miss me and I'm sorry I lefted you

[@spiritualrituals9603]

*True but... What if they leave a big question mark in your head like "I still love u, but we cannot be together" or after a 3-4 month u somehow can't control your patience and decide to write... And they are still polite and have not blocked or deleted u... What do we think then?*

[@mightyobserver12]

PREACH!!!

[@kagamitaiga9167]

@@spiritualrituals9603time tells everything

[@tacobelle69]

The dumper should be the first one to reach out.....ALWAYS

[@zaradezign8100]

Being dumped suckks

[@abagalidoreen9090]

Exactly!

[@ifyify6073]

Exactly

[@mccndcll2847]

Yup! 💯

[@h2oboi531]

There always exceptions

[@maryivan936]

I loved when you said “bet on yourself.” Whenever I feel anxious about the breakup I listen to one of your videos and always walk away feeling calmer and better. 💜

[@dwightschrute8141]

.update?

[@imhonestlyfreeanonymous8235]

At 7:40 in this video, coach said the realest shit ever spoken. If they havent contacted you yet its because they dont miss you enough. Just think about that the next time you want to break no contact. Why the hell would you want to contact somebody who dont want you still? Stand your ground! You might not feel it but each day you are getting stronger, in there eyes too.

[@MegaAlsf]

I heard something that women are less likely to contact back then if it was a guy.

[@rosshandy5077]

Sounds like the mad hatter's tea party. This is all.smoke and mirrors. If your ex is going to come back the cards are in his favor. Move on and don't look back they're a lot nice people out there put you ex on the bus and start fresh. Best of luck in your search

[@aroojaziz]

Strongly agree

[@BillCollins0707]

Keepin' it real...

[@JorDel_1111]

Really really wonderful 🤩👌

[@katiestrombeck5703]

3 months post breakup. i never thought that i would stop crying and i’m becoming stronger every day. i no longer feel like life doesn’t have meaning without him. imagining a future without him doesn’t seem scary anymore, but im excited for what the future holds, with or without him! thank you so much

[@randommf3549]

Update

[@katiestrombeck5703]

@@randommf3549 a few weeks after this, i reached out and got my response. i haven’t looked back since. i met someone who is such a great fit for me :) i learned the hard way that life doesn’t always go according to my plan and actually ended up so much better this way!

[@joec1212]

If your ex dumped you they didnt value you, or see your value. Keep moving forward. Eventually they will grow some balls, and will come back. Trust me. If you treated them right, and they left anyway its because there is something wrong inside them. They wont fix it. They will just relationship hop. Eventually they will circle back, and I hope that when they do, you have made a better life for yourself, and you kindly point out their obliviousness to reality, and decline their company. THE PEOPLE THAT DESERVE YOU WILL SEE AND HONOR YOUR VALUE!

[@flonar1]

Joe c Amen 🙏🏻

[@ifyify6073]

You absolutely right 💯

[@nathanb2167]

What if they dumped you because you didn't see their value? What if they say they tried their best to make you happy but couldn't and will always lust and love you?

[@lorainebejar2837]

Absolutely right. Unfortunately I have been in this situation and at first I doubted myself worth. But then I realised it was her personal issue that stopped our relationship. She has a lot of trauma. I am not mad at her or anything. I pray she heals and become a better person for herself. 🙂🙏💞

[@mar-mh3et]

@@lorainebejar2837 my bf dumped me 5dys ago.we just start arguing of nonsense stuff until he told me that we are done.for me it's not a mistake to look for him outside in the pub call him and Tex him but he was fighting with me.and in the next day he told me that he want to be alone till I saw him drinking bars all-night long so tried to spy him of what hes doing till morning saw him another girl back riding on his bike.and show up he just surprised but he still going with the girl..and he texted me again that we are finished and that's it..nomore talk..and I don't know wheres he going.he leave me alone.and 5dys now after break up no contact..I'm hurting

[@habibbasit4518]

Got dumbed, blocked in March 11th, Unblocked today, April 19th. Not optimistic, but, I have moved on! I cannot believe the growth in me in 40 days!!

[@tdavis551]

Today is one month, no contact, staying strong mehn

[@StacyReadsCards]

Update from you both?

[@joynermaidana7058]

Update

[@colbyharrison7427]

K Mac aww. Update... 1 day.

[@muhammadzeshawn3883]

Update brother?

[@m.a.3322]

Update please?

[@nathanb2167]

"Bet on yourself" I love that! They think you will always be around waiting for them. Don't let them think you're a safe bet, bet you're not.

[@sigmachad8878]

Day 20 of NC ... 2-3 times panic attacks a day ...damm this is hard... but staying strong is the only option I have.

[@fluxcobra3541]

Its the best option you can do this!

[@randymullins765]

I'm in the same boat as you, about the same amount of days and we were married for over 33 years and she left and never said anything

[@mag2395]

Faith, you will live another day and you will be OK. Just keep reminding yourself that.

[@Adultsodas]

Hi! Do you have an update?!?

[@sigmachad8878]

@@Adultsodas yeah.... I m doing Great now... Cleared my entrance exam for MBA college with good percentile... Got a selection in a nice college... Focused on my health...gained my muscles back....got proposal from 2 girls but didn't accepted..My Ex also tried to cameback but rejected her too(I mean why not..that cheater) 😌.. learning skills related to my career and from yesterday started the FKIN CITRULLINE MALATE for nice blood rush and insane veins and vascularity .... 💪

[@0090steve]

I love coach Lee's videos and emergency break up kit. 3 months ago my ex checked out of our relationship. It was very painful to lose my best friend. I went no contact and improved myself. I started working out, lost 20 lbs, improved my flirting skills and updated my wardrobe. I have since met the most amazing woman who is drop dead gorgeous. I would not want to be without her. Just a comment to say there is life after a breakup and sometimes it is much better. Stay in no contact and preserve your self esteem. Let the dumper fix things that they broke.

[@apphea001]

Excellent topic, Coach Lee! I swear my ex is using no contact to see if I’ll chase him and to feed his confidence

[@mecca115able]

I agree .. my ex is doing the same thing.. I'm not chasing!

[@annareal_af]

Me too. Ego.

[@sofiandi6117]

@@annareal_af me too:))) but until when? Really I am very curious-i will not reach out to him but will he and when?

[@mijakaka1499]

How do you know?

[@zahidibrahim2260]

How do you know ? Maybe he wants you back that's why.

[@CountessLouLou]

Some people invite you to dump them by treating you like shit- and then get mad! Don’t think I want my ex back, but I find these pep talks comforting. My family and friends still talk to my ex, and throw me a pity party every time they see me. Coach lee is like the one honest friend that I am lacking at a time like this.

[@TastedPain-di6kl]

There is no friend only benefits out of the desperate watchers that we are. Though I appreciate his videos, I know he’s not a friend he is just doing business

[@MVProfits]

What's sad, is that while "no contact" and not chasing are indeed not games but strategies, it's clear to see that before a breakup happens, there is a one side part to it, that one party is trying hard to save the relationship... which often pushes the other further away! I say it's sad because it's like you can't be fully yourself or open at times, you have to play a game. Just because it's soooooo easy and common for people to walk away. Women are often encouraged to do so now too.

[@kathyowens890]

Some people break up with others because they aren't being treated right or they are being taken advantage of. The break-up can serve to get the attention of the one who is neglecting. This topic can go both ways.

[@kathyowens890]

@UCEODo1yJtH_g7FpibjWiZsQ Don't feel guilty. It's not your fault! I guess this video wasn't meant for people in our situation. Sounds like you did the right thing.

[@lemotheemonemo]

Thank you! That's the one thing I don't like about these videos. I don't think he takes into account the scenario when someone is being taken advantage of (such as: someone not spending enough time with them, someone doing all the talking, someone making them feel like their only worth in the relationship is their body, when someone's gotten complacent with the relationship, etc) and has to initiate the brake up because their self-worth is at stake. When people brake up under those circumstance, there's a good chance they're still at war with themselves about whether they truly want the brake up and having to keep reminding themselves that staying with their ex will only continue to give that person the right to continue to mistreat them. When you do "no contact" under this scenario, you make it easier for your unappreciated ex to get over you because you've basically just handed them the tangible evidence they need to say: "hey, if they really valued you, they would be here trying to fix the situation with you." These are not the kind of people to play games with. These are people that want to wear their heart on the sleeve and to see yours as well. They want security. And mind games like "no contact" are going to drive them away. The only reason you should use "no contact" is because you're actually trying to move on and seeing them just resets your healing clock. Yes, more often then not, the ex comes back. I've done it three times and the ex came back every time. And I meant to stay in "no contact", but gave in to my own naivety. I've tried being honest, I've tried being independent, I've tried giving them their freedom, but your ex will always return to the state they were in when you dumped them or they dumped you. Move on, or expect to play mind games for the duration of the relationship. I tried the latter and ended up with depression and anxiety.

[@clairerenee1660]

Little Britches I agree.

[@sarianmagic1256]

I did everything to save our relationship before i dumb him. Everything in 2 years! His behaviour forced me to break up with him and now he is the victim because i left him??? Perhaps now he will understand what he lost.The night before it was the several night i couldnt sleep because his phone was closed again. And now its my fault that i dumped him???( sorry english is not my mother language)

[@professormey2082]

Little Britches now I don’t know what to do because now that I look back at it I hurt him emotionally and I’m doing no contact and bettering myself to get him back but now I’m not sure if that’s working because he might think I really didn’t care for the relationship if I’m in no contact with him

[@genevievetang1651]

Your material is so good. It's so rational, wise and fair. I love it.

[@poppyone2944]

When you are in love we are in pain and it sucks I'm hoping the universe is listening as well as doing no contact 😕

[@Longbyname]

Poppy One Let’s hope so

[@GoldbergandPartners]

Give it to God

[@ivamayorga4911]

Two weeks post breakup. Some days are easier than others. I have remained in no contact and so is he. we still follow each other on social media. I have noticed that he’s not watching my stories anymore, he hasn’t been posting neither. Well he was never big on social media. I do have a feeling he muted me or is doing a social media detox. I miss him so bad, I want to reach out every night, but I stop myself from doing so. As much as I want to, he’s the one who broke up with me and broke my heart when he decided to leave this relationship. I don’t think I could ever reach out to him, because if it works out a second time, I’ll always wonder if it did because I made the first move and not the other way around. I want him to come to me on his terms because he realized that he wants me.

[@dwightschrute8141]

Update?

[@swadhinacharya]

@ Iva Mayorga any update???

[@ivamayorga4911]

@@swadhinacharya I never got my ex back and frankly, I don’t want him back. I was in a dark place when we broke up. But I put all my focus back on me, got a new job, moved to a new city, Got a new place, been working out and now I can say I’ve moved on. I don’t think of him much anymore. Been going on dates here and there and now I look back at the break up and I think it was for the next. I hope you’re on a better place too.

[@swadhinacharya]

@@ivamayorga4911 glad you are happy now... Keep growing dear... Are you using any social media??

[@daniellemorse6929]

No contact is completely necessary for healing. When you tried to make things work a couple of times and it didn't work, it is time to move on.

[@Laura-sn8iy]

Whenever someone dumps me it's just over for me completely regardless of their motives. I don't want to go through some fucked up making up shit just to be in a relationship.

[@donnacrowe1913]

Had a first contact, he called me, 3 months no contact. He said did you curse me, I think of you everyday and have dreams about you. I call bs

[@lorainebejar2837]

Do you still want him back?

[@donnacrowe1913]

@@lorainebejar2837 Actually only got the 1 call, havent heard back!! And No I dont want a do over !

[@JorDel_1111]

@@donnacrowe1913 v good Have self respect woman ❤️

[@fishygal53]

Nah... my ex did the “give me space” , cheated on me.. then said it’s over. But when the real break up happens he did not want to let go.

[@Who63]

Never chase....replace.

[@Who63]

@AsSeenOnTV Okay never chase erase.

[@Who63]

@AsSeenOnTV I think it's more like you're waiting to be blown....since you mentioned it was so gay. Have a great day.

[@djblack1204]

Davina nice

[@Who63]

@@djblack1204 :)

[@texaspeteyeehaa7012]

@AsSeenOnTV how do you blow someone with a 10ft pole

[@_strawberrypickle_]

You are SO awesome for making these! You have no idea how many videos like this I watch on repeat these days. You make so much sense, and things are getting better! Thank you so much! :)

[@dinarayyan8776]

My ex narc broke up with me 100 times and would’ve done it 100 more if I didn’t stop it. No contact now. It hurts but I can’t feed her anymore.

[@amrjihad]

Your words are power sir..

[@janenerafie6609]

Exactly Coach Lee! Do not chase! Thanks!

[@hadizatoukour901]

hi my ex is not not calling me

[@seanrooney170]

My ex said she is giving me space before she reaches out again. However it is to be friends. I will tell her that there is too much history too much feelings to only be friends and to call me if she changes her mind

[@alanaa7379]

Thank you so much for encouraging and helping so many people!

[@sam.sama1812]

I swear to God that your voice sounds exactly like my inner voice (a.k.a my higher self) always mumbling behind my head and pulling me back from my wrong decisions.

[@metro3372]

Hi Coach Lee, I glad I had a chance to discuss my personal situation with you during a one-on-one coaching session. I've been on a search to hire a relationship coach for a while now, and I must say that I'm pleased with my choice to have chosen you. You provided great advice and tips regarding my situation. For anyone who's searching for a relationship coach, I would gladly recommend Coach Lee. You won't be disappointed with your decision.

[@reanna5008]

We’ve been broken up for a week after two years together and over a year of living together. I had to break no contact two days ago to return a few of his things. Haven’t spoken to him since i saw him that night. It’s been easy to distract myself during the day but night time it feels like it all comes crashing down and I’ve made no progress. These videos are the only thing that calm my mind and make me feel okay. I will never expect him to come back to me but I know he’ll miss me. Our relationship wasn’t perfect but he knows I loved him unconditionally and no matter how much he feels like he needs to find himself he’ll miss me and everything he gave up at some point. I wish I could rush the process but I know I can’t, for now I have years worth of videos to help me sleep at night. Thank you for what you do Coach Lee. I truly don’t know where I’d be without these videos.

[@sullak7]

I feel like I’m being scolded and okay with it because I really needed it. 😐

[@habibbasit4518]

Day 4, no contact. I am already feeling the growth in me! Optimistic at the same time.

[@habibbasit4518]

Junior Lewis what # is this? Where to?

[@paimon3872]

@@habibbasit4518 Heyy i just broke up with my gf because she said she scared of relationship now of all the stress and wanted to have it after graduation, do you guys think i should wait for graduation because she really my wife material and she likes me too but scared to like me howwww

[@philophobia9417]

@@paimon3872 Hey, 3 years later. How did it end?

[@deborahalston7472]

My x is using the no contact on me so forget it i will just move on please he ain't worth it love is patient love is kind he is just a user

[@bryanakers8168]

After 75 days of no contact my ex messaged me asking can she pick up some stuff she left behind , she stayed for 3 hours , we chatted like old friends , I stayed calm , enjoyed the moment and now she is messaging me regularly, in the 11 weeks no contact I had totally revamped my house , exercised and got my social life back , we may only end up as friends but it sure feels good right now , stay strong

[@FunnyGringito]

Update Bryan?

[@cymiemomo5346]

Update?

[@super_street_racer5094]

Update?

[@philophobia9417]

I don't think we're getting updates lads

[@aitorjara100]

The only things you must chase are your dreams. When your ex knows from the new you in the future she/he will be probably regret everything, I can guarantee you that

[@Audrey-ib2xe]

Take it all to the Lord in prayer

[@shawnjesseman664]

I've heard that a lot of women will use no contact as a way of trying to get over you and move on.

[@rebelaris]

This is what my ex does !!!! She was the dumper and asked to not have contact with each other and asked also for space. The breakup was ended in good terms and the relationship was healthy. She is just not ready or confused with herself or I don’t know what is going on her mind but the point is, that yeah she’s doing no contact as well to me to get over the breakup and so on. I don’t know what the heck should I do

[@matthewcarrillo1951]

@@rebelarisupdate?

[@rebelaris]

@@matthewcarrillo1951 we haven’t heard or seen each other since then and I no longer care. I gained more than I lost. Time reveals great valuable gifts that won’t able to see in that moment.

[@oddentertaining6234]

So no contact works. I proved it. 10 days after I initiated NC, my gf contacted me mainly with small talk- and then I messed up everything and pushed to hard. Now I'm literally blocked. So, get Coach Lee's emergency kit, and WHEN (not if) they contact you, be calm. Be patient. Don't do like I did! EDIT: I'm not blocked anymore. After my second NC, she reached out again. So it does work. Also, I'm not affiliated with Coach Lee at all- but I bought his kit and he does know what he's talking about. It is worth it.

[@taylormade4393]

Odd&Entertaining my husband has not contacted me at all and it’s been 3 weeks. It’s never gonna happen. 😢

[@oddentertaining6234]

@@taylormade4393 Be patient. 3 weeks is very little time, although I understand each day seems like hell right now. You have to give it time for him to miss you. Time is your friend. Walk or workout. Give yourself 15 minutes a day as Coach Lee says to dwell, and then keep busy the rest of the time. Trust me, I have days where I have broken down like a little baby in the middle of the grocery store. So I feel your pain, okay? You are NOT alone. If you were married, he is thinking about you. He just needs time to really start to miss you. He can't do that if you contact him. 45-60 days is a usual time. There are only two options, okay? He will contact you within 60 days, which is very likely, or you will know the other answer. It may be longer, but trust me, there is a very good chance he will contact you. Just be happy, confident, and don't be needy when he does. You want to attract him- and if you seem like you are happy-go-lucky, he will start wondering what he is missing. Stay strong, okay? You are not alone. I still struggle each day. Pray, and you can make it. Be the best you that you can. Find out who you really are as an individual. Try to let go of the constant thought. It will happen. Time is your friend. Remember, you are not alone. :)

[@taylormade4393]

Odd&Entertaining Awe, thank you so much for caring enough to reply. I know this may sound so dumb but I don’t know who broke up with who. We had been arguing a lot lately and under tremendous amount of stress. He had changed a lot and distanced himself a lot in the last month. I’m the one that started throwing my clothes on the bed to leave the relationship so he told me if I left I would not be coming back. It was a horrible argument where we said terrible things to one another. I was determined to leave because I felt desperate at the moment. He then got dressed and headed out first but before he left he told me he wanted a divorce. I’m sure he left the house to cool off but I left and never came back. He never reached out to me. I haven’t reached out either. I’m so afraid of reaching out and getting Rejected. The thing is he is supposed to leave on deployment in January so if he doesn’t contact me before then it’s really over. I’m so devastated. Everyday is hell. Im so depressed that I have trouble even getting out of the house.

[@oddentertaining6234]

@@taylormade4393 I understand completely. I would seek some professional counseling, and really think about what you want. I wouldn't worry about rejection. What you really need is some honest communication. Give him some time to cool off, and to miss you. If it was a mutual breakup, then that is different than the normal NC they talk about here. Still, I would give him some space, and really decide what you want. I understand each day is hard. I really do. Get out and walk. Depression is normal, you are not alone. I wasn't treated well, my ex has a lot of mental problems, and I was still depressed beyond anything. So what you are feeling is very normal. Just try to pick yourself up and understand the sun will come up tomorrow. Breath. Sometimes it might be one minute at a time, but eventually, time will help you. It will be each hour. Then each day. You can make it. You are only human, and we feel more than we think. It is very normal. Now is the time to reach out to family and friends. Don't overwhelm them, but let them know you need support. There is nothing wrong with that, and the people who love you will support you. Remember, I'm in pain just like you! So you are not alone. If I could give you a hug over the internet, I would! You WILL make it through. You have time. Take a deep breath. Relax. Deployment or not, you have time. Okay? That really doesn't mean it's over. Be sure to take care of yourself. I understand 100% what you are going through.

[@taylormade4393]

Odd&Entertaining Thank you so much. I’m sorry you are in pain too. I wish I could take that pain away from you. I’m grateful for you taking the time to talk to me. You have a huge heart. I hope things get better for you too.

[@ruvimbogelleninokanyamaure6066]

SOMETIMES WHEN I LISTEN TO YOU , FEELS LIKE YOUR ADVICE WAS MADE FOR ME KKKK IT HITS ME SO HARD , SO HARD AND ITS SO TRUE AND I CAN RELATE

[@GR-bn3xj]

There are times when there is a downward spiral in communication, and both parties simply quit texting at the same time. It's hard to know who the dumper is. I have had this happen to me. Technically you can go off who sent the last message I guess, but I am glad to see this video bc there are some rare situations where it just fizzles away and maybe they think they got dumped.

[@stubbler1969]

What if it isn’t clear who broke up with who? It was mostly a mutual breakup. Perhaps this scenario is covered in the Kit, which I purchased.

[@apope06]

Im pretty sure my ex using no contact. I want them back but im a stubborn and principled man. No way will i ever break no contact. They must repair what THEY broke!

[@dwightschrute8141]

Update?

[@thepearlswirl]

I ended things with my ex six years ago but now I dream about him from time to time and it’s so confusing because I know I still love him but I can’t bring myself to reach out to someone who hurt me so much.

[@carmensmith1453]

I'm sorry I feel the same he hurt me and cussed cheated emotionally told me how much he loves others can't stop crying I prayed to God to forget him

[@richardcollins586]

I sent a message saying how was your week , no reply. 65 days no contact so far. For me, hell would have to freeze over before I reached out again. I won’t lie, I think about her everyday, though nothing will make me chase her as I did all that the last two years and it’s got me to this point.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

richardcollins5, Richard, I would definitely let her go. 65 days is plenty of time. You can probably do a lot better also. If you need some help I can recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you. totally get how insanely tough it is, and I've been right there in the same boat. You gotta check out Coach Lee's "Emergency Breakup Kit." It's an awesome guide that'll save you from feeling totally lost in this crazy time. It tackles all sorts of situations and gives you strategies you never even considered. You can find it at myexbackcoach.com/ebk. Seriously, I'm rooting for you and hoping it works wonders for you.

[@expansionconnection]

I have to thank you for saying what you said about the breaker-upper needing time. I miss my ex beyond desperately--I truly feel that we are soul mates. But we repeatedly could not find our way. Our roller coaster started with mean things that he would say to me, but then I started saying things back. And to have the kind of situation where you're both hurting each other is so awful. I've never had it before, and I never want it again; but on the same token--I so wish that he and could have found--could find?--our way to each other. I miss him to my core--every cell in my body. But I was the one who broke contact and don't know how we can find our way back. For my sake, his sake, and our sake--it's excruciating, but feels necessary. Once I lashed out back, I felt I was a 'changed' person. How could I hurt someone I love like that?!? I'd not experienced that before--and all of the things he'd said to me--amidst the deep, deep periods of love--then revised as me being 'irritating' etc--made the whole experience seem fake? So I guess, all that to say for others' who may benefit from my experience--I don't regret my decision. We couldn't keep shredding each other. But--if there's any way to stop the problems before they get to that point--especially if you know it's a soulmate--try. I believe he and I both will be forever affected, and for me; confused, saddened, and regretful (and NOT because I did a 'wrong' thing--I have to say; as much as I hated initiating 'no contact', he'd been the ONLY person in my life to be berating and worse; and I really did have protect myself and didn't want to model that kind of relationship for my daughter--just recently at the tender age of 10 she said, "he never let you talk"--and she was right :(. So you might ask; why did I love him--I'm still not sure. But I definitely knew I needed time to give it some serious thought.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Do your kid a favor and don't bring men into the house. Date outside the house. She's probably seen enough drama, and I hope her Dad is in her life.

[@Cinder1987]

What if no one broke up? Instead, the other person got mad/argument and is very stubborn, ego driven, and every time an argument occurs they expect you to break the ice because of their silly pride. It’s happened several times in my case in a 2 and a half year relationship. If I don’t contact they don’t. This is a real problem for me and a few others I know. Wish you could make a video on this if you’ve had experience with this scenario. I’m on 2 months NC now. I’m tired of having to give in to save his pride. He even waits a few days to reply to my initiating contact. It’s mental control and absurd.

[@rebykofficial9792]

Me and my girlfriend we had a relationship for almost 6 year and one month ago he broke-up with me and start dating someone else. I hope she will come back after a period of thinking. Thanks for all the advice

[@paulauy4508]

How'd it go?

[@dominiccampana7385]

Update?

[@DeeallthewayG]

What if your ex’s family members still come around and reaching out while you’re doing no contact?

[@CharlyInCharge1]

Dee all the way G That’s a really good question!!!! 🤔

[@Boot2Ass24]

Do not reply, they will talk to the ex and the ex might be using them to get info, even if granny dies, not apart of that family anymore, do not reply!

[@isiscastillo1690]

I’m barely going on to day 3. Hardest thing I’ve ever done, seeing from different people around me she hasn’t blocked (family members) it seems like she’s completely over everything and told them she doesn’t see us being together at this point in time. The only thing that I’m holding on to is that she said she can’t predict what can happen in the future. I don’t think she’s ever going to un block me and message me first

[@Poopooshoe90]

Oh man , I’m in the same boat. The future line is a cruel way of torturing us

[@clawry0]

That's a wonderful explanation of how No Contact is for the dumpees!

[@priscylamello7149]

I was the one who broke up but I’m hurt about it, so I’m using the no contact too. But I’m using because I like him, but I know that I’ll suffer if I maintain him near me. He said that we should be friend, but even been me the “dumper” I’m suffering more than him. Its not easy too, and I have to preserve my heart too.

[@RealCoachLee]

If you broke up with him you should not be using no contact. If you want him back you should tell him. Follow me on Instagram and then message me and I’ll explain further. Instagram.com/realcoachlee

[@priscylamello7149]

Coach Lee actually I don’t want to have him back. I just want to heal my heart, even wanting to talk to him, to have him near me. But I know that this will hurt both of us, it’s just my ego that wants him in contact. I just have to let things calm down. His is Muslim, I’m a “crazy” Brazilian. This will never work. Just time will heal my pain.

[@priscylamello7149]

Coach Lee and he said he wanted to be my friend. I don’t think this is a good Idea. I dumped him but I felt dumped too.

[@sulaymanjammeh3011]

@@RealCoachLee How can i talk you please ?

[@osmanmohamud2307]

​@RealCoachLee I need your help. What's the best way to contact you?

[@tranquilambiance1751]

No. My husband is using no contact so I accept the way he's treating me. To control me and make me accept less than my worth. It's complete manipulation. You're right. I've allowed him to do this over the last 4 years. So now we are at a stand off. And he's far too proud to give in.

[@archieblaster]

Sometimes things break when one doesn't bend

[@thatwildbird]

My ex is just emotionless 😐 & stubborn. It doesn’t matter to him whether I live or die. I don’t think no matter what tactic I use I won’t be able to get him back. Coach lee my case is the rarest of the rare one. Can you help me one on one. 😞

[@krystaalese8067]

I mean...if he doesnt care if you live or die, thats a pretty good indication that he's not the one for you. Im not even being snarky... I had to come to that realization with an ex before too.

[@santusanturohit4832]

You are dealing with Narcissistic

[@santusanturohit4832]

watch videos on KZbin to understand Narcissism Personality Disorder. .Ross Rosenberg,Saad Ahmed,Romani Durvsula are Psychiatrist/Psychologist. .follow their channels..Body heat and Sleeping with your enemy are some examples of NPD characters shown on silver screen.

[@mbelamukamisa2229]

I wanna watch coach Lee videos all day n night so soothing ..learning alot..

[@rabatmoroc4157]

God bless u man u are the best!

[@derrick1916-i7d]

7:22 onward. That’s all you can do

[@ailyndagatan5499]

Moving on process here. Everyday watching your videos inspire me a lot. Still crying here sometimes but i keep going,i stop reaching out to him. And he dont contact me also. But till now he dont get his clothes and other stuff at home. I know 2 days no work but a lot of excuses. 😢

[@7amodie]

When u love some one fight for them,life its take and give, dont give up

[@RealCoachLee]

Depends on your definition of “fight.”

[@nosimping6122]

Love requires two people to feel the same way about one another. Until that happens you're being a creep. PS. stop watching the Disney movies, the single biggest source for turning men into simps.

[@AlexanderBeenGreat]

What about if you broke up with them? I'm using no contact and I dumped my ex. She was disrespecting me and was crossing lines. She hasn't even tried contacting me. I'm currently doing radio silence and even stopped posting on social media

[@jocelynparfan4595]

No contact really works! Iam glad i found coach Lee,i watched all his video again and again,and,after 3months of no contact,radio silence,i decided to greet him happy holidays,to my mind i break the no contact rule.But after a few days,he responded.Greets me a happy new year.and i responded with the same greetings,nothing more.no how are you,nothing.and i leave it at that.now the ball is in his court.I will let him do the works,he is the one who dumped me.so,good luck to him if he can win me over.thanks a lot coach Lee,you are a big help😊

[@xLoganWasTaken]

I'm done. I talk to her after 61 days, today would be our 1 year aniverssary, I reached out to see how she's doing, and she went so cold to me, man, after all I did for her, after all I suffered, and impruve myself for her and made things that I wouldnt even made for myself in a lifetime, I'm not worth for her, not even to ask how im doing, I'm a much person now and It's all thanks to the shitty situations that she put me on, but now I feel stupid, weak and pathetic, she did not miss me at all

[@Staystrongbrotherx]

I’m on NC day 21. I’m starting to realise I miss the memories and fun times more than the person.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Staystrongbro You can do this! Keep up the great work.Been there-I know how tough it can be. Just wanted to give you the heads up about Coach Lee’s live workshop called "Relationship Reignite." Seriously, it's a game-changer! This workshop is all about rescuing your relationship and then keeping your relationship strong after the breakup or separation. Oh, and get this: you'll also have a coaching call every month for 6 whole months! So you won’t be going at it alone or anything. To find out more, hit up Coach Lee's team. You can schedule an appointment to discuss all the details at myexbackcoach.com/relationship-reignite. If you do, it will blow your mind and give you the support you need.

[@EmoJoshSavesTheWorld]

I don't believe they're in no contact exactly, but I've noticed that they've been exhibiting the same behaviors that I'm supposed to do (suddenly becoming inactive on social media, posting one or two posts every few days or once a week, going out and meeting new people and trying to have fun, posting pictures that make them look happy or that they're having fun with other people, etc.)

[@alexdeen2103]

Very true!

[@thejedi5079]

This is why Lee always tells you to never tell mutual friends of you both anything about the other because they always 99.99% of the time go back and tell them and it keeps them in relief and you banging your head off a wall !! I am hurting like I've never before and I am an older man but I look younger than I am and act younger and keep fit in gym "moreso since we have broke up. I am finding myself changing all of my bad habits and becoming my greatest asset and version ever and I know for a fact when she sees me and hears the way I speak and act that she will either want to jump my bones and start again ? Which is why I personally believe she ended it because we was stuck in a rut and now we are both moving forward positively and she wanted me to learn something ! Which I have!! For the better. Or she left me for someone else cause of covid and being stuck in the house for a year on top of each other and she wants the limmerance back?? She follows every post I put up but does not speak although she asked a friend 4 days ago about me! And no contact hopefully is working and we are both going to be amazing when we do rebalance the relationship ? This is what I meditate on everyday ? Cause we was really good together and there was no bad times! Just got boring I think? But I am still moving on for me either way !!

[@z.c.m9908]

I told him it was over but only after he said he wasn't in love with me because the last couple of weeks my constant need for reassurance drained him .. he said he loves me, and didn't want to lose me, but I told him I can't stay with him if he is longer in love. I was his first love 23 years ago.. found each other last year ,had a year on the day we broke up October 8 th.... I don't think I should be the one to reach out..he stonewalled me for 1 week and a half because he got upset with me over something I said... I think that was cruel.. he fell off the pedestal I had him on .. I went from being "his everything" a few weeks ago ...to this? I want him to really see if he is no longer in love... He said that week and a half he ignored me he learned to live without me... Welllll.... I guess that's where we are at... But I don't think I should be the one to reach out ..I need him to miss me and see if I can re attract him...

[@rachellimpert3748]

What if I told my ex that I can’t be friends with him because it’s too painful? I feel like he won’t reach out to me because he wants to respect that decision of mine. How do I know when to end no contact?

[@kevc9657]

Rachel Limpert I need to know too

[@sziami09]

Dont end no contact. Wait till he reaches out to you.

[@rachellimpert3748]

violetta09 I don’t think he will. I basically told him not to 😅

[@kevc9657]

Rachel Limpert mine my girl who broke up with me. I broke our Snapchat streak and she texted acting mad and I just said I wouldn’t be a backup plan or just friends and if she couldn’t love me in a relationship then I would have to find someone who could appreciate my love. Been over a month and she hasn’t said anything don’t think she will

[@alexandriamarie1131]

I did this too...it took him a week to make a final decision after I gave him an ultimatum. I immediately regretted it and then begged to be friends(silly I know) with zero response from him. Any update on your situation?

[@rosshandy5077]

Thanks for confirming that. Makes sense or else it would be a stale mate; it would never be resolved. This information has disillusioned me. What nonsense !!! I'm out of here.

[@martamanno22]

very good point in this point ! 🌈 lots of love & blessing 😇

[@EneangEZ1]

I want relationship that never break up even attacks low stay loyalty love together to the end of life.

[@mickeyasommerfeld2026]

Just found this channel..this coach is amazing. Love your insight and keep up the great videos!

[@thtkp5]

3 months since my breakup. Now I realize my lover would not come back. He was dissatisfied with me all the time. He was very harsh at me when he broke up. Which made me feel very bad because he is a very nice person. I made mistakes. But I realized that he didn't love me eve though our relationship was more than 5 years. He loved a person in his mind associated with my looks. When he sees I was imperfect he lost interest. Maybe we were destined to be apart. But he will be the best thing ever happened to me. Love him always. No contact helped me to get over the pain, save my dignity. Think I'll be able to recover in time. But the love I have for him will never fade. ❤

[@emanuel_soundtrack]

you said avery important thing, if they come fast back then it is not so solid criteria

[@nadineelizabeth195]

What does this mean?

[@joeostrosky8137]

should add a video about dating a person with border line disorder/traits. 4 years, 3 break ups...walking out on arguments, never resolving issues, moody, dr. jeykl/mr. hyde...will not go to counselling...hard to love someone like this. When they are good they are wonderful...but can turn on a dime. Never takes ownership of issues. Not sure if no contact will work with a person like her, but I am doing it NOW after 3 months of some back and forth mixed messages. As a man of Faith, I trust God for guidance and answers, to restore our relationship...if not then that is His will and I will meet someone else. GREAT video's of advise!! thank you Coach!!!

[@RyaBus11]

My ex would contact me once every week or two. She would just ask general questions like how I'm doing, how my family is doing, and what I'm up to, but there was nothing about getting back together. I don't want small talk once a week, I want a relationship and if I can't have that id rather just move on. So I told her. I said that I loved her but I cannot be just her friend and I can only be in her life romantically. I told her to message me if she changes her mind and wants to get back together. I told her not to contact me unless it was about getting back together. Did I do the right thing or did I fuck up?

[@princhipessa1969]

RyaBus you did the right thing. I wasted a year 1/2 of my life thinking these weekly calls/meetups would lead to a reunion. Know what it lead too? Her finding a rebound & me being her safety net. Stay in NC!! Best of luck.

[@tac4392]

@RyaBus Yes, that was a wise decision on your part if you're hoping to get back with her. Time away from each other would show what she truly wants, and you did your part by giving her what she wanted space, as well as making clear to her what you want(a romantic relationship with her and can't be just her "friend"). In the case that she reaches out, take things slow and pay attention to her behavior not just words, to see if she's genuine and not only reaching out for validation for example. Now there's also a chance that she may not reach out and if this is what she does maybe it is for the best. You deserve a person who is not only half heartedly in a relationship with you. But instead is willing to put in the effort to work on things and meet you half way, so that together you can create the relationship that you both desire.

[@oddentertaining6234]

Sure, just say you respect her decision, but you don't want to be friends. If she wants to get together to talk about being a couple, you are 100% there.

[@RyaBus11]

Odd&Entertaining that's basically what I said. But with a lot more detail. I was understanding. Polite. Calm. And respectful. I made it clear that I still loved her but being friends hurt too much and that I would be open to getting back together if she desired. And that's it. I haven't heard from her for almost a month. November 13th I believe was our last conversation. Which was when I sent her that message.

[@oddentertaining6234]

@@RyaBus11 if it hits 60 days and you haven't heard from her, at that point you might want to reach out cause you really have nothing to lose.

[@AlexOus]

Does no contact work even if she left for logical reason but still loves me so much?

[@mattl1962]

I don’t think I’d ever consider going back to an ex if they had a rebound relationship. That is a dealbreaker for me.

[@juliejuleswiingreen7277]

I think this is one of the best videos on your channel. :) You are just on point.

[@juliejuleswiingreen7277]

One question. I wrote a letter to my ex's parents one month after the breakup. I was writing that I really appreciated their time and that I will miss my second family. I had a really good relationship with them and loved their personalities. What do you think about that Lee? Did that push my ex further away??

[@lukecaddy4203]

This man is a genius! thankyou Lee day 3 and every video helps me more and more!

[@WeckoLPS]

Thank you for this video! 😀 I have read a bunch of your articles, but I can't really find the question to this particular no contact rule... My ex and I both decided to go no contact for 30 days starting today after our 6 year relationship. We've been broken up for 7 months and we've been in touch all this time, mainly because he's indecisive about what he wants with us. And so am I sometimes. We both agreed on going no contact for 30 days because we're having too many fights and we both need to work on ourselves and we need to figure out what we want. He even said he sometimes regrets the breakup but isn't ready due to his mental state and our fights. We both said we hope we can work things out after NC, but I'm scared he'll forget about me, or be happy without me. Should I reach out to him after 30 days? I'm just scared he'll ignore me and has forgotten about me. Or should I wait for him to text me? Even if we agreed on the 30 days NC? I'm afraid he'll get over me since we both initiated no contact to see where our heads are at and to get our minds straight. Will he even miss me or think about me? Please help!

[@MegaAlsf]

He won't forget about you. If anything he will miss you more.

[@matthewjarvis2556]

Sweetheart you don’t have to worry about him not thinking about you or missing you. I guarantee he is missing you and thinking about you every day just as you are. You both have been through everything together six years not a short time. Keep your head up stay strong and I would text him after the 30 day keep it short. I hope everything works out for you and you seem like a sweet girl.

[@courtneythompson8139]

I watched up until 2:50 and the advice given up until then is completely wrong. I fell in the category of breaking up with someone hoping they would get it together and make changes and take accountability. Not humbling yourself and playing the no contact game just validates to the other person that you have no accountability and makes them think you never cared about the relationship. Its not an ego trip. Its called setting boundaries. If you care, admit your mistakes and tell them you are sorry for hurting them. If you don't care, then the person will be validated in breaking up with you and no contact really won't matter cause you don't care.

[@DanteLegacyGaming]

Two weeks and going strong!! Thank you Coach Lee!👍👍

[@Adultsodas]

Hi! Any updates? How long was your relationship?

[@DanteLegacyGaming]

@@Adultsodas she ended up moving with a rebound, moved in with him. She moving on, and I am moving on, that's life. live and learn.

[@minjiazheng2058]

I broke up with my ex because he cheated on me and lied to me. I use no contact rule to healing myself and move on. Not wait him come back. People leaves for reason not just like that. I have to say I left with plenty of pain.

[@loveswintertrees]

Wow totally wrong. If you got dumped but WERE RESPONSIBLE for abusing/pushing them away, then YOU a need to reflect and apologize. This blanket rule of “they left so they need to come back to you” is feeding into toxic lack of accountability

[@tagabulodchastityobedience7292]

I suggest don’t ever go back to your ex’s because ( ex’s because is wrong for you ) move on you will find someone soo much better - plus whenever they come back they looked ugly and miserable anyway Not Attractive anymore just grossed so move on..

[@Basaif_almahri]

Thank you. im in process of no contact.

[@amandakingsbury284]

Sh!t! I’ve done this! I remember our first row, I was upset because a girl who liked him was messaging him and confiding in him, we rowed, and I remember he said “if that’s the way you feel, maybe we shouldn’t be together”…it hit me like a train. I couldn’t speak, I was broken, I gave him such a huge reaction. I can even remember where I was sitting and what I was looking at. A few months later he messed up and said some things he shouldn’t have done to my family at a get together. I was so confused because I was expecting him to reflect and be apologetic but he was distant and cold that night, and the following morning he walked out on me, a couple of days later I got a text asking to meet to exchange stuff! I was shocked. He was giving up. I begged. I drove round and poured my heart out, I assured him that we could fix things. And now, I’ve said some things about his family to him, we rowed and he’s said he can’t get over it. I’ve basically given him a tool to shape and mold me. I know something is very wrong with what’s happened/happening but I can’t quite get to the bottom of it. I’m unsure whether he’s just extremely disinterested in our relationship (and so throws the towel in very easily) OR he’s learnt that ending “us” is the biggest button to push for me.

[@incensepeppermint5221]

Excellent video Lee.

[@mudknot9000]

6 years together, 5 years living, 3 years engaged. No "BIG" events happened. She said she would move out and we would go out on dates, trips, sleepovers ...rekindle things. "I love you, please trust me, this will help us" ...all of that. While I was gone she packed all of her things and has been giving me silent treatment ever since. The mixed signals are the hardest to handle. Idk wtf to think.

[@mudknot9000]

@Shayla Dawkins sound advice... Except not. Who are you to make that call? We actually were very ready, you don't know what circumstances happened in that time or what we BOTH agreed upon. Take your trash advice somewhere else. You're obviously on this video because you have issues yourself, so carry on and good luck to you.

[@mudknot9000]

@Shayla Dawkins that's fine, I'll stand by the reality that you're here because you're obviously in need of advice, and yet somehow trying to give it to others when you're clearly unworthy. 🤷‍♂️

[@asadini]

5 months into no contact. But i am still not healing.

[@barcan8371]

update?

[@Hey.its.Lala95]

Hope you freling better just know your worth and pray

[@asadini]

Got divorced on 28th June. Turned out that she was cheating on me. In the worst ways possible. All the time I suffered her Narcissism. A month after divorce she admitted to everything, after cutting her veins out of guilt and shame and then apologized to me. I told her that I loved her, I was glad that she didnt get too hurt, wished her best of luck...we parted our ways amicably. But june to November I raged, i fell apart and my hair went white, countless times i contemplated suicide but I decided to fight on. And then I met someone nicer and pretty too. I may get engaged again soon to another girl. Secondly fate shined on me since I might inherit some money as well. (JOKES ON HER)So remember me in your prayers. All the things Love Coach said were True. I was just applying on the wrong person. But the human side of her did respond. No Contact HEALS YOU! And You MATTER THE MOST!

[@asadini]

@@Hey.its.Lala95 thanks

[@barcan8371]

@@asadini brother. your pain was not in vain. life is beautiful even if it doesnt looks like it at times (currently to me). im proud of u even though i dont know you and am younger than you. Love you a lot. I wish only success and eternal love to you.

[@angrypatient2221]

I need to heal and forget him.

[@Markovnikov90]

I'm the dumper , I found out she was hanging out with another guy while I thought she was at work.. I found out and went on No Contact straight up. Not gonna contact her but I'd love her to contact me at least to give me an explanation

[@sophierobert7941]

But you dumped her

[@sophierobert7941]

@@nufffalready8266 idk ... relationships are weird

[@gandaako782]

I already train him coach. We breakup many times and i always beg ang plead. But this last time i dont. Im in NC a month now. I hope i can be hold on.

[@juliemanso4589]

I’ve been in NC with my ex for 4 months now, he never reached out for the holidays, never has contacted me again. Yesterday I got him driving by my job ? Why ? What’s the point of him driving by my job so I can see him if he’s completely ghosted me for 4 months? I don’t get it!

[@archieblaster]

he missed u just too proud

[@Badrivlogso]

My ex i remember the day our break up she told me she love someone , one year she was lied me. After that night i decided No contact but some times she saw me to in my university when i walked other girl

[@Alcatraz-pf2te]

Hey Coach Lee could you please do a video about what it means if your ex has a breakup with their rebound pretty quickly into the relationship, but then they get back together?

[@kingtitan2051]

What happens after 30 dY radio since they come back on day 30 and try to stay but don't apologize for leaving? Say" it's mostly my fault her leaving.. But sitting on my lap going for hugs and kisses the whole time. I sent her on her way. Then 2 days later same thing - she's balling leaving. Like a re-run. I know she knows though what's the hold up. I told her I enjoyed seeing her but being polite but not romantic. It sent her into a frenzy both times. Was hard to see her leave crying all dolled up. F***!

[@CM-pc3gq]

My furniture is still at my ex's but I can't exactly take it back. Could this delay the relief period?

[@RealCoachLee]

Not really.

[@lalaineabiera]

Buy a new one. Don’t go there. His date or new gf might be using it now.