When An Injured Narcissist Lashes Out

It's common for narcissists to lash out at you even though the event does not warrant such strong emotion. Dr. Les Carter stresses how necessary it is to understand that narcissists have very weak coping mechanisms, meaning they are unable to reasonably manage tension. Instead, they go straight into a victim's mindset, reminding you how you have failed to go along with their entitled requirements.
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[@aaronfischer9885]

"Both Empaths and Narcissists suffer from early developmental trauma. The difference is that Narcissists are essentially weak, and succumb to selfishness and hate, whilst Empaths rise above their torturous past, and continue to be there for humanity." ~ Rohit Barman (TheMindsJournal)

[@mariaalaniz5437]

Yes every time I try to have an adult conversation he tells me that I’m attacking him. And he starts crying and acts like a child.

[@chelleb3055]

It depends on the narcissist. When I called out my sister she went on a campaign of slander behind my back. When my husband called out my MIL she threw a glass of wine at his head. Some react violently while some react in non-violent but equally destructive ways. All of them are dangerous and should be avoided at all costs!

[@divaslm1]

The narcissist lashes out because he or she can't control you or manipulate you. The narcissist wants capitulation.

[@lizzysbeautyshowetc.6895]

It's impossible to have an intelligent conversation with a two-year-old so this is the same way that a narcissist person reacts to something that they may not like

[@cheryldee95]

Controlling people see ‘help’…as a loss of control. And that, to them…is defeat. Not help. Their own worst enemies.

[@choosejoy93]

The narcissist is a sad, insecure, empirically immature person. I really saw this a few months ago with my father on the phone. He just raged and raged at me for no good reason and he wonders why I'm not around anymore. He wonders why nothing has changed or gotten better when I say that I want things to be better. I'm not the problem and I'm so glad I see it clearly now.

[@sharonjones5173]

Treating them as though they are insignificant in your life will send them into a narcissistic rage. Their anger at you for not deferring to them or acknowledging them and their wonderfulness and giving them their narcissistic supply will bring out anger and a need for a revenge. Run, don’t walk away from this person. Permanently.

[@alkebabish]

I asked a narcissistic business partner to reflect on how her words and actions had upset me. She sent me pages and pages about how I'm mentally ill, delusional, scary, crazy, and so on... and she also told a mutual friend that I have had a mental breakdown. This video makes it so much clearer why a person would react that way.

[@rosecloer5877]

It's hard to ignore them when they separate you from other family members.

[@lioubovgrant1935]

- Cut communication - altogether if possible

[@salauerman7082]

“Narcissists can only focus on their injured feelings”

[@grantaugustyniak6667]

Friend or foe - you just cannot ever have a real conversation with them about anything !

[@cherrybacon3319]

When they know they are losing the argument they'll use every and any means to deflect the topic. 🍒

[@mightymouse1005]

Recently, I told mine...the BIGGEST mistake I ever made was HIM....and it true

[@snowartmom]

Protecting myself. Not falling for traps.

[@observationsincars5083]

Being raised with narcissistic parents sets you up for failure like having a handicap for the rest of your life. I don't believe you can permanently break free from the trauma but you can certainly become a more functional adult.

[@aletheiai]

It strikes me that, in person, we recognize these people as narcissists and interpersonal authoritarians. Online, we call them trolls.

[@salauerman7082]

So… give the injured soul space to heal when they’re ready - understanding that may be never, but no one needs to stick around for continuing abuse!

[@mariasartzis-pellicier1723]

PLEASE do NOT make the multiple mistakes I made since I left COVERT & MALIGNANT narc ex husband. Go FULL 💯 NO CONTACT.