What married women would go back and tell themselves when they were single

I posed a question to thousands of married women..."What is ONE sentence you would go back to tell yourself when you were single? Just one!" Here are their answers.

[@miriamtabitha2240]

"Stop looking at every guy as potential soulmate material. It is a waste of your time. When the time comes you are not going to need to be looking so intently and there will be an ease and peace in your mind. Listen to that." Yep, I needed to hear this :D Such a great video 🤗

[@emwilss]

So glad you liked it! Thought that was a great one.

[@byvictoriavalentina]

"I used to be so jealous of anyone dating when I was in high school but now looking back I'm so grateful" CAN I GET AN AMEN.

[@anabellanootebos3732]

Just because others are finding their way, does not mean you are lost. That struck me; it’s so true! Thank you. ❤️

[@emwilss]

You are so welcome!

[@musonda4283]

I feel lost😔

[@Wildmustang21]

I can relate

[@lydiaharrison]

"Follow the peace, not your emotions." That hit deep.

[@kathyalex778]

1:29 "If he's making you feel angry and insane, he's not the one. When you meet your match, he'll bring you a sense of peace". This was my favorite piece of advice and I DEFINITELY could have benefited from hearing it in the past. Thank you for these advice videos, Emily! ❤️❤️

[@jenyferjoy]

So true I wish I heard this before

[@emwilss]

Thanks so much for being here, watching, and for your comment!

[@sarahcaroline9516]

“It’s okay to hope that you won’t be alone forever” 💕💕💕

[@ma.delrosariohidalgo3049]

I'm in a relationship. At the begining I was very anxious and I thought it was God telling me to walk away from him. Later on, I discovered that I didn't know how to communicate my feelings, not only with him but with everyone. I'm working on that now and I'm way happier than I was before🧡 I strongly recommend to learn how to communicate properly

[@ariana8734]

Agreed! I am engaged, and this was key to my relationship as well. Lots of communication and prayer!

[@byvictoriavalentina]

This video just reaffirmed the right choice of breaking up 4 months ago.

[@Innoc3ntk1dd]

"Just because others are finding their way, it doesn't mean you are lost " that was a word for ME!!! 😩 I loved it !!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 Thank you Emily!!💕💕💕

[@BeyondCommittedwithAyanna]

Being clear about your boundaries is so important in both your single season and married season.

[@marilynmalinga9008]

Idk why this was recommended to me but im subbing

[@emwilss]

WELCOME!

[@martianwalker31]

'He's going to find out that you poop sooner or later' lol :D

[@paieusuntasta]

That's what I'm afraid of.

[@valerielinares2068]

"Just because others are finding their way, it doesn't mean you are lost " Just the other day, I was thinking about how my sister has her life together - she's married, has a career, a home with her husband. Has 2 daughters. She is 5 years older than me. And me, at 38? Well, let's just say my life isn't where I think it should be. But then, the Father spoke to me and let me know that even though I may not be where society says I should be, He has me exactly where He wants me for now. In time, He will move me where He wants me to go and having me doing what He wants me to do. But for now, I'm exactly where I should be according to His will, and doing what He wants me to do according to His will.

[@arbretree5463]

Wow, so beautiful! Thanks for sharing ♥️!

[@EvinNazya]

🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@taniabrauninger5492]

This was so special. I felt like I was sitting with a group of incredible women, sharing in their experiences. I appreciate how you positioned this.

[@emwilss]

I'm so glad! Thanks for watching!

[@AutumnRose1397]

Number #8 is what I really needed to hear. There's a guy that's been pursuing me for a few months & some family have been telling me to give him a chance. (I've never had a serious boyfriend) However, I've felt uncomfortable around him from the start. He's made me angry multiple times. Mostly because I've told him that I only see him as a friend and he chooses to ignore that. I know he's not the right one because I have no peace about it at all.

[@entrenchpodhost]

The one about the woman marrying the man after 5 years made me sob. It hit me right where I’m at and praying.

[@angelasindija1907]

As a single woman, I also try to say to myself lot of these things! Enjoying this video. Thanks, Emily! Greetings from Croatia

[@emwilss]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@sarahs7253]

Just be patient and never rush into anything...being single really is better than being with the wrong one. I used to wonder how one could say they married the wrong person. I thought that if it was, then it was meant to be. Well I know now it is possible to marry the wrong person. You don't wanna marry someone who doesn't understand you...or your humor....or appreciate you . It is better to be alone than with the wrong I no one. And so true that if he makes you angry and makes you cry, leave him!! You don't need someone who doesn't care about your feelings. If he doesn't care now, he never will. Don't rush into marriage. If something feels off then don't do it. If God is telling yo u to leave don't hesitate. He can see into the future so just trust him. Marry someone who goes to the church that YOU like to go to. It causes so many problems being with someone with beliefs that don't line up with yours. If you value being active in church together and imagine your family in church together...please make sure you are equally yoked. You don't want to be in an unequally yokes marraige. And don't wait till you find that perfect house. .Dont not buy a house just because you are not married! Owning a home is a great investment! Renting is a waste of money and all of those thousands of dollars you could have put on a home. Sorry so long...you know what they say...hindsight is 20/20.

[@margiehalpern4573]

Wow--that is a GREAT compilation, of so many important ideas. What would I have wanted to go back and tell myself (lots of opportunity to do so, since I didn't marry till the year I turned 50)? Number one: that marriage won't automatically (and magically) fix whatever's ailing you! And number two: yes, good relationships take effort by both parties, but if the prevailing feeling in a relationship is WORK WORK WORK or DRAMA DRAMA DRAMA rather than p-e-a-c-e.....make a u-turn and walk away.

[@emwilss]

I'm so glad you thought so, Margie! Those are great additions.

[@chickenmariah5635]

The car oil for real. Wrecked my engine! Don’t forget about it ladies !!!!!

[@emwilss]

So important!

[@alexandrinedubois769]

So helpful and inspiring even thought i don't a have a boyfriend. Two years ago I would cry and try to find a boyfriend and force dating a dude I don't even like. God shows us the right way and everything happens just on time! Thank you, Emily, so so so much. You are pretty much the only Christian youtuber I watch for years. I always feel some spiritual support and motivation after watching your videos. 🤗

[@stefffie78]

Thank you everyone for sharing! I am a 42-year-old single woman (not by choice), God has given me a great peace about this recently and all of this helped even more!

[@nikolavanderheyden3557]

Can you do a video on what married women would go back and tell themselves when they were engaged?

[@HaleyMary]

I love the advice about how the right guy will bring women a sense of peace. I find it difficult to meet the right guy because so many guys have made me feel uncomfortable in the past or have not been supportive in my art goals. I also find that sometimes I meet guys who are supportive and are nice, but don't have a backbone to stand up and defend me when the situation calls for it, like if I'm being bullied. I'm starting to wonder if there are any good men out there with a backbone left.

[@victorialester1634]

I so relate! It’s often one or the other!

[@forlife84]

My advice (I've been married for 10 years and I have 3 kids): Learn to be intentional about everything that's important to you and your marriage (prayer, finances, how to raise your kids, date nights, exercise, work, education, etc...). It took us 8 years to figure this out. The last two years of our marriage have been the best so far!

[@SaritaBug]

Wish I had seen this when I was younger..... this is a good one.

[@emwilss]

Thanks!

[@teresapuckrin2211]

So many of these struck me. Thank you to the ladies who commented on your post and to you, Emily for sharing the comments!

[@casual720]

Emily, could you do a video on priorities in marriage in terms of relationship? Of course God comes first, then spouse, and then kids; but the ones that come after God can be blurred sometimes. For instance, how do you honor your parents while not involving them in your marriage? I want to know the most godly way to prioritize people in my life, so I can have a stable and faithful marital relationship in the future. Thank you!

[@paieusuntasta]

Omg! I am in a similar situation like nr 51. Five years ago I broke up with the man I love, I felt heartbroken and cofused, and now it seems like God is bringing us together. We learned from the past mistakes and we are willing to let it go and put God on the first place in our relationship.

[@socratesandstorybooks1109]

This made me cry I watched twice. So beautiful:):) So grateful.

[@emwilss]

I'm so glad it inspired you!

[@thebestofmae]

I am definitely taking notes 📝

[@iuliaturcas2238]

I love this video idea! I appreciate the fact that you put all your heart in the messages you share with us and always find new creative ways to express them! Love you and may God bless you for all the hard work you do for His Kingdom!

[@emwilss]

Thank you so much!! That really means a lot to me - you have no idea!

[@MixedAfro]

If you ask God for a sign, and he shows you believe it.

[@emwilss]

A realllllllly good one.

[@natashahartsoch895]

I would love to see another video like this asking married women what advice they'd give to themself when they were engaged/ newly married!

[@emwilss]

It's already in the works! Coming soon!!!

[@danib3645]

Thanks DIVA!

[@OfficialCrystalSings]

I love this video. It gave me comfort.

[@fandoms5ever]

Love this video. So much great wisdom packed in a short time. Would love to see similar vids like this in the future.

[@emwilss]

More to come! They are in the works - thanks for the feedback!!

[@stefanistephen3035]

I learned a lot from this, thank you for sharing!

[@12mountain]

Many quality insights, thanks for sharing!

[@megasurfer32]

the being present with your friends, living alone, the one that your best friends will change and how your man is going to find out you poop are GOLD!

[@isabelayala8711]

Loved this video, thank you so much Emily!!

[@lml426]

Loved this video! 🙂

[@love2loveheart10]

Thank you for sharing this 🥺❤️

[@emwilss]

You are so welcome!

[@Brianna-yh7iy]

Thank you SO much for your channel!!

[@emwilss]

You are so welcome! I am so glad you are here!

[@desharkos2467]

Love love love this! Thank you ":)

[@emwilss]

So glad!

[@jennamorgantini6086]

Love this!!! Especially 8 and 19! Thanks for sharing ❤️

[@isisarroyoflores2259]

LOVEEE THIS! Thank you 🤍

[@emwilss]

You’re welcome 😊

[@Alexandra-bq1so]

Thank you I need that!

[@Brianna-yh7iy]

I learned a lot from this thank you

[@emwilss]

Glad it was helpful!

[@GinnyandEric]

every single piece of advice 🙌

[@emwilss]

Thank you :)

[@dakotadupee2176]

This REALLY spoke to me!! I can relate to what these woman said and I would say the same!

[@tumelonyokong1265]

This was amazing Thank you so muchh❤🌻

[@emwilss]

Glad you liked it!!

[@zipporahfreeman4016]

I LOVE THIS SO MUCH! I needed to hear this. Thank you

[@emwilss]

You are welcome! Thanks for watching!

[@johanna-7817]

Thank you. A. Lot.

[@emwilss]

You are most welcome.

[@rc3088]

Wow...great video

[@emwilss]

Thank you!

[@EmilyEsserman]

I love this, thank you! So much wisdom from our sisters ❤️

[@jenniferesse3145]

Thank you so much Emily! I really loved the video!

[@emwilss]

Glad you liked it!!

[@anna-mariawilliams6476]

Beautiful video. Sending to all my friends🙏

[@emwilss]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@theresafitzpatrick4627]

Wow! Perfect timing!

[@emwilss]

So glad!

[@LawrenonLogos]

Love this ❤️ Thank you for this video, so good. I’m thinking of typing this up as a reminder for me.

[@emwilss]

Go for it!

[@baomie151]

You are my favorite KZbinr.

[@emwilss]

That really means a lot to me, thank you so much.

[@ev_green_]

this is so great

[@mariadejesusrospide3857]

This video broght so much peace, hope and encouragement to my heart. Thank you Emily for this beautiful gift ❤️

[@emwilss]

I'm so glad!

[@ketyn2707]

Thank you Emily!! I love this type of videos where you ask other women what they think because we get a lot of different perspectives!

[@emwilss]

Me too! Looking to add more to the list.

[@carolinavivoni4969]

Loved this. & Emily! You didn’t tell us what you would say to your younger self!

[@BlessedisShe]

love love love 🙏🏽

[@michmarie1]

Love this, thanks!! Tips 58 and 64 were two faves! Many others too, only started tracking at 58 since that 'struck my me right in the heart'! Thanks, Emily!!

[@emwilss]

Hey thank you!!

[@JonathanRodriguez-dk1si]

Hello Emily, I love your video! Many of what you share with the women I also find helpful in my life. Thank you for all that you do and I will continue to support your wonderful ministry.

[@emwilss]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@cristinacavalli97]

Thanks Em for your help with your channel 💓

[@emwilss]

You're so welcome! You are so very loved Cristina!

[@cristinacavalli97]

@@emwilss blessings to you💓

[@alicetopel6645]

This is so valuable!✨so much of what’s talked about & portrayed in the media, is the hype up to & around marriage. I’m sure it’s a wonderful thing for those who’s path it is. The human-ness/humanity shines through. **thank you** for creating this video, especially all those sharing their wisdom & creating a more balanced perspective 🙏✨

[@emwilss]

I really appreciate your comment! Thank you!

[@leilanievangelho5270]

Wow 17 spoke to me!

[@natalieharquail4845]

Look at the way he responds to your texts.

[@weeklyalexa257]

#64 is interesting. I actually never knew that you could learn NFP as a single woman and always assumed that it was only used to plan a family (some nuns even do to monitor their fertility and health).

[@emwilss]

Amazing, huh?

[@BlessedLifeLoveandFaith]

I love this so much. Thank you, Emily! My boyfriend is husband material and would love to get married to him if it's meant to be. He is such a dear loving soul. I completely agree with every single one of these statements, especially with trusting the process of God's plans for us. It will truly work out with having Him in the center of everything we do. May God bless you Emily/your family and love you! 💗💗Be safe too and have a wonderful weekend. (:

[@momimperfect9700]

I love this! I have been married 7 years this year and have 3 kids under 6. Oh how I took alone time for granted! haha.

[@emwilss]

Me. too.

[@gemmaalario5788]

Wow great video! Thanks for sharing! What would your top one be if you could go back and tell your single self?

[@katemasters5195]

Emily, that color looks wonderful on you! Brings out your eyes :) And it's crazy to think that each one of those lines is a pre marriage story. Dang.

[@emwilss]

Thank you :)

[@mackenziebrady8710]

what a great idea for a video. that felt like being surrounded by a bunch of older sisters!

[@johnjohnsten4158]

Very good video Emily. I was never married,l; it just worked out that way. I had decided not to marry for the sake of just being married as some people did. I have a niece who married somewhere around 21 and some years later left her husband because he became abusive. Being abusive to a wife was something one generation taught the other and this had gone for several generations. I was taught that courtship was a lifelong thing. I don't know how this family fell into such a pattern of spouse abuse. We are all in the same faith and it teaches against spouse abuse. Remarriage after a divorce is final is permitted in my faith and my niece tried to find another husband but it never worked out. Two of my brother's other children were slow to marry. One married after many years. The other I think is still single.

[@anna-mariawilliams6476]

#43 wowwwwww💟💟💟💟

[@sinead4587]

13 😭❤

[@aperez18ful]

Question: How do I get started learning about Natural Family Planning as a Single woman? What resources did y'all use? I've checked out youtube videos but they are only informative about different methods they don't actually teach you. Anyone know a good book out there to learn the creighton model?

[@anna-mariawilliams6476]

#60😭 #collegelife

[@emwilss]

Totally.

[@amenamen5204]

Dear Emily what would i do with out you , love you ..God bless you

[@emwilss]

Hey thank you!!!!

[@madelainepetrin1430]

Learn to cook healthy meals, don't sleep too much, don't be lazy or selfish.

[@chicagochicken3676]

you really were meant to do this video

[@paieusuntasta]

I don't agree with nr 50!

[@lights473]

Wait.. women poop?

[@paieusuntasta]

Yes dear, we all do! 😂

[@findingmyhealing57]

u need to work on face expresssion - watch news casters and control your eyes etc.

[@emwilss]

This made me laugh out loud - THANK YOU!!

[@lizgreen5993]

And....stop shoulding yourself!!!!

[@cameronmccormick89]

Do you agree that divorce laws need to change? Outside of religion there is absolutely zero reason for Western men to get married.