When it comes to beauty, the grass is always greener.

[@belladonna1475]

My message to everyone: Be your own type of girl. Save Pinterest pins of girls who look like you. Think of your face as an aesthetic trend that will never go out of style. Be your own aesthetic. That’s what I do, and that’s why I love myself so much.

[@rebekahnewman3876]

Great advice 🎉

[@belladonna1475]

🖤

[@mirabela1344]

There's no girls on Pinterest that looks like me

[@belladonna1475]

@ of course there is, may be hard to find sometimes but u will find🖤

[@samira2283]

I have a collection of super long and flowy dresses in my closet that I never wear, because they look weird on me. I always thought something was strangely wrong with me, because the dresses were beyond beautiful, and I could not understand how they suddenly looked odd whenever I tried them on. After finding out that I'm soft gamine, with the help of Merriam, I understood that I NEED a high neckline and waist definition and that the dresses can't be too long. So now I'm shortening all my dresses by hand and ad some waist definition by sewing darts or adding a waistband of some kind. With some dresses, I just need to add buttons to create a higher neckline. Or I wear a short necklace. I'm so happy that I can finally wear the beautiful dresses that were collecting dust in my closet for way too long. Thank you, Merriam!

[@lucy-ferprofiler5379]

so interesting. Same situation, I am a short soft gamine. And I could never find any dresses that suited me, except mini dresses, which are not always appropriate. I am sometimes really growing desperate and as a consequence I always wear black leggings.

[@LucyWiggli]

I used to hate my hair. All I ever wanted was long thick wavy hair. My curls had a mind of their own and did not take well to the way I was treating them. Well one day I decided to give my curly hair a chance. I have not looked back since then. I honor my curls with the right products, routine and haircut. I recieve so many compliments on my hair now. And I think my hair is pretty awesome.

[@JohannaGUDRAIS]

”We’re all trying to look like each other”

[@isobel1412]

Knowing body types especially helpful for YOUNG people. Little to no info about this 30 years ago.

[@ΛΕΜΟΝΙΑΤΑΣΟΥΛΑ]

I am one of those who envy curvy hair. I find afro hair really beautiful and I am not even black.

[@cinderling5472]

Oh Merriam, thank you so much for this ❤❤❤ As a Natural/Bevelled type, i always always always wanted to be a petite, softer, more lush feminine type and felt like there was something wrong with me for not looking like that This video is so kind to us women...i feel like everyone, especially young girls/women should see it! Thank you ❤

[@PalisUK]

I love your voice. my fave on YT #teamquiet

[@BeTheChange-d5h]

What a beautiful comment. She does have a quiet powerful presence. You nailed the description. Now I know why I love her analysis. ;-)

[@hjtres7261]

Her voice and presence makes me feel like everything is going to be ok. I know that sounds odd but I love listening to her.

[@sylviegrandmaison2735]

Yes, I listen to it to calm me to go to sleep 🎉😂

[@kathystclair9485]

It was not until you body typed me that I accepted my height as a SG. I too always wanted to be taller like my sisters, but it made me to realize I am uniquely made by God. I am low contrast and as a fair skinned lady I used to always want to be darker. I quit trying in my mid 30's. I'm so glad I did as it has helped with the aging process now at 68. I am very content with who I am, just wish I felt that way when I was younger. Great video.

[@ritaweygint4038]

Love what you said, “There is always someone who wants to look like YOU…” A very good thought to remember! We need to define our own individual standard of beauty for sure! ❤ I am a Flamboyant Gamine type, very petite. I love the recommended style, how edgy and eclectic we can be. Love my huge eyes and that I look best in short hair. Sometimes I do wish I was taller so I wouldn’t have to have clothes tailored! I love Dramatic Classic style, but I can work some of those elements too.

[@mariannerichard1321]

I'm a Romantic, I envy how effortlessly Classics and Naturals can pull out a minimalist outfit. With the same pieces, they look regal and I look neglected... I have a better understanding of how it works now, so I know what element I need to put more thoughts into to make it works, mixing and matching simple pieces with more punchy elements.

[@lorilee1931]

As a wide soft natural, what I wouldn't give to be romantic.

[@mariannerichard1321]

@@lorilee1931One of my best friend is a wide soft natural, I wish I could wear her big knit sweaters as elegantly as she does, but I just look like a dwarf in a potato sack in these...

[@lorilee1931]

@@mariannerichard1321 Thank you for the encouragement. Happy New Year to you, my friend.

[@mariannerichard1321]

@@lorilee1931 Happy new years to you too! ^_^ But yeah, Romantic is a bit hard to dress. Plain shirt or basic T-shirt don't do, you need to work hard around to make it works. Pants rarely fit, not enough room for the thighs, too much for the waist, I have a specific jeans model which I know works, but for the rest, I don't even bother trying these. I enter in a clothing shop, I know 90% of the stuff won't work, fortunately I now know how to narrow down that 10% quickly. I once read Marilyn Monroe would buy every color of a model when she find one she liked. My first though was "been there, done that". On the plus side, I can wear pattern, over texture, over lace, never looking like I'm trying too hard. And I never look too sexy.

[@heart12361]

As a theatrical romantic, I can relate. I have to wear lots of jewelry just to go grocery shopping, for me to feel myself.

[@HeidiMR]

Yes, as a sharpened soft, I used to wish I was shorter and more petite. I’m thankful for Merriam helping me understand my lines and coloring to work with my own look. She has shifted my perspective from the mindset of camouflaging certain areas to working WITH my body to highlight its beauty. Sometimes the technique is the same but my mindset is different.

[@stellafournodavlou]

I’m moderately tall and usually I wish I was TALLER -BUT also petite for the sake of the fantasy of being carried around by gentlemen like a little doll… The mood changes depending on the day 😅

[@tearsofmina]

@@stellafournodavlou Hopefully the potential "gentlemen" are not the type to collect dolls in the basement. I rather like being tall because I feel less like prey.

[@stellafournodavlou]

@@tearsofmina no I am not talking about those people obviously hahahahah

[@stayathomemess]

As a natural, I've just always wondered what it was like to be and feel dainty.

[@Mar-pe9kx]

when you say dainty do you mean height or personal style? You can definitely dress in cute style clothes as a natural and give off dainty/cute energy as any type.

[@lorilee1931]

Exactly my thoughts.

[@stayathomemess]

@@Mar-pe9kx I mean in overall stature. I'm 5'11", very broad, and very muscled. I wonder what it feels like for people to feel a natural inclination to protect and care for you, because people have a natural inclination to think "she can handle herself" when they see me.

[@stayathomemess]

@@Mar-pe9kx no, at 5'11", broad, and muscular, no way that I dress will ever come across as "dainty."

[@verica4b]

weak and childish

[@tara7206]

Soft dramatics are the most beautiful imo.

[@m.e.a.n.y]

Yes! The issue is that its easy for us to conflate lines with the image or 'core' we want to achieve. There are so many benefits in embracing what we have, let alone the fact that it can feel liberating. We need to start seeing ourselves objectively and holistically (not just seeing our percieved 'flaws') not only for the sake of our own confidence, but to really see the canvas we are expressing on.

[@BeTheChange-d5h]

The book by Merriam I would love to read: "When you see your own beauty"

[@HaHaHaLMFAOtv]

What helped me was just aging (I'm 30 now), realizing my lines and with trial and error my colors too. And therapy, of course. I also had bad shopping addiction and now I feel like it's under control and I really don't need much to achieve best results

[@zayza]

This video is so important, Merriam! Your work is amazing.

[@JW-uq9yt]

I am a flamboyant Garmin, I had always wanted to look like flamboyant natural, BUT, now I like my body type and love the way i look , acceptiing myself 😍

[@Artica61]

I'm finally 🙌 accepting my shape and coloring yay!!! I tried to be something else for a long time. At 63 yo now I know embracing what I have is great.

[@ernestavalenciute6279]

Honestly I struggle now a bit, cause due to medication I put on weight. From S-M my size became L-XL. I have so much beautiful clothes in S-M size, still don’t want to get rid of it snd buy a lot of my new size. I even don’t know anymore what fits my new body, so I just buy what is really necessary.

[@pajamamama5965]

This is so interesting and uplifting. Thank you. For years I've been studying and learning and trying to understand my body type, My lines, How to dress, How to spend less time getting ready and shopping. It's been a long journey. Sorting through so much advice. My measurements are traditional hourglass but as a married mother of teenagers I did not want to look sexy 24/7 and accentuate those curves. I was tired of wasting money on trendy clothes just to find out they're out of Style in no time. As a soft classic with a short waist and long legs, my proportions have been difficult to shop for and belts look ridiculous on me. I discovered that my style is classic and minimal with a hint of feminine. The final piece in the puzzle was my color analysis last year. I knew I looked better in cool tones but I didn't know if I was a winter or summer. I couldn't figure out why I was always having to use makeup to fix Wearing the wrong colors. Now I understand why because I'm a bright winter but wasn't wearing the saturated colors. Now I've curated my wardrobe and my makeup collection and it's been so freeing to always reach for colors that flatter. I'm overjoyed and I've gotten more compliments in the past year then I had in the entire past decade. My point is it's worth all the work to learn all of this, make the changes, and embrace our own natural beauty. I've become more confident in my own skin and as a result stopped wishing to look different.

[@fionahannon]

Hi! I’m also a blended soft/soft classic with a short torso and long legs. I struggle with defining my waist without using belts and without emphasising the shortness of my waist as when I do that it can look quite comical!😄 Perhaps you can relate! I would be very interested in hearing your approach to defining the waist as a short-waisted soft classic if you were willing to share!

[@pajamamama5965]

@fionahannon Comical is the right word for it! The large bust and the short waist look ridiculous especially in highwasted bottoms. I wear mid rise pants/jeans bootcut or straight leg. I stopped trying to define the waist, and that made a huge difference for me. It's more about the fabric choice. I wear mostly knits so they stretch over the curves. In the cold weather I like vertical cable knits, and I hide the waist by wearing thigh length sweater dresses over black leggings. Or I wear Sweaters or knit tops that fall at the top of the hip and cover the waistband in a boxy way. I hope that helps 🙏

[@fionahannon]

Thank you - it’s so interesting to hear from a fellow short-waisted soft blended/soft classic! I think I need a bit of waist definition but I think what you said about the fabric choice being key and knits stretching over the curves is likely the direction for me to go in. Thank you again!

[@pajamamama5965]

@fionahannon You're welcome 😊 I hope it works out for you

[@lvs6775]

When I first started following you years, I started to notice patterns in other people and seeing what made them beautiful, how well styled themselves or how they could style themselves to bring out that beauty. I don't want to be someone else but it's SO hard to see my own features with this compassionate and more objective lens. You typed me as mixed and I've noticed it leans towards beveled. My goal is to create a daily uniform that helps me draw out the feminine while still being comfortable enough to run around with my 3 y/o 😅 I love your work 💕

[@arwenives]

I'm definitely so guilty of this. I think because I'm half-Iranian and my Iranian cousins had such beautiful bold dramatic features, meanwhile my features, while having some dramatic essence, are really much softer and moderate, I thought I looked boring. I have always really admired really dramatic beauty like Angelina Jolie for example. I have an older cousin who I admired and who is so gorgeous with very large, deep set almond eyes and she has very dramatic-romantic-ethereal features and body type is soft natural I think. She would always wear this dark boho style and I was copying her for a while in my 20s but I realized that it actually really dragged me down to wear that. While she looked magical in those outfits, I really just looked unkempt and shapeless. After a while I started to embrace the softer, more moderate aspects of my features. I won't lie, there is still a part of me that wishes I were tall and dramatic (I get so happy when I see a really tall woman wear heels, they remind me of an gorgeous Amazon woman and I often wonder how it would feel) but I've come to a point of embracing what I look like (short and curvy) and as such I feel like I have the best style I've ever had, thanks in large part to channels like yours.

[@bigwildonion]

So thoughtful! I appreciate what you say about timelessness and beauty. It was not conscious really, but it seems like focusing on trends never helped me to appreciate my body or feel beautiful. Learning more about color, lines, texture and light has helped me to see beauty in myself and others much better.

[@teresatennis]

Ladies- invest in you and get typed. It was the best money I've ever spent!

[@chibap84]

If you don't mind me asking, how easy/difficult was applying all the advice you got in the report?

[@teresatennis]

I found it very easy! Merriam is very organized and lays it all out in a very organized fashion. I use her lessons daily.

[@Mar-pe9kx]

What is your type? I love knowing what other people are typed as 😅

[@teresatennis]

Theatrical romantic and cool and radiant ❤❤❤❤

[@amandacoelho9524]

once i understood im probably a soft natural, Im way more at ease about not being super thin and petite, and Im comfortable with being a more "broad" body than my friends and family. when im in full SN posture, with proper lines, im so effortlessly well dressed and thats so good. this journey has been very awarding

[@lorilee1931]

It's hard to be soft natural in a world where the beauty standards for women are thin, dainty looking.

[@tearsofmina]

"Choose yourself as you are" (Kierkegaard), in other words, accept yourself in all your authenticity rather than trying to conform to societal expectations.

[@ekaterinal8631]

I’m struggling to find the difference between soft naturals and soft classics. They have a similar issue within their family which is, from what I learned from you, naturals actually find it hard to look casual and they end up looking more refined in casual clothes that others would look “relaxed” in, and classics have a similar issue, not entirely the same, where they find it hard to stay looking “neutral” because any little change or detail shows up stronger on them. These can show up very similarly in real life. What’s the difference? Is that a classic will look “overly relaxed” in a casual fit vs a natural will look slightly the opposite?

[@moniquedietrich6851]

I have long lines and a dramatic essence and have always wanted to look cute and petite. I am learning to love my low contrast although there was a time I really, really wanted to be a winter season as I find their high contrast so beautiful. I do really love my warm undertones though- thanks for your uplifting videos inspiring us all to appreciate our own beauty 😊

[@madelinelambtalks]

Your voice is so calming…. This is the 4th video of yours I’ve watched and even though I do enjoy the substance of your content, it’s how calm and peaceful but intelligent that you are that draws me in. Do you know what ASMR is? You’d be great at it!

[@ivaeva7]

Beautiful video ❤ I've been on my soft dramatic journey for 7 years now. I felt easee learning that my big and bulky presence is a natural part of me. The biggest obstacle was thinking that I need to look sexy - which I wasnt on board with (I love gamine styles!!) Finding classical pieces in lines that are flattering my body shape was a biggest and most recent discovery, as it helped me ro embrace the overall SD vibe without pushing for sensuality. I would never think before that I would enjoy cream bulky wrap jumpers (I'm a colorful eclectic artist) but it just works!! I feel at ease in them. ❤ I love all the kibbe types equally, and my biggest eye opening was reall fully appriciating Dramatics beauty

[@daniellaastor]

Thank you for this video! I love my short and sharp lines - I’m FG mixed taut. I used to hate being short and wished I was tall like a dramatic and only then I’d be beautiful. But now I love my size and I know how to dress so I can be elegant and powerful if I want to be, or fun and cute if I lean into that. You’ve helped me see how I can dress my body’s lines to suit my mood.

[@tinabohnet296]

I’m still honing in on my body type but throughout my life I have felt too petite/delicate to fit an athletic/natural look and yet not petite/delicate enough for more elegant looks. I’ve always felt too fat even when I wasn’t. And now I look back on old photos and wish I hadn’t been so self conscious. It’s so true that we want what we aren’t 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@christianeherzog298]

that's sooo funny. i did my colour and type consultation in a small women's group. when it came to body shape, one woman was told that she should wear loose tops because that suits her better with her body shape. she said she didn't want to wear potato sacks all the time and who in the group she envied for our narrow waists. she has a straight body shape. i then said to her that she had beautiful narrow legs and that i envied her for that and her beautifully delecate ankles and knees. she couldn't see the beauty because she was busy with her belly. i'm pear-shaped with short legs and always have problems with trousers. but i don't focus on that, i focus on my waist and wearing tighter fitting tops to emphasise that. It didn't used to be like that, yes I envy others for their legs, but I can't change it no matter how skinny i could be. and another funny story: after my analysis i gave all brown makeup away. my colleague asked me why i was so strict about it and i said “because i shouldn't wear brown, and should go for gray and black”. she said that she wouldn't let herself be restricted and that it is completely dictatorial. that was such a negative view. i then said that i trusted the stylist and her experience and that i saw that she was right. i love my color so i see the positive side, she sees the negative. it's so fascinating. i love the new given structure and system i have, so see tat as restricting... why?

[@BeTheChange-d5h]

Great topic. There is a strong emotional/psychological effects in accepting beauty. Many doctors who do cosmetic surgery have noted the same thing. They therefore ask questions in their consults to figure out if plastic surgery is the "answer." to their problem. Maybe fashion is a desire to develop esteem without doing the inner work. Maybe you can build a component ( counseling) to your practice as so many image consultants don't go deeper. You seem to be compassionate and empathetic which makes you attract people who are willing to tell you what they feel. 💓

[@lisaa.942]

My consultation was the best thing I've ever bought. So, being an SD with Romantic essence helped me to hone in on certain patterns, fabrics and colors. I'm getting so much better at my choices and am able to discern between all the Soft body type clothing. I also find it helpful to be in Club. I refer to the videos over and over again; there is so much information. Sometimes I miss it and get it the second or third time. I think you're the best out there! Sorry other KZbinrs.

[@chesshaterrr]

so true about Club videos!

[@stellafournodavlou]

I need a consultation too… I cannot, for the life of me, figure out Kibbe on me, seasons, contrast levels, nearly ANYTHING for the matter

[@Clementina_Solis]

I think romantics are so beautiful ❤️ I am SN but i have almost no curves. What I do like about my look is that I have never had to stress about weight gain or struggling to lose weight. I have no curves though so I look pretty much like a boy body. Also it's difficult for me to come out good in photos it takes a long time because in real life I look pretty Manish. I think there might have been a lot of testosterone during my mom's pregnancy and I have 3 brothers and am the only girl. This is why I love romantics, they look so feminine ♥️

[@katharinaheckmann4962]

Maybe you could do a video series in which you talk about the different types and what makes each type ' the most beautiful type' as you mentioned in the video. That would be so jnteresting.🎉🎉🎉 love you ❤

[@cinderling5472]

Yess please!!!

[@nancyfinucane8246]

Brilliant Miriam. Thanks n happy new year 🥰

[@Mar-pe9kx]

It sounds like the client who told you they didn't want to be a trophy wife was thinking about Sophia Vergara as her soft dramatic example (since she played a trophy wife in modern family). But there are so many other soft dramatics who look completely different. Adele is a SD and does not give off trophy wife at all. She's extremely elegant. Christina Hendricks is also SD and is extremely classy and fits the 50's esthetic due to her character on Mad Men. Being typed as something does not mean everyone in that type looks alike or has similar essences or characteristics. Being typed as something should only help you in your personal style journey, not make you feel like you only fit into one type of box.

[@tridharachakrabarti1515]

Theatrical romantic..grew up in a culture where most women had big voluptious chest i always felt like a kid with my small curves and delicate frame..felt less womanly..came across your videos years ago and realized i am cool and delicate with TR body type..changed my life..exposure to korean entertainment also made me realize u can be petite and very feminine..( it has its flaws too) ..the fact that u can be feminine without a visible heavy bustline was unknown to my teenage self..i remember my first night of marriage i almost apologized to my husband about my small breasts 😅..he was sooo confused like whaaaat

[@micheleann1737]

As someone who is tall, I am jealous of gamines for being able to pull off short dresses without it drawing too much attention or throwing off their proportions.

[@katharinaheckmann4962]

I feel like everyone goes through some type of gamine envy at some point 😂

[@tearsofmina]

You really should feel blessed to be tall. I am 5'10" so welcome to the club.

[@BeTheChange-d5h]

What's been difficult is to see my own beauty upon hearing negative media coverage on "aging" and for those with medical diagnosis such as arthritis, ortho problems. How to adjust what I loved about me to the current times and attitudes? Or to what extent is it necessary or not? So much of fashion about the "timeless" many classify as "frumpy." Tips on doing customized classics without connecting it to periods of time would be helpful.

[@JoannaMarie-x7c]

I'm looking for an outfit for a wedding as I'm listening to you. I'm Flamboyant Gamine. I just picked out a coat that's too classic, which I thought might be flattering, then realised I'm just going to disappear in it. It's really hard to 'dress down' without disappearing into nothingness visually. I've just found a sparkly striped dress and a teal fur cape - it's theatrical but I feel it is going to look quite laid back on me. I want to find a 'low key' look but I also want to look like I'm there.

[@katharinaheckmann4962]

I always felt too conservative or *mumsy* as a soft classic. Im also afraid of appearing too refined as in cold or distant. I definetly experienced some neglect because i appear to have it all together. Any one else who wants to be my type? I'm having a hard time reframing it for myself. ❤

[@bruhyoman7314]

I think anyone who wants to have that clean, refined, and feminine look wants to be soft Classic. I actually think it is an extremely popular look/ body type that ppl want, so they can pull off looking that sort of girly and **perfect**

[@heart12361]

Merriam... sorry that this is off-topic...but will you be reviewing and doing a video on David Kibbe's new book, which is being released on January 15th? I hope so. I've ordered it myself and would love to hear your views on it. Thanks.

[@Diana-fg2vy]

I'm finding once you find what doesn't wrk , you can find what wrks , I personally need a little sharp ,a little rounded and a bit relaxed .

[@kazumikanade]

Could you analyse Kate winslet Colors and style ?

[@chibap84]

I've got a long torso and short legs. I think it's understandable for me to want longer legs.

[@HumanimalChannel]

Me too!❤😂😂

[@lorilee1931]

I have a friend, she is dramatic, and she always complains she wants to be short and stuffed (fat), her words exactly.

[@stellafournodavlou]

I’m also confused by one thing: Does getting in/out of fitness and having a body recomposition, gaining muscles in certain areas etc. or gaining/losing weight change your Kibbe?

[@annas5303]

It doesn't, musles don't change your bone structure or lines. Merriam did a video on this about a month ago 😊

[@lorilee1931]

Can you look dainty as a very wide soft natural? It's hard to accept yourself when society wants women dainty looking.

[@katharinaheckmann4962]

I sincerely feel like todays society does not want dainty women but athletic and sporty and outgoing type of women. Easy going, casual, athleisure - that’s kind of the ideal for women in todays world, at least from My stand point as a soft classic - and also completely unattainable for me. We have such a skewed view on beauty and ourselves it’s kind of crazy to hear how everybody wants what they don’t have and are so sure that that thing is what would make them “okay” to society… coming from Someone who wishes she was a natural. 😂

[@lorilee1931]

@katharinaheckmann4962 wow, I can't believe you want to be a natural. I think soft classic is sublime.

[@katharinaheckmann4962]

@@lorilee1931 well I think it’s crazy anyone would want to be sc….😝 naturals have this thing that I will never have where they just seem so uninhibited, so “immediate”, warm and “closer to you”. Just unfussy and direct and I always felt like they are more popular because of it. Sexy and athletic and relaxed, who doesn’t want that? Sc seem distant and isolated to me. Plus you only really look good in super formal clothes which you really never wear often so usually you’re not in your best look… unlike the SN…. 😝 The best thing about this kibbe journey is to me to find out so much about how others feel about their types… we really do all want what we don’t have… our inner critic makes it seem like we’d be “safer” if only we were different… 🫶🏻to you

[@cinderling5472]

​@katharinaheckmann4962 😮 you want to be like me? 🤯 But i have no curves 😭

[@katharinaheckmann4962]

@@lorilee1931 thanks for your kind reply. oh absolutely i do. i feel so disconnected from contemporary, casual, or `urban` culture im actually embarrassed about it. i would fit perfectly into the 50s or the 18th, 19th century but today´s world doesnt really play to any of my strengths and i feel excluded or not appreciated often times. i feel like being a natural has been the ideal since the 1960s and you guys are so hot and chill. they can just wear sports wear or even masculine styles (another thing i look hideous in) but seem so uninhibted and simply ´in touch`. i feel like all the men want naturals that are athletic and casual and unfussy... i´ve learnt by now that we all tend to idealize what we dont have so i´ve come to appreciate that my life probably wouldnt be that different if i was the perfect surfer girl or tennis girl or beach babe.... thats probably the biggest takeaway from the body typing series for me.

[@nfvjgrofgjvoldlkgvlo]

why is it wrong to want to be a different body type but its right to want to be a different gender?!

[@cinderling5472]

Very good point!!

[@JohannaJalonen]

This phenomenon you are talking about has something to do with the tendency many women seem to have, that is loving to play the victim. And thus avoid actually start creating yourself to match your beauty ideals.

[@emmamartin4045]

What a misogynistic take.

[@JohannaJalonen]

@ it came out of my own experience really and instead of women I could just have sais ”people”.

[@becagb]

There is any social media like facebook group, telegram, discord, that we can share our style photos and have conversations about it? I would like it, and I love your content as well.

[@Mar-pe9kx]

r/kibbe on reddit discusses all things body types