Why Confidence Advice Doesn’t Work (and What Actually DOES)

[@apartment353]

Highly underrated video. You’ve changed my life in so many ways Matthew (I say this as a follower of yours for over a decade)…especially after Audrey came into your life and I felt that you were transforming into a better man. Thank you for all that you do!!

[@JulieElvenMusic]

Your videos in the last 6 months have been so extra wholesome and mind-opening! Grateful for you! ❤️

[@ThuNguyen-cy5ei]

You're more than a relationship coach. So so grateful for you and your content! Happy Holidays.

[@PinPinKula]

Also your imaginary boyfriend?

[@Poppya2024]

Yep, easy to look at. Lucky Audrey. She's smart and beautiful too.

[@PinPinKula]

@@Poppya2024 lol, you only know what they let you see. You dont know these people. You dont know what they are really like. But you manage to project some fantasies into it and ptobably bring that kind of mindset into real life. No wonder you need an imaginary boyfriend. Lol

[@okashi10]

This is why you're the best!!! You're not just about dating and relationships. You're about loving yourself, respecting yourself, nurturing yourself and growing.

[@christinafuda5737]

This concept of self love I'm given this human to take care of is profound. Well done Matthew!

[@jieye3018]

You are the real deal! Thank you for your work! It's absolutely healing millions!

[@nRecovery100]

Diversifying confidence sources is key!

[@aprilwilcox5065]

Wow, this video has given me so much to think about I will need to watch it at least one more time to properly absorb it all

[@lillianpadilla1819]

Matthew, number one ☝️ what an incredible eye opening podcast I just watched. Number two: you have described and unveiled a truth about oneself and explained in a very understandable context I have ever in my life heard spoken the way you talked about confidence in those 3 categories. The entire interview I watched and listened to spoke to me at an outstanding vibration that I ever felt before. You are blessed Matthew. You have been given a glorious gift to help not only women but to men who also have listened to you. I am not saying all of this to feed your ego and I believe you will not take it in that context. I am very happy to have stumbled across your business to help women at a time I needed the most in my life with the relationships I have had. I’ve been following your podcast for years now and I always walk away with ephinanies and extraordinary ways of perception and knowledge I have gained by listening to you. Thank you for sharing this podcast. I was meant to hear it..this one is special because it really hit home how much I need to work on myself and my personal confidence. Thank you so very much Matthew. I am truly grateful ❤. Namaste 🙏🏻

[@lindahamilton3234]

You hit the nail on the head about losing your identity and your sense of self when you get divorced. You also lose the ability to see how you're going to be okay in the future. Solutions are broken and hope feels lost. This doesn't happen to your spouse dies. This is why people who are getting divorced need so much support and compassion.

[@KarebelleMissKarebear]

:D It appears to me almost like you took a year of my own scattered tiny thought-pieces, and puzzled them into something that makes so much SENSE. I really needed to hear this today. Accepting that my confidence may have been 'crushed' along the way ( in a way I grew identified with) Ansd accepting that just now, after many years, I am building it step by little step is ok too. Merci! So much gratitude!

[@tinapippiditlevsen4796]

I LOVED watching this!!! I have often had similar thoughts about self-love, and for me the "inner child method" has worked incredibly well, but this is like taking that method to the next level!!! 😍 Can't wait for the next video! ❤❤❤

[@JaneGregory-r7x]

What a truly lovely person you are, Matthew Hussey... and that means more than words can communicate. Thank you.

[@teebaalkaissy8990]

Thank you Matthew! I can't tell you how much your channel has helped me in SO MANY different ways! ❤

[@heathergeorge9345]

Thank you Matthew Hussy! This was wonderful and just what I needed to hear right now!

[@iamdariawolf]

What a beautiful conversation! Thank you, guys! I absolutely love Matthew's life advice! He's brilliant. 🥰 The part about the dogs cracked me up. 😂🔥

[@alessialops3551]

You really made me cry with this amazingly deep conversation that eviscerates the problem at the core of it! Really thank you from the deepest part of my heart, I needed that so bad! ❤🌠

[@Brenda-by9mf]

26:34 that's part of why and how dissociative identity disorder works, although in that case it is not a decision, nor is it conscious. When there is no other way ahead the brain will force "a fresh new start" not tied to the previous identity and memories. Very insightful, Matthew you were on fire in this one.

[@eptihalahmed2729]

I love your discussion all the time it makes think deeply and all are wonderful points to think of. Please continue and I love you😊

[@Shreyasingh-mz3kf]

Really amazing conversation which blew the mind thank you so much Matthew you really explain the true meaning to "love yourself" rather than just as a quote

[@eli7527]

The only thing you gotta do is strive to care for yourself and others. Do things for yourself and for others, whatever that means for you💫

[@danieldelafe959]

This was really helpful to me. Lots of wisdom here, and stuff I really needed reminding of. Thank you for your work, Matthew.

[@darlingnyibz]

❤❤❤❤ I think I found the difficult message I was avoiding all along but needed to hear. Stripping away the false layers of safety is not easy, but yeah starting from a real place is the key to enjoying milestones in life.

[@Mendy_A]

Exactly what i needed to hear, thank you so much!

[@keemae]

this was so profound for me, thank you

[@zakartaz]

Matthew, you have helped me so much this year. Thank you!

[@despoinagkika2495]

Your best video ever, dear Matthew..Mind blowing!!!Thank you so much ❤

[@Rinikothari]

This guy is amazing, life changing advice here

[@Babesinthewood97]

Self compassion

[@lykimgech3806]

Thanks so much for this video ❤

[@ziaf999]

Hi Matthew thank you so much for this!

[@Wendy-vy7lx]

Amazing! I want to share this with everyone I know. Thank you, Matthew.

[@Poppya2024]

How happy can I make this human 25mins in. Far out that's magic.

[@alyssagarcia1255]

Looking forward to these 😍😍😍

[@susancourtney882]

Thank you so much! I can so identify with the content 💕

[@ChristinaComments]

Lol At the statement of the dogs made me laugh so hard. Yes, I love my kids, who are such decent people… but I also love my cat, who is a little destructive psychopath to any water glasses on the countertops and will always attack my feet under the covers no matter how many years we’ve been together, but she’s my fluffy little princess 🤷🏼‍♀️🫶🏼

[@PamelaSalas-up3ne]

In my case, emotional stuff, sometimes my past, some resentments ❤ dont let me grow up and show the whole capacity or potencial that I could have ❤

[@RitaFruman]

This is soooooi good!!! 🙏🏻

[@Ingrafre]

Matt obviously does a good bit of continuous education in philosophical studies. And it pays off.

[@drumkick1397]

This is so profound and it helped me clear up so many confusions I have in my experience of self-acceptance and the therapy that I've been going through. I'm at the point in my life where I'm so much lower on the so-called status scale, but can't recall when was the last time I've been this happy. Out of habit, I would say to myself that it's just the temporary freedom one has in not "owning" anything, but never actually believed in that. It has everything to do with making these tiny, but extremely profound progress in self-acceptance. Having these two distinct things to think about, the report card and the starting point (or the equivalent in romantic relationships) creates such a peace in my mind, because now I understand why forcing two things to be one thing has never worked for me; why it always felt like there was something missing in that reasoning. Thanks a lot for sharing this on KZbin.

[@gabrielaxyz9577]

Your guest has the best małe voice I have ever heard

[@Poppya2024]

Definitely agree...Liam Neeson has a delicious voice too. 😂

[@ThemaAzize]

This is so good ❤

[@anastazjamalczyk7683]

Fantastic content!

[@robynwitheford5378]

When I try to date everything goes well for awhile then it crashes and burn's, guy's have rocked my self confidence, and I have hit rock bottom 💔 and losing hope that things will get better 😢😢😢😢

[@valentinad2162]

Love this! ❤❤❤

[@LvndrBeez]

When you talked about the shame and then going back to toddler that hpnd to me, but the lady “nurse guru witch therapist” that assisted shamed me after, I’m glad I have got out of that 4-5 year fog of that… and now working on my character…

[@michelesqueo5541]

I appreciate this video, but was wondering if you would consider doing one specifically for people with serious health challenges. I was moved by one of your other videos mentioning a woman in a wheelchair and her concerns about dating. I cried because I could relate with her concerns. Throughout my life I have proudly identified as a straight A student and athlete, and a single mom who helped special needs children, but now all I feel identified with is being sick. Among my other serious issues, I struggle to speak and swallow normally. These things alone have made me feel isolated from socializing and especially from dating. I’m finding it nearly impossible to find a job that doesn’t further harm my health, and I went from raising a child on my own to being unable to even support myself. I don’t know how to feel confident about anything anymore, and I would love some Inspiration. Thank you in advance.

[@FromFosterCareToSuccess]

Check out the documentary Heal, featuring Dr Joe Dispenza. I feel as though that could really help you.

[@michelesqueo5541]

@ thank you, I will ❤️‍🩹

[@MoMo-vb9zq]

Nice haircut Matthew!

[@racheldabney8787]

I love Edd mylett I saw him speak at limitless slc this year he changed my life “eddy spaghetti your meatballs are ready “this story and him weakening to me that the feeling inside me that I was special that voice is right and he is truly amazing I can’t tell you how amazing it is that your interviewing with these people and Simon that changed me lol I fallow you all closely I will be in your circle before I’m 40

[@PamelaSalas-up3ne]

I'm proud of myself ❤ and I'm my perdon, I love my avatar, and I love myself becouse I own me ❤

[@emily1645]

I wrote an article a few years ago on this very topic I called it Self-love or self-destructive...

[@denisest8112]

This is probably the worst thing to explain how I found my selfesteem back a couple of weeks ago. I went through something and having the core idea: i hate myself. Not in a way like i need proffesional help but just the mindset. It all made sense. When someone is nice and complimenting i think: they are lying. Or even better: you are so ughh that you manipulate everyone in thinking you are ok. When people are angry or upset for whatever, i quit 'enjoy' that. Because directly i think: yes i dont like myself either we have something in common. Which makes handling things like this easier. In the end i thought to myself, you see it doesnt matter what other people think. I will think bad of myself eitherway. And how strange it must sounds it gave me so much peace. I talk more, give my opinions more, because it doesnt matter. Outcome is the same. Weird and not positive at all 😂 but result is very very usefull for now. Feelling better each day. Way more communication in a positive level how strange this may sound. Just love yourself, never worked for me in real life😅 dont like myself, and thats fine.

[@lukeweyant6771]

What’s the point of a relationship, and how do I get better at the one I have now? Right now me and my girlfriend of 1.5 years are both not ready to get married, but I want to see it through to see if it’s the right one of either of us. There are so many good things about it, but I’m not quite sure what the blockades are. Would be curious to know what others think.

[@ogbc100]

Maybe just the fear of the unknown is why you both are hesitant. In my opinion the point of a relationship is o partnership. Someone having your back on days you fall short, and you doing the same for your partner. But hey i just got dumped 3 months ago, take my advice with the same weight as other’s.

[@eli7527]

Just about to look for this kind of video then it gets posted

[@racheldabney8787]

And Edd you look great with out facial hair !!!

[@MsUsagi007]

This is amazing advice, but also kind of sad. Because I now 100% know for sure, my mom does not love me unconditionally. Because she has answered the question why do you love her (me) multiple times with, "because she works hard, allways does her best, is kind, is strong..." so yeah that was a double edged sword

[@cindyatwood7144]

What if you, a Christian monogamist, love someone, have known them for years, reunited, and they turn out to be hedonistic? Because it is avoidant attachment behavior based on fear and anxiety, how do you leave without adding to that in-depth sense of fear and betrayal?

[@s.georgiak3432]

I did a mental double take on your term, 'Core confidence'. That fundamental belief in your own unadulterated value and worth that nothing and no one can take from you, no matter how much life beats you down or bs you. Love it!

[@khong_xiong]

Matthew, is your hair shorter than usual? 🤔 I like it 😉

[@PaulMcAnally-fz2pu]

21:33

[@thatskaren]

I have learned that this is called betrayal trauma. It’s a profound and difficult trauma to heal and overcome from.

[@stayitive4343]

BTW, resetting starting point for yourself with commitment to acceptance and forgiveness (bypass the Ego for the spirit in you/higher angel) is a SECULAR version of Christianity's being 'saved'. So powerful to see yourself to take care of your own human as relationship to self care. Core is spiritual and how to forgive and accept yourself to self care

[@hananecrb2684]

😊😊😊

[@flowmovementtherapy2096]

My biggest times I worked on my confidence were when I got injured and couldn't dance (main source of purpose and identity) and when I got the courage to leave a marriage (with zero plan or life skills). And then the next time is running my own business where I had to trust my skill set and my ability to help people with it. It continues to be an every day practice.

[@kirkwhite1736]

I am one of these people who would like to trade in myself. And I am quite aware where my starting point is. And by the way, Self Love=Narcissism

[@marylu8803]

no, self love is not narcissism, please do not use terms like these, if you do not know how the definitions and symptoms are of these terms

[@kirkwhite1736]

@@marylu8803 Obviously you don't live in America.