What STRESSES OUT the 16 Personalities?

[@FrankJames]

If you'd like a cool FJ mug that transports beverages to your face, head over to infj.me/store 🙌

[@mrcake5171]

He is first

[@meowhahaha]

Prof. FJ, I just wanna say: You put the wrong video card. It’s the smartest video, not the emotional 😅 Oh, thank you by the way. Have a beautiful Sunday!! 😊

[@superstylemeblog]

I need this mug- Since I figured out I’m ISFP, Introverted Intuition is in my stack!

[@ethandominic-13]

I for one like transporting beverages to my face. But being a minor I lack the ability to exchange US currency for such a mug. My sincerest apologies.

[@mjprozac]

@@ethandominic-13 I have a 15 year old who has found lots of ways to do this. Some of them may even be legal!

[@se92692]

It would have been really cool to have Frank as a professor in a college class. He could probably teach just about anything and do a great job at it.

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

It would have been really cool too to have MBTI lesson in school.

[@dorto7779]

Including teaching about what a mug is

[@uw4636]

do we know what he actually works as??? or is that private info

[@kgiselle19]

@@uw4636 i THINK he said in an old video hes an accountant, if not then i probably read it somewhere

[@uw4636]

@@kgiselle19 oh thats weird i had a feeling it was something like that

[@zoerace4454]

Love the video! ❤ ENTJ/ESTJ: @6:10 ESFJ/ENFJ: @6:25 ESTP/ESFP: @6:40 ENTP/ENFP: @6:55 ISTJ/ISFJ: @7:10 INFJ/INTJ: @7:36 INTP/ISTP: @8:07 INFP/ISFP: @8:21

[@infinitepossibilities2862]

thanks!

[@aryanprakaash361]

Hey Frank, could you make a video on the loops of each of the 16 personalities?? Edit: Thanks guys for the likes and comments..😊😊

[@ericaaaafj]

YES !!!

[@phunkmunkified]

I vote for this.

[@marxiewasalittlegirl]

Do all of them have loops? (@_@)

[@aryanprakaash361]

@@marxiewasalittlegirl Yes, all of them do..

[@marxiewasalittlegirl]

@@aryanprakaash361 ooo

[@SmittenKitten.]

INFJ: Everything. Everything stresses us out.

[@LittleFairy680]

Amen!

[@lunasauro2272]

Yep😂😅

[@lost9050]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA YES, I MUST ADMIT IT, YES HAHAHAHAHA

[@nehalilisays]

The news stress me out but feeling like I don't really know what's going on stresses me out, too 🙈😭😆

[@potatochips1953]

Ha, lol. *tears*

[@ceilinh6004]

My mum basically called me out on never using Fe (but not in those words) when I was in my early/mid teens. That actually stuck with me, and I've very intentionally worked on it over the years. It's weird, because I've been finding over the last few years that people have started to see me as someone they can talk to when they are feeling stressed out. I think that calming stressed out people has somehow become one of my superpowers, and yeah... it's super weird. -INTP

[@kertkoljada1891]

How do you "work" on your Fe

[@ceilinh6004]

@@kertkoljada1891 If you're me, you do it by thinking about it and how to use it. Watching how other people do it is definitely part of this process. Then you practice, and keep practicing, until it almost feels natural (though still tiring.)

[@jjoubert2817]

Please enlighten me

[@lunaticluna873]

Same thing happened with me as well. I've been working on this for past couple years and now people do come find me when they're stressed and needs to calm down. -an ISTP

[@lunaticluna873]

@@kertkoljada1891 For me the biggest help was fictional stories, it allows you to see things from different perspective and you can learn how different people handle and feel about different situations and I'll agree with @Ceilnih It's very exhausting

[@ethandominic-13]

INTJ to everyone else: Nothing seems to phase them. INTJ internally: Exsistenal crisis, coffee ♾️, emotional train wreck, internal mental wars.

[@malumachado4561]

Every day is a brand new day for another existential crisis 🥳😱

[@ethandominic-13]

@@malumachado4561 🥳🥳🥳

[@amethyst_moon12]

Never saw something more true

[@Moussaka47]

It's a funny thing, that coffee thing. Because I don't do that. In college, people would call me "the robot" for never eating or drinking during breaks. I want to rely on as less subtances as possible. I want myself to be trained and healthy like a mental samurai, I don't want myself to be on dope. You need to world-dominate for long a long time and smoothly, which implies doing it healthy. All this chemical stuff seems to 'confiscate' your strength. Like, 'I'll give it to you only if you drink my potion'. It's one of the most stressful things: becoming dependent. Dependent in the sensory world. Dependent on social success. Dependent on some 'results'.

[@BuizelCream]

@@Moussaka47 I'm not a coffee person too because I'm afraid to become dependent on it. I'm generally afraid to be dependent on things that I cannot be the one in charge and in control. When you let the sensory world do its thing, and you're just going for the ride . . . it will always be freaking bumpy, and I hate it.

[@meg136]

as an ENFP, it is true that I tend to be dramatic and say that I'm dying when getting a small bruise, at the same time I'm optimistic and laugh about it and be sweet about it. Yes this is just as confusing as it sounds like

[@danika9411]

Me too 😂😂😂~ENFP

[@attheranch873]

I would find this fun.

[@brunju97]

Literally the same ! I'm careless and adventurous, and also feel super hypochondriac cause a headache or a weird zit will make me think like I'm gonna die one second and then I realize I'm being dramatic and carry on the next

[@maraacuja6960]

🤝

[@Keke_Poutri]

Same, but i just cry instead - INFP

[@kaydee1721]

That is quite the outfit, Frank! Are you a scientist? Doctor? Professor? A fancy British gentleman who is neither royal nor famous, nor does he have a job, yet somehow he is wealthy and busy? No need to choose! Nailed it!

[@andeeanko7079]

😅

[@louisejoel]

Frank does have a job

[@IndieRockerHippy]

@@louisejoel i think he's talking about his character in the video, not Frank in real life

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

His outfit in this particular video is just horrific but generally he gives off polished doctor vibes. Agreed.

[@aurnaurrr]

Speaking as an INTP, I think it would be super cool to see in depth problem solving tests done on strong representatives of the different personalities Problem solving is such a clear and distinguishable way to see the differences in the personalities and there are always different people with different techniques to offer Buuuut some of us (hi) are not motivated enough to actually talk to people and find test subjects… someday though… I can feel it coming

[@sheevpalpatine2524]

Just reading this made me burnt out. That's too much planning.

[@sealwhiskers3515]

I'm super curious - what kind of problem solving tests would you do? What if someone who doesn't usually problem solve in their day to day life becomes a strong problem solver during, say, a computerised test because they know they're doing a problem solving test? (also this sounds super interesting and as an ENFJ I'd actually work with you to make this happen lol 😂)

[@JokerCrowe]

Personally I don't really think the "grip" happens because you're "burning out" your dominant function, but I also don't think it's because you're "under using" your inferior function in such a way that it causes problems for you. I'm an INFJ and I feel like I can use my Ni all day every day, it's basically my "auto-pilot", and like you said Frank, we're most comfortable using our dominant functions - even/especially in stressful situations. So I do think the "imbalance" with our inferior function _is_ the culprit, just not in the way you and grip-theory presented. I think every type has a "complicated" relationship with their 4th function, they both like and dislike it. As an INFJ with inferior extraverted sensing, I dislike that I get distracted and overwhelmed by sensory inputs, but I also like that I can get into that " balanced flow-state" where I'm picking up sensory input and accurately predicting the future based off it. I get a lot of enjoyment out of music, and I really like getting out of my head by doing something sensory intensive, like going to the cinema where you basically have no choice but to pay attention to the screen, and in doing so getting "out of your head" and forgetting your Ni for a second. So My personal theory about our relationship to our inferior function is that our mind/body knows when we need certain things; we get hungry when we haven't eaten, we get thirsty when we havent been drinking, and we get an impulse to use our inferior function when we need to "balance out" from our dominant function (but not necessarily from "burn out"). That _May_ coincide with being stressed out, or us creating problems because of our dominant functions, but I feel like the Inferior function can also be used as a respite in a way. When I "binge Se" I don't feel particularly burned out, I just have that impulse because something (not Ni) feels a little out of whack. Maybe it's just that you Need to use/stretch your inferior function every once in a while? Then again, that May also depend on what function is your 4th to begin with, maybe I'm "lucky" because Se is relatively easy to "satisfy" compared to many (if not All) the other functions? Anyway, those are my 2 cents, anyone can feel free to reply if you have the same or different Idea, I'd love to hear what others think! EDIT: I saw a typo, but I also added some things.

[@chrisakins1512]

Infj here. Nice explanation. I can relate to being overwhelmed or distracted by Se at times. I do agree it is healthy to find balance between the "inner" and "outer" worlds. I enjoy music as well and hiking in Nature. These are my go to's for finding balance without being over stimulated. I can also relate to the house fire analogy Frank presented...lol. That's where Se is a useful function. Hey your house is on fire! Time to take action! Lol

[@theglobalswede760]

I agree, I have discovered that I easily can get anxious about things when I'm by myself thinking too much. That's why I really appreciate school where I can use more of my sensing.

[@Lea-ov8vq]

Fe is also easy enough to satisfy when you learn how to do it properly! The problem is learning how to do it properly 😅 it takes years and years (but you get there eventually)

[@mbtinerd8531]

That makes so much sense actually! I get so overwhelmed with my Te, but this past couple of days has me forced to use it exactly because I noticed I barely do! It's stresses me though, but I do feel good after everything!

[@JokerCrowe]

@@mbtinerd8531 Yeah, the channel Love Who said that people like to exercise their inferior function, it's just that it needs to be done mildly/slowly/carefully. According to LW, if you can give someone a good experience using their inf function, they'll probably start to like you more. :)

[@emanuelmayer]

INFJ: what stresses me out? Details. and the rest. Also reading about the functions and watching your videos are helping me to get in contact to my mostly ignored Se. I now often try to create a connection to my Se, asking myself, how I am, what I see, eat, drink etc. I want to balance it a little bit.

[@joshstump3878]

INFJ here: I need to do work in my backyard, clean my house, tidy up my desk, my room and on and on. But first and most important of all: I need to write about it in my bullet journal.

[@charleslinley4288]

I make people so mad. I write out a potential phone call. I can go by that script perfectly and the person on the phone wouldn't even know it.(Just call them and act natural, uggg) 😆😆😆But that's how I remember. Even if I don't have the little piece of paper I wrote it down on it...I will still remember... because ***I wrote it down.*** It goes directly to a file in my brain.

[@1Robkip]

When I get stressed I hate anything that anyone says, and want to be left alone. When that isn't done, I burst out with tears and anger. -ISTP

[@whocares4607]

Same. - INTP.

[@FebbieG]

I'm an INFP, and my husband is an ISTP, so this is helpful. Thanks.

[@austinmodeen7108]

Emotions are hard to understand, when I get stressed I become a pressure bomb of anger along with a glob of other built up emotions - istp

[@miriamw.]

Probably doesn't apply to INFP's in general, but this is how I am when stressed out: Light to medium stress- People seem to be as inefficient and incompetent as I usually believe I am. 😄 Medium to heavy stress- What do I have to do to get people off my case so I can go back to doing things the way I want? 😂

[@marxiewasalittlegirl]

Yeah, pretty much the same

[@amihayashi8651]

Nope, can't relate to it at all. Butttt, I understand.

[@miriamw.]

I think enneagram type plays a role in how a type reacts to stress. I happen to have strong type 9 tendencies- I really want to maintain the peace. A type 4 INFP might experience stress differently.

[@erikak8665]

Agree.

[@katielarsen2630]

Yes that's exactly it (I'm 4w5 but relate a lot to 9 too)

[@thelostgirl101]

As an INTJ I find it very stressful when my boss challenges my work ethic when I am actually working.

[@kdcadenza4170]

I'm an INTJ but in certain situations under stress I can still get pretty bossy like an ENTJ

[@elenwinl9786]

Same. I become control freak and bossy

[@nataliyap.7341]

Lol. You are a genius! INFJ in here. That's literally what happened to me the other night! Not even having to go far for an example. I have been taking melatonin supplement for a while and i guess i shouldn't have. 30 min after i took a melatonin gummy the previous night i started to experience have never known for me before terrible side effects. The room started spinning in front of my eyes. I began to feel extremely dizzy, nauseous and uncoordinated. I barely got out of bed, feeling out of breath and having trouble to stand up without wanting to throw up. So as i was fighting the feelings of losing consciousness, i still didn't reach for the phone to call 911. I just sat on my bed and tried to recall the event of my dad getting his second stroke before he died 20 years ago. So i just cold-heartedly tried to compare the symptoms i experienced at that moment with what i remembered my dad went through. Then i started to think of all the knowledge i've acquired throughout my life of what i could possibly do in a situation like that and trying to figure out if it were my last moments on this Earth. Then i came to the conclusion that it probably wasn't my time yet (i have certain psychic experiences which led me to believe that i was to live a long life) so i just did my best to apply the knowledge of what i knew to that situation and just decided to wait it out. For the reference, i don't have anyone. I live all by myself and i've never called emergency that night after all, even after struggling to simply remain alive and conscious that night. We, INFJs, are many things. But i think lots of people still undermine our true strength and power that we have inside of us and that we don't always show to others...

[@Multitudes_]

As an INFP, I've definitely come the closest to acting like an unhealthy Te-dom when under a great deal of stress - in terms of being less agreeable, more impatient, more judgmental, more aggressive, more frustrated with people's incompetence and inefficiency. But I think I've only gone full Te-dom in face-offs with actual Te-doms - who, incidentally, are the most likely types to stress me out.

[@diana5616]

Yeah they could be really stressing! My dad has a strong Te and when I try to explain my feeling about something that I troubling me, he gets angry and says stuff like "ok what can you ACTUALLY do to solve this, stop complaining " and I get angry too xD Ps Yeah, he is right, I complain a lot but sometimes I just want to express my sadness and being listened xD

[@cotocoyerakson8195]

@@diana5616 He is a jerk. Parents needs to be suportive if he can't do that he is a failure.

[@diana5616]

@@cotocoyerakson8195 oh no... he IS supportive in his way. He is like "no no I am not good with feelings so I am gonna help you with the practical solutions of your problem" Sometimes he is a bit unsenstive but he always wants to help me

[@cotocoyerakson8195]

@@diana5616 I think I got it. I am an INFP too and I have a ISTP father. Sometimes thinkers can be rude but they have their momments isn't it? Sorry for that. Bad parents and unsensitive people just get me mad. Don't feel bad about complaining... everyone have bad days and life sucks sometimes

[@ls_waifu2789]

The INTP part is so accurate omg! 😭😭 "I know everything, I never make mistakes!! You guys are dumb! We are going to do what I want, end of story!"

[@katnipkatnips]

I'm sorry, this is like what I do all the time- doing what I want and not care about what people think (INFP). But when I'm mad, I feel like acting as INTP, I wanted to just spit out sarcastic logical reasons and not care how people feel.

[@ls_waifu2789]

@@katnipkatnips We're opposites then

[@katnipkatnips]

@@ls_waifu2789 Interesting. I like the INTP humor though. I'm not knowledgeable about all things, but I kinda know the emotional touch points of people. I made an INTJ cry once. Well, not badly, I just know how are they feeling actually and can't help but 'help'. I guess you do you when people are wrong. That's good then leading people to right decisions when they are led by just what they feel.

[@ls_waifu2789]

@@katnipkatnips I guess I never know how people are feeling, but I can imagine what they are thinking about a situation... So sometimes I can help... But the most part of the time I just (with no intention) make sure they are complety aware of the level of "bad" the situation is, which makes everything worst! Plus i usually end up saying "it's not that big deal, stop complaining" 😅🤓😭

[@solarisan_]

I think that Jung's way of understanding functions and types offered more nuances than the MBTI system. It makes no sense to number functions and think that we only use 2 out of 4 in the main stack. We use all of them. Only not in the same way. For example, the inferior function is actually something that may cause insecurity/discomfort for a person. And that infamous 3rd function is the one that directly supports the dominant one since their direction is the same (either I =internal, or E = external).

[@carissahill3414]

I thought it was the dominant one that supports the 3rd but I suppose when you get into a loop they are supporting each other

[@NightCloudI]

That's true I feel closer to my Ti then to Fe sometimes. Especially when i'm in the Ni-Ti loop.

[@dsophie7816]

Enfj here. I was like: naaah, I don't do that, wouldn't be to clever to ignore the stressful situation and do sth conpletely different let alone for sb else. And then I was like dang he's right I really do that. Haha thanks for calling me out Frank :)

[@beanieful204]

lmao fellow ENFJ , relatable

[@DaleBall2]

I'm an infj and I actually do find myself "in the grip" as of late .. I've noticed during these stressful times I've become lost in my ways and have turned to ISTPs more for help and to find more balance in my life by trying to live in a simpler lifestyle which we all know is not in an INFJ's forte. ISTPs tend to b the ones I find myself closest with ATM even though normally I find them uninteresting I am seeing new angles as to how they're helpful to me in this dark place I find myself in... not only are they authentic down to earth ppl but that "boring" side is actually very nice to be around when my thoughts tend to be overwhelming and they just don't seem to care about others as much as me which makes me feel a lot less pressure like I can b whoever I want now and we can just laugh about our misfortunes... When I need to be experimenting to find myself again xSTPs seem to be good company... Maybe it's when ur stress gets so bad that you begin to feel insecure about who you are that you are "in the grip?" And turning to the types in your "function family" for support in helping you remember why you're important is key to loosening this grip?. I do notice they really like being around me too when I'm like this

[@thewritingone24]

As an intj this too correct Thinking about why instead of how or what are facts

[@kaydenbreak4283]

My mom sometimes make jokes that I might ended up staying calm and unbothered even when the house is on fire lol . Like I knew this was gonna happened so why I ended up here my might just lost in thought more😂

[@SM_Shade]

Me, an ISTP, looking at my friends and going, "The fudge you guys stressed about??"

[@47skyeaab6cb]

Frank, could you do an explanation of when a certain type doesn't have much healthy relationship with their own dominant function? Like, how do you think that would play out into their personality dynamics... since you often mention the dominant function as our autopilot mode, I wonder how do you think it would be if their autopilot function had always felt unsafe for them in most of their situation ever since? Like they couldn't really feel they could afford to go into that autopilot mode, even that's how it would have felt most natural, and everything else just feels artificial... Do you think this would force their personality dynamics to masquerade as something else, and maybe even among the reason for a lot of mistypes...

[@diana5616]

Good point! I think something like that happened to me, this is why I am so confused about my type (and I am 27, i should know myself 😅)

[@mbtinerd8531]

I actually had this happen to me. I'm an INFP and it's complicated but during my highschool, I ended up trying to convince myself to 'reject' this weird part of me and try fit in and be like everyone else. I know it sounds like Fe, but it actually isn't since the whole time I never looked into others' feelings but always just zooming in to myself. Constantly asking questions like "is this the right thing todo?" or "am I living my life ok?" and at the back of my head, I was actually trying to convince myself to stop. But I wouldn't listen, I had actually conditioned my mind to reject my identity. Now, being bad at BOTH my Fi and Fe (yes, i sucked at using it), I literally just felt so empty, like I had no idea who I was anymore. The only respite was at home where I had no qualms just being myself. I also 'hated the world' and blamed social norms for my actions, when really, it was just me. I have a feeling other people can relate to this also, but this kind of act resulted in me feeling like I have not made any real connections at all, and at the same time pushing away those I could have had connections with just because they also didn't 'fit in'. I was a terrible toxic person not only to myself but also to my friends, no wonder every year, while everyone stayed with the same group, I always had a friend change. Ever since I discovered I was an INFP (after long thoughts of thinking I was an INFJ), I have started to accept myself. I'm so happy I'm not the only one who has some weird world in their head, or think similarly to me, I'm so happy that I belong in a community. Now, I'm trying to change for the better. Luckily, due to online, my friend in the last year of highschool still talks with me since we're also in the same college course. I used to not feel too much connection with her since she was one of those I befriended when trying to 'fit in' (I think she's an ESFP) but now, I'm starting to see that we actually accept each other and am starting to really appreciate that she still keeps talking with me, and until now, wants to meet me. I would have thought that was annoying before. I'm showing her and my other ESTJ friend sides of me that I would've never shown, and they all accepted it. I'm still developing now, idk how long that would last, but I'm still so glad I ended up in this community. ended up sharing my life's story all of a sudden :))) Just felt that I needed to share it somewhere (as long as I'm anon :)))

[@diana5616]

@@mbtinerd8531 i am really sorry for you. Maybe your friends still accept you because, even if you tried to hide yourself, maybe those aspects of you have always been visible to them. Smoothen, probably, but they exist. I mean, this is you. And btw you should not be afraid to be yourself (unless you are a sociopathic killer. In that case, NO🤣). If someone does not like you, it only means that you are not "compatible" and you are going to find someone else :) I can get the Fi covered with Fe. To me, it's like I am always kind and concerned about to not make others feel sorry. But I am always like "oh if someone did this to me, I d feel really bad so I won't do it!" But sometimes I do not realize that maybe that person does not give a shit about that and he/she so much more easy going than me . Still confused of I have Fe or Fi, actually

[@mbtinerd8531]

@@diana5616 Oh, and I also get that thing abt not wanting to cause trouble for others! I dont like feeling like Ive caught the other person hurt either. I think differentiate if u have Fe or Fi is more about how aware you are of the emotions of others or yourself. I think if u spend a lot of time thinking abt how you feel abt things, it's most likely Fi. But if you feel that you know how others feel more than yourself, then it's most likely Fe. Though, honestly I don't believe that if ur a specific type, you can ONLY use the ones in your stack. Like just cuz you're an INFP, you can't use Fe. MBTI is just a matter of preference and tendency. Depends on what you like using, it will take time to really know which one's your preference but you'll find out soon :)) Good luck on that part!

[@diana5616]

@Moon I miss the "natural ego" and "super ego" definitions :/ are they from Objective Personalities right?

[@yoxhivmoxhi6653]

As an ENTP, this is accurate. The other day I was at the mall with my friends when one of us felt the ground shake a tiny bit. No one else felt it, not even me, but I started narrating every possible solution in case there was an earthquake.

[@richsackett3423]

How annoying. - ENTP

[@OMNISCIENCE_INCARNATE]

I'm on the boarder of intp and entp and I would 100% do that too

[@isiajahhhahahababblvjylvjy1034]

I once got a random pain and I was like "Well I'm dying". I'm an ENTP also.

[@Nautiliam]

How I (INFJ) and my friend (INTJ) understood the grip theory was that the grip was kind of a self-preservation mechanism where drown in your inferior function because your dominant one was becoming toxic. For exemple: If I get really in a pretty stressful situation my mind will go on full mayhem thinking way too much (over-Ni) and will come a point where I get in a Se grip (not thinking at all and focus on *now* ) to get me out of this now toxic Ni. I don't think we saw this anywhere, we just concluded it based on Ni, so it might not be reliable, but it we think it makes sens.

[@kdcadenza4170]

Usually I get stressed because I like living in my mind and not on earth and just enjoy existing and doing things I enjoy and then I get stressed because I know I actually have to do real things and the thought of doing it makes me sad but as someone who's organized I know I have to do it or else all will go to hell so the stress doesn't go away until I've done whatever I have to do and could come back to my previous state of being ~ INTJ

[@cocou.u3530]

I was watching this video and then Frank mentioned the word ESSAY, YOU JUST REMINDED ME OF THE VERY IMPORTANT ESSAY I HAVE TO TURN IN, THANK YOU SO MUCH 😭✨

[@intothemindshaft]

As Enfp at work I get super calm and pragmatic and logical under stress. At home yes, that bruise means my insides are rotting.

[@simpletomash]

I am glad it's moving this direction with Frank's channel.

[@beanieful204]

ENFJ here. making sure people are happy and avoiding my own problems is a daily thing for me

[@danika9411]

Please feel very hugged right now 💕

[@beanieful204]

@@danika9411 tyyy u2

[@misslost9092]

Thanks a lot Sir , it was a great video! I realised as an INFJ I recently had to deal with an event where my friend was having a seizure and its for the first time I ever witnessed one. The epileptic scream, the jerks everything was so foreign that at first I thought he was playing or actin something out... Untill I realised he was descending to the ground and it hit me that something was wrong. I didnt wait to analyze what was happening I just ran outside to get help. I think my Se is balanced out during emergencies!

[@richsackett3423]

You did wait, though. I saw a girl in junior high have one and knew instantly from the look on her face when it started. Then she went over.

[@misslost9092]

@@richsackett3423 That's great... The quicker the better! I was attending school after 2 years and the guy wasnt facing me so I was kinda confused what's up

[@veracuskar3017]

If you build yourself with positive thinking, sometimes it can help. Infp. Thanks for the video ☺️

[@Chigger]

I'm coming to grips (LOL) with the fact that I may have a stress/worry/anxiety disorder, so this video was released with great timing. Sincerely, an ENFP.

[@mandarinadreux9572]

This is how the grip presented in me as well. An eating disorder and social anxiety. For me, the only thing that helped and got me out of it was to identofy the stressor and remove it (in my case i ended my degree). And then I took a timeout for about 6 months to heal and spent a lot of time just by myself and with my thoughts, taking long walks, enjoying quiet and learning to be okay with the silence. I wish you all the best! Everyone's journey is different. Admitting that something's wrong is the first step. - lots of love, a fellow ENFP, one year out of the grip

[@Elelwyn]

I definitely feel the grip theory when I’m under stress as an ENFJ; if I’m freaked out enough about something, nobody matters anymore and I go complete cold fish analysis bot. Maybe like you said, it works best for EJ’s!

[@hidyveg]

LOVE these analytical style vids

[@KristineTran]

Every Sunday, I get excited to see a new video from Frank :)

[@aosorachan]

Thank You Frank 💙✨Dealing with the SE function as INFJ may be very difficult at times. Your videos are always motivating.

[@khanglieu4384]

Yesterday was the first time I heard about "the grip", and now you made a vid about it . you must be a wizard :) love your content!

[@sango8755]

I'm just in love wid his hair ✨

[@justsomenobody889]

INTJ, guilty as charged that I would be trying to analyze the cause of the fire while it's still burning around me. =D As as example, recently someone had a seizure in front of me and my husband said I was alarmingly calm and I think it's because I had previously read that all you're supposed to do when someone is having a seizure is make sure they don't get a concussion while they are flailing. I wasn't really making good decisions though because I probably should've been trying to call 911 lol. So then while the seizure-patient was sent to the hospital I immediately got online and started reading medical papers about epilepsy risk factors. :D Yep, not that useful in the crisis. As for this "shadow function" thing, I tend to agree with you Frank. When my ESFP side comes out it is definitely child-like but feels more like it's coming out because it's always being suppressed. Instead of when stressed it tends to come out when the opportunity presents itself and the situation calls for it (like when I'm three drinks deep at a party for instance). Can you imagine, I used to be accused of not being an INTJ because sometimes I actually LIKE to dance! lol

[@amyblais8191]

This makes perfect sense. As an infj, I avoid se so much that it gets me into trouble and feeling super stressed.

[@zzs33]

That beverage holder round thing is awesome

[@terig8974]

Very timely video. I'm dealing with a stressful situation today and I Ti'ed the crap out of it. I'm still stressed, but I put enough information together to make sense of things. I can confirm that being bothered about not seeming like I care enough about people's feelings can be a big source of stress in relationships for me.

[@karisshma]

the labcoat exudes Doc. Brown but the outfit exudes John Watson - he's SERVING y'all 💅🏻💕

[@StephanieMarconi]

Ok but why is this hair so cute on you?? 😍

[@sarahrcurley]

Brilliant video Frank! Learnt so much! Need to "work out" that inferior function more often, be aware of when the dominant function goes into overdrive during stressful situations. Really interesting point re inferior function grip.

[@maxime2445]

Intp. I speak really loudly yelling at something often my PC when it doesn't work, or when I see online idiocy

[@misscogito9865]

Yeah, we apparently enter the ‘Gordon Ramsay in the Hell’s Kitchen’ mode under profound stress. Rare but scary.

[@TheYMAQ]

My inferior funtction (Te) always showed up, when I was stressed out in shool. But it helped to get work done on one weekend, which was supposed to be done over half an year. I guess, if we could overcome our weeker selfes, we could all live a much more balanced life. But it's as hard as it sounds. When I am in this mode of only focusing on Te, then people around me are like: You see? If you want it, you can do it. You are just lazy. And at this moment I always had this thought, that people are now expecting something from me. And this lowered my motivation. So what I learned is, to do this for your SELF and really bring this in your conscious by for example repeading it loud. And to find something where you can use your inferior function for something you got motivation on. For me it is organizing my self to have less stress during my life and a work in the social field, where my dominant functions find there playground, but also my Te has to be used. But it doesn't suck my energy out that much, because I'm organizing stuff for something where my moral compass is saying: "Yes! Let's do it."

[@luandthelion]

So you’ve been asking for video ideas and I’ve been noodling on it, (although I didn’t hear you ask in this video, HAHA, whoops)! Here’s one I thought would be fun: VIDEO IDEA: at least a four parter, where you go over The Beatles: Get Back and talk about their four personalities and the cognitive functions they are displaying, especially in the conflict, and how it compares to your earlier videos and what you think of them each individually overall! Also, were you disappointed with Paul, did it not surprise you, or did you take it with a grain of salt?

[@ArtistIntuiting]

Another brilliant video 😊 Love how you mentioned the stakes being higher, that is so true, I have found I can get really stuck in the planning when it's something important to me, I was terrible for using up time that way in Uni. I think over the years I've learnt to recognise when it's starting to go past the point of being useful, so even if I can't bring myself to move forward with that thing, I'll at least go do something else that will help further along 😅 Love the look here and the tie ☺ …made me laugh that I was imagining the steak before it appeared 😂 also I adore the way you advertise the merch lol, the description of the mug is wonderful lol

[@LumiNyte]

I'm an INFP. Yeah, stress does make me over-rely on my Fi but also there were times stress made me over-rely on my Ne as well. What does that mean?

[@pupplehead108]

Its true lol. When I experienced a sudden chest pain or something weird in my body, I would start overreacting in my mind and it'd eventually end with.. "its alright im ready to die anyway, in theory" - entp

[@heatherholt4136]

Thank you frank I don’t feel so stressed out anymore now that I think about it. I do get a bit frustrated and upset at times but it isn’t so bad like before now I can address them better and work on things! My biggest stress was the fact I can’t see or hear well and joy being able to express myself well even though I have had a wider vocabulary I have not had the courage to use it however I do now and my life has gotten so much better so thank you!

[@lisa_gay]

I looked up my (ENFP) inferior functions and I just realized that while I'm happiest and most at home in my Ne and Fi functions, my office job for the past 30 years has required and honed my Te and Si skills. I've never been happy in my job even though I'm really, really, really good at it. Now it all makes sense!! Anybody know of a job opening that pays six figures and requires high Ne/Fi functions?!? 😄😄

[@bayanalgazi8133]

What job do you hate that made you use Te/Si

[@michaelmiller5177]

Coming from an INTP every unexpected emotional encounter causes stress because of the Fe. Those encounters get internalized, but not dealt with, and "the grip" happens with an emotional (often angry) outburst. In my early 20's I had gotten married, found out my work place was closing, and my wife was put on bed rest in a span of three weeks. I was remodeling a house my parents owned in exchange for rent and a few days before moving in we brought out cat to the house so he could get used to the place. My brother asked to stay at the house and we said "sure, but keep the cat inside". He decides to throw a party at the house. I get to the house mid morning no cat and crap all over the place. I explode. I was out of my rational mind for about half an hour. Based on that experience I think it's both a build up of stresses over time that leads to a Fe grip. Once you've gotten it out of your system you can be rational again, but there are defiantly times where the rational part of my mind shuts off. I try to channel that anger and stress into times where destruction is appropriate but those are fewer and fewer.

[@disgustof-riley8338]

I think the thing about grip is that even though we ignore the inferior functions they still run in the background, but when they get overwhelmed they CAUSE the dominant function overdrive. For example, an Si dom doubles down on their Si because their Ne is making them paranoid about everythint bad that could happen.

[@GoldenWolf248]

The editing is always fantastic! Really keeps me extra entertained! Also, as an ISTJ who is constantly stressed, what you said about us is true.

[@whitneyd6827]

I feel as though I've been in a Ti grip before. I was extremely stressed trying to balance class, my thesis, ongoing mental health issues, and a relationship with glaring issues. I snapped a few times, but once I actually became so engrossed in Ti (getting really picky and secluded with my research, refusing help, etc) that Fe started to seem like a nuisance in my way and I ended up scaring the hell out of my girlfriend. I don't think I'd ever made someone cry in that way before and it haunts me years later. I didn't harm her or anything, rather she was scared for me. We're both doing a lot better now, although we're not together. I don't think I've ever spoken about that actually, feels good to get it out. Being in a grip sucks, I kind of buy that theory. - enfj

[@mandarinadreux9572]

I've experienced it too, so I believe it as well. Maybe not everyone's susceptible to it. I'm enfp but during one 6 year long period iny my life, i became quiet, passive-aggressive, dissociated, obsessive (i developed anorexia), i also had social anxiety and never went out of the house, had periods of intense brainfog, amnesia almost. I removed the stressor (a degree that had me rely overly on Si and Te, besides other things) and ended my already badly damaged relationship. I overcame the eating disorder. And I've become a different person. I feel like I've finally woken up from a long, dreamless, dark sleep. I realised I had a lot of trauma to work through I used to run from and I finally sat down and did some work. It was hard but it needed to be addressed. It felt like a frickin psychosis. I used to test as infp before but I think I was mistyped because of my trauma triggered social anxiety. I've really done a 180 and I'm a lot more comfortable in myself and I feel a lot more "real" ... There's still a way to go. But yes, the grip is scary.

[@araujomix9342]

​@@mandarinadreux9572 amnésia é trauma, Tambem passei por isso.

[@lolkayleen2757]

Idk abt u but my infj self gets into Se grips when I’m stressed. It usually manifests in overeating or oversleeping or other physical indulgences when I’m ignoring my physical body for too long

[@ShowThemUrLove]

What really stresses me out as an INFJ is my inner self who just can not shut up. "Have you closed the door? Is it really what you need to do? What if it does not go the way you planed it? Remember that time in the 5th grade, ..." If I just could shut down my inner voice.

[@charleslinley4288]

Our inner dialogue can be so loud. Maybe that's why we kind of need to zone out from time to time. Seem like other people don't think that way at all. But if it's some emotions involved I can't zone out. As INFJ...you pick up on other people's feelings so much you will forget about your keys or where you parked, etc. Anybody else done that?

[@ShowThemUrLove]

@@charleslinley4288 Been there done that. Last night I was on the phone with my mom. She was upset and of course I was as well. I made myself some tee to calm down a little bit .... and I lost the cup. I found it in the bathroom 2 hours later and I don't even remember I was in there. Every time I leave my house I have to go through my check list: keys, lock the door, my purse, mobile phone. I have to remind myself to concentrate and to stay "on the ground".

[@charleslinley4288]

Your comment made me laugh!!!

[@dorto7779]

It's crazy how much I learnt from just one video. I've been using mugs incorrectly all these years!

[@zubatski]

Infp - very accurate, thank u James💫

[@richsackett3423]

ENTP - Much greater stress is the drag of dealing with mundane details which distract from genius ideation. It's stressful being sidetracked from thinking about important things (better labeled as "importants") by everyday trivial silliness which really doesn't amount to anything.

[@martawawrzen6574]

"everyday trivial silliness" oh I feel you.... ~INTP

[@beingsomeone201]

Entp more big xm i have to give more problematic is this...n scary thing is 50% time is its right

[@jswem82]

Oh man did I need to hear this right now. I've been in the midst of a Se tidal wave, of course mostly of my own creation. Despite trying to be more aware of these, it still feels like I'm being completely overwhelmed. But this gave me the wake up call I needed and I intend to make the most of that. So, thank you for what you do FJ! You never know when it'll be just the right thing at just the right time for someone, and I hope that makes all the effort worth it :)

[@simplyme4255]

Yes, Frank. I AM GRIPPED!!!The more important something is and the more that I have a desired result in mind, the more unhinged I seem to get. It becomes self-sabotage because, I am blind to what is going on in the day to day. I rely so much on my intuition which rarely lets me down. However, if I don't learn how not to do that then, every good and great thing that comes along, I'm going to push away or destroy. I feel things so deeply and go into my mind so intricately when I come across something or someone I desire. And, who's going to understand that except for another infj. I honestly don't have any idea how to stop being me. Thank you so much Frank James. You are a wonderful teacher. And, the coolest quirkiest and handsomest guy around. Sincerely, Carly💙

[@ianaxel1111]

Hey Frank have a great day

[@wisdomtooth2340]

Well, the timing is just right 🥴

[@Chigger]

I feel you.

[@wisdomtooth2340]

@@Chigger 🥲

[@JasonMoir]

Great video, even with the misspelling at 12:11. That stresses me out.

[@abbyholloway6011]

Frank, I agree with your theory. It makes much more sense than the common grip theory, and I think you're so spot on with the build-up idea. I wonder if it may be similar for the instinct stacks of the enneagram. 🤔 Well-presented theory! It was very convincing, and you got me on board! 😊

[@iuliaforje7175]

As an ENFP with obsessive compulsive disorder this is basically how my experience of the disease is like. Si: I know you don't like listening to me but I feel something wet on your leg. Ne: what if its car oil from the street. Omg chemicals! Dangerous! Fi: I'm scared. Te: Listen up here! I have the solution! Just change your clothes and wash 3 times!

[@akoskovacs6830]

I think you slightly underestimate the usage of the tertiary function. Auxiliary-tertiary axis is kinda balanced unlike the other one which causes that people tend to ignore the inferior function. For example Fi is pretty apparent for INTJs.

[@admygalaxy3]

I could watch an hour of you going into the stress vs grip stress reactions of the personality types. Seriously, you are great at explaining all this.

[@lowellmiller6663]

At least one silver lining to the childhood trauma I experienced was the activation of my inferior function that I still use to this day, more than I would had I not experienced the trauma.

[@katmgorska]

Interesting, i would say that under stress isfj would be doing what you described for like enfp - seeing all negative possibilities. Maybe it's when they start using Ne already, but not in the right way. As stress is big emotions, to get out isfj could use Fe and talk things through. Not easy, but I think true. Otherwise with own logic they would always do the same thing and avoid future.. Great sunday video:)

[@erikak8665]

I'm right inbetween INFP, INTP, INTJ, INFJ (less than 1-5% difference) and yes, I agree in one of those ways depending on the situation...

[@s.gideon189]

You may want to look into some descriptions of the cognitive functions and then the cognitive functions stacks for each of those types; they're quite different from each other. It may help narrow it down for you. :) I just saw Frank has a video on function stacks, but I haven't seen it yet.

[@PrismMime47]

Skimming through some of your playlists I'm guessing you're a perceiver.

[@erikak8665]

@@PrismMime47 Thanks 😊 Was it the Baby Elephant Tantrum? 😆

[@marcwemtrust1480]

Thanks guys, take care, blessings.

[@itsjie962]

Spot on for the INFJ one, Frank. Just this morning, I went out and took a long drive in my hometown because I had a mental breakdown last night and thoughts like "why am I feeling this way, what sort of undealt trauma/issues that's been pinning me down lately" kept crossing my mind. So yeah, Se just kinda forced me to take a hard look at the real world, and just try to sing in the car and other sensory stuff I could do.

[@krazykylelapointe2710]

I’ve noticed ‘Grip’ in both me (enfp) and my partner (infj) before. When I get stressed and everything goes down the poopoo hole, I can get oddly rigid and bossy like some sort of childish ISTJ. She can just start embracing life’s pleasures, let’s say, a little too liberally, like a childish ESTP. I’ve seen it with other people before too, although I can’t speak for why exactly it happens.

[@carissahill3414]

Have you heard of the four sides of the mind theory? the other three sides of the mind for an Enfp is ISTJ, INFJ, ESTP. There might be something to that theory the more I look around at this stuff. You just named all four sides of the mind.

[@carissahill3414]

To be clear, you just named the subconscious of each mind. The unconscious mind of the ENFP is INFJ and the INFJ is ENFP. And the superego "The Angel" as I like to think of it is the subconscious of the other. I figure I might as well think of that side of the mind as "The Angel" if I have any possibility to function well with it. So you and I as ENFPs REALLY need to come to terms with our ESTP side and your partner needs to come to terms with her ISTJ side. I know that is flipped from what you said because you said the subconscious but once both of you pratice tapping into and talking with your subconscious, that side won't be so unruly and you can start to address the unconscious aspects to bring them to awareness. And once you have dealt with the unconscious, you can journey to make peace with your superego and see "Your Angel"

[@carissahill3414]

So essentially, "Your Angel" is fallen until you are able to come to terms with it so that it can support you instead of take over you.

[@melodyconte]

"And that my friend is what we call - Lobsterfest" Got interrupted by a commercial at the worst time! 🤣

[@charleslinley4288]

😁😁😁

[@jokerxd9900]

I love it how he talked about wich types are more emotional and it showed me wich types are smartest😂😂

[@Sopherian]

You are spot on with the INTP!

[@hibahmehreen9520]

The time stamps are quite useful, thank you for doing it and please keep doing it.

[@dischqrge4846]

Loved the video

[@zosoart]

Bro Holy shit I've been away from your channel for a little while and now you're closing in on a Mil!!!!! Amazing work dude 👏

[@conradsmith9441]

They make grip look unhealthy, but the truth is that the inferior function will probably never dominant our lives. If we are using the inferior function it probably is actually a HEALTHY response to our other functions not doing the job and us finally recognizing it and putting in the work to use it.

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

Right. Healthy INFJs might not love to chime in on extroverted sensing as a rule (compared to Ni) but it’s not usually that faulty. Unless they’re actually unhealthy. Frank James makes a wonderful and fair illustration of the relative disparity between Ni and Se in this video but that message isn’t always represented with Jungian/MBTI analysts who otherwise really know what they’re talking about. I don’t like the way INFJs are sometimes painted as having absolutely terrible Se. It’s usually not that bad. It’s just a function they don’t love for fear of over-indulgence in things that are common and don’t directly serve their Ni-Fe vision. It doesn’t make their Se perceptions unreliable or inaccurate. They’d just rather not use that function when they don’t have to. And ultimately I feel like INFJs find that Ni-Se unification the more mature they get. I don’t think there are many XNFJ types older than 45 who can’t be at least vaguely balanced in how they use their four conscious cognitive functions.

[@MelanieFromCanada]

(INFP). Thank you, I feel much better. I am an artist and the last 2 years have been devestating to my soul, watching people choose self over society, especially my own friends and family. I have been mourning the loss of who I used to be..full of awe and wonder over rainbows and the dead bodies at the rnd of them, and this has effected my ability to create the artwork I enjoy creating. But you have given me hope that this isn't who I am all the time and I will take that and cling to it like I cling to the existential dread that is gripping the world. Only with hope!

[@sanyayaaar]

Hey, I wish you all the best you are amazing

[@SelenaSea]

You're not alone, Melanie-INFP. How are you doing? Have you returned to your art? I hope so. 💞 You've articulated exactly what my beautiful, artistic INFP friend said last year. But he has been a soul-soothing, courageous, inspiring, truth-telling touchstone for me and many others these past few years. He doesn't realise how much, but I tell him. 🌦🌈🎨 We see you, wonderful INFPs. You're healers, and this world needs you so much right now. And it's a whole lot more fun and amazing with you in it anyway, just 'cause you're YOU. ❤ Your ENFP raving fans. 🤗

[@desireehiggins6751]

I'm an infj and an horrible at using my sensing when stressed out. I went into a Office Depot the other day (it's next to the Petco I was headed to) and it took me like over 30 seconds to realize I was in the wrong store (and this isn't the first time this type of thing has happened to me)

[@ruposhirose]

This video really helped me understand cognitive functions more easily. Before I was always really confused.

[@lost9050]

I mentioned this on my last trip to my colleagues because of a serious case that happened: do you know those people who get nervous when they see a crooked painting on the wall? That's exactly what I feel, but instead of the picture, it's people interacting inappropriately and making coexistence bad. My God... this also activates that evil INTP I told.

[@chalphy_]

Thank you Frank James

[@emi_g1024]

I love the explanation of the inferior function popping up like an angry kid. As an ENFJ I’ve been trying to place how my Ti comes in and it finally clicked when you said that!! When I’m too upset I suddenly and immaturely detach and become “logical”and selfish. Finallyy it makes sense thank you for the context FJ!

[@emi_g1024]

No wonder i cause my own problems when I try to follow my Ni without ever consulting my internal logic??? Duh omg

[@solviviflores2904]

If you think I'm going to spend more than 13 minutes of my time watching this knowing I'll be late for work, then you're right.

[@charleslinley4288]

LOL

[@mjprozac]

You do such a fantastic and clear job of presenting this information. And then I go to apply it to myself and make myself all of the more confused about my own type. I binge Information when I’m stressed and then mull it over constantly trying to understand it and come up with solutions.But I’m pretty good under acute stress; then I just get in the moment and stop thinking and start reacting. But I can only handle that for short bursts of time and feel like I’m setting a part of myself aside to make that happen. I think what I’m describing is probably Ni/Ti in the first case and maybe Se in the second, but maybe the second is Te?

[@elizabethray8629]

I think the trip theory us actually really true for me as an INFP. Start to feel a lot at first when I'm stressed, then the extraverted thinking starts to come through when feeling gets too much

[@jennyneon]

What stresses me is when it's my turn to do my presentation in front of the class.

[@EK-jo8cd]

As an INFP I personally agree with your impression, that tips and ideas are especially unpleasant and unwanted for me if I'm already stressed out. But I also know the experience of the grip. It is happening, when stakes are high, and I fail to follow my gut due to anxiety or something else. Then self-doubt intensifies and I don't know what I value anymore. In those times I desperately reach out and ask for opinions and ideas. To a degree that seems even childlike dependent. It's an awful place where I don't feel confident enough to make any move on my own asking for advice on everything. So, I feel there is some truth in this concept of grip, even if I understand your point of few that the dominant function my stay the dominant preferred function under stress. I guess one reason for this could be that most people don’t let come it so far in their imbalance of handling stress. (For me it is a very rough and frightening experience to lose my sense of self, numbing out and being disconnected to my feelings. So, I won’t let get the grip get hold of me ever again. But I watched a lot of your videos and I promise that I will take to account and ask for advice and follow advice that makes sense in a general way (not only for myself) more often. I guess it is better to train this function in easy times than wait for stressful experiences that drain my dominant function.)

[@designkolamart8828]

Well, recently two of your videos are in perfect timing for me. Earlier one was for the smartness of types, where you also somehow related career. Just in that week I was searching if an infj can be good at ... (right now I'm switching my career) Though to be honest I was just searching and was not that much big deal for me. But then this one... I have some personal issues going on in my life for a long time and certain steps have to be taken for that, but again I can't take that before certain preparations. So till then, lots of planning are going on in head and yes, the fear of result. Just as stated in the first part of this vid. Maybe everyday I don't think about planning for hours(consciously or maybe even subconsciously), but I can't remember when was the last day I didn't think about planning. Human interaction also matters that I didn't do much in these days. Something more happened and that got me last week. Ni overloaded and burn out. Nothing else, just taking a step back. Then will jump in daily functions again. In balanced way as much as possible. Not that I don't try for balance, I believe in it, but only if we knew all the procedures all the time. Anyway, thanks for sharing. Some of the things were so accurate here I was like 😲😥