The Immature vs Mature Feminine

[@Aspartame69]

I notice that as my workplace becomes more accommodating to women, it becomes more like a primary school.

[@illegalsmirf]

LOL and then when it becomes majority non-white it will start to become like a cotton plantation

[@Planeet-Long]

Historically women weren't this coddled and if you've talked to much older women they'd be disgusted by this too. The issue is that we've had women in arrested development defining what "being feminine" is for far too long, we're not allowed to teach daughters hardship. Just notice the discussions about female athletes being pushed since they were children while this is way more common with male athletes, nobody cares.

[@ytube777-n2i]

Correct. I am treated like a child in my workplace. Mandatory DEI workshops are insufferable.

[@anotherfreediver3639]

The case of the failed women-only workplace experiment Erin described was particularly striking. The odd thing is that men-only workplaces, of which there have been thousands in the past, seem to have worked fine, as do many (not all) mixed workplaces like the one I work in.

[@Nobilangelo]

Women now dominate public bureaucracies, and they have become more and more dominatrices. Corrupt with the lust for petty power.

[@Lengstrom]

They're spoiled When you get what you want all the time, and are allowed to blame all your failures on someone else or society, there's no need to grow up. You can be a child forever

[@ouch9326]

how you think they do better at school , a obviously non efficient system if you assume its about meritocracy

[@SeemsLogical]

Puer Aeternus

[@mixerD1-]

Starts with the spoiling fathers...

[@rxklastz1770]

but remember, your a child and immature but the moment something financially serious comes up or you're physically in danger, all of a sudden, a woman will need a man.

[@1OnlyGot7]

@@mixerD1-Or absent

[@Hail_To_The_King]

_'Woman and children can afford to be careless, men can not'_ - Don Corleone

[@NwoDispatcher]

@@billykilgannon the likelyhood they will reproduce becomes less the more time they waste

[@Hail_To_The_King]

@@billykilgannon Pu-lease there's always someone to bail women out and fix their binds

[@michaeljensen4650]

The idea that adversity is good for people needs to be qualified and carefully considered. The type of adversity spoken of in this video when experienced by someone who is emotionally stable and psychologically mature will produce resilience. However the type of Trauma that leads to psychological immaturity (arrested development) is relational and happens very early in life starting at infancy. This type of trauma is persistent and pervasive. It continues into young adulthood until the individual can break free from their abusers. It is not a singular event but a chronic atmosphere of fear, rejection, humiliation, torture, physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, or objectification. It is the systemic destruction of a child’s sense of self, safety and reality. When children are abused, neglected or exploited by their parents it is a type of trauma that alters their developmental trajectory. Many people never recover and suffer with life long incurable psychological disorders such as NPD, BPD, HPD, and ASPD. Torturing children doesn’t make them stronger people it makes them crazy.

[@michaeljensen4650]

This is the danger of listening to people who are not psychiatrists or psychologists and do not have any education or formal training in developmental psychology and trauma. You get bad advice. Resilience, empathy and emotional self-regulation are learned in early in life. These are traits which are modeled by good enough parents. Good enough parents don’t abuse or exploit their children and facilitate the emergence of the child’s developing self. They do not interfere consciously or unconsciously in the healthy progression of their child’s psychological development. This allows the child to learn from loss, difficulty, disappointment and frustration. They develop empathy and resilience. If a child is traumatized and emotionally dysregulated it will interfere with their ability to learn from their mistakes and losses. If the adults around them do not model healthy behavior then they have no template or example to draw from.

[@georgegreen711]

Then we must create a world in which women cannot be careless either, and indeed, they should not be in the first place, even though it is we men who protect them from the most vile/disturbing/worrying aspects of reality!

[@Mr-S.C.]

If you've ever worked with them.. you know that they really don't grow up. Sadly, companies are hell bent on getting them into management!

[@checkmattee222]

If males are so grown and deserve positions of leadership, why is the world in shambles?

[@tjvista8177]

It won't be surprising if companies lose money, credibility, and their businesses due to hiring radical activists. Especially if their 'connections' decide to abandon them out if convenience.

[@ElearningDigest]

Because women are compliant and lack critical thinking. They carry out their orders without question.

[@BlackBoyKingTV]

They'll all be kicked out once SHTF

[@BlackBoyKingTV]

They'll all be kicked out once SHTF

[@chongxina8288]

Women think that if they have a job and a car and a place to live on their own they’re an adult. That’s all there is to maturity when it applies to them. And they’re wrong. Everything to them is surface level.

[@JetShanghai]

This honestly reminds me of my ex. She always acted like everything was so perfect when we dated (I was 21, she was 19.) She was a pastor's granddaughter, homeschooled, and loved to flaunt how "trad" she was. Look at me, I wear nice clothes, make nice food, and I go to the good Christian organizations on campus. I'm smiling so I must be happy! She thought that was all it took to be a "traditional Christian girl." It fell apart the second I tried being a traditional Christian man in the relationship and assert myself.

[@chongxina8288]

@@JetShanghai Standard. 😝

[@schreursalain2968]

To be an adult is to take responsability for your words and actions. I found that more often then not a lot of women do not take any responsability at all, instead they blame it on any other reason (mostly men) if anything has any consequences. Women tend to bring personal issues (what is called 'feelings') onto for example the workfloor. "I feel like my boss isn't treating me right" , anything that starts out with "I feel" tends to become an issue further down the road. Men don't respond, or don't know exactly how to react to them, to the phrases that start with that. If a woman makes a mistake and someone says something about it, she'll respond to how she feels instead of owning up to the mistake. I believe very strongly that a lot of women (mind you, not all) can't take any criticism on their actions or words. And that's how a child responds, immature.

[@chongxina8288]

@@schreursalain2968 💯

[@liublanka3925]

Yeah and have a new guy every night aka the swiftys

[@Keyser666]

I think the prolonged adolescence thing is something both sexes can be readily susceptible to, the key difference though is that this behavior is ridiculed and criticized in men but excused and denied in women. The result is what we see on social media.

[@anonymousanomalous9937]

There's also the fact a good portion of the criticisms toward men is enforcement of the male gender role. We have a culture that fights hard against female gender roles, so women have the availability to not live as women once did. If men try the same, it's called immaturity. He's called a man-child

[@BlueFish-kq9fh]

" *this behavior ... excused and denied in women.* " Not just excused and denied, it is *praised and admired* . Women are routinely called "stunning and brave" for exhibiting cr@ppy behavior.

[@BlackPrimeMinister]

I don't agree with this. "Brat" is facilitated by The Pill, which has permanently arrested motherhood. There's no equivalent for men.

[@tshaolin971]

If men acted like most modern women there would be no society.

[@kenobi4582]

Exactly

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

Most women are children in adult bodies.

[@squidexorcist7564]

So are most men 😮

[@BrianWaller-qe7gr]

@@squidexorcist7564 triggered much?

[@Riven0x]

​@@squidexorcist7564 thanks to single mothers

[@onlignebridge4224]

@@squidexorcist7564 *If most men were childish, we would have NO civilization/inventions/discoveries/mega projects*

[@schreursalain2968]

"Boys will be boys", or "boys and their toys". That's what you often hear. But women are "forgiven" when they act childish or foolish. Then they call it "cute".

[@BusinessandFinance-ym5bk]

The ancient Greeks knew this and articulated it clearly. Women were considered 'forever children ' and thus were not allowed to make major decisions for society. Sad but true. PS - I would like to add that some contemporary cultures, such as Japan, willingly push and promote the female immaturity concept: they call it Kawaii. - where even middle aged women act as cutesy teenagers. It's very weird.

[@Focal_Paradox]

Hence the reason Western societies now feel like they are being governed by very petulant six year old girls.

[@nyahhbinghi]

❤

[@lukasmeza2352]

Yes and now this forever children are ceos and presidents of nations, no wonder the world is going to shit

[@jamesjonnes]

Majority of them don't live for virtue but for vice.

[@mrsvle]

“The oath of a women is inscribed on water” -Sophocles (400 BC)

[@jimmyboy131]

Admitting to yourself that you were wrong at some point, or even that you were "stupid", is a good sign of personal maturity and growth. I don't hear that very often from people. But it's tough to admit to ourselves that we've been that way at times.

[@erinbyrd5377]

@@jimmyboy131 I think it's a process. In the beginning, we don't like to admit that we're stupid, but getting over that hurdle helps you psychologically and emotionally. IMO

[@jimmyboy131]

@@erinbyrd5377 Yep true. And I think what we're talking about, how it's better after you've cleared that hurdle, is that it builds confidence that, yeah I'm an idiot sometimes, but 1) I'm not an idiot all the time, sometimes I do things right, and 2) Even if I screw up, I'll get through this. It's not the end of the world. I can do this. Which itself, that confidence, makes all the difference going forward.

[@indiomoustafa2047]

I dont have a problem with it, I'm 29. Men tend to have these arrogant traits beaten out of them at some point, literally or figuratively. Women are often immune to social pressures regarding "good character"

[@Riven0x]

That level of maturity doesn't mesh well with today's society. In today's world, if you can own up to your mistakes, it feeds their ego and makes them feel bigger than you. It's not about growth, it's about who can out-measure the other.

[@jimmyboy131]

@@Riven0x Fair point but if that's how someone is behaving/thinking, then they're not actually maturing and owning up to their flaws and mistakes. But if someone is real about it then they'll stand out from the posers and frauds.

[@habibtiz4335]

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will rule your life and you will call it fate” Carl Jung

[@alandickie1818]

Great topic. Wounded women raise wounded children, Males particularly are vunerable with their extra aggressive characteristic. The "need to bond to survive" causes the infant to sculpt himself to what she has left available - often very little - with life long adverse personality effects. Every toxic male has one thing in common - a mother. Healthy mature mothers bring up healthy respectful males. If society wants fewer toxic males, healthy mothers play probably a big part.

[@luciusesox1luckysox570]

This is so right. I don't know if you came across this by yourself or read it but it is a phenomenon I have seen manifest itself several times in the real world. I truly think males suffer the most from a single parent family scenario and this is backed up statistically.

[@jrddoubleu514]

Paternal authority raises children out of narcissistic infantility.

[@truthtelleranon]

@@jrddoubleu514bingo. not “mature moms” paternal authority and responsibility

[@jrddoubleu514]

@@truthtelleranon Undermine/remove it, and narcissism is permitted to run rampant.

[@peaknonsense2041]

Not probably. 100% Almost every violent criminal has one thing in common, a single mother home.

[@wilfred309]

The culture that encourages it's women to be nurturing, is going to win.

[@Guillhez]

or rather, nurturing women will foster the culture that will win

[@mixerD1-]

​@@Guillhez No...fathers excessively spoiling their daughters is exactly what causes this immaturity.

[@DarkSpartan343]

Not technically. The culture that leads women to be mothers (by any means) will win. Right now that's... the Taliban.. with their 4.6+ birthrate.

[@hainleysimpson1507]

False. Most of the immature women are from single mother households. Or homes where dad isn't mentally or emotionally present.​@@mixerD1-

[@keiharris332]

​@@Guillhezthe current culture coddles women so much that they stayed infantile and are currently wrecking society here in the west. So you are 100% wrong

[@anotherfreediver3639]

A lot of the immature traits Erin describes are related to neuroticism, and some, like manipulating others and the inability to take criticism, start to look like narcissism. However, recent changes in society, particularly the celebration of individuality above other qualities, and the rise of a popular psychology that medicalises everything, reinforce immature behaviours in our race to embrace diversity. Moreover, the rise of social media, with its relentless focus on appearances above thoughtfulness and other desirable traits, makes it attractive for some women to want to live in perpetual maidenhood - and of course for some men to want to live in perpetual boyhood, chasing the perpetual maidens.

[@SterileNeutrino]

Pinnable comment

[@Scotty_Bo0m]

Sigmund Freud life’s work was about this stuff which is why feminists hated him.

[@NorthwoodsWolf]

Well-spoken and thoughtful comment.

[@E4439Qv5]

​@@Scotty_Bo0mNah, we hated him because he did cocaine and ruined a good Greek tragedy.

[@4SG]

@@Scotty_Bo0m I find that Freud is incomplete without Jung to expand the work - Modern Man in Search of a Soul is what feminists should really hate, but they generally can't understand the implications of the book.

[@johnrodgers2171]

There are so many adult children these days

[@cptfarzkizz8823]

Yup, men and women,but is one side more immature? Maybe,as women are nurtured and men are treated very harshly.

[@mr.e6684]

Ninos de los ninos de los ninos de los ninos…

[@GuacamoleyNacho]

I have many times seen gossipy men , emotional men even more than women!

[@robertharper3114]

​@@GuacamoleyNachoGayyyyy! 😅

[@AG-mm9wn]

@@cptfarzkizz8823I’d say 80-90% women are the adult children population

[@Poncholives]

Woman mature faster in their teens but end up stuck mentally in their teens making them immature for years until man lose interest and now they have to face reality. Unless she keeps being attractive and ends up being a 30+ old lady that acts like a literal brat and no man wants to marry a brat.

[@erinbyrd5377]

@@Poncholives Thats true

[@JoseDiaz-rd9fh]

The older they get the worse it becomes because it's not like they are staying celibate in this culture. The problem of course is that the things men value in women are culturally frowned upon. They expect men to be ok with high body counts because they often won't ask a woman out of fear of being disgusted. When it slips out later that she was wild in college with a triple digit number from a vindictive woman who was her enemy. The whole house of cards comes crashing down. I don't see this problem getting fixed if anything I see it getting worse. All society seems to do is perpetually excuse the bad behavior of women while continually trying to shame men onto the plantation of subservience to women whom cannot hold a candle to the women of previous generations before feminism and social media poisoned the well

[@indiomoustafa2047]

Women sexually mature faster than men, thats all that was ever meant by that until idiot feminists hijacked it.

[@amandlaawethu1538]

Women don't mature fast at any. It's all a lie. Why lie. America has a serious problem. It practice's evil. America practice's anti native Black American hate. Because it practice's such hate towards that group they use a large portion of there own group as collateral damage as to trick the world that they don't practice such hate towards the native Black's. Black American men are absolutely beautiful. They are strong they are vibrant they are special. America knows this so it's waring with them as to have the females not choose BM over WM. Thought history BM have been number 1 up until around the 13th century. I suggest to all women get a man, 1 man & do death do us part with that man & nothing else.

[@city_of_coompton6832]

The age they figure out they can use their sex appeal to manipulate men is the age they stop maturing mentally. Usually. Until they hit the wall.

[@turbanheadless]

Funily i have observed that becoming a mother doesnt really make women grow up from maiden mentality

[@roderickcortez138]

Yeah. My ex girlfriend had two kids and she still acted like a 12 year old especially when she hung out with other girls.

[@turbanheadless]

@@roderickcortez138 it is more like their morality makes them do this.

[@millionshadesofdarkness2165]

​@roderickcortez138 i dated a single mother 1 time, for a while, and I noticed the same thing. Worst relationship of my life, nvr again

[@andrij66]

SHE SAID "Pregnancy is required to meet the responsibilities of parenthood..." as in a come to realization/J[]s moment, however she can opt out of growing up if the Responsibility isn't their, like her helicopter parents, daddy government, psycho, etc

[@AliciatheCho]

If they’re self-centered to begin with…

[@Zathren]

The title alone is fascinating considering vvomen love to parrot that "vvomen mature faster than men" never realizing that it's only physically, not mentally.

[@CapibaraWinter]

Depends. I think women mature faster during puberty and adolescence, yet some remain stuck in that state of mind as there is a large sub group that winds up somewhat pampered. For men early adulthood tends to be rough so they mature quickly due to life experience.

[@Hail_To_The_King]

I think the reason they are considered to be more mature is that there's tons of older boys and young men paying them attention and they are elevated socially without having to do anything for it. Also woman are more agreeable, so seem to be fitting in better, whereas boys have a tendency to disagreeableness that female-dominated education doesn't know what to do with

[@mesv3567]

I think woman do actually mature faster in the early stages of life up to 18 y.o, then man start to mature faster while most women get stuck on that phase for almost 10 years. By the age of 25 man have suffered a lot more and realised that nobody will come to save you if you don't do it yourself while most women still think a prince charming will come and save them. By the age of 30 the different in maturity of man vs women is at the highest point, at this stage if a woman has not achieved anything in life she will blame everybody else for her problems (man, the state, God, etc) and if she achieved some goals she will accept her reality and be happy with what life is. Edit: This comment was made before watching the video.

[@mesv3567]

@@CapibaraWinter i just replied to his comment and then i saw your comment, we basically think the same thing about maturity and i think its because its evident, what i wonder is why women still think they are more mature than man by the age of 30 when it's clearly not the case.

[@ericclayton9080]

​@@mesv3567 Because of a fixed mindset that was validated by male attention. The worst of male culture built the very thing that we destroy once women hit the wall... It's almost a set up that men with daughters always make a point of not letting happen to their children.

[@bigbenguitarslinger494]

The extending of the maiden phase has a counterpart in men- it's called,"Peter pan syndrome." Young men are riciculed and condemned for trying to extend adolescence because society depends on men.making the sacrifices of going to work and setting out on one's own. The economic engines of society won't work if young men won't work. Women are often not expected to sacrifice their own hedonism and pleasure seeking,but are quick to blame young men for sitting around playing video games and not engaging society. Society needs to incentivise maturity

[@Scotty_Bo0m]

Nope you are wrong. That’s projection & gaslighting. Generally women call attractive men who won’t commit to them that name! See the trick? There is no such thing as a Peter Pan men. Women on the other hand it’s the majority.

[@checkmattee222]

All I see when reading your comment, "Waah! me, me, me! Poor old me! Why am I the victim all the time!" 😭 🍼

[@bigbenguitarslinger494]

@@checkmattee222 shows how deep of an intellectual you are. I literally pointed out a systemic imbalance. This systemic problem will continue to exist,whether you mock it or not,and will continue to effect women who chase men based on percieved status,while giving excessive selection to a small number of "eligible" men,who get to continue to play Peter pan........ Your real name isn't Wendy, is it????

[@ndhtyu]

Society needs to incentivize maturity IN WOMEN, but good luck in this gynocentric western society. This is the main thing. We, men, mature faster than women due to what you said before.

[@hainleysimpson1507]

So you are too blind and stupid to understand what the person above typed out. You seem the type, based on your comment, to say it's not that deep.​@@checkmattee222

[@NoahLinden]

There's more one can say about this topic. These days, most women are rigid, cold, critical and dismissive, and confuse these qualities with being mature. There are many ways women avoid accountability and intimacy; immaturity and being an ice queen are two of them. There are many, many more.

[@childishpropaganda]

Geez you described my mother & the mother of my child...

[@Jason.Goldstriker]

Too chewy, tough and chewy

[@keylanoslokj1806]

They have no discretion of spirits. And this shows in the men they choose. They take narcissism for confidence etc. So they take their own vices as virtues too..

[@RK-ve4xp]

You described my partner clearly.

[@Riven0x]

@@NoahLinden Most woman in management think being authoritative is being an obnoxious asshole.

[@muaowa]

I appreciate my mom for being so wise while I was growing up. She always tried to do the right thing.

[@getgot3461]

What do u think is the right thing that she did? I'm curious to know ur understanding of the wisdom she showed

[@muaowa]

@@getgot3461 She showed by example how to admit when you’re wrong, always asked and listened to us about our boundaries, and always prioritized teaching us valuable life skills and getting us out and socialized well. Also really pushed us to do better in school. We didn’t have much money early on and I didn’t care because we always had a good time.

[@getgot3461]

@@muaowa I see, thanks for elaborating

[@muaowa]

@@getgot3461 np

[@kabirdas2786]

The Goat is back 🙌

[@michaelfrancis2261]

As a happily married father of 3 girls id like to thank you for speaking the truth. Ill definitely be passing your videos on to my family.

[@RonniV2]

I think i needed this video. I turned 25 this week and literally had the thought "I'm way too immature." Extended adolescence/maidenhood really is something and i unfortunately am a member of said group. I hope my self-awareness will keep me in check now and I can get out of this mental/emotional stunt I've caused myself.

[@iloveputin7274]

Same here

[@venkarri8534]

Women in general are more tactical and short-sighted. Men on the other hand generally tend to be more strategic and long-sighted in their approach. If you can understand this and collaborate, it can work wonders; but if you tear each other down, then obviously it will be a disaster - which is what's happening nowadays.

[@AN-uf5vg]

Meeting a physically fit, mature, polite and loving women at a younger age is practically a fantasy at this stage.

[@bennefib]

Literally telling a woman these days " we can't do X today" starts a slow decent within the relationship if you dont rectify it, its absolute madness

[@teferiuwuraveler1407]

Yep. I was on the last train out of dodge in 2018 but managed to fuck it up with my dream girl. Been single 3 years now since that ended, probably until I travel to poland or somewhere for a shot at a decent partner

[@ZFarley1]

@@teferiuwuraveler1407first get rid of that anime pfp

[@St.IsaacOfSyria]

You did not describe a single thing that did not apply to my mother.

[@turbanheadless]

😢

[@mixerD1-]

Same...

[@Oysters176]

My friend's mother

[@sc18594]

Brother i know exactly how you feel

[@paulbuckle8459]

No comment , my mum is still alive 😮😊

[@tsapenkopolina]

I stumbled upon this video and absolutely LOVED it. You are very good with words. As a woman who got married “early” (at 22) and had a child “early” (at 24), I always struggled with the image of 20-year-olds (females AND males) being fun, outgoing, youthful, and… promiscuous. I felt so inadequate to find love and build a family so “early.” Again, I take this word in quotation marks because this would not be considered early in the generation of my grandmother (who was also highly educated, worked as a doctor, yet created a family with a child by 25). Most of my female friends were going from dates to dates, while I was breastfeeding my first child… it felt so lonely. As if I was somehow a divination.

[@beesmongeese2978]

You were mogging the hell out of them!

[@JetShanghai]

And as you get older, they'll be unable to have a family because nobody wants them.

[@0-kingsloth-020]

That sounds like a beautiful life, im proud of you.

[@getgot3461]

Being fun outgoing and youthful is..bad? Lol what are u even saying? Not everyone wants the same thing, and if ur life feels fulfilling staying at home and breastfeeding then good for u, have at it, other people wanna party and travel the world, what's wrong with that? And 22 is indeed young, it wouldn't be considered too young in other generations because the life expectancy was lower, but perspectives shift according to priority and societal dynamics also shifting. Nowadays it's absolutely too young as the typical 22 year old is barely out of college, broke, looking for a job, just starting their life out, and so many other factors, so why the rush? That just generally wouldn't work well nowadays but if it did for u then good for u

[@lycan2494]

@@getgot3461 lol women should marry early not wait til 30 and cry when no men wants them other than a quick pump and dump

[@blooeagle5118]

I think I can take from this that a core positive trait to look for in a woman is self awareness. Being self aware is a key part of maturity.

[@erinbyrd5377]

@@blooeagle5118 Agree 100%

[@ARM1NIUS]

“A man’s purpose in life is to die with honor. A woman’s purpose in life is to stay alive.”

[@mixerD1-]

Romantic nonsense.

[@ndhtyu]

this is clown shoes

[@danielv4793]

Cool coute

[@Eric-ej3oy]

So when you going bye bye.

[@TurbodanNM]

I appreciate your willingness to challenge contentious subjects. I fear the reactions from the vast majority who clearly don't approach these things at an intellectual level.

[@dowunda]

Melvin Udall played by Jack Nicholson in AS GOOD AS IT GETS “Receptionist: How do you write women so well? Melvin Udall: I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability.”

[@DomSum7]

Finally understood that 3 years ago😭🤣🥴. He’s not wrong 🥴🙃

[@schreursalain2968]

I always think of that when i see video's of women complaining "where are the good men". They're at home thinking about either the Roman Empire or keeping Melvin in mind.

[@mr.simmtheprofessor2919]

Greatest movie line EVER

[@JHAN1212]

All male workspaces are the least toxic you can be in. Minimal interpersonal drama, and everyone intuitively fills roles to be the most efficient they can. Whenever there is any drama, its about men competing to be the best at the task at hand. This is something that women have a hard time comprehending, which is why they often will conjure interpersonal drama at workplaces in the attempt to create an atmosphere of "emotional affirmation", which is something that doesn't register in the mind of a healthy man while at work.

[@shaolinotter]

in my experience, competency and productivity literallly dont occur to women. they see it as cruel to judge people on merit. "nice" people should be promoted even if they are liability. this breeds corruption and a lack of output

[@menarentlogical]

It’s all friendly competition Until a pretty woman shows up, then it turns into a cock fight to see who can last the longest 😂

[@dogwklr]

Women also have no ability to separate work and personal life, they make work a place to incorporate mating and gaining power over men using her pussy instead of just getting things done without attention being the reason for any accomplishment

[@actuallyKriminell]

This why we had seperate hierarchies for most of human civilization

[@GuacamoleyNacho]

I have many times seen gossipy men , emotional men even more than women!

[@MadShenans]

Big WhatIfAltHist fan. I think that’s why YT recommended you. Similar vibes. My wife and I love your work. Great job 👏

[@melkerner]

Too many Women giving sex away for nothing, and denying it to the men who actually do love them.

[@SartorialisticSavage65]

@@melkerner they're holding out on knowing most guys hoping for Chad

[@dollarcostbackpacker1226]

You got to grow up dude... Stop thinking like you got a 40iq.

[@counselorguy5481]

It's a scarcity mentality. The other dude has options, and they wonder if they don't do him now, they never will later, whereas the man that actually likes them will always be there.

[@iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoy]

what is "love" to them if they were encouraged to sacrifice their ability to pair bond?

[@dollarcostbackpacker1226]

@@iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoy love for a women is full obedience to govt. There is nothing else going on in their minds.

[@trailerparkhomestead9937]

The wounded maiden archetype perfectly describes not onpy my own ex, but many of my friends ex's as well. This video also explains why when I analysis my last relationship, recurring thoughts that I've had are that she needed to "grow up" or "act like an adult."

[@checkmattee222]

Why do you have so many exes?

[@parrotshootist3004]

​@@checkmattee222how many of his friends do you think he is?

[@Patson20]

​@checkmattee222 not him buy I also have several, it's mostly because women have gotten very good at masking their true self and will pretend to be whoever you want and then drop the facade after a few months. Like a full on 180 on their core beliefs and personality

[@ac1dfoxdie716]

My same thought about my last . An emotional reck , no self control and feels like she shouldn't have any smh

[@indiomoustafa2047]

Infantalization, simple as. Men contribute to it on an individual basis, society encourages it, the government incentivized it.

[@HAMISHEASTONMACKAYDAWSON]

This is why single women up to their mid-twenties and even into their thirties have cuddly toys and go to Disneyland.

[@inconnu4961]

@@HAMISHEASTONMACKAYDAWSON And wear their pajamas out in public! LOL

[@nukesakuukasekun9050]

I work at a local mickeyd’s as a 2nd “fun-time” income job(pays for the fun things) I’m a service worker and the vibe aggressiveness between the women is off-putting. I’ll be bagging up an order and observe their faces and they have the MEANNNESST faces and are cackling about each other when another messes up. Not that I think it’s sad but tragic!

[@aim-for-greatn3z947]

I would LOVE to site and listen to a 40 min video on why women are immature, unfortunately life showed me the hard way! Its simply better to pay and be done with it!!!

[@aegisreflector2725]

Maturity requires personal accountability, struggle, and humility. In a gynocentroc environment when chivalric practices shield women from risk, consequences, and reality, you'll find an over-representation of toxic personality traits the further you travel down the "victim" latter: entitlement, scapegoating, deception, etc. I recommend Karen Straughan's KZbin videos on neotony and hypoagency.

[@checkmattee222]

Phrases like "boys will be boys" exist implying that males won't be held accountable for anything well because, boys will never stop being boys🤪 but yea totally let's blame women

[@bumpercoach]

Plus the more current KS of Happy Wife School

[@Iquey]

Karen Straughan.. oh great another old woman telling young women what to do.💀

[@aegisreflector2725]

@@Iquey She doesn't tell anyone to do anything. She gives extremely sober takes on our culture collapsing under the weight of its gynocentrism. What young women do is on them, but we won't be lied to or scapegoated.

[@bumpercoach]

@@Iquey she's right More so than any you blindly follow ... Are you age-shaming a woman?

[@tuckersmoak6632]

"after 14yrs old, women become the most responsible child and stay there till they die."

[@socom2173]

"It seems to be a type of culturally reinforced neoteny, I could tell you what it is, but it doesn't like to be named." -Terrance Mckenna

[@MARK-cb9iq]

this immaturity is why women cannot and should not control or manage the affairs of a community. They can be absolute fantastic assistants but having responsibilities on their shoulders is a huge mistake. Ive realised even my mother has these immature, bad decisions, not accountable etc. Raised me with as much extra effort as a gust of wind pushing a leaf.

[@checkmattee222]

But males are better at leading huh? And why is the world in literal shambles if males are so good at managing "the affairs of a community"?🤔

[@Patson20]

Literally the first story in the Bible is about how following women will lead you to ruin

[@dmystfy]

Queen mothers exists

[@MARK-cb9iq]

@@dmystfy ac father can raise a queen. Queen doesn’t get the title on her own. Queens are rare.

[@orangeandslinky]

A women told me that a woman is by default at war with herself. A man cannot fix that. It is best to just leave women totally alone. Women used to teach their daughters how to love their husbands. The love I am talking about is a VERB. A man loves as a noun and a verb by creation. A woman cannot love at all as a noun. A woman lives honestly like a ten year old no matter what age she becomes. She lives by this: "A woman has the RIGHT to change her mind, about anything, at any time, for any reason, as many times as she wants to." The best way to keep a prisoner from escaping is to make sure he never knows he's in prison.

[@checkmattee222]

Who is lying to this kid? 😂 Are you ok? This comment let's me know you've never interacted with women before 😂

[@orangeandslinky]

@@checkmattee222 So you are a woman.

[@orangeandslinky]

@@checkmattee222 Women are lying and teaching this kid.

[@Iquey]

If you are someone who doesn't change your mind about anything, THAT makes you a mental ten year old. This is why I don't come to this part of KZbin.. because you guys are full of absolutist takes that don't make logical sense in the outside world.

[@orangeandslinky]

@@Iquey You don't even know what part of youtube your reading a book from? That is female for sure.

[@yumeaisaka1854]

Women of most ages and backgrounds these days are extremely immature. I remember back in the late 2000s to early 2010s one of the phrases you would always hear in real life and in media were "you can't hit a girl!" Or "She can't do anything wrong because she's a girl" along with Women displaying violence towards Men in media where it would be portrayed as a form of comedy. The lack of accountability in this sense is what has partially lead to what we are seeing today. Overly masculine and competitive modern Women that again refuse to take accountability because most grew up in a society that was fueled by encouragement from media to "let her get away with it because she's a Woman" and cheer on when a Woman does something violent that threatens the safety of a Man and/or another Woman. In conclusion, media is one of the things responsible for modern day influences, societal psychological damage, and stereotypes that have created division and recklessness. Don't even get me started with the reduction of food quality, which I believe has an impact on hormones and one's mental state.

[@dollarcostbackpacker1226]

Borderline personality disorder seems to be their goal in life. At all costs despite upbringing.

[@schreursalain2968]

An man will Insult a woman and she can slap him in the face. A woman insults a man and he doesn't do anything, now who's the more stable and mature one ? I know one thing for sure, i won't insult or hit a woman, but if she slaps me without any provocation she's got another thing coming.

[@quocanhpham8033]

I live in the culture that till 2024 and people still go around and say:"don't hit a girl" even in self-defense. That was crazy.

[@inconnu4961]

@@quocanhpham8033 It IS crazy! Hit ANYONE who is willing to hurt you!

[@TheBigdog868]

I think you're on to something, especially with the food. There are over 80,000 chemicals we are exposed to in modern life. Less than 1% have been adequately tested for effects on humans. And don't get me started on pharmaceuticals 🤦

[@Tepes1980]

Because they've been spoiled since birth. It's a problem of the current culture, because it's become so much worse in the last few decades.

[@roderickcortez138]

Their dads spoil them. Men have helped create the very problem that they suffer from today.

[@mixerD1-]

Saying this for many years...it starts with spoiling fathers, and I sadly, in hindsight, include myself in this.

[@roderickcortez138]

@@mixerD1- Yeah. I chased women in my 20's. Looking back I prolly helped contribute to their narcissism. I wish someone had told me back them not to chase. I would ask for advice back then and people would tell me that I had to be "persistent". It was all just for women's benefit. I'm 46 now and still single.

[@AtticusStount]

Move to or visit a country that has feminine, traditional women; problem solved.

[@tjvista8177]

Not helped by radical feminism and a corrupt government that wanted to exploit women for their twisted agendas.

[@alen2937]

Boy... the tittle of the video. Right to the jugular.

[@themoose70]

We feel blessed that our 21 year-son just got married to a 20 year-old woman. We will miss him, but know that this is what is meant to be and it is good.

[@alexanderbayer8179]

Good for him ,i wish you guys the best!

[@0-kingsloth-020]

Congrats

[@brodyestes2376]

I just want to say Erin. You are probably the most well spoken, conceise speaker I have ever met on this platform. You are so intellectually stimulating in how you speak, I can tell you care deeply about the topics you speak about and are greatly learned in it. I find myself passively listenting to all of your videos, simply basking in the sheer crispness and effectiveness of your speaking. You have a gem of a channel. Bravo.

[@erinbyrd5377]

@@brodyestes2376 Thank you so much 🙏

[@XenoRaptor-98765]

An unquestionable sign of intelligence, and maturity is knowing how to handle difficult situations. Because the world, life ,the universe or whichever you want to call it have no shortage of those.

[@dwayneeutsey8162]

Yet another insightful, well-articulated commentary. Thank you!

[@forthePaternalRole]

Wisdom is the combination of experience, knowledge and good judgement. Most older people have wisdom, they KNOW what to do, and when to do it. That is not the point. The point is to know what to do, when to do it, and DO IT. And that is called maturity.

[@MrColdwilliam]

Ask a 16, 26, 36, and 46 yo wmn about men, love, and money and youll get one answer. Ask the same age range of men and youll get 4-8 different opinions because some have more than one perspective to share.

[@Baconbits16]

They have different answers, but the realization comes too late. The 36 is confused & lonely and the 46 is remorseful.

[@MrColdwilliam]

@@Baconbits16 46 is in the club trying to hang with the 26 and look cool to the 16 outside

[@rustyshackleford2185]

Need to find a women like this Smart, pretty, even keeled , introspective , brave enough to take chances

[@dorkbrandon4422]

Oh good luck with that one

[@rustyshackleford2185]

@@dorkbrandon4422 i know but she proves they do exist ...problem is their probably in a room somewhere reading and writing

[@dorkbrandon4422]

@@rustyshackleford2185 try a knitting club Internet forum

[@marcelo_castellani]

That is what I was about to say but you said a few days ago, AND SHE LIKED IT. I just knew about her channel a few days ago and I am quite surprised because KZbin is programmed to destroy peoples lives, not to turn it better. So, it's unexplainable why KZbin recommended me her video. Rusty, pay attention to this video stats, I do not take them for real but sometimes they give an insight about what's going on. She has 28.000 followers and this video alone recahed 105.000 views. This shows how well she is in the public space, people are seeing her twice, maybe three times. And if we take the only number of subscribers, she has for sure thousands of men who think they love her, romantically speaking, because she is beautiful and her thoughts resonate with most of conservative men. So , Rusty, you have my sympathy. Good luck. . Lady Erin, just in case you had time to read this message, I want to acknowledge your value. You have remarkable attributes and I hope you find in life everything you're looking for. With my deepest gratitude, I wish you all the best.

[@driiifter]

I remember when I was really young, like 6 or 7, whatever, my mom would take me over to all her friends houses, this was early 90s. Something I noticed that always struck me was grown adult women, sometimes in their 50s, whose homes are completely filled with dolls, toys, stuffed animals, um cute miniatures, frogs, ballerinas, ponies, dogs, beanie babies, it was always something "cute". I always wondered about this and the driving force behind it, is it like a genetic thing with women? Something to do with children? Who knows.

[@checkmattee222]

Grown males have toy cars, toy robots, superhero toys, gamer toys, legos they keep in their houses too

[@badfeng]

@@checkmattee222 In both cases I'd say it's a possible indicator of someone not wanting to grow up.

[@AfffS-oz5sd]

Actually a good sign that you’re insecure/immature is caring about whether or not other people approve of your hobbies! Jesus people want to act like all they need to know is 1 thing about someone or their interests and from there you can just extrapolate everything about them. Not every single thing is some big significant indicator of somebodies deep psyche it’s just an easy way to view the world that appeals to people lazy brains. If I chop wood I’m a man and therefore mature! If somebody likes Star Wars they are a child! I get that you said “possible” indicator but it’s literally the same logic people use to go “oh he looked suspicious/like a criminal!”. 90% of assumptions made like this are going to be wrong.

[@emmaverhey8352]

This is just my experience as a woman who does this, but it’s because it connects me with the child part of me that was loved by my parents. They loved and cherished me for just being who I was, never expecting anything from me in return. As an adult, everything always works as an exchange. The little cute things are a reminder that I was and still am worthy of love and it gives me strength to be loving even when I receive nothing in return.

[@GaZonk100]

@@checkmattee222 more 'ironically' though

[@laura44135]

Thank you for your videos! ❤ I've been learning about the concept of four phases of the woman's hero's journey... aligning with the four seasons and four phases of our menstrual cycle. 1. Maiden (Spring) 2. Mother (Summer) 3. Matriarch (Fall) - She's raised her family and starts to put her focus more on her community, putting into practice her advanced experience and knowledge 4. Crone or Wise Woman (Winter) - the elder who offers wisdom to her family and community. She takes less of a leadership role than you might see in the Matriarch

[@halfblackmagic8853]

This was well put together and hit all the points I could think of regarding this topic. We all have trauma and much of it forces change and development. I agree with everything you said and hope others share this knowledge so we can understand why our society is failing like it is. Your honesty is beyond refreshing, I look forward to what you have to say next.

[@taketheredpill1452]

"We're not immature!!!" "You are!!!" (Sticks fingers in ears) "NaNaNaNaNaNaNaNaNaNaNa"

[@cptfarzkizz8823]

😂 I think this would be anyone's response though.

[@resistancepublishing]

You hit the nail on the head with this video. My biggest issue with the way modern women carry themselves is that they refuse to look in the mirror and take responsibility for their actions. They don’t not try to compromise or understand what a real feminine woman is and try to live as such. It’s all about trying to prove that they can do better than men, which is the opposite of what a woman is. When life is comfortable and too easy we as humans get lazy and everything falls apart. Hardships strengthens humanity and provides us with valuable lessons. Both men and women balance each other but looking at modern society it doesn’t look good for the future as far as relationships. And we all know from past history that when men and women fail in balancing overall human relationship then societies tend to fall.

[@getgot3461]

Women aren't tryna be better than men they just want to live their lives on their own terms while fulfilling their goals and dreams without being controlled and stifled...

[@RolferShannon]

😂😂😂 Shadow work says looking at all the things that is seen in others is what's going on with yourself. Remember she said in this video judging with the idea that you also be judged.

[@resistancepublishing]

@@RolferShannon cute but everyone gets that biblical quote wrong about judging someone

[@ohanna5074]

@@resistancepublishingLOL you just can’t handle being called out 😂 hit dogs holler.

[@resistancepublishing]

@@ohanna5074 not important enough for me to worry about as long as I don’t surround myself with the nonsense

[@ChetHanks-eh1md]

no one can grow up in a world where no one can afford to start a family.

[@AstroGirl-l9h]

ur so real for this

[@raewynhaughton1585]

Growing up doesn’t essentially mean having kids

[@ChetHanks-eh1md]

@@raewynhaughton1585 A family doesn't include children. It includes a spouse which people are putting off.

[@oenone1898]

Exactly right, I want to be a mother but I can't afford it.

[@Patson20]

You don't have to have money to not be immature

[@CYBER_FunkER]

I do feel a lot of this can be said of men as well. I always say: "The Masculinity and Femininity are not opposites, they are compliments to each other, thus they share an opposite and that's Immaturity."

[@basemanawakens6089]

"I do feel" that's the problem with you in a nutshell...

[@getgot3461]

​@@basemanawakens6089feeling is not a bad thing..that's the issue with u, trying to villainize emotions that are integral to the human experience is not only immature but insane

[@basemanawakens6089]

@@getgot3461 you don't make it through life based on feelings...

[@jin8982]

This constant "men are like this too" is stupid to say considering how society today only ever encourages women to blame others and see themselves as perfect.

[@inconnu4961]

@@getgot3461 Feelings change a lot! And rarely do we know what created certain feelings. thats why its important to stand on intelligence & understanding. they are the cake! feelings are the icing, on the cake. Lets not confuse the two!

[@itsJohn-0o7]

This is very quickly becoming one of my favorite channels on this platform. Thank you for your thought- provoking insights, thoughts and perspectives. Definitely one of those videos that is worth rewatching and making notes on.

[@RachelRichards]

Absolutely beautiful video. I love this so much. As someone who can not and will never have my own children, physically aging has always felt pointless. Why do I deserve to age when I can't be a mother? But even if I can't be a mother, mentally maturing is crucial for the health of not only myself, but the people in my life, and society. Thank you.

[@alevort]

I'm sorry to hear that, I can't be father for now too, but I'm still aging too and even I grow in maturity I would like to form a family somehow.

[@baryony]

@@RachelRichards you look very young though

[@matchasophie]

@@baryony There are a lot of reasons a woman can't have their own children, that have nothing to with their age.

[@baryony]

@@matchasophie I didn't mean that. It's just that I was a bit surprised that you were concerned about aging when you looked so young.

[@noblesiner]

Adopt.

[@anshuman7190]

So many good points. I agree with "adults who act like children are easy to control". No wonder why companies today focus on 'youthfulness' 'and everyone is young at heart and mind" and spread this message to all age groups so as to make money. Great points and very useful! Thanks @Erin! Your content is great.

[@StarPlatinumV]

DAMN! SHE COOKIN! LET'S THIS LADY COOK! PUT SOME SEASONIN' ON IT!

[@poligon333]

Women these days be like: Oh you have an Android?! You are not my type.

[@checkmattee222]

If you actually left the basement and interacted with actual human women outside you would realize none of that online bs is true

[@sleeper9638]

​@@checkmattee222 wow I love Reddit too!

[@mateot215]

​@@checkmattee222 dude you cant be fr women on dating apps and in person will reject you for something superficial like having an android. not to say men arent superficial about anything but women arent actually these perfect beings you think they are. theyre human

[@checkmattee222]

@@mateot215 where did I say they're perfect?

[@getgot3461]

You have no real problems and this is a prime example lmao

[@Oldhogleg]

In Kohlberg's 6 Stages of Moral Development it was found that women typically stopped at stage 3; essentially the moral development that of a child.

[@DrDribs]

Culture is a key player. In Australia we take in a high degree of well educated Indian immigrants. Most of my colleagues are Indian women, married with children, and are much more tolerable than white uni students and the tiktok archetypes.

[@truthtelleranon]

that’s because indian men and women reinforce gender roles. women are pressured insanely hard to be a wife and mother. they are coerced and controlled in that culture. that’s the only way fee males thrive

[@andrewkeith80]

I am a migrant to Australia from Malaysia. In skilled migration, only qualified candidates make it through. This means immature people with little accomplishment can't pass the migration gauntlet. This automatically gives skilled migrants an advantage. This is the key reason some cultures make it easier to migrate. Indians and Chinese education pushes students to mature themselves or they lose in education.

[@someoneusedtobe6655]

tiktok archetypes xD

[@iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoy]

crazy how true this is as a fellow Australian

[@karambiatos]

"educated Indians" laughing

[@iunknown563]

I have only respect for you for your courage and boldness! Those are very rare qualities these days!

[@SimenRussnes]

Love your work! You're the mom that KZbin needs!

[@khaledx15]

Great video. I hope more women are able to accomplish the level of self awareness and accountability that you emphasized in this video. Society is lost at the moment and a large part of that has to do with the evolution of the modern day woman. Not saying men are innocent but the women in our society play a significant role. Keep up the great work!

[@Bjorn_R]

I was at a party recently and we played a game with question cards, the question, when is the best age to get married came up. To my surprise the women agreed that 30 was a good age to get married. None of which were married or had kids. They were all around 30 of age and it I found it very odd that the optimal age to get married according to them just so happened to the age bracket they were in.. Almost af if they lied to themselves to avoid feeling behind the curve in life.

[@getgot3461]

30 is indeed good, what's the issue? If they want kids they can have them, they've gained life experience and perspectives and have significantly grown up compared to a young adult. most graduate at 22 or so, depending on their studies, then they start building their life and savings, paying debts, having some fun, then around 30 if they wanna settle down they can, why should they get married right outta college? Why shouldn't they live and travel and be free before having to be locked down in marriage with kids and loads of responsibility where they won't have nearly as much mobility as when they were single? Who wants to start raising kids at 22 and not have a life anymore lol? Maybe you see it from a male perspective where you're still relatively free in a marriage but that's not the case for women who take on most the housework and childrearing, for women it's just constant labor and burnout.

[@inconnu4961]

@@getgot3461 Women do housework? when did this start? I'm a middle aged man, and I HAD to do the housework when i lived with women if i wanted to NOT live in filth! You fool yourself if you think ALL or even most women will do housework now! LOL Them is sum GOOD drugz you bin takin'!

[@vajoynus]

​@@getgot3461geriatric pregnancy and most women by the age of 30 have body counts in the multiple dozens. No thank you. Men much prefer younger, less baggage-ed women.

[@KatieLHall-fy1hw]

@@getgot3461I fully agree. This video is fine, as it definitely has an audience but while women are biologically set up to have kids, we live in a world where it isn’t a necessity and there is much more to a woman than being a mother. Women’s freedom is important even if some people like to bypass it. I am so thankful to live in the now

[@Patson20]

​@@KatieLHall-fy1hw max cope

[@hainesworld1]

This video has made so much sense in regards to describing my family dynamics. Thank you!

[@seuratguy]

I've never heard such a rational, common sense and well researched explanation of women. Thank you.

[@marcmeinzer8859]

When I got out of the navy in 1981 teaching jobs were scarce so I foolishly accepted a post at a parochial school run by a bunch of dingbat nuns. I lasted nearly two years but finally quit without giving notice when the principal burst into my room one day and started shrieking at me in front of my entire class, and a poorly behaved class full of spoiled brats at that.

[@Tux.Penguin]

Interesting exploration, Erin. Thank you for sharing this with us. ❤

[@illmatic4bk]

Been binging alot of your videos these past days and they are amazing. Alot of intellectuall and thought provoking topics that are not talked about to this detail. Do your thang girl, keep em coming 👏

[@archstanton9073]

Hey! She's back! (with a vengeance!)

[@whyhedodat3460]

Thanks for making this video, I know someone thatbwill benefit from it signifigantly. Hopefully the message catches many

[@maykolee]

As a man I’m just gonna go my own way 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Greendragon547]

Which way were you going before? 🤔

[@maykolee]

@@Greendragon547 boomer blue pill way

[@iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoy]

man being alone is just so hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😂😂😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂

[@candide1065]

@@iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoy Who hurt you?

[@maykolee]

@@iyraspusjfzifzocyoyxyoxyoxoy how so?

[@EatWithBadlands]

Women are extremely tribal. This can be a positive in that it causes them to be very nurturing to those within their “tribe”. But if you are a member of the out-group or if you get on their bad side, they do not have the ability to be objective anymore. They think with their emotions and that is just how it is. Women are amazing, but not many of them should be in leadership positions at work. There are exceptions though. I’ve worked with a small handful of great female leaders 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@BLACK80085]

It seems those actually had character and personality and werent empty husks its a treat and rarity these days

[@EatWithBadlands]

@@BLACK80085 I will say that none of the good ones were physically attractive. They probably had to actually develop character and empathy because they weren’t told how great they were every day based on their looks alone.

[@harrisonmccartney4878]

@@EatWithBadlands Sad but true. I have 2 friends who have wonderful (personality-wise) girlfriends; both are overweight and probably wouldn't win any beauty contests, but they're super chill, funny, they get along with everyone, they take honest criticism without getting super emotional or offended, there's no drama despite there being the obvious potential for it, and they've honestly earned my respect for it. If I ever had to get married, I would 100% take a mid-looking girlfriend with a sensible personality and sense of humor over any 10 out of 10 who is also likely an emotional trainwreck and cannot survive without causing stress and drama everywhere they go.

[@capo_price]

Wake up babe, new Erin Byrd video just dropped

[@humanerror7]

#goals

[@JamoRox75]

Erin…your content is extremely good. Please keep working on your channel. It’s gonna grow

[@robb1865]

Great video. You are so tuned in. I used to work in a department of an office that was 90% men. Once they started hiring more women things got pretty crazy. They started going to war with each other. It was very interesting to observe.

[@Frankenstec]

When I first saw a thumbnail with Erin in it. I imagined how she would sound in my head. When she spoke, I was shocked by how soft spoken and high her voice was. Im just so used to women sounding masculine, that when I hear a more feminine sounding woman, it genuinely surprises me.

[@Maya_Ruinz]

"Why are women so immature?" Follow the money... if it pays to be immature then people will stay as immature as possible.

[@ndhtyu]

Nah, it's the fact that women are born with value and once they hit the peak of attention between 15 and 25 year old they don't have to work on themselves, they made it.

[@checkmattee222]

​@@ndhtyu using the word "value" to describe a human life isn't right. Humans are not pieces of flesh being sold at a market so there's no "value" here. A word like that is used only when selling or buying merchandise from a market. It is degrading to use that word to describe a fellow human being with a mind and soul just like yours.

[@baryony]

​@@checkmattee222 it's even used in scientific research though.

[@jin8982]

​@@checkmattee222The dating / sexual marketplace assigns value to everyone and it's not good to ignore it.

[@1984a-g9f]

@@checkmattee222 He’s taking about high or low mate value or demand in the dating market. You are doing them, yourself, and everyone a huge disservice if you are pretending everyone is equally desirable and in demand in the dating market. Sure if I wouldn’t date someone that doesn’t mean they have less value as a human but that’s no what he is saying, he is saying young women(even relatively ugly overweight ones) have enormous pull in the dating market which means that men will pay for them and save them even if it means risking their health. I can pretend a 5’4 man with no job has the same market value as a 6’3 man who fits a suit well and is a successful entrepreneur but that’s insane. 100 out of 100 women pick the latter. That what mate value means expresses.

[@obsideonyx7604]

Say it with me, "responsibility is women's-..."

[@seafoam6119]

Ironic seeing as kryptonite is a comic book reverse macguffin. It’s not a sign of immaturity but a sign of changing culture and its knowledge.

[@5vasily5]

Kryptonite

[@checkmattee222]

Phrases like "boys will be boys" exist implying that males won't be held accountable for anything because, he's just a boy being a boy doing boy things 🤪.. but no let's totally blame the women

[@acuiren8531]

I was contemplating sending this to my ex.. I'm not sure it would go down well... It was an excellent talk. These are things that apply to men also

[@LibertyDiver]

In regards to the part of the video that speaks on how trauma is relative. If you’ve never heard of the Diathesis-Stress model it explains mental health predisposition very well.

[@lonwof2105]

Her big glasses scare me, but I admire this woman greatly.

[@graham167]

Good take on how humans evolved to deal with severe trauma that was all too common throughout the history of our species. Also nice to hear the reference to Mouse Utopia. I hope Rudyard Lynch follows your channel. His Whatifalthist videos are very insightful.

[@ericschantz4275]

Once again, Thank you for a great presentation, Erin! This was very well thought-out and researched. It is very painful to hear for many, I'm sure, but spot-on-target. I found I breathed a sigh of relief at the end of the video, grateful that this comes from a mature woman who knows human nature. it's great to see you on here again. Keep up the fantastic work!

[@dariuswilliams747]

This video is a perfect example of what we're facing in society today.... YOU.CAN'T. MAKE. THIS. UP.

[@kentelley4589]

Miss, This Was An AWESOME Breakdown. Not just of behavioral variances (good or bad..) but how adversity CREATES stronger more powerful evolution in individuals and humanity as a Whole ✊💯

[@thejoelrooganexplosion2400]

More intense emotions. Lack of pre-frontal cortex and rationality. Larger emotional sectors of the brain. Start at the biology before talking about culture. Biology creates human culture.

[@roderickcortez138]

Couldn't agree more. I'm so sick of hearing about society creating this and that. I think vast majority of it is biology.

[@truthtelleranon]

exactly. and you know how this is irrefutable? just like at how young boys and girls behave before they are “socialized” to behave a specific way. it’s *pure biology*

[@roderickcortez138]

@@truthtelleranon My brother never pushed his kids to play with gender specific toys. And guess what? At just two years old his son naturally gravitated toward toy trucks and play tools while is daughter who was three years old gravitated towards stuffed animals and things with glitter. It's all biology.

[@truthtelleranon]

@@roderickcortez138 100% man. We have to stop being in denial about this

[@bananewane1402]

You are describing ADHD, a neurological condition found more frequently in males than in females.

[@bshatney]

I was told once the best way to understand women is to view most of them as adult 14 year olds. It was fantastic advice.

[@noel99991]

Hi Erin good essay! The answer to your query is simple,“feminism” has declared that any attempt to hold women to any standards is misogyny, when we used to hold women to a reasonable standard they behaved quite admirably and were considered the better sex but, when you declare any correction to be “hatred of Women”, you get the phenomena you so eloquently described. Thanks

[@checkmattee222]

Define feminism

[@parrotshootist3004]

​@@checkmattee222a strategy of destroying a people.

[@noel99991]

@@checkmattee222 Feminism, at its worst, is the claim, in the name of equality, that men and women are the same (other than reproductive abilities) and that, therefore, both genders should have identical roles in society, and if they don’t , it’s proof we live in an oppressive patriarchy. That is a clear denial of gender reality. Men are generally bigger, stronger, designed for heavy labor, while women are smaller, weaker, and more delicate for nurturing, so it’s nature that created the division of labor.

[@tjvista8177]

At this point, feminism is going to treated as sexism due to women treating men like trash nonstop.

[@PressureUlcer]

I’m finishing a course of study that will lead to my becoming a psychiatric nurse practitioner. I found this video to be very informative, and I think that your assessment is very well thought out. Keep up the good work!!!!

[@understone86]

I want this video to go viral. Thank you- fellow woman-.

[@baryony]

Unfortunately met many women like this and even a guy. They had certain things in common. Their own families didn't like them and did not wanna deal with them. Seriously one of them was not allowed to go stay at her parents' place was actually constantly begging for them to take her in despite the fact that they've already bought her a very nice flat right in the middle of a city center in a European capital. She had only two close friends and constantly felt lonely. Those two close friends also constantly tried to put some distance between her and themselves, because of how spoiled, self victimized, and selfish she was. She never stopped talking about how her life was the worst, and had the gall to call one of those friends to offer condolences after her uncle passed away only to talk about her problems once more to a mourning person, driving her away. And she never apologized to anyone according to her words. Another one escaped home as a teenager because her mother didn't understand her. Seriously, she's openly admitted that there was no abuse or violence of any sort, and she just felt not understood. She felt lonely and had very few friends. Constantly talked about how each and every man she's ever dated was abusive and wronged her. I actually felt sorry for her until I've dated her like an idiot. It was hell on earth. She was likewise self entitlement, self victimized, and always right. She also never apologized. I almost failed an entire semester of my master's degree trying to support her through her unstable moods, but she's literally told me "I don't like to talk to sad people." one time I needed emotional support from her. And this is just the tip of the iceberg tbh. The last one was constantly being yelled at and reprimanded by his family. I used to feel very sorry for him until he actually lived in my house because he couldn't live with his parents anymore and he was an old family friend. He promised to contribute to the financial spendings of the house, but didn't, and told me that he didn't have any money to give while buying expensive games for himself online. Did little to no housework around (literally all he did was emptying the dish washer once in a while) and actually reprimanded me for not doing enough despite the fact that I was spending the entire day out travelling between two cities to handle paperwork and other responsibilities, doing the grocery shopping for the house, cooking delicious and nutritious meals that required time and effort because I'm a health nut, doing the laundry...etc. He'd also make a lot of noise playing online games with his buds yelling constantly until 8 am. We've been constantly fighting, and my brother was the one who was holding me back from just kicking him out to the curb because they were best buddies. Luckily, after a short time, he left and told me that he felt like how we ran things in the house was unfair to him right before. Good riddance :D He must've been too used to his retired mother doing literally everything for him other than wiping his butt. Long story short, some people are this way. And the best way to deal with them seems to be not dealing with them at all. Don't try to reason with them, because they'll always tell you that they're the victim no matter the circumstances. Just interact with them as little as you can if you have to see them due to obligations, and kick em out of your life if you can.

[@darthgibsonlp6631]

"Their own family didn't like them..." It's the biggest red flag of all. I know that might be unfair; that some people are genuinely victims of dysfunctional families, but that's the exception not the rule. If a woman is frozen out by most or all of her family then 95% of the time there is a damn good reason. These types, as you go on to mention, also never pick up or keep that many friends. I put it like this: the numbers don't lie. And yes, they can genuinely go through their entire lives without ever apologising for anything. It's mind boggling.

[@baryony]

@@darthgibsonlp6631 yeah. I guess it was partly my fault for ignoring the red flags, but tbh I also was having trouble finding someone, so I was desperate, and I was basically love bombed at the beginning of the relationship.

[@AnyDelcourageelmoguy99]

What you described from those two examples is exactly narcissism at its finest. Good riddance to them. Glad you're doing better.