When Blunt Communication Is Needed With A Narcissist

Narcissists are known for their lack of cooperation and their unwillingness to respect your boundaries. Dr. Les Carter describes how the diplomatic approach can have its limits and sometimes you just need to be blunt in the ways you stand up for yourself. You don't have to be combative, but as strong dose of firmness can be warranted.
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[@karenm.2185]

Before finding this channel, I thought that I was the only one living this nightmare. I feel so much better that I have a community of people that understand the hell of living with a narcissist.

[@genedesalvo1120]

A stranger on the street is more trustworthy.

[@lynnfincham6839]

As you get older you just find you’ve got no time for nonsense and playing mind games... So if it’s not working don’t try to fix it .. move on quickly plenty of nice folk to spend time with 🌸

[@stoneyvowell1239]

I'm usually under the impression that direct honesty is the best policy. Sometimes people think that is being rude or aggressive. If you think my honesty is aggressive it's probably because you want me to be subservient.

[@rossanderson5243]

Bluntness is when your honesty is pushed.

[@HotSeat17]

Jordan Peterson said, "If someone is not listening to you, stop talking to them "

[@pianolearner7]

Great video as always. My motto now is... If they enhance my life then I let them in, if they bring stress, anxiety and misery then I owe it to myself to keep them out.

[@lindaschultz7900]

NO CONTACT is The only way to go if you don't have children with the Narc.

[@jonnyblade46]

To preserve your sanity, you are forced to be blunt.

[@darleentaylor9058]

I am not leaving my narcissistic husband at this time. I got out of one narcissistic relationship and naively married another one. We have been married for 23 years. From day one, I have been on the journey to understand what happened. He love-bombed me and then on honeymoon he started to devalue me. First husband was malignant and this one is religious. I found these videos a few years ago and what an epiphany! I never knew this disorder was out there. Anyway, I no longer engage. He tries to engage but I know that it is just to get his supply. We are just surface roommates. He asked me, “What happened to us? We used to be quite the team.” I told him I knew the answer. He asked me to tell him. I told him that it has taken me 23 years to get the answer and that if he pondered, prayed, soul-searched, cried, reflected, read, etc. like I have done for 23 years, then he too could get the answer. I told him that I put in the work and if it was important to him to know, then he could put in the work like I did. He won’t.

[@thekellers5041]

Not combative just firm: what worked for me (while I was still stuck living with him prior to divorce and freedom of no contact) was to reply even toned (even in the face of his screaming): ‘that might be what you want/think, and you have every right to want/think that, but it’s not what I want/think, and I, too, have every right to want/think what I do’ then I’d walk away. Any further engagement he sought to have I stayed unresponsive on the outside while on the inside I silently repeated to myself ‘I have already said all I need to say. He heard me. Any healthy person would respect my boundary. As he does not, it says more about him than it does about me.’ As he got no more ‘supply’ from me he went to play elsewhere (usually to smear me) but again I’d repeat to myself: ‘that says more about him than about me and anyone who believes him that says more about them than it does me.’

[@lileelisamc.4722]

direct, forthright, blunt, frank, unambiguous, crystal clear - the opposite of passive aggressive.

[@sduskybutterflyk3720]

Being blunt is another way of standing up for yourself.

[@susydahms400]

"Self preservation is my primary concern." Thanks for reminder on this simple yet powerful affirmation! Thank You!

[@brendaedwards5556]

Boundaries are a big thing. Slowly learning to set clear boundaries for myself and not feeling guilty.

[@user-uo7wg5br8n]

With all due respect, sometimes rudeness is the only way to get rid of a narcissist. Sarcasm also gets the point across when kindness doesn't.

[@ai172]

More the entitlement, lesser the decency to respect boundaries.

[@ShannonLM344]

Avoid at all costs once you discover their act and their lies. Leave- run away!

[@andrearush6209]

When I feel my resolve and spirit waining and the sadness and doubt start to creep in, I come here to learn, listen, to lean into the truth of my story. I'm so appreciative to have a place where I fit. Thank you. <3

[@melissad.6722]

Yes no explaining no defending no pleading no coordinating only SELF PRESERVATION. such a hard thing to learn when raised not to treat people this way. It's like we have to do the exact opposite of normal.