What To Do If You're Touch Starved

[@Psych2go]

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[@catalionUniverse]

Incroyable

[@Aureus_]

Lonely

[@lightsword9842]

Happy

[@JamesKs-ne3dk]

I'm fine. I'm touch-starved, so this video's helped me. I've also been watching your videos for a long time, and I appreciate the help and kindness you send towards me and the general public. Your videos are both educational and entertaining. Keep up the good work!

[@Noahfinnce_worship]

Craving some cuddles 😔

[@igiem368]

I think what this is missing is that the majority of people aren’t feeling simply touch starved, but rather they are feeling touch starved from a person from whom it would truly matter (namely a partner). Getting a hug from a friend is nice, but getting it from someone who truly loves you (not in the way a relative would) really helps satiate that deep seated longing.

[@shepherdssolace]

Literally me, thank you for articulating my feelings so well. ❤

[@Surivalin]

This is really just my issue, cause hugging with family is well ok, but if you know someone really loves you for who you are and is willing to brush your skin against theirs, its the best thing there will ever be

[@BillysFingers]

This!! Touch only works for me when it goes both ways and this can only happen and work with someone i have a connection with. I tried massages and it felt empty.

[@usermissakua]

Can you make a video about this?

[@VI_VA.]

Hm. Maybe it's the demiromanticism in me. But I think you can be truly loved for who you are by your family and friends as well! Strenghtening relationships with platonic and familiar relationships like the video says

[@aminopro9426]

Sending out a hug to everyone reading this comment and is in need of one right now.

[@Yogasefski]

Thank you, I’m sending one back.

[@crazyexbf]

virtual hug for both of youu🤍

[@76ToneCrome]

Touching comment.

[@vibekes2416]

Sending a big hug to everybody 🤗 ❤️

[@CherrySquishee]

Thank you :)

[@constellations1507]

The internal war of being terrified of being touched physically but wanting touch is a hell of a thing

[@IngriddelValleGómez]

I understand you perfectly, I don't like being touched but at the same time I crave that level of intimacy and affection, that keeps me in constant anxiety and I can't tell anyone without sounding pathetic, so I repress it🥺

[@matthewcox7985]

You too? When something unexpected touches me, my reaction is like getting an electric shock and I flinch or jump away. I might have a broader neurological problem, all my senses have the volume cranked up to 11.

[@KlownKumiho]

i’m so happy to know i’m not the only one who deals with this. i’m prone to sensory overload, the slightest touch could send me spiraling, but at the same time, i wish i had someone to hug or just to touch hands with. sending virtual hugs to everyone who needs one! ╰(*´︶`*)╯♡

[@RazzleDazzlerFish]

REAL

[@hokkogal_milli]

me toooo... there's noone I want to touch. But I want there to be someone.

[@nickthepick8043]

Last Christmas, I once got a hug from a friend at work. I haven't seen her in awhile, but it was the best gift I ever got in years.

[@Psych2go]

That hug sounds like it was truly meaningful-a small, heartfelt gesture that left a lasting impact. Sometimes, a single moment of genuine warmth can mean more than any physical gift. I hope you get another one like that soon; those connections really stay with us.

[@nickthepick8043]

@@Psych2go They really do, don't they?

[@syfranel8537]

laaast chrismas, i gave you my heeeaaart

[@nickthepick8043]

@syfranel8537 I LOVE that song even more now because of it lol

[@Siriussky22]

0:22 yeah a pat on the back is good, I met my granddad he’s quite a tall guy and when he left as he walked off he patted my shoulder as he said “see ya” it felt so heart warming

[@lunaeclipse7490]

I denied all forms of physical affection for years and am now suffering from touch starvation because of it. Thank you

[@dorina71]

Same problem, i hated hugging.

[@dorina71]

@@KyleSlavik14 no im not, thanks to my boyfriend🥰

[@dorina71]

@@KyleSlavik14 tysm☺️

[@hazzy5714]

same here, i hate hugging but want to be hugged

[@vibekes2416]

Sending you a big hug 🫂

[@earthling8585]

When we were teens, all of our friends were like monkeys. Brushing each others hair, shoulder massages, cuddling up to watch movies. Lots of hugs too. I miss those days.

[@kat0na_cat]

As a guy I wish it was hahaha

[@Big_Bag_of_Pus]

I hear you.

[@lucyk2634]

Me too😢

[@Isa_akx77]

I'm a teen and I'm often sad because my friends don't treat me like this 😭

[@lisastenzel5713]

Sounds great. Never had those days. Never had friends when I was a teen. Being shuffed around by a group of people count as touch in this situation?😅 Kidding. But not about the no friends part or the shuffing

[@Fluffy_Weirdo]

PERFECT TIMING OML 😭🙏

[@amnayyyyy]

FOR REAL

[@Noahfinnce_worship]

@@Fluffy_Weirdo 💯

[@Santy_Ney]

DUDE THIS ALSO HAPPENED TO ME, I WAS JS TALKING TO MY FRIENDS THAT I DISCOVERED IM TOUCH STARVED, AND THAT I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, AND THIS CAME OUT

[@Liivapiiva]

Real-

[@jking4854]

"perfect timing" sounds like you were offered a hug and weren't sure so you took out your phone to read and make sure lol

[@Lambent7]

yep, the 'self massage' and wrapping your self up in a blanket and pretending you're not crying really helps

[@Psych2go]

Sometimes, all we can do is wrap ourselves up tight and try to make it through those moments. Self-massage and the comfort of a blanket might not be the same as a hug, but they can bring a bit of relief when we need it most. It’s okay to feel how you feel-just remember that it’s alright to let it out, too.

[@SlightlySchizophrenic]

4:45 bold of you to assume i have one

[@yruherelmao]

same

[@SAULGOODMAN-q7n]

Real

[@capitansklero]

Real

[@shrutigautam289]

OMG yeah!!

[@SLEEPYBUNBUN-346]

Real.

[@EliCreed]

0:54 touch is a basic human need 1:25 physical touch can reduce stress 1:41 create a safe touch environment 2:12 adopt a pet 2:23 engage in self touch 3:15 strengthen existing relationships 3:45 join a community group or club 4:25 cultivate emotional intimacy 5:36 being touch starved It's okay guys :) Imma touch you :)

[@anushr5e]

😭😭

[@dahlrjay63]

*is touched* =u=

[@shyamsharma530]

😃👍

[@ItsMeMokiu]

btw just wanted to say that I was gonna have a breakdown from this video and your comment made me laugh so hard

[@-Beliver-Edits-]

💀

[@SaudaEnjoyer]

I just want to feel save. I want to lay my head on someones shoulder or something and drop my guard. I wanna hug someone for minutes and just relax for a short time.

[@shyamsharma530]

Creeper

[@scottish_guy5]

gosh, it is so relatable. especially when you're the one who always takes care of others, comforts them when they feel bad... but when you hug them because you need it, they let go after a second and you would like to stay like this for a few minutes at least i'm with you, buddy

[@real4kGaming]

Same dude, as a man were always expected to mask our emotions and all. I may be very tall and seem emotionless but i just wanna feel small and let my emotions out with somebody whether it's a dude or a girl I feel you dude I hope we all find the missing part of our life :)

[@anderstermansen130]

thats wishfull thinking.

[@klaudiuszborzedowski9989]

​@@scottish_guy5 bro you explained me in every detail

[@leegarlick6032]

For Years, I used to hug a pillow to sleep, simple acts such as hugging a pillow can go a long way to help the feeling of lack of physical contact :)

[@warrison08]

Same I too keep a pillow beside me while sleeping and oh man how much it helps And a teddy bear helps too in compensating for physical touch when I am awake Not to say that teddy is my oldest friend (maybe a couple years younger than me in age) I swear this is this best place to vent out our feelings without being judged by others😭

[@nickthepick8043]

I do that too. I'm also ashamed to admit I listen to GF ASMR Videos. Only a select few in particular tho. Most of them sound like a VA reading a script.

[@citrixx1195]

so true, the only physical touch I get somewhat daily is from handshakes or friendly gestures from friends which doesn’t do much at all. Bc I feel like i am so touch starved I cuddle the blåhaj for much longer than I normally would, and I would do so almost every time I walk into my room. It really helps with what I assume is me being touch starved but sadly it is just temporary the relief that I get feom cuddling my blåhaj, I really just want a partner but my “doesn’t-talk-unless-spoken-to” ambivert self cant pull let alone being bi i really wannt my first partner to be a guy so i can truly verify that i am bi and come out😭. it’s a pain. Blåhaj will suffice for now.

[@SharpBalisong]

I snuggle a plushie that resembles a type of animal I adore.

[@anantachonnambat6701]

I did that for 2 decades and will probably continue to do so, lol

[@rymndry]

I am emotionally starved but instead of falling for the first person who gives me attention, I’ve been withdrawing and detaching and struggle with anger and depression. We live in a loveless world

[@GoodvibesGoodlife11]

I totally relate, except the anger part...loneliness n lack of touch causes sadness yes!! But falling for ppl who give u attention comes with consequences!!

[@Heirrogance]

Feel this

[@redrox66]

You’re not alone.. We’ve been thru a lot in our 37 year marriage, and asa consequence all intimacy and touch is out the window.

[@picklesnoutpenobscott3165]

As much as the strategies help, nothing replaces partner type intimate touch. I don’t mean sex, I mean the soothing strokes of skin and warmth of a cuddle. But the coping strategies do go a long way for making up the difference

[@GoodvibesGoodlife11]

Agreed, but men don't realize this I guess....u just want a warm hug, warmth of touch, a good company... but they want sex! Its so sad....

[@adaalonso]

I think you can have this with a really close friend. Maybe because I'm a girl, but I had a friend who I really adore (not in a romantic way). We have such a deep conection that we were phisically touching with each other. I gave her really long hugs when we said goodbye. We stay the night in the same bed talking about a lot of personal things. We cuddle in the head... Idk but that is something really beautiful, and it's not in a romantic sense. I addmit that is not common that kind of friendships affection, and I only experienced it twice in my whole life.

[@knotsoangelic]

@@adaalonso Normalize platonic affection between men

[@anderstermansen130]

You just have to cruise single life on autopilot for enough years, and you wont even mind touch starvation anymore. I guarantee it.

[@picklesnoutpenobscott3165]

@@anderstermansen130 i hear you, it bothers me much less after a couple decades. It is survivable. Now.. a partner might even be troublesome.

[@andrewbynon8624]

Autistic people like myself are especially touch starved. Even if we seem distant, we still long for that physical and emotional connection a simple hug can give, we’re just extremely awkward about asking for it. I usually cope by rubbing my shaved head. The fuzzy sensation is oddly soothing

[@tangerinedream8987]

Yoooo I did the exact same you did when I shaved my head, I was like Shane Walsh from season 2 of the walkin dead 24/7.

[@h0peros382]

Kinda same-ish. I'm also autistic and touch starved. I have been for the majority of my childhood (due to trauma), and now I struggle to reach out and ask for physical affection out of both the awkwardness of asking and also the fear of being harmed, even when I need the contact. Fortunately, I have good friends who understand and do their best to help me, which is how I cope. TL;DR: me too :D I have friends that I'm comfortable enough around though, so it's not exactly the same.

[@joe-mama6451]

Same. I grew a beard to caress lol.

[@skystygian]

Also autistic and only comfortable with my bf as far as physical contact goes. Unfortunately he's studying abroad until next August, and I'm recovering from a surgery and can't get out much to see friends. I'm becoming extremely irritable and depressed. This might be kind of weird, but he playfully bites me a lot when we're together, and I've found that biting my own arm weirdly grounds me now 😂

[@TeenWithACarrotIDK]

I’m also in the same boat with you. Maybe one day we will be given the hug we truly need.

[@dovakeen1179]

Babies die without touch. In the early 1900s they experimented on orphans 1/2 got affection the other 1/2 got none both had thier physical needs met. The damage on those without affection was so great the experiment was deemed unethical to perform even on chimps or similar mamals. It's a need not a want.

[@Firefly256]

Woah woah woah I need a source

[@-441-]

Woah woah woah I need a source

[@knotsoangelic]

Woah woah woah I need a source

[@maxave7448]

Woah woah woah i need a source

[@-Breen-]

True, we learned that in history when we covered the topic how children acted and grew up in different timelines all the way back to ancient Greece and Egypt and Rome. We figured out, we don't act different from the children hundreds and thousands of years ago, whether it was how we played, acted at certain ages, or that we indeed do need touch and emotional support, no matter how old we are or in which time we were born in

[@drunkkatz1631]

I'm currently so desperate for love and touch, yet i get it from no one and nowhere. I feel so lost. This video brought up my mood. Thank you for creating this channel.

[@SharpBalisong]

Aw! 🥹 *non-cringy 100% platonic long distance hug*

[@inesnabilla8401]

so am I, and i still don't know how to connect with new ppl

[@camera2178]

dont worry bro u boutta get touched everywhere

[@johnysimps1191]

​@@SharpBalisong 😂

[@something_strange3086]

Bro me too ... I play with my hair alot to feel less alone

[@kathrynjames6151]

I needed this. I struggle with touch starvation because I tend to shut myself away from my family when I'm at home. I'm one of those people that doesn't always like being touched unless they want to be touched if that makes any sense, so if I don't see if coming it's very stressful to me. While I have my pets there to help it's not always enough. Now that I'm away at Grad school it's gotten worse, and where I am currently staying I am not allowed to have a pet. I hate to admit it, but I can't tell you the last time I had a good hug. It's been far too long for me.

[@Psych2go]

That makes so much sense, especially when unexpected touch feels overwhelming-it’s like your boundaries need a bit more predictability to feel safe. It’s tough when pets, which can provide such comfort, aren’t allowed where you’re staying. Going too long without that familiar, caring touch can be so hard, and I truly hope you find that gentle connection again soon. In the meantime, know that your feelings are valid, and you’re not alone in them.

[@NEUVILLETTE500]

Im sorry if this is rude, but I relate so much. I rarely talk with my family so having one of them just simply touch my leg stresses me out to the extreme. It feels so good seeing others feel the same.

[@anthonyphan702]

As a straight man, touch-starved is the default. In light that solitary confinement is the worst form of incarceration, it's little wonder that a disproportionate number of men find self-harm the only form of touch they have control over. I know at least a dozen guys-myself included-who are with us today because of a brother's handshake and slap on the back.

[@prid9891]

thank you so much for sharing this, it's really good to know.

[@User3440-u2d]

how are you doing now?

[@anthonyphan702]

@@User3440-u2d I exercise six days a week, pursue personal goals as best as I can, and enjoy getting out with my dog; despite all this, I am disappointed with the immature attitudes and poor behavior of single women in my area, and online dating has been miserable. I'm still starved for connection, but I'm not desperate to get in a worse relationship with someone who only causes headaches or drama. I take things day by day.

[@Heirrogance]

Yessir

[@allanjarnagin3540]

​@@User3440-u2d He's not doing well, and here's how I know: >he's a man >he made a reflective comment about the situation men as a whole are in. To the OC: I feel you. We'll make it.

[@KungFuKorgi]

Help the people in the comments saying “I’ll touch you” are cracking me up😭

[@JustaHappyMouse69]

I can touch you 🤗

[@JustaHappyMouse69]

I will touch you 🤗

[@inspiration_63]

I'll touch you ~ ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[@Psych2go]

Right?! The comments went from therapy session to "free hugs" hotline real quick 😭 People out here like, "Emotional support? Nah, how about a cuddle application?"

[@tina7589]

Exactly, first comment on here is a hug to whoever "needs" it. 😂😂

[@N0lemts]

Thank you this is the one thing that is hard about being single.

[@davidordaz5251]

Yeah true but relationships arent everything but would be nice to have someone hug or be around

[@SamGTA4]

Don't feel left out. . I am married and trust me. I love her, but there have been months where we felt so alone and and hurt each other. Some people would have liked to be single again, not everyone. Develop yourself, if you need to, and don't settle for less.

[@Psych2go]

I hear you-being single can make that longing for comfort and connection feel even tougher. It’s natural to want that warmth and closeness, and it doesn’t mean you’re any less strong for missing it. You’re not alone in feeling this way.

[@nateychan909]

I really doubt writing this will amount to anything but this topic is so close to my heart so here we go. I've felt so extremely touch deprived for so long. This video suggests things like handshakes and hugs, but for me the truth is anything short of cuddling/kissing does nothing for me. Maybe I am just "love starved" but touch just feels so incredibly important to me and I've been single for nearly a decade, it just crushes my heart. I try to put myself out there in the dating scene but it's really hard for me and just feels hopeless after trying to for so long. Thanks to anyone who read this, and thanks for this video Psych2Go.

[@thegrimharvest]

Alternative solution: re-spec into Wizard beard. With the right stat distribution you should be able to cast lightning bolt, twice! Without a rest in between or a mana pot, no less. I'm currently working on being able to cast meteor shower twice without a rest or mana pot. My dps is going to be so cash money!

[@khushiprasad9910]

Get a pet. I highly recommend it. It will change your life ❤ I hope you do it 🫂🫂🫂🫂

[@lynnepostings]

​@@khushiprasad9910 This really is great advice .... No looking back

[@khushiprasad9910]

@@lynnepostings 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

[@Killua_079]

The timing is INSANE

[@INFJIntrovertNerd]

FRRR

[@picklesnoutpenobscott3165]

After many years, I cope with using the bathtub. A bubble bath helps. Soft cozy blankets or clothing helps. Having a pet helps.

[@Cakebraincat]

Recently, I was talking to my partner about why I like baths so much when he hates them. I didn't know the reason beyond liking water, but this comment honestly helped me realize I just like the feeling of being surrounded and warm. I never realized that until now. Now I get why I turn to my bath when upset.

[@AneezProto]

BLAHAJ is nice

[@blu3mask457]

I miss holding my friends hands without them thinking I’m being weird. Sometimes I just want the presence of someone there.

[@Userrosijeni]

I remember when i was 14 i hugged my curtains while bawling my eyes out

[@Preppybabiess]

😔

[@snarlajeen5901]

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[@chonko4252]

omg same. when i was 10 i bit and hugged my pillow while tearing up.

[@pastelpearls_]

I still do 🙂

[@-KorruptionOfLight-]

Yeah, I need hugs. Digital hugs aren't the same. A hug from a woman is so needed

[@alliwishis_2]

She would rather hug a pillow or a cat

[@декабристсамозванец]

i will hug you sweetie

[@Anime-Niac5]

Exactly

[@Anime-Niac5]

​@@декабристсамозванец this comment made me cry. Idk why

[@декабристсамозванец]

@@Anime-Niac5 oh, dont cry, sweetheart) hug you too

[@gael7w802]

It's really amazing what a difference the most brief gesture can make. I very rarely get any kind of physical contact, but a month or so a go, a good friend gave me a kiss on the cheek. It felt like I'd risen from the grave

[@blamboy27]

Someone about a week ago gave me a hug from behind. It wasn't someone who I'm super close with, so it was a bit awkward, but like you, I felt like I had been risen from the grave. It's definitely something I don't feel often.

[@yusra_qasem]

I used to ask for a hug whenever I was in a miserable situation; I just needed someone to tell me everything would be okay. However, I was always rejected. Eventually, I learned that you don’t need others to calm you down-you can soothe yourself by distracting yourself from the problem. I know this isn’t the best approach, but we don’t live in an ideal world.

[@nikimeihua]

I moved to Asia one year ago, here people don't usually do physical touch 😢this made me feel bored and lonely. I miss the hugs, kisses and cuddles from my Colombian family ❤

[@roamingroadtrip5696]

❤I had the best time in Medellín last year. I would go back at the first chance. The people were so warm, charming, and kind. :-) Since I miss it so much, I go around looking for everything and anything Colombian. I only recently watched that almost 20-year-old novela, Sin senos no hay paraíso, and I thought it was so sweet how in the beginning, Yésica and Catalina would go everywhere arm-in-arm.

[@nikimeihua]

@@roamingroadtrip5696 that's awesome! Eje cafetero zone is also beautiful 😍 specially Valle del cocora, you can check pictures online about it

[@nurfarzanaabdullah58]

Hey which part of Asia u moved into ? How are u now ?

[@nikimeihua]

@@nurfarzanaabdullah58 First China, then Jakarta and now we are staying in Central Java. Indonesia is very beautiful although their culture is different from mine 😊 I just miss my family a lot 🤭

[@Polopollo75]

Yeah, Japan is famous for you can rent a hugger. That is crazy the direction of our societies...

[@AC-ni4gt]

It will explain why I really enjoy being wrapped in any blanket. I crave that need for connection.

[@ordinaryearth4403]

I cant do anything without this channel

[@Psych2go]

Haha, well, looks like we're officially your emotional support channel! 🐶💜 Don’t worry-we’re here 24/7, ready with advice, laughs, and maybe a little too much psychology trivia. You’re stuck with us now! 😂💕

[@Hexarius01]

I feel like that this channel wait for us to realize that we have this or that issue to make a video about that issue

[@Aloofyr]

I'm a bit ashamed to say it but I am SUPER touch-starved. I am a very emotionally sensitive person, and I NEED that physical contact. To know that it scientifically makes sense is SO relieving. Thanks Psych2go!

[@LouisOnVerdancy]

A true lesson that there is a difference between being alone and lonely 💜

[@Psych2go]

Absolutely, there's so much strength in learning to enjoy our own company. Being alone can be a space for self-discovery, peace, and growth, while loneliness is something else entirely. Here's to embracing the journey of finding comfort in solitude 💜🌱

[@LouisOnVerdancy]

@@Psych2go Hey I understand that completely I even went through a couple breakups this year and have tried to use solitude as my overall sense of bringing myself back together again. Telling and surrounding myself with the right people to talk to. For sure this helps! Thank you Psych2Go!

[@pochipochi680]

Never clicked so fast on a newly uploaded vid before 😂😂

[@lightsword9842]

i clicked faster

[@ognjen6125]

So realll

[@KaustubhRayrikar]

Me too

[@zarif12031994]

I’ve been single for a while but I hug my cats & my friends 🥰 it helps. Right now I’m dating someone. Can’t wait for the time when I can give him lots of hugs & kisses 🥰

[@TheRandomWolf]

Man I want a relationship so bad

[@toyotawitha20mm35]

Damn I wish i had a boyfriend. If I was a women that would be a lot easier : (

[@Torivic]

I got myself huge body pillow to hug to , and to be honest it was the best choice ever . I feel comforted and calmed whenever I struggle with something or feel defeated. Buy as big pillow as possible, so you can rest most of body on it like a princess.

[@amuhald2785]

I was in this phase sone time back.. thank you for posting. But I can't help think where we as society are moving towards that we are billions of us and the most basic need of touch is not satisfied.. it's sad that we actually need this video.. 😪

[@Galaxenro]

I legitimately just so happened to be brushing my face with a corner of my favorite blanket when I was watching this.

[@dragongeek8676]

The few friends I had all moved away when I was in 3ed grade. Have not had a real friend since. I turn 30 on Sunday so time to celebrate another year alone wishing for a hug. Yay im not ok.

[@JanelleBlack-zz6mk]

I know it’s not the same 🫂

[@bee4444-p3n]

It’s also the shame talking about my needs. We all need touch and makes me feel better- not being so ashamed and feeling needy. Thanks

[@trinitxx8571]

I always seek hug to my friends and they all give it to me, so thankful for them❤

[@Psych2go]

Aww, that's the best! Friends who give the perfect hugs are absolute treasures. ❤

[@Jennyfenty-n1b]

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

[@MarilynChen-j1k]

It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.

[@Jennyfenty-n1b]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@MarilynChen-j1k]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@MarilynChen-j1k]

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[@Jennyfenty-n1b]

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[@trymbruset3868]

Getting a dog is a really good advice actually, getting a horse is even better. You can hug them, they're big, warm, affectionate and really pick up on your mood when you hang around them. I try to never rely on other people meeting my needs, sometimes they do sometimes they don't, and I shouldn't leave my own well-being up to that throw of a die. Horses are a bit more work, but they're entirely reliable and not that complex. They can be expensive, but you can also offer to help out someone with a horse for free just to hang out with them once a week, and I can assure you a lot of horse owners would welcome the opportunity for a day off here and there.

[@MaraKleiber]

I once saw my mom giving herself a hug... it broke my heart.

[@RetroSoulGirl]

Like everyone else, I'm pretty lost and I feel helpless, especially being a 25 year old woman who has never been in a relationship or kissed someone because I can't find the right person. But I do have advice. NEVER give up on your dream for that someone and your dreams of being touched and loved in specific ways. If you lose all hope and drop your dream, it's almost never bound to come true. Even when you're lying in bed at night screaming in your mind for affection, tell yourself that you are worthy and strong for holding on, especially in that moment. You have to give yourself the pep talk when you're at your worst. Even though believing in your dream does not guarantee it will happen, it's better to die with hope and love for yourself in your heart than to allow yourself to die feeling worthless and hopeless. You can feel empty inside but still love yourself. And that's truly inspirational. Be an inspiration for those in the same boat.

[@toyotawitha20mm35]

I wish you the best, and hope that you find him or her one day. You got this!

[@ShananigansShannon]

I am currently in a long term care facility and have been here for 3 months after 6 weeks of hospitalization. I am far from my family and very lonely. Watching this just made me bawl my eyes out.

[@rocket2739]

I've been used to hugging my blankets listening to ASMR RP while crying myself to sleep since my early teens. And I can assure none of these tips replaces a real person long term. I'm in my 20's, still lonely and I've never felt worse -yet- I'm at a point where I feel physical intense pain down to my left hand just thinking about it. I'm so done.

[@JanelleBlack-zz6mk]

😢

[@gaelstrarai]

Is it almost a burning pain but not quite? Because I get that in my sternum when it gets really bad.

[@toyotawitha20mm35]

I listen to silence. I'm 20 as well, a 20 year old man. I feel lost and lonely. I just want a boyfriend to spend my life with, somone to lie down with me and relax. But in this day and age, something is trivial as that is often too much to ask for... where do I even begin?

[@The_Castol]

Dude I know when I finally get that hug ill bawl my eyes out 😭😭

[@thepokemonadventureandmore2206]

I'm in a long distance relationship and I haven't met her yet and I can't get her touch which makes me touch starved and also along with that I've been touched starved for years because people didn't like hugging me and I was scared to ask my friends or family so I just kept with it and now to cope I just hug my pillow I'm so glad this video was made so thank you I really needed this

[@Keiron-pw6sl]

@@thepokemonadventureandmore2206 a bit of ADVICE I'VE BEEN THERE AND DONE THAT NOT EVERYTHING IN LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS ARE WHAT YOU THINK THEY CAN TELL YOU ANYTHING ONLINE

[@zoto4064]

@@Keiron-pw6sl that's true, but your rule applies to people in general, everyone can lie even the ones around you. Trusting, caring even loving someone is and will always be a dare of trusting that the other doesn't hurt or betray you. But for those who try and despite disappointment's keep trying, those find the same people, who just want someone they can care,love and trust.

[@thegrimharvest]

Friend, I hope, for your sake and hers, that your relationship is the exception to the rule... Long distance relationships are hard. Very hard. Tried myself several times...they didn't end well. As starved for affection and love as I likely am now...I don't know that I could put myself through it again. I hope against hope that you two work out, despite the odds. Good luck!

[@thepokemonadventureandmore2206]

​@@thegrimharvest I really appreciate your words and I'll keep it in mind and yeah I hope our relationship lasts despite all the troubles and problems but I'm a stubborn idiot so I'll try and I hope she does too

[@ang3l2507]

really caught me out with this one

[@AngelPlayz_II]

I mostly avoid touching people because I'm scared it'll come off as awkward, weird, or even creepy. I'm not sure if the desire of doing so counts as touch-starved, but I often like petting my friend's heads (hair feels nice) and laying my head on someone's shoulders.

[@PerceptionVsReality333]

Same here, that's why I have cats a dog & farm animals.

[@Demytybo]

SAME

[@willr-e8394]

This advice can land you in jail or with a heavy fine plus social ostracism . Or a nasty beating and hospitalization. I have reported the video to KZbin.

[@lucyk2634]

I feel you, sometimes I just wanna TOUCH person, my friend for example or when having nice interaction with some - I just wanna hug them or pat them on the back and hold for a little longer. You know like men often do with their friends. I'm woman but still, because I crave that friendly touches. Honestly at this point I would even like to hold that sign "free hugs" and hug random people. I don't have courage to touch my friends and people I want because I'm afraid they maybe don't like touching. I have examples, my mother doesn't like to be touched and she will never be first to hug me, so I learnt some people are just grossed by others, and also my friend, she always talks how she hate if someone touches her hair, or this or that...)

[@Breakusall]

@@willr-e8394what is wrong with you bro

[@sd87ng]

I really appreciate this channel. It helped me get through hard times. Now every time I hear this voice it makes me feel better.

[@imperfectimp]

Got this recommended the day it came out. Didn't watch it bc "I'm not a physically affectionate guy anyway" Yesterday I heard a song that wasn't even particularly sappy but the "don't let me go/won't let you go/don't let me go/don't want to let go" completely deconstructed me. Sobbing, shaking, the whole shebang. Decided it might be a good idea to watch this after all. This six minute video resonated so much. Thank you. If anyone is interested, the song was S3RL - Little Kandi Raver

[@rangefromtblt4047]

Such an appropriate, wholesome, beautiful and accurate video. 🥺❤ The way you were explaining everything, the cute animations, I LOVE IT ALL.

[@09bonkers]

I require *MORE HUGS* no matter how many I get

[@yagirlhenney5701]

I deal with touch starvation by comforting myself when either stressed, angered, scared, depressed or sad. I basically just softly rub myself.

[@keertanasmurthy4207]

I am touch starved and things like a warm hug and a tight handshake mean a lot. I'm realising how much I miss all of it. Thanks for this video.

[@Hélène1768]

My grandma was the last person i hugged..it was 2 years ago just a month before she passed away..i miss her so much

[@pmv1635]

Thank you, this video was a hug in itself 🥺

[@herpderp9108]

I can touch MYSELF, thank you very much.

[@Chrissy717]

Wow, after losing well over a dozen "good friends" due to a suicide attempt as well as being dangerously close to getting a BDP diagnosis from my therapist, I get a video in my feed reminding me that I also don't get any hugs anymore... :( My head hurts and it won't stop...

[@richardscathouse]

Avoid therapists. They have more problems than you ever will. And love to gaslight 😢

[@Chrissy717]

@@richardscathouse oh no my friend, I really want that diagnosis because I've ruined my life all by myself.

[@camera2178]

Get a dog bro so they can touch you everywhere so you wont be touched starved

[@Chrissy717]

@@camera2178 This comment sounds kinda toxic and I'll just add that I already have a dog and of course it's not like a pet can solve the lack of human interaction.

[@camera2178]

@@Chrissy717 dats crazy

[@lifeishard1097]

I really needed a hug so bad

[@camera2178]

Dont worry bro I’ll touch u 🥰🥰🥰

[@greylizard1040]

My co workers are really amazing people and we've all started hugging each other more. This one incredible woman is very strong and when she hugs me I joke that she's squeezing the sadness out of me but its honestly the truth lol.

[@48toko]

0:30 WHY CALL US OUT SO BAD

[@abuthemonkeh]

Right?!

[@tgirlshark]

the timing is just omg

[@itsyoooden8693]

It is😂

[@GamingGreen21]

This made me realize I've been self-treating my touch-starvation before I even knew what it was. Thank you sibling for introducing me to weighted blankets

[@Goodpizzaa]

The impact of massage therapy cannot be understated. I got my first massage last year at 32 after a decade+ of touch starvation and lack of affection. I fucking cried so hard on the way home. It felt so good to remember what it feels like to have another human touch you.

[@Leeloo-rh3kp]

Last time i was in the cinema and hold my hand together and imagined that i was on a date with my crush, it sounds really miserable, but being single since 21 years is starting to drive me crazy :')

[@zUltra3D]

2:36 I could add wrapping a scarf tightly around you, one side being over your arm and one under, to kinda simulate the hand placements in a hug. To this you could add a pillow or something so you have something to hold onto.

[@WarpedKarma6471]

Weighted blankets help too. That deep pressure reminds me of the good times of spooning I can't get all the time with my bf since we're long distance.

[@simont3686]

I'm constantly feeling touch-starved but get terrified and panic when someone touches me. I'm living a nightmare. Just to go to bed in fear of more more nightmares.

[@unknownsoul13]

My dog is my physical contact saviour for the last 6 years since my wife passed away. He's not big but he has a big and loving heart

[@LilyWulfenstein]

I sleep with a weighted blanket, seven other blankets, four pillows, and three stuffed animals. The weight helps me sleep and the pillows help with my back and hips. Honestly this video has explained so much and it makes sense.

[@patrickgordon4773]

I know a great extent of people can utter an large amount of pain when expressing the deep feeling of how relatable this video is.....

[@STAY_LTzzz]

I feel like psych2go reads my mind. These videos always come out exactly when I need them ❤

[@TylerSoriano]

crazy cuz recently ive been wanting to feel a hug lately… found this vid and learned about touch starvation sooo yea thx psy!

[@richardscathouse]

As a man, I won't hold my breath 😢

[@111455]

i think a huge part of this is also people have seemingly forgotten how to give/receive these things and also people with victim mentality disorders to accuse people of assault or sexual harassment.

[@mrcwillis6970]

I feel touch starved a-lot and feel like it’s never gonna end. Lovely video as always. ❤🌱

[@chrisreilly1290]

I don't even think I'm touched but i love how chill this video is. Very soothing voice

[@d012k-n5t]

Yes, pets definitely make everyone's day better

[@Lunarcreeper]

the thing i hate is i feel repulsed to any form of physical touch unless it's someone i have 100% trust in, which always end up being online friends.

[@unjay1967]

The writing and animation are great; but I have to say, I could listen to Amanda reading a phone book for hours! 💓

[@attezirux]

Man, why these videos make me want to cry? damn...

[@drummerguy920]

I’ve never actually not been touch starved come to think of it, I doubt that’ll change for a while but wish me luck, in the next few months I’m gonna try and make some moves on someone. Let’s stay motivated no matter what, even if we’re touch starved and never even held a hand before, there’s someone intended for all of us.

[@JanelleBlack-zz6mk]

Good luck!

[@seemeoutthere]

I used to get lots of touch when i was still in school and never thought id experience such lonely feeling..living as a girl with strict parents can be really emotionally challenging..it’s been years since i had a proper nice hug and a cozy one on one convo with any of my best friends. Sometimes in the evening when my family goes to sleep, the house becomes so quiet, so depressing i just go to bed and try to forget..sometimes it doesn’t work and i find myself crying like someone just died lol..honestly I wish i could easily invite a friend over to have her sleep with me or me with her, chat for long hours uninterrupted..i wish I could be able to just go and meet up without all the struggles i have to go through just to be allowed a couple hours out. I can’t even get a pet. The only coping mechanism that worked with me so far is playing sky cotl and pretending im actually physically with the ppl i meet there:) kinda pathetic but it is what it is. Edit: ok lol late night random yt venting

[@AceGamer2kv]

My favourite narrator is finally back 😊

[@SourPatchCJ]

Your timing on all these recent videos is incredible

[@elisabethherzog9369]

One of my friends moved a few months ago and one of the things I miss the most about her is getting to hug her. She was like one of the best huggers ever. It’s not even that I just want to be hugged anymore, I just really want to hug her. I miss her so much 🥲

[@Niro_MC]

i see affection as magic, and just like magic, i never experienced it

[@RyanForchat]

Actually, it is surprising that someone you marry is completely unwilling to give you that much needed hug.

[@mojo_joju]

It seems like loneliness is the new normal these days. If it wasn't for my dog, i would've gone mad a long time ago

[@dehsillygoober]

This is not easy. As a 2nd year High school student, these videos has helped me manage my ideas of anything Love related, physical things, and even regular emotions. I've never felt better about living without watching one of these. Not even my own lover can help me sometimes... So Im grateful I came across this channel.

[@eggbertvonchickeniii]

It's crazy how my heart felt like it was being squeezed the whole time watching this....I havent had a physical partner in years and this video seemed to reawaken my want for touch... didnt realize how much I missed it.

[@autumn948]

Whenever I've gotten into a relationship where i get all the hugs and cuddles and etc that i want, i kinda tend to really inflate just how great every other aspect of that relationship was, and I try way harder than usual (which is already a lot of effort i put in, i ain't no slouch) to keep it and keep it stable. Which makes losing those relationships hurt so much more. For me, it's like a whole other level of intimacy. Not necessarily sexual, but far beyond what most people are willing to do for me. Just having constant snuggles and not having to worry about if it's okay to ask about it makes a world's difference in any relationship, but alas, i am starved of touch like this. Even a hug that lasts too long is too much to ask for even my closest family members. I feel like i act like an addict towards cuddles and snuggles because of how rarely i get to experience it, like for instance i let this basically random woman spoon me on the floor (clothed) in front of her friend, which in retrospect is really embarrassing, but at the time all i could think about was how nice she was being to me and how nobody else was that nice to me, and then we ended up having a... really... weird... relationship, that was more traumatic for me than anything else in the end, all fueled by misguided hope spurned by a simple touch.

[@crabeater]

I’m almost 22 and I still sleep with 5+ stuffed animals every night because I’ve never had intimacy shown to me. I wish things would change.

[@anderstermansen130]

Its wishfull thinking, son.

[@Aiya-r4z]

That's normal at any age you can have stuffed animals

[@angelcoffee1972]

19 years old, have a "unforgivable" amount of stuffed animals and my mom is annoyed. Idc though and I sleep with most of them too 🥰 My favorite so far is my Penguin and I just imagine holding someone else while they're sleeping.

[@Aiya-r4z]

@angelcoffee1972 same lol

[@Heirrogance]

@@Aiya-r4zI’m 28, got a teddy bear from when i was 12… there’s been maybe 6 nights where i haven’t used it at a pillow because i was away from home. I get you brother.

[@other-m-e]

I really like this art style :3 great vid btw!

[@MinerBigBo]

I lost a lot of emotional feeling from it and now i actually have sharp and involuntary actions from anyone who accidentally or purposely touches me. I never grew up with the best social life, but all my efforts to making my life a bit more interactive all failed. I hope to many others who suffer from this to keep trying and dont give up. Its not worth the mental pain you go through

[@Kenzōu_Tenma]

I hope you find more happiness in your life ✌️

[@BelgianDneprGuy2003]

I have to say, these are some interesting points. I remember going to an event from our school in the beginning of this month, friend of mine didn't really touch (for me) me physically as it was my coat but the rush of feelings and emotions that went through me were unexplainable for me. I am usually dead serious and I'm very numb to any emotions but out of respect for her I did acknowledge her by giving 2 to 3 pats on her arm as I know she had good intentions