Why are gay men so mean? HERE'S WHY! (A Sequel)

[@selispeks]

This video is LITERALLY about gay men treating other gay men like crap, yet over half of the comments thus far are hate comments. I think y'all are gettin' triggered lol You're doing EXACTLY WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT and saying we SHOULD NOT DO!!! The ignorance of humankind will never fail to astound me. I just cannot believe how willfully stupid and cruel people are. It will never make sense to me. If you have critiques please be kind. I will actually listen to you if you're kind lol

[@marcelmercure]

The author makes good points but the videi is impossible to watch. A lot of distractions could be edited out.

[@skyark162]

​@@marcelmercure I can understand your point about the flow of the video, but as someone who has adhd I feel at home x'D In the end it somewhat boils down to personal preference, I like to follow someones thought process propably because it ends up beeing a little more long winded, which gives me the opportunity to stomach the points, while denser information needs to have my full attention, which I rarelly have at my disposal.

[@GullibleTarget]

​@@skyark162I KNEW it! You obviously can't diagnose someone by a video but i noticed the traits😂😂😂 I have ADHD too and my mind does not shut down! It would be a lot better for adhd people and other Neurodiverse people if everybody in the world decided to put an effort into being kind and honest.😅Instead of living by he societal expectations of a subculture. I have never fitted in, anywhere. Being gay, I feel it worse because I dont fit in with the so called gay community) Not because it's so bad; it can be a lot of fun! It just that it's another groupsetting with it's own rules and societal norms. I am sharp of tongue when I need to be but most of the time, I feel so out of place within the community. It can be very clique-y. And people tend to follow certain traits and customs. Like being 'shady' and 'mean' for fun. What if you dont like that? Everybody ends up sounding and behaving the same. I try to fit in but then get bored with all the pretentiousness and fakery. And then i feel bad for being judgmental towards peopie having fun. I like to make real connections with people. But people are not 'real' most of the time. And I'm too tired to try and join in. Solitude sucks but it is better than that feeling of being an outsider.

[@skyark162]

@@GullibleTarget Finding good/the right people is propably one of the hardest things in life. I can't really talk about the gay community since I am only an onlooker on the Internet, but I am quite happy that the people I am close to are very open and accepting... still I would wish to find some friends who also share those parts of my personality/life with me - it's not a necessity, but would enhance living. Well for that I would need to talk to more people, a daunting task. I wish us the best of luck to find nice people to hang out with and enjoy life, but please don't bend yourself for it - stay true to your morals and reasonning (if they don't have good arguments to convince you otherwise). (>^ω^)/

[@arabastra12]

That's something which never crossed my mind - the extent to which gay folk really are never fully safe... having the "opportunity" to experience hate from people of every nationality/religion equally. Even designated queer spaces are often so full of bullying and drama that they feel anything but loving and safe. A few years back there was this article on the HuffPost on "The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness" (focussing on gay men) - I thought it was very insightful. Thank you for making this fun despite the difficult topic!

[@GullibleTarget]

It's never safe. Not at work, not on the street,not with family and not with the community. So I am alone. I want to get a dog.

[@mjbaz1]

I cannot agree with all of your points. I am 59 yrs old and I have come across some very toxic gays. Really cruel and vicious, and I thought that it was me, somehow bringing it on myself. It took me a very long time, several decades in fact, for me to realize that many of the hostile people I dealt with were in fact drunk or high. I am very square, I never partied that way, and I didn't recognize it when I saw it. I stopped being on the receiving end of this treatment to my face when I would not accept it anymore. It didn't help that I was fat. I continue to see cattiness and ostracism. Part of the problem is gay men tend to socialize with people they see as equals, sexually speaking. Hot guys will rarely hang out with fat and ugly dudes. I think the reason is when you hang out with gay men, they often come on to you. And if they would never hook up with you, they probably won't hang around you. You are anti-religion, so you probably won't agree with me, but I think it is a problem of the soul. I treat people with respect, and if they aren't having it, I steer clear of such people. Cattiness makes the perpetrator a horrible person, and injures the spirit of our gay brothers. It helps to have a spiritual outlook where you respect others and do them no harm. You don't owe people you are not attracted to a roll in the hay, but kindness and respect until you know they won't have it, then you walk away.

[@selispeks]

I agree with all of your points, so that's funny 😂 and I'm anti-religion, I never said I don't believe in God! Lol I have a very strong relationship with my higher power, and I agree. I think people will be surprised to find they will reap what they sow when this is all over!

[@mjbaz1]

@@selispeks It occurred to me that I should spell something out. I have seen more than one video on this subject, and it seemed to me that in explaining the problem, the presenter came up with excuses for vile behavior.(we're all victims and that's the cause) You may be broken, but that does not excuse you for bullying and abusing others. Maybe when we see someone being vicious, we tell them off? "Grade school was a long time ago and I grew up since then maybe you should too".

[@newworldlove7031]

I have always felt there is no community within the alphabet soup group. The hate and judgment I have received as an open gay non masculine, non gym fit man has been far worse from gay men. Most of my friends are straight people as they judge me far less than some gay people do!! Being a nice person and not a cunt is a choice. Blaming trama for being mean does get over used at times, but yes us gay men have received a hugh amount of negativity from parents and heterosexual society. Healing the wounded inner child and doing shadow work is essential.

[@selispeks]

Amen! I couldn't have said it better myself haha

[@michaelmiller1215]

I will pet all of my cats. My mother hated me when she found out was gay in my twenties. She died of cancer. And I always had in the back of my head “Maybe God wouldn’t had let this happen to you if you hadn’t been so mean to me.” I know-that’s wrong. And I tend to ramble too. I thought I finally had a boyfriend in my mid-30s, but he turned out to be EVERYONE’S boyfriend; in 1999, he shot and killed the guy he was seeing, wounded that guy’s roommate, and then shot and killed himself. I have moved on from that, but now I’m 64, have just had a second knee surgery, am trying to prepare to ready myself as a seasonal tax preparer, and just make it from day to day…

[@selispeks]

Holy balls! I felt bad hearting this, but I did because I love how honest and vulnerable your comment was. You're still chuggin' along, man, and I love it! It's inspirational even if you're not where you want to be. Heck, a lot of us didn't even think we'd make it this far!

[@freddyjafar1490]

So with you on thinking you've finally met someone only to realize he's also for the streets.

[@AZyzk]

Oh God, that's s lot! Hope you're doing great now ❤

[@davidgarrett9711]

I joined a Jewish congregation in August. I so enjoyed every service and the holidays until two "A" gays started coming to shabbat. They both have gone out of their way to be rude and passive aggressive. This has broken my heart. I will still attend services until im finally driven out. Thanks so much for your blog. Sincerely from a "D" gay .

[@RadicallyGreen]

Isn't the Torah the OG homophobic book ?

[@rockybalboa4593]

Do you have a way to reach you? I’m literally drinking while watching this right now and resonate so much with all you say. I’d really love to chat sometime.

[@gustavofilippi8116]

I never comment but your video called me somehow. It makes sense that we develop ways to defend ourselves and have a safe existence. But I feel like it's important to remind that when we suffer from something, maybe we are more able to empathize when seeing someone in suffering. Acknowledging what bad things you went through is a good way to choose how not to be mean. But it isn't always an easy choice. Ps: in Brazil, when someone or something is bad, we call it scrotum 😂 Sorry if bad English.

[@selispeks]

I completely agree! The first video I talked a lot about how we should be more empathetic, it just makes more sense! And your English seems perfect, I would never have known you weren't from an English speaking country if you hadn't said anything haha Also, you're fucking beautiful, just thought you should know 😅

[@MichaelDG2023]

You made me cry. Wasn’t expecting it to hit me like this

[@selispeks]

Aw 😭 I didn't know it would hit anyone like this!

[@poethammer]

I remember reading “The Velvet Rage” almost 20 years ago. It is such an important study of the psychological and emotional challenges faced by gay men growing up in a predominantly heterosexual and often prejudiced society. The book delves into how shame, stemming from societal rejection and familial expectations, profoundly shapes their identities and behaviors. It offers a framework for understanding and overcoming this shame to lead more authentic and fulfilling lives. I love that this book continues to help us build resilience through self-compassion, meaningful connections, and authentic living.

[@herrgoldmann2562]

I am gay, 60 years old and have met hundreds of gay men from several European countries. Some of them I liked more, others less. Most of them weren´t interested in me and I also wasn´t interested in them....but none of them I would describe as mean.On the contrary, they were generally nicer and friendlier than straight people.

[@Accesserised]

Oh the gays *can be just as mean* if not worse. The only difference is straight people tend to be more upfront about it ^^

[@joelkaye3637]

Dude I literally feel the same, there’s no place for me in the gay community. I am bubbly, have a strong personality but i always respectfully treat everyone equal and when voicing my opinions. Gay guys will at first be flirty and welcoming until i start socializing with others they like or dislike. When I end up running into the same crowd again they are caddy, give double handed compliments and always throwing shade. I feel like my experience is if they can’t possess or have me to themselves then I’m enemy number 1. 🙄😂It’s not as annoying nowadays cause I’ve distance myself from those group people years ago however, I still run across people like that occasionally and it still irks me at times. Especially if I’m interested into one of their “friends” but they’re too influenced or don’t want to speak to me because of fear of rejection by the group. Thank you for the video, it’s refreshing to know we’re becoming more aware and you’re able independently talk about the truth openly ❤

[@istvanpraha]

So much to say. For example, we're in this huge cost of living and inflation crisis but every gay is like "doesn't impact me, I'm greeeeaaat." Like, really? Being gay just magically makes you awesome and rich? OK there Jake...there is always this added layer of competitiveness that doesn't need to be there.

[@selispeks]

I haven't had that specific experience, but I fully freakin understand. Yes. Exactly.

[@gjhartist3685]

would not be surprised if in a few years there will be a recognizable right leaning libertarian movement in southern USA comprised by gay men and women. As in i know more than a few gay people like this and I'm kinda weirded out by the coincidences.

[@selispeks]

@@gjhartist3685 I actually have met many many gay libertarians in the south! I am not one, nor do I tend to agree with them, but I sure like them better than the conservative gay men who vote republican! WHAT?! lol

[@istvanpraha]

I'm from a one-party state (NY) and our politicians tend to be low information and sort of insane. Spend enough years actually following what they do and say and not just the nice slogans they put out - you WILL vote republican just so you don't vote for these horrible people@@selispeks

[@selispeks]

@@istvanpraha I would never vote for someone who actively takes away human rights, makes saying "gay" a fireable offense, takes away women's rights, bans & burns books, supports Nazis and fascists, etc. I know the NY government sucks (it's why I didn't move up there like I'd planned a few years ago), but supporting Fascists and Nazis should be a crime, and I would lay down my life before I would vote for an anti-democratic, racist, misogynistic, homophobic, transphobic--I could keep going--sociopath who's only in it for money, glory, power and CONTROL. Grassroots, liberal independents who don't take PAC money or corporate/lobbyist money are the way to go, we just need more of them!

[@MFYouTube683]

I have been YEARNING for the discussions in your comment section! 😭❤

[@selispeks]

OMG YES! So many great discussions!! The other video has some really cool ones too!

[@a7c777]

Im a Christian now but i grew up atheist and shared a lot of sensibilities against religion. I love your production and i think this was a REALLY insightful video, but I also just want to apologize on behalf of Christians for any harm they may have caused you or others here in the name of religion. But those who use Christianity to hurl insults, or claim you are a disappointment for liking the same sex, or kick people out of their families, or use their ignorant preconceptions of a people they know nothing about to hurt them are not behaving like Christians. Our bible does tell us to share what a sin is yes, but we are not permitted to condemn people to hell because that in itself is a sin. And we are called to be gentle in our religion. Christians don’t change minds, neither does shock therapy, we’re only called to represent our beliefs the best we can and work on ourselves every day. But were all humans so naturally culture and ignorance can sometimes keep us so stupid that we don’t uphold that and hurt people in the process. I think you’re a bright, funny, and talented individual and im sorry that people have used Christianity to hurt you. I do not think you are evil, and the love you have for your dogs, and the love you have to remind people of the LGBT+ community about behaviors that can cause destruction of relationships I think shows how capable of love you are which I think a true Christian should take into account before sinfully using hypocrisy to make you or other members of of the LGBT+ community feel lesser than. Even though I’m a Christian I still have my own sin that makes me no better than a non-Christian or a member of the LGBT+ community so Christians behaving like they are perfect and you are not, have no idea what theyre talking about and probably forgot to read their own book. I have love for you and others that are going through it. I genuinely wish you and others navigating through this hectic world a long, peaceful, and happy life.

[@gj4650]

I can relate to u and ur struggles and im a black person who is attached to the alphabet community. Its amazing how both the minority alphabet community and white alphabet community have similar issues.

[@FriendofDorothy]

The era of gay men playing victims is over. Most people (in America) other than religious hypocrites and self-hating male closet cases are "okay-ish" with gays nowadays. I was abused by my mother as a kid and neglected by my father, then suffered through 8 years of bullying in school (during which I never once seriously considered suicide, and this was bullying in person, not online). I never talked to my parents about it as I felt they would blame me for the bullying. My point is this: if we begin to take self-responsibility for our reactions to all of this crap past and present we will be less mean and have less need to lash out at other gays as much. I think your content is great but your presentation needs work; I will continue watching anyway. The hand gestures are distracting from your content. Leave the beer out please as many people already believe we gay men are drunks and practically live in bars so why reinforce stereotypes? Maybe focus on your delivery, avoid tangential asides, and calm your limbs. You are doing good work, dear, but the truth-tellers will always get fire in return as we are a community that fancies itself ever fabulous bit never fallible.

[@tula1433]

I agree. Gays are more accepted now then ever. Zero reason for a gay man born after the 90s/2000s to play victim or blame society. The gay scene fails because gays don’t want to assimilate and do all of the same things that make other people happy like marriage and kids. Some do, but lots of gays live the same lifestyle that gays were living pre gay marriage. The partying and drugs and self loathing is an issue. Gays need to accept themselves then they can accept someone like themselves. I’ve read that gay men will pull away when they realize their partner has the same “deficiency” that they see in themselves, and it explains why so many gays won’t settle down. They are all passing each other around looking for an opposite that shows none of the same traits that they loathe in themselves.

[@ryanwardcomedy]

I'm not gunna lie...I am crushing on u so hard...looks and then personality...ur a catch dude and I relate

[@selispeks]

LOLOL thanks 🤣 get to know me for a few months and you'll change your mind 😂 I appreciate ya haha

[@ryanwardcomedy]

@selispeks gladly haha u on insta? I only hav it for my drag account

[@FriendofDorothy]

This is not Adam4Adan or Grindr, is it? Making flirtatious comments on FB or other non-sexual social media platforms is so cringe....

[@ryanwardcomedy]

@FriendofDorothy no man...telling someone they're cute can make someone's day... if ur cringing at that then that's on u

[@gjhartist3685]

I agree with basically everything you said. The reason so many non-straight non cis people are fucked up emotionally is due to being bombarded by negative stereotypes. In some cases before they even realize that they are not like their peers. I was never very involved with the "Club scene" or "grindr scene," but even i noticed lots of broken men having their wounds opened and reopened again for no real reason. the drug use is definitely a big part in all of this. I unintentionally entered a relationship with a man who in retrospect was definitely using meth, and also probably a drug mule. I didn't think he was a bad person but also how could i have a normal relationship with somebody like that? Led to a lot of trouble and i basically have stepped away from having relations with men. Don't know when I'll try again but i definitely feel like I won't be able to for a long time. I don't have any big answers for saving the LGBT movement, but I reckon being compassionate for our fellow's struggles, while also being strong examples to humanize the "gay experience" to normies is a start. Thanks for the vid!

[@selispeks]

Thanks for the comment! I definitely understand why you stepped back! I'm just now starting to dip my toes back in after a couple years lol and a couple years ago I was just dipping my toe in again after 3 🤣

[@eaglecandy]

What a great message! We all need to reflect on why behave the way we do, It is so important to love ourselves. You are vulnerable and brave to express yourself with this important message. Thank you!

[@selispeks]

AW that's so freaking sweet of you! Kind people like you, and people who are hurting & lost who are seeking the light are why I make these types of videos. I'm so glad it resonated with you!!

[@garyg6000]

You are fun to listen to. I don't like "queer" either. That was a big slur when I was growing up.

[@cybergriz]

real talk im usually so impatient with video tangents but these were just so much fun it felt like we were having coffee. more awesome points here.

[@jonasalden29201]

Okay in this video, you're all over the place but I can follow! I've subscribed and gonna watch some other videos of yours. Good energy and worthwhile topics for videos. Definitely not for the frivolous. Thanks, man.

[@w.urlitzer1869]

you're like Ellen when you shout at your cats: "Be Nice!"

[@QuiqueAF]

I have noticed women nowadays are more supportive of each other, when we all heard “women competed a lot between themselves”. I think we should too learn from this, I hardly had seen gays supporting each other when there is no sexual interest inbetween. Generally diversity has won some terrain in human rights today (theres still a lot to do however) we should evolve with this too in some way I think. I love many of my gay acquaintances and friends.

[@Nathan-j2p]

so you are justifying how gay men are pricks to each other and others for no reason? I'm gay and grew up being told all the negative stuff and I still choose kindness over being mean. The excuses suck. Getting random messages on grindr the first day I walked into a gym to tell me "you don't belong here" and "kill yourself fatso" (and I"m not even that fat) is not right, and I can't excuse their bad and toxic/horrible behaviour because it makes them feel so much better to put others down and screw with their mental health. No sympathy, and no excuse.

[@selispeks]

When reasoning becomes justification it's a fine line. At no point did I justify anything. You should probably watch the other video before just deciding who I am and what I stand for. And if that's how you treat strangers no wonder people are rude to you on Grindr. What a jerk.

[@nate_oz_83]

There we go! Taking a comment and going crazy with it. That’s LGBTQ+ behaviour, not a sane, level headed gay man. My point stands, and you’re a bigot who is just as bad as the people you are excusing. Wanker. Explains the lack of views and followers too I guess. Keep up the extreme lies and make sure you feel better, shame you weren’t bullied into submission as a kid, you might know the definition of compassion, idiot.

[@cosmictraveler1146]

I love the mini interruptions from the pets lmao, will edit after watching the video fully

[@eltooyo2]

This is honestly NOT meant to be derogatory, but your roller-coaster ride of circuitous digressions; yelling at your pets;, quick, seemingly unrelated asides; loud burps; schvitzing; etc. is SO much more entertaining than the subject matter you've chosen that it kept listening for the length of the entire video. Very enjoyable.

[@selispeks]

LOL why thank you 😂 my mind is chaotic and all over the place lol

[@themonsterwithin4000]

Had a totally opposite experience

[@seekerhonest]

Thanks for stating this!! Unfortunately some christians or muslims have the feeling they should "save" homosexuals by putting their man-made morals on gays. This is not only wrong , its harmful. I hope for every gay and lesbian that they find a loving and respecting same-sex partner, connect, maybe marry and maybe raise kids in responsibility.

[@FernandoLuna18]

great video, I actuallt felt as If I was there with you having a good time while we talked and got a good beer

[@derekrivera8567]

What you describe about being in fight or flight mode because of the trauma is so real (both my parents were conservative super Christian and used all the belts hangers and slaps and fists), I am in both, I imagine what I would do if someone bigger (I’m 5”3) tried to attack me I think of grounding myself looking for weak spots while going crazy and jumping on the person and going for their eyes balls and practicing my punches. Now I use this mental preparedness for reassuring others that if someone attacks us I will go rabid animal on them lol. But yes it’s sad when our community can be sooooo judgemental when we ourselves should treat others how we would want to be treated and go from there. If you need to defend yourself then do it but don’t be in defense mode all the time the stress is not worth it lol.

[@jdstar09]

Omg are you in Kansas??? Is that why your name ends in KS?? I am in Kansas! Wichita, to be exact. Love this video! It’s so honest! I’m working on myself personally. I’m not a mean gay. I can proudly say that. 😊❤

[@selispeks]

LOL no I am not in Kansas 😂 I'm glad ya liked the video 😊

[@KoalaBeer.]

Well happens to many ppl way I see it …. Just be you

[@ryanwardcomedy]

My copy of Velvet Rage just came

[@Muhluri]

This video is too chaotic lol

[@akrenwinkle]

I think amphetamines is a factor. The flapping arms and hands. 08:28 When he said he had no idea what he was talking about, that's a clue, also.

[@poodtang2104]

For me it's a fight or flight response. If being an A hole kept me alive then so be it. It was better than the alternative.

[@johnrichardpagan8898]

I hope you got into psychology to look at yourself, gay trauma, and the gay community. You have potential. And again, I am in agreement with you I think. ❤😊 stay true to you.

[@johnrichardpagan8898]

P.S. I loved “Velvet Rage”. Recommended to me while I was in my clinical psychology program. Now I was not “pretty” as and adult, and I have never really was a party animal. I don’t like clicks and did not want to be part of one. I am also attracted to younger guys and guys my own age but as I do not fall into a pretty or muscular or bear like body etc. I just got turned down all the time. Today, I am 59, single, and living with dementia. I long for intimacy but gay men assume I mean sex. Not necessarily. I will say to breathe, drink a little less, talk to your doctor about ADHD and recognize that those in the psychology field often start with wanting to understand their own challenges.

[@Katnip452]

Thoughtful discussion. Approve.

[@mikiewifnoe360]

This is the first time I have watched your video. Do you usually move your hands and arms so much when you speak? Or are you nervous? By the way, I am not trying to be mean; I am just curious.

[@gimmelyod]

Informative video. I've been asking similar questions & the group I am taking to task are "religious fundamentalists & evangelicals". And it's fair because I was one of them for a long while. Most of these people do NOT know the Scriptures NOR do they study them carefully (& the Devil really is in the details). And it's the messages so many of them mindlessly spout about sexuality that causes lots of CHILDREN to be destroyed - often right around puberty. A childhood friend put a gun to his head & pulled the trigger. He was 19 & pulling a 3.8 GPA as a pre-med sophomore. It took me over 20 years to figure out why he killed himself. I followed the clues locked up in a series of memories & other parts of his life I observed. It seems he was deeply closeted & had religious parents who insisted he lead a life that looked like "straight A's". Occam's razor pointed at one loud probability: Prime of life but no relationships. Studies all the time. Cut out leisure time for study. Add a FALSE religious message that accuses your mere right to exist and where does it all lead? Despair - with NOBODY you can trust to talk to. Do you know what the Bible ACTUALLY says about those who push the poisonous message onto kids? Jesus said that those who did such things would be better off if a millstone was put around their neck & then tossed into the sea (than what they had coming when God judges them). Did you also know that the only guy the Bible records going to a burning "Hell" was a rich religious guy who thought he was better than other people by virtue of his birth. It turned out that God doesn't show favoritism after all! More same gender attracted people should look closer into the Scriptures. Because, contrary to what many people say, - the Scriptures are not opposed to same-gender relationships at all! See 2 Sam 1:26 for example. What it actually forbids between people is an act so dangerous & efficient at spreading STDs that every major global health organization has said it's perilous nature has no close second! I've been studying this stuff for a long while & it feels quite awesome to use the Bible itself to destroy the life destroying messages of bigots who put lies in God's mouth. I.E:" Evangelicals: Have you been fit for your millstone yet? "Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to stumble, it would be better for him that a huge millstone should be hung around his neck," - Yeshua/Jesus If you've observed that the "Gay" community seems to have a disproportionately high number of narcissists compared with the population in general - you're correct. This is one of the reasons why the "gay community" is so incorrigible & unrepentant of self-destructive behaviors - even when confronted with facts by their "own" regarding it. If you ask most psychologists what conditions turn children into narcissists, these professionals will tell you (2) things: 1) Sending the message that LOVE is CONDITIONAL - dependent upon meeting certain parameters. 2) Sending the message that some character traits are so horrible that to personally acknowledge them is worse than death. BOTH, the political & religious reicht send these messages loudly & often - hammering youth into so many of the narcissists that become the unrepentant shills for the "gay" community. That's the case. People who claim to be "righteous" actually create the most unrighteous people that society must suffer out of their own children! Repeatedly telling children that loving the "wrong" gender is evil" destroys the psyche of these children as they enter puberty & discover their own same-sex attractions! (Righteous people are diligent enough to explain that certain actions that imperil other people are the actual evil the Scriptures warn against. ) The self-crowning traits of a narcissist & most other severe personality disorders are: a completely selfish attitude & total lack of empathy. "Spirit gives birth to spirit."...Indeed! The wind dry of empathy from the parents becomes the whirlwind of antisocial personality disorders manifested in their children! Having children that are open to the charge of being wild & disobedient (lawless) will disqualify a parent from the position of an overseer according to the Scripture. If you want to know what the penalty is for producing narcissists & sociopaths ... you may want to sit down before reading: “Then the Lord said to Samuel, ‘Behold, I am about to do a thing in Israel at which the two ears of everyone who hears it will tingle. On that day I will fulfill against Eli all that I have spoken concerning his house, from beginning to end. And I declare to him that I am about to punish his house forever, for the iniquity that he knew, because his sons were blaspheming God, and he did not restrain them. Therefore I swear to the house of Eli that the iniquity of Eli’s house shall not be atoned for by sacrifice or offering forever’” (1Samuel 3:11-14). According to the Torah, a millstone may not be taken as collateral for a debt. Jesus's use of the millstone in his rebuke implies that the sin is so grievous that it destroys entire families & cannot be atoned for! The curse on Eli's entire house is an example!" Want to know more? Smash my icon.

[@richardjones6475]

Abuse on Gay Apps is sad, all Text and no squirt.

[@AZyzk]

I really don't like the word "queer". Makes no sense to me.

Get well. You are brilliant.

[@selispeks]

LOL I love this comment too much, idk if I'm mad or dying laughing lol

[@mikawaii_og]

That bit of you saying how non white ppl being prejudiced got me haha, there is no reason to separate how ppl discriminate. It is always amusing to see ppl not know how all races are capable of being heinous as they are great. Following that w associating camping as a "masculine" thing and then going on to roasting men for it, but immediately praising the women you know to like it, is also predictable. You are right when you said you aren't perfect. But that's a given.

[@selispeks]

I may not have shared enough context, but the prejudice thing is a reference to many people of color stating that they cannot be racist because they aren't white. I know not everyone keeps up with that stuff, so you might not be familiar, but I've seen it dozens of times. The camping thing is also a reference to how many gay men hate on effeminate men for not being "masculine." I've literally been told at least 10 times now that if I can't take a man camping then I'm not a man. Irony, I love camping. See what I'm sayin'? Maybe instead of being rude--in a video that is LITERALLY about how gay people should stop being rude to other gay people--you could share your perspective with kindness. Sounds like I didn't share enough context here, and you didn't share enough kindness. Hey, at least the video found the right audience LOL I made it for people like you! :)

[@mikawaii_og]

@@selispeks Am I rude bc you didn't like what I said? And since this video is mean gay ppl then its not targeted for me bc im not gay. You sound a lot like the typical ignorant North American. (Maybe I should have said tho earlier) You said that it is "usually" white ppl that are racist and went on to say non white ppl can be just as racist. Now that's true- what I found ignorant of you to say is, if you have seen it many times from non white ppl why even separate "white ppl racist" and "non white ppl racist". Then you also said you don't much "feminine" things and much "masculine" things, putting camping in the "masculine" category, then most ppl you know that like camping are women, bc "men are pussies", w pussy being an insult. I do not get it. Are you insulting masculinity until it is females doing masculine things?

[@mikawaii_og]

@@selispeks I am just genuinely puzzled at the way you describe things.

[@selispeks]

@@mikawaii_og I ramble and get off topic. My videos aren't scripted. Well, not anymore anyway. If you don't like it, guess what? You don't have to watch my content. I know that's a WILD idea, but I have no desire for rude, passive aggressive, fake gays to be anywhere near my page. It's so easy to not post rude comments. Literally the easiest thing is to do nothing. So, please do nothing lol byyyeeee

[@mikawaii_og]

@@selispeks You wont address anything I mentioned in my previous comment then? Ok, I guess you decide to take an L on that. Don't think its of any use taking srsly the word of someone like you.

[@hickorysocks2628]

Wow you’re so handsome with your natural hair color

[@samuelbabajee4696]

I just want to say that some gay men perfectly know that and are mean anyway because it is the only strategy they found to renarcissize themselves. We often see internalized homophobia as an external force but you choose to do it on purpose. Thats the whole topic actually

[@shitsugane]

Something about you is very attractive Both how you look And how you are I think you can be serious about commitment

[@candor_xo]

only you can let people hurt you, learn switch off! its not your toxicity to take on! you will find its just lashing out, ps take accountability to your own behaviour

[@ashleybellofsydney]

The problem you're trying to articulate is the company you keep, not the gay community.

[@LAB504NEWORLEANS]

I used to try to make the bar gays my friends. I now find a better specifically gay men crowd within nonprofits and spiritual groups. The bar queens are just that.

[@alextapia2107]

😂😂 🐈 2:14 🐈 😂😂

[@rkozakand]

You need to write a script and edit. I'm sure you make some good points, but the rambling, extraneous off topic comments etc. drove me away after 5 minutes.

[@shaunmac6851]

Whenever a gay man complains about this subject (which is frequently), you just wonder if they've ever heard a group of straight men talking to each other. Banter is just how men interact, and with gay men the catty banter is a lot softer than it is with straight men, and much rarer... and without the threat of violence. Instead of expecting men to conform to your sensitivity, maybe just hang around with women instead.

[@DS_P8]

Agreeing with the underlying premise of cruelty in the gay community. That said, making things for public consumption requires a certain level of "professionalism"... making an effort in your presentation (what's up with the laundry on the back of the chair?), yelling/cursing at your cats (maybe put them in another room when you're shooting the video?) and burping? Nobody wants to hear/see that. Gay cruelty is real, being gross is a choice.

[@BatchelderPatrick]

Strangest video I've ever stopped watching 😲😲😲😲😲😲

[@melvonjohnson5711]

I understand that gay men been through hell but why take out your frustrations out on other gay people instead of the people who did you wrong.

[@Tragic.Kingdom]

Can u get straight to the point

[@selispeks]

This killed me 😂🤣😅 unfortunately, no I cannot 🤣

[@kloatlanta]

I’m going to sound “mean,” but you talk w your hands a heckuva lot.

[@selispeks]

And...?

[@DSR299]

You "chatter" too much. Get to the point...Thanks.

[@selispeks]

Yes I do, and you're a c*nt, but we don't all have to point out each other's flaws so hatefully, now do we?

[@DSR299]

I was wondering if my comment would irk you. I debated about writing it. Don't take it seriously.@@selispeks

[@VictoriousVictorian]

My brother in T-Swift, the amount of stuff you could have edited out of this video to keep this video to the point... I think it's important to remember to respect people's time.

[@JamieRogersSites]

you saying this is like walking up to a stranger, telling them they talk too much, and then insisting they are disrespecting YOU. bestie you have no obligation to watch, if you don’t like it then you’re wasting your OWN time. wild!

[@selispeks]

​@@JamieRogersSitesI love you lol

[@selispeks]

Don't watch my content. Also, I don't care for "T-Swift" lol

[@MFYouTube683]

@@selispeks❤

[@Michelasdissapointmentandanger]

this video is such a mass and you are a pure chaos, no wonder your youtube channel did not take off

[@selispeks]

You're such a *×$? no wonder your mother didn't @*0^# 🤔