What It's Really Like Living With SOCIAL ANXIETY.

[@Tailionis]

"Staying inside till they pass." I felt that.

[@aliyahgreen9935]

I’m an introvert who doesn’t necessarily hate people but I quite literally prefer to be in my own space doing my own thing! I don’t like being forced to interact! I love nature!!

[@TimothyWard]

Yes, forced interactions are difficult. Nature is the best! Thank you for taking the time to share 👍🏾

[@mrd2581]

Amen. Same

[@nandsall9492]

@@jayrober4834 no chance

[@IshaBrown-x6p]

I'm the same, nothing to be ashamed of. The world would be a boring place if everyone was the same.

[@TheDoomWizard]

None of us are optimally designed for this living nightmare.

[@Unbotheredisis]

You said it living nightmare

[@NE0Nwhip]

@@TheDoomWizard Warfare on us from each imaginable angle

[@highlovevibration]

Perfectly stated

[@highlovevibration]

​@@NE0Nwhipyup

[@godslittleprincess5454]

I concur. It's not normal

[@tonyroan75]

I totally understand. For years I thought something was wrong with me. Now that I'm older, I realize that this is who I am. This is how God created me because I'm finding out that there are of millions of us out there. No medication needed. Keep living, family.

[@anns1921]

Great comment and you are so right. In a world where so many need to be on medication I think it's wonderful for anyone to find whatever way works for them to cope. I love my solitude but truth be told it's really my time with God and it is beyond precious to me. Good for you on being proud of who you are and God bless you!!!

[@DewdropsAndBlueberries]

yes you are!

[@TimothyWard]

Exactly!

[@susanna8612]

There is no wrong or right in this but I think its more environment people grew up in what makes them how they are. I have lived in 2 different country in Finland where Im from (people love their personal space and there is a lot of it because of small population and mayority Finns are introverted) and I was living in India nearly 10 years and people dont even know what personal space means. They are much more community/family oriented people anyways. Its hard to even find place where you can be alone there. Young woman (like me at the time) who never wanted to marry and pretty much went everywhere alone and seek solitude was something unbeliavable to them. Of course not everyone are the same in any country but our upbringing and environment we grew up affects a lot who we become.

[@lolaloren1773]

I feel the same way meaning I don’t want to be bothered some days, some days , I just need my quiet times, I don’t answer my phone for the most part, my phone is basically for emergencies or watching KZbin, thanks for speaking on this!!!!!!:-)

[@jasmineyoungblood]

As an introvert who chose a career working with the public and having to talk for 10h+ a day…I understand 😭. It’s soooo exhausting! Coworkers often ask me why I’m quiet or don’t hang out, outside of work. That’s my time to decompress and I don’t want to fill it with loud noise & senseless talking lol 😅.

[@onerationallady2661]

Same!

[@07ikkin]

Yess, sometimes I'd just go home and eat in silence. No tv, no lights, just windows open, eating in quiet. Because you can't eat in peace at work

[@JuanNunez-g4t]

I work a part time job. Surrounded with a lot of people. I suffer from zocial anxiety and also an introvert. It sucks. I come to my apartment and deal with stress stress stress. I hate where I live. I'm working to save up and move but it sucks daily

[@old-soul]

This is me. It is soooo exhausting

[@CaseyWindom]

@@jasmineyoungblood Amen to that!!!

[@MA-fm8du]

Nature is the best healer and it is free

[@darriusgivans6570]

For me being around people is draining. I’m a pet sitter so I spend most of my time with animals. I even grocery shop in the morning when no one is around. Same when it comes to going to the gym. I absolutely hate being around people.

[@indiewest7200]

Being at work is a serious drain. I hope that being around people isn't reducing years of my life. I just have always liked being at home with my favorite people. I am similar, if I have to strike up a conversation with a stranger it's misery and torture,.

[@devanshvatsal4128]

True. Forcing oneself to come up with things to say to a stranger just for the sake of small talk sucks.

[@PraveenSrJ01]

I definitely hear 👂 you

[@Celwood]

Why do you think you have to strike up a conversation though...? This is what I don't understand about people. I can sit or stand next to someone without saying a word and feel completely comfortable. I've noticed this makes most people's skin start to crawl though... I don't understand. What's wrong with existing next to someone without having some stupid conversation. Can you explain it to me...?

[@Celwood]

@@devanshvatsal4128 You do realize you don't have to force yourself to do that, right? It's okay to exist in silence. You are not hurting anyone! It's the noise inside your head making you feel uncomfortable about it, it's important to realize this...

[@mmc9828]

And I hated getting in an elevator at work if it was just me and one other person. If I saw it was just one person at the elevator I would wait for the next one.

[@DoctorWonka]

For me there are times when I feel that social anxiety, and want to be alone. And then there are times that I enjoy being around others. BUT I like to do it on MY OWN TERMS. A bit of both worlds.

[@denbrah1481]

Tim yes I totally relate. When extraverts tell me they fear missing out I think to myself missing out is where it's at! I love missing out!

[@RexDavis415]

I feel you, my family is extroverted and they say this. I love them, but I'll always be introverted.

[@nokateno]

omg me 3

[@Goaskval]

My dad often said we’re going to “sit this one out”…that was very often and I see it as a double edged sword. I got used to being ok with me but I know some of us empaths could meet up then go our own way if we chose to. No offense given or taken. I also think we talk too much and expect tv-like interactions where problems are created and solved in 2 hours or less. Not at all in the real world. I believe in us and I thank you genuinely for sharing this. 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@marietaylor5174]

You just described me to a tee!! I was so glad when I retired because I didn't have to be around people all day!!

[@jmaldo92]

I've found my people

[@deevee4200]

Work was always easy...it was the people that made it hard.

[@rhondam3406]

Unfortunately, my social anxiety got worse the older I got. I had to retire at 59 due to it. I still cannot attend functions that have more than a few people, and only people I know well.

[@teemadarif8243]

Sounds perfectly fine to me .

[@Freedom-Fighter1]

I used to have social anxiety most of my life. Two years ago, I started taking high doses of vitamin D3, magnesium, and vitamin K two along with a few others that go along with them. I noticed my anxiety has all but disappeared. After doing much research, I found out that magnesium is great for lowing anxiety.

[@mmc9828]

I retired from the corporate world a year ago. My husband still works so it's just me and the dog all day long and I love it. Work was the hardest part for me. I always felt like I was an actor playing a part. It helps knowing there are others out there that can relate.

[@marleyite]

mmc9828 Liked your mention of being an actor at work 😊😊😊 For me its dodging the drama queens on a Monday morning in the office thats quite challenging.

[@marcozegikniet9301]

'' unlivable wage voluntarismZzZzZz '' ----- right wing libertarian -----

[@mmc9828]

@@marleyite Oh I can relate to that as well.

[@jenl3162]

Oooh I can relate. I left that world and now, I’m just simply a waitress. Everyone thinks I’m crazy, but I’ve never been happier!

[@mmc9828]

@@jenl3162 Funny you mention being a waitress. I will never go back to work full time but I was thinking about getting a part time waitress job just for something to do for a few hrs a day.

[@WilliamMccune-ok6ht]

It's okay. Just be yourself is all you can do.

[@Tephiffany]

That background is gorgeous!

[@KolyaNickD]

Where is he? It's beautiful..

[@prettylady818]

@@KolyaNickDI’m pretty sure he’s in Colorado at his seasonal job.

[@byoung5520]

I suffered from it my entire life. My older brother being the complete opposite made it worse. He thought and said I was weird. I’m now in my 60s and finally feeling a little comfortable with myself. I’ve learned to not care as much what people think. Sometimes I’d rather spend time at home with my family and watch a good movie than go out and be with other people. I told my wife one day….I just don’t like most people in general, sounds bad but it’s the truth

[@recklessnotion1899]

What you see in people is just a reflection of what you see in yourself.

[@chrismay2298]

There isn't much likable about the average normie.

[@cathykelly791]

I totally relate to what you're saying. "Social anxiety" has such a negative connotation to it. The extroverted world makes you think it's something to be ashamed of but it's not. I love spending time alone. I enjoy a few close friends. But I don't enjoy crowds, small talk, or socializing with a bunch of people I hardly know. I can fake it but don't like it. Perhaps introverts have a strength in that we are able to be alone with ourselves instead of needing other people to constantly distract us from our own inner world.

[@Hub_One]

its funny how hearing someone else talk about this feeling that i also have shows how much im overthinking it.

[@armymann]

I want to be left alone and that does not mean that I have issues. I just don’t like being around human beings. They can be energy drainers. If you are not my family, I don’t want to talk to you. Nothing wrong with that especially at age 67. My life has never been better. I choose the people that I want to be around.

[@deevee4200]

Feeling same!!

[@Love11904]

Wow I thought I was the only one that felt that way

[@taoist32]

That’s just being an introvert, nothing wrong with that. Not the same as social anxiety. I am an introverted, autistic, and have social anxiety. Talking to people is very uncomfortable.

[@FindingJessyPiecebyPiece]

Yup, that's me for sure. I don't like getting invited to things. Even if it's an event that is way into the future, I get anxious and it's constantly on my mind. Eventually that feeling begins to subside, but the closer the date of the event gets, the more my anxiety ramps up.

[@andrewawood3658]

Me too. I’m very introverted

[@daj4740]

Me too.... weddings, baby showers, funerals, etc etc. All are torture and it stays fixed in my mind from the time I am first aware of the event. I used to make excuses not to go which caused guilt. Now that I'm in my 50's, Ive learned to just be honest about my social anxiety.

[@FindingJessyPiecebyPiece]

@@andrewawood3658 Same here!

[@FindingJessyPiecebyPiece]

@daj4740 I need to start doing this myself. I don't have a very good poker face, so me pretending that I'm okay in social situations doesn't work. My facial expressions always give it away.

[@DewdropsAndBlueberries]

just find an excuse not to go 🤣

[@MYuee]

I'm the same. I like going to the woods to avoid people. The worst time of the year is tourist season, when there are a lot of hikers and other people doing the same. I'm the person who sees someone in the distance and takes the other path. Certain small interactions stress me out as well. Sometimes I feel like a gremlin. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. People like us are just wired differently.

[@TimothyWard]

I take the other path too when I see people coming 😂

[@anns1921]

I love hearing you talk about this because I have the same issues. I hate to admit it but I could honestly go the rest of my life and never see another human being and be perfectly happy. The crazy part is that I do have times where I can be very social and outgoing but the times when it's at its worse it can be crippling. I will give up food and pretty much anything to avoid the interaction. And for me it's not always so much about social anxiety as it is just wanting my own space. God bless you Tim for speaking up about this and reminding us that we are okay for being this way. And the place where you are in this video looks pretty amazing so enjoy that beautiful solitude! Hugs!!!

[@humansnotbots-y8l]

Mann this video sure means something to me! Sometimes I actually forget there are other people out there in just as much agony as me😂 good to know we aren’t alone

[@NE0Nwhip]

So relatable already. I've been having a deep existential crisis with how my avoidant attachment style is holding me back

[@ReggieWilson-f4u]

I can certainly relate to an existential crisis. I’m having my second one right now, but the more I think about it, I think I’ve always never known where I fit in and what I’m meant to do and I used temporary external achievements or ego defenses, such as thinking I’m smarter than other people, to cope. All of that seems to have failed and I’m left with profound confusion and feelings of inadequacy. I’m constantly anxious. Socializing at work is difficult. I’m always criticizing myself.

[@ztownsfinest917]

Social anxiety is real and I can definitely relate to this. There are certain social situations that I absolutely dread and try to avoid. People that are more outgoing and extroverted probably wouldn’t understand what the struggle is really like….great video

[@dral22]

You've just explained most of my life in the last 20 years in 15 minutes. This video resonates with me a ton. I always have to muster up the courage for any meetings, events, etc. Even a simple meet-up with a relative or friend that i hadn't seen in a little while. It's just the way i am as well, and i have accepted that. Thank you for always being transparent, Tim, and keeping it so real. This is one of many reasons why the majority of your subscribers, including myself, love and appreciate you. May God bless you, brother. More gratitude and respect! ✊🏾👑

[@leslierivera8702]

Tim I can relate 100% to every thing you discussed in this video. You are describing me. I’ve lived with being an introvert with social anxiety my entire life. The thought of people looking at me or the fear of doing or saying something embarrassing in front of others, has been crippling. You just gained a new subscriber today. It’s nice to know there are others out there that understand what you are going through.

[@TimothyWard]

Welcome to the channel/community Leslie!

[@leslierivera8702]

@@TimothyWard thank you 🙏🏻

[@EmpireStateExpress01]

As someone with Aspergers, I felt this video, especially the part about having to set things up in advance.

[@XPLOSIVization]

As a introvert i can 100% relate, I do my best in life to avoid those type of stressful situations, Not saying i didn't try in the past to blend/fit in, but now at 40 ive accepted who i am and my friends and family have too

[@Watcherw1]

People are diffuclt. Honestly, I get down sometimes thinking about how life is.

[@LaNoire27]

THIS.

[@sustainablesteph]

YES💯‼️

[@akaicruise]

You're right..and it gets worse as the years go on

[@lucken13]

Why I live rural in the middle of nowhere!!!!! I go in town to do stuff, then glad to get back home!

[@bimbobaggypants4820]

How far are you from town? Do you have to drive there? I live in a rural place and you need a car, nearest town is 8 miles away (tiny) I work in a larger town 13 miles away, I'm in the uk and where I live the towns are very small.

[@nokateno]

I envy you too

[@aliyahgreen9935]

I most definitely understand this!! I don’t like gatherings!! I think about an event sooooo much before it happens !

[@Justfor2day10]

From childhood on I always felt very uncomfortable around people and pretty much did everything alone. Now that I’m older I’m glad I’m like this and prefer being alone. There’s only a handful of people I feel like being around. I’d love to live in the woods by myself.

[@anns1921]

Same here and if we find ourselves in the same forest I promise to give you all the space you need. Hugs!!! lol

[@eddiebirch2067]

KZbin is amazing because now I'm realise I'm not the only person who feels like this

[@Justfor2day10]

@@anns1921 Sounds amazing, I’m ready! Lol

[@Justfor2day10]

@@eddiebirch2067 Yes it is!!

[@eddiebirch2067]

@@Justfor2day10 Hi, thanks for reply , has literally saved me knowing I'm not alone

[@Brakka86]

I grew older and found out all the social programming was a giant lie, and even celebs were just flawed lost people. Nobody has their shit together, and the world is a giant mess. My anxiety evaporated as soon as I internalized this, and my perspective changed.

[@chrismay2298]

Bingo! Realizing I'm not the broken one and that the entire society is, really made it easier.

[@annalisaa505]

I have social anxiety too and going to work every day is a real struggle. I hate having to take the bus/subway and walking through crowded streets. Hopefully in the future I can find a way to get away from all this, or to just spend more time in nature like you do. Thank you for this 🙏❤

[@highlovevibration]

It really is a struggle. You're not alone❤

[@MsRiceTravels]

You’ve put into words exactly how I have felt my entire life. Now, in my 40s, I’ve learned to accept who I am.

[@tw1st3ds0ul9]

I've been like that all my life. I would skip school on my bad days as a kid. As I got older, I started to self medicate in order to deal with people as I tried to earn a living. Unfortunately, that led to addiction and eventually prison. After prison, I can no longer function in normal society. As I write this, I have not left my home for 10 months and 11 days. The last time I left was for a doctors appointment. I still keep my workout routine from my time locked up and am always working in the yard since I live out in the country. But if a car goes by, I do my best not to be seen. I have been free for just over 10 years and can count on 2 hands how many times I have gone into town. It worries my family, but all I can say to them is, "It is what it is." They hate that response, but it's the only one I've got. Unless you have it, you just dont get it.

[@TimothyWard]

Thank you for sharing your story! We totally get you around here! Sometimes we just have to do the best we can with the hand we were dealt. Stay blessed, my friend!

[@ryanthomas3918]

I definitely feel u on the addiction part, been smoking Marijuana and drinking alcohol since 14 once I realized drugs actually gave me a break from reality and at 38 still battling addiction, I should of been to jail just never got caught but this life is very hard, sorry to hear your circumstances tho, keep your head up, maybe one day they will find a cure

[@CaseyWindom]

Hey, Tim! This is sooo relatable! Thank you for this video ❤ What I believe is that many people who feel this way, including myself, are quite introverted, have low social energy to expend, and desire to spend that energy only where it is used in a meaningful way and where it will be understood and well received. We value intimacy in the deepest, most connected and genuine way... Honesty, no BS, no fake stuff, no small talk. In those moments of passing people on the streets, in the park, in the store its like great, now I have to people please and put on a fake smile or do small talk, we do it because we have empathy and don't want others to feel as ostracized and outcasted as we often feel inside. Or at least that's my experience, taking on a lot of pain and isolation and not wanting others to feel it, trying to shield then from it. But also protecting our own energy in a way by isolating because we feel things and think about things so deeply. We are hyper self aware and often hyper others aware as well and it is exhausting because we have too much awareness to just be socially free in the way that others seem or we come off so deep and nerdy in a way that others perceive us as weird or we may think so. There's so much I could say to this as I relate so much. And I appreciate videos like this because it is nice to hear from someone else who gets it. We can know we are not alone, you're not alone either 😊

[@loririckert7489]

Wow I think a lot of people feel the way you do! I know I do! You accurately described what it feels like to have social anxiety. Perhaps this is why so many people are experiencing loneliness and isolation now. Thank you for making us all feel normal!❤😊

[@bluesrocker91]

I think for me, feeling out of control in a social situation is a big part of the anxiety... For example, imagine if you'd agreed to meet with some friends at a specific time, in a specific place, for a specific reason. But when you get there you find out the plans have changed because they've either all decided as a group they now want to do something different, or the original plan fell through for whatever reason. Suddenly everything you've psyched yourself up for has been turned on its head and you're under serious pressure to go along with the group to an unplanned or unfamiliar location, to do something you hadn't prepared for. But at the same time you don't want to complain because you don't want to spoil everyone else's night. I've made my excuses and bugged out of social situations on so many occasions because of things like that. It's one big reason why I generally stick to my own company.

[@johenderson3742]

Jumping out the bathroom window and over the fence after just arriving at the party...that's me. 😁😆

[@bluesrocker91]

@@johenderson3742 Haven't gone that far yet, but I've been very tempted to do that before... 😂

[@ChandoisGainesjr-fn9vr]

I thought i was the only one. 😮‍💨 I don't wish social anxiety on no one! Its hell!

[@taoist32]

You are definitely not the only one. There are thousands, maybe millions.

[@coltonkruse6474]

My social anxiety is so bad. I have to take meds for it. It’s helping tremendously so far. Thanks for making this video.

[@chrismay2298]

The idea thay you have to take meds is the scam.

[@wowdotkay]

What kind ?

[@MoosemanR]

I've always had this, I faced it head on for the last 4 years but still feel it. I think it never goes away, it's also I think very intuative personality types suffer this more from being hyper sensitive to others. Stay blessed everyone.

[@anns1921]

I completely agree! I think the more caring you are the more it drains the life out of you.

[@paulinemichaelapineda2429]

Awww. I am the same way and it’s really hard. Always felt like I’m different. Thank you for sharing!

[@Sedgar232]

I can relate so much to everything you said. I’ve always felt all the things you just described plus a very strong feeling of not fitting in. Even if I summon the courage to try and socialize I find it extremely difficult to find anything in common with other people. So intense is this feeling that I decided to undergo an autism assessment as an adult and ended up diagnosed as autistic and ADHD at 54. It was very telling when no one in my family was the least surprised by the news. I guess that as a girl growing up in the 70s I fell through the cracks. Everyone thought I was just very shy

[@oscargantes1651]

Oh my goodness, I didn't have how to name that feeling I have always had. In my culture is just being weird and antisocial. I am related to everything you mentioned. Thank so much for this video. I appreciate it a lot!

[@MackABD]

I feel the exact same way as you brother. I wish i was invisible also and that i could just float through life peacefully

[@MackABD]

@lle9058 yea i wouldnt mind having an asian, they are very loyal and more oldschool /traditional, not like the nose ring belly button pierced weirdos with tattoos around there coochie in north America with 100+ body's.

[@robertbelliii7048]

I suffer from the same problems. Sometimes I have to make myself walk out of the door. I do it because I know I need to get out and do the things that need to be done. But I really understand.

[@richardokeefe3943]

You're Not Alone brother I'm exactly the same way. I literally go out of my way to avoid people. It's just the way I am.

[@highlovevibration]

Omg, I literally thought I was the only one who had to pysch myself up to get out the door 😭 people think I'm so bubbly, they just don't know, I'm just a very good actress. I'm like you. I feel most comfortable in nature.🌿

[@KeshaNance]

Society doesn't give me anxiety they just annoy me.

[@marthakay2100]

😅😂

[@hannathehappynomad]

Yes! Lol

[@isolda980]

This! 💯

[@ibnenkigalileo9256]

And they are so boring and predictable

[@312alexvinod4]

Exactly 💯💯 I hate it

[@johnfulgham8876]

I totally understand this man. Left california, moved into a nice open country setting. So quiet and peaceful I thank god everyday for allowing me to escape that cali nightmare 🙏🏾

[@DewdropsAndBlueberries]

you would fit right in here in Sweden LOL...this is introvert central over here...pretty much everyone is introverted and has social anxiety...since i moved here it is the first time I truly feel I "fit in" because everyone is awkward in social situations. It is actually kind of hilarious if you think about it and Swedes often joke about it themselves. By the way, the landscape around you looks absolutely GORGEOUS! It looks a lot like over here in Sweden and I am outside in the woods as much as I possibly can as well. But back to the topic, I think us introverts are perfect as we are - I personally actually prefer hanging out with fellow introverts ☺

[@TimothyWard]

I need to get to Sweden asap lol!

[@DewdropsAndBlueberries]

@@TimothyWard I think you would love it here 😃

[@8FigureEarner619]

@@DewdropsAndBlueberries Sweden don’t like people of color, especially Blacks. Pretty much every European country is prejudice. Why are you telling him he’ll fit in, when in reality you know he won’t???

[@StevenDavies-el8ss]

@@8FigureEarner619 Swedes are the blond master race. The fuhrer admired them 😂

[@Mystic_Paths]

I appreciate how it addresses the complexities behind wanting to live alone; it’s not always about pushing others away but about finding peace within

[@missmya1967]

I totally resonate with your experience! Is amazing how comfortable you are talking on your channel. Good on you!

[@TimothyWard]

Thank you!

[@rubypieces]

Thanks for sharing! Personal story: I was raised by my mother (who had her own struggles), but she would have very random angry outburst towards people in public - for even slightest things that made no sense! As a kid, I remember feeling so nervous going out with her because I didn't know what to expect next: what weird scene she would create or public embarrassment I'd be subjected to (which as a kid I could only tragically watch unfold) when I knew she was always, clearly in the wrong. As I got older, I noticed when I went out on my own, I still experienced that nervousness and fear of "what's going to happen next". I now know this as "anxiety." I remember feeling dizzy, lightheaded, having panic attacks just simply standing in line waiting to check my items out - which I can now pair with the moments my mom would find an opportunity to get angry at something. It took a lot of self awareness, positive self talk, and rationalizing situations to naturally break free from this anxiety and panic. A therapist told Me I had traits of agoraphobia (yikes). Luckily.. none of this needs to be debilitating. For Mr, self discovery and truly understanding the root of it has helped me to make sense of it. It doesn't control me anymore but it did at one pt. I believe that now the symptoms manifest in my introversion - but I think its a blessing in dequise. I find in groups I have to unnaturally assert myself or shout over people just to be heard - some battles I will continue to choose to happily avoid. Lol self discovery is a beautiful thing and as long as we're living were evolving. Stay trekkin

[@StlmMontana]

Always be yourself and don't care what anybody thinks.You are your comfort zone.

[@GODWINKAPIHYATV]

Timothy I'm here to tell you that keep doing what you do. You're not alone in this. Perhaps we enjoy what you do

[@karenramos9143]

I'm right there with you. I totally understand. As I've gotten older I just don't have the strength to mask the anxiety anymore, but that's ok. Like you said there's things that have to be done and I deal with them, but I'm much kinder to myself and don't push myself beyond what I'm capable of handling.

[@rhondam3406]

I missed my brother-in-laws funeral because of my social anxiety. I knew it was coming, I was planning to go, but when the day came, I just couldn’t do it. I felt bad for missing it, but I think everyone understood why.

[@bimbobaggypants4820]

Last funeral I attended was my Uncle's about two years ago, felt so awkward seeing family who I never see.

[@johenderson3742]

I have done similar things...getting all ready and in the car, then doing a u-turn at the end of the driveway.

[@byoung5520]

@@rhondam3406 I hate going to funerals……no one likes them but to me it’s the worst for my anxiety. Not knowing what to say besides sorry for your loss, than the guilt thinking why am I making this about me, the poor person who died and their family. Very difficult

[@irlrpgguy]

My favorite trick for "avoiding" interactions in public is having a visible phone earbud in your ear connected to your phone in your pocket. Most people will just assume you're ignoring them because you're on a call. So you get to bypass the common courtesy interactions stuff. Sometimes I even slip in an "Mhm" or "Right right..." every now and again to sell it lol Sidenote, if I'm in a situation where I have to pretend to carry a convo, I usually just pretend I'm helping someone troubleshoot computer problems or helping an old person set up a social media account or something. I've found those to be the easiest convos to fake. You never run out of things to say and it's super boring sounding so people will 100% ignore you.🤣🤣

[@TimothyWard]

😂😂😂

[@chrismay2298]

That's a LOT of work... Easier to just tell them you're not interested and keep moving.

[@Phillyfresh209]

Have a whole conversation with yourself 😂 i dont leave home without the buds, chill to some podcasts or music and ignore everyone 👍

[@Jackie1111]

Thank you for sharing💞 and saying about not being broken and how it is okay. I am 43 and struggle with this .its very hard at work especially

[@elijahdunmore7526]

HI TIM I LOVE THIS MESSAGE!!!! I’M JUST HAPPY I CAN STILL BE FRIENDLY WITH PEOPLE WHILE I AM SOBER BECAUSE I THOUGHT I WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO DO IT WITHOUT HAVING A DRINK!!! TIM I AM SO GLAD TO BE CLEAN AND SOBER FOR 4 YEARS AND 7 MONTHS AS OF SEPTEMBER-6-2024 THANK YOU MY BROTHER AND SOBRIETY BUDDY STAY SAFE OUT THERE!!!!🙏🏽❤️

[@princelb81591]

I feel you, bro. im an introverted black male who is very private, which makes me such a mystery to people. Im can be challenging to read that people make false assumptions about my life. I don't have good interaction skills in large groups; I'm an intimate conversation guy. My peers would always wonder why I was always so quiet, lol. I think a lot, sit back, watch, and analyze people.

[@TimothyWard]

I feel you on the sitting back, watching, and analyzing lol

[@princelb81591]

@@TimothyWard Lol, bro, it makes some folks very comfortable. They don't know how to take you. Lol, it's funny. What's your sign im a Leo?

[@moneytowards]

You sound like me dear brother, the quiet person who sits back from the crowd watching, just looking at people pass by, overhearing their convos & forming my own thoughts about the environment I’m in. 🎉🎉

[@princelb81591]

@@moneytowards@moneytowards Yupp, people hate it too because they can't read you like they think they can, lol!

[@K2blades2]

I've dealt with this my whole life. I am 64. I thought it was because I am a woman. Especially when you are by yourself you DO NOT want to get in a conversation with strangers. I just want them to LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE. No offense but mind your own business. MY WHOLE life ... and actually I have to say that recently I went on a really good probiotic and it has actually helped me in this area. I don't feel so stand off ish and a little more comfortable now. Thanks for the conversation, it's nice to know that men feel this way too!

[@SincerelyxGabby]

Can you please recommend the name of the probiotic strain? 🙏🏽

[@K2blades2]

@@SincerelyxGabby I tried to post link to the one I use. But it won't let me. It's a combination of strains. I MIGHT be able to copy and paste them... I'll try.

[@K2blades2]

Probiotic Blend CFU: 5 Billion Lactobacillus acidophilus W55, Lactobacillus paracasei W20, Lactobacillus acidophilus W37,Lactobacillus rhamnosus W71, Lactobacillus plantarum W1, Lactobacillus salivarius W24,Bifidobacterium lactis W51, Lactobacillus plantarum W62, Enterococcus faeciumW54,Bifidobacterium bifidum W23

[@K2blades2]

@@SincerelyxGabby Sorry it won't let me.

[@Starfish2145]

Sounds like you’ve got an antisocial issue

[@CountVonC4]

That question haunts me man. “If I didn’t have social anxiety and introversion, what would I be up to?" I feel like my life adventure is severely stifled by social anxiety. I always look out the peep hole of my front door to make sure no one is there before I leave. I avoid people as much as possible and now I’m almost 42 and I’m alone. I got what I wanted, to be left alone, and now I’m lonely. Thanks social anxiety. Good luck to all of us introverted social anxiety folks.

[@Andygb78]

I don't think people are up to much. If you're interested, look into some philosophy, Schopenhauer or Nietzsche, especially Schopenhauer. His work is like a guide to life for the introvert. I always thought I was the problem for being too introverted and generally disliking other people and how they behave, but when I read some of Schopenhauer's work, I realised that the problem wasn't me & that he & many others saw the world in a similar way over a hundred years ago. The same is true of Buddhism & ancient eastern philosophy. One of my favourite Buddhist verses is "Come and look at this world. It is like a royal painted chariot wherein fools sink. The wise are not imprisoned in the chariot".

[@MitchellBram]

So interesting that you're talking about this. I never thought of myself as having a lot of social anxiety, but I spent 8 months in Thailand basically on my own. That can change you. Coming back was completely jarring - I started work teaching at a high school here in Miami. OMG - every morning from 7:30 on I am surrounded by students & teachers. Constant interaction cannot be avoided. It was overwhelming at first. But the human body/mind is an incredible thing, and we can get used to just about anything, given enough time.

[@cryptopappy6408]

I subscribed to support you. It's all I can do. Cancer and other poo is really killing me. I rarely socialize. I am a clerk at a grocery store. Yet I don't like being around people. I like helping them, but I'd rather just play with my cat. You're not alone in your feelings. Thanks for sharing. I'd bet on you being a good person! Stay you. I like your voice. I like more that you share it with us. I feel the same way, Buddy! I sit here with my front door open. I don't live behind closed doors. I love when the temp goes under ZERO - cuz that's when I can take a walk. Ain't nobody out when the temp is below ZERO! HUGS! Thanks for sharing.

[@johntbaxter]

Hey Tim, what a beautiful background with the stream and trees. Respect to you for talking about your social anxiety. I think by sharing it with the world is the beginning of change for the better. I’ve had episodes of social anxiety myself from time to time over my life similar as you described and I was fortunate that it was only temporary. For me a trigger was lack of trust in others and it usually begins with betrayal from someone I’ve trusted. Fortunately it didn’t last that long and having a companion (support network) really helped me with that (spouse/dogs/etc) Working out also helps me build confidence. Since a life changing health scare I really don’t give a hoot these days which has allowed me to face some of my own demons and not flinch in the face of bullies. It’s the fearful who are projecting their fear onto empathic people who absorb it. I decided not to absorb their fear. I’m not comparing my situation to yours, just sharing experiences. Blessings to you good sir.

[@thegreatzaza9293]

I'm so surprised to hear this because you're so chatty and glib. I have extreme social anxiety. I got laid off at the beginning of the year and I'm starting to worry that I'm developing agoraphobia now. I don't want to go out in society. My car actually has cobwebs underneath it. I started doing nootropics, two Una de Gato herbal capsules and one Tylenol. I take it about an hour before I need to do something social or challenging like a job interview but by about 3:00 or 4:00 in the afternoon I'm so tired I can barely keep my eyes open. Exhausted adrenal glands.

[@anns1921]

God bless you!!!

[@djefferson02]

Tim's, your timing is impeccable!

[@A_Beautiful_Death]

I don't have social anxiety I just have a low tolerance for ignorance.

[@AG-xt6ei]

Right, i like people, just not everybody.

[@stevebridges451]

I feel ya. If I see someone I know at the grocery store... if I see them before they see me... you know...

[@TimothyWard]

😂😂 I know exactly what you mean

[@Drifter.Dreams]

I didn't realize it until into my late twenties how little I wanted from other people, except to be left alone. It was made abundantly clear to me these past four years and some change that most people are coming at one another from an angle, in a strange, performative attempt to acquire *something* from them. Material and financial goods, energetic supply, access to other people's bodies for their own satisfaction, it's all there, constantly. And it is *exhausting.* The farther along I go, the less I want from others to the point of near extremes. I don't have friends, and I'm not lonely. My family is getting older, and I do wonder what will happen when it's eventually just me and my sibling. Neither of us have or want children, and we just don't want to be bothered. I wish nothing but the best for the world, but I'm not interested in playing its games anymore than is absolutely necessary.

[@LaNoire27]

I SO feel you on this! You just described me.

[@1594simonsays]

They are all selfish leeches

[@MichaelFrancis-mt1sp]

Its such a paradox because you have such a pleasing personality and you speak so well and are very charismatic. I can definitely relate though. Ive always been an introvert and been to myself. I like being around people to an extent and then it becomes draining. And also for you to make this video on this topic shows that you are ready to look this issue in the face and move past it. You don't want to look back on your life and say I should have talked to the girl or got out of my comfort zone to make more friends. You are an amazing person ! You have a whole online community that appreciates you for who you are and rooting for you , Tim. Maybe you could look into Toastmasters or some Public Speaking events so that you can get over your social anxiety and out of your comfort zone. You havent reached your full potential yet but already you are inspiring to me similar to Bob Proctor but even more relatable. And I am sure alot of people feelthe same wayas you but express it in different ways. Keep striving Tim ! You havent reached your final form yet ! .

[@jmaldo92]

​@@cherb3145 um what??? The guy is happy and truly enjoying life. This sounds like major projection

[@cliffkonkle3467]

Sounds like you need the real help😅 WOW JUST WOW.​@@cherb3145

[@amywamala]

​@@cherb3145 agreed!!

[@jimmykrakorn9676]

@@amywamala😂😂 another loser that is projecting.. looking at your picture it tells the whole story.. maybe it’s time for you to go get some therapy and not watch a whole video of someone you don’t like and then make an unwanted comment… How about not watch his videos?

[@jimmykrakorn9676]

@@cherb3145”it looks like he’s been self medicating” wow who tf are you?😂 How about take your own advice and go get the help you need cause like the lady said above.. this is major projection.. What normal person watches videos of people they don’t like then read through the comments and then make a negative comment 😂😂 🤡

[@jasmineyoungblood]

Side note Tim, I love your nature walk & talks! The background and sounds of the elements is so relaxing! Gotta love nature 🥰❣️

[@NathanielDonley]

I relate completely to how you describes your 10 min walk and how you feel. For what it’s worth, you come across as a totally normal guy to me. You shouldn’t have to feel that way. thank you for your videos. 🙏

[@JeremyPezzeca]

I love being alone too. My social anxiety i feel around people i believe to be the chaos of their own energy. Im not perfect in any sense but i am pure. I wasn't born with enzy, greed, sloth, jealousy, ect in me. So when i am around people with that energy i feel it intensily and i dont like it. This is why crowds of people are overwhelming. I'll use gyms for example. Gyms are filled with vain, insecure, narcissistic, lustful, jealous, empty souls and i feel all of it from everyone and its just too much to take in. I have to dance to shake it off me. Its very rare i encounter a person im comfortable around. When i do i feel at home and become more extroverted. But im predominantly a hardcore introvert. People stare at me everywhere i go and its so annoying and uncomfortable.

[@LaNoire27]

I totally relate to what you're saying here.

[@Unbotheredisis]

Same thanks for sharing

[@chuachua-hj9zd]

It is like you are an animal in the zoo, with people staring at you

[@alexuscann]

LOVE this video Tim! I was wondering if social anxiety gets easier but I swear I think mine is getting WORSE! Currently I’m manifesting remote work because I’ve reached a point to where I just cannot deal with people 😭 The sad thing is my current job doesn’t even deal with customers. I simply just hate having to interact with coworkers and listen to people talk at the office 😂 I just want to be alone in a forest somewhere 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@TimothyWard]

I feel a remote job is coming your way soon! Good luck!

[@digitalsublime]

It comes from fear of rejection and trust issues, that themselves come from dealing with crappy close ones that broke our trust.

[@robblivion]

Very relatable, I usually hate weddings!

[@AEvans36963]

Growing up quiet and shy and developing social anxiety was torture for me. People have just thought that strange or odd esp because I grew up with a sister and three brothers. I went through a lot of depression. I got tired of people asking me why I'm so quiet. I just say it's just what my temperament is. Over time I've managed to work my way through and decide that it's ok to be who I am. I still have moments of uncertainty but I try not to feel guilty or ashamed. It is what it is. Everybody can't be the life of the party. I'm cool with that. Thank you Tim for posting this video.

[@andymann7762]

Tim, i cannot believe just how well you described this subject. Virtually everything you said described how i have been all of my life. Excellent !

[@JimmyJ1983]

I love being alone i actually make myself laugh allot too, i have lots of mates and family, but i love being alone, eat alone, train alone, 90% of the time love solidarity ❤️ 😊

[@Einzelgänger]

You're not alone, sir. I can relate to many things you've said. Good to see that it doesn't stop you from living your life. If you're interested, I've been reading a book called "How to Be Yourself" by Ellen Hendriksen which deals with (overcoming) social anxiety. I find it quite insightful. Good luck 🤞! Nice channel, by the way!

[@kategarcia12]

Tim! I related to this so much!! I am responsible for a bunch of trainees at my job right now and I come home and burst into tears from the stress of it. Thank you for sharing this, incredible timing! Hope you’re doing well and thanks for the great videos!

[@TimothyWard]

Hang in there Kate! Your current work situation sounds very stressful, I hope it’s only temporary.

[@kategarcia12]

@@TimothyWard thank you!! We are in the process of setting up a new store so I was put in charge of training a lot of the new people! We have a couple more new peeps coming in so hopefully only a couple more weeks of training!

[@riceandbeans2019]

Only creator that I watch every second of each video

[@TimothyWard]

Thank you! 😁

[@rickyc6463]

Thanks for sharing …accepting who you are… and being yourself is all that matters. ❤

[@CampaignShane]

Wow, Time. Thank you. I needed this because I feel the same way. And, I sort of look at you like a big brother so this was a very special one for me.

[@Cakewalkingbaby]

I never knew there were people out there like me… “give me a week to think about it”😂 Tim, we know your struggle and it’s true that a lot of people don’t understand this behaviour. Even though I consider myself to be an adventurous person and am courageous more than others in my surroundings, I still get negative responses because I’m not that easy going socially.

[@Billy-ng4ih]

You summed it up perfectly Tim 👌🏻. Thank you!

[@evanjohns778]

One thing that I've been working through is trying to understand the root cause of my social anxiety (fear of rejection , fear of disappointment, fear of judgement , etc) and asking myself "if the worst case scenario did end up happening , then what?". Would it be the end of the world ? How would I be able to learn from it and move on? You can't really control the outcome of different situations. You just have to find a way to learn with being ok with whatever happens; and most of that learning comes from practice. Taking risks and exposing yourself to rejection, disappointment, judgement , etc. exposing yourself to real experiences that can contradict your irrational fears is a great way to overcome them.

[@lorettaturner9144]

Hi Tim, I can seriously relate to you with social anxiety. Sometimes, I’m ok, other times, I get so nervous and worked up, I actually make my self sick.

[@ksshabazz8350]

This was spot on Brotha. It sums up my experience almost to a T. 20 years sober and have come to the exact same conclusions about dealing with social anxiety and living in spite of it.

[@cynthialester8348]

I have social anxiety too It used to be more of struggle than it is now. . It is easier as I have gotten older because I like to spend a lot of time by myself. I like having friends, but seeing people once or twice a week is enough for me. I don't like parties and sometimes just won't go at this point of my life. It sometimes takes me a day or two of being by myself after to recover from that interaction. I didn't like myself for being like this when I was younger, but I don't think that way anymore. I know I am a sensitive person who has a rich inner life. And being in nature is a balm for me.

[@finaldestination41]

Tim you my man is synonym of Positivity understand never let your damn self down ❤ u r loved 😍

[@darrylsanders6056]

Hi Tim, thank you so much for this. I truly learned a lot. This is what I have to offer…I believe one way that may help is to come to the realization that we are all One! When you engage anyone; you/we are literally engaging yourself/ourself… sure, the package may be strikingly different, but the essence is literally the same. Same energy, same essence! There is no real separation, it is only perceived! Knowing this creates a livable reality of Oneness…❤

[@Unbotheredisis]

I love this

[@Steingassm]

One of the reasons I drank was due to social anxiety. For me a big part of AA is basically social exposure and response therapy. Very hard at first but getting easier.

[@Random-Wanderer232]

Same. 😂❤ I have to really try and remember to have some social skillz for the consideration of others. Sending love ❤😊

[@Unbotheredisis]

Definitely me

[@Starman-xc1hj]

As an introvert, in social settings people always ask me why are you so quiet and shy, why don't you talk more, I think to myself hang on just because I don't talk it doesn't mean I'm shy it just means I have nothing to say at that current time it sometimes hurts how people can just assume that people are shy/weak, it can be sad how people can just judge without thinking about how it can effect others. I like being around people , but only people who aren't so judgemental and understand me. In the end this is how our creator god made some of us. Timothy I can't thank you enough for this video, you are a true motivator my friend God bless you.