When Healthcare Professionals Are Unhelpful/Unethical (and what to do about it) | my experience

* PLEASE READ THIS *
hi! so, here's the thing, this is a difficult and scary thing for me to share, but i feel so strongly that it's very important to talk about this subject.
after thinking about it for a long time, i decided to share a bit of my own experience with you because i recently realized that this has happened to so many other people, and that most of those people felt like they should not do anything about it.
if you have been in a similar situation, i hope this video will remind you that you're not alone and that you can do something about it.
thanks for reading! i hope you have a good day :)
-sophie xo
✰SOCIAL MEDIA✰
✰VEGUCATED✰
☞ / vegucat.ed
☞ / vegucated
☞tellonym.me/ve...
✰BELLA✰
☞ / belllaherrera
☞open.spotify.c...
✰SOPHIE✰
☞ / sophievisca
☞open.spotify.c...

[@angrycactus158]

...... you had cancer...... and an ED.... and your talking about things that traumatized openly ... your so so brave and gone through so much! Keep going, you are such an inspiration!

[@BellaSophie]

thank you so much

[@TheAubreyNichole]

As a medical professional- this is completely unacceptable and makes me so incredibly angry. I’m so sorry this happened to you, I don’t even knowww what to say this makes me so mad. You are so incredibly brave to share this and please don’t be afraid to share this, people need to know not everyone is like this- and there are treatment centers out there where they are not like that, but that if it is, it needs to be addressed and called out. Thank you again for bringing this up. Keep fighting and stay safe

[@streesed417]

I hated when regular doctors and therapist were like “just ignore those thoughts” “stop worrying about your weight” LIKE I HAD A CHOICE. Everyone at the hospital was more understanding of my eating disorder

[@streesed417]

They also said stuff like “you’re not trying hard enough” and “you’ve relapsed too many times”

[@asystem7537]

I feel you. I had a panic attack and a nurse said to me "just breathe its not that difficult. I'm sorry that happend to you. I wonder why these people even become therapists

[@Ameliamaemay1990]

I have also been told in treatment that I “wasn’t trying” or “you don’t want to get better” and once was denied my Ativan (which I had a dose I could take PRN if I was having a panic attack) because the nurse said it didn’t look like I was having a panic attack. I ended up having a total meltdown and calling my mom and begging her to get me out of there. Naturally I stayed because I didn’t really have any other option due to my mental health at the time but it was terrible and triggering to be treated like that. I’m so sorry you have been through what you have and it’s sad it happens so often with mental health. You’re amazing. Stay safe ❤️❤️

[@deliamcternan9946]

When I was in outpatient I had this awful health professional he would threaten treatment with this massive grin on his face like the joker and he scared me and my mom and dad . Even before I was deep in my illness he threatened I was going to get osteoporosis and end up in a wheelchair for the rest of my life. He also told me I by far wasn’t his worst patient making me feel my illness wasn’t valid, Yet somehow he also threatened inpatient and told me they were gonna force feed me And it would be awful and I would never be able to see my family , He scared my mom so much that she said in inpatient we would be strapped to beds and everyone would cry. Like in a horror movie. When I went in to normal hospital ( not treatment) because I was having nutrient problems and kept fainting. He would shout at me when I was trying to eat and scare me. He always this manic smile on his face when we were talking about things that were hard for me. The first time I started eating in hospital I was half way through the meal and he said that I wasn’t trying hard enough and then said to my mom how I was gonna end up being taken away from her anyway. So she started crying and I stopped eating too distressed. When I had a meeting with the doctors about next steps and how I was trying to gain. He shot any want of them wanting to get me home after gaining some weight in the hospital. Not in a nice way either he insulted them and said that was stupid and how he was the professional. And while I do agree I needed inpatient then, he made the nurse look really upset and embarrassed. When I got to actual inpatient it was not as bad as he had me believe I became friends with the patients and learnt loads and no one shouted at me while I was eating . In fact I was usually bullied really badly at my school the year before so I edged on enjoying it. Cos everyone was so lovely and I learnt so many skills. When I got out of treatment and gained weight on holiday he commented on how much I ate and how I was eating too much and when I lost a tiny bit he threatened inpatient again even though I was trying my best. Basically this guy threatened inpatient every time I saw him regardless of whether I gained or lost or how I was doing and tried to scare my parents. In fact after I left treatment with him I finally ate what I wanted and didn’t weigh myself and became vegetarian (which he would never allow) which was what was partly holding me back in recovery. Then I finally recovered on my own with my mom’s help doing CBT and writing in a book of all the positive things I did in the day.People don’t believe me though and say it was just my eating disorder but looking back I know it wasn’t as my mom and dad hated him too. He could have been supportive and told us what inpatient really entailed and tried to help me with eating or at least say that if I carry on gaining I would get home faster. But all he did was smile like a maniac shout at me and threaten awful ailments and inpatient describing it as a place where they force feed and you never get to see your parents when really they visited every day and I saw them every weekend. Which was more than I used to see them due to work. He was awful and he sounds not too bad but it wasn’t really what he did it was the way he did it and the way he seemed to insult everyone by having the loudest voice and ignoring the doctors or anyone else’s opinion. Or shouted at me. He was creepy.

[@jenniferbueller6761]

That’s so awful. There are people who are harmful and NOT helpful while you are trying to recover. They make you feel as if it is you, and that your eating disorder is causing you not to follow their rules. That is called Gaslighting. These people should not be in the healthcare system, they hinder progress and cause strife between the patient and their family members. Family members do not know who to believe, because they have been told not to trust you as the patient, because we do lie and lose trust when we have an eating disorder. But those type of healthcare providers take advantage of that, and use that to get parents on their side. This makes recovery that much harder for us patients to recover. And it makes family members confused and unable to follow their natural parental instincts. A terrible situation for all. So sorry to hear that happened to you. The best revenge is that you recovered and are living a great life, why they are stuck in their harmful, controlling, sad life.

[@EmThrives]

Love these tips! I'm a nursing student and know from both my own experience with my ED & from my education that the number of unethical things that happen in the medical community is not only astonishing but completely unacceptable. Thank you for sharing your story, using your voice and bringing awareness to these issues!

[@camilleschmidt20]

I work at an ED treatment center and this would NEVER happen! Completely unacceptable and uncalled for. Also the place where I work is a no touch facility so the staff member shaking you in your sleep is so baffling omg! You're so strong and brave. Keep speaking up and standing up for what's right! Xoxo!

[@MusikGirl23]

The good thing is I don’t think this person is there anymore because I did not see anyone treated unfairly like that when I was there.

[@AmandaMarie-ou1nh]

You’re so amazingly strong! Keep fighting!

[@BellaSophie]

thank you! you too xoxox

[@MusikGirl23]

In Manitoba, I had horrible experiences with my home hospital. They wouldn’t let me be vegetarian, they had a Feedback Group that totally violated PHIA...I still have trauma from it.

[@00zero000zero00]

I’m in a very similar place at this moment and this is really helpful thank you

[@BellaSophie]

i'm so glad this was helpful for you. keep fighting. xo

[@00zero000zero00]

VegucatED ❤️

[@___eee123]

This is heartbreaking and I have also had these experiences in some centers. ♥️ hang in and always use your voice. Thanks for sharing this vid

[@natalieh1950]

When I was in the mental health hospital, the unit was adolescent girls and kids four to twelve. One of the children nurses was really rude and caused me to feel very anxious when I was around her, and she wasn't even my nurse. She told off a young girl who was upset instead of asking her the problem. She would seem like she didn't want to be there and made me feel very uncomfortable. I'm thankful I was in the adolescent group. When I got back home my therapist, which I had seen for nearly two years, told me I wasn't suicidal when all we talked about was him and his life. The sad thing is so many people say he's a great therapist so I doubt anyone would believe me. I'm sorry that happened to you *offers hugs * also, there isn't a set timeframe to get better from an eating disorder or PTSD, depression, anxiety, or anything. That is so mean. I'm sorry

[@georgiaanderson6991]

The way that that worker treated you was so so bad and so sad 😞 you are so so brave

[@shelby8561]

girl sue

[@deajiven6159]

I really love your channel, it's really helping me. Thank you ♥️

[@BellaSophie]

i'm so glad to know that!! thank you so much. xo

[@MusikGirl23]

And in Manitoba, you don’t have a choice if you need intensive care. You have to try HSC at least twice before getting referred outside province,

[@crustyrash]

I'm sorry this happened to you. I've had some bad stuff happen too at the hands of bad clinicians.

[@redstonewarriorplays1356]

Oh god. I really don’t know what to say. I’ve been on this screen for a while now I want to be able to say something important, or a solution. But I just have nothing. So I guess I’ll just say that never should have happened and I’m glad things got better.

[@bubblegumgirl2882]

Shame on them! It’s brave to speak up; I’m sorry that bullshit politics and some jerk’s ego and lack of integrity impacted you with such severity. You’re very strong, keep fighting the good fight.

[@njhawksworth1588]

What happened to you is appalling. I wish you would file a complaint with the medical review board and the better business bureau. They probably can't do anything for you but the complaint will be on record and future victims of this person will have a better chance of getting justice. My girlfriend had some bad experiences in treatment too and it really causes setbacks. We're British and she was able to complain to the NHS and was helped to find a new centre. Sorry you went through that

[@mikeandreas4030]

PTSD is awful

[@mikeandreas4030]

I hope you reported that nurse

[@crustyrash]

OMG!!! Unbelievable the way they discharged you. As if you haven't been traumatized enough already. It sounds like anyone who fell outside their view of what ED symptoms look like they just cannot handle.

[@bellaperucca9052]

I’m so sorry they did that to you :( I know you don’t want to give the name of the place that was unhelpful. But would you be ok with giving the name of the one that was helpful? I’m trying to find an inpatient facility but I’m not sure which one to trust

[@hanayaoliveira1988]

honestly memorie problems because of cancer treatment? i think they ghaslighted you very bad. Even if that is possible you shouldnt be creating new memories, probably it would affect you at smaller things as missing objects or forghetfulness as adhd ppl feel. Dont take what they said as real about yourself. If you really feel as this could be true, test with other professionals and ask them what are the consequences of it. What this facilitie told you is bullshit

[@emilienone3501]

going to Emergency, and the psychiatrist there told me I had been told the wrong thing, and that I should have been told to go to my GP for a referral to the inpatient psych I had been trying to get into for my own safety. I also submitted a review online. I highly recommend RateMDs.