Why Are Some Men So Obsessed With Humbling Women?

[@KilonovaBurst]

They say humble...but what they really mean is humiliate

[@gabrielnadia1085]

What you said !

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

BINGO!!!

[@carlacookingvegan]

Yup 👍🏾

[@janedo-re-mi2738]

Exactly.

[@naturallyhoneybrown]

yessss, so true

[@KhayJayArt]

They do all this weirdo insecure shit but can't understand why women don't wanna be with them?

[@Bugs_bunnie43]

@KhayJayArt you're profile pic is adorable. Kudos.

[@SmileyAdventures]

HEAVY ON THISSSSSS

[@jayogee913]

I no longer want to hear one peep out of them about their "male loneliness crisis." It is entirely self-induced, and not one single woman on earth OWES a man her time, body, and attention. He can EARN those things, or he can keep moving. Especially now that in many US states, s3x with a man may result in a state-imposed pregnancy and child. Nope.

[@traceylennon1204]

Passive-aggressive AF with it!

[@77kc_77]

Facts I can't be around them

[@DivinaDiosa3845]

They try to bring you down because of their ego. But they also want access to you.

[@graceg4996]

🎯

[@kokopuffs1986]

200

[@silververnallbells191]

Negging/humbling = bringing a woman down so he has easier access + if you're self-esteem is brought down then you will stay instead of loving yourself enough to walk away.

[@DeneseJamerson]

That's not the way to gain "access". Whatever-the-ell that's supposed to mean.

[@grandempressvicky6387]

@@DeneseJamerson gain access = make you insecure enough to want their approval rather than have self-respect. Pick Up Artists specifically taught their followers to do this in order to get women to date/sleep with them.

[@bea_ramm]

Confidence is quiet. Insecurity is loud.

[@MorganneDenise]

Love this ❤

[@madihaq2252]

This needs to be pinned at the top. ✨🏆✨

[@ambasd733]

NOT all the time ... lmao

[@PrettyEyesz]

Well said

[@BoujeeGrapes]

This the one!❤

[@Ilovekirby80]

If you know the psychology of men then you already know the answer. Most of them wanna break you down or keep yourself esteem low because an insecure person is a lot likely to stay and take mistreatment and abuse

[@mariabrown6926]

They want to bring you down to their level so they can have access to you.

[@77kc_77]

​@@mariabrown6926 yes and I'm not accessible to men not romantically or emotionally

[@mystiquelareaux]

Big facts!!! Learned my lesson and never to repeat it again!!! Peace and prosperity to you all...be safe.

[@77kc_77]

@@mystiquelareaux you too ❤️

[@shellyjoseph3109]

Why? What game do they win by bringing you low.. they could run with you and step up in thier own life

[@jessikajane4967]

No men can humble you if you: 1. Say "ok" to any intended insult 2. Complete cut off ALL contact as soon as the first insulting "joke" comes up 3. Don't entertain men who are failing in life AT ALL

[@tweedledummie]

Can personally attest your point #1 makes them them implode. They are looking for a reaction and when you don't just "agree" w them they are either left confused af not knowing what to say next OR just pissed tf off 😂

[@kandylandtarot142]

"If you say so little buddy" They act like they've been smacked when you say that. It's so innocuous.

[@Cantetinza17]

I'll say, "That's the sweetest thing anyone's ever said to me thank you; you made my day"! They get so confused.

[@MsElfMannequin]

This applies to other women also. A lot of women are just as bad as the men when it comes to worshiping what they find attractive and abusing who they don’t.

[@mermaidmarina2411]

"Cool story bro" also works 😂

[@RikkiestAndTikkiest]

As the proverb says: "Always leave at the first sign of disrespect."

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

I agree 💯

[@Lassoducky]

It works wonders. I know it saved me 😊

[@DeathnoteBB]

See as an autistic person that’s confusing because a lot of us are called disrespectful for… being confused or asking for clarification. So our idea of disrespect is so skewed. I always want to give second chances and wonder if I’m overreacting

[@winning3329]

This also bothered me alot. A pretty girl can't say that she's pretty without getting bullied. There's absolutely nothing wrong with liking yourself and thinking that you are attractive.

[@femmefatale71]

ESPECIALLY as a black woman.

[@Cyhcg5uhgb]

​@@femmefatale71 yeah, it is weirdly concerning how mean people are to black woman. And for what?

[@cb4017]

❤❤❤

[@sotired9790]

Why do you have to announce it? Insecurity.

[@HaleyJo1992]

EVERYONE should be able to celebrate how awesome they are and how much they like how they look. Only the insecure will get mad instead of hyping you up

[@Childfree334]

My ex-husband tried to use a baby trap to humble me as soon as I graduated from nursing school. That didn't work out too well for him. 😊

[@viv7810]

Men will attempt to baby trap a women if she’s finding success in her life or a way to control her with a kid around. Regardless if their together or not.

[@genevieveaniko6492]

As soon as I detect a male trying to humble me... I just discard him and leave him to play his stupid games by himself... Collect all the stupid prizes and live with the fact that he will never ever get to experience being with me again.. Day after day for the rest of his silly existence. Checkmate.

[@katewamuyu2465]

Beautiful ❤️ love this for you. I'm just beginning to become conscious of the reality of this. Oh how I thought that the issue was with me. I wish this message reaches all the young girls in this generation. No one who tries to "humble" you has good intentions for you.

[@xposa5137]

Excellent perspective 💪

[@mybrotherkeepscommentingimsrry]

You can't checkmate a player by leaving the game you're just opening a seat. It's not that your checkmating anyone, you are removing yourself from a situation you don't want to be in. I think our problem is narcissism. People love to callout narcissits but they be the narcissits too! Its innate. She this... he this... it's s EVERYBODY. Like you talking about he'll never experience me again.. okay? who cares. Seriously. Why do we care about what other people think who clearly dont care about us. It is not what we think of ourselves or what others think that make us special it's our actions towards others. AWe must remove ourselves from the self. It's not men this or women this it's the internet and the culture. I see it as this, you can't humble a humble person.

[@mybrotherkeepscommentingimsrry]

When I stppped talking a girl I've messed w for years. I didn't feel I checked mate her. I felt I lifted myself. I cut off dead weight and became later. I still look back, but I remind myself I made the best choice for me.

[@fruitsarelife7073]

Me too ❤❤❤

[@UseYourVoices]

Why are some men obsessed with humbling women? Because it's very difficult for men to access women who know their worth and won't settle.

[@shanicrystal8671]

💯💯

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

facts💯

[@DaPhlyymamee]

Spot on! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@DesiJoy]

They also do this by telling you your standards are too high, what you expect is unattainable, or the usual, “You’re living in a fairytale”. I always tell guys like this, “If you don’t, someone will”. They only have a problem with it because they are not willing to step up and do the work needed to give you that experience.

[@ak-47intelligence75]

I've been told I'm delusional . 😂 Ok, sir, so delusional it is. You're still not the target audience.

[@giulianaartist6664]

OMYGAWD my ex told me I was living a fairy tale, and I asked him what about my life was a fairy tale? And this man baby didn't have an answer. Two years wasted on this bro, but, lesson learned I need to keep my standards.😂

[@silververnallbells191]

I'd rather build & live in my own fairytale .. it doesn't involve ogres/men. I'm cacklin like the witch I am w/the fairies in my garden. Peace.

[@LoveCompassionPurity]

Right! And then try to shame other men who step up to the plate by calling them "simps". A man calling another man a simp is a huge 🚩

[@M00nst0ne]

"You're living in a fairytale." "Well, if I live in a fairytale, then you're just a peasant who doesn't deserve to be in the presence of a queen, so I'm gonna go." 🤷🏽‍♀️💃🏽

[@sweariefaerie9621]

Dudes can *try* to do the narc tap dance, but I was raised by two narcissists, and I'm actively healing from it. I've trained to dismiss the dumbassery.

[@princess_ama]

This! If any man gives me the same vibes as my narcissistic father, I immediately walk away. I already dealt with all types of BS in my childhood with my parents. I have zero tolerance for BS in my adult life.

[@cb4017]

❤❤❤

[@elisabethhughes6005]

@@princess_ama💩dad club right here, girl. As bad as it was, my dad was like boot camp for what I would face as a woman in the world. I’ve never been played or even much hurt by men, but the fact that they would even want to hurt anyone makes me sick.

[@edithart5753]

And they hate you more for it. The confusion on their face everytime they see you smile.

[@MrsTruthTeller]

When a man tries to humble you just tell him to go get the woman he really wants then. That'll make him real mad because he knows he can't get a girl better than you either, LMAO.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

I agree 💯

[@kirawong4629]

Tell them to go find LESS… and mean it

[@MrsTruthTeller]

@@kayshawnsimmons5585 I was once dating a very attractive man who kept comparing me to other women. Said he is used to women fawning over him and basically said that he doesn’t like that I was not worshipping him like other women. I laughed and told him, “Well, if that’s what you want, I think you should date those women instead of me.” He was BIG mad when I said that and proceeded to keep calling my phone.

[@DeathnoteBB]

@@MrsTruthTellerSomething tells me those women were either made up or finally had enough of him

[@zzzi222]

Omg everytime I genuinely told an ex bf to go and find another gurl they just double down on the obsession.

[@KatieTalk101]

A big reasons most men try to Humble women because they realized that the woman could be out of their league.

[@ras3024]

It's so crazy how many men are actually hypergamous without wanting to admit it. They want access to women out of their league to upgrade their lifestyle and status, the same way they accuse "gold diggers" of. But it's supposed to be ok for them to do that 🙄

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

true💯

[@bigbanknewyork3655]

"Dem degrees you got don't mean shyt."

[@DeathnoteBB]

It’s wild how men invented the concept of “out of your league” and then abuse women for being it. Men can leave

[@boochi7087]

How can you tell when they're trying to humble you? It usually comes when you're riding a high of feeling or loving yourself or celebrating a win. "I just passed my certification!", their response? "Was it even that hard? Lol" You just got your hair done and you feel so beautiful, their response? "You know you could have saved money by just wearing your natural hair?". You're literally playing a game with this person, and you win. Their response? "I wasn't even playing my best, I just let you win". This person can't let you win because they're a loser and insecure to the max.

[@unicorn73212]

Then he's not a man then if he competes with women. Sometimes women are more likely to be healthier than men too so they need to compete on a beginner level and start by competing with other men that are out of shape. Sometimes women are more flexible and there harder to punch in the face I've been in several fights with people too and they never got a scratch on me 😊.

[@gabrielnadia1085]

Sometimes you are just being yourself though. You are talking and they interrupt you by mimicking your "gestes sophistiqués"

[@e.williams13]

Those were some really good examples

[@fluoroantimonicacid4844]

Maybe they're just jealous or some sht, like why the fck you care lol 😂

[@noniwilliams7029]

They will cheat on you no matter how you look

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

XY'S are not happy within themselves. They will try to humble every woman who is living life her way. They use cheating to Brake You

[@toscadonna]

It’s “mental rape culture.” Mind rape is actually more prevalent than the physical, but either will do in the male view.

[@mobutter2879]

Boom!💥

[@DigitalExplorer-i5o]

Thank you! I've been looking for this.

[@txspacemom765]

I used to think something was wrong with me. Truly thought I was a narcissist. Yep that is how gaslit I was. Realized it was a lot of men and pick me women putting me down. I am older and wiser now and I try to help other women out. As soon as I used to slightly celebrate myself, feel good about myself, etc...I was called ugly, crazy, dumb, etc...to try and humble me. I watched one of the most beautiful (I mean STUNNING BEAUTIFUL WOMEN) I knew at work, lawyer, multi-talented women tried to be humbled by some ugly, bare minimum bro. It finally woke me up to what is going on.

[@SilkyDanielle-]

💯🙏🏾

[@77kc_77]

Same they will find anyway to bring down your mood or make you feel bad - I avoid men and their opinions

[@annmarieknapp]

Absolutely. I'm middle-aged now and am happily divorced and 4B now, but I look back on my life and see all the instances of men doing their best to humble me. My ex-husband being the absolute worst. I used to call my ex the devil, but that's just a serious insult to the devil, which I don't believe in, but a good metaphor. And now I joke in same metaphor he wouldn't even be a lowly demon. Wanna be at best. I have broken my serious pattern of falling for emotionally unavailable men. Grew up in a personality disordered home and it was such an impact I became a psychologist to understand. And it isn't an age thing too. I may be an older woman, but I still get these weird responses from men. I live in the South and sexism is pretty bad where I live. Many weak guys hate that I make my income alone and that I have a title. Annoys the hell out of them, that I don't need to confer with a husband or partner before I make a financial decision. It's really sickening. I'm done with the gaslighting, abuse, snark, or attitude. I don't need to be humbled, by a lesser person. I actually try to elevate the energy and light of others. And instead of supporting that, these guys will belittle or break you down so they can feel superior by comparison. Done with whole thing.

[@katiePetsy]

I saw a post on fb where a woman shared a text exchange where she immediately (and politely) declined a man and the guy continued to pester for a date. The comments was full of men saying they'd looked at her profile and rated her a 2/10. It was truly bizarre

[@TinkOutLoud]

And how dare a 2/10 have standards or simply by uninterested!

[@alyzu4755]

They ALWAYS go after appearance whenever a woman deigns to disagree with them. Always.

[@jenniferterry4665]

@@alyzu4755Yup, the most “unemotional & logical” beings on 🌍 😂

[@ibabechanel]

@@alyzu4755Highly effeminate dl behaviour.

[@briskettacos]

It's never men who are winning at the game of life trying to humble women. Probably they were unemployed or marginally employed losers who needed to put her down to feel better. Hurt dogs bark loud.

[@adoramae5436]

This is the only area in my life where being autistic has benefited me. Because the phrase "I'm just joking" or "I'm just being real, you're too sensitive." does not work on me. You cannot fool me on what is and is not socially acceptable; I had to take a whole fucking class on how to function as a person. And I *know* saying shit like that is not okay.

[@anastasiawortham8833]

Damn! They can't even argue it's a matter of opinion or just how they were raised cause you have the education to shut that down.

[@tayarianna]

Wait there are CLASSES!?!? 👀

[@adoramae5436]

@@tayarianna oh yeah, my parents made me take social skilld classes on top of the special ed stuff I had to do in school. It doesn't help the depression and anxiety that comes with living as an autistic adult in late stage capitalism, but hey I can look people in the eye now and have been known to be very polite, so there's that.

[@broco6608]

One thing about men whether it's a boyfriend, husband, co-workers, brothers, fathers, other relatives, supervisors, etc. - most men stay trying to make a woman FEEL bad. I've experienced this with my father, my brothers, co-workers, supervisors, and guys I've dated. I'm not arrogant or the "pretty-girl", but I do know my worth and I think they pick up on that. I don't have "pick-me", "I need a man", "I'm helpless", or "I'm dumb" vibes and they don't like that. In their minds, how dare I have any self-esteem.

[@oOIIIMIIIOo]

That is what I wrote. Never met one guy, no matter the situation, that does not do it.

[@Tigerlily_Fresh]

Your own father and brothers... And I'll go out on a limb and assume that they're all dusties. Smh

[@izzlabel]

omg you see yourselve too highly, nobody cares about you bro relax. someone who has to say "i know my worth" is someone who either has no worth or doesnt know it yet. you females assume too much, youre not smart to begin with so dont assume to much

[@DeathnoteBB]

This is fully why I have given up on dating. I can’t deal with men anymore

[@madalice5134]

I remember the video going around a few months ago about a woman talking about the downsides of "pretty privilege" and how the responses to her were mostly aimed at telling her she needs to humble herself or trying to discredit her words and experiences. Society loves to hate beautiful, talented women, especially when she uses her voice.

[@DeathnoteBB]

@FA-zd9fcNah they’ll say you’re fishing for compliments

[@poisonivyy0404]

I dont care what anyone says! If a man tries to humble you , he is jealous of you or very threatened by you! And there are so many ways these men go by trying to humble you , by cheating, comparing you to other females, not complimenting you , ignoring you , being hostile or aggressive... etc the list goes on!

[@peachesandpoets]

Family and friends can do this too, y'all. Make sure the things you believe about yourself are YOUR beliefs!

[@indigostvr]

💯💯💯

[@ras3024]

Too true. Family can be your biggest oops.

[@lilig8323]

I have a cousin who is TICKLED any time she hears a story about someone that was mean to me or something messed up happens. She’ll be falling to the ground hyperventilating while telling me how she heard this or that shitty thing happened to me. It’s weird.

[@silververnallbells191]

​@@lilig8323 She's big time jealous of you that's why she wishes you pain & revels in any issue you may have.

[@amandanxala2580]

Girrrrrrrrrrrrrl📍

[@juliebella1221]

I've seen sons do this to their Moms. We glowed a widow up and her son that lived in the basement came up and said she looked like a clown. He doesn't want her to date because he wants the million dollar property when she goes. So many sons never make anything of themselves and wait for Mom to kick the bucket. These basement dwellers leap frog college educated men with inheritance. So you have a lot of 30 to 40 plus year old sons becoming multi millionaires overnight simply by leaching off their Moms until they pass. It was one of the saddest things I've seen. If he's 18 tell him to get out.

[@_gonna_renew_my_sinew]

These moms need to pull a fast one and leave a nice lil surprise for these dudes when they go. My son would find out that the $$/ estate is going to charity, or a friend 😆. Shoot I'd even Will Smith it like in 7 pounds and go find a nice family that needs help and set them up to take over my property. He'd be eating those words- who's gonna look like the clown then?

[@VeaRobinson]

and they lose it all because they have no money management skills.

[@Evettecord]

And they lose it in 5 yrs on avg. Most don’t pay the property taxes

[@juliebella1221]

@_gonna_renew_my_sinew I wish you were right, but I've never seen a man suffer or be held accountable for harming women. Never. I don't know anybody who has. I've known of sons having their healthy Moms committed to take their homes. I've seen sons take their Mom's house and then the Mom ends up having to raise son's kids because son didn't even get in trouble for not taking care of said kids. You can show video of it and the law protects men at all costs. It doesn't matter what they do, they never, ever suffer. Neither do the hubbies, male cousins, Uncles etc. Never, ever seen it. Most men SA and get away with it. Most men abuse their own....get away with it. Taking Moms/widows/little girls stuff...are men's bread and butter.

[@ebbiemusumali8301]

I saw Tia Mowrys son say something similar. Now Tia does alot, whatever, but I still saw that..

[@Prismatic9008]

Busy trying to humble the mom they didnt have the nads to. Mommy didn't make them her world so they have to punish every woman they come into contact with. I just watched a mutual who said it best: they don't need to date. They need to HEAL

[@NamasteInYourLane]

Honestly, it's not mostly men. Women try to humble other women as well. The only difference in how women and men treat women is that men unalive women more than women unalive women. However, everything else is the same. The gaslighting, the jealousy, getting close to you just to use you or sabotage you, the lying, etc.

[@ibabechanel]

What about if your own birther doing this ?

[@Cantetinza17]

And it's all insecurities. On both sides.

[@vam9785]

True. Most people are mediocre and low vibrational. When they see confidence, beauty, greatness they want to destroy it.

[@ibabechanel]

@@vam9785 THIS. 💯

[@DeathnoteBB]

Also from women, it’s usually due to internalized misogyny,

[@indoora]

My father said do not play hitting, I will go one step further. Do not play insulting.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

I agree. When you allow it, make excuses for it. And letting them go unchecked it get out of hand.

[@dnw75]

They need to humble themselves and sit down somewhere.

[@deshunallen8486]

Go put some lotion on with they crusty asses.

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

Right! Do some self reflection, up grade their lives, Read some self help books

[@DeathnoteBB]

Preferably in some grass. I don’t think they’ve touched any in a while

[@maryamshaaban74]

There was an interesting test regarding this in art. All paintings/sculptures depicting women were described by men and women to portray beauty, femininity, fragility, etc. And they all have a little detail like a broken smile, a head held down, shedding tears. The moment they put a mirror of some sorts or made the woman carry a confident smile or a head held high the men (and some women too) immediately said they represented vanity and ego. You're not supposed to feel beautiful until they give you permission is what I gathered tbh

[@bres.4806]

Like why are yall so mad when ppl love themselves or think they're great? They love it when you're acknowledging and validating their ego but it's just bonkers for you to have the nerve to acknowledge yourself.

[@maryamshaaban74]

@@bres.4806 it's linked to arrogance immediately. You're either insecure or egotistic, no in between. Especially that fragility is considered a feminine trait. While confidence is considered a masculine trait. So it's ok when men are confident or even arrogant but not when women are.

[@DeathnoteBB]

Isn’t there a statue or painting of a woman holding a mirror called vanity? I’m still mad about that!

[@maryamshaaban74]

@@DeathnoteBB There are several, actually. And they all depect women, not men. It upsets me too

[@CaramelCali]

Great observation. I unfortunately had to take an art class and yes I noticed all the art was depicted in an melancholy way.

[@Cynophileandavianenthusiast]

Myron does indeed think he is special. Very much so.

[@Hollyberrystreats]

The most special boy in the whole world

[@TinkOutLoud]

He sure as hell looks special.

[@jonightshade2252]

He didn’t even have a comeback for Brittany. “yOuRe NoT sPeCiAl” what is this, 2nd grade? 😂😂😂

[@AB-jl1un]

All either of those two guys do is make fools of themselves.

[@ibabechanel]

DL bro.

[@jbenevy]

Yeah! They get soo mad when you say no! All of a sudden its like, oh so you think too highly of yourself. Thats when they get BLOCKED.

[@fluoroantimonicacid4844]

Men like that never ever gonna find a healthy partner and a healthy family. No wonder they gonna die alone if they can't change themselves first.

[@ccannon1]

It wasn’t until recently I realized one my my exes was the biggest hater! He tried to get me to transfer colleges. He tried to get me to quit grad school. He tried to be controlling like telling me what to wear and how to act etc. When we broke up, I was really sad about it but looking back I was choosing me over him and he hated it!

[@wellersonoliveira5334]

Insecurity, plain and simple. Its like guys that try to intimidate other guys too, the moment I challanged these kind of dudes, they quickly backed down. Insecure people need to put other people down, so they don't stay at the bottom where they belong.

[@LadyCharity]

The sad part is this is not just men, other women sadly do this as well...

[@teresam5199]

Lady in the pink knit is spot on! The low-achieving, insecure male will start with belittleing, critical or disrespectful "jokes" to test you and if they can, start conditioning you for verbal, emotional and psychological abuse later on. Its a process and happens just like she said. Next thing you know he's just saying mean things straight out (without the "oh i was just joking" excuse) and WHEN you get into an argument, he will say even more horrific things. At the first "joke", END IT.

[@shanicrystal8671]

Totally 💯

[@ibabechanel]

IMMEDIATELY.

[@randombooze]

My Ex did all of this. Suck his teeth when I’d put on lip gloss before leaving for the airport 😂😂😂….. I could hear him talking under his breath. If we’d argue, say those exact words….. “you’re not that special”, “I’ve dated bad b**** before, you’re not the only one”😂😂😂😂! Ok then bye and I never looked back. He told me he wasn’t insecure for the longest. I never shared location infinity, shared it with even though I thought that was dumb. I was going to move for this man and asked God for a sign before pulling the trigger….. and damn, did God show MEEE😅. Never looked back. Man Cried on my Vm for closure….. swore up and down there was another man 😒….. sending videos…. Yea bye sir

[@77kc_77]

Control and dominating what they deemed to be easy. I'm constantly putting men in their place with boundaries - a lot of them definitely have narcissistic tendencies

[@JackNutts]

Bull shit you live by yourself?

[@kylamyette]

It’s so crazy because you don’t realize it until you get out of it and are around other ppl that actually value you. I’ve experienced this since as young as 4 yrs old , a lot times it would happen is because some boy that I didn’t like back would try to humble me for me being myself. You honestly have to ignore them and remember that they are not talking to you they are really talking to themselves

[@SmileyAdventures]

This is very true!

[@elena3476]

It happened to me when i was 4 that a boy was chasing me around the playground and when i finally got tired of running he started punching me and throwing sand in my eyes, his dad was telling him to stop but ofc the kid didnt listen, whats wierd is that his dad was witnessing all the chasing from the start

[@ras3024]

What's so crazy is this has the opposite effect of what they're going for. They wanna tear you down so they seem higher, but doesn't make them look better. It just makes them seem desperate and bitter. An insecure man who can't stand a happy confident woman is so deeply unappealing.

[@fslayer1290]

It’s bullying, plain and simple. I don’t allow rude behaviors; I abhor them.

[@Cantetinza17]

I let it be known real quick, I don't play that, go somewhere else with that.

[@CaramelCali]

Yep it’s called bullying

[@ellorasg4525]

I do not have the patience for little boys. I prefer confident adult men. Thank you :)

[@BLessed758]

This video really hit home because men really will do this!! I had a male friend for 15 years who always tried to humble me but disguised it with joking. Finally, I got sick of it and realized that it's not normal behavior and it's not fun to deal with constantly. So I cut him off this year. Stopped answering phone calls and messages. Meanwhile, he's over there with a wife who's very "humbled." by his constant put downs. And Im married to a man who boosts my confidence every chance he gets. Once you are finally treated well by a truly confident man, it's embarrassing to look back at what you tolerated.

[@Acon1882]

Thank you for this comment because I also have a male friend who I’ve been friends with for 15 years with as well and lately I’ve been taking long breaks from him because his “jokes” are insulting. I’ve also noticed that if we are out together if a server or bartender talks to me more, then he gets mad. But they are normally just answering my question. He once tried to make fun of my Phoenix tattoo to a bartender and got mad that the bartender complimented it. I guess I never noticed his behavior as “humbling” because he’s only a friend and I would never date him. But that may be why I’ve been avoiding lately. I’ve chosen Friday nights at home alone with some wine over being out with him waiting for the insults to come.🙄

[@Emilyb21-dm3bf]

A guy told me i had fat arms when i was in bed with him i was 17 he was 30 and i hadnt lived up to his teen fantasy as. I was assaulted a few years before in s very humiliating way. He was pissed off and insulted me i didnt show my arms for years. Then 20 years later i look at a photo of pretty and slim i was and it made me angry that that man effected how. I felt about my body. They don't humble they try destroy your self-esteem. And i know too many women who have had this done to them more than once

[@Nessa2Bea]

Let’s not forget about the anchor babies!!! Sometimes dusty men try to humble women by encouraging them (in one way or other) to have their children, knowing the implications on a woman’s body and career.

[@rn2787]

I have observed people telling men that the woman he's with is too pretty for them. I get that society gives them insecurities, but that is patriarchy. We understand that society has ridiculous standards regarding looks. We understand that it's nearly impossible for the average person to avoid feeling insecure about something esthetically. However, instead of fighting that ideal within our society and getting therapy to work through that most of them have chosen treat women like crap, which doesn't fix anything.

[@TamuMalone]

Dude invited me over and it was unwanted criticism. Took me five minutes and 🏃🏿‍♀️🚪

[@miannalee1616]

I’m with everything in this video but can we stop callin ourselves “bad bishes”

[@RobHopkins-tw2wo]

Another reason dudes will continue to disrespect them but they claim they don't care 😂

[@faebalina7786]

Yeahs it’s cringe and ridiculous

[@kenziefrances5365]

Omg! I never liked this!!!! It’s so disappointing that women have become so used to addressing themselves as such. It’s like they’ve accepted men calling them the B word and put “bad” in front of it to add a lil razzle dazzle and make it sound good.

[@Cantetinza17]

Let people call themselves what they want to feel confident. If you don't want to refer to yourself as that then fine. Call yourself something different.

[@kenziefrances5365]

@@Cantetinza17 see it’s a difference between calling yourself something to make yourself feel confident and calling yourself a bitch, but hey, ok.

[@wambuiwathuita4071]

“Some people can’t handle your greatness” 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 so true! Very important to recognize such and walk away.

[@ElaineLoyd]

They want you to believe you're nothing so they seem like a blessing.

[@gabrielnadia1085]

I really hope we are going to stand on our standards now!!!

[@melchiorlise2466]

They believe that of they humble you enough you'll accept to settle. They believe women should adjust their standards and boundaries to their level of beauty. Hence they believe if they make you believe you are not beautiful you'll re-evaluate your standards.

[@Opinionatedboo]

My dad’s advise to me when I go married (on my wedding day) - I should never consider my husband my equal I should never try to be my husband’s friend because husbands are alway one step above a woman To have a good marriage, I should always treat my husband as my superior Should always use the ‘respect’ form of addressing him (we have a casual you and a respect version in our language) I laughed at him and walked away. This man- my dad was married to my very successful mom. My mom was successful in her career and moved up the career ladder until she reached the top most post she could. She never changed her last name - he tried to make me change my last name - my husband put a stop to that (I didn’t change my last name). When my mom passed away, he tried to take credit for all my mom’s achievements and said he sacrificed his career for her (he was not successful in his job). He also said in his eulogy that she succeeded because he ‘let’ her. Patriarchy can be successful only when they brainwash us with things that will keep them as our superiors. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@eliza6971]

I wanted to note that it’s not just straight men, I’ve had a gay man (who was a complete stranger to me) literally say he was trying to humble me because I liked a comment on Instagram from someone he disagreed with.

[@Vstar87]

It is usually the most dusty men that try to humble beautiful women because they cant stand their shine

[@iamReptar]

Husband: Your standards and expectations are unrealistic. Get off your cloud.. Youre asking for too much. Me: Because my FATHER set the bar very high. And my dad provided me with a lifestyle that im used to and love. He gave me a house… So what are you doing for me, that I already cant do myself? *Silence* he was livid. How dare I compare him to my dad and his accomplishments. Lmao. My father and his goals is something he should be inspired and motivated by.

[@femmefatale71]

Next stop. EX HUSBAND.

[@iamReptar]

@@femmefatale71 Im just glad my dad got my back. These men pray that you wont have a dad to fall back on. Smh

[@jinijinxer97]

Hey, not trying to be a downer but these men wait for the good mehn to not be there anymore, & in these case, when your Dad has one day passed on. They will never learn. Move out & move on while you still have your shield & rock gurl. There has just been too many cases. Sincerely, a psych student.

[@sotired9790]

I wouldn't talk to my husband that way. This sounds like a man you shouldn't have married, and you like to throw his inferiority in his face. Very toxic.

[@jinijinxer97]

@@sotired9790 but he can yeah? Ummhmm okay

[@heatherwade2373]

Solid advice from all of these lovely ladies. All 100% true. Do not let any man step on you for any reason.

[@atobiteadedunjoye1207]

I'm 27 and never dated precisely because men seem to think that them dating me would humble me😂. People keep saying I'll finally be 'handled' when I start dating so I said ok then I guess I'll never date then😂 I've never put anyone down or made them feel less, they want me to be 'humble' because I refuse to accept what I will not tolerate, they want me to compromise, to feel unworthy and can't stand that I won't bend to reach beneath me when I'd rather just stand and let something or someone meet me standing on my ten toes.

[@EmyN]

They said you will be “handled”? Gross lol

[@bres.4806]

Love everything you said. You speak in POWER and some just will never get it.

[@Kharmaa7]

Know your worth. Add taxes.. lmao I’m gonna have to remember that 😅

[@ma59x]

I had an experience like this with the last guy I dated. I realized that I was always the butt of his jokes. His whole sense of humor was him making rude comments about me and my character and then laughing it off as a joke. Calling me weird or mean and criticizing everything I said or did. When I worked hard and paid off my student loans, he barely congratulated me. Needless to say, we’re not together anymore.

[@MsElfMannequin]

What I find interesting is the main ones (Men and Women alike) who are quick to call women ugly are usually not attractive themselves.

[@mabel9701]

There’s a difference between being confident and thinking you’re better than everyone else and treating people accordingly. I love how the woman confronts the guy directly about his bs. This is how it’s done. Watch how he backs tf down and tries to twist his words like a snake, thinking he’s witty. I could never be in a relationship with someone exuding all this disdain and negativity.

[@dream_on_sammi]

I was married for 21 years. For years I thought it was me until at some point within the marriage I came to the realization it was never about me. It was about his own insecurities. At that point is when it all made sense why he acted the way he did. Not just with me either but other situations as well that had nothing to do with me or our marriage.

[@ibabechanel]

Still married ?

[@notallabouttarot5194]

@@ibabechanelgood question. Because a lot of women talk about these marriages…but still in them

[@dawn-gk2tr]

Easy . Humbling women boosts the " humblers " and helps keep the women subservient . They find that uplifting.

[@slickandslaycious6579]

Phew! Y’all said that! They trying to keep the value (your since of self worth) low so they can get a discount

[@uduvudoo3083]

I'm a big believer in dodging guys who need you to undergo a humiliation ritual (because that's what it is, and no one can tell me differently). Heard a dude say, "if you can't endure humiliation from a guy, you're not ready for marriage." I ran so fast, it sounded like an applause track. You're NOT about to embarrass me outside! No thanks!

[@madalynmorgan688]

The Woman talking about the Cheating on a Beautiful,smart, confident...HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD!!!! My Ex was a ruined guy, he began to show his Jealousy whenever we would go out. I got compliments on my beauty, personality, style, intelligence etc. I could literally see his face and body language change, so did the people and they would throw him a compliment seeing him uncomfortable. He wasn't a bad looking guy but people don't understand your what's inside shows outside.

[@Wolegiblynn]

Ladies if you want any tips on how to verbally repel these dust mites please hmu. Ive been put on more blocked list than a dead beat dads😂. You can't humble an already humble person. Feelings will be hurt and lives will be read!

[@purevenus6359]

I experienced a lot more peace when I started to become as verbally viscous to these reprobates as they were to me. It’s been such a game changer for me 😌 Match their energy.

[@courtneyz27]

I would love to partake in learning how verbally repel lol

[@Wolegiblynn]

@@courtneyz27 sorry I typed a whole paragraph that would not post. I will try again tomorrow

[@bres.4806]

​@@purevenus6359 It really is. A woman will always know how to drag a man better bc we notice and see everything externally and internally. That's why I need women to collectively start to roast these men with some "brutal honesty" the way they always try to give it to us. I bet they learn some tact then.

[@Wolegiblynn]

@@courtneyz27If you find yourself in a position where a man has crossed the line 1: Always keep a poker face or smile 2: BE quick witted. If you don't think you are say the first thing that pops in your head and stand on it 3: be prepared for his sassy or hurt comeback (refer to rule1) 4: only reply with facts, or a 2 word max answer. 5: when he starts to fall apart...just laugh Example, a common talking point is age. He says "you're almost 30, your prime time is almost over." You can say "don't men die sooner than women" or "oh really, how old do you want to live to?" "It doesn't matter, studies say you're luck if you make it past 70." and 😃

[@brendajohnson3173]

“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.” - Maya Angelou

[@CaramelCali]

Love this!

[@olikah4667]

2:01 😂 I remember this episode of the No Chaser pod. She dragged tf outta them. When Fraud & Fraudulence meet the women they talk bad about, they become the beta males they talk about so much 😂

[@ibabechanel]

*Fraud & Fraudulence” ?? 😂🤣🤣😁🤣😂

[@Gigi0408]

That man at the end “if you’re not humble, life will humble you but that’s not my job”. Amen💯

[@jadedlulz]

And I say again, girl, keep the good work up. We are growing love. People we have until next month to meet the 50k target.

[@Priscilla_Boye]

Still remember ❤️❤️❤️

[@alexismum]

They are so below the bar, they want to humble-drag you down to their level so that you can finally see them & accept them. They think if you get to their level, they can climb on top of you & keep you there. Nahhhh, rise above that shit!

[@ericamena333]

WOW all these women are STUNNING! and dropping some gems! The lady who said men cheat to humble women answered a question for me. All this time I was puzzled why so many famous and non famous BEAUTIFUL women have been cheated on cos I'm like WTF! Society would always make out the woman did something to make him cheat or she wasn't doing enough or wasn't enough in some way when really she is EVERYTHING!

[@kdani4777]

Beautiful women are meant to be appreciated. And we know it.

[@beautiful_wonderfullymade]

Saturday Sept 2, 2023 at around 11ish (YUP BECAUSE ILL NEVER FORGET) My child’s father told me verbatim: “I’m just a hOee, and no man will ever love me. I am only good for sex. When he got with me I ain’t had nothing and when he got back with me I still ain’t had ish.” 8 months later I’m 2 weeks into an apartment with our 21 month old daughter, having left the home I HELPED him purchase without one red cent of his, or any payout from him to buy me out of the home. Nobody will ever be able to speak to me like that again. That most certainly wasn’t his first time, but in fact was the last time. Go play with someone else !

[@Tigerlily_Fresh]

Glad you made it out safely sis! 💝🌻

[@beautiful_wonderfullymade]

@@Tigerlily_Fresh thank you queen 🥰

[@RedDeadReverie]

I always felt insecure around the guys I dated because they never complimented me. I dressed very nice, did my hair and makeup perfectly, and worked hard on my body at the gym. Not once did they say I was pretty. It made me feel so ugly and worthless. Now I see they were just trying to make me lower my standards and feel like I wasn’t good enough.

[@franciebelcher4594]

❤💯 I had Xs like this. I had "stupid boundaries", or "ppl don't think like that!" It's crap. If u have someone n ur life that doesn't care for u, the way YOU care for yourself, dump them✌ Oh! And be very careful when you meet a "miracle baby" 99% of the time, he never heard "no" growing up. It can get very ugly!

[@liesdamnliesandstatsweird1934]

They pull this 💩 and then wonder why we chose the 🐻 10 times out of 10, 30 times out of 30, and 100 times out of 100. Smh

[@dantayhylton9938]

I remember i had that one ex that joke about me being ugly, that had never happened to me before i like his personality but he wasn't attractive he was the only guy that i tried with all my exs are waaaay attractive than him. His friend exposed him to me and said he was a snake and i don't talk to him.

[@ohthechitchat]

I’m sorry but this behaviour is not just the domain of men. I have a MOMENT of self and there is immediately a woman trying to humble me.

[@4LADYSWEET]

I’m sorry but I will NEVER call myself a 🐕 “b****” like why is that a flex? I just don’t understand someone saying they respect themselves but disrespect themselves in the same breath. If you think the word is uplifting, please let me know how great it is to hear a man call you that

[@BoujeeGrapes]

A man will cheat on you be because the sun came up that day, not necessarily because he's jealous or envious of women 😂. They're getting too much credit.

[@CaramelCali]

I agree

[@Traytriunetheomnist]

They know the truth THEY ALL KNOW THE TRUTH WE ( WOMEN) DIDN'T

[@laulutar]

I really don't understand why someone would get kicks out of negging on someone they supposedly liked/loved or were interested in. But then again, I accepted long ago, that I'm not everyone's cup of tea, so it's OK if I don't understand what makes everyone else in the world tick.

[@Key-Key444]

“Pretty” women do this to kind women with “potential” as well.

[@jenniferterry4665]

And wm that society typically considers “pretty” tend to do it to non traditional looking pretty wm

[@Key-Key444]

@@jenniferterry4665 probably where the “men” learned the behavior.

[@jenniferterry4665]

@@Key-Key444 I do believe this as well!

[@ds37215]

​​@@jenniferterry4665 do you mean "WW"? You wrote "WM."

[@jenniferterry4665]

@@ds37215 wm=women

[@OnlyLilynn44]

The 1st girl is the reason why Fresh and Fit only invite Only Fans models onto their podcasts to debate, because when they’re faced with the everyday woman, they can’t defend their points and can’t get away with gratuitous bullying. 😂

[@rohiniguiland4873]

Women with high self-esteem do not need men thats the bottom line.Some men have based their self-worth on women needing men. However, the independent woman is a magical being that these men cannot resist. But they can't handle them.Think of it like this some people love the taste and flavour of a Carolina reaper but can't handle the heat.

[@shellyjoseph3109]

There are some people that your presence is going trigger thier own bad behavior.. they need to left alone, take your peace and leave

[@giuliettamassina7787]

Yes, like that horrible word submission. It's so horrible. A man who approached me told me, based on nothing, that I wasn't a creative person. This was after meeting 5 minutes before. I have 2 degrees in fine arts. Needless to say he didn't get more than a second more of my time.

[@Alicia-rn8bg]

It's easy, whn an Investor wants to invest on property what do they do? They use fraudulent/sketchy tactics to devalue a property so they can buy it cheap. Men do the same, they "humble" women in an attempt to gain access to them at a cheaper pricel

[@maichai13]

The lady with the "joker laugh" always cracks me up lol, her commentary is on point and so funny

[@zanealexanderZA]

If they can bring you down Then they are able to walk all over you

[@elaineanderson2989]

It's about trying to control women bcos they are so insecure. It's actually quite sad that these men can't seem to open up and communicate just how vulnerable they are feeling inside. ❤

[@Lyrielonwind]

Narcissists are insecured and that's why they need to humble you down. They think that way women won't leave them or they will get trauma bonding. They don't believe in love but power and control.

[@RMMomma4Eva]

They know they aren't good enough or are full of it and want to bring you down to their level so they can still have you without reciprocating their part.

[@TrueImmortality]

Yeah, no. I don't accept "jokes" that put me down. That immediately clashes with my energy. I don't give those men my time.

[@Anuxxa]

On point as always and your smile and sincerity has me in tears of joy. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@Priscilla_Boye]

Thank you too 😊🙏🏾

[@tarahbruno3793]

One the craziest things is when you and the world know you look good but he can’t give you one compliment. Disgusting