When the avoidant ex comes back

#avoidant #avoidantattachment #insecureattachment #dismissiveavoidant #fearfulavoidant #nocontact #breakup #divorce #heartbroken #relationship #dating #situationship #relationshipcoach #discard

[@Wolfie.22]

No one is really talking about the layers of ego within an avoidant

[@Bbrer]

❤❤❤ ego and selfishness and NO EMPATHY! No different than a covert narcissist

[@nnthot]

Exactly! And their ego is strong

[@tiffwashington1]

Sounds more like a narcissist

[@nnthot]

@@tiffwashington1 I don’t believe in narcissism. For me it’s a way to describe very toxic behaviour. Narcissistic behaviour to me is a super scared child that is undeveloped and is faking it till they make it and everyone is running away from them…? Like they are people, why fearing them?

[@kidbu916]

This though, my ex never wanted to admit she had an ego. But it was clear based on her behavior

[@jennifermartin4505]

I took my ex back and it became a pattern. It doesn't get better if you take them back.

[@Ytdeletesallmycomments]

Nope worse

[@user-vp7gp6ti3b]

It’s so true. It’s excruciating, I’ve never felt such pain like it and I feel we are all in that experience.

[@frederickwee]

Don't bother for such a roller-coaster ride of "unintentional" abuse. Been there, done that. Worst emotional pain in the world.

[@Tambrose0405]

These people aren't worth putting up with. They can avoid and push people away forever for all I care. Saves the rest of us from heartbreak.

[@Missybella92227]

Agree!! They wouldn’t tolerate such behavior if the tables were turned.

[@luna84_]

​@@Missybella92227you're absolutely right, they don't tolerate it bc ive tested this theory..they start to then get upset and antsy and ask why havent I texted them back?😅 theyre some sons of bitches lol jk nah they are when they dont want to put in the work ☺️

[@makethatchangelifecoaching4009]

Then stop telling them you cheated in them or are cheating on them, don't do something that a person would want to leave that's not avoiding that's trauma from doing something most people wld leave over. I'm not an avoidance. I have never avoided talking about problems in any of my relationships but you do things that shatter a person's heart and expect them to just be ok.

[@mermaidtales4009]

When u discover yr with an Avoidant- leave now. As hard as it is...save yourself the sh*tshow. 🙏❤

[@walkertranger5746]

And to those of you who are avoidants … please get help !

[@saxonpete5131]

Regrettably they won't because they don't care about the damage they do to others, They'll just move on to the next and cause the same damage. They're basically psychopaths with no empathy or feelings for anyone else, extremely selfish individuals, it's all about them and what they can get.@@walkertranger5746

[@Ytdeletesallmycomments]

​@@walkertranger5746they do but it doesnt work because they dont want to change

[@WhopyStompy]

Preach it dude. Never again dealing with this level of heartache.

[@cyndit6572]

25 years of marriage and the fourth time he discarded me during the relationship (saying the most hateful unforgivable things he ever said to me) I finally learned my lesson I’m done no contact for a year and a half now - he is dragging his feet with the divorce he filed - I have a new house - new job/promotion healing and building a new life for myself NO WAY I’M LETTING CHAOS BACK IN

[@spiritwanderer777]

That was a great advice, thank you. For myself I decided to move on and I would rather be alone for rest of my life then let my ex back. The amount of pain and loneliness I felt in that relationship is not worth the risk. Heal your heart and attachment style and stay no contact, no matter how much you loved them. That's my way.

[@beaker7353]

Thats how I described my relationship, lonely 🙁 he'd never respond to my txts. Or he'd read them and not reply. Great when I was with him. But lonely in-between. He dumped me via txt on Monday. We were supposed to be getting married in September. 2 years trying to give all my love to an avoident. 😢

[@spiritwanderer777]

@@beaker7353 omg, i'm so sorry :( believe me you spared yourself from a probably lonely marriage, but I know it hurts a lot. sending you a hug... you're not alone. ps. my ex also was great when we were physically together, otherwise I might as well not exist... I left a month ago after 3 years of being together.

[@angelagraczyk2123]

😢 My heartfelt sympathy for you.

[@user-vp7gp6ti3b]

I agree - but the healing afterwards I don’t feel is easy at all and will take time. I have never known so much pain ever.

[@spiritwanderer777]

@@user-vp7gp6ti3b I know, it's freaking painful, I'm going through it myself.

[@jackielayser8430]

An avoidant can get help and heal. If the avoidant is a narcissist, there's no hope for change.

[@joev7014]

The avoidant needs to want to change… avoidants do avoid accountability

[@jackielayser8430]

​@joev7014 hence "the can get help." Seeking help would follow the desire to change.

[@laurivaltter]

​@@jackielayser8430yes haha 100%

[@lesleyashton1833]

100% correct 👌🏻love and light to you - we’ve been through hell and I’m not going back there 🫶🏻

[@alchemicalsoul]

I was an avoidant narcissist. It requires years, and ego death. It's inevitable for many people to face the consequences of their behavior. Just don't bet on it.

[@arankagionetti2098]

Stay a way from them thats your best bet !

[@LorenaBerrenbaum]

Yes.. once is enough!

[@divinelyguided6143]

Do not take these ppl back under no circumstances treat them exactly how they treat you then they will only learn their lessons never trust them

[@user-vp7gp6ti3b]

Do you think they do learn lessons though? I was told it’s a mental health condition, that only intensive therapy, willingness to heal can ever help them? The traits are so similar to NPD I’m not sure they do learn lessons.

[@user-vp7gp6ti3b]

This has been most heart breaking time in my life. So much pain in trying to find the logic then I find this and it mirrors everything. I love him without question but the pain is immeasurable because we never receive the answers, can never obtain peace. Anyone who has never been in an avoidant relationship will never understand the heartbreak it is to love one.

[@VVixen78]

This is me right now too, second time of him leaving when things get tough. It's truly heartbreaking 💔 Sending you well wishes ✨️

[@user-vp7gp6ti3b]

@@VVixen78 you too - I absolutely feel your pain. Same for me, left me second time around. I am trying so hard just to tell myself “let it go”. It’s so hard but all we can do is try to heal and accept they just will never comprehend how their actions affect those who love them.

[@satyajeetpatnaik3780]

@@user-vp7gp6ti3b 2 months back she broke up. I tried so hard to talk but she was rude. She behaved like she dont know me. It made me sad for weeks. I dont want her back now. She is emotionally immature and doestnt know what love is.

[@karltan9461]

Hell, its a kind of pain i do not wish upon my greatest enemy

[@karltan9461]

hell, its a kind of pain i do not wish upon my enemy

[@tudorhomeandgarden8145]

These people are sadist and it hurts. You have to decide if you're a masochist.

[@nnthot]

AGREE!

[@coricoco4299]

He said he'll do therapy. Then went to 1 session where instead of talking about emotional issues, he spoke about work... They have good intentions, but lack the commitment to follow through...

[@marinajones2309]

OMG - this came at the right time. My DM is coming back 8 months after no contact and boy do I have my walls up ! I have never felt pain like I felt when he up'd and ran for what was to me as no apparent reason. It was one time too many. My goodness, the pain was crushing Never again. Thank you.🙏🙏

[@jessicahitchens6926]

Stop calling him a DM. He is a broken man child. His parents abused him and society contributed. Reality is far better than an unreality I find.

[@TheHighwinder]

Hopefully you were the one that dumped the avoidant. Never be desperate enough to take them back. Good grief, have some dignity.

[@chiaraA.]

Right on. Funny, when the avoidant I was in a relationship who had dumped me out of the blue, came back to contact me 3 months later - I said one sentence and nothing more... 'Dude have some dignity." I'm sure he fell over in shock and boy did it feel good to dismiss him in four words.

[@user-vp7gp6ti3b]

He ended it after promising a future and commitment - days later he said couldn’t do it and that was it. Then reaching out to me, I told him no, I could not have him in my life the way he is. It doesn’t stop the pain though, although I pray time is a healer…

[@chiaraA.]

@@user-vp7gp6ti3b Time is a healer when you also dig into the ways this person wasn't really all you thought they were - for example, turn the tables and ask yourself if you would ever handle a person the way they did - I doubt it - and then reflect on how bad their behavior was and how they plain didn't care about you and what sort of person is that? Someone not worth my time or thought quite frankly

[@jgraymatter3317]

Avoidant?….oh you mean Narcissist

[@abrahamlincoln8913]

Thank you sir. This is both informative and comforting. As a christian ive played back in my mind bringing them back unconditionally, but the more i learn I feel like the conditions are a healthy boundry for the both of us. Forgiving is one thing. Reconseleaton is another.

[@dinodino1766]

God and my experience with a DA ex taught me a lot about love and forgiveness: I wanted to break up with my DA ex out of anger, several times during two years. I also wanted revenge, and knew precisely how to hurt her. Three times I was stopped by references to 1 Corinthians 13 popping up in different places, within seconds or minutes. Fourth time I was stopped by an article about attachment styles popping up. The fifth time I guessed that she was going to break no contact the day after an event and started getting angry - then a reference to 1 Corinth 13 popped up again, and I treated her with kindness. After a while she startes talking to me more often, but the situation was just getting worse. As a new believer, I was questioning both my faith and the signs I was given. Would God really want me to forgive and take back a person who treated me like she did? One day, I prayed for a new sign - and got one immediately. A cheesy-looking motivational video called "God Is Telling You To Let Them Go" popped up on KZbin. A bit into the video, I heard something that made me connect many dots and once. In short, I realized that I never would have understood the situation if we had ended things earlier. Ending it before I understood her, attachment theory and our relationship would have brought out the worst in me, maybe permanently changing me and my worldview. Despite the damage that avoidant people can do to others, they are also very fragile, and I would have hurt her tremendously if I had been left to my own devices. Now I ended things in the most loving way possible. It was painful, but I had tried for so long and given her so many chances. Staying would have enabled her issues, broken me and affected other loved ones. Forgiving doesn't mean that we have to keep taking back someone that is continually abandoning us. The love that Paul spoke about is wishing and doing the best for someone else, and sometimes the best thing for them is to let them go.

[@ESG7540]

I hear you … same boat… conditions and boundaries only … God centered relationship only where two are climbing on two sides of triangular towards God to meet. It’s a tough one. I understand your forgiveness.

[@chelseajackman7730]

This is actually quite empowering for us anxious-attachers who are afraid of getting hurt again by the one we can't stop loving. I really appreciate you for this. Thank you.

[@SunshineAndSnowflakes]

This is great advice, but what's missing is for the ex partner of the avoidant to self-reflect and take accountability on their end too. A lot of times people who lean anxious or become anxious come off as volatile when they're trying to get their point across which will naturally make an avoidant or even a secure person step aside and assess whether this is a healthy relationship for them. The other thing is being too clingy and invading a person's time and space. Some people like alone time, but their partners want constant contact which again could push anyone away. I think it needs to be looked at on both sides. Vilifying avoidants alone isn't helpful. Most of the time it's two unhealed people in the relationship hence why anxious/avoidants are attracted to each other yet also repel each other.

[@carolshannon6449]

Well said. Both sides have work to do. Not necessarily because the partner of the person with avoidant attachment style wasn't mostly wrong , but because whether you were also behaving in ways that inadvertently triggered them, or not, or you take them back or not, you now have some relationship betrayal trauma to deal with. Trauma is like scarring that keeps you from being able to move and act freely and without pain. It doesn't get better without the right kind of therapy.

[@0Demiyah0]

I was just commenting basically the same thing, but with less patience than you put in your message. Its this coach's tone of voice which is passive aggressive, and their words like "discard", and their absence of self-reflection on both sides into the issues of the relationship, which just comes across to me as one of those self-labeled guru's who made a channel because they are still salty about their ex.

[@SunshineAndSnowflakes]

@@0Demiyah0 haha yessss! I pretty much wrote the same thing on another one of his videos asking if he was getting over a break up with an avoidant, because he is making them sound like narcissists using the word "discard". Either that or he just realizes he can capitalize more on these types of videos because anxious people are ALL over these threads commenting and giving each other high fives comparing their avoidant stories. It's ridiculous telling people they do nothing wrong on their end. How does he know? I'm reading comments about how some ended up having a mental breakdown over their avoidant ex when they were broken up with and yet...it's still the avoidants fault. Emotionally stable people don't fall apart this way over a break up. Yes we can be sad, cry and heartbroken. It hurts like hell but we still have lives to live and have to keep our composure with other parts of our life. I wish he would address this stuff because it's unhealthy to put the blame on an entire attachment style. It's toxic advice. The anxious partner can be just as unhealthy if not more.

[@0Demiyah0]

@@SunshineAndSnowflakes in a creepy manner, I think it's narcissistic to keep using the word "discard", emit this thinly veiled rageful energy, be grandiose enough to claim some type of expertise about avoidants or psychology to advice others, omit and avoid the role of TWO people in creating dynamics, downplaying the inner-issues of the one who dated the avoidant and their accountability to grow, projecting only doom & gloom onto people who are open to pursue reconciliation etc. Some of his advice is OK, but it's a kind of copy-paste of what others do but others deliver that message with more emotional intelligence and empathy. This coach does not strik me as very empathic. Either he is kinda narcissistic himself or he's just not that healed, because otherwise, why focus so much on toxic advice?

[@hspinnovators5516]

Unfortunately avoidants can turn secure people into anxious so yes the Avoidant needs to take responsibility since that starts the chicken and the egg problem. A secure person can't heal them but a secure person can heal an anxious person, who is able to change

[@biznez588]

They are an ex for a reason.

[@Kimberlyelayyne]

Sharing my personal experience, I once dated someone with dismissive avoidant tendencies. The relationship was marked by constant fluctuations, with him being hot and cold. After our breakup in 2021, I felt heartbroken but still saw him occasionally. Fast forward to March this year, we reconnected, and he seemed genuinely interested, expressing how much he missed me and was comfortable around me. We even discussed the possibility of taking things slow and rekindling our connection. However, just days later, he informed me that he needed space and time to be alone, despite harboring no ill feelings towards me. This turn of events left me utterly shattered. Through my experiences, I've learned that change is often elusive in such situations. If anyone's wondering whether people like him can change, my answer, based on years of experience, unfortunately, no.

[@knitnpaint]

Yes. It hurts even more the nexy time and the next. I can't do that any more. Heartbreak 💔

[@Victoria-lis]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved him so much i can’t stop thinking about him and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t.

[@jack-gx]

I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

[@Jose-lz6cw]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@jack-gx]

Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Victoria-lis]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@mmt2310]

There are a lot of "spiritual advisors" that will take advantage of your pain & scam you out of $$$$. Don't do it. ❤

[@philipramsden4975]

4 months after I was ghosted she reached out apologizing and then was gone again as fast as she reappeared. Been back in NC for almost a month. I'm not waiting around, but this crap is just weird

[@passerby6168]

It's not that weird. Behind the scenes there's something else going on with another person/s, and so she's hot/cold towards you depending on how hot/cold the other person/s is/are towards her. Protect your heart.

[@jessicahitchens6926]

Use your delete and block button. If she does it again call her out and I guarantee you she will never return. They're emotional cowards.

[@markuchiha7737]

For 2 years and forever because she's secretly happy with that someone else now, unhealed. I won.

[@octavian6323]

No! Take back conditinally is unrealistic. The „conditions“ will last only short time

[@kristinditlevsen6693]

I am so glad people are talking about attachment styles because I’ve learned about myself and the avoidant style… And it makes sense that I’m the exact wrong fit for that personality… I would never force myself on someone, but it just never occurred to me that that’s how it felt to them

[@DellaCheng-og3ny]

Truly appreciate your kind advice through this video ❤

[@felicitydowning7970]

Thank you 💕 Very good advice.

[@SarahLynnLove888]

Really good advice!! Thank You.

[@marizelusares9516]

The best advice ever! Thank you so much!

[@theresadupreez4550]

Thank you so much for rhis guidance. Received in humble gratitude

[@robinebneth1946]

Well said. Thank you sooo much❤

[@paulbennett6379]

Absolutely spot on well said and explained,,

[@anni-sigridkellgren5175]

Thank you beautiful soul for this message resonates 😕🥰🙏

[@chandonfigg]

Thank you great timing for me

[@rashodamod2096]

Thank you 🙏🏾 so much for this advice

[@Jpp2642]

❤your advice. Thank you so much 🙏

[@xflow112]

Sometimes we have to remember that we dislike the dynamic, not the person. I’m assuming most of us in here were secure at one point with an avoidant partner but got triggered with being anxious towards the end. I know how you all feel 😢 I was with my girl for 2 years living together with our children. The backlash left the kids so shaken and I was in a dark and lonely place. Now I come home feeling it’s like a prison…. And this was a home we wanted for each other for our family. I didn’t know about attachment types until 2 months ago when she actually left. I’ve been working on myself to be in a better place mentally and to not show that anxious side. Remember, when we stop reaching out, they start to wonder like “wth” What I’ve learned so far is when you give them what you want, they will reach out. I hope all of us understand that this person needs to reflect. That will more than likely happen 2-4 months or sooner… you gave then a love that nobody else provided and when they feel it’s lost, I’m sure they’ll try and get the help they need to make it work.

[@samyb2834]

Ryan you’re absolutely SPOT ON!!!

[@adriennelatimer2491]

I love your style of treaching, thank you for having great balance

[@jamescoppen6662]

Fantastic, detailed video. Explains things really clearly.

[@ChumpanZees]

Thank you for this

[@Isha89]

Thank you Ryan... i believe spirits brought this video to show me before I could took any step. Thanks alot cause I didn't know what to do.

[@petridhskyriakos]

During the last 6 months,I've thoroughly watched numerous videos about how to treat an avoidant-when & if he/she reaches back. I must admit that your positioning is the most understandable & logical of all. Congratulations!!!

[@kristinditlevsen6693]

I really like how you presented this. It really hits things head on… I went back several times even with conditions… But it ends up in the same place and I am pretty damn happy now so I’m perfectly happy to send him some macaroni and cheese to go with his breadcrumbs… I’m not mad or hurt anymore. I’m just looking for something better.

[@MT-MegaBLKCharizard]

Thank you !!

[@graceatumnu4462]

That was a great advice you’re a true angel, it is happening to me right now over a month stops talking to me❤❤❤❤❤ thanks this is an eye opener

[@ashton1952]

Helpful advice, thanks

[@diklagidoni7177]

Spot On.

[@jasonw2696]

Thank you for your advice

[@paulsell2438]

Excellent video, thank you

[@ameliahinckfuss]

Thank you very much.

[@MrT9303]

Yeah it really does hurt.😢

[@user-uu4kb8sq4p]

Great advice Wisdom helpful for healing ✨😇🌟Thank you

[@andybiddle9088]

Very sound advise 👍🏻 I only hope my ex reaches out so I CAN lay down the law to her. A few months ago, I would have been guilty of taking her back, no question. But not now. As you say, they MUST be made to do the work. Thanks mate 👍🏻

[@deucford5217]

Not sure if you’re an MD… but sometimes people leave you because they don’t want to see you again. Don’t hold your breath

[@jessicahitchens6926]

You missed the point of the video. He is talking about avoidants (emotionally stunted/broken people). That have a tendency to come and go.

[@sj3969]

I’m a DA I believe, but every time I leave I never come back. Typically, there’s a logical reason. The person wanted kids, I didn’t. They were raging conservatives while I’m more liberal. I “discard” (breakup imo) and it doesn’t make sense to go back to something that wasn’t it in the first place. The other party always reaches out though, I just ignore it

[@SugarSweet214]

Wow i watched the stand on business video before bed and woke up to an unexpected text from an ex i stopped talking to for over 3 months now. Right on time instructions ❤ 3:43 thank you again. 😊

[@nathalieduverna6963]

Thank you.

[@blackdiamond3090]

i hope you do a spanish course on avoidant attachment and on the their lack emotional intelligence , thats would be great in spanish .it would help alot , your spot on on this

[@laurivaltter]

stay away from hispanics lmfaoo

[@reidflemming8458]

Thank you, Coach Ryan.

[@AN-hq5hx]

My ex came back after a week and started the conversation saying I ruined a beautiful thing we had . Beautiful as long as he yelled at me , called me names , made personal attacks and bullied me till he had me in a corner . I was so confused about how to proceed, but this video gives me direction and clarity . Thanks 😊

[@ajibuwamiracle836]

It was through this channel @droman01 I restore my relationship back in 24 hours

[@angelasamuels9037]

FACT💯thank u ❤an✨🌟☀️⭐

[@She.33]

Well said. My avoidant has returned after four months, but hasn't really said much. It seems it's up to me to get the ball rolling, which I don't mind, but I will keep in mind that though I may love him unconditionally, our relationship in the future will have conditions. I know of a few boundaries I will have to place between us. Thank you for this video, it makes a lot of sense. ❤

[@daveo9844]

Good luck 🤞🏼

[@xflow112]

If you don’t mind me asking, how long was you and your partner together for?

[@fimadness2066]

I just wonder why I love them so much

[@marcwhicher5242]

I need to talk to this guy!!!! I will pay

[@reneeMajor856]

I still love my ex but I won't reconcile unless he gets therapy and helps himself instead of apologizing I'd rather them take action. I deserve love ❤

[@AB-ko9en]

$250,000….No sex And you can’t come into My Home. Other than that OK😂😂

[@joshuamac6302]

I wish i would have found this video sooner.

[@0Demiyah0]

There is so much thinly veiled rage in these videos, in the tone of voice and the words like "discarded". Yes, avoidants are not easy to deal with, but neither are preoccupied people. There is no focus at all on the insecure dynamic between two unhealed people, and how working on security is a mutual condition. Just pathologizing one set of people, with quite a lot of resentment.

[@hspinnovators5516]

He was a previous avoidant

[@usfederalgovernment]

Amazing

[@renevankommer3554]

You said that they will more often then not return in 2 to 6 months. Will that timeline change if it was a short relationship from a half year?

[@waverider3191]

Great advice. Thank you💗

[@ritakunnunmal4226]

Agree 👍

[@worldadventuretravel]

My ex-DA let one of my cats escape out of spite. He lied to me about it (and still does), refused to do anything to help me find her, and she never came home. Then he plotted to move out without telling me months before our lease was up, owing me thousands of dollars. Two years later he contacted me to take the two kittens he had adopted-- that I raised-- so he could move to another state to be with his NEW girlfriend. I lost my baby because I let a DA into my life. I almost lost my apartment because I let a DA into my life. I had to intervene and help find homes to two innocent, traumatized and neglected animals he refused to let me keep when he left, only to discard them once they were no longer convenient-- because I let a DA into my life. Has he ever had a shred of remorse? No. So I will never let a DA anywhere near my life ever again. Nothing can redeem losing an innocent living being to wild coyotes because of some DA's petty vindictiveness. NOTHING. It is unforgiveable and he doesn't even care. The juice with DAs is never worth the squeeze, and the risk of giving them a chance could cost you everything.

[@jelenashome1725]

What does it mean if my DA ex liked a story I posted (It was a picture of myself) during NO CONTACT? Will he try to reach out in your opinion? We've been in NC for more than 3 weeks.

[@goldy140]

Coach is it Ok in NC to share about Attachment styles & FA style in my social media psychology page? He checks all. Is it breaking NC?

[@BRAVE_NEW_1984]

No taking back!

[@indiaking3561]

❤

[@asdfxcvbn746]

i can tell this man watched a lot of coach lee videos lmao

[@Larissa-hp6wi]

No contact is hard because we’re in the same friend group. How does that work then?

[@vladpierre2694]

Mine just texted and said the child she has been stonewalling me for months with was born this morning.

[@queenie547]

How can an Avoidant person heal? So, they can have a healthy, fulfilling relationship with someone they love.

[@photographyenthusiast9941]

They need to heal their PTSD.

[@mjc21706]

If you’re watching this video, it tells you everything you need to know run from these people

[@anthonyraymond4933]

My avoidant dumped me over a year ago I made stupid breakup mistakes. I won’t lie I still miss her . Do you think she will one day return??

[@paulbennett6379]

Covert narcs people

[@marijapaleka1175]

I have a strange situstion. During my separation with my SP i was doing healing and forgiving my SP for the breakeup yearning he comes back. It took short time, mean while he got involved with the 3rd party during our dating. While I was affirming my happily ever after he contacted me, asking forgiveness for all the hurts he done to me, but he didnt told me there is a 3rd party and he told me he loves me. I found out everything, and she also. All 3 of us talked and he choose her. I came to realisation, my living in the end is only his manifesta ti on with her. I manifest ed for him? I haven't affirmed this. I was sure in our end state. Is this possible that my desire manifested for him with someone else? I hope you can explain me and tell me how can this be changed. Thank You in advance.

[@alunalalune8691]

It’s giving Narcissist…

[@tabarnakopoulos]

I don't think she'll ever reach out. It's been about 7 weeks now.

[@peterellicott58]

My avoidant took 14 weeks to send a text. I loved her but I wish she had left me alone. Make yourself new and look to your future. Next time, choose very carefully because anxious usually subconsciously seeks and finds an avoidant.

[@Spritualhealer_CRISTINA]

Xactly, ENOUGH Pain caused in this lifetime & those prior (pst life regression). Nough chances,, i luv me is ENOUGH

[@Lianaserrano2521]

This guy told me the situation changed and he doesn’t want an US. I have told him 2 different times to give me space. And he keeps sending me reels. I have responded a couple times. And another I have just opened it and didn’t respond. What is right thing to do.

[@menm_91]

Block him. That will give you your space.

[@davidpruiksma8014]

I am QUITE sure my Ex is not interested in me or coming back. It pains me to say, I doubt she ever shed 1 tear for me.

[@aarti9160]

My ex came back last month. ..on i put him conditions of commitment of marriage. ...but this man was manipulating me.....and suddenly changed as i asked for commitment.... Its better to leave such people and never talk to them

[@angelap6301]

What if when they come back they are in therapy and working on all of this?

[@A22208]

Prove it through actions x 6 months. They are legit like alcoholics or smokers or any addicts

[@guywithahelmet9597]

Well… she’s not coming back man 😅 but it’s ok

[@therocknrollcook]

My guy is so severe I doubt he will return. Maybe it’s for the best.

[@guywithahelmet9597]

@@therocknrollcook I feel you. We just gotta move on

[@therealsandraweise]

Advice: watch on 1.75 playback speed

[@denabatt]

I would never give advice to take someone back.

[@usfederalgovernment]

Ryan ? What if I was the one who broke the trust and was unfaithful?

[@Dassiz]

Been 10 days , still in pain , but i realise she will never change , the red flags where all over but i gave her a chamce and i regret it , she changed her bad ways for a abit , but seems she going back , thought the relationship was build after 2 years she made it seem she loved me so much and wouldnt leave , then out of no where wants to be friends and monkey branches to another guy , but i know they were together for awhile , everythinf makes sense after analyzing it , she was from a broken home , rehad , drugs , use to cut wrists , alcoholic , get drunk and strip for guys , all the signs and i though different , you cant change a hoe , so always notice the red flags in the beginning

[@ESG7540]

How do you stay in no contact when you are intertwined in business decisions: partner : I only use communication for business matters. He calls my phone directly me on that sometimes. I can’t not answer as that pertains to business. Hmm. 🤔

[@susanita123villa5]

I might be an avoidant but he's condition for me to come back was to marry him, which i wasnt sure of after caught him flirting with a girl from work and avoiding my text messages because he was too busy entertaining her.

[@ajibuwamiracle836]

It was through this channel @droman01 I restore my relationship back in 24 hours