When Things Just Don't Work Out...

For all of us, there are so many moments where things just don't work out. Nothing seems to go as planned and there couldn't be anything more human than that. Let's just talk about it real quick. You got this.
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Scott speaks across North America about emotional wellbeing, mental health and our innate need for connection. His history with mental health challenges have allowed him to develop a strong sense of empathy and compassion with his audiences and those he works with personally. Music is his true obsession as he plays the guitar, drums and sings.

[@depressiontoexpression]

You can control only two things in this life. Take time to be upset. Take time to sulk, be pissed off and disappointed. Totally cool :) When you're up for it, know that you have a choice about what to do next. You got this.

[@BrokenInTheBox]

Dealing with late stage cancer at 51 years old. I needed to hear that. Thank you.

[@depressiontoexpression]

thinking of you - we all are ❣

[@sapphire6769]

Sorry your dealing with this. I never felt pain 💔 like i am now,with the passing of my wonderful dad. So im thinking of you at this time,Wishing you strength love & blessings from Ireland 🇮🇪

[@HemeraAeon]

You are loved ❤

[@MerakiRak]

We all love you dearly I’m sending you love and strength ❤️☺️

[@swimsterx]

So sorry. Sending Love. ❤

[@yeamore6324]

The problem is going through another cycle of failure that’s never ending makes you not want to try or attempt anything

[@Levitantee]

same :(

[@Ericasentertainments]

This! It’s so discouraging

[@rumberaladyv]

This is where I’m at right now 😢

[@Shunshun74]

Samee

[@NorlynCodes]

I didn't even signup to live. To say that it's tiring to live is an understatement.

[@veronicareka]

So true, I deeply feel this way too

[@derick1908]

Dealing with an ongoing difficult season of poverty lonliness and frustration. Your videos have helped me a lot today.

[@kinndah2519]

I've been thru that, I'm sorry to hear. If you'd like, I can tell you of free resources you can use to help get you out of that. Many ppl aren't aware of the options around them. Let me know what you think you need help with if you wish. God bless.

[@ManpreetSingh-xw4ix]

I m just frustrated so much things not going my way

[@benburns5995]

Love how sincere and connected you are with your audience. Life is so challenging so thanks for these encouraging words.

[@books-and-cats]

Yeah and here we are. My boyfriend passed away from covid. We really can’t control and sometimes our plans just fall apart. Thank you ❤

[@ioanbogdanmorosanu4754]

Condoleances...I hope God will take care of you..

[@books-and-cats]

@@ioanbogdanmorosanu4754 Thank you. Much appreciated.I hope so too 🙏🏼

[@books-and-cats]

@@nala2011 ♥️

[@AnirudhJas]

Sorry to hear, heartfelt condolences.

[@books-and-cats]

@@AnirudhJas thank you

[@Loverofartsandmusic]

I’m on this situation. Things are not going my way, no matter how I try. I cut off some people that make me feel like I’m not good enough or stopped seeing and talking to people that have different goals as I do. Just because I thought it’s exhausting. I’ve been trying to find a partner and the more I try to get to know people, the more I realize that nowadays people are afraid. It came to a point when i feel bad about myself and there’s something wrong with me. I acknowledge that I am hurting and frustrated. Perhaps you’re right, I will just let things happen.

[@Samanthalove1237.]

I know what you are going through It is the same here But we have God to tell He is a good counsellor, love giver precious reedmer and friend

[@Anotherhumanexisting]

6 years being with the same person and it all fell apart at the end. Now 3 years after the breakup I’m still replaying everything I could’ve done differently, conversations we were too afraid to have… I miss feeling loved.

[@Goodmorningyouall]

When you give everything you have and more and it does not not work out.

[@rumberaladyv]

A tough pill to swallow

[@Shunshun74]

Exactly

[@mrs.kathleenantuna7701]

This something I realized years ago. We have very little control of what is going on around us. All we can do is control our attitude and attention. Life is in constant flux like waves move in and out from the shore. Each tide is unique as to what it brings to us. I live as a sunflower. I follow the light and turn to others to share their light when I am in the dark. 🌻 maybe one day you will accept my friendship, but in life that is not something I can control

[@ocrodger]

My husband and I were planning on having a wonderful retirement years. Travel. Experience life. Enjoy life. Then I was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. Wow! I didn't see that coming. What to do? What to do right now? Just crying and trying to deal with some depression. Talk about life-changing and talking about something I did not plan for.

[@books-and-cats]

I wish you strength and healing and send you lots of love ❤ God bless ❤️

[@sapphire6769]

Just lost my amazing Dad i can barely function my mom has lost her everything of 65 years, you have each other please enjoy that , its everything honestly! Much love from Ireland 🇮🇪

[@books-and-cats]

@@sapphire6769 I’m so sorry for your loss. Just keep pushing through a day at a time and sometimes a minute at a time and be gentle and kind to yourself. God bless you all. Much love ❤️

[@stevenbird5994]

i just found your channel , man the internet is full of do do be be be you have to don't don't stop this. Everybody seems like they know everything these days while there is people with long covid, mental illness, physical inflammation... now more than ever we do not sleep, we keep comparing and bragging online while there is underprivileged people making them feel bad about themselves, somebody needs to talk about this Your content is amazing man you can't imagine how much you've helped me this day, i watched some of your videos and man they are real and humble just continue bro !

[@kowotie_e]

i’ve always wanted and struggled to connect with people deeply… and I can’t control whether people desire to know me or not, I can’t control whether they want something real or not.. so all I can do is exist despite not being able to have the things I’ve desperately craved for so long.. while I am happy alone, finding a true emotional connection, or even having a real conversation.. seems so unreal to me today.. when everyone is so focused on themselves and can’t seem to put others into perspective as well. Time and time again, it left me disappointed but I agree that… things cannot be forced to work.

[@bungerman7560]

The moment i thought you dont use your channel anymore, you uploaded. Feels like a miracle really. I really appreciate you for keep on doing what you do :)

[@CozyToni]

Yes, I needed this. Because life can be so exhausting.

[@user-sy9yi1xw5m]

your video always makes me think in a positive way. Thanks!

[@taitaclement9775]

❤ let life come to you,deal with life as it comes,.. thank you Scott for making the world a better place with your expressions,God Bless your journey and an

[@jovonn5100]

I needed to hear this so badly today. I appreciate your gentleness in this conversation as well as your total honesty when it comes to understanding we really cant control a whole lot. Thanx again lots of love

[@adamedwards2261]

🇺🇸here. New to the channel. I’m glad I found your content and I need to watch your past videos. Not doing well at all. Wasn’t sure if I could make it the last few days.

[@suzianthony4928]

In prayer always ❤ God is in control ❤

[@robertashaffer3950]

Thank you Scott. I actually breathed a sigh of relief from hearing this. 🙏.

[@sue6776]

Thank you Scott. Wonderful to see you again. You're such a wise soul. Wishing you every blessing 🙌

[@toxendon]

Hey Scott, I followed you a lot back in 2017 I believe and it made a world of difference having your calming words and reassuring vibe supporting me in a time of crisis. You're the man

[@jackfordon7735]

Loved this video, it came at exactly the right time. On a very much unrelated (but fun) note, I'm an American who lives in France and people often ask me if I can tell the difference between Canadians and Americans when they speak. I usually say it's very subtle but certain vowels sounds and words give them away. And sure enough, from your first "about" I thought to myself- Canadian! :D I love little signs of linguistic diversity in a continent that can often seem so linguistically monotone.

[@Sun-ic7rq]

Thanks... the idea of only being able to change my thoughts and behavior. Im not sure if I totally agree but for me it helps my focus.

[@workingstudentera]

I wish I had a friend like you post-college.

[@callmesoloa]

Thank You, Scott!

[@TheRDiaries19]

Thank you so much Scott. I will loosen the grip, and let life come to me.

[@Joshdifferent]

Glad to see you back! Love your perspective ❤️

[@sunmaw108]

Thank you, Scott

[@andaleebjibran336]

Such a wise and great words...really needed it...

[@rivkahminazadeh8275]

This is so powerful. Thank you! Freedom.

[@veronicareka]

This really resonated with me and this is my second time coming across this video and it was truly meant to be. Thank you I needed to hear this. Your words are so true

[@Darianka7565]

Thanks dear Scott.

[@MGBlast669]

Hey thank you Scott 🙏 🙌

[@hadithelegend3358]

Glad your back and i hope your doing well with your life ❤

[@beyoncemalupi4985]

Just bumped into your videos today.thank u.much appreciated

[@khonaniblktv]

Thank you Scott ❤

[@sashay404]

Adore your videos! Thank you always for the hope.

[@linsaythegoddess7494]

Thank you ❤

[@kristina4395]

Perfect timing.. ty for the video... Its raw and true 🦋🏝️

[@lumahajkassem8025]

Love your videos so much. They are awesome!!

[@lucyr8884]

Thank you for this great video Scott!!! 👏🏻👏🏻This is a must watch over and over again.

[@mhykeeyjohn]

I just found your channel today and i’m glad I did. This is exactly what’s going on with my life right now. Thank you for a great content

[@lindamarshall-ur9tk]

Thank you.

[@books-and-cats]

Thank you. I love your videos ❤

[@LurkingLinnet]

I love you Scott. Love you all! We'll get through this

[@julesnestt]

Thank you Scott I really appreciate your videos. 😃👍👍

[@Animalsarebetterthanyou]

I really needed to hear this. I love you for this. Thank You

[@jodyanitawoulf2729]

Hi Scott: I recently found your channel. I’ve watched so many & some more than once. You are truly inspirational. Also I like your various meditation videos too. They are very helpful. Thank you for all you do. You’ve helped me more than words can say. Nice to see you posting new content today. Just what I needed. Ty so much.

[@Sun-ic7rq]

What other resources do you use? Anything... I know many other great channels on youtube.

[@LeadBeatPink]

your vid about stopping negative thoughts and social anxiety changed my life

[@Versatile668]

Thank you for the friendship feeling.

[@adriaanstander6823]

Thank you

[@Jammerpatrol]

Soothing! Enriching!

[@sapphire6769]

Just come across you. I'm deep in grief and totally on the edge so greatful for your calm endearing ways and wise words. Definitely glad you posted! Have you any videos on grief? Hopefully i'll check now . Love from Ireland 🇮🇪

[@birdienumnums1]

Yes me too, I am grieving ...boy its tough.

[@sapphire6769]

@@birdienumnums1 Hi. Indeed it is ive just got into bed early , its all an absolute nightmare coming from a large irish family i thought i understood grief as have list countless aunts uncles & even a few very special people . I obviously didn't my dads passing has knocked me off my feet. How long has passed for you since your loss?

[@birdienumnums1]

sorry for your loss - my dear mum passed at the end of March this year and my health is suffering hugely. Being that I am now a lone and not young I am trying not to think how fast your life can go over the cliff.. @@sapphire6769

[@marknagle5828]

Hi I just want to thank for for such inspiring message. This means a lot to me. There are times when you need to hear this from someone else.. Bless you.

[@sage7358]

cool! great advice. thanks. you're very well spoken by the way.

[@PhilipJFry-ie6ql]

Thank you dude, I really needed to hear this

[@depressiontoexpression]

you got this man

[@PhilipJFry-ie6ql]

@Scott Ste Marie I think we all struggle with control sometimes. We all want things a certain way. We want it to look and feel a certain way. Why can't I be happy like xy and z? Why don't I feel x y and z? And sometimes you can't. Or they can't. Or it can't. Acknowledging that has been the most difficult part, but you sort of spoke to my soul there. Sometimes we need to loosen our grip on the wheel, and go back to the little things that make us happy. The little things that we can control, rather than trying to control the things we can't

[@MarsAttacksMemoirs108]

Thank you 🙏💕

[@laurenavery1111]

spot on!

[@7leeloo7]

Stay safe Scott 💙

[@TinyTas]

Thankyou! 🙏

[@rabiaadnan5948]

Great job

[@davegoodridge8352]

I had my life planned out,I thought. I was old enough to live on my 401ks until social security starts. What I didn't plan was my Wife suffering a stroke. Lots of hospitals and therapy's before she died. Now the monies are spent. Since then I was diagnosed with end stage Congestive Heart Failure. I just received a letter from the city ordering me to clean up my yard. I remember going out with church groups cleaning up old folks homes that the city wanted cleaned up. Did God pay me back for those times? Nope! Sorry I don't have this. I'm at a total loss.

[@sapphire6769]

Hi Dave , how are you today?

[@davegoodridge8352]

@@sapphire6769 I’m okay

[@remzibajrami7969]

Left home to go abroad and work so I can support my family since I was 18 now I'm 26 and I feel so tired after all the challenges ,the hunger , the discrimination, the humiliation , betrayal, cheated on , all this has made so tired ,even tried suicide , didn't had the normal childhood had to deal with health issues , growing up poor , makes you ask yourself why all this , what's behind all this , when enough is enough? Already feeling like a loser and tired , seeing my same age friends having a stable life , nice cars, well dressed, having partners , while I feel as a loser and useless,working just to take care of family and pay bills , my health is failing me , my mental health is getting worse 😮‍💨😓

[@sumjkn]

You are the bestt thank you

[@trust.it.444]

You are so kind ❤

[@rabbitcreative]

> You are so kind Is he vegan?

[@azeemhoosain4004]

well said thanks

[@s.g2344]

I think is such a great message, so many movies, tv shows etc... say never give up on your dreams youll make it one day -and while that can still be true, you can start to feel like a faliure if its taking longer than you expected or your dream might turn out to be something else. For example i was training to be a early years teacher but for certain things got in the way and i wasnt able to complete my last year of training which sucks. And now im pregnant with my first child which wasnt exactly in plans 😅 at the moment but there we go. Whats made it harder is that when i found out i was pregnant a week later my nan who i was very close to passed away so i never got to tell her which breaks my heart a little 😢. Hopefully she still knows though 🙂. Im a huge believer in everything happens for a reason. You just gotta have faith that everything will work out xx

[@johanahuerta947]

Thank you for your comment, it really resonated with me about following your dreams and then feeling crushed when they're not executed how you thought. I'm about to graduate from nursing school and was given a chance yesterday of the interview of my dreams: a residency spot for labor & delivery in a metropolitan hospital. But the only thing that got in my way was that I will not be in town for the start date should I get in. Unfortunately, the recruiter told me their start dates are set in stone and because of that, I could not move forward with the application. I cried after hanging up and felt what I needed to feel, but as you say, everything happens for a reason. Maybe I am meant to start elsewhere for now - maybe I won't even end up in labor & delivery later - but at least I am able to start somewhere. It just hurt to have been given that option for the first time that I've so badly yearned for and not have it go anywhere. I'm sorry about your nan's passing, friend. I'm thinking she knows and will look over you & your surprise joy. 🤍 hang in there; training or not, we are meant where we're meant to be at this stage in our lives.

[@DepressionTalks1]

Speaking facts

[@sumjkn]

And to start rethinking 🎉

[@ManpreetSingh-xw4ix]

Scott this video is come right time for me this time nothing work for me

[@FuelforLife001]

you back 🙏👏👏 yh nothing changed in good way but still down there in a shitty way 😢😢

[@esraaalna3as666]

:) thanks alot

[@24AngelChild68]

Came at the right time after being fired from a job for the 2nd time in a row now. Thank you Scott truly🤍♥️

[@exist.3322]

I been watching you since 9 years ago, when you had a bold haircut ❤ love your videos

[@rijd2304]

Another great resource is mindfulness meditation. The book "30 Days to Reduce Anxiety" by Harper Daniels really helped me.

[@fleurebene3741]

thank you :( .

[@jadibdraws]

Ive been having a marathon of things not working out couldn't leave my parents' place, kept getting rejected from jobs I had interest in, feeling less inspired to create art like I use to, losing over half of my savings during employment drought that had my thinking about how hard I worked to save that money and how quickly it all left through paying monthly payments and groceries.

[@sadietunnicliffe7036]

Your lovely and amazing guy 😊

[@diamondbailey8184]

a job that I worked really hard for, took a stressful advanced test. For some reason I couldn't grasp the material, it wasn't hard. I just wasn't prepared.

[@mixtapewrecker]

Lost my best friend to Covid. I have failed two most competitive examinations in the world in India, one after high school and one after graduation, despite working SO hard over the years. I was working while studying for the latter and due to unforeseen medical circumstances, I had to come home to heal, to get back on my feet. I'm still working on it. I didn't realise how unhappy and depressed I was since the age of 17, because I was always forced to do things I didn't want to do by my parents. I didn't even want to study for any of this! Anyway, I'm not planning to go back to studying for examinations which have such a low percentage of acceptance. I have rested a lot in the last 6 months, owing to my medical situation and now that I can finally do things on my own, I'm gonna figure out what I want to do next in MY life.

[@mixtapewrecker]

No more poverty, loneliness and frustration of my early 20s anymore.

[@RedaReda-vl9ff]

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[@johanahuerta947]

Even though it wasn't under the ideal circumstances, I'm glad your rest gave you clarity. How are you doing now, for you?

[@freespirit-111]

Everything by default, that’s how i feel about my life. It’s like i did not choose my life at all.

[@goofywill90]

Plans are a guideline

[@souravpal6406]

I dont know what I am living for anymore.,.

[@Ericasentertainments]

Same

[@Hey-Malo]

I found your channel a couple of years ago, when you where analizing music from mexico, by that time i was living on a very dark deporession and in a certain way I use you as help-tool to live thru it, its very curious that the moment that im on a even darker place your channel pops a liitle bit out of nowhere, thanks

[@nbi_nbi]

Hope you are doing fine. Depression has a habit of relapsing.

[@POPDATA]

I want to have fun in life 😢

[@brokegirl1452]

Let god take the reigns let it all fall into place for you 😊

[@haijby4346]

❤

[@bellomuhammad6406]

They won't let me go 😢😢😢

[@Ericasentertainments]

I just wanted my groceries delivered from the Walmart delivery driver. I don’t want to have to argue to get my stuff delivered. It’s not my fault I can’t afford a home and live in an apartment complex. I just want mi health back up cancer wasn’t my fault. I just want people to text me back after texting me first because I no longer initiate conversation. I’m not asking for anything major

[@Lifeisworthless500]

Letting life come to you feels more like praying and begging a dictator to have mercy but it all depends on his/her mood. God or that higher power who seemingly favors someone else all the time feels like a dictatorship. I hate this planet and this life

[@Swanselm]

I need a parking permit for both of my cars. I already signed the lease and gave my deposit + first month rent. I need to figure out how to get two permits but I can o my submit one request. How is it going to work out? What do I do with my second car? I need two cars in case one breaks down because I can’t afford to miss work for not having a car so I have two.

[@mirjanan.1963]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@dorothybeveridge3133]

Hi . I’m 4 weeks into my new anxiety medication & I’m feeling terrible. Shaky, spaced out and panicky . Iv been told to wait until the 6 weeks . Don’t think I can put up with this feeling . Please advise me . X

[@NataMessi]

I hope you are feeling better. But Scott isn't in the one to to advise from, because you need to ask the specialist and who looks at you eye to eye. Look for another doctor, seek the doctor through online sources even. But medications affect everyone differently. You shouldn't let yourself suffer coz some meds can cause addiction by that point, whole some won't. Hope that helps ❤

[@johanahuerta947]

Did it get any better?

[@najatnk1357]

Why words cant make sense anymore to me..sounds nice hearing the advice of let life comes to you and so on ...but how practically i can manage that...what steps shall I do to pass the painful period? The only thing making sense to me is how hansom you are as a fact in the video. Rest is Chinese to me..

[@MS-ns4ki]

Yes, but right now as age has worked out, everybody know😢

[@amandaclaireon4065]

use neville goddard's law of assumption and always affirm that things always work in your favor and you always get exactly what you want