why I don't post anymore, engagement update, celibacy, mentally preparing for motherhood | Q&A 🧃

IG: / rowenatsai | Another very long overdue catchup ପ(๑•ᴗ•๑)ଓ Can't believe it has been exactly one year since I posted the last Q&A back in NYC! So much life has happened since. It's so great to see you again ₊˚⊹ Thank you ‪@audible‬ for sponsoring this video! New members can try it free. Visit www.audible.com... or text 'rowenatsai' to 500-500 for a free trial of Audible 💙
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1:19 Why I stopped posting
4:52 Future of my channel
6:15 Lightning Round: 1
7:23 Engagement update
8:44 How I’ve changed since moving out of NYC
9:39 Relationship
10:54 Lightning Round: 2
11:31 One of my fave productivity apps
12:12 Best habit & LA meetup
13:15 Celibacy: why
15:46 Celibacy: how strict & how to tell partner
16:46 Celibacy: face judgement?
17:50 Hehehaha intermission
18:20 Lightning Round: 3
18:56 Wedding
19:20 Preparing for motherhood ❤️
20:30 Ready to have kids?
21:31 How will content change with kid?
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[@erenikorllos9747]

Omg finally that felt like meeting an old friend and catching up, i missed you so much! Welcome backk!!❤❤❤❤

[@rowena]

🥹 thank you for such a sweet & warm welcome back!!

[@fabianeyung1270]

You describe it perfec....catching up with and old friend that I miss so much

[@angelsguidetolife3296]

This made me so happy

[@gthomasphd]

The "exit your lazy girl era" posts really are out of control. And every creator seems to start with the B-roll of them getting out of the bed and stretching.

[@magdalenam6380]

I have a 20 month old toddler, and before having him I was v much into productivity, routines, goals, etc etc. I used to wake up at 5:30am to go for a run before work, clean the house every week, meal prep, all that kind of stuff. It's been so hard letting all of that go as my everyday life now feels a lot less 'under control' and I need to learn how to prioritise, let things go, go with the flow and take care of myself in a different way 😅 it's been the hardest and best thing I've ever done. Looking forward to your take on motherhood when you're blessed with a babe

[@mahlekadorsey5993]

Can you do a video about how you achieved intimacy in different ways and how you keep your relationship healthy? There is so much in the media promoting unhealthy relationships, but building intimacy in other ways is so hard. You are one of the most genuine people I follow and go to for help. P.S I love you and I’m so proud of you.

[@tsuruuu]

Great idea indeed

[@YvetteBam]

WOW. I just made a video two days ago about s3x and how utterly confused I am with the way society views it. I did NOT expect to hear this celibacy talk from you, who I have been subscribed to for a few years now. It makes me feel so much less alone. THANK YOU for being so honest and transparent about your decisions in that realm.

[@rowena]

🥹🫂✨ the timing of it alll

[@marinamartinez97]

Celibacy in this country typically always accompanies other conservative and religiously tinged beliefs such as being pro-life, fear and disdain of birth control, etc. I am always so wary when creators talk about celibacy for this very reason. Also concerning is how so many conservatives have racist leanings and only have friends of their own race, which I see with many KZbinrs which only have friends sharing their own background.

[@xiomara5147]

You reminded me of this little gem I came across when reading The Sum of Us a few years back: White Christians are 30% more likely to hold racially resentful and otherwise racist views compared to religiously unaffiliated white people. -per analysis by Robert P Jones, founder of The Public Religion Research Institute. Ro had a very interesting and unique take on it. A non purity culture and religion based approach to celibacy is very refreshing.

[@leahsfieldnotes]

SHE"S BAAAACCCCCKKKKK I LURVE THIS VIDEOOOOO

[@DevilDears]

Idk about your other subscribers but I only follow a select few KZbinrs who provide a unique perspective on life that I can learn from and grow with slowly. I like to watch deep, meaningful content in long form that I can sit down with like a good book. I'm not a "Mr. Beast content watcher" if you know what I mean. Perhaps you don't have to worry so much about keeping up with that crowd (and all the other social media platforms that people are already getting tired of). You've always done more than "just productivity" to me and I bet most viewers would agree that it's not felt like meaningless content at all. Just do what you're passionate about and trust that the views will come from the truly authentic moments you share in the long run.

[@raquelhoffmann4]

I never clicked SO QUICKLY on a notification. Love Ro videos! ❤

[@rowena]

😭🫶 GRATEFUL FOR U

[@raquelhoffmann4]

@@rowena I'm so so glad to see you are well and happy! I'm grateful for you, too! ❤

[@vincyagain]

Always keeping it real. So happy to hear that you’re doing well and taking care of yourself. I get tired of short form content and really look forward to videos like this! So thank you for taking a break and reflecting on what you want to do next 💗 I can’t wait for the next videos you’ll be making soon

[@rowena]

thank you vincy :')) grateful for you

[@swiftswift2911]

Welcome back 😊 Your topic of celibacy got me thinking. As an older person (compared to you hehe) we look back at the younger years as the time we ‘loved’ freely. As you grow older obviously your bodies change and sex drive does too. For example myself personally, I wish I had more sex when I was younger and able to. The old joke of get married to stop any sex isn’t that far from the truth. Although not all, long term married couples do have difficulty maintaining that level of passion they felt in the beginning years, no matter how much you love your partner. I was wondering if you had thought of this. And what your thoughts were on this.

[@erikgarcia5430]

I know this channel is more for females but THIS CHANNEL HELPED THE HOMIES AS WELL WE LOVE U 🙌🏾🙌🏾 I’m apart of the potato family:)))

[@laura85866]

she's in a far-right cult

[@mayaleex3]

I feel you 100%, honey! Always love your intentionality and so grateful for your thoughts, always ~

[@patriciagrullon7838]

I don't know why I'm crying while I'm watching this. Ro you're such a beautiful and great mind. I'm so grateful to meet you (through YT) so early so I'm able to see you're development!

[@tavifagascon]

I’m a new KZbinr (1year ish) hearing you talk about so many aspects of this career is so helpful! I absolutely love your honesty, thank you for being so open to all of us 🥺!

[@tavifagascon]

So happy you are back with your videos!

[@freyaday6076]

Its so good to see you! Glad you're doing well!!!

[@TheDearRosemary]

you takes on celibacy reminded me of this romance book I love, 'Ellipsis: A Love Story' by Ellie Owen (which she's a very small indie author, it makes me love her work even more for how unique it is), where the author has a FWB situation with a character and every scene we have of them is either pre or after them being intimate, and then the author contrasts that relationship with the love interest where 97% of their scenes they share a deep emotional and intellectual connection. Hearing you talk about celibacy just reminded me of this book because there really is a difference between intimacy in terms of emotional connection, and intimacy in terms of physical connection, its a really important lesson to learn specially when so many of us mistake being desired with being loved

[@MsBabbygirl1]

Congratulations on everything 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕 you deserve it

[@rowena]

thank youu 🥹🫶✨

[@InspireHealthSystem]

Love this Q&A and how your life and channel are evolving! 😊 What a fantastic conversation… So excited for you and your future! 💃 Building a family and raising my son for the past 15 years is definitely my most important life accomplishment, and brought the deepest meaning into my life (and my husband’s). Sending you love ❤️ and positive vibes ✨ from Ottawa, Canada! 🇨🇦

[@TransmissionsfromNaboo]

Thank you for all of the encouragement over the years, Rowena. It helped me start my own channel.

[@rowena]

🥹😭🫶 will always be here rooting for you!!

[@olineedham7468]

Congrats oh my gosh!! I’m so excited for you! I’ve been following you and your content since your single era in your old NY apartment (the studio) and I’m genuinely over the moon for you! 💕 sending every good vibe to you all

[@damarismowatt]

This is why I’ve always resonated with you and what you create 🤍🙏🏽 you’re very introspective x in a generation where things are oversaturated, your perspective on life and content is very refreshing so thank you!!

[@amayaperry]

Nothing but love for you Rowena. I found your channel when i was struggling in college. I love how genuine and thoughtful you are. I appreciate this q&a and wishing you all the best on your endeavors. -a supporter for life ❤

[@kioshekat7931]

LITTLE SPUDS ❤❤❤❤

[@rowena]

cutest little potates!!!

[@larauerc]

I'm really sad that I'm based in Europe, so I cannot join Team Potato 💔 will invest in my editing and marketing skills so I can try to join in next time, hopefully for a remote position, would be a dream come true 🤍 we missed you, Ro! 💛

[@shifa_sarguru4]

it's so nice to hear about the changes going on in your life rowena! you've always felt like that calming voice in my life but I'm happy to hear that you're fully embracing a new lifestyle. Sending loads of love

[@dadadamyeon]

Feels like a big sister sharing and giving me advices everytine I watch you. I missed this!! Thank you for posting Ro!!!! ❤

[@Thedivinecounsel]

Ong haven’t watched yet but I’m squealing from excitement omg omg I’m so happy for u! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@rowena]

eeee!! we're squealing together hehe

[@withlovecole]

The hug at the end ❤

[@rowena]

* another hug via text here hehe *

[@martynakucinskaite]

now this video is a definition of a coziest hug ever! Happy to hear you're in a lovely place in life atm and you look amazing!!!

[@sostoked07]

I was checking out your video every Monday hoping to see an update since your last one and finally, yay!!! Just so happy to see you doing well, Ro 🤗 am also preparing to start this life stage (1yr before the wedding hehe). Thankful to see someone I look up to with this type of relatable and grounded voice in media. 🌱✨🤗

[@rowena]

😭 thank you for your patienceeee

[@dearcomrade2358]

i just need to put on a video of yours and i can already do A LOT. i dont even need to comprehend what you’re saying, just your voice and the video vibes alone motivate me to be productive 💗

[@pyamju7419]

OMGG OUR OG VIRTUAL SISTERRR we missed you 💗💗 thank you for postingg !

[@cindypham8507]

I miss my potato mentor and creator so glad you’re back for once I ran to the description to apply to the team love you so so much welcome back 🍀🥔

[@Kohiicha]

Sister Rowena is baaaack!!!!!! My soul needed thiiis!!! Thank you for your effort Rowena 😢❤

[@tomato8401]

Aww Rowenaaa! So excited for your next chapter in life ❤ best wishes to you n james!!

[@cristyjoygevera8552]

Aaaaw, I miss you ro!!!❤🥹 know that we're just here cheering for you always!

[@amoameera]

You're already in motherhood if you're with child, it's just a matter of time before you can carry them outside of your body. Congratulations.

[@lukemiller_6]

Totally agree about the lack of original content on KZbin... I love your honesty and how authentic you are :)

[@StacyGoodyear]

Congratulations! I wish you and your affianced the best.

[@PreetiSharma-nx9pf]

We all genuinely love you Ro (and may be James as well now 😅) and we missed you. That being said, it is totally upto you ...about your journey on YT, but I would love to see and hear from you, irrespective of the type of content. You're in someways our unpaid therapist❤ Thanks for being there in our lives❤

[@Whiteplumee]

Why was I so excited to see you again?? You’re such a beautiful person that when I saw you posted, I clicked automatically💛💛💛 I sound dumb, but I love the way you think and see things.. if that makes sense?

[@rowena]

not at all 😭 that's the best compliment!!

[@pnh165]

The little toot at the end! 😂 I hope you're taking care of yourself, sweet Ro. I missed you.

[@nowkohnaoko]

Potatoes are having tater tots 😆🥔❤

[@crazybotches236]

Wait... sorry if i sound dumb but how did she get pregnant if she's not being physically intimate? Did they just inject the goodies?

[@rowena]

you goood 😂 I'm not pregnant yet! just mentally preparing which I feel more than half the battle lol

[@crazybotches236]

@@rowena ohh hahah gurll you and I both! when I was 20 I thought people in their 30s had all their shit together.. and now that I'm 30 nopeee lol just gotta do the adulting stuff

[@maychecksout]

so excited for my favorite podcast to come back!! congratulations on all of your lovely life changes! 💖

[@Jusufreinhard]

❤️❤️❤️

[@curiousbiblegurl]

26 diamonds?!?! Gurlll

[@vlbhan]

ahhh so good to see you again, youre glowing, so happy for you!

[@MarielaMerino]

i'm in OC, not LA can i still apply? 🙃

[@sabagilani1600]

watching this video just reminded me why I subscribed to this channel, RO is original and that is what we all want especially at a time when everyone is just producing the same content. Thank you Rowena!

[@rowena]

🥹😭🫶

[@dmarie4192]

@@rowenayes! Also where is your bookstand from?

[@juliahuang7342]

Hi Rowena I’m from Taiwan as well I love your channel most. You are my first follow KZbinr to learn productivity Here are all true things from your heart❤️‍🔥 Hope you keep your original heart Slow down it’sOk🥰

[@AmySharzer]

Re Celibacy...I am a bit confused....doesn't celibacy end when you get a partner? (in this case a fiance?) Could someone clarify?

[@medinagashhi]

I love your videos, I always loved your videos, and I'll continue loving your videos! SINCERELY MEDINA 😆 But in all seriousness... somehow I feel so calm when I watch your videos ✨ A massive HUG back 🫂

[@amaniaay]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ so happy, I didn’t watch the full video yet, but it’s already making me happy 🥺🥺🥺

[@rowena]

🥹🥹 sending so so so much love!!

[@doreenyap6188]

Thank you for sharing and being vocal about celibacy :) It truly is a beautiful thing to be able to experience healthy relationships and intimacy in ways we've been led to believe are impossible without intercourse. After all, we are primarily relational and spiritual beings and are made for so much more than the desires of the flesh. Also so happy to see an RJ pillow on your couch! 🦙🩷

[@miamiswagdistrict]

the end makes it so full circle of letting go a bit and learning to take life easy ❤😂

[@ThePaigealums]

Hey Rowena! I’m wondering if you have any thoughts about asexuality and if that resonates for you at all?

[@svitrai]

Looking forward to more content 😊 Also parent of an 18 month old and still figuring out what new life balance looks like...

[@_Zaaiinaab]

As always watching you is just good for my soul, watching this just made me realise how excited i am for the home decor videos because i lovelovelove how everything looks!!

[@mollyfaye]

I got burnt out on the over productive train as well and that's why I stopped subscribing! But I'm happy you're back and looking forward to your new present reality and what's to come! ❤

[@nathanfruendt2720]

What happen to the pod cast?

[@ohpinkiepie]

Yaaaay Rowena is back! It's so crazy seeing you reflect on all of this and entering a new chapter of your live. I'm turning 30 soon and getting married in 2 months, my friends have been making babieees and it hasn't clicked yet for me personally 🥺 Teach me sis

[@ByKristyLin]

I find productivity content so boring 90% of the time it just feels so sterile

[@jennydiary5934]

Omg your headphones! Where is that cover from??

[@allisonmerz9992]

The sirens at the very end make me think the NY part of you is not so very far away after all :)

[@HappierbySeppy]

Loved seeing your face back on my screen !! I’m glad you took the time for yourself and being intentional with your content and contribution to the online space ❤

[@amyburrito]

Welcome back queen potato! Love your project management/ also inspo voice over videos on your outlook on life. Love your brain.

[@cloudhi]

i'm in full support of you taking time off for yourself whenver you want. but i really hope you don't completely quit youtube. youtube is like my virtual cozy home and your videos are like my very special guest that i will continue to invite inside to catch up for a lifetime.

[@GoogleUser-wx8mw]

I just popped in after a long break to find you in LA with a partner and plans! So good to see you again. Can't wait to go back and watch the last Q and A, and looking forward to your new content. Happy new season of life, Rowena!

[@JenDeen]

Besides loving your content and looking forward to it {always} and even referencing back… I think I love you more for that fart at the end of the video 👀😂😂 ❤

[@LatoijaJ]

Wow. You’re right.

[@sharoset]

So excited for engagement deep dive video !

[@corylcreates]

Hi Rowena! I have lurked on your videos for a while now. I wish you the best of luck as you get into this next chapter of your life. It's likely one that I won't be able to join you in (I'm childfree and so parenthood content does not resonate at all with me), but I have enjoyed our time together as we both navigated our 20s, even though they were quite different lives! One thing I hope you and Jams have considered is your children's digital footprints and if you will respect their privacy when they are too young to consent to being filmed online. It wasn't mentioned in the motherhood section of the Q&A, but I'm assuming it is something you two have discussed and have a plan for. :) Again, good luck and congratulations!

[@rowena]

aww thank you for taking the time to write such a thoughtful note :') don't worry, this channel won't become a mommy channel lol I'll save that for the vlog channel if at all ❤️ and to your point, I mentioned in the last Q&A that if/when we have kids, their faces definitely will not be shown online in any capacity for the exact reasons you shared!

[@lukemiller_6]

I love your channel and I wonder why it is that now many guys make genuine self care or productivity type KZbin channels. I know Kharma Medic who was really good, but there really isn't much available. This is unusual to me!

[@lukemiller_6]

And male productivity influencers, in my opinion, often seem a bit toxic :(

[@harperalways7213]

Cutie pieeeeee! I missed my favorite online sweet potato ❤

[@rowena]

hehe *HUGS*

[@meganobrien9520]

Commenting 0.2 seconds into the video because that bookshelf Wooper is the cutest thing I've ever seen in my life ❤ So happy to see ANYTHING you create, not matter what and no matter how often or sporadic 😊

[@karenkitchley9950]

Oh My God!!!! Congratulations Ro❤❤❤ Will you have a meet-up in Taipei again??

[@mochi5082]

I’m happy for you ❤

[@rowena]

thanks mochiii 🍡💕

[@samarakaye2573]

This was so beautiful.

[@siahts2sena]

I was missing you but i didnt have time to release it :(

[@sarahburgos5852]

Loyal Potato 🥔

[@graciahanna8452]

Congratulations Rowena! I've been following and watching your video since you are single until now. I'm happy to see how you grow and feeling well. All the best for your plan and future journey. Thank you for sharing bits of your thoughts, feeling and life with us, the potatoes!

[@seoulologyy]

My potato queen!! I’ve missed your videos. Wonderful to see you again and catching up. Hehe

[@HelenSew]

Sooo happy you’re back and looking forward to your decluttering and organizing series ❤

[@tokyobestie]

you are one of the reasons i created my channel (it’s empty for now but i am making things) and i hope I’ll be able to make genuine and original content that comes from my own heart and mind and soul 💕 thank you for reminding me to stay true to who i am💞

[@rowena]

thanks bestie 🥹🫂🫶

[@victoriaruiz4672]

Ro honestly just do what you want, that alone is a breath of fresh air from content nowadays where everyone else is doing the same that everyone is doing, not new or authentic

[@melusine826]

Sabbaticals are essential ❤

[@iimaginarii]

Eeek! Missed you!! 😭❤️

[@oliviaroseh]

oHHH MY GOODNESS congratulations!!!

[@rowena]

🥹🫶

[@Dee14444]

I am not on IG ,so have been missing out on your content.

[@arj9760]

def missed you, ro. excited for the coming videos! love u.

[@hellothere3683]

Such a calming, relaxing, lovely vlog 🌸

[@andreapinedo2608]

🎉❤ missed you Thank you

[@rowena]

so good to be baaack 💕

[@createopotatoe]

Congratulations on everything!

[@rowena]

thankyouuuu!!! 🥹

[@createopotatoe]

@@rowena of course! You Deserve it!

[@aprilrosales8627]

RJ in your back 💜💜💜💜

[@isabellelohues66]

yes plssss dating mindsets video

[@hnnhml]

I missed you! Your energy is so comforting, and Ive always loved how authentic you are. Thanks for sharing 🥰