When people reveal who they really are

When people reveal who they really are | Mel Robbins

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Mel Robbins

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@MYTULSAREALTOR 4 ай бұрын

When people reveal who they truly are, believe them.

@anwa6169 4 ай бұрын

100% yes.

@ts9881 4 ай бұрын

💯 Amen I now know this though it may hurt at the time. I can only control my own actions so I now let people be themselves. 🤔

@sescapo 4 ай бұрын

So very true!

@NaomiLouellis 4 ай бұрын

YES I BELIEVE THATS RIGHT !!!

@luannshoop1339 4 ай бұрын

It is not what they call you, it is what you answer to.

@rhodacampbell 2 ай бұрын

My mantra is “do not invest in resistance”

@grittyinpink16 4 ай бұрын

“Go where you’re wanted.” I’m working on that one.

@madhuridas4745 4 ай бұрын

Beautiful...indeed. thanks x

@calmingbabysleep1256 4 ай бұрын

Yes.. go were you are celebrated ,not tolerated.❤

@LadyJpraise2024unbound 4 ай бұрын

Problem is where is that? I hope I can find it

@rayleneveloz296 3 ай бұрын

@LadyJpraise2024unbound you'll know 😊

@Butterfly828-x8e 3 ай бұрын

@@calmingbabysleep1256you must not be celebrated, if it's not your birthday or another special day. Others are not there to celebrate you all the time. That sounds a bit narcistic. But to be with people that love, respect and honor you, that want to be with you and share things and time and live and love with you, that's important. And a great luck to find those good and fitting people and it requires to be such a person oneself.

@nysavvy9241 3 ай бұрын

So valid. When people dont make time for you, let them go. You'll never know what's waiting around the corner.

@maridagni 3 ай бұрын

The same thing!

@AicaHernandez 2 ай бұрын

True, I always take the wrong friends more important...I let them out of my life because I noticed I net get serious in anything I do when they're with me 🤔

@angelangel4476 2 ай бұрын

Yes, looking forward to what is around the corner😊

@CutthroatAngel 2 ай бұрын

@angelangel4476 , Do you have any tips dealing with loss? Also, that little voice that says ," Maybe I will gear from them eventually." Do I go on and avoid/block this person after being ghosted for a year?

@SherriFlemming Ай бұрын

@@CutthroatAngel No response is a response. Let them go.

@MeeCee5204 3 ай бұрын

Exactly! Don't try to change people, change the way you interact with them 👍🏽😊

@MusickLover-w5w 2 ай бұрын

@@MeeCee5204 I AB$OLUTELY agree! Thank$ for $haring.

@DeniseLaviar 2 ай бұрын

So true u know where u stand

@tinaknutsen 2 ай бұрын

…….Or don’t interact with them, especially if they are toxic.

@JoyceMeagan 2 ай бұрын

Lol

@harry-rt2xl 2 ай бұрын

Exactly Don't try to change people. Change the way you interact with them😮

@jeanettepelletier1402 4 ай бұрын

She’s right… don’t beg to be anyone’s life let them go… this is so true ❤

@empress2020 4 ай бұрын

"Let them" so powerful, thank you❤

@estelledean6563 4 ай бұрын

Learned that the hard way this last month❤.. Let them!!! Let God

@dlzoso74 4 ай бұрын

She sexy

@syk3035 4 ай бұрын

Yes. powerful.

@sylvieboucher9266 3 ай бұрын

Thank you….

@RevXBones 2 ай бұрын

Older than me and still pretty profound! Let Them! 😮

@alisialozano4778 3 ай бұрын

I love this. People always show who they truly are. It creates peace by removing them from your life 🙏

@KarenSears-iu5ne 3 ай бұрын

Yes very true I removed one I feel terrific!! He is still so miserable let him be miserable not in my company amen.❤❤

@sybilizzard4926 4 ай бұрын

Observe. Dont participate with them. Participate with yourself and your own life.

@II-zc5lk 3 ай бұрын

👍🏽👍🏽

@Kate-nd4rl 4 ай бұрын

It’s so true. We can’t control what other people are going to do.

@Goldie56937 4 ай бұрын

Make peace with it and move on. It can hurt, but she is right let them.

@ravichaudhary3886 4 ай бұрын

Thats not what she is saying 😅

@martigallagher7250 4 ай бұрын

@@ravichaudhary3886, you have the choice to move on if you want to-these individuals have shown you who they are over time. It’s so freeing to realize who they are, either positive in your life or not offering much. 🎉

@user-vz3fh6oj7d 4 ай бұрын

Really? Because that's an aspect I got from her words as well. She's not just transmitting a limited message. I think you might be a 👺

@user-vz3fh6oj7d 4 ай бұрын

The message above ☝🏽was for @ravichaudhary3886

@Goldie56937 4 ай бұрын

Acceptance is within oneself, along with many other things, forgiveness, esteem etc.. If people want to do whatever with whomever and not include you, you have to accept that it is what it is regardless of your hurt feelings. In other words let them, let them do whatever, with whomever for whatever, even if it hurts you personally. Make peace with that for yourself and move on from it. I think that's exactly what she is saying. Let them do what they want to do, and learn to not let it effect you. It can be challenging especially if it's not what you would do. 🤷‍♀️

@elizabethlasseigne5361 Ай бұрын

It’s hard when you love them but they aren’t interested in sharing in your passions,dreams, and endeavors. This is helpful. Thank you, Mel!

@DanaDeeBee 4 ай бұрын

It's so nice to hear how simple some things really are, rather than how complicated our minds make them.

@linz9990 3 ай бұрын

YES!!!!! This comment 💯 ~ and how our minds impact our feelings!!! And vids versa. Heavy cycle

@shelz2057 3 ай бұрын

So true. Thank you. Peace

@Trendreviewmum 4 ай бұрын

I am saving this to show my 10 year old son later we been talking about others not playing with him at school and leaving him out of things and this is something I love him to realise he not there to please others. He got to do what makes him happy

@shandradowe4113 3 ай бұрын

My kids are grown an I told them this years ago..an me I'm still going by those rules less stress an drama..I really don't care anymore

@Vbg404 4 ай бұрын

I have adopted "let them" it's got rid of so much angst and I finally feel free from caring about things out of my control. Finally at 66, I feel at peace, thankyou.

@cmkilcullen8176 4 ай бұрын

Yes, me too at 65. Letting is letting go. Sometimes in life, when you exhibit that degree of independence, others have a problem with that. I am referring to people you deal with every day; where you live, work, or go to school. This is a harder situation to navigate and get support with. Letting other people go works if others let you be too and not try to control you.

@Vbg404 4 ай бұрын

I don't let any one control me. I'm just no longer available to them because they are not my type of people. I'm closed off and distant. I can't control others but I can control who I allow into my close circle. That does not mean I am rude to then, I'm treat them as I would a stranger.

@jjohnson7297 3 ай бұрын

Right!.. because they will try and control you!..(neighbors).. stay Observant@cmkilcullen8176

@jjohnson7297 3 ай бұрын

@@Vbg404Correct!.. I have done the same thing😊 especially Neighbors!

@jjohnson7297 3 ай бұрын

Soo True girl!.. I'm 61 and just now letting it go! You can talk to You Blue in the Face😢😊

@cristianacris8134 Ай бұрын

So true! It's too much an effort trying to control or change people; it just lowers our energy and makes us feel helpless.

@lhale9176 4 ай бұрын

Touche'...a lesson that took 50 yrs to learn. Better late than never....all the hurt can be let go...find peace...it's so freeing🙏🕊️ ✌️

@MusickLover-w5w 3 ай бұрын

I Concur!

@justmarialing Ай бұрын

60 💫

@karenworley241 3 ай бұрын

I've been abandoned by many, and it's ok, I've got my savior, best friend, comforter, healer with me 24/7 🙌🏼✝️📖🙏🏼💜

@MusickLover-w5w 3 ай бұрын

FACT$!

@Jay-ix7xp 2 ай бұрын

More power to you ❤

@susanb5058 2 ай бұрын

Amen! 🙏🏻💕 Same here!

@dummy4ever816 4 ай бұрын

So needed this today …. I’m so Pissed off at everyone and everything !

@vickibazter3446 4 ай бұрын

GOD BLESS YOU

@letiziacascone 4 ай бұрын

I feel the exact same

@tinaalbritton3450 4 ай бұрын

You're not alone, I'm in the same boat!!!🙄

@sharonhorwitz7903 4 ай бұрын

Me too!! Happy with my little Beta fish! 😂

@ibolyaszombathy51 4 ай бұрын

I feel exactly the same way too

@befriendingvulnerability 3 ай бұрын

Allowing things to unfold without reacting is super important. When you see the truth you will know what to do.

@korab.23 4 ай бұрын

Let them. It makes room for the people who ARE your people. That's when the good stuff starts happening. ❤

@acquanellaogbemudia9930 3 ай бұрын

Courage to Change the Things I Can and The Wisdom to Know The Difference Amen !

@wynnssecret8243 4 ай бұрын

When someone shows you who they are...... believe them👍

@all_is_alchemy 4 ай бұрын

That's a good follow up or part 2 to "let them" Once you let them be, believe what you now see is the truth. That it's the real person behind any masks since they likely think your non-intervention or non-protest is a sign of agreement or just weakness from you when it's really just the beginning of stepping away from the situation/person to gain a wider perspective and maybe also the beginning of permanently removing yourself from an unhealthy or even dangerous situation or person.

@Natalie-lf7hb 3 ай бұрын

Without a clear answer on the motivation it is just guessing. And filling in blanks to ease your own mind. If you want to know for sure then have the courage to ask instead of assumptions. If it is important enough for you to get to the truth. If you like assumptions better then the truth it is also an option. But believing assumptions to be true is rarely accurate. The world is filled with assumptions which seem to be preferred by many instead of thinking for ourselves. But by constantly assuming, we are less likely to get to know our inner authentic self. Which is worth getting to know if you ask my opinion. Have a nice day!

@James__f3m 3 ай бұрын

You have an adorable smile that know one can skip without Commenting, i went through your profile and found interesting things about you which led me to comment but unfortunately we are not friends on KZbin , your profile tells me that you are a true christian and a believer, I have tried sending you a message twice it failed, please don't be mad at me for writing you here, i feel this is the only way to get your attention, Please Kindly send me a message if you’re seeing this texts. God bless you

@muhammadsirajahmad322 3 ай бұрын

@@Natalie-lf7hbwhat's your own definition of if people show you who they are believe them?

@Joshualuv13 3 ай бұрын

This is the best advice. If I'd have taken this advice in so many situations. I could have saved myself a whole lot of unnecessary emotional energy.

@carolyn4423 3 ай бұрын

. . . but you know now! So that's all that matters 😊

@matikramer9648 3 ай бұрын

I hope it ain't too late

@AicaHernandez 2 ай бұрын

So Valid. When people don't make time for you, let them go.....You'll never know what's waiting for you around the corner

@Shazi_Li 3 ай бұрын

I wish I had heard this 2 or 3 years ago. It destroyed my mental health, and I wasted my time thinking about why they just left me out. But I worked on myself, and now I don't give a little rat a**. I am so happy and comfortable spending time on things I like.

@MAW-g3r 2 ай бұрын

Being unbothered is Priceless!

@Jay-fq7py 2 ай бұрын

Such a powerful truth! Remain in peace with yourself by letting others be and show you who they are.

@CarolOToole-q6g 4 ай бұрын

68yrs old and found this lesson now. Let Them and let me Be .

@marycloss455 4 ай бұрын

Iam just about 50 & Iam just learning about this remarkable lady💯👌🫶👍🇨🇦🤗

@James__f3m 3 ай бұрын

@patriciac.1326 3 ай бұрын

So true. It hurts but it’s true . Not under our control. We can control what we do but not what people does to us. Thank you 🙏

@kimwells1897 4 ай бұрын

Good advice. so many times we tend to chase what is not for us for superficial reasons.

@Covered-Girl Ай бұрын

Thank you for giving voice to Healing Spirit

@bibibrin5035 4 ай бұрын

So true!! It helps to deal with fake friends. At work or otherwise.

@jjohnson7297 3 ай бұрын

Yesss exactly 💯

@mayadelcid8934 2 ай бұрын

Those words are more valuable than gold... "LET THEM".... Loving them ... from now on My Mantra... thank u very muchhhh... so much wise in those simple and short words....

@christinestrickland3672 4 ай бұрын

I really needed this. Just had a friend of 50 years reveal things about herself that I never saw & never expected. It’s made me so very sad

@mrquick6775 4 ай бұрын

Wow!! Why do I feel so nosy right now? 🤔👀🥹

@sybilizzard4926 4 ай бұрын

So sorry about that.

@leerubin4374 4 ай бұрын

You have plenty of company, they just wore a good mask! Time is the answer, that's what tells the truth!

@mrquick6775 4 ай бұрын

@@leerubin4374 Or, they actually changed!

@penniroyal4398 4 ай бұрын

Just the message I needed right now. Thank you 🙏

@Flowers4Everyone 3 ай бұрын

My grandpa told me when I was very little. Spend as much time with yourself so that people compliment you but do not define you. Fantastic words he repeated so many times that I just am not affected by others all that often.

@Linarbr 2 ай бұрын

Youre grandpa was an wise man

@janekihm5119 4 ай бұрын

This has been life changing advice for me.

@juliejohnson497 4 ай бұрын

It is what I have been reading lately. I wish I had known all this 70 years ago.

@juliejohnson497 4 ай бұрын

I meant realizing lately.

@James__f3m 3 ай бұрын

@matikramer9648 3 ай бұрын

True When you are true friend to yourself, new true friends will show up in time...

@VeroniqueASmans 3 ай бұрын

Great advice, 😊

@joannbaumann4028 2 ай бұрын

lost a friend for who knows whar but then got a new better friend!

@SherriFlemming Ай бұрын

@@matikramer9648 Be your own best friend first

@Bianca-nb7by 4 ай бұрын

Yes to this! It reminds me of the poem Let Them by Cassie Phillips ❤ Just Let them. If they want to choose something or someone over you, LET THEM. If they want to go weeks without talking to you, LET THEM. If they are okay with never seeing you, LET THEM. If they are okay with always putting themselves first, LET THEM. If they are showing you who they are and not what you perceived them to be, LET THEM. If they want to follow the crowd, LET THEM. If they want to judge or misunderstand you, LET THEM. If they act like they can live without you, LET THEM. If they want to walk out of your life and leave, hold the door open, AND LET THEM. Let them lose you. You were never theirs because you were always your own. So let them. Let them show you who they truly are, not tell you. Let them prove how worthy they are of your time. Let them make the necessary steps to be a part of your life. Let them earn your forgiveness. Let them call you to talk about ordinary things. Let them take you out on a Thursday. Let them talk about anything and everything just because it’s you they are talking to. Let them have a safe place in you. Let them see the heart in you that didn’t harden. Let them love you. For a beautiful reading of this poem: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bqjCqGSGnduLhacsi=J8nhuIRErBFI4rYE

@home3330 4 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing, this is beautiful and very helpful!

@amredrisco8416 4 ай бұрын

Oh wow that's so spot on ❤

@amredrisco8416 4 ай бұрын

👍

@CeciledeLuire 4 ай бұрын

yes i saw this too-sweet and sad and touching

@JoannaCubana 4 ай бұрын

Thank you ❤

@evelynbeadling591 2 ай бұрын

Wow!! Powerful Let them and let go!!

@Islandgirl198 4 ай бұрын

You can only control what you can control. We waste too much energy on people who waste our time. Invest in your time and peace. if things aren’t reciprocated then just keep moving along.

@andrews127 3 ай бұрын

You just summed that up perfectly

@bronwynnfineman4383 2 ай бұрын

This changed my life after hearing it for the first time last year!

@lauraatkinson8920 4 ай бұрын

Let them particularly for me at work, just used and abused worst I’ve ever felt, time to move on 😢

@Raven_Intuition 3 ай бұрын

Absolutely! No need to fight life.

@WhiteMouse77 4 ай бұрын

Mel ... You just made some narcissists pretty upset advising to others "let them" because ignorance is their criptonite taking all control over abused ones away 👍

@m_l_9650 4 ай бұрын

I needed to hear this.

@christinav3383 3 ай бұрын

Nothing beats doing things alone it’s the ultimate!

@matikramer9648 3 ай бұрын

❤

@matikramer9648 3 ай бұрын

It does When you stop feeling a need for company, overcome a need for company

@FabulousCucumber-ip9hu 4 ай бұрын

You can't control other ppl but you can control yourself. Everyone finds themselves in a toxic situation sometimes. You don't have to stick around, especially when there are people out there who are so much better for your spiritual growth, whether or not you've met them yet 💕

@blueberriesrfine5538 4 ай бұрын

Thank you. Very good point. How do you convince THEM to leave?

@martigallagher7250 4 ай бұрын

@@blueberriesrfine5538, healthy boundaries that align with your wishes. Boundary setting requires practice. Sometimes gentler to take baby steps-other times ripping off the bandage quickly is more honoring to them and you.

@nottthereyet4872 3 ай бұрын

Sometimes the ones who initially dismissed you, will want you back in their life. Because no matter how you shake up this Globe we live on, the grass is STILL not greener on the other side. 💚💚

@joyceholloway4727 4 ай бұрын

They "friends" never invite me or they will tell me after the fact. I just say thank you for showing me who you truly are me. I thank God for my peace and me loving me. Mrs. Mel, I respect all of your shared feed. Thank you. I "Let them". 😊

@James__f3m 3 ай бұрын

@christinalw19 3 ай бұрын

Thank you, Mel. A true friend. 🙏🏼🤍

@angiemarsh7679 4 ай бұрын

It is so so so hard to just let them and yet it’s the best thing that I did for myself

@James__f3m 3 ай бұрын

@NyNy-ly9js 4 ай бұрын

LET THEM!!!💜💜💜

@WarriorQueen1962 4 ай бұрын

I fully approve of this public service announcement!!! 💯💯💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@debbiewrazen5233 3 ай бұрын

As a junior high student, I studied my peers who seemingly navigated social situations with ease. I perceived them to be kids who were more connected with their own life experiences. They didn’t let situations with others disappoint them.

@michellereece1052 4 ай бұрын

This is so very true, I learned this when I was coming out of a 12 year abusive relationship, it was hard at first but the more I did it the freer I became!!!!!

@111... 4 ай бұрын

💙🦋

@Mushroom321- 4 ай бұрын

Co ngrats to freedom !!🎉🎉

@lindaatteo409 4 ай бұрын

Thank you, I needed to hear this. So much negativity around my husband and his abusive hurtful behavior and tactics. Not being invited to my sister house for the holidays but my other sister was invited. Not sure why. But your video allows me to say. I’m okay.

@jzm2293 4 ай бұрын

That's the story of my parents and sister when it came to other relatives. And the other cousins my age favor each other and I've somehow been the "weird girl" and we aren't invited to birthdays and events at times. It hurts when families do this unfortunately 😔

@newbeginnings3603 3 ай бұрын

@jzm2293 I know the feeling. Soon as they need something, they pop up.

@jzm2293 3 ай бұрын

@@newbeginnings3603 exactly so sad!

@MV-ew6ty 3 ай бұрын

Everyone has those relatives it seems. Hang in there. Ur not alone.

@lindaatteo409 3 ай бұрын

@@MV-ew6ty thanks a million

@rachael5178 Ай бұрын

Believe me, I'm never left out. And everything you said is very True!

@sheaholmes-murphy390 4 ай бұрын

My new opinion on everything and everyone. Thank you Mel!

@kathrynlewis7538 4 ай бұрын

This is such good advice. We cannot control how people behave, but we can control what we will tolerate. It gives us dignity and self respect.

@AnaM.F 4 ай бұрын

Oh yes!! Let them go. Period!

@harsha2086 2 ай бұрын

True... living alone by myself is the happiest I've been in my entire life....i value my own company rather than wasting time on others who've taken me for granted

@OsasLove-md3cx 4 ай бұрын

When someone shows you who they are, believe them (esp the first time)!.

@milenaseymour446 3 ай бұрын

So true !! I’m exhausted worrying and trying to control everything lol ❤

@ethaatiempo7281 4 ай бұрын

Mel, you are a walking blessing, you are deep and true. I vibe with you.

@Babygirldagoat 3 ай бұрын

Loved the shit out of "you can tap into peace and total control if you let them be themselves" ❤😊

@cacheson100 4 ай бұрын

Man, I feel like this is so relevant as to where I am right now. Thank you Mel!

@heatherwiner2883 2 ай бұрын

I love this. So many times in life I have been left out and overlooked. People show their true colors eventually.

@lauraelizabethgoodyear31 4 ай бұрын

VERY WISE! I ALWAYS TURN TO THE SERENITY PRAYER & FOCUS ON WHAT I HAVE CONTROL OVER… &, AS WE KNOW, WE CAN ONLY CONTROL OUR REACTIONS TO LIFE/OTHERS! ❤❤❤

@root256 Ай бұрын

Very well said. Thank you ❤

@bethlondner5049 4 ай бұрын

Let them! My mantra at this time .What a relief. Thank you Mel for your words of wisdom.

@cmkilcullen8176 4 ай бұрын

I agree with you. "Letting" them is a way to get information so that you can move on and do what is next right for you. And if they then "let" you go about your business, there is no problem.

@zhenren9703 3 ай бұрын

If you are doing it to get information, you aren't doing it.

@Seraphim7 4 ай бұрын

Amen!! Vital advice-when in the World. Not every one has the same heart and spirit .

@rubberbiscuit99 3 ай бұрын

This truth will bring you clarity, power, space, and freedom.

@judenagarza3501 4 ай бұрын

Hello Mel, I would thoroughly enjoy and love to hear an entire podcast about this topic! Thank You for all You do sharing here with Us ❤🎉

@judenagarza3501 4 ай бұрын

Thank You to whomever liked my post! Coffee Cheers ☕

@tigerlily7173 4 ай бұрын

She does have it...an entire episode

@johnwashington1547 3 ай бұрын

So true it is best to keep your faith and believe in yourself 🙏🙏🙏

@soniacochrane1288 4 ай бұрын

So true.....when they show you who they are, believe them and act accordingly.

@warriorsue4370 4 ай бұрын

Soooo True, I Love The TRUTH...AMEN

@TRS371 4 ай бұрын

Mel, you have no idea how you have changed my life. The rolling out of bed early was one of My favorites as I am not an early riser. Thank you for what you do

@emotionalwibes7400 4 ай бұрын

This advice changed my life..Thanks

@Kimmypooh2627 4 ай бұрын

Yep - I say this all the time to myself and found peace and light 💡 and love ❤️. No need to spend too much energy to someone or something that doesn’t add value to my life.

@alison.lieser Ай бұрын

Stop trying to get difficult people to treat you well. Just let them do what they do. Then decide if you're ok with that or not. Bad habit from "unsafe" parents. You can't leave when you're a kid. You just have to try to get them to treat you well. Recognize this and be aware of it now. Parent-pleasers be healed. ❤️ It's so hard to let go and feel the terrible pain of fear, despair. But you are safe now...you can choose to reject that treatment when you couldnt before. You can be safe. You are safe to choose. You can chose now. Life lesson for me.

@sjordan7085 4 ай бұрын

Mel is spot on. I used to feel a tad sorry for myself that I don't see my daughter as often as I would like. Letting go of it, is very helpful. I make it a point to enjoy the times we share.

@emmbee1551 3 ай бұрын

I replayed this about 20 times this morning. This message, guidance is so utterly true that I don't know how it's taken me so long to realize it. It's a mind blowing insight for a codependent, people pleaser/helper who never wants to hurt anyone else's feelings and rarely (if ever) makes good choices for herself. Totally mind blowing, life changing and yet so freaking simple. How did I not see this all along?? Thank you, Mel!!!

@lisacottrell5924 4 ай бұрын

Thank you, Mel!! I have tried my whole life, I am finally just letting them! Its hard and I am sad, but now I see who they truly are!! You are so right, you cannot control other people!

@robin444 3 ай бұрын

This is so true. I'm living this right now. Walking the walk in silence and it's all being revealed to me. I've been working on "let them" for a few years now. I've been quiet and I stopped people pleasing. Consequently, slowly but surely, people have been dropping out of my life and I continue to see people for who they truly are; they're not good for me. Life is so much easier for me now. I know now what I can choose next what's right for me.

@Ana_Cecilia615 4 ай бұрын

I grew out of this in my 30s. Especially after I had my first baby. I don't even need a group of people or friends filling up my precious time that I spend listening to podcasts and learning!

@buzzcutbiene2211 4 ай бұрын

But do not forget that the baby will grow

@James__f3m 3 ай бұрын

@RaeBear-z7n 3 ай бұрын

Thank you ms beautiful lady. I truly appriciate that. I now know who the narc is.

@lancegoodman9903 4 ай бұрын

Agree 💯💯💯% Once people show you who they truly are or once you realize who people truly are. Appreciate it! And from that point on you have all the POWER and CONTROL. You can either deal with them accordingly or not deal with them at all 💎

@Mr_Kenneth 4 ай бұрын

Impossible not to admire this super special lady. Mel Robbins you are my truth girl.

@louisewebb2484 4 ай бұрын

Very true. Soon as i stopped making effort they revealed the true them & I haven’t spoken in weeks… Sad thing is I seem to have No one. It’s a lonely world 😢

@tonifoster1835 4 ай бұрын

More people will come back into your life, ask on here and people will stay in touch. This can lead to new friendships. ❤️💋

@simplegamer8018 4 ай бұрын

It certainly is a lonely world 😢

@joeythebushkangaroo1 3 ай бұрын

Time to focus on yourself, do things that you enjoy. Go for a walk, play with an animal, paint,draw,send an upbuilding msg to someone.❤

@VeroniqueASmans 3 ай бұрын

@louisewebb2484 let’s connect

@suhashini.r.4382 3 ай бұрын

I really needed to hear this today! Thank you. I tap into peace and i let them be.

@rhondaanderson2515 4 ай бұрын

Bingo..I've been working on this for 2 years now. I finally have found peace and I'm not exhausted anymore. I feel like I'm on vacation , laying in the sun with a cool breeze gently blowing and sipping on a pina colada. Be blessed.

@KaushalyaBogoda-l3w 3 ай бұрын

Very wise advice. Pls take it. I learn my lesson in the worst way I could ever imagine😢

@jangriffin-fi1yx 4 ай бұрын

Their loss if they do this to you definitely agree with Mel to "let them" people have to live with what they do in life don't waste worrying over them not worth it.

@true6457 3 ай бұрын

EXCELLENT!!! 😊

@ashajagavkar5747 2 ай бұрын

So true….. Yes I am hurting……..

@tinaknutsen 2 ай бұрын

Rejection is very painful. Try to do something you enjoy to get your mind off it. Listening to music, walking or watching comedy…maybe reading or art. Just something you enjoy or be around people that accept you. I understand your hurt as I broke ties with my identical twin sister and I was deeply hurt but as time passes it doesn’t hurt as much it’s been several years and my focus has changed. I wish no ill will, but i am no longer consumed with toxic negativity that was mentally, physically and emotionally exhausting me. ….LET THEM!!! When one door closes, one door opens!!! Find your tribe!

@aljohn2028 4 күн бұрын

🫂

@diana5253 4 ай бұрын

The timing of this 🤌🏽

@James__f3m 3 ай бұрын

@anitagreyvenstein753 3 ай бұрын

Mel, you truly are my voice of reason, the person who explains a situation effortlessly. You give me hope that there are always "a Mel way" to deal with stuff. You have changed my way of thinking and, in fact, my way of living. I really do hope you get this message, because you have changed my life! Thank you for teaching us " The Mel way"! Your friend, Anita from South Africa ❤

@amygerstle2037 4 ай бұрын

I really needed this today ❤ Thank you. Unfortunately I always think I have done something to cause other people to avoid me. I always blame myself.❤ I guess I should quit trying to understand why🔥

@mseiter6316 4 ай бұрын

It's been years and I spend ALOT OF time revisiting thus...love n HUGS to your heart and you.

@martigallagher7250 4 ай бұрын

And sometimes people are committed to misunderstanding us…and that really has nothing to do with us thankfully. Freeing yourself from trying to control someone else’s perceptions and judgement is what I call peace. 😊

@amygerstle2037 4 ай бұрын

@@mseiter6316thank you. Love and hugs back to you😊

@amygerstle2037 4 ай бұрын

@@martigallagher7250thank you. I am trying to find peace.

@James__f3m 3 ай бұрын

@rhiannonh.7463 4 ай бұрын

Yes! This is taught in the book “Codependent No More” and highly recommend people to read up on codependency which is next level people pleasing of things you try to control, difficulty expressing your needs directly, obligating oneself to things you would of said no to, building resentment over things you don’t speak up about, and so on.

@dextersmom5694 4 ай бұрын

I had to try to take my life before coming to this exact realization… and until people are willing to accept that everything happens for a reason, they will always be emotionally distraught

@111... 4 ай бұрын

💙🦋

@MihaelaDoran 4 ай бұрын

I'm sending you all my love and prayers. I know how it's like... all my life I've been begging for some love. Now I'm just trying to accept things as they are.

@michaelchristianduffy2953 3 ай бұрын

Thank you Mel 🤍🤍🤍

@amyneil7151 4 ай бұрын

WOW😮 This makes SO MUCH SENSE!!! ! I’ve been trying to digest this concept for over a year, having reality hit in the face -in the gut actually 👊 and stab me in the heart (AND BACK!) over and over again. I’ve been trying to prove myself that I am not who they say I am, which they project what they are doing and actually accusing me of that same thing !

@arisu229 4 ай бұрын

I can't control other people. But I wish I had a job. I'm going to school also.