What's the Point of Therapy

[@karenmarr7266]

What an eloquent description of the process.

[@13RafaEl777]

Thank you. ✨️ Sometimes we feel guilt and shame which is not ours but was forced on us so our mistake is that we received them (lies as truth) in the first place.

[@DrMarkBaker]

So true.

[@RioGirl16]

Makes total sense

[@ssing7113]

Dude. This channel is amazing. I seriously have to listen to your videos over and over. Till it clicks. Then I write it down to cement it and for future reference and refresh ( of course along with action ) Been on a path of growth since I turned 18 and found books. And now this treat of finding this channel. Thank you 🙏

[@DrMarkBaker]

Thank you and welcome to the channel. You are definitely on the right path, so I'm glad you are here.

[@nehayaqasem1186]

I accidentally opened the video and thank God I did! I think I unlocked a new level of healing. Thank you 🌻

[@DrMarkBaker]

Thank you. God has given you a gift.

[@user-uh5tb9er4o]

same here! came from the disappointment and resentment video... lets go next level healing! so ready

[@emeseipacs3568]

Excellent summary, thank you. 😊❤

[@DrMarkBaker]

Thank you.

[@liliherndz5792]

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[@DrMarkBaker]

God Bless you for your kind words.

[@user-uh5tb9er4o]

woooeee! nailed it, thank you!

[@DrMarkBaker]

Thank you.

[@bonitazepeda6729]

Thank you

[@DrMarkBaker]

You're welcome

[@barbaravance3686]

My daughter has blamed me and felt anger toward me. Intense anger that she suppressed. At 13, She developed anorexia, binge eating. In control/ out of control. She married and now has three children. She has not changed. Mr. Perfect is narcisstic. He neglects and abuses her, she neglects and abuses herself and the children and her family of origin. I am working to disentangle myself even from the natural desires of a mother. Trauma bonding aside. Her fundamental anger and resentment toward me was formed when we moved to another city when she was finished grade 2 for the summer. Trust me when I say easily, I KNOW for certain that she has no cause for mother issues since I exceeded at mothering. Not perfect, of course, but diligent, careful and conscientious to the highest of my abilities. I remain the fundamental causal problem in her mind. She does not make the connection in her brain that she is the middle person between herself and me who sees her transactions through the unforgiving lens she has created. Significantly, she was bullied to some degree once she began school in grade 3 and that confirmed in her own mind that she was right that something bad was going to happen and it was her parents fault for going ahead with the move. We could have protected her and we did not. An 8 year old thinking. Our transactions are not, then, honest ones where she would see my grace, mercy and loving kindness. She transfers her attachment to husband's mother and his family who are abusive narcissists and abuses her own mother and neglects her own family. Complete transference. Any comment you offer would sincerely be appreciated...

[@DrMarkBaker]

You situation is complicated. I recommend you seek the help of a therapist to sort out your own feelings and get some advice on how to address the problems you mentioned. I would recommend the same for your daughter, but I doubt she would take this advice from you. You cannot tell someone else to forgive, you can only forgive someone else.

[@sierrashaheen677]

If she really didn’t want to move and what she was afraid of came true (moving was bad), what did you do in response to this? If you knew she really didn’t want to move, was there a reason you went through with it and didn’t just consider her opinion? Is it really ‘8 year old thinking’ when she said you didn’t protect her? If she got bullied and little or nothing was done, then is it really just 8 year old thinking or is it you possibly not wanting to take accountability?

[@barbaravance3686]

​@@sierrashaheen677thank you for your statements. I read each one with careful consideration. I have several children and am married. Only in extraordinary situations would an entire family forfeit such an opportunity for the sake of a child. The fears of an 8 year old child, if given authority over reason, would ultimately be destructive to everyone and especially the child. She is expected, like each individual, to confront change and learn how to meet the challenge it offers. Truly, in support of her, she was not expressing her opinion, moreso it was her deeply felt fear. No one can protect her from her fears. Importantly, a very cherished daughter was embraced, encouraged and given distinct and sustained guidance, unconditional love, wise counsel, and generous abundance of opportunities for her pleasure. Being bullied. Your statements are, factually inaccurate. Your final statement, frankly, demonstrates a severe lack of comprehension on your part and is one I am pleased you put forth. I truly appreciate you affording me this opportunity to clarify the truth further for myself by using your message.

[@karenmarr7266]

I am wishing you the best in this difficult situation.

[@barbaravance3686]

​@@karenmarr7266 I thank you so much!

[@joedaley6031]

:)