What To Do After Sex

[@joybanks]

So glad this video exists. Everybody talks about sex but not the aftermath.

[@ajohonly3721]

Joy Banks aftermath hahahahaha

[@done_done_done_man]

@@ajohonly3721 Aftermath is Aftercare. :)

[@tommac21]

Why does anyone need to talk about either. These people know just as much as you and I. They only tell you what they do that makes them happy Does not apply to others. You do realize that there are absolutely no experts on this subject. It's just their opinion

[@JuneStay]

The girl that said she takes the time to ask for a performance review!! 🙋🏽😂😂 Xx

[@sinenhlanhla9339]

Hahahahhahahahahaha! Me AF!

[@tw6361]

Chile!!! A sista need a whole review!!! 😂😂😂

[@carolynmcintyre2199]

Lmaoooo, I cried!

[@breonawarren1507]

*looks over “Was that top 3”?

[@SCORPIUS.98]

MEEEEEEE HAHAHAH

[@ajohonly3721]

University of KZbin is literally killing it. I will graduate 🎓 this summer with the bachelor in knowing things about myself.

[@auntyjasmine2566]

See you at the graduation ceremony girl

[@zinzibam]

I agree 1000% KZbin is so educational

[@np5462]

Best comment I’ve seen in a while

[@shukriabdi4271]

This is literally my favorite comment on KZbin 😂👏🏾👏🏾

[@Samson16436]

Yes!! Same 👏

[@bananapuding866]

My virgin self trying to get a tip...

[@victoriaosawaru6121]

In every sense👀

[@Lafilledlapluie]

Same 😂

[@abhayraichan8020]

Gooood

[@jazdeluce8317]

Same haha

[@firefox4743]

😅😂

[@LEbackstage]

Go pee, freshen up/whipe down and then lay back down to bask in the afterglow for a while and get some cuddles. Aftercare including talking is important for us...especially in the way we play.

[@stephanielopez8163]

Exactly what my partner and I do👍🏼

[@priscahermene9107]

Heru Jr. of Kemet how is it codependency

[@thecourageousorange]

@Heru Jr. of Kemet they might play rough in the bedroom. then it's good to just connect after and make sure that you show love and affection. (in my opinion)

[@artmariemakes]

Yes. This is perfect

[@artmariemakes]

OrigamiOrange your definitely correct with that

[@HungryThuli]

*Don't* *flush* *"flushable"* *wipes* . My sister worked for a waste water company and even the "flushable" branded ones clog up all the sewers when mixed with solidified cooking oil. If you use them bin them like with sanitary towels and tampons.

[@tropicalcandyland6266]

Then we won’t mix it with cooking oil. I don’t think anyone spills cooking oil in toiley

[@HungryThuli]

@@tropicalcandyland6266 They do pour it down their sink though. It all goes through the same drainage system

[@O123-d9w]

How about tissue?

[@HungryThuli]

@@O123-d9w Well yeah obviously toilet paper is ok, just not the wipes. Toilet tissue is weak enough that it degrades quickly in water. Although I remember I went to Corfu in Greece once, and the plumbing on the place wasn't very good, so they told us that you couldnt flush paper and you had to bin it 🤢, but unless you're in a very rural area toilet paper is fine. If you mean like cough tissues though then idk, just use the toilet roll that's designed to flush to be safe

[@jclyntoledo]

The funny thing is I told my old roomie this and they refused to listen. I even pointed out the contradictory messaging bc in the back it also said in small letters that flushing any wipes isn't recommended and can cause clogging. I was like the only difference is flushable wipes are smaller that's it. But having a trash can in the bathroom just for wipes was apparently "too much" and "disgusting" 😐. Like dude but when ppl have babies they don't flush the wipes, it goes in the genie trash thing for a reason. I swear ppl listen to the false msgs in marketing even when it doesn't make sense.

[@kiribee2042]

There is no such thing as a flushable wipe!! It never breaks down. No wipes should go in the toilet, the same with tampons, pads, condoms, etc. Of course use the wipes, but put them in the bin!!!

[@AnnRey18]

Can we take a moment to appreciate the calm voice of the Dr?

[@aurora4218]

Soooo flushable wipes aren't actually flushable. They might not get stuck in your toilet, but they do a lot of damage to the sewers. So feel free to use them, but throw them in the trash after, not the toilet.

[@semt9]

My husband and I have the same approach, entirely by accident. We both love post sex intimacy so for a few minutes we kiss and cuddle and we share our reactions about how it was. We try not to stay in bed too long otherwise we fall asleep before cleaning up (oops)...so either I get up first or he does, we clean up and we come back and cuddle, either crash or pillow talk.

[@artmariemakes]

Whenever I’d have friends with benefits type of relationship my partners didn’t care to cuddle after and I’d feel extremely sad. My current partner always cuddles with me after and we bask in the glow and it’s great. Now I understand what the problem was.

[@freedamnsweetcree7235]

I cry sometimes too :) I find it funny (after) because I cry when it feels extremely good. My boyfriend and I were both confused the first time it happened. But we had a conversation about it. Established it was a good thing and he no longer felt bad. 💜👍😊

[@Samson16436]

Same 😌

[@MiVidaBellisima]

I’m almost 30 and married but Shan is so smart that wondering if I’ll still learn something new! Lol ❤️

[@abhayraichan8020]

Teach em up

[@MysteryGirl2471]

I've been seeing a lot of comments about flushable wipes and, as a textile student, I want to clear up some things. Flushable wipes (generally) are biodegradable, yes. However, they break down at a much slower rate than toilet paper and can cause issues with septic systems if a plethora exists. That being said, if you use them and throw them in the bin, you can rest assured that they will breakdown in landfills without a significant environmental impact.

[@Sophiasisi]

Disposable wipes? No, use a washcloth please 🌎

[@Mimismyth]

right, just terrible!! why promote a product thats terrible for the environment, just use a towel shan damn

[@thecourageousorange]

yes. plus flushable wipes are disposable. not flushable.

[@BrittneyColemanActress]

Washcloths carry so much bacteria no thanks.

[@karyn6624]

Washcloths carry bacteria and can cause microscopic tears to the vaginal area especially after sex

[@janeinma]

@@karyn6624 so instead you wash using a bidet then dry off using a frequently replaced towel. wipes and toilet paper are just spreading the bacteria around.

[@breonawarren1507]

I had no kinda sexual education (or the proper kind) growing up but I kinda self educated, except 1 problem. I started becoming active in the sex world & had no idea I was supposed to pee right after sex till like 2nd or 3rd UTI. My friend had to tell me 😂. I was 19 now 22, and to this day I’m like Wow, i was really out of the loop. Shout out to Shan for the tips over the years 👏🏽

[@ajohonly3721]

Breona Warren we live and we learn girl you’re getting it better and better.

[@adriennedebarros6887]

You’re not alone. I hate that sex is something so normal but we never talk about or normalize the care after sex and how to care for yourself afterwards.

[@aubbityaub7787]

Please Shan do not say "flushable" those wipes are creating huge amounts of waste in the sewer system. Obviously a wash cloth is best because you can reuse it but if you have to use a wipe please throw it away and do not flush it.

[@karyn6624]

Wash cloths can actually be very violent in the vaginal area and can cause microscopic tears

[@janeinma]

using a bidet is the best thing to do.

[@sinenhlanhla9339]

This video has good vibes only! I shared it with my partner because I always feel flustered after sex and need space whereas he wants to cuddle. It's definitely going to facilitate a conversation I didn't know how to have. Thanks Shan ❤️

[@AshantiRashad]

This might sound off but I’m happy being celibate. I only been on this journey for 3 months however soul ties is a real thing just want to build my relationship more than just sex .

[@firefox4743]

Interesting!! and how are you feeling thus far on your journey ?

[@mleekahh]

There is a time and a place for everything. Sometimes our soul needs space/time away to truly grow within. Space away from extra sexual energies and focusing on oneself. But othertimes our soul is at a place where it can do those things. Soul ties also depend on where your heart and soul is at.

[@CherrelleColeman]

I've been celibate for about 1 year and 4 months. I completely understand wanting a true connection instead of casual sex and their is nothing wrong with waiting.

[@DA-er8vy]

You aren’t celibate LMAO she stopped having sex for three months and called herself celibate

[@firefox4743]

@@CherrelleColeman I concur there isn't nothing wrong with it . I've been married for 10 years and celibate for 2 ...lol jk if its a spiritual journey or a examination of ones life it does put life and life's dicisions into perspective which usually brings about change and change is good sometimes 😀..I'm curious what brought you to that decision of wanting to be celibate for a 1yr and 4 months ? if you don't mind my asking 😀

[@theo-doll_masuku]

wow... I thought I was weird for wanting to cry after a good round...

[@Samson16436]

I've only done that with my current partner, specially if it goes long time between. It's kind of like a mix between the powerful physical experience and the fact that I've missed his body 😔

[@Leybaaby]

When Cottonelle says that they’re working tirelessly to to get their products back on the shelves... what exactly does that mean? Is that further unethical of workers ? or is the labor is safe, ethical and properly compensated ? This is a genuine question and by no means meant to prompt an outrage against you.

[@rachellawrence702]

You guys heard the candle wax lady... Like where u go honey????

[@malika.c]

Lmaoo i thought it was only me 😭

[@lFrenzied]

Loooool I was interested to hear more from her

[@lilyjones2634]

That’s my girl Neicey Peace!!! She is really on some otherworldly shit 😂😂😂

[@salasivante9390]

Yoooo she had me like 😳😂😂😂 she’s too adventurous for me ! Candle wax 😬🙄😭

[@aleashaclark2]

Sometimes I go straight to sleep😂, if its daytime though I'm usually energized makes me happy and optimistic for the rest of the day😂.

[@aellalee4767]

I run to the bathroom after and clean up as well. Didn't realize I had to explain that to guys, one of the last ones was really confused but I guess he wasn't aware of the importance for vulva health and that. I am super sensitive to different lines and condoms so especially after trying something new I really have to make sure I clean up well. I'm grateful you brought this up because it helps me have new language for discussing things beforehand.

[@juliavaoitamaevamareko4661]

YESSS 💃🙌 my post-sex regime entailed similar hygiene habits: 1) 🚽 Toilet (pee out the excess) 2) Wipe front/back lady parts 3) Quick shower

[@MizMima]

Shero?😂😂😂😂

[@irisotero6561]

Sending blessings to you, Jared and, the bebe 💛💛🙏🏾

[@TheReadeShow]

In my last relationship our after sex routine as having toilet roll /baby wipes at hand to do a quick clean up then go separately to the bathroom to pee and clean properly. When we then lived together in our own place we would then go to the toilet together and often shower together and wash each other as a replacement for 'bed cuddles' while still being intmate and caring for each other. It was never a conscious decision to do this, it just naturally fell into place

[@brybaeb]

That’s me! Thank you so much for the feature🥰❤️Loved this!

[@ZoeAceOfSpades]

Please no flushable wipes! So bad for the environment. Use a washcloth.

[@rmmr1168]

The journey of Shans hair leading to this mane! So good!

[@shanboody]

The key to happiness is managing expectations! I hope you guys know I’m an avid wearer of extensions and wigs. That means my hair does look healthier and is longer than before BUT also this is not JUST my hair

[@arisalaycemason]

Shan BOODY you’re so humble 💕

[@AzuraDragonFaether]

I AM OBSESSED WITH DR. MOORE OMG 😍

[@Lafilledlapluie]

Never having had sex this was very surprising and interesting information. Thank you

[@amandakdasilva]

Love this. HOWEVER, flushable wipes are not environmentally friendly. It's marketing but not all safe, there's plenty of sources on it. So I'm kind of surprised to see you pushing them. I respect you so much because you vet information and I think some of your audience trusts you so much that choosing what you promote is important bc they're listening. That said... good on your for the sponsorship!

[@NandiIraz]

I love learning from you and seeing you grow.

[@dosesofjas1000]

This is so informative! You definitely don't hear about clean sex often.

[@AdamlovsEve]

Always so tastefully stated! 👏🏾

[@mayraalexandrayucra6481]

Always educational, love your videos. Blessing to your growing family. 🙏🏽

[@peacheyearth]

Shan I love you for who you are in this world and the content you share! Hope you're well xxx

[@jasminerasco]

I love to cuddle and I do have a lot of energy after. This was great video! 👏🏽💕

[@sincerelyadwoa]

I love the example of what Shan and her partner does after sex to accommodate each others needs, but what are some things yall do if your partner is the tired one and you have energy and want to stay awake? I often get upset after sex when my partner just wants to sleep lol

[@lFrenzied]

Seconded

[@michellek.840]

I cuddle with my boyfriend until he falls asleep, but then l like to get up and have some quality time with myself:)

[@adebeautybox]

You and I are the same. I try to prevent yeast infections, UTIs, etc so I urine after then shower.

[@zinzibam]

This is such an interesting video, first time I’ve ever of a resolution phase. I’ve never put a name to it I’ve jut been unconsciously doing things and having to think about these things is so interesting

[@williamgay3]

cottonelle must have given you a bunch of money for this video BUT that doesn't change the value of the video, great content, and points!

[@pha7ness]

that was super eye opening!! thanks Shan!!

[@theythrive2521]

You can also use a bidet

[@MoeMarie-my3wb]

This video couldn’t have been uploaded at a more perfect time for me😭

[@auridenna]

You just made me interested in toilet paper your skills are inimitable

[@becomingtaija]

Great & informative video! I love you Shan!! Thank you ☺️

[@ayaanwarsan]

Virgin getting married in February and listening 🎧 well here ☺️

[@TeegeJ4]

this ad was done so well idk if cottonelle is available in the UK but if it was I'd be buying

[@rebeccamhagama]

Thanks for always giving the good advice Shan💛

[@indym375]

You gotta love this channel 💜

[@kaydonjay3525]

I love this! Great tips on how to introduce the conversation

[@3alltb]

I have a question "Are baby wipes a good after care for both male and female then pee?" Love this video it made me think about the different ways my go to after care sex routines are because how I feel after having sex.

[@rodneymorris2695]

This was awesome thank you very informative

[@thetruth2648]

Are flushable wipes really flushable? I get it they are your Sponsore we also need to give the other side as will. (planet Care) (the green new deal) Short Answer: Wet wipes can clog and damage your septic system. Even "septic safe" or "flushable" wet wipes are not always safe for septic systems.Besides causing clogs, wipes can actually damage wastewater equipment. the Bottom line is don't flush them put them in the bathroom trash Can or waste basket. Thank you for your time. Always a fan.

[@elaineariolu1140]

I think I’ll be one of those to feel awkward after🤣

[@takeiteasy3525]

Hey Shan - just discovered your channel a few weeks ago and you are awesome! I love your approach to discussing these topics. You speak about after-sex needs in this video... do you have one regarding establishing what a relationship is? Like, one of those conversations that probably should be had, but both parties don't really do that? E.g. a FWB type thing that then becomes something deeper, stops for a reason, then goes back to physicality but there is still a hell of a lot of depth there.

[@dominicdeiacovo3807]

Awesome ADV & marketing done neatly 👏 This said, t'was interesting to get insights from ya'll ^^

[@arijm.925]

love these types of videossss xxx

[@TaraLyz]

I already use wipes when I go to the bathroom in general, due to having a disability that makes my selfcare down there VERY important. Currently dealing with a UTI caused by a medical test that I just had done on Friday.

[@thecourageousorange]

don't flush the wipes tho. just a warning. it will clog up your pipe system. throw em away in the trash.

[@chriswilliams1124]

What I do after sex is wake up Lol

[@LiveLoveLaugh22]

I hope all of you know that flushable wipes ARE NOT really flushable! 🌍🌏🌎

[@ashleytune1598]

I'm fortunate that my first ever sexual partner was actually the one who first introduced me to peeing after sex. We finished and I was about to fall asleep, and he said, "You should probably go pee now to clean out the area." The ONE good thing that came of him being a bit older.

[@JaieElizabeth]

I get super sleepy lol

[@shafna8913]

Where can I find that closing tune? I keep rewinding the last 10 seconds of your videos to groove to that 😂

[@thaladiescorner9989]

My husband and I have the same after math, lay secs, go to toilet wash up, he cools down before my cuddles (depending where or what part of the day off course)

[@madelineg7451]

PLEASE DO NOT FLUSH “FLUSHABLE” WIPES!!!! None are meant to be flushed and cause huge issues at sanitation stations and wastewater treatment plants. It’s a marketing scheme, but they are absolutely not flushable.

[@chocnass]

sometimes i fall asleep for like 10 minutes afterwards lmfao or like yesterday I jump up with energy and find a snack lmfao

[@vijayavarshaa8820]

Notification squad 😬

[@TheOnlyTaps]

"performance review" 💀😂

[@barbiecaessye8760]

I love the video,I have learned alot from you ♥️♥️💯

[@stephanierodriguez9769]

Sending love from NYC 🗽

[@TheStilinski24]

Girl you don’t have to convince me! I swear by those wipes

[@thecourageousorange]

as long as you don't flush em. even tho it says flushable they aren't. put em in the trashcan instead

[@Jmelbu]

We have the exact same ritual so we’re doing life right thank u lol

[@Bessyb44]

I want to hear one of Jarreds entire songs!

[@kam.kam.]

“I can put ya baby mama in a full panic...” Jared -- fighting words. Contemplating words. Introspective words. Reconsideration words. Break up words. I lo... is he on Apple Music?!?

[@noooname]

Welp! Your comment about not cuddling with casual hookups hit me... I’ve gotta change my routine

[@dawn8487]

Suppppper helpful info! Thanks!

[@jodee5547]

I love this video🇯🇲

[@tumblrwinks03]

Pee, snuggle, then eat LOL

[@Gen3ralGrimReaper]

Some women with high sex drive talking about 2-3 rounds can’t keep up themselves on top but expect the man to do all the work. Classic lol

[@accordingtobetty5035]

Omg super weird me and my husband do exactly the same as her and her husband 😳😅 sometimes when he ends up super tired I clean him up with a wipe, but I do always go to the bathroom to pee and clean myself

[@livewithmanon6443]

I don't have a routine after the sex (also i don't have sex with a partner) but i need to hydrate myself after it because i am sweating so much. And i like to shower that sweat of most of the times but sometimes i am to tired for a whole shower

[@giavalentina3959]

I hope you respond to this please Shan , how did you become a sexology teacher because I can't find the degree and major at my college ? ❤️

[@FLdancer00]

"Your journey to becoming a sex therapist begins with a master’s degree in a counseling-related field, an internship, and then a license as a Mental Health Counselor, Marriage and Family Therapist, Professional Counselor, or Clinical Social Worker. Psychologists may also become sex therapists. The next step is to take the additional training in human sexuality and sex therapy education offered by a reputable institution, such as the Sex Therapy Training Institute. You will also need hours of case consultation/supervision to assure that you are competent to treat sex therapy cases."

[@azothbohemio9688]

I listen to Jimi Hendrix, smoke a blunt and enjoy the afterglow in silence.

[@sharanichole]

I run to go pee😁

[@stephanieg2887]

Collaborate with Mama Dr Jones 💓shes an amazing OB/GYN

[@MrStrikemasterice]

lmao 3:11 I was like, yall stew in all that filth ? Couldn't be me. Me and my current partner chill a bit then go to the bathroom, I go to the sink or hop in the tub, she hops on the toilet. I do need to get wipes for her though for when she's over here. I feel like she'd love to stay connected after we're done but she usually has to get home soon after.

[@TiredofAds]

F.Y.I for whoever was wondering “flushable wipes” DO NOT DISINTEGRATE AND ARE NOT ECO FRIENDLY so just throw them in the 🗑.

[@supernatural492]

My bf want to just lay there and cuddle afterwards. I've got tissues and wet wipes at the ready to clean up cuz lord knows I wanna spend every possible moment cuddling with him too.

[@kea_mpete]

I thought crying after sex was odd and dotty 😂😂😂

[@pretpartez7534]

Beside going to the toilet I like to just stay there looking at my partner THEN round 2 until I fall asleep 😂

[@abeerrahman7330]

I feel like running after sex. I am 21now, got some nice tips From This video

[@badasscoco3809]

Me and my husband have a pack of cottonelle under the couch, on both sides of the bed and on the bathroom couch. 🤷🏻‍♀️ places we normally have sex. Cottonelle has to be handy right after.

[@jimmyjones8807]

Round 2-4 then shower and sleep

[@nadiajules6601]

During my resolution, I want to eat, bathe and stay up for hours.

[@cartier2312]

Question of today: What to do after sex When I’m done having sex, I like to make me a delicious sandwich it doesn’t matter what kind of sandwich all it matters is as long it’s delicious and also drink a nice cold glass of lemonade with ice

[@Juslovenae]

I’m definitely withdrawn after sex, I do not like to be touched , I have to be cleaned up. I really want to try the wipes next to my bed.

[@FLdancer00]

10:20 This. I've had FWB who want to lay in bed after and that's a big NO. I'm not trying to get attached to you homie. I get up and leave right after.