Which Guy Would Women Choose? (Would You Rather...)

In this video, we play a little game of "would you rather" and the girls choose which guy they'd rather be with.
Nicole: @experience_coley
Sami:@leftsidestudio_
Riley: @rybabyx
Anna: @annajhawk1
Marla: @marlaseicean
Madi: @alwaysoff_task
Victoria: @victoria_valko
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[@robsolf]

This obsession women have with height blows my mind. "Guy number one is 6'3, an alcoholic, and makes 18k a year working at an adult video store. Guy number two is 5'5, a volunteer fireman and cured cancer." Girl: "Oh geez... this is so hard..."

[@jamesmakume2630]

🤣

[@freudianslip2192]

Yep, the fact that they have to think “so hard” tells us everything we need to know. 5’5 wouldn't even get a shot to show that he is an amazing dude. Whereas 6’3 guy would be blowing her back out before she even realizes he's broke or an alcholic. Even then they will say, “I can fix him” “I can change him” I know I said I wanted a guy that is loyal and pays all the bills, but this guy is 6’3!

[@SeekerGoOn2013]

I think you’ve gone overboard Bro

[@JJTichalla]

But why would you. As a guy would you date a woman who is twice your height or obese or just physically bigger than you.

[@Mattie_Ice]

Numbers do not reflect reality. What I mean is that these women see that height and automatically presume low status and attractiveness. But in reality, if they were to meet in person, they wouldn't have such a negative view of height. It's a societal pressure that only exists online. Women and men always settle for less than what we want. Otherwise, short dudes would never be married. Take it from a short dude who has had positive experiences from women.

[@blondelgarcon1194]

Two things I would love to see from this channel… One: a male version of this exact video Two: an interview of different successful, long-lasting married couples and see what they did to get there Other than that, keep up the great work!

[@jltgp6221]

It’s interesting how Courtney liked this comment and yet we STILL haven’t gotten a male version of this type of interview. Because I would happily volunteer.

[@puffy_vegas7610]

Trust me as a content creator if you do a video about a but what male thing and nobody will watch. There's a reason why her biggest videos are delusional income women.

[@cmleibenguth]

There has been a male version of this video There's one on the channel that I found

[@jasonanthonyschultz5672]

I’ve been pushing for having older people and people who are married for a while. I really hope she does this. I would like to see more than just women in their 20’s.

[@johnsmithjr.9321]

@@jltgp6221 vetting people takes time, so does scheduling, and shooting. I'm sure there are plenty of not very self aware people that would like to answer questions.

[@Luked0g440]

For men, dating is like a job interview. For women, it’s like window shopping. This video proves that.

[@averymason7073]

Agreed, but that is because guys basically choose who to pursue (and try to win over) while women are pursued so they get to choose who to say yes to... on the bright side, guys do not have to worry too much about dealing with obsessed unattractive women.

[@TheRealSaintNickNorthside]

​@@averymason7073 speak for youself, im the king of luring in extremely unattractive women without realizing it 😅

[@FangerZero]

​@@averymason7073 why do I feel like you just described bird courtship....

[@poeticeclipse]

What if you asked these same question to men though? Then the video would exist and men would answer the questions.

[@sif_2799]

But it's like that all over the animal kingdom, so it's not like it's women's fault

[@vanjabulajic1618]

I'm 6'6 and I can confirm that the pressure to be an actual valuable person in society is very lessened in comparison to my short king brothers

[@Handle6278]

I'm 28 and I live with my mom. It's such a tough conversation to have with people (not just dating life). I'm an engineer; I work for the US government. I have no worry about money at all. But it's tough to explain that my culture is huge. I also help out a lot around the house. My mom was an immigrant too so she has no retirement. I'm trying to pay her house off before 65. And I pay her car and phone bill, and buy her nice things (last gift was a stove). Lol usually I don't even get that far into the conversation before they ghost me. 😅

[@thecodebrief]

This right here is a huge blackpill for ethnic kings out there with cultures like this- I feel for you. Even many women of your own community don't want the "hassle" of multi-generational living anymore while expecting the men to just drop their parents on the curb. It's shameful. Best of luck ryan!

[@Commander034]

You should frame it as you are taking care of your mother, not living with your mother.

[@krumstoilov2352]

By my opinion the real reason women don’t like to date such a man is because they are selfish and don’t want you to share your resources and time with your family. Also they don’t like the idea to be close to your family. So don’t worry they don’t hear your story. You will see no difference at all.

[@Ruin3.14]

@@Commander034 agreed. I'm pretty sure paying off your parent's house is a positive in terms of dating prospects.

[@David-vt9hr]

If you want to find real non shallow women go to Mexico and Latin America stop wasting your time with this filth

[@SpoonHurler]

Plumbers don't have stable income? Women logic is great.

[@MikeyP109]

That was just Courtney being judgmental about people's careers. Only reason that would be in a question.

[@Lanmir]

​@@MikeyP109 huh? I think need to rephrase? Are you saying Courtney put in the question for judgment on careers?

[@zoomer9686]

They probably meant salary (which a independent plumber is technically not guaranteed)

[@antonboludo8886]

The only logical women in the galaxy are from the planet Vulcan.

[@americancapitalist9094]

@@MikeyP109 No this is good. It exposes their mindset.

[@xyshomavazax]

As someone who hasn’t been in a relationship before, this is shocking to me. All the women said “nothing wrong with divorced with kids” but none said that for relationship newbies. Only one had enough curiosity to ask why the man hadn’t been in a relationship, but there was absolutely no exploration of that. No “if X reason it’s fine, but if Y reason it’s a hard no” kind of thing. All this does is reinforce the assumption that women see relationship-less men as completely undateable, which exacerbated the bitterness those single men have towards women. There are a number of reasons a man may not have been in a relationship - maybe it took a while to establish himself, or he’s coping with neurodivergence, lives where there aren’t many single women, is overcoming abuse, maybe he got in trouble with the law as a teenager and missed out on learning how to date, hasn’t found anyone he likes, etc. Some of these men (myself included) work their asses off to overcome past hardships in the hopes that they’ll one day be literally _eligible_ , but with this kind of not-even-a-second-glance dismissal out there, it’s time SOMEONE took up the cause of these men. After all, any man who can rebuild himself is equipped to help build up others, and has a much greater appreciation for fundamental values than someone who was advantaged and always attractive to women.

[@lukeparisot7252]

Agree completely with this

[@kj4920]

Bro women won't fuck Virgins you'd think they'd take a dude that's never been in a relationship?(

[@marianogigahertz9212]

I will say it from this perspective. Women like confidence. Women like experience. And they certainly want what other women want. If you are still alone, even if you have good traits, they will wonder why its like that. A divorced man, is a guy that was valuable enough for a woman to marry him That is basically why women hit on you waaay more when you are in a relationship than when you are not. Its like, "if she sees something in him to be with him, then it must be good, and I want that too" The guy that is alone, specially most of the time, not between relationships, must have something unattractive to women that makes him be alone There is also the fact that they dont want to lead the relationship. Most want men to take charge, and teaching how a relationship works to the man, makes him unattractive and less "manly" Not every single woman will think like that, but I guess the majority will

[@christopherfischetti3583]

women want experience men want virgin that's why we want different stuff

[@GeneralKato]

@@marianogigahertz9212 yes, they choose failure with baggage over a fresh start….. it makes selection the perfect girl for you much easier. These women aren't the types for you.

[@eleasitescobar4286]

I love how honest they are and how they show their thought process.

[@dg1431]

They mostly lying

[@driftracerr34]

Most of them where being disingenuous. For example, most of them picked a guy who was loyal and made 45k over the guy who made 500k and wanted an open relationship. But they all realistically would not date either of them

[@dg1431]

Nah, they'd date the dude with 500k a year for sure. @@driftracerr34

[@jorjoperalta]

​@@driftracerr34 There's a difference between what people think they want and what they actually want

[@lookingatdaisies9901]

​@@driftracerr34they were given only two options, of course them choose one that might not in real life, real life doesn't work that way.

[@MrSwagnificentSpeaks]

This should be an eye opening video for all the fellas out there. The vast majority of women will date a guy with less going on in their life if they are very attractive. A woman who has a high attraction to a man will put up with a lot and make all kinds of excuses for them. A high attraction will overrule everything and logical thinking goes out the window. All men need to better themselves for themselves. Don’t do it for women. If a woman won’t see your true value just walk away and never look back. Never waste your time trying to convince her that you are worthy of her attention. She either gets it or she doesn’t. Walk away and mean it. Never contact them again. Have self love and self respect. Have a great day.

[@sumairshirazi]

they don't know what they want

[@RicochetForce]

Yeah, the most of these segments I'm watching the clearer it's becoming that bettering yourself for the sake of catching a woman is a fool's game. As you said, there is a serious PASS/FAIL setup running through their minds, where certain attributes are auto-PASS while situations that indicate a learned, successful man lead to an auto-FAIL if a narrow condition isn't met. The number of women that would choose a significantly poorer partner (and likely less educated) so he could tower over her is no joke. This is like men preferring women with feminine bodies and voices vs more masculine ones. It's a HEAVY bias in favor of that physicality.

[@MrSwagnificentSpeaks]

@@RicochetForce you are correct. Thank you for your very well written reply. I agree with you 100%. Have a great day.

[@Twisted86]

Issue is you are believing that they are being honest.

[@martinsoll6402]

you say this as if most guys wouldnt do the same for attractive women

[@greatgyatso5429]

I like how most of the women were afraid of losing arguments with the lawyer 😂 Even when guys win an argument, they still lose, so it doesn’t matter, truly.

[@freudianslip2192]

All I heard is that they like to argue all the time. Pass!!!!

[@andrewdoub5145]

Yep! You win an argument & she’ll hold a grudge against you for days. Lose an argument & she’ll think less of you. It’s a lose-lose situation

[@gameon2000]

@@freudianslip2192 - this! why caring so much about not losing an argument - unless you love to argue! and win at that! a hard pass!

[@neonnwave1]

@@gameon2000 It's about pride. A lot of gals, especially the pretty ones, have a huge ego. So if they lose at anything, they hold onto that since they're not used to not getting their way.

[@neonnwave1]

Not unless you say something they have absolutely no comeback for. Like when my mother told me to stop spending money on model kits (which I enjoy building) and instead to spend my money on what the other kids were using their money on, I asked her "So you want me to spend my money on alcohol, cigarettes and drugs?" She just walked off. Or when my sister once told me that 'women are always right,' I fired back with "If that's the case then what happens when two or more women each have different answers to the same question?" My sister didn't say anything and just gave me a glare. Both instances, I knew I won because they never tried to convince me or disrespect me.

[@dashfriday974]

I love hearing all of these women fight for the 8s. Courtney: What if he’s an 8 but has absolutely nothing going for him? Girl: but maybe he DOES have something going for him. There’s more than what meets the eye. Maybe he’s in school, blah blah. Lol This is why it’s easy to trick women into thinking you don’t suck. Another great video.

[@alex56565]

a 'guy who has something going for him' is just a "guy who has something going for him", but a mystery box could be anything, it could even be a "guy that has something going for him"

[@Elonpocalyps420]

@@alex56565classic peter griffin joke

[@TheFishdoctor1952]

But in most women minds, the guy DOES have something going for him. He's an 8. What more is there except a 9 or 10.

[@JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd]

Men do the same shit lol. The only difference is there aren't very many 8s who are interested in us

[@khem127]

Like men are not complaining bout that gold digger that broke their heartsLOL🤣🤣

[@ryannolfe9051]

The question about a guy living at home really surprised me. There are many reasons we might live at home. For me I do seasonal work, so I'm gone for a big part of the year, and I help take care of my parents. Very interesting and enlightening video. Gives me some hope, haha. Keep making videos like this one, Courtney! I love it!

[@user-cz5lj2vx1f]

I think the women made clear that THE REASONS a man is living with his parents matter.

[@youtuber3328]

in life reasons still VARY we have BILLIONS of people and there's a MINIMUM of ONE reason FOR LITERALLY everything with LITERALLY everyone LITERALLY every time AND place PERIOD

[@erichermann1226]

It isn't just that. Think of it like an intuition based point system, any woman has her own threshold for the number of points she has to see to risk a relationship. (Btw we men do too but that's not what this comment is about). Having one's own place is a proof of competence (+1point). It just means that the man has to make up that point somewhere else. Ie skilled work (+1), or high social standing (+1), or sheer charisma (+1). WARNING: as I said at the start this is intuition, very few (>1%) of women keep a conscious score card, but when actually meeting someone the mind adds and subtracts based on new information.

[@TheFishdoctor1952]

@@erichermann1226 Yes, like looks and height .

[@freudianslip2192]

24:20 I've told this to my friends a million times. If you are good looking enough women will throw out all standards and requirements for you. (edit: case in point 29:35) If she doesn't find you attractive she will expect you to be literally perfect in every category. That's why when you hear women say “the bar is in hell”(when discussing standards) or “I'm raising my standards” It's because she dated the 8, 9, or 10 who didn't do shit for her, didn't pay for bills, didn't pay for dates, didn't do chores, was a cheater, etc. She had ZERO standards for that guy. She doesn't realize she only had access to the 8, 9, and 10’s because she had no standards for him. The moment she adds standards she loses access to those men. Some will hold out forever waiting for an 8, 9, or 10 that meets her newfound “standards” others will “settle” and make that man's life a living hell for not being an 8+

[@joelalvarez2090]

What women want to sleep with men they find attractive and less attractive people have to bring more to the table? Shocking and horrible!!! Lol

[@whythefuckineedhandle]

Exactly. Woman will eat anything from 9 what she never would forgive even a 7

[@JohnPaul-jn1fo]

she should said ok a 5 with 2 kids or an 8 that’s single. They would all change their minds right away.

[@SeekerGoOn2013]

Jesus Guys!! You’re swinging the pendulum too far the other way! We know what happens when we Ass U Me! 😅

[@chadsmith1200]

Looses? How can she tighten them?

[@yulunhsieh7012]

Can we do a 10 year followup with all of these girls and see who they end up being together with? I personally have asked different females about being bread winner and they all said they don't mind. But they all ended up marrying someone who makes more. So I am quite interested to see who these women end up with.

[@ERACLAB]

is it that surprising considering men do earn more on average

[@freudianslip2192]

@@ERACLAB I work with a ton of high earning women. They all say they wouldn't care and in their minds, they are being truthful because they are thinking of a guy that is a 10. However, these women aren't 10’s as much as they believe they are. So you end up seeing a woman that's a 4 in looks having to “settle” for a guy that's a 3-6 in looks and that 3-6 guy better be outearning her. Alot of this takes place subconsciously. The women I see having the most difficult times are the high earning women who are 8-10 in looks. They want men that are literal perfection and higher earning. They can casually date/situation ship with those top guys but they can't keep them.

[@yulunhsieh7012]

@@ERACLAB I was speaking from my own personal experience and the people I have talked to. I am guessing the range of people's salaries based on company name + job title and that's what I am basing it on. Every single married women (100%) I personally know have husband who makes same or more. This is true even for women who make 6 digits. The same trend does not exist for the men I know. I also do not know a single lower earning man who married a high earning woman (0%).

[@x-man5056]

It will likely increase your angst about the situation.

[@jltgp6221]

I’m betting 90% of these girls will end up being single moms and/or divorced by their mid-30s. At which point they will settle for an average guy who they wouldn’t even have considered dating in their 20s. Their expectations are so far above reality it’s hilarious.

[@DepressionTalks1]

This is gold. Thank you Courtney for your great efforts in making these awesome interviews

[@restock509]

Courtney this is such a great video on multiple levels, it’s funny and entertaining. I think why these interviews work, is because you choose the right people, they all have great personalities! This was fun to watch!

[@seethe313]

Women will ALWAYS think they can fix the 'hot' guy. ALWAYS. Doesn't matter about the number of women he's slept with or whether or not he's cheated in the past. Doesn't matter if emotionally available or loyal. Doesn't matter if he can compromise or not with her. Doesn't matter if he's financially irresponsible (as long as he MAKES money). Doesn't matter if he has previous baggage (i.e. unresolved anger from divorce, kids who are struggling with the divorce, etc..)- THEY CAN CHANGE HIM! Encourage the chubby guy to tag along with her to the gym and teach him to make healthier choices? NOPE! He won't change! Take him shopping and pick out clothes that look good on him? NOPE! He won't change! Exercise, nutrition, and style aren't core beliefs. They aren't permanently ingrained in a person, like personality or loyalty or the willingness to look at someone's point of view. That's why the same 20% of all guys rotate through women. They won't change because they don't have to. If you're not cool with them, they'll just find someone else. The guy of average looks will almost always value a woman more than the 'hot' guy will.

[@cardinalsfan9610]

Women fail to realize that when "changing" someone, they change the good guy to a bad boy, and it's rare to have it happen the other way around.

[@isaiahjones3427]

Yeah, they won’t keep that same energy for average to below average guy. Most of them would just easily leave.

[@_Aurelian_]

Very well said

[@cha9165]

I don't. I cant fix anybody hot or not. I don't ever go for the hot guy because it is too much stress. I sleep with them but that's as far as it goes. All my relationships have been with normal, sweet guys, hard working guys, most women wouldn't never go for. Don't put us in the same category. By the way some of them cheated and went for the slutty, std ridden girl instead of me. They had a good woman but choose the whore. It works both ways but it's all a blessing in disguise.

[@dimensionrecords1658]

Pretty privilege is a real thing

[@Sid00077]

The second choice between a good looking guy with kids and an average guy with no relationship experience reminded me a lot of job interviews, where employers want someone with years of experience for an okay-ish position, so they won't hire a new graduate. It's like, how can I even have experience when no one wants me😂? Worse thing is, once you are in your mid 20s, you dont really want to date someone young (18-21) because they are childish but no one your age wants you because you don't have any experience. So you will likely have to settle for someone without experience (so probably folks that are young) but you don't want to and if you do it's looked upon as being creepy after you are in your mid 20s. Life is kinda funny🤣

[@kakarotwolf]

Dude!! Yes!! You literally just described me 😂

[@omgbbq2]

There's nothing creepy about dating an adult woman over 18. My gf was 23 and I was 30 when we first met.

[@Sid00077]

@@omgbbq2 when I say creepy I meant men/women who only date girls/boys who are 18/19/20.

[@rajpatel8988]

@@Sid00077 if you are always treated better in that, why not?

[@johnpolese6575]

It is social proof. I am 30 and have only had one girlfriend, though it didn't work out after a few months. I've been on many first and second dates but they fizzled usually because the woman I saw didn't feel attracted to me. I think women really feel comfortable with you if another woman has approved of you in the past (or even present). Even though I would not care at all if a woman I was seeing had never had a boyfriend. I would actually prefer it and find it endearing.

[@suxix7312]

Whether it's a first relationship or your 30th you still have to learn the person if you're trying to be serious. I think guys would prefer a girl who hasn't been in a relationship before. Only thing that scares me about that is when they get it in their head that they're missing out having only been with one guy. But being able to be their first everything....well there's something special about that. Just like with anything in life the more time and energy you put into something the more rewarding it can be.

[@kevinc1593]

I’m definitely not a 9 but I lived with my parents to care for them through their last years; I was making 65k at the time and paid my own way. Mom feared retirement homes and she made my promises they’d never be in one. Both passed peacefully at home; just a few months apart…

[@keshhan6412]

That's very admirable of you. That's what a good son does.👍

[@mariecoheng]

Honor your father and your mother, the Bible says.

[@garypierce7380]

You're a good man. One of these women should grab you.

[@adamdobrowolski2510]

You did the right thing, and anybody who thinks you don't meet their "standards" for such a reason isn't worth your time.

[@habsom1406]

Respect to you Kevin C. Certainly a 10 on a different scale. Many people climb the ladder of success, only to find when they reach the top, that it was leaning against the wrong wall! What you did for your folks was priceless! 👍🙏

[@ajtaylor8750]

Not surprised that the women picked the guy who's an 8 but is divorced with 2 kids over a guy who's a 5 with no kids. Men with kids aren't baggage when it comes to women, but a divorced woman with kids is definitely baggage for a man especially one who wants to start his own family.

[@TomNook.]

That is why women ask "why did he pick a 5 over an 8" all the time, they can't comprehend that

[@danielaramburo7648]

Agree. The kids would not be a financial burden on the step mom.

[@Powerarmed]

It's all about the money... If you can afford a woman with two kids, being divorced... Why not banging and impregnating another one if you got the money for that shit...

[@tremartin1833]

Don't be jealous

[@jeffwhite3021]

FYI, these women will also choose the guy who's an 8 and MARRIED with kids.

[@ronhughes5894]

really nice video. I like that for the most part they weren't answering quickly. They took the time to think about it and see the different possibilities of each answer beyond the parameters of the questions. would like to see more like this with different groups of women. Really interesting.

[@EinSofQuester]

Man #1: HE is 6'3" A serial killer who enjoys torture and setting fires to orphanages. Man #2: He is 5'8" a neurosurgeon who volunteers on weekends at soup kitchens and donates a lot of money to build orphanages. Woman: Ooh this is a really tough choice to make.

[@Feetrcute-1990]

Hahahahaah dude exactly

[@ajtaylor8750]

It's funny seeing the women rationalize in their minds why they would pick the lawyer over the plumber, and the answers end up hilariously skewed because they know why they're picking the lawyer. It's the prestige surrounding the job title as if they tell their friends they're dating a lawyer it's favourable amongst their peer group, but if they say they're dating a plumber their friends may looks down on them. Not trying to come at these women, but you can see the processing in there heads as they try to justify their choice.

[@Matanumi]

What if the plumber owns his own business though? Then it could be more prestige then the lawyer

[@ajtaylor8750]

​@@Matanumi I completely agree with you.

[@freudianslip2192]

@@Matanumi But prestige aside, it still illustrates how bragging rights is part of the equation.

[@cardinalsfan9610]

Job title makes all the difference. Similar to height and other superficial things.

[@SystematicMechanic]

Yet people bad mouth Lawyers all the time.

[@sasoriko]

I love that all these women are single and approaching 30 and _now_ they want the loyal guy. They still want him to be 6ft, not living at home, handsome, charismatic, etc. Then they're going to nag him endlessly about why he's only making $55k...

[@FriendlyBatDoom]

I didn't realize that they were all single.

[@28yearsoldd]

@@FriendlyBatDoom They are chadhunters like any another woman.

[@JohnPaul-jn1fo]

they have cats

[@GoodTimeBikes]

Seems like these are all girls who went to college. They don’t usually do well in relationships compared to women who didn’t go to college. They all have good paying jobs so they don’t need a man to take care of them so they have “fun” in their 20s and all of a sudden they’re 30 and can only get 50 yr olds.

[@copingmanlet1104]

Everyone is entitled to have preferences and standards. If they are unrealistic, it’ll cost you down the road. While men are more reasonable than women with regards to standards, it is also very applicable to them. What you want and what you’re able to attract are not necessarily the same thing. Most of the time, they are in krass contrast.

[@leocastanon2958]

Many of these women here have a lot of masculine energy: independence, being the breadwinner, not wanting to have kids, bedroom satisfaction, financially competing with men etc. I get it, personal preferences factor in and times have now changed, but not our engrained human nature

[@Corroidz]

From how I've seen Sami answer across multiple videos, she seems so much more level-headed than most on these interviews. Hopefully I get the opportunity to meet someone like that one day.

[@Dean2489]

The "live with their parents" answers almost always hit me in the gut as someone in their mid 30s who shares a place with one of their parents.

[@somedandy7694]

The income one hits me, 'cause I'm mid-30s and still make less than 40k.

[@ABARANOWSKISKI]

Yeah, me too. But I live at home because my Mom needs help.

[@sloppyjonuts9162]

Live on the Arizona Cali border Jesus a 1 bedroom here in Arizona with nothing included is about 1100-1500. And a home 2-3 bedroom goes for around 330,000-500,000$ and the hourly pay for most jobs has been the same & gas is like 5$ a gallon now. I start hvac installs next week starting at $18 hour top pay goes to like 45$ but still

[@sansthedrummer]

I'm at home in my early 30s not only to take care of my mother, but I'm also doing a career change and going through college.

[@ainsmas361]

You need to move out my man.

[@restingsmirkface]

Wow the 8-with-two-kids vs 5-average-invisible-no-relationships was probably the most shocking set of answers I've ever heard on this channel! 5:26 She doesn't want the responsibility of "teaching someone how to be in a relationship"... but is willing to be a step-mother when she knows she's not ready. I'm guessing she has no intention of actually being a good step-mother, because that would be a MUCH BIGGER responsibility. 20:26-20:44 Not a significant amount? 95k vs 45k is literally more than DOUBLE.

[@debunkingfaddiets]

Haha teaching someone how to be in a relationship from modern women who can barely hold together a single monogamous long-term relationship without either cheating, monkey branching to a "higher value" male or self sabotaging the relationship out of mental illness. I'd love to be schooled and taught how to be in a relationship by these women who judge and grade mens value based on your penis size and bedroom abilities hahahahaha Jesus christ

[@killerpodcasts]

It's not after taxes.

[@holeefuk8505]

Doubly so when some said they dont judge a man who has made "mistakes" in his past but hold it against him if he hasn't had a relationship before. Maybe that perpetual Bachelor out there has dodged the bullet & Can seek his purpose instead of dealing with females who would rather fix a man who makes "Mistakes" lol

[@damienholland8103]

​@@killerpodcastsmost jobs don't pay that. So it is to the majority of people.😊

[@Tralvan]

"Wow the 8-with-two-kids vs 5-average-invisible-no-relationships was probably the most shocking set of answers I've ever heard on this channel!" Agree, like what? Hell for a lot of men it'd probably be a plus if the girl has never dated before, while a single mother/step-children is a dealbreaker going into nightmare territory for many regardless of the looks score. Apparently for women not having been in a relationship before seems to be a huge dealbreaker. Really blew my mind TBH.

[@embergrit2305]

Such a great video! Thank you ladies for sharing this! Great info even as a married man and like to know how I may be getting things right or falling short at times with my wife.

[@thomashebert5233]

I liked how progressive a lot of these women were. It was clear that a lot of women in the video didn’t prioritize height and they also were okay with being the breadwinner. they would just prefer a partnership. That follows the standard of 2024. We’re all equal and a relationship is a partnership. However, a man or woman who stays home to take care of the kids is still contributing to a partnership. We love progressive thinking.

[@bz9138]

They say they’d choose the shorter whose in shape but when they’re out at a bar, club, gym are they going to give the 5’5 guy a chance or are they going to immediately overlook them and see the 6 + guy? I think we all know the answer

[@freudianslip2192]

They will not. Same with the great in bed question. The 5’5 guy would never get to show his powers in the bedroom if the 6’1 who is a 9 was showing interest.

[@MarylandGuy-ey3st]

Shorter men have to play the long game, like getting to know the girl through friends etc. It is what it is

[@canadianturtle7240]

@@freudianslip2192 Exactly. I've seen it countless times when short/unattractive guys are hitting on girls. A lot of girls do give them a chance until a better looking guy comes along and then all their attention is gravitated towards the more attractive person.

[@debunkingfaddiets]

Bear in mind, penis size also factors into this too If you are over 6ft and not massively endowed, then expect the majority of these women to laugh in your face, bullying, body shaming and immediately going running back to degrade, dehumanize and publically humiliate your penis size to all their equally skanky skeevy penis size girth shaming obsessed weirdo friends. You could be 5 foot 5, but as long as "you're packing heat downstairs" as these women outright vocally state, then "don't overlook all short kings"... Just the ones with smal dicks of course, overlook and bully them to mental illness and suicide for what they can't help about their bodies, as thats funny to us women right, a warped, normalized, socially acceptable culture of dehumanizing men based on their penis size to sexual ability.

[@Chicodon008]

@@MarylandGuy-ey3st Even that is not going to work for turbo manlets regardless of anything. And manlets need to compensate through being ridiculously good at other things.

[@francescotranchina6201]

I feel sorry for those guys who have never been in a relationship for whatever reason (life dealt a bad hand, introverted, social anxiety etc) that second question shouldn't be hard because of the choices... Just screams to me "damned if you do damned if you don't." Edit: thanks for the likes and the comments, read them all, glad to see I'm not alone on the thought process behind that second question. I'm just disappointed at this point.

[@MafiaMTGA]

i'm 37 and only been in one relationship, i'm glad i at least got one under my belt which lasted 2 years.

[@donnyyasu2764]

Late bloomer here, didn't hit stride until I was 32. No previous relationship. It's still possible to get girls, but I seriously have to max out my shoulder-waist ratio, dress great, groom well, and finally have a solid enough job. Was chubby and broke before that

[@huntstyle]

That's pretty much me. I've been in a few relationships, but they've all been short-term. I dread questions about past relationships because I know the girl will judge me for it. Funny thing about that question is, none of them asked WHY guy #1 is divorced. He could be super toxic, and always the one destroying his relationships. Is that really the guy they want?! I think in EITHER case, you should judge someone by who they are NOW, not who they were in their past, and how they treat you now. There's nothing to say in either case he wouldn't be right for you.

[@theinsurance2450]

I hated that one woman answered, "Why haven't you been in a relationship already?" Could you imagine if a guy said that about a girl. The hypocrisy

[@fischersfritz468]

​@@theinsurance2450 the answer is easy: no woman wanted me yet

[@milliekozary5667]

Great segment yes pls have more of these it’s incredibly interesting and thought provoking from other’s perspectives. Tnx 😊

[@bmanley01]

I dated a female lawyer when I was younger. She was very attractive, well educated, and we were very blissful polar opposites -which usually is a mess, but with us a huge success. We were talking about marriage at one point, but one of the issues we had was that she was NEVER HOME. Work consumed her, she was always concerned with stepping up that ladder in her firm. She always brought work home. So, after two years, I broke it off. Ladies, its just my experience, but go with the plumber.

[@saintejeannedarc9460]

Big time. You were lucky she was nice and agreeable enough. Vast majority of lawyers are imperious and endlessly demanding. Worked w/ them, and refused to after some experience.

[@KyleConnell-if3zn]

Very interesting how negatively the women reacted to the hypothetical man who was a five and no dating experience. The women would rather raise someone else's children than work and communicate with someone who has no experience dating. Given how Courtney and even other women previously questioned have said that inexperience is not necessarily a red flag, I was very surprised by those responses.

[@UltimateTS64]

Yeah that's really odd too me. I'm my current gf's first boyfriend and we've been dating for over a year and a half. Sure there's some times where I don't think she thinks about certain things in a relationship that I would expect someone with experience to think about like initiating physical touch, and giving compliments, but for anything I felt wad lacking, I just communicated with her in a respectful and calm manner asking if she would consider it as it would make the relationship better for me. This is reciprocal and I've told her to do the same thing which she has, and it's been pretty smooth sailing all and all. Tbh I'd rather have someone who hasn't been tainted as they might have trust issues more easily and hate men cause one guy screwed her over

[@MrFalcon58199]

I found it hilarious when one girl picked a divorced guy with kids and backed it up with "I don't judge them by their history" but avoiding a guy because he has never been in a relationship is... you guessed it - judging him by his history (or a lack of one).

[@bdtrap]

Yeah that's surprising that women don't choose a relationship that they can mold. Bcs they're gonna try to do it anyway. ... maybe that's why it isn't a differentiator for them, bcs they're going to try to mold their partner anyway.

[@erichermann1226]

I completely disagree. Never having been in a relationship is an indicator that something may be wrong with them. Or rather that other women ruled them out for a reason. Divorced, on the other hand, means they were picked by someone before and things just didn't work out.

[@Ray03595]

@@erichermann1226 Dating has just never been a focus for me. Always had other things going on in my life. Trying to branch out more though. I swear I'm a mostly normal person 😆

[@joeykunz]

Courtney cmon, you know asking these women means nothing.. do it in reality. Get 2 men like this and setup a place where we can SEE how the women react and behave around them. You know what would happen.

[@michaelangst6078]

Only videos that matter are the women who make videos of them using tinder and being 100% truthful.. Women can come on here just lie to not appear shallow...

[@giorgosdro7059]

The attractive guy will ALWAYS win,no matter his job,money or status

[@adama3350]

Money and views that is why. LIES LIES LIES

[@gizmogearloose3391]

...Exactly...!!!

[@khem127]

@@giorgosdro7059 The women basically showed that. It was refreshing for me to see that the women were just as stuck on attractive males as men were stuck on attractive females.Why some people have a problem with that I don't understand.

[@waynebrown2410]

I so so so really enjoyed that survey.. I found it so refreshing and super informative to hear women express it all. Please do more of this

[@BishopNE1]

Guys, NEVER listen to what a women say they want. Watch their actions, who they date, what the ACTUALLY do vs what they say.

[@akaemzett]

Height is not just a number, 6'3 is the optimal height because it combines the ability to defend the family (mostly a mute point today, but still attractive because of evolution) and health in the best way possible. Taller guys often have back problems / more mutational load etc. Even tall girls prefer 6'3. Also, height has a co-evolution history with intelligence, which leads to better education and more money (by average) and also to kinder, less aggressive / criminal behaviour. So, in short, height is a proxy for a lot of highly desirable attributes for women.

[@jaywaup]

I find it rich that they think a plumber would not be as educated/intelligent as a lawyer. That’s wild.

[@butcho7492]

Exactly. Kamala Harris is a lawyer.

[@julialee143]

Lollll seriously. My husband is a general contractor, can do it all. And also has a degree in international affairs and is one of the smartest people I know!

[@MM-lb2zk]

Personally been in both blue collar and white collar jobs, as well as uni and also trade school. I can honestly say, that most of the people I’ve met in university are nothing more than “educated” idiots the vast majority. Hate to say it but facts are facts. Not much originality there. Seen far more intelligence and ingenuity from men and women in the trades. Also, there’s no guarantees in life that also holds true for income no matter what profession you’re in.

[@ghostflame9211]

Interesting what is considered baggage to women. Divorced with 2 kids is less of a barrier than someone who has never had a relationship. Meanwhile I figured someone who has never had a relationship is a clean slate and I can start fresh with her. Idk maybe I’m just idealizing it, but I don’t wanna raise some other dudes kids at my point in life

[@leosolis5846]

That's the thing, alot of the things that we want in a woman will not be attractive in a man. Women prefer: tall guy Men prefer: shorter girl Women prefer: someone that weighs more than them Men: someone that weighs less then them Women prefer: a guy who has been with many women Men prefer: a Virgin. Or a girl with low body count

[@bros4654]

That was interesting to me, also. I would have thought it would be flipped, especially since some of them seemed reluctant about kids. Very interesting.

[@romethw3465]

I don't understand bros

[@danielbaran4724]

If I were a women, I’d go with choice 2 for that question because I would love to teach a man how to be in a relationship with a woman. Plus, since the guy’s a 5, they would give me their undying loyalty.

[@ghostflame9211]

​@@danielbaran4724 thats what i thought too. option 2 is a clean slate and the two can grow together into the relationship, without bringing in any past experiences, including expectations from good memories or baggage from bad trauma. but evidently thats not what these women say they want (when asked a question while being filmed for a youtube video at any rate). kids are a whole other issue in and of itself, (someone who adamantly doesnt want kids will not be attracted to the divorcee with 2 kids no matter what) which is why it surprised me that its such a bigger deal than someone who is inexperienced.

[@jonathanzuniga3681]

I'm consistently surprised by the reasoning behind their answers. Side note: I'm 5'3, healthy, and fairly symmetrical. I have been turned down more by women shorter than me because of height, than women who are average height or tall. It always perplexes me. Besides being unable to dunk, or have a long jab, I don't have any issues with my height. I always feel like short women have more insecurities about height than short men do. I've thought about it a lot.

[@deshanpillay3064]

The KZbin award goes to Courtney Ryan for delivering quality content ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

[@RockKnocker17]

Yay, now we have a better understanding of the desires modern culture has imposed on woman, desires that will change and woman have no control of.... they will change like the wind, it just depends what's popular at the time.

[@rodger7029]

Be interested in hearing what these women think THEY will look like in 20 years

[@JohnPaul-jn1fo]

single looking like plastic and living with cats

[@GoodTimeBikes]

How about a “ten year follow up” video? See how many are divorced vs how many never married but have pets to fill the void.

[@PredatoryTeeth]

Some will "hit the wall" much sooner than those 20 years, Rodger, and you know that! 😄😄😄

[@yungactivist]

20 😭😭😭 make it 10 to 15 most of them are 25-32 I think

[@lockyp204]

Plenty of 50 year old entitled “princess’” around. Age doesn’t make them wise

[@jacobbaty5193]

Please do more of these videos, Courtney! I thought this was great!!

[@heidibraun3847]

These questions and answers were very interesting and there were many for which the choice was crystal clear, but even then I'd have to say that there are so many factors you can't know just from comparing factors like career, height, etc., such as personality and common interests.

[@budabk]

The woman asked, "Why haven't you been in a relationship already?" I have been asked that question and it's hard to answer because I hate the answer. I am 5'-5", started male pattern baldness in my early 20s, and didn't break triple-digit weight until my mid-20s. I've always been smart, gregarious tho introverted, creative, and artistic. Although I am fully self-ambulatory, there is a visible disability that caused skeletal/ muscular stunting, everything works. Females were just willing to even hold hands as my hands are the size of a 7-year-old's. I asked a woman why we could not date and she replied, "Because you're a cripple." I dated a woman with a child for 8 years and had proposed marriage a couple times. She never outright said no, but was not ready. Eventually, w/o warning, she got engaged to a man 6'-4", 260 lbs, a newly recovering drug and alcohol addict. I asked why I was not acceptable and was told that "people like you can't make babies." Turned out that I can but he is completely sterile. What I would ask of you, Courtney, is to ask your ladies questions about men with disabilities, and how this affects their relationship and mating strategies. Currently, I am 68, living alone, creating my art, and socializing with no illusions of any future romantic relationship. I am interested to learn more about what has contributed to this not uncommon calamity.

[@canadianturtle7240]

Damn, reading your post, it must be hard. I'm not going to lie to you. Being in your shoes is a fight, and every day is a war just to survive. The fact that you've come this far and lasted 68 years, you have a stronger mental fortitude than most people could handle. You can take that with you to your death bed, because most people would've killed themselves, I know I would. You are strong, don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise. You may have a physical disability, but your mental fortitude is that of a Titan. I'm not being sarcastic or snarky, I mean this from the bottom of my heart. I applaud you for your ability to stay strong.

[@adama3350]

[@marcusr6124]

@@adama3350😂😂😂

[@kellykell8439]

I like these "Would You Rather" segments but sometimes I really want somebody to ask Courtney Ryan some of these questions just to see what her answers would be.

[@Nikstar112]

Omg I said the same thing

[@Ruin3.14]

@@Nikstar112 I wonder this too, but since she has a fiance, I dont think she would feel comfortable answering those questions.

[@freudianslip2192]

Who cares she's in a stable relationship.

[@deanthroop8054]

Courtney's responses to these questions come out in her other content.

[@Pikawarps]

Her boyfriend is wealthy, self made, taller than she is, not overweight, and doesn’t have kids (as far as I’ve seen) so that basically answers the questions

[@00dfm00]

These 'would you rathers' are always great for conversation even out and about!

[@AnthonyWasiukiewicz]

Great video. Love the cander. Love the lack of judgement and considered answers. Thanks.

[@On_The_Mark]

These 'would you rather' videos are very interesting. I suggest trying a 'would HE rather' video in which the ladies say which woman they think the guys would prefer.

[@Nikstar112]

Awesome idea!

[@kevinwaters5189]

That would be gold

[@IamjustBruh]

Dude. I’ve been waiting for that.

[@michaelangst6078]

They are pointless when you consider at least half of these women will lie in the moment just to not to give shallow answer after shallow answer

[@dominick6131]

Such a video would be labeled as fat phobic hate speech 😂😂. I know my answer. "woman one is overweight", speak no more ill go with option 2.

[@cardinalsfan9610]

It's surprising how guys and gals view issues differently. If a woman had never been in a relationship, it would not be seen as "why has she never been with anyone" or "does she have issues" to NEAR the same extent. That doesn't mean that 10 times out of 10, guys wouldn't judge, but there would be far more acceptance from guys on that front.

[@andersnielsen6044]

I would never date an adult woman who had never been with a guy - ever!

[@SquarishLink]

I agree with this comment. I dated a 4 or 5 Asian girl with a nice body who never had anything serious before. Needless to say it was the worst relationship of my life and completely one sided. Never ever dated anyone more selfish, entitled and neurotic

[@hkay3127]

Women value experience, men value inexperience

[@andersnielsen6044]

@@hkay3127 Only pedo's think like that!

[@x-man5056]

Only inexperienced men desire inexperienced women.

[@MoFoDaRoad]

It’s great to see that these women actually recognize the baggage that comes with being divorced with kids. Yet, they would never be shamed for not wanting to be a mother to somebody else’s kids.

[@joshmiller4152]

well organized and props to the panel explaining themselves clearly...impressed.

[@Fer-De-Lance]

I was grossly mistreated as a kid and have always been too busy for a relationship. There are a lot of reasons people do not get into relationships.

[@Wonderwoman79G]

Have you considered getting therapy and support re your childhood.

[@garypierce7380]

Makes no sense. Seems like you would want to be a better parent, not hide from life and complain.

[@Fer-De-Lance]

@@Wonderwoman79G I have been in and out of therapy through my life.

[@Fer-De-Lance]

@@garypierce7380 I kept a lot of not so good people out of my life. I do not hide from life. I have never had any desire to be a parent. And I would never forgive myself for passing some really bad things down to them.

[@felixthecat4584]

I moved back home at 35 to help take care of my mother when she was dying of cancer. Now that she is gone my father is going downhill and abandoning him makes me feel crazy guilty. That being said I am single and just turned 40. Living with a parent is super embarrassing to tell people and really really hurts your dating options. I do not make much money but on the bright side I am now debt free and have a pretty good-looking bank account for those in my socioeconomic level. (I am guy number two at 19:11 ) Just sucks the everyone assumes you are some lazy stoner who does not work if you live with family.

[@jay.a.9683]

victoria and sami are the types of girls i go for. type of girl i could really get on well with and laugh constantly. down to earth, not judgmental. perfect.

[@robertdevoy3119]

Many women view shorter guys as less masculine. Plus, they don't want their kids to be short like their father. Also, if the taller guy makes less money than her, she feels that gives her a certain amount of power over him, at least in her mind.

[@GoodTimeBikes]

Most of these “college educated” women want a doormat for a boyfriend or husband.

[@andrewdoub5145]

Agreed & I hate it. I’m 5’7 & I’ve been rejected so many times just b/c of my height 🤦‍♂️

[@GoodTimeBikes]

@@andrewdoub5145 girls are all over my buddy who’s 6’ 3” and he’s not all that talkative or out going. I’m 5’ 8” so I know how it is. It’s just how life is haha

[@SystematicMechanic]

Delusional.

[@SystematicMechanic]

@@GoodTimeBikes I had a good friend that was 5'7 and an 8 or better in looks and girls would talk to him and not even look at me. It was like I was was invisible to them. No matter i never had a problem getting girls. That's just rude as hell tho. He started getting after them for doing that.

[@linewalkr6500]

Oh good another one of Courtney's games where I get reminded of how we're all going to die alone

[@MikeyP109]

Don't sweat it, these videos have nothing to do with reality.

[@fischersfritz468]

​@@MikeyP109 unfortunately they do. My age bracket is a bit higher (35+), but as I have never been in a relationship... no chance at all. I'M tall, good job, more or less in shape. ..but no chance for a second date

[@GoodTimeBikes]

Lol I kind of agree with this. Does it help to know that all these girls went to college? Perhaps a girl who didn’t attend would be a better candidate for dating material.

[@andrewdoub5145]

@@fischersfritz468 yeah, I’m 36 & now divorced. So I’m curious how women 30+ feel. Maybe 26-29. Could care less for girls 26 & below. Too young for me.

[@xybersurfer]

i couldn't agree more

[@JT-mr3db]

"If you're a plumber you're down to earth, you can fix all my shit" LOL

[@kakarotwolf]

They're denying a hypothetical guy who has never been in a relationship but will take a man with kids and divorced 😐 then saying you won't take the guy who's never been in a relationship because he's never been In a relationship; it's the same thing as jobs who only take people with experience but you can never get the experience because you can't get the job. Also, just because someone has never been in a relationship doesn't mean they're some child who you have to hold their hand. There are several reasons why that person has never had a real relationship, starting with the way the dating culture is now.

[@robsolf]

The ladies had some good answers on "plumber vs. lawyer", IMO. I loved the "guy who knows how to fix stuff in the house vs. guy who would win all our arguments" perspective. LOL!

[@Gh0stGaminginc]

"If he's a 9 I assume he has a great relationship with his parents" What the hell kind of sense does that make?

[@danintennessee4447]

A lot of the hypotheticals had guys who were a 4 or a 5 -and I found it hopeful that sometimes the women would choose that person. Men are probably a lot more shallow, in my opinion. Also, there were a couple of questions about "lives with parents," and, surprisingly, the women didn't just dismiss that out of hand. As a person who's currently living with his parents (divorce situation; I used to have my own house), I found that hopeful.

[@timmccarthy3748]

Very awesome and informative video for a what-if scenario or hypothetical. Love the content. Keep up the great work. Get it, girl.

[@serge6038]

The first question and it already concerns me. I am 5'5 and it is nice to hear that most women prefer the self care over the height. And I understand the 6 ft girl, this is a bit too much of a difference for me too :)

[@hkay3127]

They're lying tho.. women will always pick the politically correct answer. In reality they'll never pick the short guy

[@bilalali7336]

@@hkay3127 at 5’5, 160lb and 9% body fat, I’ve taken a 6ft tall dude’s girl often enough to know their answers are pretty honest.

[@babas0997]

@@bilalali7336 you could have good charisma, and you can also be the exception. Point being women lie all the time with questions like that. If they weren’t lying they wouldn’t be single. There’s plenty of dude who match their ideal answers.

[@HereForTheCupcakes]

@@babas0997”plenty”? Nah that’s pushing it. The ideal guy they all want is rare, we’re talking past the top 10% without question. There are far more men who are 5’5 than there are 6’3. These are statistics that they themselves don’t even know of. If anything, women on average would rather have a tall guy with no charisma than a short guy with charisma just off natural selection

[@MarylandGuy-ey3st]

@@bilalali7336 but you have to have your stats maxxed out at 5’5, which sounds like you do. The taller guy will still have it easier tall else being equal

[@pace1195]

The back and forth along with the rationalizations of these women is amazing. The few negative traits these women claim to prefer came with some version of the cliché, "But, I can fix him". I've always called this the female version of "white knighting". It's funny; there's a reason Courtney has never had a male version of these questions. We all know what answers the overwhelming majority of men would say if given a similar quiz.

[@RockKnocker17]

HAHAHAHahaha, what's the point of asking woman these super difficult questions when they're going to throw their panties at face tattoos by reflex anyways!?!??

[@LOT9T]

@@RockKnocker17 LOL! flog worthy comment! Chad panties reflex syndrome CPRS

[@devinspiegelhalter7632]

It’s pretty common for women to believe they can change a man. The only way that happens is if the man wants that woman bad enough he will do those necessary changes. Never the other way around.

[@guitarmetaldemon]

These questions are actually fun! More content like this, please.

[@SaiquanCanty]

I'm 6'4, have a nice body, own a business, 7 in the looks department, have staple staple situation, a car, and have limited personal issues --> ( I have social anxiety ) I haven't been able to get a girl in over 8 years, and I've been in one relationship my whole life.... I also live near a city where the female to male ratio is 8 - 1 (yes, 8 girls to every 1 guy)

[@emate8422]

8 to 1? Where you live

[@daveblackman816]

Nice. These are my favorite of the videos. Their opinions are always so interesting and telling

[@CourtneyRyan]

Enjoy!!

[@roosterparrottjuniour]

I doubt these are their actual opinions on it though because in someone's real actual dating relationship life it's not just ok he's an eight divorced and has two kids yep I'll date him surely there's gonna be more to it than that and there gonna be more than just three traits

[@hkay3127]

Oh these women aren't honest... U think they gonna be honest when there's a camera pointed at them and thousands of ppl watching? U want honest answers u gotta ask a girl when she's drunk, or when they're faceless in an online chatroom

[@roosterparrottjuniour]

@@hkay3127 my point is that doing would you rather is not a great way to find out someone's actual views on something it's like asking someone would you rather only eat pizza or hotdogs but what if I actually like both of them and I don't have preference for one or the other a better way to do it is asking questions like in your dating relationship life what traits are you looking for in a person what traits would you prefer the person to have what are some traits that you might not like or prefer but your like eh I'll still date him etc etc etc

[@michaelangst6078]

@@hkay3127 Is it not possible the below average looking women were being realistic and not just answering like they would only want a top 2% guy???

[@gabrielabsouza4497]

Your channel is so cool. I'm a psychotherapist and have some clients who really need this type of content. I'm indicating to them and learning a lot with it. Thank you!

[@pastelmoon9118]

depends on why they live with their parents. They should hear the reason why. Some may do it only temporary when starting their own business and moving out once they get stable income etc

[@nicholasrodriguez577]

Your videos are always amazing and help me a lot to understand specific things about our daily lives. Thank you very much Courtney!

[@TimJohnsen57]

I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a woman who uses the number rating system when choosing a partner. My wife and I have been together for 42 years, and we agree that that type of behavior is insensitive and demeaning.😒

[@mrdouche9172]

Yeah but how else can you convey to someone the level of someone's physical attractiveness? Numbers are simple and everyone knows the 1-10 scale, from least attractive to most attractive. Alternatively, you'll have to manufacture a scale like: ultra ugly, very ugly, ugly, below average, average, above average, attractive, very attractive, ultra attractive. And you'll have to explain the scale every time. It quite simply isn't efficient.

[@TimJohnsen57]

@@mrdouche9172 I understand your point and would add that it's all subjective. Beauty is TRULY in the eye of the beholder! I've never had much respect for any of my brethren who speak of women like this, and I avoid them. No, I don't have many men friends, I'm good with that.

[@mrdouche9172]

@@TimJohnsen57 Not really. Beauty is for the most part objective, with some subjectivity sprinkled in. There have been numerous studies and it's been shown that some physical traits are widely more preferred than others. A short, fat, bald, ugly dude with zero chin and a crooked hawk nose for example isn't going to be anyone's first pick, or second pick, or even third pick etc. That's just reality. Sure it's possible that you might be the most unattractive person in existence and out of 4 billion women one might find you somewhat attractive, but that doesn't mean you're attractive, that just means you're ugly. And the probability of ever meeting said woman and also being attracted to said woman is astronomically small.

[@TimJohnsen57]

@@mrdouche9172I read an article about one such study. It's true that subconsciously, we find certain traits attractive and not others. Just look at photos of people in the 1800s', and look around at the people today. If the man in your example was rich, he would probably have a pretty wife, lol! I'm talking about consciously expressing that "rating" to another person. In my opinion, that activity is shallow and shows that the people who engage in it are more interested in appearance than substance. I mean how would you ever know if you let the ONE get away because they were only a 7 and your require an 8 or above? And what are you going to say to your people, "I'm still looking till I find an 8 or above?" Or, "I found a keeper because they are an 8+"? If you can't get past looks, how can you engage in conversation? That's the best way to learn about a persons inner beauty. I've met a couple very attractive people in my life, that as soon as they spoke the things they had to say, they got less attractive real quick. We are all different, if only slightly.

[@mrdouche9172]

@@TimJohnsen57 Well of course if the guy is very wealthy, he can get a pretty wife. But I was specifically talking only about physical appearance and beauty. Not sure if it's a 7 or an 8 or a 9 or whatever, but a threshold of physical attractiveness has to be met in order for someone to be interested in a person romantically. As a man who has known many men, the vast majority of guys prioritize looks and that's just reality. I know it. You know it. Everyone knows it. It's biology. Good character and conversation skills are important, but only if the sexual attraction is there. If it isn't there, it can only be friendship and anything past that will most likely never work out.

[@user-ql1uu2lo2z]

"Why have you not been in a relationship?" A thousand possible reasons. He's shy. He was a late bloomer. He's "on the spectrum". He went to an all-boys school. And that's just off the top of my head. Do people not think before they speak?

[@JianimalGaming]

It was interesting to hear more than one girl brought up can’t deal with lawyer winning an argument all the time. Does it need to be an either winning or losing situation? The goal of partners’ argument is looking for a win-win solution, isn’t? If there has to be winners I hope it’s logic and reasoning. It’s nice when my partner can think like a teammate who’s interested in finding solutions vs. an enemy who wants to win a battle. That’s an invitation to toxicity.

[@MailmanNick]

Stay single. Focus on your money, your health/fitness, and become a better man every day.

[@copingmanlet1104]

Normie-Cope.

[@slfextraordinaire2216]

Blonde short girl is a guys dream; she’s progressive in her thoughts, willing to compromise but knows her standards and herself, and is willing to be an equal partner in a relationship. Being willing to put in the work to make a good relationship leads a good man to want to do as much as he can for her, knowing he doesn’t necessarily need to, but because he wants to. Leads to both sides wanting to make each other happy, and making life better for both

[@TheSynisterMinister]

its wild to hear so many of these women who are in their early to mid 30s talking about "I might want kids" "i dont think Im ready to handle kids" yet most fathers only have partial custody and arent looking for a new mom. just someone who understands and can be cool around kids. maybe small help here and there.

[@User71956]

The very few women who "claim" to be okay if their partner steps out even if they are honest about it, I'm not buying that. It's one thing to be okay with the concept of it, but it's another if he has a date on Friday night and won't be home till 2-3 AM while she is stuck at home. Women can get more dates but quantity doesn't (and usually never does) equate to quality.

[@huntstyle]

On the height question, here's the real world answer: they'd choose neither and wait for the 6'2 guy who is in shape.... and makes a lot of money.

[@isaiahjones3427]

I agree lol

[@Joey21071]

"I don't want to have the responsibility of teaching someone what it's like to be in a relationship. You have to do this. You have to act a certain way." - You're not training a dog. You don't have to teach someone how to be in a relationship. You don't have to teach someone how to act. If that person is a normal human being, there's a good chance they know how to act. Some people are simply shy and lack self confidence.

[@mrbabyhugh]

8:15 so men learn, it's NOT about if you are right or wrong in an argument..... they just want to win the argument regardless.

[@nickofthenorth]

Inevitably my experience has been that my fitness regimen (4-6x week for 60-90 min) has become a point of contention if the woman doesn’t have a fitness regime. It would be insecurity about the other women they imagine are at gym or if I break off and go to gym instead of spending another hour w her it can make her cold for hours or days when I return. They role with it at first but after time it has become a problem 100% of the time so they have to have a fitness regimen. I say that to women who chose fit guy who do not exercise themselves.

[@adamdobrowolski2510]

I definitely think this group of women provided the best feedback for the "Would You Rather..." series. Some of the other episodes got semi-cartoonish, yet this group totally made the most of the question by exploring the potential context while also holding firm to their (grounded) preferences (e.g.: not wanting kids, wanting somebody with similar means and intelligence to avoid you feeling lesser than, etc.). And this I personally find attractive in a woman, so bonus points to most of them. (I have one exception.) If anything, the only blind spot I saw was about the guys living with parents. While the context for this was explored thoroughly, they were still seeing this issue from a middle-class post-WWII American lens. We as a country still very much have a G.I. Bill frame of bias, as if somebody living with parents is failing at life. Yet, this wasn't the case at all before America pulled in all that money from World War II. If you go back to early 20th Century, it was commonplace for multi-generational households. It made the most sense financially and kept a strong family dynamic. Currently, if you look at renting vs purchasing property, you can see at times a 2x monthly increase to rent (vs purchase) similar properties if you're a single male (or female). Worse yet, many people get caught in a repeating pattern by renting, because they can't afford to save for a purchase due to the increased monthly bill. With the cost of living increase vastly outpacing the average income increase, it's become more about humbly playing the facts of life than being a 30-something burnout that hides in mom's basement. The multigeneration living rate is roughly 4x in the past 40 years, per Pew Research (2022). And the percentages are higher for immigrant families than American-born families. In fact, socioracial status in general is a factor as well, with Pew reporting a 2x increase in non-White multigenerational households. (Unfortunately, no direct financial or immigration connection was assessed, which is a huge disappointment IMO.) With that said, I still firmly believe that a man should be waiting to seriously date if he is in this process of saving while staying at Dad/Mom's place, unless he finds a woman with a background in multi-generational households. The bias that exists in not fair for either party at this point IMO, as there's still a lot our society needs to accept about sub-issues like pooling family finances and the rent vs purchase pitfall. Instead, I think he should keep grinding and only get back on the dating scene after securing that property purchase.

[@zeus-ow8li]

Most men I've met who still live at home into their mid 30's have social anxiety issues. Not trying to be judgemental, but I often find that the family dynamic in those types of households is very codependent and not healthy

[@adamdobrowolski2510]

@@zeus-ow8li That's a good point, but I'd also ask what demographics are at play. I think if it's more of a norm culturally, the less you will see that social anxiety. Ultimately, a deal breaker comes down to how much growth is being made at home. If they get stuck in their own ways, living at one's parents house at such an age may very much be a disaster in wait. But if growth is happening or family traditions are being observed, it's not much for which to be worried.

[@TheGhostofTomMetzger]

These women will all leave the 5'5" guy when they realize how much time and dedication it takes to stay in shape. lol

[@Snowkone81]

I love this series Courtney! Regardless of the answers that are given, it gives us some insight into various types of women of different (not sure how much different) age groups.

[@TheFishdoctor1952]

I wonder if they friends or what? How were they selected? Do any of them know who the father of our country was? How many stars on the American flag, etc.

[@nobledarkmoon]

An interesting one was guy with 2 kids vs guy never been in a relationship. Women who don't want kids had a negative image of the guy who was never in a relationship, but never asked why the single dad with kids is single. This is very interesting. My guess is that they see the single father as more social because he has 2 children. Whereas the one that has never been in a relationship has not developed the social skills they would expect from a relationship. Many of the women don't mind being independent and being the breadwinner while the man becomes the house husband. This is a romanticized version of the head of the house hold. In reality, many families in that situation will divorce because the woman will become resentful because the husband is not pulling his weight in the relationship in their mind. With power comes sacrifice and responsibility, they actually deem raising a child as fundamentally less important within the relationship. On top of that, friends will tell them that he is lazy for not having a job, which will end up causing the woman to feel she has a lower status within society. This is the rub why it is a romantic notion.

[@shootermcgavin4999]

From a guy that has never really been in a long term relationship. It's because I'm shy and introverted and don't have a lot of confidence to approach girls...also in the past 5 years I've decided it's not really worth it. Besides being introverted and low confidence there is nothing else really wrong with me lol. But girls don't really approach guys so if you are a guy like me who is not willing to make a move you will be forever alone. I guess the girls find that weird but there are a lot of us out there. It's much easier to be a girl.

[@howardnapier3618]

It's a numbers game my friend, also don't take shots you're not gonna make (who has a shot at a 5'9" model type?). Just compliment every pleasant looking woman you can. All women have beautiful eyes. Work a game around that. Take rejection as a badge of honor, she missed out, not you. They love to be smooth talked, but not in a overly sexual way. My first football coach to me nearly 50 years ago. "Doubt whom you will but never yourself" And I've never forgotten it.

[@hueyang1403]

Nicely done Courtney! I personally would love to see a video about race & interracial dating. I know it's kind of a controversial topic when people talk about race & stereotypes because we all make snap judgments about others even if we say we don't. I've learned that preference, familiarity & tradition doesn't always make someone racist. I'd love to see a video like this!

[@deanthroop8054]

Courtney your interviews have always been great and somehow are getting better. Thank you for putting these together. The questions are great, your follow-up is phenomenal. It would be cool if you had one or two older women. It would be good to see how a 40 or 50 year old woman responds. Want to see the generational differences, and life situation differences. All your women are pretty early in building careers and families.

[@lachlaninglis9568]

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[@k4everut]

My parents are up there in age (80 and 70). My younger brother sold his house and moved back in with them. The original plan was for him to take the money he made from selling his smaller house, then use it to buy a bigger one. However, after my Dad had a few health scares, my brother decided not to "rush" into looking for a new house. I'd laugh if someone turned him down because he lived with our parents. That would be their lose.

[@tuntitommosille]

Let's be real - most of these women would actually pick the 6'2" guy and try to change his habits. At least he's got potential, whereas the 5'5" guy is never going to be both tall and fit.

[@michaelangst6078]

and if the guy doesn't have an attractive face, that is least a 7.5/10, they won't want to be with them.. What is with men assuming women think a dude is attractive just because he is over six feet?? This is total BS as I am 6'2 myself, and I never have women naturally interested in me on dating apps without me leading every convo I have and I would rate my face a 6.5/10... Average looking face for men in todays dating market are totally invisible unless the guy is leading with money and is perfectly fine being in a transactional relationship

[@Chicodon008]

@@michaelangst6078 You surely are not a tall HTN

[@michaelangst6078]

@@Chicodon008 I said my face is a 6.5 moron, so I wasn't claiming to be

[@Chicodon008]

@@michaelangst6078 You do not how to rate yourself.

[@michaelangst6078]

@@Chicodon008 I am at least a 6 in the face since I have met women before off the app. This isn't possible for men below a 6 in the face.. Regardless, stop assuming people are lying when you have 0 clue. If you don't like what I say, don't reply

[@scottheffel3928]

Is a 33 year old man who is currently living with mother and brother but they are both disabled and he is currently keeping a personal promise he made to his father 23 years ago before they closed his casket, a good enough situation and is not a deal breaker for still living with his mother? I'm asking for myself and not a friend.

[@MeghanDonnellyIPY]

Great video Courtney! I think women in their late '30s and '40s and 50s would have slightly different answers. That would be an interesting new take on this video after women have had more life experience both good and bad.

[@keithheckler7332]

Courtney...please assemble another panel of women in this age range and ask similar questions. I would love to hear the responses and then you can have a second video where you compare their answers between the age groups while looking for similarities/differences and offering reasons for the findings.

[@tomdowding2075]

Hey.. I've watched a bunch of your videos - this one was super intereseting! You're awesome - thanks for doing what you do :)

[@sensorrow]

I think it is very great to have a group discussion because it helps relieve the fact that not all women is all one womon. Everyone has their personal opinions on their life partners, but this is helpful to influence common likes. As a single 32 year old, I so wish for you to keep it going lol. What about a guy who drives or does not? Someone who cuddles or keeps their distance?

[@sensorrow]

Maybe I'm not sure what telegraph is but I don't think I have it lol.

[@Pikawarps]

@@sensorrow spam bot, just ignore them

[@sensorrow]

@@Pikawarps thanks for the tip. 👍

[@Wonderwoman79G]

A man who cuddles shows his feelings.Women love this.A guy who is distant is a turn off for most women.

[@mickolesmana5899]

i like it when they "bend" and make assumptions about why the 9 is currently living with their parents.