What Really Bad Therapy Looks Like: Wednesday - Therapist Reacts!

[@pinkeysherbet7249]

She’s the kind of therapist parents hire to break their “troubled” kids. They’re not paid to actually help bridge gaps or heal trauma in the kids, they’re paid to break their spirit and mold their behavior so the parents are happy. The fact these therapists not only exist but are making bank is terrifying.

[@jovialminer8583]

I had behavioral issues as a kid (4-9) and I was sent to two therapists who were like that to "fix" me. It was already difficult for me to be vulnerable with people, but those experiences made it 100% more difficult and I'm still trying to figure out how to feel comfortable with my negative emotions because I was taught to see them as a problem :/

[@jacqslabz]

My mother didn't need to hire a therapist for that, she was ruthless enough to do it on her own. To 5 children.

[@jorted_julimak]

Just realized that that's the reason I've hated every single one of my therapists

[@astrocytes]

My Mom and the therapist she hired convinced me that my interpretation of situations and tones of voices was biased toward exaggerated hostility. I spent weeks telling myself that my stepdad's 'You're like a toddler,' comments were 'just' my mind overreacting. How convenient for my parents that my perception of everything was incorrect, amIright? 🙄

[@bigsnugga]

you certainly fell victim to one

[@stillmagic714]

Not to mention later on when the therapist sees Wednesday outside of therapy and is like "hello person who's in therapy with me! Let me discuss these other people I'm treating as well!" I was physically startled by how she acted.

[@GeorgiaDow]

That is another point which is so pertinent, confidentiality. Thank you for mentioning this

[@thathorsegirl5088]

When she did that I literally yelled "HIPA" at the screen

[@jsas2047]

I had a therapist like that who openly talked to me about my friends problems (she was also a patient) and the other way around. We openly talked to each other about our problems, the therapist, what he said, etc. so at the time i thought it was fine. She was going to know everything anyways, probably even earlier than him, but deep down it really affected me. I didn't tell him things i should've told him, not because i wasn't ready to tell him, but because i wasn't ready to tell her. He also told me something my mom shared with him while talking alone, it wasn't even something super important but after that i wasn't sure how much he told her about me. Patient confidentiality is super, super important for trust. If you mention even the smallest things about other patients it can mess up the whole therapy and your relationship with your patient. And future therapy too, i don't know if I'll ever have the same amount of trust as i had with that therapist, before my friend became a patient, again. I definitely don't have it with my new therapist even though she's great.

[@stillmagic714]

@@jsas2047 at least where I live, that's HELLA illegal. I'm so sorry that happened to you. And you're right, confidentiality is so important. I hope you can someday get to a place and are with someone where you can really trust them.

[@maem7462]

With that scene I was like wait a minute therapist aren’t supposed to do this. I mostly only knew that bc I had heard from other ppl abt their therapist saying how the therapist wouldn’t come up to the patient in a public place but if the patient wanted to talk to the therapist then she would talk and have a conversation

[@Stardweller1]

You’d think the therapist would’ve recognized that Wednesday saw this as confrontational and realized that her best bet was to try and dispel that.

[@GeorgiaDow]

yes that would have been a good course of action

[@stephsoohall6841]

@@GeorgiaDow yeah body language is key and dare I say it attitude is key. Am I wrong? Not sure if so well in a therapy session cuz I have asd and I often misread social cues and etc and can be exhausting.

[@stephsoohall6841]

@@GeorgiaDow I know when she says,” we’re not done yet,” made me uncomfortable.

[@SerenityM16]

The problem is, the writers have no idea what that looks like or want the therapist to be confrontational so we’re not upset at Wensday’s decision to escape

[@Jesses001]

@@SerenityM16 There are therapists like that though. My wife had a bad experience on her first attempt at therapy. She literally ran away and now refuses to even consider therapy. That therapist was able to do a lot of damage in 15 minutes they talked.

[@TenebrousFilms]

Not directly related, but after watching the first minute: when I was little, my mother transferred me from public school to private, and I had no idea until she was dressing me in the uniform. I'd never again see the friends I'd just made, never got to explain or say goodbye. Having no warning or choice in the matter had a lasting impact that I didn't even recognise for years.

[@GeorgiaDow]

that is really hard I am sorry you didnt get a chance to say goodbye

[@Prophetofthe8thLegion]

@@GeorgiaDow Not sure if you do second parts to character therapy breakdowns but I think it would be interesting if you make a video going into Wednesdays interest in pain and as hinted in the beginning of the show self harm.

[@apokalupsis116]

I had a similar experience when my grandfather passed when I was in 2nd grade. I didn't learn whose funeral we were going to until I was getting dressed for it

[@anaiyahluther]

@@apokalupsis116 that literally sounds like a nightmare I'd have. Sorry that your parents didn't find a way to explain what was going on to you

[@redpanda_009]

I also had a similar experience but my family moved half way across the world 😅.

[@e_knees8816]

I was “smart” enough as a child to lie to my therapist instead of tell the truth. I told them something in great confidence, but then my parents mentioned it elsewhere. They couldn’t possibly have known so the therapist had broken my trust. I knew it worked since my parents tried to help me with things that didn’t actually bother me, which was an annoyance in and of itself. People think children are dumber than they actually are. If you allow them, they can manipulate you better than any adult can.

[@seraphywang4638]

This. People often underestimate how smart children really are. Especially children who gain “self-awareness” for a lack of a better term of how their actions and words effect everyone around them. Betrayal for these types of kids is really hard to gain trust back. It really messes them up. As one of those kids, even if my life was relatively normal, I developed severe trust issues because of what happens over a decade ago.

[@Ezzy1331_]

Kids learn from experience since it’s literally how they first learn the world, that’s why they can be as smart as this

[@risw.3821]

I did this too but it was because I over heard from her telling my parents that it was basically a counselor policy, I’ll tell you anything I think is worrying was her words. Not to mention our family therapy sessions turned into my dad telling my mom and I that it was all our faults, he’s done nothing, he’s never at fault. It also turned into basically couples therapy + me.

[@Irina-zj3sd]

When I was a child I was the master of manipulation 😈

[@knoahbody69]

@@Irina-zj3sd And now?

[@haldon12]

The way the therapist confronted Wednesday with her own writing was so uncomfortable. It felt like she was using some of the themes to justify opinions she had already formed about Wednesday, which is a reaction I fear from my own interactions with therapists. I liked that Wednesday felt strong enough to walk away from the conversation, rather than try to justify those choices in her work. It seems to speak to a lot of self-confidence.

[@bethbayless5652]

Wednesday is extremely self confident. Writing is also a way to explore one's emotions.

[@Akuliszi]

It feelt so wrong. Why did they let the therapist read any of Wednesday's unpublished writings without her agreement? I understand that they told her "Wednesday is writing a book", but actually letting her read it? It would be much better, if the therapist asked, if she can read the books.

[@annoyingfandragon]

Yeah I felt the same way. I’m super uncomfortable about people looking through my art and writing without permission cuz some of it is really personal.

[@bethbayless5652]

@@annoyingfandragon yes. 💯

[@ketokeko]

@@Akuliszi fr, my ex therapist would ask my mom to send her pictures of my private sketchbook without my knowledge or consent, i felt so betrayed. my sketchbook is something that i don't let anyone touch because it's filled with my private vents and everything, and here she was telling my mom to send her pics of some drawings in it. absolutely disgusting coming from a therapist

[@Delluvian]

When I saw this scene, the therapist just rubbed me the wrong way. Somehow, she didn't hit me as someone I'd be comfortable with if it had been me who sat in Wednesday's seat. I'm glad to see it wasn't just me. :)

[@GeorgiaDow]

I did feel the same way = ) at first I was thinking it was going well and then quickly it was confrontational

[@lordorion5776]

i think that unsettling feeling was deliberate because the director wanted us to sus the therapist

[@gaf407]

I think they were going for a very specific vibe with her… The Hey Arnold episode “Helga on the Couch” still remains my gold standard for fictional mental health practitioners.

[@bethbayless5652]

The therapist seemed to me like she was pushing Wednesday with the first question.

[@ReptilianTeaDrinker]

Yeah, I wouldn't want to have someone as judgemental as the one in this show as my therapist... I've had quite a few therapists and social workers in my life... Thankfully, none were like her at least. Though, they weren't the greatest either and had hurt my trust quite a bit and made it harder to open up quite a bit, so my feelings on therapists isn't exactly positive in the first place.

[@Animuse94]

As a trainee therapist this scene was so interesting yet so uncomfortable. The therapist was so confrontational to Wednesday and didn't show empathy or non-judgement and unconditional positive regard. Maybe it was because they wanted to set up something in the series (I'm trying to keep this spoiler free) but 100% this is not a representation of what a proper therapy session looks like. Thank you for pointing these things. It was very illuminating

[@GeorgiaDow]

I hope you will have a lot of success in your career. Happy you enjoyed the video = )

[@Animuse94]

@@GeorgiaDow thank you so much 💖

[@AxolotlQueen]

it was definitely to set up the story. because if she had made Wednesday comfortable then she wouldn't have gone out the window and met that one guy and do that one thing to that group of guys and then see that one guy in that thing she has and the principal wouldn't know about that one thing she has. if you catch my drift.

[@U.R.coolkid]

She reminded me of my old therapist, my first one i can remember. I chose to go to therapy cuz i heard it could help then the one i got made me feel off and bad about myself lol, so now i don't feel comfortable talking to any more of them

[@swish3432]

@@josephinehendrick1533 the show is about the plot, not realistically depicting therapy sessions. it's a netflix show written for teenagers, don't take it so seriously

[@laurad7228]

As a writer it would terrify me if someone had send the (pretty dark) horror novel me and my friend wrote to my therapist. That's just something you don't do. And because of how personal writing sometimes is, it's a huge sign of trust if writers share their work with you. By just reading trough it uninvited you break that trust.

[@witchqueen1296]

I agree with you. Writing is sometimes personal and sharing bits of my writing is anxiety-inducing.

[@WorldTree33]

Exactly! My best friend and I wrote an extremely twisted romance novel and to this day I’m reluctant to actually talk about it or finish writing it cuz it’s makes me feel judged and crazy.

[@LilyUnicorn]

Wednesday attempted to get these published. I very much doubt she cared about privacy. I think it had more to do with the therapist forcing it to be some sort of inner wednesday.

[@margaritamikalauskaite9875]

I totally agree, it took me a lot of courage to even tell my closet friend that I write and even more before I could send her my best poem

[@beccabeckie6954]

You absolutely read my mind, I’ve always seen my writing as something I share or write with someone I really trust, I would have a nervous breakdown if someone read my writing without my permission or trust to look at

[@trazgalb]

Also, fun fact: Wednesday only blinks a few times in the entire show and this is one of the scenes where she does. You see when the therapist starts talking about her books that she isn't ready for this and she's caught off guard and blinks and opens her mouth, I just thought that was really interesting

[@littlemixsaidhi202]

I just saw it too! It's at 13:32

[@featheredmask924]

@@littlemixsaidhi202 13:29 more accurate

[@sarah6775]

Yeah she blinked like 5 times she wasn’t ready to talk about it

[@trinaq]

Jenna really slayed her role as Wednesday, she shone in all of her scenes. While I grew up with Christina's Wednesday more, Jenna showed that her star is surely on the rise. 🌟

[@Xehanort10]

She was great in Scream 5.

[@OnwardToMail]

I totally agree, usually when I watch a tv show or movie, I know I'm just watching an actor in a role but Jenna was so convincing to me she ceased to be Jenna the actor and became Wednesday.

[@alendonvaldor5808]

Was also awesome that Christina was in the show

[@arisenspirit]

Shined*

[@RiverHope]

@@arisenspirit shone is correct too

[@gaf407]

The decor of her office felt very “tell us you liked ‘Eat Pray Love’ without telling us you liked ‘Eat Pray Love’”… they were clearly going for this privileged, corporate-mindfulness persona for her character. Personally, I think they nailed her character.

[@GeorgiaDow]

oh my goodness yes ! so much so hahaha

[@dinosaysrawr]

BINGO! Nailed it. Lots of people who see or even, pride themselves on existing on the fringe of society would find that environment dishonest and hostile off the bat.

[@TheLastSane1]

@@dinosaysrawr To me it felt Sterile. To neat to tidy, yes its a work space but it still feels hostile to life.

[@dinosaysrawr]

@@TheLastSane1 , agreed!

[@basicwirdo736]

YES! Absolutely agree! The whole office screams “I’m think I’m above you” And i also think they nailed the character

[@RonnieRancid]

One time I went to a therapist who started assuming that my writing was something psycological. It was actually really frustrating, because the writing had nothing to do with my issues, and was more of a fun escape. Please, to all the therapists, if you ask about somebodies interests and start talking about it- Don't assume and make leaps from the story or art to the persons issues. ASK them about their inspiration, insisting to delve into art and writing is bad if the person doesn't want to, or believes it has nothing to do with why they're there.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thank you for this

[@peeblekitty5780]

Same here! I think if someone along the likes of the therapist in Wednesday were to read/view all the stuff I've written/drawn and kept to myself (perish the thought) they'd get very much the wrong idea. I project and vent occasionally but the vast majority of my dark art and writing is just having fun exploring dark themes, character psychology, practicing drama, or just chasing whumperflies. It's been interesting and exciting to me, has been since I was like nine, no projection needed.

[@memecat9830]

I sometimes write dark fanfics for fun or to vent my stress (how dark it gets determines my stress level)

[@MeemahSN]

Separate art from artist

[@dianagoenaga7263]

Honestly, I love seeing the different takes on this subject. Therapy is something that can completely change one's life for the better. But how it is approached and the ability of the therapist itself are equally as important. If done incorrectly, it could completely mess up the person.

[@GergelyGyurics]

I just wish if the show commented on whether they were intentional about dr. Kinbott doing powerplays and being slightly judgemental. If they wanted to portray a bad therapy session, then kudos to them, they made it work. But the show is rated 12+. Many of the viewers will get their first impression of therapy from this very show. They should be told that therapy isn't supposed to look like that, and that they can actually trust in mental health professionals to help them in times of need.

[@TheOmegaCloud]

"If done incorrectly, it could completely mess up the person." Or also do nothing, I heard of cases where therapy did jack shit for the patient.

[@hellfrozenphoenix13]

@@TheOmegaCloud true. But often, a session that doesnt improve anything for the person makes them subconsciously develop a view of therapy as "a waste of time" and maybe even "therapy doesnt work for me, im too broken". These thoughts can mature and evolve into much more extreme opinions and emotions, such as "therapists are just conartists" or "im just too useless" which is what a meh therapy session can enable.

[@TheOmegaCloud]

@@hellfrozenphoenix13 Agreed, and also it doesn't help that in therapy, like in all professions, there's a lot of con artists waiting for their next victim.

[@minteabee]

@@hellfrozenphoenix13 exactly. that's what happened to me, after 8 years, I lost my trust in therapy and thoughts like that do come up... I still want nothing more than to get better.

[@crazygamer_1082]

I will never forget when I was forced to go to a psychiatrist when I was in fourth grade because I was having hormonal outbursts/depressions. The principal called me crazy and told my mother I was insane and needed serious help. And my mom then forced me once a week to go see this woman. Who quickly after one session told my mother said that I was in fact: not insane. But because I was going through early puberty while I was still growing that everything I was doing was normal and not “in her jurisdiction”. She made a point to say I didn’t even need those sessions because I would grow out of it sooner rather than later. My mom got mad and we never went there again because she didn’t like what the therapist had said to her. 😅 I quite liked her though and always wanted to go back to her. Never did though, the next therapist I had literally did all the things you said not to do in this video. I’ll never forget when I told her about my trauma as a young child and her response was, “But it sounds like your fault though.” I never hated someone more than I did in that moment I’m not gonna lie. Every session after that I literally sat there and only answered her questions with, “I’m not going to answer that question” She honestly looked ready to pop a blood vessel 😂 My parents didn’t like her either because she constantly forced them to sit in sessions and answer questions about themselves and how they felt about me. While she constantly diminished everything I said to make my parents answers invalidate my feelings. It was the worst experience of my life

[@lordorion5776]

my mother went through therapy she asked, for basically to validate her opinions in regards to the family relationship (she wanted what she wanted and she wanted to validate that). so after a few sessions my mother dragged us all one by one into sessions with her and the therapist, the therapist quickly found out who the problem was and my mom found other therapists. i'm sorry you had to go through this i hope things have improved sense.

[@Pidalin]

The worst thing is when they send you to terapists because of family problems, but who need terapy are your parents, not you, I totaly hated this.

[@Fireinthedarkness666]

@@shay5479 Narcissists flock to the profession. It allows them a massive amount of power to manipulate people and feed their own ego. Not much can be done about it with the current system either.

[@anlumo1]

From your description, it's pretty obvious which of the two therapists got more money out of the situation. It's very unfortunate.

[@thelastwish558]

I'm sorry you had to go through that

[@Kay_Dabbles]

Honestly, I was horrified when I heard the therapist tell Wednesday that she's read all of her books and manuscripts. I used to write stories a lot, as well as keep a diary, especially as a teenager, so that I could word-vomit across the pages. None of my family was ever allowed near my diaries and notebooks with my tales, and they all respected that. Even when I wrote next to them on the couch, they'd leave me alone, and not sneak a peak. To imagine someone reading those tales without express permission, would be a personal nightmare. Goodness, I remember sometimes only allowing myself to voice some of my thoughts to those pages, because no one would ever know, so I could finally let go of those imaginings and memories. If a therapist ever did that (worse, if they had access to those writings from my family) I would probably leave, and if I was not allowed to, silently ignore that person for the rest of my sessions. The entire first scene between the therapist and Wednesday was just menacing as hell. Like being stripped down naked and having every sore spot turned into a weapon to be used against you - how could one ever be okay with that? I'm glad Wednesday removed herself from the situation, to me that seemed like the only viable strategy: to get the hell out of there.

[@eilatanggoh693]

When I was in school one of my teachers confiscated my diary, (I wasn't even in class) and then a week later I was pulled out of class and told off by my head of year for the content of the diary, she even called my parents about it and read it to them. It was awful, I still remember it vividly over a decade later. I never kept a dairy, or did any non school required creative writing again

[@Kay_Dabbles]

@@eilatanggoh693 I don't know what to say, I'm that appalled by what your teacher did. I'm sorry that happened to you.

[@mymelosiwoo]

i’m too scared to even write them down so i feel you lol

[@emilytse5125]

As an individuals who is obsessed with writing narratives and being overly creative, this is most certainly my worst nightmare.

[@Enaronia]

To be fair, these were books that she had tried to have published. Having them weaponized is obviously not okay, but it's not the same thing as stealing her journals.

[@eloylie]

After my therapist being way worse than her I thought "If I might share, I will get her to be nicer to me" It backfired. I started a session by saying "I feel bad my friends don't want to invite me to things" And she replied (relatively unprovoked) with: "I can absolutely tell why and it's obvious you will never be invited." And later this session she was the one to bring it back up again, saying "See? This is why no one wants to invite you to the cinema." .... If anyone talks to me like this? I will not want to share.

[@ketokeko]

...Who gave that woman a degree to be a therapist, wow.

[@SambusaTastesGood]

Holy that is terrifying im so sorry ☹️

[@Sockywocker]

@@ketokeko Its so scary how theres alot of therapist stories like this, how did they even pass? it really makes me wonder what the tests are like that people like THESE can get a degree and pass

[@kpoppy9635]

Lol... was Wednesday your therapist? On a serious note, that's horrible. I don't get why people without empathy become therapists.

[@tranminhchau4613]

Exactly.

[@riverstyx7251]

The second they showed everyone including the therapist going on about how horrible she is for defending her brother was when I was planted firmly on Wednesday’s side. This therapist isn’t intent on helping her, she’s intent on forcing her to change in ways she’s not comfortable with. She’s a glaring representation of the world that’s screaming “why can’t you just be normal??” I love that Wednesday cares so much about family that she will go to great lengths to protect them. I love that Wednesday cares so much about keeping people safe that she shoulders a murder investigation. She’s fearless, confident, strong and caring, all traits the therapist completely missed because she didn’t bother to get to know her.

[@shotaroseyespark8210]

I was forced into going into therapy by my mom. I was woken up one day by my mom saying “get dressed we’re going somewhere” and while already in the car she told me we are going to a CHRISTIAN religious therapist…. I have severe religious trauma from growing up Christian and being told that being LGBTQ+ is going to send me to hell. I went there not wanting to open up at all but I told the therapist my situation and I even told her I had religious trauma. After that she went on the give me BIBLE VERSES 😕 it was truly the most belittling thing I have ever gone through. Not only was I forced to go into a place I wasn’t comfortable in, but afterwards when I told my mom I didn’t want to go back, she was mad at ME… for not wanting to be tricked and go through more trauma. My mom full on yelled at me for being ungrateful and was mad that she payed $60 for that session which she didn’t even ask how I felt about it.

[@lucienfortner841]

That should be illegal.

[@atroposV]

Religious... therapy??? Odd. I feel bad for you, people don't deserve religious trauma

[@creamcat69]

Religious therapy?? Tf??

[@offsewingdragons9142]

A therapist with a Christian world view. As a Christian myself i go to a religious therapist, but she’s not-like-that😅

[@Kanjimi]

I remember having to see a therapist as a kid because my father made mine and my moms life a living hell. He was the scariest man I knew, I would often be dragged away from my mother to visit him on the weekends because of custody things. It was a really horrible time so I had to visit therapy when I was around 8-10, I cant really remember. Anyway instead of helping me, the therapist started to pressure me into "forgiving" my father, asking why I don't want to see him anymore and that I should continue visiting him because "every father loves his kids" DESPITE knowing what happened to me. needless to say my mom got me out of therapy really quickly when I told her everything

[@emiliereal104]

That’s horrible! I’m so glad your mom got you out of there! It sounds awful

[@CrystalRose1111]

I swear some people (therapists) just don’t get it, and shouldn’t be doing that job. Like what.

[@ketokeko]

terribly disgusting, i hope you heal properly

[@eeemak9128]

Are we twins? Also, I’m so sorry that happened to you.

[@i_am_person52]

I can't understand why topical, informative, and interesting content like this isn't more popular. The effort you seem to put into the cosplays is just icing on the cake!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Wow, thank you! I am hoping it will become more popular in time. = ) appreciate it

[@auralynn3862]

@@GeorgiaDow Ditto on hoping it catches on more. Content like this is extremely helpful on so many levels. Your video on oppositional defiance helped me realize why I keep getting into the fights I do and can't back out (short version: backing down is either too physically painful or too soul-sucking to manage). Not sure I'll ever be able to disarm it internally with all the components involved, but that doesn't mean I won't find some way to navigate it.

[@lilpsyche6971]

It was in my recommended so it's happening! It's spreading! The knowledge is spreading!! :D

[@itswallythoxo]

@@lilpsyche6971 was in my recommended too but I watch other therapist-y stuff too so 😅

[@samanthawycoff855]

As someone who is in therapy, having a therapist who doesn't assume they know what's going on inside my head is huge. I'm a pretty open person, but I sometimes have trouble expressing my feelings in words. It takes time for me to figure out how to describe my emotional state, especially if the emotions are complex. Having someone come right out the gate saying that they think something is wrong with me because of what someone else told them would be one of the quickest ways to get me to completely shut down.

[@GeorgiaDow]

yes and allowing someone the space to think is important, though on a show I guess they want them to get right to it

[@reeeyou]

I actually liked that they showed this therapist. I’ve had similar experiences with other therapists, and not all therapists are that helpful. I think it’s important to note that different therapists seem to have different approaches, and i feel that you need to find the one therapist who makes you feel safer to work on yourself.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Very well said

[@Maw0]

@@GeorgiaDow Hello!

[@oo8962]

So basically waste money on a bunch of different therapists that probably won't work for me? No thanks. I don't have the money for that

[@reeeyou]

@@oo8962 which is why there should be more support for mental health and it should be treated just like physical illnesses. Say you are in physical pain, and the doctor prescribes you with medication, but it doesnt help and you keep going back to the same doctor who just cant seem to find the cause for it. Do you just live with it or find another practitioner for a second opinion? Most of the times a second or third opinion is extremely useful to diagnose and treat the cause of the illness, because the first doctor could have a bias or has tunnel visioned to your illness or blind sided by probable unrelated but potential causes.

[@reeeyou]

@@oo8962 but of course, i’m speaking from a position of privileged. My country does subsidize on mental healthcare for citizens, and that has helped tremendously in people seeking help for it over the years. It’s not that much and more can be done to help it being more accessible to others.

[@GergelyGyurics]

So... Small spoiler to those who didn't finish the show. I really hoped that dr. Kinbott turns out to be a competent therapist, reaches her and that we can see a moment of genuine vulnerability from Wednesday. I think the showrunners might have had been afraid that an effective therapy might push Wednesday to be kinder or just more "normie", taking away her edge and her identity as this dark force of nature. But I think this is a missed chance. Dr. Kinbott could have helped Wednesday face her actual problems. Like her fear of being in the shadow of Morticia. Or the struggle to find her own way and define herself as something else than her parents' child. Wednesday could have had become a better version of herself - in the way she defines better. More dark and witty, more creative, more independent from her mother, even standing up more openly for her values. And this could have showcased that the therapy was not for the therapist or the court, but for Wednesday herself. And the "therapist can help you even if you are a dark rebel" message could have helped all those teenagers out there watching the show to find courage to seek help from mental health professionals if and when they need it. Showing her vulnerable side would have made Wednesday more relatable and more interesting too. (To be honest, while Jenna Ortega did a terrific job with her portrayal of Wednesday, I found Enid much more interesting because we can see her genuine vulnerable self and her strugles.)

[@sleepy.timaeus.arts.]

i was really hoping for them to have a breakthrough :/ the choices of the show were disappointing. i dont think im really satisfied with any parts of the story. the only thing i liked was jenna’s acting. and thing lol. i really wanted to like the show but it just fell flat for me

[@VengefulPurity]

Agreed, wholeheartedly!

[@gt3420]

This is what I want for season 2 so bad. The mask has to break a little bit more and I know that kinda pushes the boundaries on Burton’s aesthetics because it would make her more relatable to “normies” but I feel like it would be honest character progression.

[@ashleymartin8093]

I don't think Wednesday opening up to the therapist would have worked for her character, imo. With the way the first therapy session went, it makes sense that Wednesday wouldn't trust or feel comfortable opening up to her at all. The therapist broke her trust before they even met. If a stranger read my writing without being given permission first, I would always be uncomfortable around them. On the other hand, I think we saw plenty of small, vulnerable moments in how Wednesday reacted around her friends. She clearly shows she cares about Eugene and Enid even if she's still really reserved. For example, when Wednesday and Enid are talking on their balcony and Enid is upset. Wednesday opens up and tells Enid about the last time she cried. And then, at the end of the season, she hugs Enid even though up until that point, she would step beck every time Enid tried. I feel like having Wednesday open up to the therapist would be out of character, especially since she's learning to work through her emotions much better through her interactions with people she's beginning to care for :) Edited to add: although Wednesday is very deadpan, I feel like Jenna still did a great job at showing how Wednesday is feeling through very small expression with her eyes. I felt like Wednesday was opening up and being more vulnerable throughout the series even if it wasn't to the therapist. She even did have a small vulnerable moment with Morticia when asked about her visions :)

[@cinthiagoch]

​@@ashleymartin8093 I noticed those subtle vulnerable moments too. One scene that even earned a chef's kiss from me was her interaction with her brother by the river. He doesn't expect her to be kind to him because of the way they've been treating each other over the years, and you see that Wednesday really holds back in that moment. She was actually getting use to people expecting some form of caring from her when they are upset that it was becoming part if her instincts to let slip/fake some concern. But her relationship with her brother doesn't look like that, they have a different understanding between them. She than shows she cares for her family not directly at Pugsley, but by stating how awful their parents would feel if either went to jail, and she even demands strength from Pugsley at that moment - not because she is usually cruel to him to the point of not acknowledging his suffering, but because she knows he can take it while dealing with his own suffering on his own terms. That's how he's probably always been - just like she had always been her own dark self, and she respects that. I don't know if I just had a really bad and awkward upbringing with my siblings, but I found that scene very heartwarming.

[@mossdarragh]

with my last therapist i expressed to her that life felt like a set of three rings: the inner rings being the comfort zone, the middle ring being the learning zone, and the outer ring being the panic zone. i wasn't sure how else to describe this feeling. you stay in your comfort zone most of the time but if you branch out a little into the learning zone you can, as stated, learn and grow, but if you go too far into that learning zone, that middle ring, you can end up in the panic zone and everything you just tried to learn will be negated. she told me she loved the way i started that, and that she'd use that to help people down the line. anyway, it was really nice hearing basically the same thing come from someone who knows more about what they're talking about than i do ! this video was a treat. there were so many things about wednesday's therapist that rubbed me the wrong way, and even had me feeling trapped.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Impressive you found those things on your own you must be very introspective. I am happy you enjoyed the video and rebooking at this scene. Lets enjoy our grow zones = )

[@serinad9434]

What a great way to frame that idea, I'm definitely going to remember that, thank you!

[@YoNebby]

It feels like my learning ring is constantly changing how large it is

[@MissSirenita]

I love how the Therapist at one point becomes a suspect because of course she does. Wednesday sees that she can’t trust her through her own eyes. She doesn’t trust anybody. And when even Enid leaves her, she sees it as proof that she’s meant to be alone. Of course Enid comes back and I’m glad she and Xavier is patient with her. To them, Wednesday is misunderstood but still deserving of love. I also love that they do get frustrated because it can be very frustrating to find someone that just won’t open up or show any emotions of caring. That’s why I love the hug she and Enid get in the end. Enid really cares for Wednesday and I love love love that.

[@corasu]

This actually fits so well with me, as recently school tracked my search history and found me searching up suicide and self harm because of a test i failed. I got called to me guidance office shortly after. Instead of support I was basically interrogated for 80 minutes. Either i was forced to spill out things i didnt want to say or they would try to track it down on their computer (by tracking my grades, asking teachers, etc.) it felt dehumanizing, as if they werent doing it for my own well being but to prevent another student associated with them from committing suicide. I’ve been searching these things up for years, and they didnt care. Why now? Even worse, they called my parents who dont believe in therapy. I got betated and guilt tripped after they were told

[@GeorgiaDow]

How are things now ?

[@kittenmimi5326]

Wait that's like super illegal though-

[@JonduGaming]

I was beyond nervous when my parents asked me about therapy. However, they didn't ask if I wanted to, but if I thought it would help. It really made me think harder on the possibility, because the question wasn't about me being comfortable with the idea, but if I thought the end would justify those uncomfortable feelings. And it really did help. I don't need it any longer and I am much better because of it.

[@GeorgiaDow]

what a wonderful way your parents asked you about it and so respectful as well. Good parenting = ) I am happy it helped you

[@infinityc2859]

I had pretty much the same experience therapy did help but it ended up stressing me out like crazy (not because the therapist was bad, tho she went a little faster than I anticipated because my mom said she was slow to the heavy stuff) and I'm glad I don't need it anymore, but it did help a lot.

[@JonduGaming]

@@infinityc2859 I'm glad it helped in the end!

[@TheResterian]

As soon as Kinbott started speaking to Wednesday outside of their sessions I was shocked, because my own therapist said from Session 1 that unless I approached them first they wouldn't even acknowledge me in a public place. The very fact I was seeing a therapist at all was something confidential and I had full control over who knew and who didn't. So it was baffling to me that Kinbott would openly speak to Wednesday out in the street, who for all she knew, didn't want her peers to know.

[@d3vilw33bgamerpants6]

Last therapist I went to, actually all of them, seemed to care more about getting paid than actually helping. I mentioned that I'd been diagnosed with ADHD as a child and they laughed at me and accused me of being a stoner. I mentioned that my parents religious beliefs was stressing me out, the f***ing therapist said to "pray more." Pretty sure that's not even professionally allowed. There's a reason I've been so weary about going back.

[@redgent7058]

They don't care. It's like you say. They just want their paycheck. They'll try to force their beliefs on you and completely disregard professionalism.

[@lucienfortner841]

I hear there's been an increase in therapists no longer accepting insurance. They really can't claim to care if they're actively blocking lower income people from accessing their services. And I hope you reported those jerks. They shouldn't be allowed to practice.

[@rachelh9071]

@Lucien Fortner yea...no, there is more money in not taking insurance. One reason they don't have to take insurance is because they don't have to there isnt a lot of them around accepting new patients in a timely manner, and people will pay a great deal of money to get their Rx filled. It is so much easier not accept insurance to, and they most likely get paid more without. Psychiatrists (the ones that work with meds) are in such a short supply some visits are $100+ but they have openings so they can get that. Self pay patients require less back end paperwork so less support staff is needed too, that ups the profits. Plus just because they are sending a 100 charge to insurance, the insurance company may only allow $45 to be paid out. That $45 is reduced if the patient has a copay so if the patient is paying $25 per visit insurance will only be paying $20. Insurance companies also randomly deny claims to see if they can get away with not paying it because the cost of labor to get it fixed is more expensive than writing it off.

[@lucienfortner841]

@@rachelh9071 You're literally proving our point here. Therapists refusing insurance to in order to maximize profits are actively harming the communities they're meant to be serving. Mental health care should never be treated as a luxury for the rich.

[@CrystalRose1111]

@@lucienfortner841 This

[@Kai-uo6gr]

That therapist is actually better than the one I had when I was 16. She was supposed to be a therapist to help with anxiety but she actually made it worse, firstly, the therapy sessions would be with my mum, someone I don't want to open up to about some things, after a couple weeks she said she would try to have a private session with me, which made me excited to finally be able to have a session where I could open up. One day I ended up crying during a session, and the day after that my mum told me she got a voice message from my therapist talking about the session and what happened and how I cried and basically telling her how she thought I had a hard time showing my emotions, which just made me lose all trust I had in her. When I confronted her about it the next day she told me that my mum had the right to know because she was paying for the sessions, I ended up yelling at her (which is something I rarely ever do), she defended herself saying she didn't out me as trans, and that she could tell my mum about me yelling at her or how I was trans if she wanted to but she didn't because she was a good person Also she did end up accidentally outing me to my mum, which ended with my mum giving me a transphobic lecture.

[@comradewindowsill4253]

that 'defense' feels more like a veiled threat. jesus, what a piece of work

[@mintleafidk477]

Im pretty sure her telling ur mother is illegal, and could've gotten her fired. I'm sorry u had to deal with that :(

[@emmacurzon4672]

When I watched this I guess I felt like there was something a bit 'off' with the therapist, but I'd never considered even a tenth of the stuff you brought up... it's so interesting, hopefully it will help people know what red flags to look out for in their own therapy too!

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thanks I am happy that you found it gave it feom another angle

[@ameliedavis5940]

Besides the stuff in the video, I think they put contacts in her eyes to make her pupils much bigger than they should be, and directed the actress to widen her eyes. It makes her look like a predator.

[@WinterCalmorium]

I like the way the cinematography was done for these scenes also. The heavy, slightly distorted close-ups help portray a claustrophobic ambiance, allowing the viewer to feel a little bit of that uneasiness/discomfort Wednesday is going through as she deals with the situation at hand. I think that was a interesting thing for the directors to do and it certainly achieved the intended effect! At least for me it did :)

[@honinakecheta601]

I've never had therapy one on one but as a kid in grade school through middle school I was in group therapy for "problem kids" and I am so grateful our therapist was nothing like that woman. The therapist in the show was the exact kind of authority figure I couldn't stand. As an adult, I still can't stand people like this. They are often hypocrites themselves

[@banananutmuffins3818]

I was so mad that she read Wednesday's books without her permission. It felt like she was weaponizing it against her even if her goal was to help Wednesday

[@TuberoseKisser]

I went to therapy once and hated it. I have trust issues and to throw a person suddenly into a trust based situation did nothing but make my anxiety worse. The therapist was pushing Wednesday hard and trying to say "You feel this way because X" before even letting Wednesday speak for herself or open up at her own pace I also wanna say that punishing someone for defending a person is just setting them up for disaster. Was violence okay? No but in Wednesday's mind she was protecting her brother.

[@robobird4345]

I've switched therapists a couple times already, and these scenes in the series reminded me a lot of my two first ones: starting of as if I was supposed to completely trust them just because they were therapists, pushing constantly for answers I wasn't willing to give, telling me to express myself in ways I wasn't comfortable doing, completely disregarding what I wanted help with just to try and "fix" things I'd never had a problem with. Sessions with both of them were terrible to the point I would rather live with severe anxiety than continue the therapy. And then I met my current therapist and pretty much my favourite person in the world. She helped me to understand that therapy was actually about me changing for myself and not to fit into whatever other people thought I should be. And most importantly: she showed me I'm not obligated to show anyone a part of myself I'm not ready for people to see, even in therapy. Sometimes I wish everyone had someone like you and my therapist, people like that can really change someone's direction in life.

[@rumle5]

This one hit a little close to home since I was given a few therapists and counselors to talk to when I was younger. I still don't know why. The one that sticks out the most in my head is one of the first ones that visited me. I didn't even know she was coming and my mom, who herself was against the idea of a counselor, couldn't do anything about it due to it being a state-sent thing. There was one part that really rankled me. She kept asking me why I thought a certain thing was and kept pressing me on it even though I said that I couldn't explain it. Some weeks later and I was diagnosed with Autism. Everyone that knew me was both shocked and skeptical about it. Some years later and more talks with people they decided that the counselor who said that was an idiot and struck it from my records. But for a few years there stood in my official documents that I was Autistic even though I obviously wasn't, or if I was not to a degree that is noticeable or extreme. All because of one bad therapist who thought they knew me better than I knew myself. Ever since I've had an instinctive distrust of any therapists and councelors I've talked with, though it is offset by being around those that actually care and know what they're talking about.

[@GeorgiaDow]

I hope some of the therapists were helpful

[@violetsanddragons]

I know someone who's ex wife paid a therapist to tell him he was autistic and that was why he was so upset she was cheating on him.

[@sablestormbreak3541]

Same here but Misdiagnosed as ADD/ADHD found out that she had Misdiagnosed a whole lot of people because Budgetary reasons and she was also the worst pick for Children I would say under the age of 16 because she Stuttered and Mumbled and Rambled/meandered through things. I ended Up not getting diagnosed properly until I was 19, Though My Graunty -In-Law (Great Aunt) who worked as Teacher for a certain group of Kids suggested I could have CAPD (Central Auditory Processing Disorder) Which I do have a Mild Case of . I eventually got diagnosed with Asperger but to late to help with Schooling.

[@theautisticalien8364]

As someone with genuine autism, yeah, thats really weird

[@no_8789]

i remember when i was a kid, my mom walked into my room and accused me of having depressive thoughts because i wouldn't talk or hangout with anyone, i say accused because she didn't sit me down and ask me if i was alright, she stood in front of the door so i couldn't walk out until i told her even when i said i wasn't ready to open up, before i even got to say anything she told me i' m going to therapy, when all this was happening i was crying cause i was overwhelmed and she tried hugging me and took it as me proving to her that i wasn't okay, in the end she took me to the doctor they told her i have ADHD and anxiety, as well as possibly having depression, i went to a therapy session once to try it out, and all the therapist would ever bring up was my recent attitude towards my mother, ( which was because of said incident) because her and my mother talked before and was told to BY MY MOTHER

[@derrickdaniels3955]

Literally me

[@graceraskopf6910]

As a clinical psychology doctoral student and someone who just binged all of Wednesday, I absolutely love this video haha

[@GeorgiaDow]

Congrats on your work! Wish you the best on your dissertation and thanks I’m so happy you enjoyed it

[@sonnysama16]

As a 26 year old who has mental health issues (some I was born with), I have a list of problematic therapists and psychiatrists I've had to deal with at a young age. I've even had a therapist tell an 8 year old me: "If I had a kid like you, I'd wanna leave my spouse and would turn to drinking too." Like gee thanks, lady. Where'd you get your degree, Walmart? I was also one of those kids who was doped up on medications because my bio mom wanted me to be complacent and my therapists/psychiatrists wanted me to be an easy patient. It took me 7-8 years to seek professional help after trying to fix myself (it almost worked as I had studied enough psychology to "self-medicate", do not recommend) because including my current therapist, I can only count up to two therapists who didn't try to break my spirit, force me on medication I didn't need or chalk it up to being a "problematic child".

[@certs743]

I have zero training or experience as a mental health professional but even I can read body language well enough to know if you ask something and they react like you pulled a weapon on them it is time to back up and change your approach. Great video and very well explained. If it were not for some bad experiences of my own I would have a hard time believing someone in that profession could be so unaware of basic body language and social cues.

[@rattersworld1016]

I love how she says "Everything in these sessions is strictly confidential" after leading with "I just read about you from your school counselor's notes". It just makes me personally feel like anyone else could read her notes and therefore it is actually not strictly confidential. I know there are different rules for different places, but it just feels like she should've switched the orders of those so Wednesday knew it was strictly confidential from the start.

[@michelleborchardt199]

My favorite part of the therapist scenes are the decor. She has clown pictures and masks (things where people put on a “face”) and a cuckoo clock 😂. The close ups of the therapist’s face shows she’s peering in and being intrusive. Her side hobby of taxidermy where she’s attracted to posed scenes between animals was also a hilarious addition.

[@doru2013]

I got sent to a child therapist in sixth grade. The first thing she ever said to me was "Maybe they think you are the a*hole," when I opened up to her about feeling like an outsider. She followed that up by preaching god to me and then telling my mother everything that I'd said to her, despite being told that it would be confidential. Being the neurodivergent little sh*t that I was, I not only stopped opening up, I took it as a challenge to see how quickly I could "break" her. 🤣 She stopped wanting to talk to me after about 5 sessions of me trying to convince her that I was a witch. 🤣 Unfortunately though, because of her, it took me around 20 years before I was willing to trust another therapist enough to get the help I needed from the start.🙄

[@marshmallowsaremyrolemodel6406]

LOL that’s hilarious! As a fellow neurodivergent would do the the same thing! 🧙🏼‍♀️

[@data4385]

That was a pro gamer move right there🤣

[@naomilamont3277]

I wish you could have had a better first experience of therapy...but at the same time I love and respect your reaction 😂

[@Teyl1]

This happened to me when I was 7 when my parents were trying to fix their problems with my father's alcoholism. I shut down every attempt to get to open me up. I hated going there, I hated being there I hated everything about it. When guy #1 didn't work, they moved on too another guy to try and pry me open, and all he wanted to do was to drug me up. I wasn't having any of it and I fought everything. It established my oppositional relationship to therapists and psychologists before the age of 10. This didn't help when the real depression hit me at 12. I fought everyone that might have wanted to help. Things got worse from there. It wasn't until I was 14 and things had spiralled way out of control before I met the only therapist that I would talk to. I set my own ground rules. He explained his responsibilities to me and others. There was mutual respect, safety and space to be honest for once. That changed the next 4 years of my life and gave me options to go forward in life that weren't there before. It helped me understand why I keep people at a distance, my lack of willingness to trust, and recognize what my independence based mindset is good for.

[@bxnny0374]

I’ve just been ghosted by my therapist for the second time. At least this time it only happened two months in so it hurts less. But I am so tired of terrible therapists in this terrible system. I wish all therapists cared as much as you do.

[@GeorgiaDow]

I am sorry that they disappeared I hope you know that there are very thoughtful ones out there and I hope you find yours. Thank you for the compliment

[@hannahk.summerville5908]

To be honest there are A LOT of bad therapists out there. I'm happy that we're finally talking about this. From someone calling me sweetheart to someone (head of psychology in a clinic nonetheless) telling me I just *imagined* my abuse ~ I have seen it all. On that note: Stay away from betterhelp folks. Good analysis👌🏻

[@travismiddleton8218]

This whole therapist creeped me out. From her smile to the fact she has read Wednesday's books without her knowledge I just got a bad feeling about this therapist throughout this entire scene. Loved your breakdown 👍 Also your Wednesday costume looks great 👌

[@jessguinn]

I wish you were my therapist as a child in the 90’s. I definitely had some untrustworthy mental health care providers growing up. The emphasis was for me to not burden my parents, rather than to get my parents to learn healthier parenting techniques for their traumatized daughter who was also growing up with undiagnosed ADHD and struggling in school because of it (I just got diagnosed this year at 31). I truly believe more children and adolescents would be better off with therapists like you. Even as an adult, your channel and content has been very healing and validating ✨🫶🏽

[@Skechy3603]

My first therapist was awful. 1) My family set it up and told her what they thought was wrong, making her presume my issues. 2) She assigned me homework, I was a student at a university. I don't want to do more homework. 3) Her room was cold. Black leather couch, white walls, all the light was natural but the window view was of a city parking lot. Doesn't help that it's winter so everything looked depressing. 4) When I talk about my life, I got to my first trauma, she immediately cut me off and started tackling that issue instead of letting me finish. 5) My mom (a worrier) called her one time when I was refusing to leave my bed or eat. When I visit the next time, she was really aggressive towards me. Telling me off that my mother should not call her for issue outside of session. 6) I witness a panhandler mistreating dogs in order to make money. It made my blood boil and I told her. Her attitude was, "it is what it is" and my reaction is not appropriate as there is nothing I can do. When she cancel a session with me, I completely forgot about her and said good riddance. As I had more therapist, and learned more about mental health. I realize that she was probably new to the position and was just following the textbook. Some good therapist was a man with a physical deformity (taught me to open up to people). A psychiatrist who help boost my confidence. A elderly Sigmund Freud type man who explored my dark side. And finally a young lady who helped me process grief and taught me self-love. If your new to therapy, don't be afraid to jump between therapist. Each has their own strength and weaknesses, just pick one you feel the most comfortable with.

[@Raven_Black_252]

The "I've read about you and the books you've written" thing was like a nightmare for me to watch. Yesterday I saw on twitter that someone posted their own secret alphabet they did in order to encode their writings. You'd be amazed to know that thousands of people shared the keys to their own coded aplhabets as well. All did it to encode their writings so that others couldn't read them because they had no privacy or a sense of privacy in the house. I was surprised because I did the same, I write journals and stories, but the amount of people who also do that was astonishing. It felt extremely disrespectful to watch that because writing is not like talking. You can lie when you speak but written language is genuine. I remember Wednesday wrote about a girl solving mysteries, she even described her personality to be like hers and her relationship with mother was similar to Wednesday and Morticia's. Sometimes writing stories may not be for the sole purpose of creative writing, but for a creative way of journaling. Even well-known writers admit that sometimes their own personalities are projected onto their characters subconsciously, so just imagine how personal it's gonna be such a story written with the intention of creative journalling. Wednesday is a writer. A writer is not just someone who writes to publish and sell, but anyone who prefer and are better at conveying thoughts and emotions through writing is a writer. Some people vent through speaking to others or some draw how they feel, each are other ways of doing the same thing.

[@vilee600]

I love how you evaluated it as an actual therapist. When I was watching it I felt severely judged and I didn't even do anything. The way she squinted her eyes and gave that smile just felt really snarky. "And if I can't leave or escape and your trying to pry information out of me why can't I hid in the bathroom? At least I'm safe. Do you think you could go into Tyler and his fathers conversation when he's loading Elvis into the truck? I really relate to that one a lot

[@kdonline119]

One thing I loved about the scene where the therapist tells Wednesday she’s read her books is that this the (I think) only scene Wednesday blinks in. It shows just how deeply thrown and uncomfortable she is by this revelation and breach of trust.

[@Zeliazzzz]

There's been a lot of talk recently about how Wednesday shows many signs of having autism. As a therapist, its crazy to me how she isn't aware of that part of Wednesday and never took it into account.

[@peeblekitty5780]

19:13 The way your sitting stiffly forward and making direct & serious eye contact made my brain go !!! Demonstrated your point perfectly.

[@mlinxl9090]

I love seeing your takes on how therapy is represented in movies, excited to see more!

[@GeorgiaDow]

thank

[@victorcharles27]

@@GeorgiaDow yes do more plz😊

[@hhornerphone]

As someone who has been court-ordered to see therapists multiple times and some of them were with my abusive parent. These scenes in Wednesday were very uncomfortable, relatable, and frustrating. But thank you for pointing out these scenes and the issues in them

[@Ploppity01]

I always felt iffy with my first therapist. There was something about the way she would ask questions and respond to my answers that made me feel like I was being studied more than talked to. And it was particularly bad when I shared with her something private and personal, something about a boy, and she reacted by suggesting that I tell my Mom this, because "don't I want to share this important information with my Mom?" and I told her no way. It wasn't something even related to my Mom. My Mom did not need to know about it. It made me very uncomfortable that she said this. Then, after the session, she invited my Mom to talk to us and after some discussion, said that I HAD SOMETHING TO SAY TO MY MOM. She looked at me pointedly. I just said nah, I don't have anything to say. She violated my trust. :/

[@v.emiltheii-nd.8094]

Just started the show. Wednesday is such a relatable (for the most part) mood.

[@MoonAngelsTears]

I was looking forward to your opinion on Wednesday’s line: “You’ve already decided you don’t believe me” because I’ve been there and I still have no idea how to handle it the moment I realise the therapist in turn won’t believe me 🤔

[@DCMarvelMultiverse]

My father was stealing from me when I got into his custody following my mom's death. The therapist was actually a drug and alcohol counselor approved for prison inmates where he worked. She was not a school counselor. I was not touching any such drugs and alcohol and never have. I was a minor. She asked me if I was lying, where my mother kept additional money, and she even ate during appointments. My school would call me into counseling over the PA. I never knew why I was there officially but it was clear my dad wanted money. During that time, his wife (my stepmom) spent a lot of money after pleading poverty all the time. My mom's accounts were drained during this time. I later found out my father was cheating on my stepmom with the therapist. My father and the therapist threatened me with a foster home when I crashed at my uncle's house one night. My uncle lived next door to my grandparent's place (where my father put me because his wife did not want any kid in her house except for the one she had with my father). I had become gaunt since my father's custody. The therapist said my father put me on a "diet." I was already a thin guy before his custody of me. It was no diet and this excuse came out of nowhere. I was gaunt because I was being denied food outright. I went to the appointment one day and a new therapist was present. She had no clue why I was on the appointment booking. She was also shocked at my gaunt frame. She was shocked to be doing therapy on a minor at a school by substituting for someone with no credentials in counseling minors. The first therapist? She continued to be a therapist and became a social work professor. Lynn Guerrin of Morehead KY. What a charletan.

[@azrailgrimm9718]

I wish I had a therapist like you, you seem so nice and like a really good therapist. every therapist I've ever had either retired or stopped contacting me after 1-3 sessions and never actually really helped with my problems.

[@PrinceAlhorian]

My last second to last therapist was like the one in Wednesday. Prying, judgemental, prescriptive and snide. Every session quickly devolved into a cerebral game of three dimensional chess. That's how I ended up with a Sociopathic diagnosis. Now my current one is a member of my in law family (but so far removed that it's still ethical), and just being to able to chat and do it with my wife, trust was returned (and the diagnosis overturned).

[@irishuisman1450]

I had two major instances where my trust in my parents was significantly damaged. The biggest of which happened when I was about 13-14. When I was about 13 and a half, I got diagnosed with autism. At the time, I didn't know much (or really anything) about what autism even is, so obviously that was pretty scary for me. This was halfway through the school year, so luckily I did have a pretty great support system of friends I was comfortable with and would hang out with often. Turns out that my parents had been talking with the person who I was assigned to at the place I went to for help with homework (not quite a therapist, but kinda adjacent to it), and decided that it was apparently in my best interest to be sent to a special education school. Did they tell me? No. I spent the rest of the school year completely unaware of what my parents were doing behind my back, and when summer vacation rolled around I said a happy goodbye to my friends, fully expecting to see them again once the vacation ended. Well, two weeks before the end of summer vacation, I was just watching some youtube videos on my tablet, and my mom walked into the room. Translated as literally as I can, her words were "Iris, you're now going to a different school." I legitimately feel like my parents made sure everything was in order, and then told me as an afterthought so I wouldn't show up to the wrong school once the year started. That was already a major loss of trust in my parents, especially when that school, despite apparently being 'better' for me, was only detrimental to my mental health instead of beneficial. The second instance was on a lesser scale, and more to do with how I was told something instead of what thing actually happened. When I was almost 15, the rabbit that we'd had since I was 3 got sick. My mom went to take her to the vet, and although I wanted to go with her, I had an appointment at the hairdresser and thus couldn't go. Well, it turns out that the almost 12-year-old rabbit had an infection and due to her age, treatment would be extremely difficult and possibly even ineffective. So, my mom made the decision to have the rabbit euthanized. I understand the decision completely, but given that we'd had the rabbit since I was 3 and thus I could barely remember life without her, that loss hurt. A lot. And how did my parents decide to tell me that my closest animal companion was dead? By having my dad come by the hairdresser and tell me, translated word for word, "Iris, Nina is dead." I had my head in a sink because I was getting my dipdye redone, and that's how I was told. They didn't wait until I got home to sit me down and tell me in a comfortable environment, they didn't even wait for me to be done with my haircut, no. They told me in an environment where I was in full 'out in public' mask. I had to force tears to seem even a little normal. Mind you my parents aren't bad parents, but they're both painfully neurotypical with two neurodivergent daughters (my sister has Tourette's). It's no surprise that my most comfortable and safe person growing up was my sister, and not one of my parents.

[@makadoodledoo]

yeah neurotypical parents sometimes forget to think about how it comes across to us neurodivergent kids. and if you dont need a lot of extra help in school you should be able to go to your usual school.

[@irishuisman1450]

@@makadoodledoo my issue was that I physically couldn't keep up with the amount of homework I was given. I'd spend all afternoon at that homework help place (usually until at least 5pm), and since it was every weekday, barely had a social life because of it. And even despite all that, I still couldn't get all my homework done on time. What makes the whole 'not discussing the other school with me' thing even worse, is that when they did tell me I was going to the other school, they said that it was because of my issues with homework. They didn't tell me that it was a special education school, didn't even explain to me what special education is, and just expected me to go on as usual.

[@Belltogo3000]

Why would you force tears? That’s very strange and definitely wouldn’t make you seem ‘normal’

[@irishuisman1450]

@@Belltogo3000 the pet that we'd had for almost as long as I can remember had died. I think that not crying would've been more concerning to my parents.

[@pearlsky2366]

I remember this one counselor that on the second session she wanted to talk to me about a really traumatic event to me. I kept telling her that I didn’t feel comfortable with doing so but she kept asking and asking. After the tenth time of asking I yelled at her because she didn’t listen. I was in tears and then she yelled at me. She said I was disrespecting her and she wouldn’t take it. It felt so wrong because she knew it was a sore subject for me, and she was the one trying to force me to talk about it. I will mention again that it was only the second session.

[@StarboyJuno]

Once the school psychologist trash talked students to a security guard infront of me while I was having an episode, when I pointed this out while she tried to call me crazy in our session with my guidance counselor she got up, started yelling and stormed out of the meeting, everyone in the room was silent That woman wasn't a good psychologist, THATS why she left Wednesday's guidance counselor may not have been "broken" by her, just challenged, and THATS why she left

[@Finimellin]

Ive been in and out of therapy for about 13 years now, and it took a long time to come to trust professionals down the line when my initial experiences were so harmful. I remember talking about feeling hopeless, and like there was no point in living when I would just die like my dad at some point, and the therapist cut me off with "just a warning, if you say anything that implies you might be a danger to yourself, I am obligated to report it." I already knew that, we had established it from the get-go, but something about bringing it up mid conversation felt like he was telling me not to tell him. I lied about feeling suicidal for like 4 years because it felt like I would just be making the therapists job harder. That was the tip of the iceberg as far as bad therapy, but my only experience that related to the content of the video lol. It takes a bit to find them sometimes, but there are good, genuine therapists and psychiatrists out there that will do right by you.

[@amandalindsey7741]

I told my kiddo went to therapy as it was recommended for a tough time, I told her that this is someone you can talk to about things you don't know how to talk to me about or don't want to talk to me about. Its the same as when mom goes and talks to *my therapists name*. If you do not want to do this anymore that is perfectly fine and if you do not feel comfortable with this person, I will find another that does make you feel comfortable.

[@jamesd5842]

With the caveat of that I’ve only seen the first episode, does the assessment here take into account that an aspect of the Addams Family is that they have an entirely different outlook and morality than the world around them (like not batting an eye at Wednesday and Pugsley committing homicidal acts against each other with encouragement from Morticia and Gomez)? Is that unique morality an element of the show?

[@joana8615]

They have a family session at some point... but no spoilers :)

[@gamera5160]

I'm a psych student in grad school and I'm currently working on my practicum and getting experience through an internship. I really appreciate Georgia's insights and things that she's thinking about when it comes to how the therapist treats Wednesday. For me, I saw a good opportunity to build rapport when Wednesday attempted to be confrontational frame the relationship as adversarial. I would have attempted to clarify what my job was in relationship to Wednesday. As far as I'm concerned, my clients are the ones directing their own therapy sessions. As Georgia says, the therapist is there to listen, to try to understand, to help the client gain insight on their own situation and to provide them with tools to improve their situation. So when Wednesday describes her previous therapist as "not a worthy adversary", I would have responded with "Well, I don't want to be your adversary" or something to that effect. I would want to signal to her that I'm not judgemental and I'm not threatening. When I start working with a new client, I try to start off by trying to give off a sense of Karl Rogers' good ol' "unconditional positive regard". I want my client to feel like I care about them and I want them to succeed and flourish. I also allow them to kind of set the boundaries and the pace that they want to address their issues. Some people are very guarded. Other people will dive right to the heart of the issue and get very personal very quickly. As long as I can maintain some professional distance and appropriate boundaries, I'm kind of willing to go where the client wants to go with their therapy. I also try to provide empathetic statements without suggesting what my client should be feeling. If a client brings up a moment of trauma, I usually don't say something like "that must have been difficult or painful for you". I prefer to say "that is not an easy thing to deal with" or "that sounds like a difficult situation". I think sometimes, if therapists are overly concerned about making their clients anxious, they end up making them anxious. I think it's good to be sensitive and tactful, but I also think it's good to project a feeling of calm and suggest that the situation is manageable and that things can get better. I've gotten some positive feedback from clients about my demeanor and they've commented that it's easy to talk to me or share things with me. Obviously, I'm still learning and I'm still getting experience, but I thought I would add my own thoughts and this has helped me think about my own approach and my own therapeutic philosophy. I think the things Georgia is saying are spot on. I'm not trying to challenge any of the things she said. I'm just offering my own perspective on this particular case.

[@MostlyAnimatedSketches]

The therapist in this series reminds me of the school psychologist at my high school lol. I got put in there one time because people were spreading rumors about me self-harming that weren't true, and even though I proved that it wasn't true, he seemed to insist that I was in denial and just believed everyone else. I was just trying to figure out a way out of there because he was so annoying, so I was silent for a little while and then said something like, "Can I just go now?" and he literally said, "Oh, I thought you were about to share your life story or something." Like... do these people even study psychology? Other than the psychologist from my elementary school, every school psychologist that I've met has been the same amount of awful and they always expect the same thing out of everybody lol

[@chaoticcupoftea2462]

We're so happy we chose to go to therapy alone as a 11 years old, our therapist is so nice and being in therapy for years makes me (and everyone in the collective) analyze these sessions better. Your videos help us too :)

[@Smk42217]

As a therapist, this was healing. Thank you.

[@Angel_HippieCityHealing]

Tried therapy twice. It was horrendous. I am so happy when people find a good therapist and someone that truly wants to help them grow through whatever they need help with. This therapist has a very different disposition and is very insightful.

[@7_Siete]

One time in highschool, one time, I was put to talk to a psychologist, first thing she said "I can't solve your problems for you" My answer? "Yeah I know", didn't want to talk anymore and ever since I have refused to seek any form of therapy, instead learned to deal with things on my own and with good friends that I've made. Some people just like their title and what it implies to be a "Doctor"

[@angelicdragon7]

As a professional therapist myself I agree with your assessment of this scene 100%. Of course I'm sure it was intentionally written that way to move the plot along and not to be reflective of a real therapy session.

[@TheRoomforImprovement]

I have autism and right now, I’m part of a transitional program that teaches me skills to living out in my own. Part of the program is a weekly therapy session. While my therapist is nowhere near as bad as the one Wednesday deals with, there are times where I feel like she’s not helping. For instance, whenever I deal with a bad customer, her first instinct is to try to play devils advocate and get me to understand where they’re coming from. On one had, fair point. But in some instances where they’re particularly nasty (one had the audacity to claim that she was the reason I had my job) I feel like I shouldn’t have to. And it feels like they’re blaming me for not reacting a certain way. TLDR: I get where they’re coming from, but sometimes it can feel a bit much. Do you have any thoughts?

[@alishac5096]

Oh man, I have a lot of thoughts about this. I’m still pursuing diagnosis but I’ve got suspected asd and/or add. Societal norms used to include dominance and intimidation of “servants” and people (especially people with internalized white supremacy, misogyny, and judgments) take it out on “servers” or people in helping roles. Roles in social settings where it’s expected one party be accommodating over the other. (Employer/employee, customer/clerk, teacher/student etc.)

[@BourbonRose_]

I think their instinct as a therapist is to understand, because they're rarely in a position where that's a bad choice. What I've been told instead, is that we need to establish healthy strategies to protect ourselves. For example, in my case, understanding what I can and can't control in the situation. Another thing is that you can try to communicate as openly as possible with your therapist. If they do or say something that gives you bad vibes, try to ask first what they mean. For example: why do I need to empathize with this person? Why is that helpful for my goals? What is the purpose of you playing devil's advocate? It might seem confrontational, but you're supposed to be a team, so it's better if they let you know the purpose of everything that's happening in the session.

[@CrystalRose1111]

As an autistic person who has worked customer service, idk I kindof learned to detach myself from rude customers but I know it can get to you if you have confidence issues. One thing I remind myself is that people are bold because of entitlement, but the reality is that they don’t know you. People lash out because of their own life and stress, but you can’t take it personally. I say this as someone who has struggled with this

[@svr5423]

What I like to do: Just treat other people as NPCs. Don't bother understanding them to deeply, just accept that they behave in a certain way, have certain lines they say and behaviour they exhibit and offer your character a few options of interacting with them. Ignore them, or choose an option with a favourable outcome for you. Once you try to reason with them, trying to get them to understand the issue, your logic, your emotions or even question their own goals, you will break them. They are not meant to be interacted with in that way. These are most people you encounter. The exceptions are the ones you'd like to have meaningful interactions with.

[@achillesalwayswins]

I was forced to meet up with a psychiatrist, a year ago. You see I'd finally told my parents about some of my problems and then with them panicking, they forced me. Which is why I never talked to him. We spent 3 or 4 sessions together, with me barely even talking. I never felt comfortable because they'd forced me and hadn't even told me anything until the said day. Now that I want to go to therapy to get a diagnosis that I believe is something relative to me, I've started going. Much happier and I trust her, at least more than my other. Don't force anyone to go to therapy. It might make it worse. Encourage them, but don't force them.

[@mangomamba5482]

The opening of the video where you mentioned the problem with surprising people with therapy is something I can absolutely attest to. I have trauma regarding therapists and therapy in general because that happened to me after an already very distressing event for me. Just a couple days was enough to entirely turn me off the idea of going to therapy myself, though I always mention to other people that therapy may still work for them when I talk about it. Not sure if I'll ever feel comfortable with the thought of therapy or how long it might take, which ironically would probably be helped by therapy.

[@Imliterallyjackietaylor]

i remember that on of my old therapist forced me to describe one time that i nearly died well drowning and one time i watched my sister nearly drowned because she didn't believe that either of us "properly drowned". never went to her again

[@liliahackert999]

I quit therapy because I had a therapist that did a lot of these things. I love how you explain how it should have been. You vocalized a lot of my thoughts.

[@albunai3876]

it's beautiful that you give us a different perspective on many, many movies. Love what to do, and thank you for analizing them so thoroughly!

[@GeorgiaDow]

I try

[@helpfulinterdimentionalfor8692]

This is such a fascinating take! The ability to note even the slightest headnods. Great job!

[@GeorgiaDow]

thank you

[@Thing1meetsThing2]

I've never been to a therapist, but I did have to go see a school guidance counselor because of a family death. I didn't feel like it was any of her business to be asking me questions on my home life, when it wasn't affecting myself, my relationships, or my school work. On a different note, I really enjoy your videos and your analyst's. Please keep doing what your doing.

[@skylark7921]

20:18 I saw a therapist for agoraphobia, among other things, and one day I was so anxious that I couldn’t leave the car. So my therapist had my mom sit in the waiting room so that we could have a session in the car. That was actually rly big, something about that seemed to add “therapist’s office” to the exceedingly brief list of locations that my brain had decided were safe (the other two being my house and the car)

[@pilotgoals62]

I can see the benefits to therapy for many types of needs and life-transforming changes. I believe and agree that the deeper and more difficult issues people have, the more need of a therapist who believes and utilizes your stated beliefs and practices about therapy techniques. My impression is that, unfortunately, you are probably a rare gem. Much respect to you.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Thank you so much this is very kind of you. < 3

[@OfficialFloydboy]

If you took insurance plans I would 100% sign up. I’m not even joking. You really have a unique way of breaking things down. Awesome content 👍

[@GeorgiaDow]

thanks so much = ) that is very kind of you to say.

[@OfficialFloydboy]

@@GeorgiaDow you’re most welcome and thank you as well :)

[@alexsnakelet7663]

As someone who's been in therapy since I was eleven, seeing all the clips of that therapist felt so scary and violent. Too far too fast even for me who commonly gives a run down of my situation to the therapists I see. Like wtf lady even looked creepy at times-

[@debgenerate]

I'm glad you brought up dark art and how it can be very healthy for people to make it. I tend to make art that people may find dark or even gross or cringe, and I like to say that it's "free therapy."

[@gabrielakrist11]

I sometimes find it hard to guess what Wednesday is feeling by relying on her facial expressions & body language since her face looks so deadpan almost all the time & her body movement looks so rigid (well, at least according to my non-observant eyes, LOL)🤔 I honestly find it remarkable that Georgia is able to see Wed's micro-expressions and perceived what Wed's thinking! 🤔 wow!! excellent work as always, Georgia! P.S. You look cute in that black suit while cosplaying Wednesday Addams & I love those pigtails! ❤❤

[@AngelicaNerd]

12:57 I loved that detail in Wednesday's face. It's not only the mouth, but also it is the very first time that we get to see Wednesday blink in the series.

[@SkyBrightGames]

Never noticed

[@bdobdnoble5750]

Now that I think about it...the whole room seemed to put Wednesday in the spotlight, as if it was a trap. I wouldn't mind as much, since I'm on the grey area of things. However, the therapist, felt aggressive and invasive, that would of cause my threat assessment to go off.

[@billieking2257]

What also bugged me, as you mentioned, was they didn't ask her why she put the piranha's in the pool when the swim team was practicing. They were huge bullies to her brother, Pugsley, and sometimes to her, but nothing was done to protect the both of them. Once Wednesday retaliates, all of the sudden it's "Oh my God how could you." Granted she took it to the VERY extreme, but she was at a point where she thought "Okay if no one is gonna do anything about my brother being bullied, I am going to take matters into my own hands." I've experienced bullying first hand as a child and when I would try to give that same energy back to the person bullying me, I was the one who ended up in trouble because I wasn't "keeping the peace" per say. This also shows that Wednesday is protective of her family. She may be VERY blunt and see the world through a darker lens, but she will not hesitate to hurt anyone that tries to hurt her family.

[@upsykimsy]

We're at the point where as soon as a therapist turns up on screen, my son gets ready for the "Ouch, no, that's not how we do it..." By the end of Wednesday, he was beating me to the criticisms.

[@GeorgiaDow]

Impressive that he can do that !

[@Jinglejam425]

she reminded me of my old therapists who would always blame me for all the family issue and always believe my parents fabricated stories than me

[@Drewcatmorris]

As a point I think should be made is some of the therapist's comments and behaviors when Wednesday answers that she sent a thank you to the Editior (cuts to a scene where the editor opens a gift box and reaches in, pulling out a hand covered in sprung rat traps). So the therapist basically has lost all trust as by that point Wednesday was willing to lie outright.

[@GeorgiaDow]

We dont know if the therapist knows this and lying to your therapist is something common during the beginning phases of therapy and sometimes it is just a fear of judgement or feeling unsafe. It can still be worked through with time and patience.

[@willowjean9729]

it took me a really long time to find a therapist that didn't try to fix me and instead just let me sit and rant and feel my broken feelings. i don't want someone to "fix" me, i want to learn how to "fix" myself, on my own. if that means reaching out, then so be it, but i want to have that control over my own health. it's difficult. my current therapist has been with me for 7+ years and i'm so glad i have her in my circle

[@muskyoxes]

This is _court_ _ordered_ therapy. Of course it's going to be a game and a confrontation. It couldn't possibly start out any other way. Jenna barely moves, yet the smallest thought her character has is immediately clear. So delicious

[@JunkRatt1985]

I was hoping someone was gonna point out that it's court ordered cause nearly everyone here's taking the angle that it isn't and because they weren't thinking it's court ordered I think some people missed the point

[@anaiyahluther]

It didn't have to be so aggressive and provocative though. She could've eased into it more and not been so judgmental

[@EndoScorpion]

@@anaiyahluther They're literally setting her up as the antagonist here. To be used as a red-herring. I think they were a little blunt and on the nose about it, but I can still see their intentions.

[@anaiyahluther]

@@EndoScorpion I get that. I just think it's weird to say court ordered therapy can't go any other way

[@bluefairy7653]

I actually had court ordered therapy back when I was in my adolescent years. It was healing and eye awakening. If the therapist is transparent with you and lets you know that they are an objective actor and not someone working against you, it becomes better. Don’t make sweeping generalizations, they usually aren’t right.

[@felisazure1820]

This was actually such a comforting video to watch as someone who has had a very similar experience with school counselors. Really good video breaking down the issue and I'm so glad someone is discussing this. I am also so glad you mentioned 15:45, as someone who has gotten negative reactions due to how dark some of my writing is.