What would it really take to 'rebuild trust'? Baroness Onora O'Neill at TEDxHousesofParliament

Baroness O'Neill, one of the UK's leading philosophers, explores how poorly we attribute or understand trust and the steps we can take to fix this.
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[@carolinesharley9457]

Reminded me of Galbraith's Truth Equation ... How much you trust someone comes from a judgement based on an assessment of their Credibility + their Reliability + how open they are with you (Intimacy) DIVIDED by The degree of self interest in their motivation. Very practical way of working out why a relationship is working or not!

[@sonaliaravind1502]

Caroline Sharley very well expressed! What clarity in thoughts and in the concept of trust .

[@Iceni007]

I was privileged to be taught Kant by Professor O' Neill at Essex University in the late 1980s. Brilliant teacher, brilliant mind, brilliant lecturer.

[@arlinegeorge6967]

So true make yourself vulnerable to. Great great talk. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.

[@ravicher]

The evidence of a persons trustworthiness comes from how well their actions adhere to universal morality, and what that morality is. Trustworthiness came from where, where does it emanate from? If I fall will you catch me? What are you willing to sacrifice to save me? This translates to one of the highest of Human moral attributes... Valor.

[@lilliangraham9850]

can anyone trust anybody without vulenability

[@thecowboy9698]

Lillian Graham - to build trust with somebody, requires a certain amount of vulnerability, I would say. It doesn't mean that you have to reveal every little thing, and we're to build trust, but you do have to be willing to take take a calculated risk, because when you do take a chance on someone, you got to be prepared to possibly get hurt. But the one thing that in order to build trust with someone, you first have got to be honest. And the first person need to be honest with is yourself, because if you're not honest with yourself, and if you do not keep the word that you give to yourself, you're not going to be able to do it with another person. Human Relationships, whether they be platonic or romantic ones, require trust in order to last. And trust is one of those things that takes a long time to build a, and understandably so because this world is full of liars, and two-faced people. But it only takes seconds to break, and it can be broken simply by lying, whether it's and small things, or large things. In fact if you're not honest about small matters, you're not going to be honest about big ones, because you will already have built up a pattern of behavior within yourself. And if you genuinely care, and I mean genuinely care about the other person, you won't lie to them. You won't show them that kind of disrespect.

[@princessbibian1504]

The Cowboy what if you don’t sense a bit of empathy from that person, what if you feel like you are likely to be judged or misunderstood or something

[@dreamschememut970]

I need help my friend lost my trust because I stole money from his parents while blacked out and I can’t give money back and he wants nothing to do with me I regret it with everything he is my best friend I would never do that and I’m suicidal since because I can’t believe I’m such a person what can I do to either gain trust back if possible or be ok with my self because I am very depressed

[@gertrudelisehahn2996]

@@thecowboy9698 Such a thorough and thoughful answer

[@ninanickel3103]

I trust nobody. I have tried. There’s no reason to ever watch a video on rebuilding it. The second you tried to control me you lost it all

[@moosedrummer1]

Is this a woman or a man? Serious question.

[@carmenvljn]

Baroness

[@ericcarrazedo8136]

Trust it

[@tdozi1380]

Why is that relevant? It's not.

[@moosedrummer1]

@@tdozi1380 why does it bother you that I’m asking? It’s relevant because I want to know. I can’t ask a question? What’s irrelevant to you may not be to me.