What We Don't Say About Friendship | Manu Joseph | TEDxChennai

[@VarunKumar-fn4fm]

The maturity of thought to develop this perspective is something only Manu has.

[@KannadaRama]

Never had friends, never felt lonely.. sometimes worry there might be in an emergency with no one to call for help. Friendship is high maintenance, though.

[@johnjohn3849]

Hi Are you high maintaince? People are the reflection of our inner light. We can only give what we have.

[@alwells5779]

@@johnjohn3849 This is silly. If this were the case, there would be no such thing as injustice, as bullying, as betrayal... People are people. What they do or do not do to you is not neccesssarly anything other than a reflection of who they are. Who you are is reflected in what you allow or accept after they do whatever they do. Otherwise, they are them and you are you and that's the extent of it.

[@kiranmaddu8006]

A beautiful piece to listen to and think about. Loneliness like Happiness is also a personality. The definition and parameters of "Friend" change with the phase of life too - At one stage we need them for approval, the next phase - for company; the next phase - for sharing ideas about the future and comparing (that is the time - a friends success can cause transient death in you - some caused it to me and I caused too many); the next phase - it is mostly suggestions of life's career; after this - if you are married - your family may become the whole world of friends to you. The social media part - is also very funny - yup - someone agrees with my views - he is my friend and those not agreeing with you sorry buddy lol.

[@intelligentcat192]

Very good talk. Witty, informative, excellent!

[@yolandaw.1257]

My def of friend; family I choose to have. My standards to be called my friend are high. Higher and harder than being my boyfriend. 3 year wait list before consideration. Everyone else not related are strangers and acquaintances.

[@rakvi5437]

Hello Manu Joseph, Your Ted talk reminded me of Daniel Kaluyya's monologue from 15 million merits. It was a great talk.

[@좋아미니]

Me: i am starting to get desperate i need more friends Conclusion: get a one real friend

[@Gaurav7238]

Genius!

[@sohanbadade2171]

Gaurav Ghosh 😁😁

[@BhriguAneja]

Manu is contradicting himself. We own our friends, they own us. Friends are like mini cults. They have to agree with each other to keep their friendships alive. To agree with our friends we bend our thought processes and belief systems. So in essence friends mold us into people we become.

[@trigger3319]

2:10 I feel that way.

[@patriciacole8773]

Government involvement in friendship! That thought would absolutely never occur to me. But… maybe it’s as odd as thinking people at church will be friends. Or people at work. Or neighbors. Hmmmm. I’ve heard that when the Lord puts two people together it’s meant to be mutually beneficial.

[@rohitigc]

What a screwed up way of looking at things and especially relationships. It’s his view though!

[@sritamamanna5796]

His view is very clear though.

[@rohitigc]

@@sritamamanna5796 Have no doubt but found it pretty dark and gloomy. As I said, his opinion, his life.

[@sritamamanna5796]

@@rohitigc if you go through his interviews you will see that he see things as it is. Never has he tried to make things extra romantic, extra gloomy or extra fair. I agree that his views are shocking. But you will get used to it and then start enjoying.

[@raphaelsanluis9711]

This is why we should never take things too personally.

[@raphaelsanluis9711]

This is why we must learn how to be yourself first .

[@pri-sha]

Uh. The thing he lacked in life is LOVE. that’s all.

[@sritamamanna5796]

You should read his columns. Most of the time he comes up with different POV in every case. He is a fun person. But he is very minimalist as well.

[@trigger3319]

Only a mother is capable of loving her children.

[@bohemianskingdom7528]

@@trigger3319 well some mothers doesn't realize that

[@trigger3319]

@@bohemianskingdom7528 agree.

[@akaruppannan]

good conversation but bad articulation.

[@anonymouss4594]

disappointing... subject was interesting but not articulated well enough